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Twin girls rule the roost and older brother is often blamed for their bad behavior. Supernanny helps Mom and Dad to implement the Naughty Corner. The Thought Box and Same Page Techniques encourage better communication with their son and each other.
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00:00Tonight on Supernanny, Joe meets the Wishmeyers whose twin daughters torture their parents
00:07and bully their brother, leaving their stay-at-home working mom at the end of her rope.
00:15Equipped with over 15 years of childcare experience, Joe has two weeks to transform the terrible
00:21talks and bring order to the family.
00:51Let's take a look and see what family we've got here.
01:05Hi we're the Wishmeyers, I'm John and this is my wife Melora.
01:08I was a marketing rep for a company, I ended up working for John and we started dating.
01:14We have three children, Jared, he's nine and then our twin daughters Ashlyn and Aliyah
01:20are four.
01:21Aliyah is Mayanga's twin.
01:23Let go of me you mom!
01:25She screams.
01:26She kicks.
01:28Aliyah!
01:29No I'm not!
01:30She hits.
01:32Oh dear.
01:34I'll give you something to cry about.
01:37We have more problems with her than we do with Ashlyn.
01:40Ashlyn is the older twin, she doesn't want to go to sleep at night.
01:43No you're not going to sleep with me, I'll lay with you.
01:45No!
01:46She always has an excuse to get out of bed.
01:48Lie down.
01:49And then she starts really throwing a pretty big fit.
01:52I cannot believe what I'm seeing.
01:56Jared feels the girls get more attention than him.
01:59Jared sometimes feels left out.
02:01Jared said hi, hi to me.
02:03Do you want to go to your room?
02:06I work away from home quite a lot.
02:10So I rely on Malara to handle the children throughout the day.
02:13You need to turn that down.
02:14I work from home and I thought if I work from home they'd have mommy time.
02:20But obviously that doesn't work.
02:24Sometimes I just feel like I can't do it all.
02:25I just can't.
02:26It's not working.
02:27I feel like every way of my life my kids are controlling me.
02:29Nana Nana Boo!
02:31It makes me a nervous wreck.
02:33Supernanny, I'm exhausted.
02:35I'm at my wits end and I need your help.
02:38We need your help.
02:39Wish Myers, you really do need my help and I'm on my way.
02:44I thought the nanny would be really kind of mean, but when she walked through the door
03:13it was not that impression at all. My first impressions of Joe were very good.
03:17Hi, I'm John. Hi, John. Pleased to meet you, Joe.
03:20This is the other twin, Aliyah. Hi, Aliyah. Pleased to meet you. How are you?
03:25And our son Jared's at school, so you'll get to meet him later.
03:28Ah, that'd be fantastic. Well, guys, I'm here to take mental notes and to observe you guys as a family.
03:36I know you've got some issues that need to be addressed, but we'll get to the bottom of that
03:40and resolve those. But if you can just carry on as normal, and then I can step back and watch you.
03:47So you work on the computer a full day.
03:51Yes.
03:52Then you're trying to keep the girls occupied.
03:55Yeah.
03:55Yeah.
03:57Not only does Malora look after the children, but she also has a full-time marketing job that she does at home, too.
04:03Don't even think about it.
04:05Can I take this call?
04:06No.
04:07Why? You need to be quiet.
04:13Two, three, seven, eight.
04:17Stop it.
04:18You want to...
04:19Ah, ah.
04:20Do... No.
04:21Aliyah, stop it. We'll do it when we get done working.
04:25Just one second, please.
04:27Ashi, are you all right?
04:28The toaster's out.
04:30Why do you have the toaster out?
04:32See, because I want to have to eat.
04:34Oh, my God.
04:35My God.
04:37What in the world?
04:38Okay.
04:39She's kind of in the circles.
04:40I'm an overachiever.
04:41I just feel like I'm on go mode all the time.
04:43Makes me feel terrible.
04:44Because I'm working so much and because I don't spend enough time with them.
04:48You made a major mess.
04:50But you was on the...
04:51I'm always on the phone, Ashlyn.
04:52That's my job.
04:53Malora was a woman who was stretched thin that had taken on a full-time job and was trying to manage three children.
05:02And that is just impossible.
05:04I think you broke my toaster.
05:10Give me my pencil.
