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With an impatient dad, a mom who feels like a single parent and a son in trouble with the law - the Campos family is in distress. Mom will leave dad if he can't step up and Jo must force him to see the consequences of his actions on the entire family.
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00:00Every family has a framed portrait.
00:03But behind that photo lies the real truth.
00:07George, I need your help.
00:09You're driving me nuts.
00:11It's just a constant battle.
00:14We don't communicate, ever.
00:16He's your child, too.
00:17You can do it sometimes.
00:19I don't think he's doing my kids any good being here.
00:23Can you stop being obnoxious, please, for, like, five minutes?
00:26My dad is like, me and him don't really get along.
00:29Like, well, out of here, shoo, shoo, shut it.
00:33Screw my life.
00:37You went into the production trailer, and you stole stuff?
00:40Yeah.
00:41If I went and called the police now,
00:43the ramifications of that would be you in juvie.
00:46I feel like I completely failed.
00:50They're all terrified of you.
00:52I've seen you.
00:54You're mean to the kids.
00:55Shut up and go to your room.
00:57How does it feel having me this close right now invading your space?
01:03How uncomfortable?
01:04If you don't realize that you need a step up,
01:07this family's finished.
01:10Behind the portrait is the truth.
01:12And I'm here to deal with the truth.
01:15I'm here in Thousand Oaks about to help a family who desperately do need my help.
01:27They're called the Campos family.
01:28My name is Brandy.
01:29I used to be a hairstylist, and now I'm a stay-out-o mom.
01:32My name is George Campos, and I'm a contractor.
01:34We met in high school, in math class.
01:38She liked me, and I was like, ooh, an older girl.
01:40She was a sophomore, and we started going out and told all my friends I got this hot, older girl.
01:46Five children later, it's rough.
01:49We've been through a lot, and we're still going through a lot.
01:55That makes mommy very mad.
01:57With us as a couple, we fight a lot because of all of it.
02:01What are you doing, George?
02:02Seriously?
02:03I don't know what I'd normally do.
02:04You come here, and you freak out on him.
02:06Shut up.
02:07Are you serious?
02:08Shut up.
02:09Mom and dad are not on the same page.
02:11Mom feels like a single mom raising all of these children.
02:15And dad, well, what does he do?
02:18We don't know yet.
02:19George never helps me with the kids.
02:22You can't go in there.
02:24Mom, no.
02:25Come on.
02:26I would love to go back to cutting hair, but I just can't rely on George to watch the kids while I'm at work.
02:33It really bothers me that George does not help me more because I literally don't sit down all day,
02:38and he just comes home from work, and he won't do anything, and I still have to do everything.
02:43I don't ever get a timeout.
02:45There's times when I come home, and it's so chaotic, and she's kind of yelling at me.
02:50Go put them to bed.
02:51Seriously.
02:53I want to turn around and walk back out to my truck and take off and go back to work.
02:57I yell a lot because I'm at my end because they don't listen.
03:03I would say, you know, as far as the biggest troublemaker, it's like...
03:08Blake, their 14-year-old son, has court order for 20 hours of community service.
03:13Did you have fun today?
03:14No.
03:15Why?
03:16Where'd we go?
03:17The kids are using alcohol, of course.
03:19For what?
03:21For breaking the kids up.
03:24At school, he is getting bullied.
03:26One of the kids that was bullying me, he's the one that bullied me since sixth grade.
03:31I don't know how I let it get to me, but I took his phone and smashed it up against a rock,
03:37and his parents pressed charges.
03:38I tried to get him to open up to me and tell me what's going on at school, but he doesn't tell me at all.
03:46My relationship with Blake is pretty rocky.
03:49You got it on the roof?
03:50Yeah.
03:51How do you get it on the roof?
03:52I have a great relationship with the other boys, but...
03:55Kind of.
03:56I have it with the other boys.
03:58Kind of.
03:59Would they rather be with me or with you?
04:03Depends on what we're doing.
04:04Depends on what we're doing.
04:06Not really.
04:07Corrie right now is nine years old and a special needs child who has Down syndrome.
04:13How are they parenting him?
04:14There's quite a bit of different challenges that the other ones we don't have.
04:20Did he spank you?
04:21Yeah.
04:22Why?
04:23Spank you.
04:24Because you poop?
04:25Yeah.
04:26He'll just go in the bathroom and start screaming at him because he pooped in his pants.
04:31Oof, nasty.
04:33You got to stop doing this, dude.
04:35It's really foul.
04:36And then it just sucks because how he treats Corrie is definitely filtering down into the
04:41other kids because he has no patience with them.
04:43Leave her alone.
04:45That wasn't me though.
04:46You know what?
04:46Switch seats with me.
04:47If things don't get better, I'm scared that Blake will end up in jail and George and
04:52I might not be together.
04:54I wake up in the middle of the night and I wonder, are my kids better off with a dad here?
