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A single woman tries to get a college degree while dealing with the emotional scars her five children have suffered as a result of her divorce. Do you think it's tough for kids when their parents split?
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00:00My name's Cheryl Carsley, I'm a single mom with five kids, divorced.
00:05Not okay, you two, you guys stop fooling around.
00:09And I'm also going back to school, trying to get my teacher certificate.
00:13I have a daughter, Chantel, who's seven, and two sets of twin boys.
00:18Caleb and Nicholas, who are five, and Bobby and Elijah, who are four.
00:22Five children, this woman's got a handful.
00:26Chantel wants to do what Chantel wants to do.
00:35Chantel will throw tantrums.
00:38She'll hit and kick.
00:41Do not hit me.
00:43The five of them together have a mob mentality.
00:48They talk rudely to me.
00:51They hit me.
00:53This is ridiculous.
00:55They just do not listen.
00:58In bed.
01:00One of me, five of them, you do the math.
01:03I only have two arms.
01:04Hey guys, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey.
01:07The house is constantly a mess.
01:10They ride on the walls.
01:12They break things.
01:13What are these children doing?
01:15This is not how I want to live.
01:17This house feels constantly out of control, disaster.
01:22I come home and I want to leave.
01:24Oh, mom is having a nightmare.
01:27But I'm trying as hard as I can and nothing seems to work.
01:30And I'll eat you.
01:31I need to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
01:34I'll put this in your...
01:36No!
01:37Don't touch it!
01:38Don't touch it!
01:39Please, Supernanny, come to my house and tell me how that I can get in control of five children.
01:48You could definitely do with another pair of hands.
01:50I'm on my way.
01:51Hi.
01:52Hi.
01:53Nice to meet you.
01:54Joe.
01:55I'm Cheryl.
01:56Hello.
01:57What's your name?
01:58Nicholas.
01:59Nicholas.
02:00Nicholas!
02:01Pleased to meet you.
02:02I'm Joe.
02:03I'm Cheryl.
02:04Hello.
02:05What's your name?
02:06Nicholas.
02:07Nicholas!
02:08Pleased to meet you.
02:09I'm JoJo.
02:10Hi.
02:11And what's your name?
02:12Chantel.
02:13Pleased to meet you, Chantel.
02:14Pleased to meet you, Chantel.
02:15Hi.
02:16Hello.
02:17What's your name?
02:18Nicholas.
02:19Nicholas!
02:20Pleased to meet you.
02:21I'm JoJo.
02:22Hi.
02:23And what's your name?
02:25Chantel.
02:26Pleased to meet you, Chantel.
02:28When I first arrived, I got bombarded by five children.
02:31And what's your name?
02:33Charlie.
02:34All kind of excited to see me.
02:37I'm Elijah.
02:38Elijah.
02:39You're Elijah.
02:40And who are you?
02:41I'm Caleb.
02:42Caleb.
02:43Caleb.
02:44Caleb the superhero.
02:46Jo walks into my house and the kids really seemed to like her.
02:50How cute and funny she seemed.
02:51I'm here today to observe the family.
02:53I know that you've got issues that need to be addressed and we'll get to the bottom of
02:57those.
02:58All right.
02:59So just feel free to carry on as you normally would.
03:04As soon as I walked in, all those smiles and giggles I saw disappeared rather quickly.
03:09No!
03:10The kids were just roughhousing and throwing things that just so got out of control.
03:14That is not okay.
03:17That is not okay.
03:18That is not okay.
03:19That is not okay.
03:20Jo got to see what I'm facing every day.
03:24They're fighting and they're yelling and screaming.
03:28No!
03:29Do not scream at me.
03:30And the disrespect.
03:31Stop, Elijah.
03:32No!
03:34Five kids.
03:35Five personalities.
03:36Five individuals.
03:37One mum.
03:40Cheryl, what's happening now?
03:41We're going to have lunch now.
03:42Oh, you're going to have lunch now?
03:43Okay.
03:45Mum hadn't even got the food on the table and the fireworks went off again.
03:48Don't do it.
03:49Don't do it.
03:50Don't do it.
03:51Don't do it.
03:52Don't do it.
03:53Don't do it.
03:54Don't do it.
03:55Don't do it.
03:56Don't do it.
04:05Nicholas and Elijah were fighting together.
04:07Mum had to play referee and pull them apart.
04:09Stop!