05:12No.
05:12When you go in the room and mind me.
05:15Play the bits of paper.
05:17Cheeky, Madden.
05:18You're going to go time out.
05:20No.
05:20Mom's struggling.
05:21Do not hit me.
05:24Are you listening?
05:24How can you listen when you're screaming at me?
05:27Mom, go!
05:28Stop it.
05:29No.
05:30Aliyah would lash out at me and hit me or kick me.
05:34No.
05:34You're not going to...
05:35I want to cry.
05:36Aliyah.
05:37And then this.
05:39Aliyah refuses to listen to her mom.
05:43Malora ends up being kicked in the stomach or slapped in the face.
05:47It's just appalling to see a child behave that way.
05:51It's outrageous.
05:52Seeky, bud.
05:54Seeky, bud.
05:56Seeky, bud.
05:58Na-na-na-na-na-boo.
06:00This is definitely not working while I'm working.
06:02I'll tell you that right now.
06:06Open the door now.
06:09Na-na-na-na-boo.
06:14You know what?
06:21I don't know what to do.
06:22I'm just going to be honest.
06:23I don't know what to do because I have a boss here that tells me to get on the phone or I'm
06:26going to get fired and I have kids that are totally out of control.
06:31That afternoon, Jared came home from school and it wasn't long before Aliyah came into
06:36his room and stole his playing cards.
06:39Oh, no!
06:40What's happened here?
06:49She threw all my cards on the floor.
06:53I'm going to pick them all up.
06:56Hello?
06:58What happens when your sisters, they just throw your cards on the floor and they take your
07:02stuff?
07:03What does Mummy and Daddy do about it?
07:05Nothing.
07:07Jared, quit doing it.
07:09I'm not.
07:10It's action.
07:11And Maya just threw all my cards on the floor.
07:14Did you hear that Mum just said, Jared quit there?
07:17And it was really...
07:19And it was really Ashlyn.
07:23Melora, she wasn't listening.
07:24And that's very disheartening because it shows Jared that his sisters can do exactly what
07:30they want to him and there's no consequences.
07:36Fuck!
07:38Fuck!
07:39Hey, the lights are done.
07:40Fuck!
07:42Safety back.
07:44Shut up!
07:45Hey, Jared!
07:46Don't use that word!
07:48Hey, please shut up to me.
07:51Okay, I'm still working and I don't want to use the word shut up again.
07:56Do you want to go to your room?
07:57Seriously.
07:59Jared hardly said a word and Melora sent him to his bedroom.
08:03I mean, this was so unfair.
08:08Hi.
08:09May I come in?
08:11You know when you speak to Mummy and John, do they listen to you?
08:16Sometimes they're so busy and I try to talk to them and they're just like, go Jared, I
08:20have to take care of it somewhere.
08:22So.
08:24So what do you do then?
08:25You deal with it yourself?
08:28I think Jared, in a way, has kind of given up on voicing what he feels because he knows
08:37what the result will be.
08:38That every time he voices his opinion, it's his bedroom where he's going to end up.
08:42It's really important that you always tell Mummy what's going on in here.
08:47Okay, and in here, and how you're feeling.
08:54Guess who's home?
08:55Daddy's home.
08:56Hi, sweetie.
08:57Hi.
08:58Hi.
08:59Who are you?
09:00So, Dad comes home.
09:03And then we'll try to get him to go to bed.
09:06You guys, tell Daddy night night, go give him a hug.
09:08Oh, Elisa.
09:09He knows her.
09:10When I was observing the family through bedtime, John and Melora both went downstairs to put
09:19Ashlyn and Eliah to bed, but the girls were having none of it.
09:23Mom, Ashlyn.
09:24Bedtime around our house is hard.
09:27Eliah is calm at night, and Ashlyn is defiant.
09:29I don't want to leave you.
09:31I know you don't, but you have to.
09:33It'll be all right.
09:33Mommy, I'll leave you.
09:36No.
09:37Mommy, I'll leave you.
09:39No.
09:39Ashlyn just threw a horrendous fit that I get in bed.
09:44So I gave in, and I did go to bed.
09:48Melora's trying just about everything to get those girls to sleep, but getting into bed with
09:54them is only going to make things worse.
