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When Jo introduces the rules, Ryan and Hunter become resistant. Ryan goes as far as flicking his brother simply because Jo did not list it. Do you get along with your siblings?
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00:00Hi, my name is Cheryl McMillian. My husband, Jonathan, and I have three boys. Ryan, who is almost 10, Hannah is 7, and Garrett is 3.
00:10Right now, I'm a stay-at-home mom, and my husband is deployed with his National Guard unit.
00:15Watch where you're stepping.
00:16Hi, I'm Sergeant Jonathan McMillian from the Texas Army National Guard. I'm serving in Afghanistan for Operation Enduring Freedom.
00:23Being away from home, I think it makes things tougher for Cheryl. It's not only the mother, she's also having to take the place of the father as well.
00:34You've been obnoxious since you got home.
00:37It's difficult having Jonathan away.
00:38I'm going to spank you.
00:40I feel like I'm a single mom.
00:41I didn't ask you if you wanted to. I told you to.
00:45My husband, Jonathan, doesn't feel that I'm firm enough with the boys.
00:48Do not come out again.
00:49When my husband is here, the boys seem to respond a little bit better to him.
00:56Ryan and Hunter are very physical with each other.
00:59Ouch.
01:00They kick.
01:02They've even tried choking each other.
01:04Ryan!
01:05Pandemonium!
01:07Garrett is learning the bad things from his older brothers.
01:10Hey, Dad, take your foot.
01:13No, no.
01:14The relationship between children can be characterized by one word.
01:19I think chaos.
01:24It's like a zoo in there.
01:26I feel like a prisoner in my own home.
01:28My children have been spanked, grounded, and they've had things taken away from them.
01:31Take out of that refrigerator.
01:34Spanking doesn't seem to faze them.
01:36Mom spanking on top.
01:38I said get outside and go play.
01:40Got to where I don't even want to spend much time with them.
01:43Go play.
01:44Go play.
01:45Move your foot.
01:45Ryan, you're going to get hurt.
01:50You've locked them out of the house.
01:52I just want my children to grow up being respectful, polite, young men.
01:58Super nanny is very tough on military families during a time of deployment.
02:02Please, could you please help my wife and kids?
02:04This lady desperately needs my help.
02:08I'm on my way.
02:23Hello.
02:24Hello.
02:24How are you?
02:25I'm fine.
02:26How are you?
02:26Yeah, pleased to meet you.
02:27Nice to meet you.
02:28Joe Frost.
02:29Cheryl McMillian.
02:30Hi.
02:31Come on in.
02:31Come in.
02:31This is Garrett.
02:37I see you've got your hands full.
02:39Joe seemed to be very confident, very nice.
02:44I know you've got issues that need to be resolved, but we'll get to the bottom of those.
02:47When I arrived, I jumped straight into observing the family.
02:51So what normally happens around this time of the day, Cheryl?
02:53Usually he's just watching TV until lunch.
02:56I recognized very quickly Garrett was being babysat by the television, and there didn't
03:02seem to be any activities between the pair of them.
03:07Later on, Ryan and Hunter came home from school.
03:10Get in the house.
03:12Boys, what are your names?
03:14Come here.
03:14Can you answer her?
03:15Can you tell her what your name is?
03:17Stand up.
03:17And be quiet.
03:23A quiet home turned into pandemonium.
03:27All hell breaks loose.
03:34Aggression in this house is a national pastime.
03:37Run, come here.
03:38The children start wrestling with each other where they become really violent.
03:42It's just the level of aggression that they give one another.
03:55They hurt each other like this.
03:56Uh-huh.
03:58Attack!
03:58He hits me, then I hit him back.
04:02Then he hits me, then I hit him.
04:08They all do it.
04:10Mom spanks the kids.
04:11Do you want to be hit with that?
04:12The kids spank each other.
04:13Hit my butt.
04:19And it's crazy in the house.
04:24What's the object of the game you're playing?
04:27To hurt people.
04:28To hurt people?
04:29Uh-huh.
04:30Mom!
04:31You're trying to kill me!
04:34Oh, well.
04:35My kids are good kids.
04:36They're funny.
04:38And lovable.
04:39But that seems to have all gone away or is hidden.
04:45Usually about now, when they come home from school, I make them go outside.
04:50I want y'all to go outside and play.
04:52No.
04:54Come here, Ryan.
04:55Hunter?
04:57Come.
04:59Come here.
05:00Now.
05:01I look like I'm playing with you, but I'm not laughing.
05:06Go play.
05:07No.
05:11I couldn't believe it.
05:12Mom just falls to the boys outside.
05:14Wow.
05:15I mean, that's...
05:15The glass door, they've already broke.
05:17Excuse me, because I'm going to go and have a look.
05:19Okay.
05:19What do you do when you're out here?
05:21Nothing.
