- 08/07/2025
Because of Ken and Vania's disagreements with their form of discipline, they are on the verge of divorce. Can Jo help this family out?
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00:00Hi, we're the Swansons.
00:01This is Vinaya.
00:02This is Ken.
00:04We have five boys.
00:05The first one is Alexander.
00:07He's nine.
00:10And there's Dawson, who is age eight.
00:12Micah's five.
00:14And Brendan's four.
00:16Christian is three.
00:19Vinaya and I, we fight, and we have a divorce pending.
00:22I could care less, Vinaya.
00:24Look at me, please.
00:26No, come here.
00:29Together, we own the taxi service.
00:31Having five boys, there just is never enough time to get everything done and take care of your family the way you should.
00:37The boys runs his house.
00:38Mom, my mom, too!
00:44I hate you!
00:50These boys are roughhousing.
00:52Sit up now.
00:54Parenting styles, we are completely the opposite.
00:57I love you.
00:58No, I don't want to pick you up.
01:00Ken is way too hard on the kids, especially with Alexander and Dawson.
01:05You know we're talking.
01:06You don't need to interrupt us.
01:08I'm really set in our ways because I don't feel she punishes enough.
01:11You need to find something else to do and not, please don't walk away from me when I'm talking to you.
01:16I feel like I've had to choose between the children and my husband.
01:19And it just, it tears me apart.
01:22I feel like I shouldn't have to do that.
01:24It's been difficult.
01:28Superdanny, we need you to come and help us save our marriage.
01:32I don't want to divorce Ken.
01:35And bring us together as parents, as a team, for the first time in our lives.
01:39There's no point of us going through this if Alexander and Dawson aren't going to be how they are either, Vinaya.
01:43You're right.
01:44It goes both ways, Ken.
01:46Superdanny, we need you now.
01:48We can't wait any longer.
01:52Hey guys, I'm on my way and we're going to sort this out.
01:56Hello.
02:09Hi.
02:09Pleased to meet you.
02:10Nice to meet you too.
02:11Come on into my home.
02:12I'll introduce you to my children.
02:15Hi, pleased to meet you.
02:16Hi, Jo, I'm Ken.
02:17Hi, Ken.
02:18It's an honor to have you here.
02:19Thank you very much.
02:20Oh my gosh.
02:23I'm going to cry.
02:23You don't understand.
02:26I mean...
02:27Oh, I'm here.
02:29I'm here to help.
02:30So, you know, that's exactly what we're going to do, okay?
02:35You're more than welcome.
02:36When Jo walked through the door, I said, don't cry.
02:40Don't cry.
02:41And two seconds later, I'm crying.
02:44This is Mike.
02:44He's a little bit bashful.
02:46This one is Brendan.
02:47Brendan.
02:47Hi, Brendan.
02:48And hi, Christian.
02:50Hello, pleased to meet you.
02:52Oh, he's off.
02:54Is this a super name?
02:55I am.
02:55What's your name?
02:56Dawson.
02:57Hi, Dawson.
02:57Pleased to meet you.
02:58Hi, Alex.
02:59Pleased to meet you.
02:59Jo.
03:00I'll catch up with you guys later, okay?
03:02Okay.
03:03See you then.
03:10All right, I'm going, guys.
03:11Oh.
03:12See you, Dad.
03:15Hey, Mama.
03:17Just minutes after I met the family, Dad went off on his taxi runs and left Mum to deal
03:23with the taxi phones and all the kids.
03:25And, Mama.
03:26Get inside.
03:29He deserves it.
03:32And, Mama.
03:33As expected, the taxi phones started to ring and Mum was struggling to juggle with answering
03:39those and dealing with the kids.
03:41Because, I mean, it's a challenging task.
03:44He was just too busy on the phone to deal with what's going on.
03:47No.
03:49Yes.
03:49No.
03:50Stop.
03:51Stop, Gary.
03:52Yeah, stop.
03:53Stop.
03:54No, he did it.
03:57I had it.
04:01No, he did not.
04:03Yeah, I did.
04:05The conversation's done with find something else to do.