09:57It's been four days since I've got to spend time with my wife, and I feel like I'm single
10:02and, you know, nobody to share my time with in the evening.
10:06Get your whole body.
10:09But how does that make you feel inside, really, knowing that your two little girls
10:14are still up and your wife's exhausted laying on that bed?
10:16It affects her and I enormously.
10:19It's hurting her all of our lives, as far as our marriage, and she'll go in there to lay
10:23down, and she'll go to sleep, and four o'clock comes, and I go to work, and, you know, all
10:28of a sudden it's Saturday again, and that's how the whole week will go by.
10:31Daddy's taking all three girls into bed.
10:38It's the two girls and his wife.
10:42Eventually, after time, Melora fell asleep on the girls' bed, and they were still awake.
10:48So they moved on to Dad, and they started asking for juice and everything else they could possibly
10:52think of.
10:53Put two glasses of milk and turn up the heat, Dad.
10:58It's going to be a long night, I think.
11:03When I first arrive at a family, I take mental notes, and I just watch the dynamics between
11:18parents and their children.
11:21What I'd like to do next is to sit down and have a meeting and discuss the issues that
11:29I feel need addressing.
11:31Well, Laura and John, I've observed your wonderful family, so why don't we sit down and have a
11:35talk about it?
11:36Okay?
11:37I was expecting Nanny to be, like, very open and honest with me.
11:40And I hope she is, because I'm here to learn.
11:43Help me, please.
11:45Can I first say to the pair of you what beautiful children you have?
11:53Thanks.
11:54Thanks.
11:56Little cheeky monkeys.
11:57But you guys are struggling.
12:00I can't overemphasize that word struggle, because it is what I see when I walk into this house.
12:11The discipline in this house has me very concerned.
12:16When I watch Aliyah's behavior, I cannot believe that she kicks you, that she yells and screams
12:26and slaps you in the face, and you tolerate that.
12:30I'll move on to bedtime.
12:33Melora, you end up going in with the girls to sleep.
12:38They put you to bed.
12:42Gerard, he's a very smart boy who likes to talk and voice his opinion.
12:51Yet when he does, he's disciplined for it.
12:55You get so irate that you end up saying, go to your room, time out, you're instigating
13:01trouble.
13:02And yet all he was doing was voicing his opinion.
13:08For him to be able to stand up and be counted for in this family is for him to be able to
13:15have a voice and express himself.
13:19Why do you both not allow him to do that?
13:23For me, there's a root problem here.
13:30And that problem is Melora, you work a full-time job at home and yet you are trying to bring
13:39up your family and it's not working and both you and your children are suffering for it.
13:58I think I'm going to cry.
14:05Hey, it's okay Melora, it's okay.
14:14It's healthy that as adults we have our own fulfillment.
14:19There's no reason why you can't have both, but it's finding that balance.
14:27And I'm here to work with you guys so that you can have a dynamic family that works for
14:32the pair of you.
14:33Are you willing to plow in with me and we do it and we change things?
14:38Uh huh.
14:39You 100% in?
14:40100% in.
14:41Yep.
14:42Joe hit on some really heavy issues with me.
14:47It's been a very emotional shock.
14:48I feel like working from home was the perfect thing for me.
14:51I could do the best of both worlds.
14:53I can be a super mom and I can be a career woman and but obviously it's not working.
15:00On teaching day I go in with a routine and that routine is a schedule for the family so
15:08that they're more organized.
15:09I've brought you something.
15:11It is.
15:14It will balance out spending time with the children and at the same time it will give
15:20you your fulfillment so that you can also work and spend quality time with the kids as
15:25well okay.
15:26So let's pin it up.
15:28Okay.
15:29This is going to be your routine.
15:31Where I've placed the red circles here it's where you're working and that is roughly six
15:38hours.
15:39And it also means from 4.15 right the way down to eight o'clock where you're spending
15:45time with all three of the children which is important because you need that balance.
15:49I've cut my work down and I can play with my kids and it's going to all be better.
15:54So are we up and ready to start the new family routine?
15:57Yeah.
15:58Okay good let's start then.
16:00After I've established a routine with the family I then go through the disciplinary areas
16:07with them.
16:08So household rules no kicking, no biting, no yelling or slapping mummy in the face because
16:18that behavior is not acceptable.