04:11There is only me.
04:13That's not okay.
04:14I have to be the mean one.
04:15I have to be the nice one.
04:18I want to meet in a big chair.
04:22It was back and forth for Cheryl.
04:23But the boys continued fighting.
04:25And mum just couldn't put an end to it.
04:27You know, my head's going like this.
04:32I'm sure it is.
04:33You know, I'm sure it is.
04:34I'm sure it is.
04:35Mommy!
04:36Mommy!
04:39Stop!
04:40Nicholas!
04:41That is not okay!
04:43Do I have to be the one that's yelling non-stop?
04:50I don't want to feel negative all day.
04:53Cheryl went in and separated the boys.
04:55But nothing got resolved and the chaos just continued.
05:00I'm stressed.
05:01I'm really, really stressed and really, really tired.
05:03Is your head above water or is it under?
05:06I feel like I'm just barely, like...
05:08Mommy!
05:10It depends on the day.
05:12It depends on the day, really.
05:13I want my tooth.
05:15Mommy!
05:17Cheryl was clearly stressed out.
05:19So I just pulled her away from the boys to have a talk with her.
05:23Why do you think they hit one another?
05:24Just sometimes they seem really angry.
05:27Do you know why they're angry?
05:29Because there's not enough for me to go around.
05:31They don't get enough attention.
05:33Does any of that make sense?
05:35All of it does.
05:37Cheryl's totally overwhelmed with this situation.
05:40And she just doesn't know which way to turn.
05:43What is the toughest challenge for you being a mother?
05:47You know, I've got five that don't get enough of me.
05:51And it's really hard to, when I don't have enough time in the day for anything.
05:58Trying to put 48 hours into a 24 hour day.
06:00Right.
06:01I'm a single mom and with that means that I'm responsible for everything in the household.
06:08It's hard.
06:09There's a lot to deal with.
06:10A lot to maintain.
06:11And then after I get to bed I still have to get everything ready for the next day.
06:14Get lunches made.
06:16Get whatever.
06:17And then do my homework.
06:19I admire Cheryl.
06:20She's trying to raise her children the best way she possibly can.
06:23And go to college.
06:25That's not an easy task.
06:27How are we going to make it happen?
06:28We.
06:29Exactly what we're going to do.
06:30We.
06:31Yeah, together.
06:32You're moving in?
06:33I'll tell you what, if necessary, I will.
06:36Coming up on Supernanny.
06:38Joe gets a tour of the disaster zone.
06:40Joe needs a shovel, look, to clear the pathway.
06:43And Chantel's temper boils over.
06:48Chantel!
06:49When Supernanny returns.
06:55As I walked around the house, I just saw that Cheryl had completely lost control.
07:00That's everywhere.
07:02Is this common?
07:03Yes.
07:04I mean, is this throughout the whole house?
07:05Joe needs a shovel, look, to clear the pathway.
07:09I wasn't pleased with what I saw in Cheryl's house.
07:11There's writing all over the walls.
07:13You didn't have any more paper?
07:15Yeah.
07:16Chantel did this.
07:17That means all of you draw on the walls, right?
07:19There are books that have been disregarded and just thrown on the floor.
07:22Somebody's kind of tornadoed that area.
07:24Yeah, I know.
07:25Everything is everywhere.
07:26That's what my house looks like.
07:28It's true.
07:29There's some paper on the floor, sellotape, mess, dirt.
07:32Food for the squirrels.
07:33Kitchen's no better.
07:35They've just got no respect for the home in which they live in.
07:39Who clears up all of this?
07:41I will.
07:42Can you pick up your game?
07:44Please pick it up.
07:45I feel like I'm trying as hard as I can to keep this house as organized and as clean as possible.
07:52And this is still what it looks like.
07:54Definitely need some more conversation here.
08:02You're getting dinner ready for the kids.
08:03That's what I'm doing right now, yeah.
08:05Hi, pal.
08:06I'm not eating dinner.
08:08Chantel wasn't hungry and she was making sure that mom heard all about it.
08:13But what happened last night when you didn't eat dinner?
08:15I was hungry.
08:16You were hungry and you didn't get anything to eat.
08:19That wasn't fun, was it?
08:20Dad, I don't care about that.
08:21Stop.
08:22I don't want this for dinner.
08:25Jesus, that's not okay.
08:27Chantel, you could have just burned yourself.
08:31It was so dangerous.