04:08Vinaya's in a circus act.
04:10She's juggling balls left, right, and center.
04:16It's Vinaya.
04:17How are you?
04:18Vinaya, how are you?
04:25Deserves it.
04:30When it did finally quieten down, Vinaya started to talk to me about Ken and his relationship
04:38with her two eldest boys from a previous marriage, Alex and Dawson, and how it's really affecting
04:44her relationship.
04:45I filed for a divorce six months ago.
04:48Ken has no emotional ties with Alexander and Dawson, and I keep trying to bring Alexander,
04:53Dawson, and Ken together.
04:55What is it that ultimately breaks your heart, truthfully?
04:59Because I just feel like the kids deserve something better.
05:04I don't know.
05:05I don't know.
05:06I don't know.
05:07I don't know.
05:08I don't know.
05:09I don't know.
05:10I don't know.
05:11Having a divorce over your head, for me, it was like I was barely able to tread water,
05:14and I've got all five of my kids and my wife trying to pull me under.
05:19So exactly how long have you guys been living in the same space with this energy between
05:26the pair of you?
05:28Five years.
05:29Within a couple of months after we got together.
05:34I get overwhelmed.
05:35I'm not going to lie.
05:36And it's easier for me.
05:37Just, all right, nobody gets any more fun time.
05:38You know, go to your bedrooms.
05:39Just get out of my sight.
05:40Bye.
05:41They behave like they divorced already.
05:42I mean, the negative energy in this house has really started to show.
05:59It is going to be a challenge.
06:01It really is to turn this family around.
06:03All right.
06:13You got Dan.
06:14Later on it was switch off time, and Vinaya was going off to work, and Dad was supposed
06:18to be looking after the kids.
06:20With Ken focusing on the computer, and the younger ones doing their own thing, it was
06:25a great opportunity for me to sit down and speak to Alex.
06:28So who did all of this?
06:29Darson.
06:30If one of your brothers breaks something that belongs to you, how does that make you
06:35feel?
06:36It mostly makes me feel angry and sad.
06:39So what do you do?
06:40When you get really angry because somebody's broken one of your toys, what's the first thing
06:43you go and do?
06:45I'm also saying, I'm going to get you in this store.
06:48I let them get off of the head store, and then I get them.
06:51Do you have to hide your things so that your brothers don't break them?
06:54Yeah.
06:55Whose things do you break?
06:56Well, almost everyone except for my parents.
07:01As you can see, none of the siblings have respect for each other's belongings, and that
07:06really does need to be corrected as soon as possible.
07:10Let's go outside for just a little bit, guys.
07:15Let's get our shoes on first, okay?
07:17About time we got out, we got some fresh air in all day.
07:19Alex, let him do it.
07:24Alex!
07:25Okay, look at me.
07:26Look at me.
07:27Alex, no.
07:28Get down, please.
07:29The kids were just playing around, and there it was.
07:34Ken, picking holes in Alex.
07:37Alex, let him have it, please.
07:40Alexander knows how to push my buttons.
07:43It can take him maybe ten seconds in the max to make me go from calm to, damn it, that's
07:48it.
07:49Vinaya had already told me that the way Ken treated Alex and Dawson from her previous
07:54marriage was one of the reasons that she was filing for divorce.
07:59Ken.
08:00Yes.
08:01I wanted to find out how the threat of divorce was really affecting Ken.
08:05Your wife has mentioned a divorce.
08:08It's a hard thing to have over your head.
08:10I'm sick almost every morning just thinking about it.
08:13Do you feel like you're walking on eggshells?
08:15Yes.
08:17I need Vinaya to see it through my eyes and understand how I'm feeling.
08:24Daddy, wait!
08:25The minute Mum got home, Dad was gone.
08:28All right, I got to run.
08:30Never mind these parents not being on the same page.
08:32These parents aren't even in the same place at the same time.
08:38Ken came home at the end of the day and there was still that tense feeling in the air.
08:42And once again, there was no communication between the pair of them.
08:46I mean, what's up?
08:47Dad, we're having root beer floats.