16:20people.
16:21Can you hear me Ashlyn?
16:23Aliyah?
16:24Can you hear what JoJo's saying?
16:25Are you listening?
16:26I don't think they want.
16:27I can't hear you.
16:28I can't hear you.
16:29I can't hear you.
16:30I can't hear you.
16:32Okay so Melora and John when you see the behavior that's not acceptable you give them a warning
16:40in a low toned voice with eye contact please stop that behavior it is not acceptable.
16:49Secondly if they carry on with the behavior I want you to come down to their level and say
16:56that behavior is not acceptable now I want you to go and stand in the naughty corner.
17:02I think the naughty corner for Aliyah is going to be a challenge because she's very stubborn
17:06and I just don't know that she's going to stay there.
17:09Later that afternoon it was nap time and John asked Aliyah to take a nap.
17:16Aliyah you need.
17:17I want to take a nap.
17:19Come on walk over there and sit down.
17:21I want to take a nap.
17:24Aliyah.
17:25Aliyah can you get down from the stool please.
17:28Look at me Aliyah.
17:29I'm talking to you.
17:30Daddy has said that you have to take a sleep.
17:33Aliyah.
17:34Aliyah.
17:35Aliyah.
17:36Aliyah.
17:37If you don't listen to Jojo you're going to have to go to the naughty corner.
17:43So what I want you to do is say you are not listening and I want you to go to the naughty
17:48corner please.
17:49Low tone voice.
17:50Look at that.
17:51Look at that.
17:52Low tone your voice and give Aliyah eye contact.
17:55No.
17:56We don't.
17:57You're not listening.
17:58No.
17:59You're not going to act like this.
18:01So let's go.
18:02No.
18:03We've got four minutes in the naughty corner.
18:05No.
18:06Follow it through John.
18:07Follow it through.
18:08No.
18:09Do not get out of here.
18:10No.
18:11Move away.
18:12Move away John.
18:13No.
18:14No.
18:15No.
18:16No.
18:17No.
18:18No.
18:19No.
18:20No.
18:21No.
18:22I don't want to stand in the corner.
18:26Low tone voice.
18:27Okay John.
18:28Eye contact come down to a level.
18:29No.
18:30No.
18:31No.
18:32No.
18:33No.
18:34No.
18:35No.
18:36No.
18:37No.
18:38No.
18:39No.
18:40No.
18:41No.
18:42that way, um, almost makes you feel like a failure as a parent.
18:49Go ahead, come away.
18:51Talk to me, because I'm here.
18:52It upsets me.
18:53I'm just wondering, how do we get, what do we do to get to this point?
18:58I don't think I shed a tear in 10 years, and I teared up up there, and I think it was
19:03all the emotions just, you know, together.
19:06She doesn't love you any less.
19:07You're right.
19:08It's just, it's hard to watch.
19:11John, she's still in that corner.
19:14She's still in that corner.
19:15Yeah, it's working.
19:20Now, what I'd like you to do, because our minutes are up, is to go over to her and say to her,
19:25I want an apology.
19:27Okay?
19:28Okay.
19:31Aliyah.
19:31Turn around.
19:33So turn around and tell me you're sorry.
19:34So apologize, tell me you're sorry.
19:37Okay, give me a hug.
19:40Well done, John.
19:41That's fantastic.
19:41Okay.
19:42I think I made it through one of the roughest parts of having control again, but I'm happy.
19:47It worked.
19:51That afternoon, Gerard came home from school.
19:55Gerard doesn't always get the chance to express to his parents how important his feelings are,
20:01and so I brought in a thought box for him.
20:03Any time he has a thought, whether it be happy or sad or an idea or something that he wants
20:11to share, that he writes it on the paper and then fold it and put it into the box.
20:18And then every evening, Melora, I'd like you to sit down once the girls are in bed and say,
20:24hey, let's talk about what you've written down.
20:26Okay.
20:27What do you think of that, Gerard?
20:28Good.
20:29I think that would be a good idea to do with mum.
20:32And you can tell mum why you think it would be a good idea.
20:34Because I can talk to you without having to interrupt the girls.
20:42I think it's a great idea.
20:47Sleep time is a big issue because there is no routine, and Melora, she sleeps in between
20:54the girls.