05:00That screams and yells and that they're not really comfortable with anyways?
05:05Or are they better off me being a single mom?
05:12I've told you that.
05:13You never said you'd wake up in the middle of the night.
05:15I don't want to be a single mom, but I'm completely done.
05:22So my plan today is to listen, observe, take notes mentally, and to ask questions to assess
05:29the situation so I can help this family.
05:32Come here, stand up.
05:37Come here.
05:38You can answer it with me.
05:41Hello.
05:42Hello.
05:43Nice to meet you.
05:44Nice to meet you.
05:45Brandy?
05:45I'm Brandy.
05:46Welcome in.
05:47Yes, come in.
05:48So where's the family?
05:49Where's the family?
05:50Um, George.
05:51Nice to meet you.
05:51Nice to meet you, too.
05:52Pleasure.
05:53So do you mind if I just kind of look around your house and just sort of see where everyone
05:56is, where the kids sleep and stuff like that?
05:58Oh, yeah.
05:58Go ahead.
05:59Okay, brilliant.
06:00All right, thank you.
06:01All right, thank you.
06:03Cory, go play trots with them.
06:05Okay, but go in the playroom, please.
06:13Do all the kids go to school, then?
06:15Uh-huh.
06:15Harley's in first grade, and Dylan is in preschool, and then Cory's in second grade.
06:20And then Cory is in second grade.
06:22Yeah, and then Blake is in eighth.
06:23And does he go to ordinary sort of grade school or to a special needs school?
06:28No, it's a normal school.
06:29So is he high on his grade?
06:31Yes.
06:31Yeah, he's very high functioning.
06:33Right.
06:34And is he putty trained during the day, or is he?
06:36No.
06:37That is my biggest struggle with Cory, I think, right now.
06:40He has several accidents a day.
06:42What's George like with it?
06:44Is he patient with Cory?
06:45No.
06:46And Cory will almost refuse to let Dad change him.
06:49Well, because he must be scared, surely.
06:51Well, that, and then, I mean, during summer, George would bring him out here and hose him
06:55off with the cold hose, and I freaked.
06:59I'm not okay with that.
07:00So there's a lot of tension with respects to George having more patience and empathy and understanding of Cory's?
07:09Oh, yeah.
07:11We don't, we don't, look at me.
07:13We don't call, like, stupid.
07:15Do you understand?
07:16No.
07:17Stop throwing that.
07:22Do not throw and make a mess.
07:24Here, it's gross.
07:25Got it?
07:26Yeah.
07:28Hey, you can do it.
07:29Quiet.
07:34Into the living room now.
07:40So, Blake.
07:41Yeah?
07:42What's been going on?
07:45Been getting bullied some at school.
07:47I think this is funny.
07:49It's actually really bad.
07:51I hear you were at court not too long ago, is that right?
07:53Yeah.
07:54What was that for?
07:55It was for breaking some kid's phone.
07:57It was the same boy that has been picking on you?
07:59Yeah.
08:00Charlie, stop.
08:02What, what, what, what made you just pick the phone up and break it?
08:05Come here.
08:06I just got, like, really mad at him.
08:08So I just took it and I broke it.
08:11So what happened?
08:12I had to go to court.
08:14I have to do community service and stuff.
08:16What do you think is the biggest upheaval here that needs to be resolved?
08:19You do not run from him.
08:20Do you understand?
08:21Probably my relationship with my dad.
08:24Because, like, my dad is, like, he doesn't, like, me and him don't really get along that well.
08:31What doesn't work in your relationship with your dad?
08:35Like, we just argue.
08:37What do you need from him?
08:41Hmm.
08:41Hmm.
08:42Hmm.
08:45I don't know.
08:49So an interesting conversation with Blake regarding, obviously, what's been going on at school for him and his relationship with his father.
08:58Obviously, it's very strained, and a lot more work is necessary for them to be in a place where Blake feels like he has a real connection with his dad.
09:09What?
09:09Why did you change your password?
09:10I didn't.
09:13Just mysteriously, someone changed it then?
09:15If you change your password, I need to know what it is.
09:17Okay.
09:20I don't want water on the table.
09:22That's why I set it down there.
09:24Plug it back in.
09:30What?
09:31I know how to plug it in.
09:32It's easier if you just click right here.
09:34What are you doing?
09:35What are you doing?
09:36Go back on this right here.
09:38Like this?
09:39I think I know how to do this.
09:42Okay.
09:42Can you stop being obnoxious, please, for like five minutes while I do this?
09:48Shut up and go to your room.
09:51I've seen you.
09:53You bully the kids.
09:54Let me show you how bad it is.
09:55If I'm in your face right now, and if I'm breathing down, how does it feel having me this close right now invading your space?
10:11Did you have an accident?
10:13Huh?
10:15You did?
10:15Okay, go to the bathroom.