08:49You're having root beer floats?
08:50Yeah!
08:51Oh, my goodness.
08:52What did you tell Mama?
08:53Thank you, Mama.
08:54All right.
08:56So what does Ken kind of do when he gets home?
08:59Um, he usually goes to the bedroom.
09:01And watches TV and goes on the computer.
09:05I am usually cleaning up, getting everything ready for the next day,
09:10making lists, getting the kids ready for bed.
09:15This is the first time that Mum and Dad have been in the house at the same time.
09:19And they're still not talking to one another.
09:22This is ridiculous!
09:28Do you guys eat together at all, or...?
09:31Um, not usually.
09:32It was a long day, and quite frankly, I've seen enough.
09:41And I know that I need to speak to Fenaya and Ken pronto.
09:45You do have five beautiful children, and you are both very blessed.
09:58But...
09:59The pair of you are in a very desperate situation right now.
10:06Your kids are caught in the middle of this.
10:10And they're helpless.
10:12And you're blaming them for the reason why you may get a divorce.
10:16I'm going to stand very firmly here and represent your children.
10:21Because they don't have a voice, unfortunately.
10:25So let's talk about it.
10:27Are you ready for this?
10:28Yes.
10:29Yes.
10:30Yes.
10:33The pair of you, tag team.
10:38It's like clocking in and clocking out.
10:45Why have you chose to do that rather than to parent together?
10:49Because we can't agree on how to parent our kids.
10:52I just feel that a lot of things that happen, she just lets them slide.
10:56I try to go to Ken.
10:59And when I do, I feel like he doesn't listen to me.
11:04So I got to a point where I don't even want to discuss it with him.
11:08But what's happening here is that the pair of you are pointing at one another
11:13instead of taking the responsibility together.
11:16Because you continue to still go over the same ground
11:21and have the same results time and time again.
11:23I mean, I love my kids. I really do.
11:28It's almost like, you know, if one or two of them turn out right, you know?
11:33And the other three, you know, are don't hate you for the rest of their lives
11:36because of the things you've done or things you've said.
11:40I haven't done the right things and I know that.
11:42I keep thinking that maybe tomorrow will be a better day.
11:46Maybe the next one could turn out right.
11:49I find that unbelievable, Ken.
11:52I find that unbelievable that you have the audacity to say,
12:00I hope the next kid will turn out all right.
12:04How dare you blame your children for the way that they are
12:09when all they want to do is to please and to be accepted.
12:13Where's the relationship between you and Alex, Ken?
12:25It's hard to want to spend time with someone who...
12:28..who will...
12:29..you know, who I feel doesn't respect me,
12:33who doesn't want to listen, who doesn't want to follow directions.
12:36Why is he paying the price for that, Ken?
12:38And what support is he receiving from you and from his mother here?
12:43He needs you on his side.
12:46Do you want to be together as a family?
12:49Yes.
12:50Yes.
12:53Are you both ready for some hard work?
12:55Because it's not going to be easy.
12:57Absolutely.
12:59Yes? Yes.
13:00All right.
13:02So, let's get started straight away.
13:05OK.
13:08Ken and Vinaya are absolute, that they want to remain together,
13:12so I want to be able to give them positive written affirmation
13:15that will hold their commitment and make their marriage work.
13:18OK.
13:19OK.
13:20What we are about to do now is to move on.
13:24Step one was for Ken and Vinaya to really air their issues
13:28that had been holding them back for so long.
13:30OK. Use this space here.
13:38Whew!
13:40I think I'm done.
13:41Good. Kim?
13:42I think it's a good start.
13:43Yeah? Great. OK. Let's go in together with them.
13:45So, once they had both finished, but it didn't take them long,
13:47I then took them into the bedroom so they could air their grievances
13:51out of earshot from the kids.
13:52Mum, I'd like you to read off what's on your paper.
13:55Anger, frustration, lack of commitment, lack of trust,
14:01lack of understanding, lack of patience, and no goals for the family.
14:05Dad, reel off what's on your paper.