20:56When they fall asleep, mum's already been asleep for an hour.
20:59When it's time to go to bed, tuck them in, hugs and kisses, and say goodnight.
21:04Okay.
21:05And then come out of the bedroom.
21:07If the children then come out of the bedroom, I want you then to say, it's bedtime, darling.
21:13Bring them in by the hand, tuck them back into bed, and then go back outside again.
21:20So, both say goodnight to the children, and go back out.
21:24Goodnight, Lion.
21:24Goodnight.
21:25I love you.
21:26Goodnight, darling.
21:27Goodnight.
21:29I'm going to tuck you in and give you a kiss, and it's over.
21:32It's night time.
21:33No, taking off the bed.
21:34I don't want to do a night, mate.
21:36Okay, relax.
21:38Lay down.
21:38Bedtime would be wonderful if she can help us with that.
21:41It's tiring to do that every single night.
21:45The first time you say goodnight, darling, it's time for bed.
21:47Okay?
21:51Not me.
21:51Yeah?
21:52It's time for bed, darling.
21:54No, mommy, I'm laying there with me.
21:57Come on, guys.
21:58It's time for bed.
21:58I want you to lay with her.
22:01Mommy, stay with me.
22:03Lay with me.
22:05Stay with me.
22:07Lay with me.
22:09Okay, I'll come with you, okay?
22:11Mom, if you don't lay with us, Dad's going to.
22:15Ignore that.
22:17The second time when they come out, it's bedtime.
22:20Okay.
22:21My puppy.
22:24Mommy, I want you to lay with me.
22:26It's bedtime.
22:27Stay with me.
22:30Mommy.
22:32Why?
22:33Why are you doing it?
22:37The third time you say nothing.
22:41Stay with me.
22:43Stay with me.
22:44I want you.
22:46I want you.
22:46I want you.
22:46I want you.
22:47I want you.
22:48I want you.
22:48I want you.
22:49Because she cannot believe you've been so consistent.
23:00And she's waiting to see when you'll give in.
23:03And that door's left ajar, right?
23:14Mm-hmm.
23:14You could find yourself doing this 50 times.
23:20I can see that.
23:21Consistency, it's the key.
23:26John and Melora must continue to ignore Ashlyn and keep putting her back into bed.
23:32This will eventually work and Ashlyn will end up falling asleep.
23:36I'm having a bad night and I won't ever get the door asleep, so you better just calm down.
23:44Calm down.
23:44Don't let it overwhelm you.
23:48Keep going.
23:50I think the toughest part for me was hearing Ashlyn cry inform me to sleep with her.
23:55I felt like I was almost mistreating her.
23:58Honestly, I just wanted to go lay down with them.
24:00It's hard.
24:00I must say one thing.
24:04You're not laying out in between them.
24:06I know.
24:08I feel like it's working, don't you?
24:11Yeah.
24:11It's getting quieter.
24:13Do you notice that?
24:14Uh-huh.
24:15After 45 minutes, they were sound asleep and everything was well.
24:19And they did not get up in the night and they did not come to our room, which was really nice.
24:23That's a big turn.
24:25That's huge.
24:28We don't do this very often, do we?
24:30I don't think we ever have.
24:31I know.
24:31It worked.
24:32I mean, the technique worked.
24:34So you've done well.
24:35That's great.
24:36You've done well.
24:37It's a major milestone.
24:38It's huge.
24:41The bed technique is wonderful.
24:42I think it should be manually written, handed out at birth to every mother and dad in the world.
24:51Okay, JoJo's going now.
24:54And I'm going to come back in a couple of days.
24:56So take care.
24:57Take care.
24:58I wish Jo could stay all the time.
25:00I think Jo and I both do.
25:02Bye-bye.
25:03See you soon.
25:04Give me a hug.
25:06Give me a hug.
25:08Take care, darling.
25:10Take care.
25:11Thanks, Jo.
25:11Take care.
25:12You're welcome.
25:12Take care.
25:14Bye.
25:15See you all soon.
25:17We're good now.
25:18What?
25:18Bye.
25:19Good boy.
25:20Good boy.
25:21Good boy.
25:24Good boy.
25:29I'm doing your homework.
25:31Good.
25:31Good boy.
25:32Good boy.