10:17Do you want me to take Michaela?
10:19Yes.
10:23Whew.
10:27Turn around.
10:28Really getting sick of doing this.
10:31Open your legs.
10:36Freaking nasty.
10:37You've got to stop doing this, dude.
10:40This is really foul.
10:42Do you hear me?
10:46Randy!
10:48What?
10:49Guess what?
10:50He crapped twice, and there's poop all over the place, and you weren't here to help me.
10:54He's your child, too.
10:55You can do it sometimes.
10:56He's totally scared of you.
10:59All the kids are.
11:00They're scared to tell you that he pooped, because he knows you're either going to hose him off, or you're going to spank him for it.
11:06He blows my mind whenever he disciplines Corey.
11:09I don't think he's doing my kids any good being here.
11:12I am going to look at ways in which we can get you guys on quite, you know, a strict routine with him to improve the situation.
11:23I feel right now that he doesn't feel he can call you and tell you, because I believe he feels you'll be really angry with him, and there's a very fine line between being very firm, but not scolding, and I think you cross that line with him.
11:39Okay.
11:40As you can see, Dad's realizing that Corey is not coming to him because he feels like he can't.
11:49I didn't feel like I could step back and just ignore this situation, because this is something that needs to be dealt with straight away.
11:55Later on, my plan is to talk to Brandy and to George.
11:59Boys, come here!
12:00No!
12:01No!
12:02Yeah, you three boys, go!
12:04No!
12:05Let's go!
12:06You want to help?
12:09Yeah.
12:10Good job.
12:11You sit right here and you can do it.
12:13Corey, come in here, please.
12:14Hi.
12:15Stay down, please.
12:17I love you.
12:22Sweet dreams.
12:23Okay.
12:24Let's make ourselves comfortable.
12:27You look exhausted because you've had a day where you've been running around, but at the end of the day,
12:35there are issues, aren't there?
12:39Yeah.
12:40So what's the real issue?
12:42I don't even really know what the issue, the root of the issue is.
12:48I don't agree with that.
12:50I mean, let's be honest.
12:51You're at despair.
12:52You don't even know whether you even want to stay with George.
12:55I mean, George, right now, you've got a wife right now who's sitting here contemplating whether it's easier for her just to split up with you.
13:02I thought we were...
13:05I changed something, started working on something, and we did good for a while.
13:09What did you change?
13:10I don't recall what exactly it was.
13:12What did it change?
13:13I don't even know.
13:14But no, we talked about that, and it wasn't changed.
13:16I don't even know what it was.
13:18But I said, I don't see a difference there.
13:20Why you mean?
13:21I think it's just a routine.
13:24I got a bad, bad routine.
13:27I've seen you.
13:28You bully the kids.
13:29You don't think right now that what Blake has been going through has anything to do with this situation?
13:38He's being picked on by you, bullied by you, victimized by you.
13:42Then he goes to school, and he keeps quiet.
13:45And then somebody else picks on him, and he keeps quiet.
13:48Let me show you how bad it is.
13:49Just stand up for a minute.
13:51Just stand up.
13:53Come over here.
13:57Come over here.
14:00OK?
14:01I've got heels on, and I'm taller than you.
14:03And if I'm in your face right now, and if I'm breathing down because I don't like what you're saying, how does that feel?
14:11It's really horrible.
14:12Huh?
14:14How does it feel having me this close right now invading your space?
14:18Really uncomfortable.
14:19Huh?
14:20How uncomfortable?
14:21Really, really uncomfortable.
14:22Really?
14:23How's my tone right now?
14:25Really stern.
14:29How do you think your kids feel?
14:30How do you think your kids feel?
14:35It's not OK.
14:38Your wife's hurting.
14:40You're hurting.
14:42You would rather stay in this place than change it.
14:49And everything's on the line.
14:54Your wife's hurting.
14:56You're hurting.
14:57You're hurting.
14:58You've hurting.
14:59You've hurting.
15:00You're hurting.
15:01You're hurting.
15:02You're hurting.
15:03You're hurting.
15:04And you better believe that tonight.
15:07Because if you don't realize tonight that you need a step up, this family's broke.
15:16Finished.
15:18Finished.
15:19What do you want?
15:29I didn't know I was doing that.
15:32You made it clear, and...
15:36And it sucks that I...
15:42That I'm the cause of why my son's being bullied.
15:50I don't know how to change it.
15:55You need to be able to answer that.
15:56I don't know is not cutting it.
15:58It's not cutting it.
16:01Because if you don't know by tonight,
16:05this woman's gonna walk out.
16:10Because if today it doesn't happen,
16:12then trust me, tomorrow's not gonna be any better.
16:15The first day was a little bit more than I expected.
16:21It was tough.
16:22As hard as it was to be told what I'm doing wrong,
16:25I'm ready to go tomorrow and do whatever Joe has planned.