05:22How does it make you feel, then, boys, when you get asked to come outside and then Mommy
05:26just closes the door?
05:27Can you shut the door open?
05:29Stop.
05:30No, I'm not stopping.
05:31You can't make me.
05:34Can you break the window?
05:35Break the glass.
05:37Do you know we're here?
05:39Hello.
05:40How'd you get back in?
05:47All right.
05:47I thought it was the window.
05:49I told you to go to the lake.
05:53It's time for me to go in.
05:55You come in that bedroom window one more time, and I will spank you, and you will not have
06:00TV.
06:01Go play.
06:04I told you to go outside.
06:09This is not negotiable.
06:10Mom and son are fighting continuously.
06:14You have one hour that I want you to play.
06:16Yes.
06:17Then you may come in.
06:22You're going to get hurt.
06:23No!
06:25Stop it!
06:34I don't even try to do anything with him anymore.
06:39I'm tired.
06:46Coming up on Super Nanny.
06:48Ryan?
06:49Ryan won't come clean.
06:51I don't want to wash my hands!
06:54And Mom faces the truth.
06:56Your justice is to lose control and to spank the children.
07:00When Super Nanny returns.
07:07We're not having fries tonight.
07:09In the house.
07:25Go wash your hands in the bathroom.
07:27Go wash your hands!
07:29I don't want to wash my hands!
07:30Well, then you're not eating.
07:32Mom asked all of her sons to wash their hands before dinner time, and they did all but one.
07:37Ryan.
07:38I don't want to wash my hands!
07:41You've got 25 minutes now.
07:4325 minutes and supper's over, period.
07:44They locked heads together.
07:47Get out.
07:48It was a power struggle between the pair of them, and we had fire meeting fire.
07:54Ryan!
07:56Wash.
07:59I'm having to treat you like a little baby.
08:02No!
08:03Don't.
08:06I've got to stay.
08:07Oh!
08:07Don't do it.
08:08Don't do it.
08:09Don't do it.
08:09Don't do it.
08:10Don't do it.
08:10Don't do it.
08:13Ryan?
08:17What are you doing?
08:20Sit.
08:24You are wasting time.
08:28You are fixing to lose your chance to eat your supper.
08:33You will not eat supper enough.
08:34These two were knocking heads, and neither one was budging.
08:40Give me that.
08:41Give me!
08:42Ah-ah, Ryan!
08:45Let go.
08:46Leave him alone.
08:48After dinner, it was more of the same.
08:50Get off of me.
08:52Let me go.
08:54Cheryl knows that she's lost control of being able to parent her children.
09:00I understood the point. I can't stand my kids.
09:02You don't like being with him?
09:05Mm-mm. I'm to that point. I just...
09:08To hear a mother say that to you makes you realize that she's in a bad situation.
09:16You know? Because it's like this all the time.
09:19This is far from good.
09:22I'm to the point I do not like who my children have become or who I have become.
09:26And to tell Joe that, it was hard to say.
09:29Shut up!
09:31Mom!
09:32She won't give me my bear!
09:34Give it, you retard!
09:37Mom's got to the point where she's locking herself in the bedroom now because she doesn't want to deal with it.
09:42So what makes you come into your bedroom from being outside?
09:46All the chaos.
09:47So it's a sanctuary for you?
09:48Mm-hmm.
09:49This is the only place I have in the house that's mine.
09:52No escape for Mom in her own home because her children were tormenting her.
09:56And you have to hold yourself prisoner in your own bedroom.
10:02Mom!
10:04Get out of my room.
10:05No.
10:06Get out.
10:07No.
10:07No.
10:08Children are left to fend for themselves.
10:16Where are they?
10:18They're screaming out of their mom's attention.
10:20They want to be doing things with their mom.
10:22I have seen more than enough.
10:26There does need to be big change in this house.
10:28It does need to happen.
10:30If Mom wants to feel happy again, and the children too.
10:32At the moment she doesn't like her children and that's very sad.
10:36I want to be able to change that for her.
10:42When I first arrive and observe a family, I'm looking for the dynamics.
10:47I couldn't wait to get together with Cheryl and sit down and discuss the issues that needed to be addressed.
10:53Okay, Cheryl, let's sit down and discuss what I've observed.
10:56Okay?
10:56I'm most afraid to hear that it's my fault, that, you know, I'm part of the problem, which I already know that I am.
11:07There's no doubt, Cheryl, that your whole family have made a huge sacrifice for the war that's going on.
11:16Your husband is out there, and he's doing his job, and you're doing your job here.
11:25Now, I know that this is hard for you, but what I did see was a very, very grim, Cheryl.
11:38Aggression in this house is absolutely mind-blowing.
11:43I mean, it's shocking.
11:44The way Hunter and Ryan play with one another, there isn't a line between them wrestling and having fun to literally body-saving.