25:33Good boy.
25:33Good boy.
25:33Good boy.
25:33No, you're not supposed to be anyone doing my homework.
25:35Good boy.
25:36You're not my boss.
25:37Good boy.
25:38Good boy.
25:39Get out.
25:40Uh-uh.
25:41Okay, I'm asking them nicely to leave.
25:43They're leaving.
25:44I asked them nicely five times.
25:45No, you didn't.
25:46I heard you.
25:47It's your tone of voice, Jared.
25:50Get out.
25:51You sit down and do your homework.
25:53Mom, look at the way you're speaking to Jared.
25:55If only you could hear yourself.
25:58It feels really unfair that I get in trouble and they don't.
26:03Poor Jared.
26:03This is so unfair.
26:05Why do I get consequences when the girls don't?
26:10Look at Jared.
26:11Putting his thoughts into the box.
26:14Why do I get consequences and the girls don't?
26:17Now, is that true?
26:18Yes.
26:19Me getting yelled at and getting told to do stuff when the girls don't get anything.
26:27They're four.
26:29You were four once.
26:31You are missing the point here, Melora.
26:33You have got to learn to listen to your son.
26:39Since Joe's left Elias, tested John and I both to see how far we're going to go with this.
26:45Are they for real?
26:46No, do not smack.
26:47I want you to go get your underwear and your pajamas.
26:51Because we've got to take a bath after dinner.
26:53Or after playtime.
26:55Well, then if you choose not to listen, then you don't get to have playtime then.
26:59Melora, mind that back chat.
27:01Deal with it.
27:02And I will remind you if I have to.
27:05Would you like to sit four minutes in the naughty corner?
27:08No.
27:09Melora, you're starting this wrong.
27:11Get down to her level.
27:12Give her a warning.
27:13You better stop talking to your mommy like this.
27:16I don't have to.
27:17Well, we'll see.
27:18Four minutes.
27:19Let's go.
27:20Yes.
27:21Move.
27:22I will move when you stand willingly in the corner like I've asked you to do.
27:26Let go.
27:28Nope, not until you willingly stand there.
27:30Why are you pinning her to the corner?
27:32Let go of her.
27:35You're not going to...
27:36You're losing control now, Melora.
27:39You're losing it.
27:40No, I'm not standing in here.
27:43Yes, you are.
27:44No, I'm not.
27:46Who's got the control here?
27:48Back off right now.
27:50No.
27:51Melora, you've just been defeated.
27:56Okay, let's go get you guys in bed.
27:58It's already been story time.
28:00Now it's time to lay down.
28:01I want to lay down.
28:03Okay, John.
28:04Come on.
28:04Remember, kiss goodnight and sew to bed.
28:08Goodnight, Ashley.
28:08Goodnight, girls.
28:09She wants us to, now just do it.
28:14Now just ignore that.
28:16Come out the room, John.
28:17No.
28:18Get in there.
28:19Get in there.
28:19Get in there.
28:21I want you to bed.
28:24No.
28:25John, remember, say nothing and put her back to bed.
28:31I want some milky.
28:33I want some milky.
28:35John, we're not bartering here.
28:37No deals.
28:38It's bedtime.
28:39I want my hamster, guys.
28:41I want my hamster, guys.
28:44Do not give in.
28:47So, Eli gets her own way and she's got her toy now.
28:50Let's go to bed.
28:51Try and dinner.
28:52It's the purse, the bed.
28:54These girls are running rings around you both.
28:58And I didn't marry the bed.
29:00So, night, you bud pie.
29:02You're doing it all wrong and we need to start from square one.
29:07After I've been away for a couple of days,
29:08I come back to the family with footage that I've seen whilst I've not been there.
29:15Hi, Melora.
29:16Hey, Jill.
29:16Hi, John.
29:17And I show them the footage so that they can see with their own eyes the mistakes that they've made.
29:24But I'd like us all to sit down and watch this.
29:26All right?
29:31Let's give some points on what we see.
29:34Move.
29:35Move.
29:35I will move when you stand willingly in the corner like I've asked you to do.
29:40Let go.
29:41Nope.
29:41Not until you willingly stand there like I've asked you to do.
29:44Let go.
29:46What's going on there?
29:47That disheartens me.