16:29I just wanna get my kids back.
16:31Well, a long day today with both mom and dad,
16:35it was good to sit down and actually talk to them about the truth.
16:40What actually is going on between them as a couple and as parents.
16:54Today is about putting rules in place, a system,
16:57and tools that are gonna help this family.
16:59So my plan right now is to bring mom and dad together
17:02into the living room to do some house rules
17:04so they can be on the same page
17:06when it comes to raising their kids.
17:10Let's go in here to talk.
17:12Okay.
17:13So the next exercise we really do need to put in place
17:16is what I have up here on the screen.
17:19House rules are the ways, basically,
17:21of what you expect from your children.
17:24Make sense?
17:25Yeah.
17:26Start typing up some house rules.
17:27No hitting.
17:29Number two.
17:30Talk nicely to mom and dad.
17:33Number three.
17:34Obeying on the first time.
17:35That's what I was just gonna say.
17:37I think that's realistic.
17:40No.
17:41Why?
17:42Because we've never made them do that.
17:45So just listening and doing as you're told.
17:48Yeah.
17:49Feeling comfortable with that.
17:50Yeah.
17:51So let's put those in place.
17:52Okay.
17:53Have a seat.
17:54Charlie.
17:56All right.
17:57So mom and I have talked,
17:58and we've came up with some house rules.
18:00And these are the rules that we all,
18:01including mom and I,
18:03have to abide by,
18:04which means we have to listen to and obey.
18:06Okay.
18:07So the first one is no hitting one another.
18:09The second one is talking nicely to one another.
18:12Number three is listening and doing as you're told.
18:16Charlie, do you understand?
18:19You're not...
18:20You're having problems?
18:21Yes.
18:22You see the way the kids are kind of lolloping around right now?
18:26It doesn't make you feel like they're giving you their attention.
18:30So, okay.
18:31Charlie.
18:32Charlie, sit up straight, please.
18:34Sit up straight.
18:36Like, I know you can.
18:37Thank you very much.
18:38Dylan, sit up straight, please.
18:39I need five minutes of your time.
18:40Michaela?
18:41Michaela, listen to JoJo, okay?
18:43You hear the tone?
18:44Yeah.
18:45So, now I feel like I've got their attention because they're listening to me
18:48and I'm talking to you like this and I'm using this tone of voice
18:51because it's not conversational, is it?
18:53Yeah.
18:54It's very different.
18:55My tone's very different.
18:56All right, kids, skedaddle.
18:57Go and play.
18:58All right, go play.
19:00So you can be firm without shouting.
19:02You will never want to be in a place where you're angry
19:05when you're trying to teach your children how to become more aware of
19:09how they behave, listening, doing as they're told.
19:12Because when you're angry as parents, then you result to spanking.
19:17Because spanking is not an effective tool for your children to behave better.
19:24It's basically a vent for parents when they're angry.
19:28I don't know what else to do at the time.
19:30Well, that's why you did it.
19:31You were like, oh, I'll go on autopilot.
19:33So we're going to try a new way for you guys.
19:36Perfect.
19:37Guaranteed will work, and you'll feel much better.
19:39Okay?
19:40Yeah.
19:41Cool.
19:42Okay.
19:43Okay, so let's just turn this up a little bit
19:47and make sure that Dad knows what he's doing
19:50so he truly appreciates what Mum does every evening.
19:53All right, so this is what we're doing.
19:56I have a friend, okay, who does need an updo tonight
19:59for a dinner party she's going to.
20:01I've just convinced her that you're going to do it for her tonight, okay?
20:06You want to get back into it.
20:08There's no reason why you shouldn't be able to get back into it
20:11because you feel safe enough in letting George take care of the kids
20:15when he is at home.
20:16And that's really what you should be able to do, okay?
20:18Take care of these kids, handle the situation,
20:21and step up and do what you're supposed to do.
20:24As from now, you're in charge.
20:25As from now, you're in charge.
20:26Yes!
20:27As from now, you're in charge.
20:28Yes!
20:29What?
20:30Five more.
20:31Oh.
20:32Mommy's busy right now.
20:33Can you go sit with your brothers?
20:47Yeah, you love rice.
20:48Beat it up, George.
20:49Beat it up, because you want to be able to sit down at the table with him.
20:50Come on.
20:51I want you to show me.
20:52Are the kids behaving well at the table?
20:53Are you sitting down showing an example?
20:54Okay?
20:55All of those things.
20:56Chop, chop.
20:57You use a fork, not your fingers.
20:58I need you to eat some.
20:59I need you to eat some.
21:00Eat that.
21:01How about some chicken?
21:02I need you to sit on your bottom.
21:03Blake, can you not bug her?
21:04No.
21:05Don't put chicken in the napkins.
21:06Sweating yet?
21:07A little bit.
21:08That's a good sign.
21:09Hey, what's the problem?
21:10Dad.