14:08I wrote pride, my unrealistic expectations, stress, the power gains with the children and the competitiveness.
14:15You ready to turn a new corner?
14:18Yes.
14:19Yeah? OK.
14:21And step three, really, was to allow them both to let go of everything that was negative
14:26and not allowing them to move forward together.
14:29I'd like you to walk out of this room together and take this into the living room
14:35because you're going to burn those pieces of paper and you're going to let go.
14:39You ready to do that together?
14:41Yes.
14:42Take this then.
14:44It felt very good to be able to burn the papers
14:48because it's giving us a better foot forward.
14:52Because where are we going?
14:53Where are we going?
14:54We're going forward.
14:55All right.
15:01Finally, I had Mum and Dad sign an unorthodox contract
15:04that would allow them to move forward and not back.
15:08There it is.
15:09Let's do it.
15:12This is a start of a brand new beginning for them.
15:16Are you glad that we're doing this?
15:19I'm excited.
15:20Yes.
15:21Are you happy?
15:22I am.
15:24This is a new start for us.
15:25All of us.
15:26Our whole family.
15:27The reason why we're doing this is so my mum won't divorce my dad
15:34so that way we will be broken apart and we won't have a nice family.
15:43Here we go.
15:44All right.
15:45It's up.
15:46Good stuff.
15:51Boys, can you just come all around here for a minute
15:52because I want to talk to you about something else we're going to do now.
15:55Yeah, what?
15:56With Mum and Dad well on the way,
15:58I thought it was time to really work with the boys
16:00and I wanted to introduce a technique
16:02so that they could start to trust and respect each other's belongings.
16:06Each child is going to find something very special
16:11and then you're going to choose a brother to look after it for three days.
16:19Without getting it ruined or broken?
16:20Correct.
16:21Correct.
16:22So let's start that then.
16:23Let's go and have a look in our rooms and find something.
16:26Mum and Dad helped the younger ones.
16:28Once each boy had their toy in hand,
16:30we moved outside so that I could see who they were going to entrust their toy with.
16:34Alex, you start first.
16:36However, what unfolded was that they weren't ready.
16:42And I'm going to want Mum to hold onto it and take care of it for three days.
16:45I want Mum to take care of it.
16:47You don't.
16:48You don't.
16:49Me?
16:50It was really telling because none of the boys trusted each other.
16:52And they all gave their toys to Mum and Dad apart from one, Brandon.
16:56He really got the ball rolling.
16:58Alex.
16:59Okay, I will do that.
17:01Brandon picked me to hold his toy for three days because he trusted me.
17:07He believed in me.
17:09He actually picked me.
17:10After Brandon had given his toy to Alex, the other boys realized that they would have to trust one of their brothers to give their toy to.
17:17I'm going to choose Christian to hold onto this.
17:22Out of all the kids Alexander could have chose, he gave it to Christian, the three-year-old,
17:26which I thought was a major, major show of trust.
17:30Okay, Micah.
17:31Oh, Micah.
17:32I'll take care of your baby.
17:33It's kind of cool.
17:34I told Micah to watch my dinosaur.
17:36Now watching this.
17:38Yeah, who's going to look after it?
17:39Which brother?
17:40Okay?
17:41One of the boys.
17:42I'm a friend.
17:43Brendan?
17:44Okay.
17:45Good.
17:46Hey, Brendan.
17:47I am so curious to see how the boys will look after each other's stuff.
17:56Ken's rocky relationship with Alex and Dawson has really brought a lot of tension in the house.
18:01So I think it's time for some good old-fashioned father and son bonding.
18:07We're going to work on one section of the car at a time, okay?
18:10Make sure we get the whole thing.
18:11You can make it look good and make it look nice.
18:13Come here, guys.
18:14I said we're going to work on one section.
18:16That means let's work on one side at a time.
18:19Now watch what I do so I know how the job's doing right.
18:22Dad needs a nudge and a push to really have fun with the boys.
18:27Dad?
18:28Yes.
18:29This is about you being a family man with your kids.
18:32Okay.
18:33And having a laugh doing this.
18:34This is not you and the workers.