11:55Slamming one another against walls and doors, because it's now become dangerous.
12:03When Ryan and Hunter had come back from school, you were there ready to lock them out of the house, because you needed your own space.
12:14And it just becomes confrontational.
12:17It's really all about who's going to be Colonel.
12:20Your justice is to lose control and to spank the children.
12:25If you can physically be more powerful than them, then you think that they've got the message.
12:31But have they?
12:33Obviously not.
12:33What broke my heart, Cheryl, was when you sat and told me that you didn't like your sons.
12:42You know what, Cheryl?
12:43They know it.
12:44They know you don't like them by the way that you grab and you smack.
12:49That's why they call you mean.
12:53But what they do desperately want is your love.
12:57What they do need from you is guidance, love and direction.
13:05Someone have changed.
13:08I just don't know how.
13:09How do you feel at the moment as a mother?
13:13Awful.
13:15Like a failure.
13:22Like it's my fault.
13:23I know you love enough, but step up, Cheryl, and be the responsible mother that you have to be.
13:33What Joe said really hit me hard.
13:36Made me feel sad, embarrassed and disappointed in myself.
13:40And I'm here to work with you so that you can feel happier.
13:44So that I can hear laughter in this house.
13:47Together we can do that.
13:49Do you believe in yourself?
13:51Yes.
13:51Because I believe in you.
13:54I'm very excited to work with Joe.
13:56And I'm determined to make this work.
14:00Okay, so let's get working then.
14:02Coming up on Super Nanny.
14:05When Joe lays out the new rules.
14:07It rules.
14:08No punching, kicking, biting.
14:10Will the boys fall in line?
14:12No head, body slamming.
14:15Brian.
14:16She said nothing about putting.
14:19When Super Nanny returns.
14:22Okay.
14:23This family routine is absolutely crucial to you.
14:26Because what it is doing is putting back time with your children.
14:31I mean, there is no fun in the house.
14:33Nobody laughs.
14:34So this schedule has been structured to allow mum to take time out and have a good time with those children.
14:41One-on-one time is what you need to give Garrett.
14:45There's a whole morning when there's no mental stimulation.
14:49At 3.30 to 4.30, play outside all together.
14:54Okay.
14:54Let them see mummy having fun.
14:57Let your hair down.
14:58Have a laugh with the boys.
15:00From 6.30 to 7.30, boys out on the bikes or a movie.
15:06Joe's new routine is that I have time to spend with the kids doing fun things.
15:11I feel it's important to clean the slate.
15:17After doing the family routine, it was important for Cheryl to sit down with her boys
15:22and to explain how she wasn't happy with her behavior as well as the boys' behavior.
15:27Okay, guys.
15:29Mum wants the yelling and the arguing and the fighting to stop.
15:32And that includes me, okay?
15:36What do you think when mummy smacks you?
15:38I think it's crappy.
15:40You know what?
15:41So does mum.
15:43It's not appropriate.
15:44It's not acceptable anymore.
15:46I was trying to tell them that we were going to put everything behind us
15:49and not hold anything against each other.
15:51It started from now.
15:53Clean slate.
15:54From now on, I want us to have fun.
15:56We're going to play games again.
15:58I'm going to give you all the time to go outside and play with your friends.
16:01But I also want time to spend with you all, okay?
16:04Because you've missed that, haven't you?
16:07Yeah.
16:07Because mum's missed having that time with you.
16:10Because she loves you boys.
16:12That's why it was important for them to recognize
16:15that mum wants to be with them.
16:18But in order to do that,
16:19there are rules in this house.
16:23Okay?
16:24Eight rules!
16:26When Jo brought in the rules to go over with all of us...
16:31Hunter.
16:33Ryan and Hunter were resistant.
16:35No punching, kicking, biting.
16:39Pinching.
16:40No head, body slamming.
16:42Any behaviour where you hurt the other person
16:45and they tell you,
16:46I'm hurt,
16:48it's not a game anymore.
16:50Because then the game isn't fun anymore.
16:52Yeah, it is.
16:53Ryan.
16:54She said nothing about food.
16:56It isn't fun.
16:57Because you're brothers, alright?
16:59And you want to be able to play
17:00without actually making each other cry.
17:06These children have been used to getting away
17:08with their unacceptable behaviour
17:10because it's been ignored.
17:14I need you to listen to me.
17:17Right, guys, ready?
17:18Come.
17:18Hunter.
17:19Come over here.
17:20Come over here.
17:21I've got a special treasure hunt game.
17:23We are all on the same team
17:26to get the clues
17:27to get the prize.
17:30The treasure hunt game
17:31allows the boys to work as a team
17:33and find clues together.
17:35Do it together.
17:36Do it together.
17:36I want you to...
17:39So that they can find the clues.
17:41An elephant's head.
17:44I know where it is.