21:11Mommy will be right back.
21:12When?
21:13When is she back?
21:14Probably when you're laying in bed.
21:15She'll come back.
21:16She'll come back.
21:17Okay.
21:18Okay.
21:19Okay.
21:20Okay.
21:21Okay.
21:22Okay.
21:23Okay.
21:24Okay.
21:25Okay.
21:26Okay.
21:27Okay.
21:28Okay.
21:29Okay.
21:30Okay.
21:31Dylan.
21:32Can you come get your...
21:33Where are you?
21:34Don't try and do that now.
21:35You've got all kids in the bath.
21:36Water running.
21:37It's kind of dangerous.
21:38So this stuff can be done once.
21:39Okay.
21:40You know, the kids are dealt with.
21:41As in priori.
21:42Who went poop and didn't flush?
21:43Rose, dude.
21:44Well, I think it's cold.
21:45It doesn't matter if it's cold.
21:46It doesn't matter if it's cold.
21:47It's cold.
21:48It's cold.
21:49It's cold.
21:50It's cold.
21:51It's cold.
21:52It's cold.
21:53It's cold.
21:54It's cold.
21:55It's cold.
21:56It's cold.
21:57It's cold.
21:58It's cold.
21:59It's cold.
22:00It doesn't matter if it's cold.
22:01It won't hurt you.
22:02Did you get underwear?
22:03No, no, no, no.
22:04Leave it, leave it, leave it.
22:06No, no, no, no, no, no.
22:07No, no, no, no.
22:08I'm not done yet.
22:09Kayla...
22:10Kiss.
22:12It was so much fun to get out of the house and actually go back into hair.
22:27I was a little nervous that I would come in and the kids wouldn't be back in bed and
22:31the kids would be up until 8, 9, 10 o'clock at night.
22:34Seriously, I mean, tell us how it was tonight.
22:38It was hard.
22:39It was difficult.
22:40It's not an easy gig with so many kids.
22:42No, it's not.
22:43I'm doing everything.
22:44By yourself, literally.
22:46Yeah, that was hard.
22:49And, you know, that's what you've been doing most nights, to be honest.
22:52Yeah.
22:53I hope you kind of have some kind of appreciation and experience, really, what Branny's had to do.
22:58I had to see what she was doing, and I had that appreciation.
23:02I really think George is willing to change and wanting to change.
23:07I really think that Joe has gotten through to him, which makes me so excited and happy.
23:13Tomorrow, we'll get to have some fun with Blake.
23:18You're not forgotten, my love.
23:21You're not forgotten.
23:23I know tomorrow, we're going to be working a little bit with Blake, and I'm excited about that.
23:27I want to fix our relationship.
23:30I want him and I to have the father and son relationship that a father and son are supposed to have.
23:36So today has been a great day.
23:38Dad was challenged at bedtime, but he did okay.
23:43Mom's been able to do an updo.
23:45But this family's not fixed.
23:48Sorry.
23:48A lot more work to be done in this house.
23:57So today's another day where I'm going to be working with this family, especially Blake.
24:03For inappropriate behavior, he now has to do 20 hours of community service.
24:08He doesn't really feel like he fits in with the family right now.
24:10Oh, and by the way, I heard from my production team today that Blake snuck in to the production trailer and stole.
24:21So me and him are going to have words today, trust me.
24:25Oh, I do.
24:27Blake, can you come into the living room, please?
24:31Can you come and sit down, please?
24:33Where?
24:34There's fine.
24:35There's fine.
24:36You went into the production trailer and you stole stuff?
24:40Why would you do that?
24:45Do you feel out by your dad?
24:47No, because I feel left out.
24:50Like, I'm just something that's in the way.
24:54I feel like I completely failed.
24:59What's going on?
25:00I don't know.
25:02You went into the production trailer and you stole stuff?
25:07Why would you do that?
25:08I was stupid.
25:11That's not a good enough reason, because you're not stupid.
25:15You're a smart guy.
25:17You snuck through a window with intention to steal the stuff that doesn't belong to you.
25:21You know, I feel pretty disappointed, to be honest with you.
25:26I know that you've got to do 28 hours of community service, right?
25:30And if I went and called the police now, the ramifications of that would be you in juvie.
25:36Do you understand the seriousness of that?
25:38Yeah.
25:39What would you do if you were me?
25:40I don't know.
25:43In the real world, I don't know it's not cutting it.
25:45You broke the law.
25:47I don't know it's going to end up with you behind bars.
25:50I want you to think.
25:52I want you to have an opinion.
25:54If you have issues and problems and concerns,
25:57do you feel like when you have those, you can go to your parents and talk about them?
26:03Sometimes.
26:04So not all the time?
26:05Mm-mm.
26:10Do you feel loved by your dad?
26:12No.
26:14Can you look at your dad and tell him what you need from him?
26:17What he's not giving you and what you need?