18:36Joe pointed out that I was treating my older ones like employees.
18:39You know, I had to step back and realize I even treat my employees better than I treat my sons.
18:44Dad?
18:45He had the hose.
18:46He put it in my shirt.
18:47And I got all wet.
18:48Me and my dad and Dawson were playing mechanics and we had really good fun.
19:05If you have fun, it doesn't seem like work at all.
19:09We played.
19:10We goofed around.
19:11It's amazing how quickly you can get a lot of things accomplished.
19:13Maybe we should do that a lot more often.
19:15We should do a lot more often.
19:16You guys have to make help.
19:17This was a huge improvement for Ken and the boys.
19:20These boys were totally psyched because they've not been used to having fun with their dad like this.
19:25Ken was doing really well with the boys.
19:28But I still felt that there were issues that needed to be addressed with Ken and Alex.
19:32And I wanted them to spend special time together with something that meant a lot to them both.
19:38You want him to have a special relationship with you because you're his dad.
19:43Yeah?
19:45Very good?
19:47I'm just going to post myself.
19:49There you go again.
19:51Oh, okay.
19:53I'm ready.
19:54The point of Dad sitting down with Alex is to show Alex that there are times when Dad's judgment's been wrong.
20:03And that he's human and he makes mistakes.
20:06I want to begin with this.
20:08I want to apologize because Dad's made a lot of mistakes.
20:12A lot.
20:13I have a hard time looking Alex in the eye.
20:16It's because I am ashamed because of the way I've, some of the things I've done in the past.
20:22I haven't been the father that I should be or that I can be.
20:28You are a good kid.
20:31You're my son.
20:33And you're growing into a man right now.
20:35And I want to be there and I want to be your father.
20:42Today, we're starting, we're moving forward.
20:45And we're going to let go.
20:48You have asked me several times to teach you how to play the piano.
20:53And so, we're going to have our first lesson today.
20:56Okay?
20:57Okay.
20:58Is that about the apology?
21:01I accept it.
21:03I love you.
21:04I love you too.
21:05Okay?
21:07That was one of the first times I had done that.
21:10I looked him in the eye and I said, you know what?
21:12I want to start today by building a relationship with you.
21:16I want to have fun with you and I want to enjoy spending time with you.
21:21First thing you need to do is I want you to set up right at the piano.
21:25Okay?
21:26This is good.
21:27Back straight.
21:28A, B, C, D.
21:31E, F, Q.
21:33What do you think this one is?
21:35A.
21:36Very good.
21:37Knowing the alphabet, you know all the keys on the piano already.
21:39Yep.
21:40I was proud about the piano because when my dad taught me how to play the piano, it made me feel good.
21:45The piano is really great to play.
21:47You can express your feelings.
21:49You want it to come from your hands and your wrists, not from your body.
21:52Because pretty soon, your whole body is going to be moving back and forth on the bench.
21:57And you're going to get splinters in your butt.
21:59Ouch.
22:00I'm teasing you.
22:01It's a joke.
22:02Hey.
22:03Okay?
22:04Let's try again.
22:05Let's play together.
22:06One, two, three, four, four.
22:11Not very good.
22:12It will come with it because you've got to build up strength.
22:15Two, there you go.
22:17And this one's hard.
22:18Yes, it is.
22:19Keep it bent, not straight.
22:20This is good.
22:25This is great watching you.
22:31Alexander came out of the house after having played the piano with Ken.
22:35And his face was lit up.
22:37His eyes were bright and shining.
22:41He couldn't stop smiling.
22:43I haven't seen Alexander's face light up like that.
22:48Good night.
22:49Years.
22:54What's going to happen today, Ken, is that you're going to coach the boys, okay?
23:00Up until now, I hadn't seen this family spend any quality time together.
23:04So it was time for them to go and play some footy and enjoy it together as a family.
23:09All right, what team name should we come up with?
23:11Sonic.
23:12Who wants Sonic?
23:13Raise your hand.
23:14I do.
23:15You do?
23:16All right, we're team Sonic.
23:17Good job.