17:45Alright, let's go.
17:46Let's go, Mum.
17:47Each of the clues
17:48were written specifically
17:49for each boy.
17:51What does it say?
17:52Because I wanted each child
17:54to be able to solve it
17:56by themselves.
17:57This way.
17:57This way.
17:58Go.
18:00Keep going, Hunter.
18:01Make a look.
18:03Keep going, Hunter.
18:05Stop.
18:05Look.
18:05You have a lot.
18:06Way to go, Hunter.
18:07Look, Garrett.
18:08There's a clue.
18:09Come on.
18:10Lots of praise.
18:11Lots of praise for the boys.
18:12Good job, Hunter.
18:13It was good
18:13because Mum was with all of her boys
18:15giving them lots of praise
18:16and running along with them.
18:19Come on.
18:21Uh-oh.
18:22No.
18:23Go.
18:23Go.
18:24Go.
18:24Go.
18:24Leave me agree.
18:26Leave me in green.
18:28Ryan must jump on trampoline.
18:32Okay, that says Ryan.
18:34Then we're discussing
18:35where the next clue
18:36was going to be.
18:37And it's like,
18:37come on, come on.
18:38And I found myself
18:39having to keep up
18:40with the boys
18:40in and out of the house.
18:41Jump.
18:42Good job.
18:42Jump.
18:43Good job.
18:45Woo.
18:45Let's go.
18:46Go.
18:46Ryan and Hunter surprised me.
18:51They worked really well together.
18:52They helped each other
18:54read the clues
18:55and not be so competitive.
18:58It's not one person
18:59winning over the other.
19:00What's the last bit say?
19:02Who's got to get the ticket?
19:03Garrett.
19:04Where is he?
19:04Run in.
19:05Put it in.
19:05Put it in.
19:06Put it in.
19:06Put it in.
19:07Put it in.
19:08Put it in.
19:08Do it.
19:09Yay.
19:10Yay.
19:10You must pull through the panel.
19:18I'm Garrett.
19:19Come on, Garrett.
19:20You're all together.
19:21You're team.
19:21Come on, hurry.
19:23Okay.
19:24What's it say?
19:25It says to Ryan,
19:26Hunter, and Garrett.
19:28Congratulations.
19:30That was the first time
19:31in a long time
19:32that we've all got to
19:33do something fun together
19:34without fighting.
19:36Well done.
19:37That was fantastic.
19:38Here's your medal, too.
19:44Coming up on Super Nanny.
19:46When Ryan doesn't play
19:47by the rules.
19:48Come here.
19:49Ryan.
19:50Ryan, listen to me.
19:51His family fun time
19:52slips away.
19:57When Super Nanny returns.
20:03These boys are so used
20:04to being punished
20:05for absolutely everything
20:07that discipline doesn't
20:08mean anything to them
20:09anymore.
20:10Hunter.
20:11Ryan.
20:13Garrett.
20:13So I introduced
20:14a reward chart
20:15to show them
20:16that good behavior
20:17will be rewarded.
20:18You see the house rules?
20:20If you do
20:21what's on those house rules,
20:23mom's going to see that.
20:25And you guys get a ticket
20:26and then you're going to
20:27place them
20:27onto your dog tag here.
20:29My part is to reward
20:31the good behavior
20:32with a ticket
20:33and to also
20:35take away a ticket
20:36for the inappropriate
20:37behavior.
20:39If you get four tickets,
20:41you get
20:41a slice of pie.
20:44And each slice of pie
20:46is worth
20:47a special reward.
20:49How many tickets
20:50make a pie?
20:51Four.
20:52Four.
20:52All right.
20:53You guys have got it.
20:54Give me five.
20:55That's what I'm talking about.
20:56Give me five.
20:57No, no punching.
20:58Remember what I told you?
20:58Give me five.
20:59Give me five.
21:00All right.
21:03When it came to discipline,
21:05I sent the older boys away
21:07to reflect
21:08on their own actions.
21:09But for Garrett,
21:10because he's younger,
21:12I introduced
21:12the naughty spots.
21:13Cheryl,
21:14this is your naughty spot.
21:16And as you can see,
21:17it will travel very lightly
21:18wherever you are
21:19in the house.
21:20So I'll leave that
21:21with you to place somewhere.
21:22Okay.
21:24Good place as any, yeah.
21:25The naughty spots
21:27certainly didn't gather
21:28much dust.
21:29Garrett.
21:30There you go.
21:30Do not climb on the table.
21:32If you do that again,
21:33you'll go straight
21:34on the naughty spots.
21:36You have earned
21:38six tickets today.
21:40And today's not even
21:41half over.
21:42Good job, Ryan.
21:44Now, do you want
21:45to stay inside
21:45or do you want
21:46to go back outside?
21:46I'll go back outside.
21:47Okay.