08:33Chantel nearly put a pot of boiling water all over herself.
08:37I know a lot of what motivates their behavior is lack of attention.
08:41They only have one person to care for them.
08:44Yeah, this is like the fits and...
08:47Stop.
08:48Stop.
08:49Yeah.
08:51This is why you can't go take her or do anything special with her.
08:56You need to go sit until you cool off, okay?
09:01No shelter, my mom has a big, big, poopy butt.
09:08Her behavior has been just so out of control that I feel bad for her.
09:12Like, she's not getting enough.
09:14But at the same time, I feel like I try even more because she's not a twin.
09:18This is definitely where I, like, have no clue.
09:25After Chantel calmed down...
09:26Come and sit with me for a minute.
09:28I asked her to have a little chat with me so I could find out exactly what was going on in that little girl's head.
09:32What's it like living in the same house as four brothers?
09:35Well, they always fight.
09:37They're always not behaving too.
09:39Really?
09:40I always wish to have a sister.
09:43You wish to have a sister?
09:45Yeah.
09:46Because I have these brothers and they have, like, brothers and stuff they get to play with and have real fun.
09:52I want to have a sister.
09:56But I didn't get bored like that.
09:59Do you ever get time alone with Mummy to do things?
10:02Mm-hmm.
10:03My mum picks me up at school.
10:06Yeah.
10:07But she just goes to the store.
10:09Chantel needs her mum's time.
10:12She needs to be heard, to be listened to.
10:14And she needs her mum to be that steady rock for her, for her to be able to build her self-confidence.
10:21What would be really good for Mummy to do when you're with her?
10:24Go to a restaurant.
10:26Go to a restaurant.
10:27What's your favourite food?
10:28Um, similar.
10:31I'm seeing five children fight for mum's time and attention at a crucial and critical time of their life.
10:40And at the moment, this household is pandemonium.
10:44And I really do need to speak to Cheryl.
10:46Getting ready for the family meeting and I'm nervous, a little scared.
10:55I'm sure there's a million things I'm doing wrong.
10:58Cheryl, you are a determined woman and a very hard-working one.
11:04You told me how you're studying and I admire your strength in being able to do this.
11:13And raise five children.
11:16And that's a handful.
11:17So I've got to say to you, you know, a ten out of ten effort for really juggling between what you want to do as an individual and as a mother as well.
11:29Because it's not easy.
11:31But...
11:34Are you enjoying being a mother at the moment?
11:36Are you really going to make me answer that?
11:43No, it's not always fun.
11:45Yeah.
11:46Oh.
11:47You love your kids, so why shouldn't you as a mother enjoy that role?
11:51But it's not happening.
11:53I walk into your home and what I see is chaos.
11:58Everything around you is like you've been swept up in a tornado.
12:02And it's just, boom, landed back down in your sitting room in your home.
12:06Well, it's sort of like you say, my whole life's a tornado.
12:10Actually, that's the way it feels.
12:13You have to be organised when you've got five kids, Cheryl.
12:17There's no two ways about it.
12:19The writing on the walls.
12:21They're not two years old.
12:22Even my seven-year-old still writes on the walls sometimes.
12:25That's what I mean.
12:26Not only am I seeing this big lack of respect for their home, what I'm seeing is aggression.
12:36OK?
12:37They're not expressing how they are feeling and communicating correctly.
12:42Let's talk about discipline, Cheryl.
12:44How are you disciplining the children so that you can teach them consequences for how they behave?
12:51I guess I've gotten to a point where I don't know how to follow through with consequences all the time.
12:59Not only are we talking about the boys here and their aggression, let's talk about Chantel.
13:05What she doesn't have is your time.
13:10And so she constantly tries to get your attention in a negative way.
13:17Now, I don't doubt you love your children.
13:20And I know, by watching you, that you go out on a limb to be able to provide for them the best that you can.
13:30But you know the best thing that you can give your kids?
13:34Is your time.
13:37Is your attention.
13:39And each one of them crave it.
13:42And they crave it because it's not there consistently.
13:45And that's what we need to achieve here.
13:47All right?
13:48And the one thing that I feel that you've lost along the way is hope.
13:51It's hard to hear that you're having a negative effect on the people you care the most about.
13:57That every day that you're waking up, you're trying to do the very best you possibly can for the ones you love.
14:06And you're not accomplishing that.