23:18That's a great name.
23:19That field is half a block away from my house.
23:21And that's the first time that we've been in that field.
23:23Mom?
23:24Oh.
23:25You hit him.
23:26All right.
23:27It was so important for Ken and Vinaya just to let their hair down and have some serious
23:32fun with the boys.
23:33So, what we need to do, let's line up.
23:35I want you guys to go.
23:36Let's make a big circle.
23:37We're going to take the ball to each other.
23:38We're going to practice our foot skills, okay?
23:40Go ahead.
23:41Time to move in with the ball, okay?
23:45Now go forward.
23:52Today, it's cooler.
23:54I'm going to play soccer with my mom and dad at the park!
23:57It's real fun.
24:01Whoa!
24:03What is it?
24:04What is it?
24:05What is it?
24:06Oh, here we go.
24:07Oh, quick.
24:08Quick.
24:09Kick it.
24:10Get it!
24:11Go!
24:12Go!
24:13We don't get to do a lot of stuff because my parents are really busy.
24:15I wish this happens a lot more often.
24:18This is the first time that I've seen you both in the same space.
24:23in the same space with your kids getting both of you having fun out together doing something active
24:32and enjoying it how's that feel it's family it's wonderful this is what i wanted when we were
24:40playing soccer it made me feel excited that we got to spend special time we've seen constant
24:47clock in clock out clock in clock out it's about together spending time together and having fun
24:54with your children and that's what they're seeing today all said and done this family
24:58were making good progress forward and so i felt it was a realistic time to leave them on their own
25:04come on hurry let's get up hurry that's good it's good stuff it's good stuff um i don't know about the
25:10football skills maybe you could work on that but you know i'm a little bit scared to have joe gone
25:23oh my gosh i have to do this on my own but i just had to keep thinking about
25:29the basics and the things that she taught us and being consistent
25:39for me it's going to be really interesting just to see how they get on without me around
25:50when i left the swansons we're on the right track and moving forward
25:53but i am a bit worried that they may start to revert back so let's take a look
25:59okay yeah sure ready yes
26:04you ready here we go here we go
26:07kick it kick it kick it
26:19kick it
26:19kick it
26:21kick it
26:28that was so heavy too
26:30it's fun though it's fun
26:31see that's the kind of stuff they like right you know you've got five boys there they want to
26:38rough and tumble they like to do it so remember there have got to be a lot of times and not
26:43everything's regimented who knows what this game is yeah
26:52spin what is that
26:56yeah it's a three okay you gonna help me count one
27:03rock on all right
27:05it's kind of good right so far
27:12i did very well with regards to getting them all together and sitting down playing a board game
27:17which i was very pleased to see ken
27:21so today i want to get the house cleaned up
27:25i would like to go and get baskets for the kids rose their own basket of toys that's their toys
27:30i give you another update to while you're out christian's got a warning for sitting on the
27:34table alexander's got a warning for pulling toys away from people and mike's got a warning because
27:38he's throwing the snake i love the way you were communicating about what needed to happen during
27:42the day because that allows you both to be on the same page that was good all right
27:50okay that is unacceptable behavior this is your warning this is inappropriate behavior for you to
27:55not listen to mommy this is unacceptable behavior this is inappropriate behavior that is inappropriate
28:00behavior that is unacceptable this is inappropriate behavior that is unacceptable that's inappropriate
28:07that's your warning there's never any explanation about why i want you in the naughty corner i think
28:14we need to take a trip to the naughty corner i want you to step away from the table and in the naughty
28:17corner please i want you to go in the naughty naughty corner
28:20No, no, no, no.
28:25This behavior is unacceptable.
28:27That's not acceptable.
28:28We were supposed to be laying down and taking our naps.
28:31Next thing on, there's a laugh and screaming, giggling,
28:33instead of laying down and being calm.
28:38I am putting you in this naughty corner.
28:40I am putting you in this naughty corner
28:43because this behavior is unacceptable.
28:46Brendan, stay right there.
28:50What are you?
28:52Daddy, are you there?
29:03What do you think of that piece of footage you just saw?