21:48You want to go back outside?
21:49Well, I'm about to put
21:50this little one
21:52on the naughty spot
21:53because I told him
21:53to not go on the table.
21:55Okay.
21:55And he's just done it.
21:56Okay.
21:56So I want you to watch this.
22:00Mum.
22:01Mum, I want you
22:02to listen to this.
22:02Garrett,
22:03I told you
22:04not to climb on the table
22:06and you did
22:07not listen to me.
22:09So you're going to stay
22:10on the naughty spot
22:11until I come
22:13and get you.
22:24That's three minutes.
22:26Now I want you
22:26to go back
22:27to the spot
22:27and then say,
22:28I want you
22:29to say you're sorry.
22:30Garrett,
22:31you were placed
22:33on this naughty spot
22:34because you did not
22:35get off the table
22:36when Jojo told you to.
22:39Garrett,
22:40I want you to say
22:40sorry to Jojo
22:41because you did not listen.
22:43Look at me.
22:44Sorry.
22:45Give me a kiss.
22:46Okay.
22:50It was time
22:51for mum and the boys
22:51to get out
22:52and have some fun
22:53so I set up
22:54a water slide
22:55for them all
22:56in the backyard.
22:57Ryan, please
22:57come here
22:58and put this
22:58on your nose.
22:59One of the rules
23:00to go outside
23:02was all three
23:02of the kids
23:03had to have sunscreen on.
23:05Do you want
23:06to come have that?
23:06Just put a squeeze
23:07in your hand
23:08and just got that.
23:09Come here.
23:10When you decide
23:11to put sunscreen on
23:11then you can come out.
23:12Ryan didn't want
23:13to put sunscreen
23:14on his face.
23:15He wouldn't be
23:15allowed to play
23:16unless he did.
23:18Ryan, listen to me.
23:20Ryan, listen to me.
23:20I don't want
23:21in your sunscreen.
23:21Okay, I understand
23:22you don't want either.
23:23Listen to me.
23:23That's your choice.
23:25But you're not going
23:25on the water slide
23:26if, if
23:28you don't put
23:29any on your face.
23:30There is a technique
23:31we're going to use
23:32called actively
23:33ignoring your child.
23:37Actively ignoring
23:40your child
23:41teaches them
23:42that you won't
23:43reward them
23:43for their bad behavior.
23:47Ready?
23:48Go, wash my mouth.
23:48Go, wash my mouth.
23:49Go, go, go.
23:54Ryan tried to get
23:55her attention
23:55by hitting her
23:57on her bottom
23:58with a baseball cap
24:00and shouting,
24:01Mum!
24:02That's so cool.
24:03And she was really good.
24:05She just ignored it.
24:06She moved away
24:07from him.
24:08She gave all
24:09her attention
24:10to Garrett and Hunter.
24:13What he's doing
24:14is showing that
24:15little boy over there
24:15that he's not getting
24:16your attention
24:16when he misbehaves,
24:18okay?
24:27Okay, what I want
24:28to do today
24:28is call Ryan over,
24:30okay, and say to me,
24:31if you want to have
24:31fun with all of us,
24:33put some sun cream
24:33on your face
24:34and you can come
24:35out and play with us,
24:35love.
24:36I want to talk
24:37to you over here
24:38for a minute.
24:38Come on.
24:41If you want
24:42to have fun
24:43with us out here
24:43and play,
24:45then you have
24:45to go in
24:46and put sunscreen on.
24:47I know why!
24:48And we have 35!
24:50This is what I talked
24:51about compromise
24:51with the pair of you.
24:52The pair of you
24:53go in the house
24:53and have a look
24:54at the creams
24:54that you've got,
24:55okay,
24:56so we can see
24:57what kid creams
24:57there are
24:58to put on your face.
24:59He made a decision
25:00out of two creams.
25:01put it on his face
25:07and then we had
25:08a resolve.
25:10Ryan was then
25:10able to go outside
25:11and have fun.
25:13Come on, Ryan!
25:14Look at that far
25:17running guy!
25:18Mum was just
25:19standing back
25:19watching,
25:20but she needed
25:21to get in there
25:22and start having fun
25:22with the boys.
25:24I'm going to tell you
25:24to show yourself
25:25when you're trying
25:26this.
25:27You want me to do this?
25:28I thought I was just
25:30going outside
25:31to watch
25:31and ended up
25:34getting right
25:34in the middle of it.
25:40The kids loved it.
25:41They loved seeing
25:42Mum out there today
25:43in the backyard.
25:48It did start
25:49to become fun
25:50and enjoyable,
25:52especially when
25:53all three of the kids
25:54got in on the
25:55action with me.
25:58I would love
26:07today for you
26:09to spend some
26:09time with Ryan.
26:11I want to kickstart
26:12Mum spending
26:13special time
26:14with each of her sons.