26:20Like, I feel like the boys and my sister get more attention than I do.
26:28And I'm just something that's in the way.
26:35I'm sorry.
26:42Why do you feel left out?
26:49Because he always, like, is with the other kids.
26:54How would you feel more loved?
27:04If he wasn't to yell.
27:07You don't mean yell, do you?
27:09You mean make you feel like you're nothing, right?
27:13Yeah.
27:14How does it make you feel like you're nothing?
27:16It's okay, Blake.
27:19Just tell me.
27:21I want you to open up.
27:23By just, like, saying stuff that makes me upset.
27:38What do you do when you feel sad?
27:41Just keep it in.
27:43Try to be tough.
27:45Keep it back.
27:46I don't know how that makes you feel.
27:51Horrible.
27:53But you've got your son's hand right now, so I think you've got an opportunity to speak to him.
27:57I mean, to be honest.
27:59I feel like I completely failed.
28:09And I don't want to fail anymore.
28:13Because everything you told me, I realized in the past couple of days.
28:18Joe helped me realize what I was doing to you.
28:21I was bullying you.
28:22That's why they're bullying you across the street.
28:29And it is my fault.
28:31And I'm really sorry.
28:34And I want to move forward.
28:40And when I have quality time with you, I don't want you to feel like you're left out.
28:44I just don't know how to do it.
28:48But you are my firstborn son.
28:50And you are very, very special to me.
28:53And I will try to show you
28:54how important you are to me.
28:59Come here.
29:04My short temper.
29:13In my frustration, it made me just short with you.
29:18But I still look at you and see my baby boy.
29:25And I kind of just woke up.
29:29Can you forgive me?
29:38Like all four of us are blowing our noses.
29:41It's emotional.
29:46It's a beautiful day out there.
29:47I mean, why don't you guys just go and take a walk?
29:50He doesn't like walking.
29:51We'll go.
29:52It's good.
29:53I don't like walking either.
29:53Just to be together.
29:55We'll run off the hill.
29:55Whether you're walking.
29:56I mean...
29:56That's your word.
29:58Race.
29:58We'll race.
29:59See who can win.
30:00We're both really competitive.
30:02Well, I think that's a good idea.
30:03That is a good idea.
30:04It was a great morning for Blake to sit and talk to his dad
30:10and let him know how he felt
30:12and for George to realize what he needs to do
30:15to be able to become closer with Blake.
30:18And if they can just keep that up,
30:20then I believe that they're going to feel
30:22in a much better place, certainly,
30:25than what they were before I arrived here.
30:27Joe telling me that the way I'm acting
30:30and the way I'm treating the boys,
30:33it's hurting them more than helping them.
30:37It feels like I was in a nightmare
30:39and it's like I'm awake and I'm like I'm back.
30:43And so I was just doing it wrong
30:44and I need to just be happy with them.
30:48Our relationship isn't fixed.
30:50It's just on the right track.
30:52So we can't stop.
30:53Hey, George, can you come outside for a moment?
31:02So, look, I just want to give you this.
31:05Corey's potty time with the days of the week.
31:08And what I want to do
31:09is just giving him a sticker himself.
31:10It's quite nice to get that, you know, afterwards, you know?
31:13Yeah.
31:14Just a little momentum, just a little pep.
31:16Actually, as he's here, you can go for it with him.
31:19Oh, look at that.
31:20Nice.
31:21So today's Sunday, and when you go potty,
31:24we can go like this.
31:26Smiley face.
31:28Or you can put a sticker on there.
31:30Okay.
31:31Okay?
31:32All right, let's go.
31:34I have to say I'm really excited
31:36about the potty time chart we've got for Corey
31:39because he's a special needs child
31:41who needs the extra reminding,
31:44the encouragement, the guidance, the positivity.
31:51It's hot, okay?
31:56So when I open it, we've got to stay back.
31:58I actually got to put these in anyways.
32:01Oh, yum-yums.
32:02Oh, look at that.
32:04Hot?
32:04Should have taken that out.
32:06How long till dinner?
32:08Um...
32:0915, 20?
32:09About 15, 20 minutes.
32:11Enough time to do golden hearts.
32:14Okay.
32:15Okay.
32:15I would love you to incorporate this
32:18in your dinner time ritual
32:21by making sure that every child has a heart
32:24and that you actually write down
32:26something that you've seen
32:27that's been really positive
32:28and then you'll give the heart
32:30to the child.
32:32Okay?
32:33What I'd like you to do
32:34is the same for yourselves as well.
32:36All right?
32:36Okay.
32:37Can I have everybody into the living room?
32:41I want it.
32:43It's easier to have you all sitting down here
32:45than I can look at you all, you know?
32:47It's been an intense several days,
32:49to say the least.
32:50You know, I'm really hoping
32:51that when I leave,
32:52you guys are going to understand
32:53the importance of what needs to be done.