29:05It's pretty bad.
29:06As my kids didn't learn anything
29:08and I obviously wasn't learning anything.
29:10Oh, they did learn something.
29:11They did learn.
29:12They learned that when we laughed and had fun in the bedroom,
29:14we got put in the naughty corner.
29:16Straight away, you want to put them in the naughty corner?
29:19It's being overused and abused.
29:22What does it teach them if you just put them in the corner?
29:25Yeah.
29:26I think this just reaffirms a lot of things.
29:28I'm recognizing a lot of patterns in my behavior
29:30that I wasn't or refusing to recognize before.
29:33You're on the first steps of a long journey.
29:36You really are.
29:37You're beginning to become aware of how you're behaving.
29:40We have seen some good stuff.
29:42I'm going to be here with the pair of you
29:44really tweaking some of the stuff
29:46that we need to get underneath our belts.
29:48Any questions?
29:49I don't think so.
29:50All right, okay.
29:51So let's carry on and do some more work then.
29:52Okay.
29:53A big problem in this house is that the boys wreck each other's toys.
30:02So the other day before I left, I gave them an exercise
30:05to trust each other with their toys.
30:08Let's see how they got on.
30:09I wonder if they found some trust.
30:11Alex, who had yours?
30:13Me.
30:14Christian.
30:15Christian.
30:16Okay.
30:17And what happened?
30:18Did it break or is it safe?
30:20Safe.
30:21All right.
30:22Okay.
30:23Well done, Christian.
30:24Now, Brendan, what was you given to look after?
30:27Rhubar.
30:28Rhubar.
30:29And where is that?
30:30I don't know.
30:31I don't know.
30:34Yay!
30:35Okay.
30:36Well done, Brendan.
30:37I'm very proud at how well they did.
30:40I wasn't expecting it to go as well, but they were proud of themselves.
30:46Hey.
30:47All right.
30:48Okay.
30:49Well done, Christian.
30:50Way to go.
30:51All right.
30:52Christian made me feel proud that I actually trusted him.
30:57I like it, Alex.
30:59It was amazing.
31:00Who would have thought that five brothers were sharing for the first time?
31:03Well done.
31:04Well done, all of you.
31:05Very proud to see.
31:06We're going to do an exercise course.
31:12I had one final activity for the family that would really incorporate a lot of teamwork.
31:18But really what I wanted to do was to pair up Alex and Ken.
31:22And what this is going to take is teamwork and coordination and communication.
31:29When I first arrived, Ken and Alex were hardly talking to one another.
31:34And I hoped that this game would show them just how far they'd come together.
31:38What would be good to see is you working with Dad.
31:43When Joe told Alexander that he was going to be my partner, his face just lit up and it was precious.
31:49Because two weeks ago, both of us had been like, oh crap.
31:52So let's go have some fun and put that in place.
31:55Once they'd completed the course, they would have an envelope to open that would have a special message for them to put together.
32:02It was neat to see Ken and Alexander working together and being excited.
32:16And working on that relationship between them.
32:18All right, now we've got to take this off.
32:20Left.
32:21Nice and easy.
32:23All right.
32:24Here we go.
32:26Nice and easy.
32:27Yeah.
32:28I do love my dad.
32:31He's a really good dad.
32:34Oh.
32:35What is it?
32:36Pull.
32:37Keep going.
32:38Keep pulling.
32:39Very good, Christian.
32:40Okay.
32:41So what do we have?
32:42There we go.
32:43That's it.
32:44Almost done.
32:45Oh.
32:46It's a big heart.
32:47Yes.
32:48Look what it was like.
32:51Alexander took the heart and just kind of trashed it.
32:54And he said, this is how our family used to be.
32:56And then he put it back together.
32:58It's a big heart with family on it.
32:59And I said, this is how it is now.
33:01One big heart of a family.
33:06You can't say it any better than that.
33:09The Swansons were really feeling the family that they wanted to be, which was great.
33:14But Vinaya still had one issue that she wanted to take care of at the end of the day.
33:19How can Ken trust me when I have this over his head?