26:16I chose Ryan today
26:18because I want
26:19Ryan to see
26:20Mum in a different
26:21light.
26:22I would like
26:22the pair of you
26:23to get to know
26:25each other a bit better.
26:26I want him to
26:27recognise that
26:28Mum should
26:28trying to
26:29understand him.
26:30Nobody's asked me
26:31where we're going.
26:32Go-karting.
26:33You want to do that?
26:34You think you're
26:35big enough to drive?
26:37You do.
26:39Go-karting was
26:39a perfect opportunity
26:41to bring the two
26:42of them together
26:42and to have fun.
26:43Smile!
26:44I'm going to
26:45be faster than you are.
26:46go-karting with me.
27:01I thought she was going to be
27:04strict, but actually
27:06she was fun.
27:07I enjoyed it a lot.
27:10I feel like I'm
27:11finding out
27:12what he likes to do.
27:13I feel like I'm
27:14finding out
27:15what he likes to do.
27:15I'm going to go for a few days
27:27and I'm going to leave
27:29Cheryl with all the techniques
27:43for her to soak up.
27:45I just want to leave you
27:46with a few points
27:47and that is
27:49for Garrett,
27:50the naughty spot,
27:51remember warnings first,
27:53and for Ryan and Hunter
27:54to make sure that you use
27:56the reward charts
27:57so they get tickets.
27:59The thing I'll miss most
28:00about Jo
28:01is her to be here
28:01to help back me up
28:02with the discipline.
28:03Bye-bye, darling.
28:04I'm very proud of you.
28:05and to remind me
28:07of what I need to change.
28:10I really hope
28:11that she implements
28:12all of the techniques,
28:14but I am going to be
28:15watching her.
28:16Bye.
28:17Bye, thank you.
28:18Bye-bye.
28:19Coming up on Super Nanny,
28:20the boys start to take orders.
28:23Go, go, go, go.
28:24But it's not all fun and games.
28:26Take it.
28:26No, no.
28:30That was a disaster.
28:32When Super Nanny returns.
28:34So, let's just see
28:36how they get on.
28:37Good job, guys.
28:39Cool.
28:40See what happens
28:40when you work as a team
28:42and follow the house rules.
28:44How many do you have?
28:46Six, seven, eight, nine.
28:49Garrett needs three more
28:50and he gets another piece of pie.
28:52Aha!
28:53Yay!
28:54Good job.
28:55What a change in behavior.
28:57Good job.
29:01Want me to read that to you?
29:03Yep.
29:03Look at that little boy.
29:04What's he doing?
29:05I don't know.
29:06Cheryl, you're so calm.
29:09I love that tone of voice.
29:10I love you.
29:11I'm proud of you.
29:12You did a good job today.
29:14You got a lot of tickets.
29:15You've almost got your whole pie
29:17filled in.
29:18Look at that affection you're showing.
29:19That's a great improvement.
29:21I love you.
29:21I'll see you in the morning.
29:23Okay?
29:23Get a good night's sleep.
29:28We can wrestle?
29:29No.
29:31We're not jumping on the furniture
29:32and we're not jumping on our brother.
29:34It has to be mutual.
29:35Not you going and running
29:37and jumping on him.
29:39Okay?
29:42Where's the warning, Mom?
29:43Garrett got in trouble.
29:46Mom, does he really deserve that?
29:48He was only trying to get your attention
29:49until I come back and get you.
29:51You're going to have to be patient.
30:03I'm only one person, okay?
30:06Oh, boy.
30:07Now it's just a game.
30:11See, and I do not want you
30:13hitting or throwing things.
30:15Is that understood?
30:16Yes.
30:17Good attention.
30:18I don't want to let him in.
30:19Can you say I'm sorry?
30:20Well, at least you got the end right.
30:29You do that again
30:30and you will not play this game.
30:32Is that understood, Henry?
30:34Do you understand?
30:36Yes!
30:38Take it.
30:38Mom, you're being very confrontational.
30:40No wonder he's arguing back.
30:47Now, do you want to change your attitude?
30:50And change your tone of voice with me?
30:52Yeah.
30:53Okay, are you going to play nice in there?
30:55Yeah.
30:56So you're sorry?
30:57Come here and give me a hug.
30:59That, this is attitude.
31:01And this attitude's not acceptable.
31:04Do I need to take another ticket?
31:05No.
31:06Mom, don't you take a ticket full.
31:08Can I have a hug?
31:09Hey, man, you're on.
31:14I want a ticket.
31:15Now.
31:15No!
31:16Hey, Mom, I'm taking it!
31:18That's fine.
31:19I want you to change it, but you screamed at me again.
31:21A ticket because I didn't hug you?
31:27Mom, you and I, we need to talk.
31:30After being away for a couple of days, I went back to Cheryl's household.