32:55What I want to leave you
32:56all as a family, really,
32:58is homework.
32:59So I would love, obviously,
33:01yourself, Blake, and George,
33:04to be on a man date.
33:05All right?
33:06I want to see you guys out
33:07doing something fun.
33:08Keep that up.
33:09And I don't think there's any reason
33:11why you guys couldn't work
33:13on your own relationship.
33:16So I'd love to see you guys
33:18out on a date,
33:20to be honest with you.
33:22How does that sound?
33:23That'd be awesome.
33:24Yeah.
33:24Yeah.
33:25So there's much to be done here.
33:28The discipline,
33:29the house rules,
33:31the praise hearts,
33:34the time together,
33:35working as a team,
33:37and being respectful,
33:39and being positive role models,
33:41is all what makes a difference
33:42in your family.
33:44So I'm going to leave this
33:45with you, Brandy.
33:46Okay.
33:47For homework.
33:47And I will see you very soon.
33:49Bye-bye.
33:49Say bye-bye.
33:50Bye.
33:51So for now,
33:51my work is done
33:52with this family.
33:53I have to be able to go away
33:55so this family can do it without me.
33:57And this is the real test.
34:00This is a big part of the process.
34:01It really is.
34:02I go away.
34:04And do they let it all crumble?
34:05I hope I come back
34:06to some pleasant,
34:08pleasant results.
34:11Oh, whoa.
34:13You okay?
34:13Cory's on my day with everyone.
34:18Joe is gone now,
34:19and we're following all the tips
34:21that she's given us.
34:22Did you have poop?
34:24Woo!
34:25Good job.
34:25The potty chart that Joe formed up
34:27for Cory is totally working.
34:29For some reason,
34:29that little thing she made,
34:31he loves it.
34:33Loves it.
34:34He goes and he goes,
34:35and he does his own smile as he does.
34:37That makes me so happy.
34:40You know that?
34:40Give me hugs.
34:41That makes me really, really happy
34:45when you poop in the toilet
34:47and not your pants, okay?
34:48And now you guys play basketball.
34:50The hardest thing
34:51since Joe's left
34:53has been Blake.
34:54It's just a struggle
34:55to get him to do anything.
34:59Blake!
34:59Get up!
35:01Blake!
35:02Light him up!
35:03All week,
35:04I've been struggling
35:05with him getting up.
35:06Get up!
35:07Blake!
35:09And so finally,
35:10I just said,
35:10that's it.
35:11If you don't get up now,
35:12then your MacBook
35:13and your phone
35:14are mine for a week.
35:15Go shower now!
35:19That's what's really been
35:21helping, I think, for me,
35:22is just having that stern voice
35:24because I've never,
35:25ever used that before.
35:26I'm really excited
35:31to have a date night
35:32with Brandy.
35:33It's been a really long time
35:34since we've had
35:34a romantic night away.
35:36A lot of times,
35:37whenever we go out,
35:38we just find ourselves
35:39not even talking.
35:41Mm-hmm.
35:42Because we just like
35:43to be quiet.
35:48You've been doing good.
35:50I'm proud of you.
35:51You as well.
35:55And you're hot.
35:59This is really nice.
36:01It was a really,
36:02really nice evening
36:02and just awesome
36:04to get away
36:04with just the two of us
36:05and not having kids around.
36:08Look at this.
36:13Mm.
36:13That's really good.
36:14That's good, huh?
36:15I love having the time
36:16away from the kids
36:17just so George and I
36:18can reconnect.
36:29I'm about to get
36:30some alone time with Blake.
36:31Things have been kind of rough,
36:32but I'm hoping this will help.
36:34Oh.
36:35Whoa, this one is way bigger.
36:37Way bigger.
36:39Can you re-glue my tire, please?
36:41What's up?
36:42Oh, thank you.
36:42Sure.
36:43Cool.
36:45It was really fun.
36:54We don't hang out
36:54as much as we should
36:55because you have to
36:56divide your time by five.
36:59You know,
36:59bringing that well
37:00if you have to.
37:01It's tough.
37:02Yeah, it was nice
37:03to hang out with that.
37:05We should do this every night.
37:08Every night?
37:09Yep.
37:09I don't know about every night,
37:11but definitely a few times,
37:12a few nights a week.
37:14Like, six and a half times.
37:17Six and a half nights a week.
37:20Yeah.
37:23You cannot afford to screw up.
37:25Don't go down that road.
37:27I know that you're capable.
37:28I really want to see it from you.
37:30It makes sense to what I'm saying.
37:32So I'm back in Thousand Oaks
37:38for my return with the Kampos family,
37:40and I'm very eager to find out,
37:42did this family keep up with their homework?
37:45Hello?
37:47Hi.
37:47Hello.
37:48Hi.
37:49Hi.
37:49Hi.
37:49How are you?