33:23And how can I build that trust with him?
33:26And so this is a step of having him be able to trust me and know how committed I am.
33:34At the Swanson household, Vanya has some major news for the whole family.
33:41Yesterday I had gone to the courthouse.
33:44Then I filed for the papers to have this divorce dismissed.
33:49And this is the paper.
33:50I want to see.
33:51I never knew what it was.
33:52I'm real, real proud of you all.
33:54We're all proud of Mama.
33:56I needed to give Ken a sense of hope, a sense of security with me and our marriage and where
34:17we're going.
34:18And so I decided that, you know what, it was time for me to drop the divorce and work
34:25as hard as we possibly can to make things work.
34:28To Alexander, I love you.
34:30I love you, Mom.
34:33You owe your mama hugs, too?
34:36There you go.
34:37All right.
34:38Come here.
34:40Family hug.
34:44When I found out that Vinaya had actually dissolved the petition for divorce, there was
34:51just so much emotions flooding in.
34:53Because every day I've woken up for the last six and a half months knowing that today could
34:58be the day.
34:59And there's just an uneasiness that is gone now for me.
35:04How do you feel, Alex?
35:05Good.
35:06This family had made great strides in moving forward and so I knew it was time for me to
35:15move on.
35:17Give me a hug and kiss.
35:18Oh, thank you.
35:19I wish Joe can stay.
35:20I wish you could stay here forever.
35:21Oh, the half of me.
35:22Thank you very much.
35:23And you cut it out.
35:24Oh.
35:25Thank you very much.
35:26And you cut it out.
35:27Oh.
35:28Thank you very much, Alex.
35:30Thank you very much.
35:31I have had fun with Joe this past week.
35:35You know, when I first walked in here, there was a lot of mayhem.
35:38And the one thing that I feel has come out of this is a lot of personal growth between
35:42the pair of you and a lot of steps forward.
35:45A lot of steps forward.
35:47So thank you for allowing me into your home.
35:49Thank you for coming.
35:50Joe, I cannot express to you how much your coming to my house meant.
35:57And just know that you brought a family closer together today.
36:00We're not going anywhere and we're only going to be stronger.
36:03There are not words that can describe the confidence that I'm having as a parent, the
36:10changes we're seeing in the kids, the changes I'm seeing in my husband.
36:17Take care.
36:18I feel really proud of Ken and Vinaya because they've worked really hard together.
36:23They've made a choice to stay together.
36:26And they're working hard every day in having the family that they want.
36:31Good job.
36:48You're learning.
36:49All right.
36:50Now we've got to drop the car.
36:51I was really shocked at how many opportunities I missed.
36:56I mean, there's so much more I could show them and so much more I want to show them.
36:59I'm enjoying it.
37:00And I'm enjoying being around them a lot more.
37:03Wow!
37:04High five!
37:05Way to go!
37:06Ken and I are talking about everything together and it's completely different.
37:14The peace that I've had around my house.
37:16I'm not afraid to come in the house.
37:18I want to play the games.
37:19I want to have the fun time.
37:21And it starts with everybody getting along.
37:24Let's have fun.
37:25All right.
37:26First, first, you've got to eat a worm.
37:28Now we're going to do a lot more stuff together as a family.
37:31Dad, I got a big one!
37:32Yeah, you do.
37:33One big family.
37:34We got one!
37:35We got one!
37:36We got one!
37:37I miss JoJo.
37:38We have dreams.
37:39We have goals.
37:40We have, I mean, we have a hope for the future and that did not exist.
37:47Okay, can you reel it in and then can you cast or do you want my cast?
37:52I want you.
37:53I think every child that has a parent should spend more time with them.
37:59I have learned to enjoy my family, learned to appreciate my sons for who they are and what
38:06they want and the things that they need.
38:09And I have so much hope for the future that I see my family getting back to what I envisioned
38:16a family always to be.
38:29I'll see you next time.
38:30Bye.
38:31Bye.
38:32Bye.
38:33Bye.
38:34Bye.
38:35Bye.
38:36Bye.
38:37Bye.
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