31:41Hi, Cheryl.
31:42Hi.
31:42How are you?
31:43Good to see you.
31:44Are you well?
31:45Yes.
31:45And presented her with some footage, which was rather interesting.
31:50I've been looking at some footage of the family, so let's take a look.
31:54Good job, guys.
31:58Ha-ha!
31:59Yay!
32:01Good job.
32:02Yeah, baby.
32:03Do you want me to read that to you?
32:04Yep.
32:05Look at that little boy.
32:06What's he doing?
32:07I don't know.
32:08I love you.
32:09I'm proud of you.
32:10You did a good job today.
32:12What do you think of that?
32:14That's good.
32:15Hmm?
32:16A lot better.
32:17I love your relaxed attitude there.
32:20You're using your tone of voice very effectively.
32:23Lots of affection.
32:25And this, for me, is beautiful to see.
32:28Because it means that you're coming closer to the boys.
32:31You should be proud of yourself there.
32:33I'm happy.
32:34Let's continue.
32:35Okay.
32:37And here we go.
32:38Check.
32:42You're going to have to be patient.
32:44I'm only one person, okay?
32:46What's going on here?
32:47He was trying to get my attention, so he was hitting me.
32:51On your bottom.
32:52What do you think on that naughty spot there, Cheryl?
32:55I'm not happy with that.
32:56No.
32:57You've missed out a warning, and you've put him straight on the spot.
33:00You didn't explain why you'd placed him on the naughty spot.
33:05He thought that was fun.
33:06He thinks it's a game now.
33:08Mm-hmm.
33:08So it is important that you follow through the small details of the naughty spot and do it
33:12correctly so it serves its purpose.
33:14Okay.
33:15Moving on.
33:16Do you understand?
33:17Yes!
33:18Take it.
33:19No!
33:19No!
33:20No!
33:22I'm taking the ticket from you.
33:24Say you're sorry.
33:26Come here and give me a hug.
33:27This is attitude, and this attitude's not acceptable.
33:32I want a ticket.
33:33If you don't, you're not going to do that.
33:35I want a ticket.
33:40Talk to me.
33:41That was a disaster.
33:42Why?
33:43Why do you think it was a disaster?
33:44Because I didn't handle it very well.
33:47I did everything wrong.
33:48I got two-ticket happy.
33:50Two-ticket happy.
33:51You certainly did.
33:52Hunter didn't want a hug.
33:54But to get a ticket taken away because he doesn't want a hug or kiss you right away,
33:59who needed that more, Hunter or yourself?
34:02Probably me.
34:04The truth be known.
34:06Mm-hmm.
34:07I didn't realise my tone was that way.
34:08Very disappointed in myself.
34:10Don't.
34:10Don't be disappointed in yourself.
34:12For you to come back and see exactly where you've gone wrong,
34:16it becomes a learning curve for you to move you forward.
34:20I think Jo's message was that I had changed a lot,
34:24but that I still had work to do.
34:26What we are going to do today, Cheryl,
34:29is to work on all of the techniques,
34:32how to use your tone of voice and to have a bit of fun
34:35and to find that balance between making sure that the children are disciplined
34:39but at the same time you're still recognising the things that need praising.
34:43Okay?
34:44Okay.
34:44Happy?
34:45Mm-hmm.
34:45Great.
34:46Coming up on Super Nanny,
34:48when another battle breaks out...
34:51You may not play into it.
34:52You have some shoes on your feet.
34:54No, no, no, no.
34:54Anything, it's too hot.
34:56Can Jo defuse the situation?
34:58What is it?
34:59Is it made of?
34:59When Super Nanny returns...
35:02So, boys, I've walked into this house and seen this reward chart.
35:12Look at this!
35:14Yay!
35:15Woo!
35:15I did go up to the reward chart
35:18because I noticed they both had all these slices of pies
35:23and lots of tickets.
35:25Hunter, what happened here?
35:27Look how many slices you had.
35:29What a change in behaviour.
35:31I'm very proud of you.
35:32Come here, give me a hug.
35:33I'm going to give you a hug, good boy.
35:36Ryan, come over here.
35:37Let's have a look at yours.
35:38Look at that.
35:39Look at the difference.
35:40I filled up my whole pie today.
35:42How happy are you with getting all of these tickets?
35:44Good.
35:45Well, you should be very happy with yourself.
35:48Everything is coming to go for, slowly and surely.
35:53Tell the boys that they need to get themselves ready
35:55because we're going to go outside and play.
35:57Do y'all know where your soccer balls are?
35:58Are they outside?
36:00Ryan, you may not play until you have some shoes on your feet.
36:04I don't remember anything, it's too hot.
36:06It's important for me to keep reinforcing to Cheryl
36:08to step back, to be able to compromise with Ryan.
36:12It diffuses a confrontation.