37:53Good.
37:54How are you?
37:55Good.
37:56Yeah?
37:56Yeah.
37:57Pleased to hear it.
37:58What's been happening?
37:58I mean, the homework I put in.
38:00And Corey?
38:01Have you been using up the charts?
38:02He loves it.
38:03Okay, brilliant.
38:04A lot of times I will forget now,
38:07and he'll go,
38:07Mom, go on body,
38:08and he'll run.
38:09Good.
38:10And did you get a date night out?
38:11We did.
38:12It was nice.
38:13So we made a pact
38:14that we're going to go out twice a month.
38:16Yeah.
38:17And he has to plan one of the times.
38:19Okay, so you just literally take turns.
38:21Yeah, because he doesn't ever do that.
38:23I don't even care if it's out to coffee.
38:25I don't care where it is.
38:25Yeah, initiate.
38:26Take control of the situation.
38:27Yeah, I'm excited.
38:28Good for you.
38:29So, yeah.
38:32So what's been happening?
38:34So the first day after you left,
38:37he did great.
38:38Got up, was dressed,
38:40did his thing,
38:41and was fine.
38:42But then after that,
38:43he won't get up.
38:44There's no excuse
38:44why he shouldn't be able
38:46to get up on his own.
38:47So the last two days,
38:49I told him,
38:50if you're late for school,
38:51then your MacBook
38:52and your phone are mine for a week.
38:54Yeah.
38:55Done.
38:55He got up and did it.
38:57Okay.
38:57I was pleased to hear
38:58you have a showing promise now,
39:00and you're getting yourself up.
39:02And I think really just
39:03keeping up the encouragement
39:04and acknowledging it
39:04every time he does,
39:06and every time he does get up.
39:07I know that you're capable.
39:09I really want to see it from you.
39:12It makes sense to what I'm saying?
39:14Yeah.
39:14Okay, I'll do it.
39:16If it makes sense,
39:17I know you understand me.
39:18Charlie got a heart
39:25for not talking back to mom today.
39:27Good job, baby.
39:29Blake got a heart
39:31because he helped mom
39:33watch the kids.
39:36Good job.
39:37And Kory.
39:38And Kory.
39:39For being so goofy.
39:42Could that be it?
39:44Kory has had no accidents today.
39:47Good job.
39:48Yeah.
39:49Mikaela got a heart.
39:52Why are you praying?
39:55Praying for something good.
39:57Mikaela was a good girl
39:59listening today.
40:00Mommy took care of our home.
40:03So she gets a heart for that.
40:05And because she's smoking hot.
40:08You did write that on there.
40:10What a lovely return
40:12to be able to come back
40:14and see a family
40:15sitting around the table
40:17having their dinner
40:18literally
40:19in such a different place
40:22to where they were
40:23when I first arrived.
40:25It's just a testament
40:26to families
40:27who do the homework
40:29and make it work
40:30for their family
40:31and themselves.
40:33Things have changed.
40:34To be able to see George
40:35just totally different
40:38from what he was
40:39when I first arrived
40:40and to see how much
40:41that's made him connect
40:42to his own kids
40:44and how much more
40:46these children are happier
40:47than what they were
40:48when I first arrived.
40:49And really together
40:50recognize
40:51how beautiful it is
40:53to work together as a team
40:55to get those evening routines down
40:57and to make themselves
40:59a more happier
41:00harmonious family.
41:03You're a wonderful family
41:05and you have a great sense
41:06of spirit and humor
41:07and that is what's key.
41:09You've got the love
41:10there and that's what
41:11that's what families need.
41:13Just keep doing
41:13what you're doing.
41:14Before I leave
41:16what I'd love to say
41:18is it would be wonderful
41:19just to have a family photo
41:20of where you're at now.
41:22Yes!
41:22I think so too.
41:24I think that would be
41:25a good idea
41:25to have a family photo.
41:27Bye everyone.
41:28All righty.
41:28Thank you, Jo.
41:29Bye.
41:29Take care.
41:30Are you going to see me out?
41:31Bye!
41:32Bye-bye!
41:33Bye!
41:37I got my family back.
41:39I got myself back.
41:40I got my wife back.
41:42I'm back.
41:43I'm finally starting
41:46to feel loved again
41:47and that's huge to me.
41:51I mean, let's face it,
41:52not every family
41:53is a happy ending.
41:54Some families struggle
41:55more than others.
41:56When I first met George,
41:57he said to me,
41:58I've forgotten, Jo,
41:59what it's like
42:00to enjoy my family
42:01and to watch him tonight
42:02be in a totally
42:04different place.
42:05I've got to be honest
42:06with you, it touches me.
42:07It touches me personally.
42:08Smile.
42:09Sit down.
42:10Ready?
42:39Smile.
42:40Smile.
42:41Smile.
42:42Smile.
42:46Bye.
43:04.
43:05.
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