29:49She wouldn't stay there.
29:49You're hovering over a liar and you're forcing her in that corner and turning her around to the wall.
29:56And that's suffocating.
29:57When you place one of the children in the naughty corner, come down onto your child's level.
30:03Give her the eye content to say, you do not hit.
30:07That behavior is not acceptable.
30:09Back into that corner.
30:10And then you must walk away because you standing there is going to give your children a chance to get your attention.
30:18And that attention she's getting from you is negative attention.
30:21Good night, Ashley.
30:25Good night, Leia.
30:27How do you guys?
30:28I want some milky.
30:30I want some milky.
30:33There's the demand.
30:34Milk.
30:35These are all excuses.
30:37You've given the control to Ashley.
30:40You've got to follow through with each step because the technique works.
30:45But it's not going to work if you don't get hold of grip, the smaller details.
30:51Get out.
30:52Uh-uh.
30:53Okay, I'm asking them nicely to leave.
30:55They're leaving.
30:56Can I ask them nicely five minutes?
30:57No, you didn't.
30:58I heard you.
30:59It's your tone of voice, Jared.
31:01Get out.
31:03You sit down and do your homework.
31:05You're telling Jared that he's being disrespectful and that his tone is not good, yet you're setting an example by the way that you're talking to him in the first place.
31:15What we'll do is we'll work on all the stuff that needs working on so that we can get ourselves back on track again.
31:25Okay?
31:25That sounds good.
31:25Earlier today, Aliyah went downstairs while Jared was playing a video game and turned the video game off.
31:34How would you like it if I went in there and turned off everything in your room while you were watching it or playing it with it?
31:40Well, I wouldn't tell you who said that.
31:43You stay away from Jared and you let him do his thing.
31:46Do you feel like you need to go to the naughty corner?
31:49Instead of blaming Jared for the argument, Melora really stood up for him.
31:54She's definitely making progress and that's good.
31:57If you don't stop acting this way, you're going there.
32:00No.
32:01Okay.
32:01No!
32:02No!
32:04You turned off Jared's game.
32:06He was not bothering you.
32:07I want you to turn around and you're going to stay for four minutes in the corner.
32:11That will quit a lot.
32:15I'd like you and I to work more on your tone of voice.
32:18Okay.
32:19There's ways that you can talk with a low-authority voice without yelling or shouting.
32:23Just projecting your voice.
32:24Okay.
32:25So that it sounds louder without shouting.
32:27Okay.
32:29Aliyah's changed.
32:30She knows that we're going to stick to the naughty corner and she knows that if she's going to act up, she is going to go there.
32:35There is a consequence to acting up.
32:41Aliyah, tell me that you're sorry, please.
32:45Sorry.
32:46Thank you very much.
32:47Okay.
32:47Hugs and kisses.
32:48Hugs and kisses.
32:49No grudges.
32:49Let's go.
32:50Let's play.
32:51Good girl.
32:51Come on.
32:53The thought box, I think it's good because I can talk to Mom more.
32:58I want you to feel like you can come and talk to me about anything.
33:01Okay.
33:01She is respecting me a lot more and I think she's not getting so caught up with the girls and with work.
33:09Mommy loves you.
33:10Give me a hug.
33:12Jared and I have gotten a lot closer.
33:14The thought box has helped a lot.
33:16Like I'm real interested in what he's got to say.
33:19Melora's listening to Jared.
33:20She's reducing her work hours and also doing a really good job disciplining the girls.
33:26As a result, the children are getting along much better.
33:31But John and Melora still need to work on getting the girls to sleep.
33:35You'll need flour.
33:37Okay.
33:38John, tell the girls it's bedtime.
33:49It's not a game.
33:50It's time for bed.
33:51Get under your covers.
33:53No.
33:54Let's hear it.
33:58I want to stay here.
34:00Okay.
34:01Okay.
34:01Look away.
34:03John, you want to put them calmly back into bed?
34:05Just have some time for bed.
34:06My game's time for bed.
34:09Lay down.
34:10It's bedtime.
34:22The girls only came out of their room three times tonight.
34:25So the stay in bed technique is working.
34:29But Melora and John do need to carry on.
34:33So that bedtime will continue to improve.
34:35I think Ashlyn knows that Daddy and I are not going to give up putting her back in that bed.