36:14So is this something I should just let him...
36:16Is it Major?
36:17Has he been barefoot before?
36:20Joe did point out that I have to choose my battles,
36:23so I am going to have to really think about
36:25which battles are worth fighting
36:28and which ones I can let go.
36:30Okay, go barefoot.
36:31Right, okay.
36:32Are we all ready to play football?
36:34Kick it!
36:36Good job!
36:37So today, all of us went outside to the backyards
36:40and we all played soccer.
36:43Get it, Garrett!
36:44Come on!
36:45Come on, Ryan!
36:46It was great.
36:47The kids were having fun and it's nice just to see
36:50mum let her hair down, have her sneakers on
36:52and play a good game of soccer with the boys.
36:54Our goal was that way.
36:56Get it, Garrett!
36:58Come on!
36:59I did try to make an effort to change my tone
37:03and my attitude with them.
37:05Come on, Ryan.
37:06Don't let it get through, Hannah.
37:08Garrett, baby, I need help.
37:10Come on.
37:10Come on, my husband, I'd like to get off.
37:12It gets between the post and the chair.
37:15The tools that she has given me
37:16are working for my kids now.
37:19We'll not go back to the yelling
37:21and the being like a dictator to them.
37:24The bulls!
37:25The bulls!
37:25The bulls!
37:26The bulls!
37:26The bulls!
37:27OK, guys, listen, I'm going home now.
37:33What I want you to do is to work with mummy
37:35to make sure that you keep talking to mummy
37:37so that mummy understands you,
37:39so that you go and get into arguments all the time.
37:41It was a little overwhelming
37:42to have to tell Jo goodbye.
37:45Thank you so much for coming.
37:46You're more than welcome.
37:48I really appreciate what she's done.
37:50Jo's helped change our family.
37:52When I first arrived in this house,
37:54I saw a different person.
37:56I truly have an enormous amount of respect for Cheryl.
38:02She's going to need a lot of strength,
38:03and I hope she finds that within herself,
38:05because she is a really beautiful woman
38:08who has a very kind, giving heart.
38:10They have one thing they want to give you.
38:12Oh, thank you very much.
38:14Look how beautiful that is.
38:17It's a heart.
38:18J for...
38:19Jojo.
38:20J for Jojo.
38:21Jo's help for us means that my kids can grow up
38:24wanting to spend time with me and with each other,
38:28wanting to come home when they're older,
38:30and being better people, happier,
38:32looking back and remembering the good times
38:34and not the yelling and the screaming and the hitting.
38:39Thank you so much.
38:40I'd like to thank Jo,
38:42because we feel more like a family now.
38:47Thanks, Jojo.
38:50Take care now, okay?
38:52This family is definitely closer
38:54than what they were when I first arrived,
38:58and that is just fantastic.
39:01Ryan, can you put half the pizza just cheese,
39:11because Hunter doesn't want the other stuff on it?
39:12Since she's been away, there's a big change.
39:14It's been a lot quieter in my house,
39:17and everybody's been happier.
39:18Is there seed in here?
39:20There's seed in a corn.
39:21We have less yelling and screaming
39:23and violence towards each other.
39:25Here, scoot over, Ryan.
39:26Look, Hunter, I'll help you.
39:28Right there.
39:29I really haven't been angry since Jo left,
39:32and I like standing back
39:33and watching the sweet little things
39:35that they do for each other now.
39:37I'm starting to enjoy spending more time with them,
39:40and especially Ryan,
39:42because he is actually starting to communicate with me now.
39:45You know what I'm going to do to you?
39:46You know what I'm going to do to you?
39:48I'm going to get all your sugars.
39:51Before Jo came, Ryan was very angry,
39:53told me he hated me all the time.
39:56Now Ryan is more loving.
39:57Come on.
39:58I'm number one.
40:00Which course do you want to start on?
40:01Good job.
40:02Garrett, come on.
40:02It's your turn.
40:04Hit the ball and the roll.
40:06Yay!
40:07I'm happier right now more than I was before Jo came.
40:13I'm going to do more things before Jo came.
40:17I didn't get to do as much.
40:19I haven't been going to bed crying
40:20or feeling like I had been an awful mother
40:23and where did I go wrong during the day.
40:29The next time I talk to Jonathan,
40:31I'm going to tell him how good the boys have been
40:34and how much Jo's helped change our family.
40:37She's helped change me.
40:39She's helped change the kids,
40:40and she's made our house more peaceful and loving.
40:43After Jobe having a priest,
40:45I can't guess what to do when I was back.
40:47Bye.
40:48Bye.
40:48Bye.
40:49Bye.
40:49Bye.
40:50Bye.
40:51Bye.
40:51Bye.
40:52Bye.
40:59Bye.
41:01Bye.
41:04Bye.
41:05Bye.
41:05Bye.
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