34:40And, you know, I think if we stick to the routine and be consistent, it won't be many more nights and she'll be in the bed.
34:46The family has progressed slowly, but surely.
34:52The parents realize what they've implemented and what they still need to fine tune so that they can make it better for themselves.
35:01I'm doing this pretty quick.
35:03What is in the eyeball?
35:04Where did you find a carrot vessel?
35:05I want to know I'm just lying.
35:07Keep going.
35:08I got you.
35:09This is great.
35:10Aliyah, down you come.
35:12I'm very happy with Aliyah's change.
35:14Woo!
35:16She does what we ask.
35:18That's a little better.
35:19She's not as aggressive or hostile.
35:22One day, Aliyah and Ashlyn were walking along the beach.
35:27Ashlyn is more under control when it's bedtime.
35:29We did to be a bit asleep.
35:33Yeah.
35:34I'm not laying in the bed with the kids anymore.
35:36That's huge.
35:37Here, put your lips on here.
35:38Give them to me.
35:39Give them up.
35:41Jared's been really empowered.
35:43He's got a voice again.
35:44No girl's going to kiss you.
35:46One of these days, you're going to want him to kiss you.
35:49And you're going to go, oh my God.
35:54He's talking to his mom again,
35:56and the lines of communication are open.
35:59Oh, okey, okey, okey.
36:01Jill's brought a lot of happiness in our home.
36:03She's helped us so much.
36:05We've come a long way in our family,
36:07and I think we've made a lot of progress.
36:08Can you do it?
36:09Can you do it with Daddy?
36:10The Wishmire family have changed a lot.
36:14And John and Melora have that power back again
36:17and be in control of the children.
36:21The biggest change that's happened for Melora
36:23is that she's realized it's okay for her not to work
36:27all God sends hours.
36:29And it's okay.
36:30Enjoy being a mother.
36:31Look at the baby.
36:33I'm going home now.
36:35And you won't be here tomorrow?
36:36It was emotional saying goodbye to Joe.
36:38John and I have kind of become pretty attached to her
36:40and so have my kids.
36:41She's kind of like one of us now.
36:43So Joe Joe wanted to give you kisses farewell.
36:46Can Joe Joe say bye-bye?
36:47No.
36:48Bye-bye, darling.
36:49Bye-bye, darling.
36:50You take care, okay?
36:52It's been really good having Joe here.
36:55I think having Joe here has made me happier.
36:59Hey, darling, you speak to me.
37:01You'll be able to speak to me.
37:03She's helped us a lot.
37:04Joe's made us a better, a tighter family.
37:07I'm going to miss Joe a lot.
37:08That's okay.
37:10It's okay to be upset.
37:13And when our next come to the States, I can flop in and say hi.
37:16Okay.
37:17You can teach me how to snowboard.
37:18It feels good to be able to go into a family and see dynamics and see issues that a family
37:26is struggling with and to be able to implement some techniques and to set up a household routine
37:32that works for a family.
37:34Bye.
37:34It feels good to watch them realize that it's working.
37:40I've done what I was meant to do here in this family, and I'm off to the next one now.
37:52Yeah, I know.
37:55You made one on the table, too.
37:56I think Joe has brought our family together, brought us more happiness into the house.
38:02The whole experience has been very positive.
38:05It's like we're one big happy family.
38:07Don't have to pick two later.
38:09Laura's achieved that balance between being a mother and having a job, and you can see the happiness.
38:14Come on, Jared.
38:16I'm really enjoying playing with my kids and spending time with them.
38:20I've totally been relaxed and had the most fun I've had in probably three or four years.
38:25Joe-Joe makes Mommy and Daddy happy.
38:28Keep it going, girl.
38:29Joe-Joe makes me happy.
38:31I just admit to you.
38:34I miss Joe-Joe.
38:35I miss Joe-Joe because it feels like she's one of our family.
38:39You need help? Are you okay?
38:41I am a better parent now than before when Joe showed up, and I will be a better parent days ahead.
38:47Ready?
38:48We're going.
38:49We kind of thought, oh, she's just going to come in and help us with our children.
38:53Well, it went way beyond our kids.
38:55It went to each of us individually inside, so that's a good thing.
38:59Thank you, Joe.
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