14:09So are you ready for some hard work?
14:11This doesn't give you a graduation at the end.
14:13But I tell you what, it's life rewarding.
14:15Are you ready for that?
14:16Definitely.
14:17All right, okay.
14:18So let's get to work.
14:19Coming up on Super Nanny, Joe gets mom to clean up her act.
14:25But Chantel questions Joe's rules.
14:28How does this make this special time with you hitting me?
14:34When Super Nanny returns.
14:36But first, a tip from Super Nanny.
14:39As a single parent, having a current list of people to look after your children in case of an emergency is a very valuable thing to have.
14:46Whether it be a neighbour, someone from church or even a parent from your kids' school.
14:51Having this list is going to take a massive weight off your shoulders in case the situation arises.
14:56Cheryl has a routine at the moment, but it's in her head and it does get lost by around 4 o'clock in the afternoon.
15:13So what I would like to do is to set up a good structured tight routine for her so that it will give her focus.
15:20All right, so we've got our family routine up.
15:23What we need to do is to start prioritising what needs to come first.
15:27And that's tidying up.
15:28Yeah.
15:29From 6 to 6.30, we're going to have tidy up time.
15:32I want to give you a hand and I want to give you a surprise.
15:35Cheryl's a mother.
15:37She has come out of an emotional divorce and she's in school at the moment.
15:43But her head needs decluttering and the home needs a little bit of a tidy up.
15:48So I rounded up some neighbours and some friends and everybody was very willing to be able to lend a hand.
15:56When I saw the people at the door, I was surprised, of course, I was extremely surprised.
16:01But at the same time, I was like thinking, ah, embarrassed.
16:06I don't want these people to come into my home.
16:09Oh, that's so crazy.
16:12Come in, everyone.
16:13I just want you to know that you aren't alone and that there are people here that understand the situation you're in.
16:19What we're going to do is sort this out, get organised, all right, so that we can have a nice, happy environment.
16:27All right, let's get going.
16:39I love this book.
16:40It's one of my favourites.
16:41I know Cheryl was really embarrassed, but I do think it's a vital step in making sure that she can regain that respect for our home again.
16:48No more stuff on the floor.
16:50OK.
16:51Nice and tidy, huh?
16:52Oh, nice.
16:55And I know she was very happy in the end.
16:59Once the children got home from school, it was time for dinner and, boy, were they all wound up.
17:03OK, Mum.
17:05Look what's going on here.
17:07It's not OK.
17:08Chantelle, do not drink out the bottle.
17:12You can get a cup, OK, and then give them their expectations.
17:16Tell them what you want them to do so that you can serve up dinner for them.
17:21Everybody's hungry, right?
17:27What did I say?
17:28Chantelle.
17:29Chantelle.
17:30Chantelle.
17:34It was complete anarchy.
17:35They were just running rings around, Mum.
17:37So you need to take ownership of this.
17:39There are times when you're going to have to stand out and be authoritative, all right?
17:42Mm-hm.
17:43So that's what I want the children to start recognising from you.
17:46Enough is enough.
17:47This house is crying out for rules.
17:49It's about time I started laying them down.
17:52ASAP.
17:55OK.
17:58These are the house rules, OK?
18:00If you stick to these house rules and you do what's on these house rules, you earn rewards.
18:08Drawing and painting at the table only.
18:12Nowhere else in the house.
18:14If you draw on the walls, that's a no-no.
18:17Drawing and painting at table only.
18:20These are things that have come out of my mouth a million times.
18:24Oh, you can read number eight.
18:25What does number eight say?
18:26Do not talk back.
18:29OK.
18:30Chantel, I'm going to give you an example of that.
18:32I turned around earlier and I said to you, listen to Mummy and you do as you're told.
18:37And you said, no, I'm not.
18:38And I said, yes, you will.
18:41I really did that?
18:42Yeah.
18:43So now you know that's called talking back, all right?
18:46So we're not going to do that anymore.
18:47Great.
18:48Now, what's the magic fairy dust trick you're going to teach me to get them to follow these rules?
18:53When you stick to those house rules, Mummy sees this behaviour.
18:58And when Mummy sees this behaviour, you get rewarded for it.
19:04There's just too much fighting going on in this house.
19:07These children need to work together and learn from one another.
19:12So I'm introducing the home team technique.
19:15Each person are going to live in one of these houses.
19:19And this is how it's going to happen, OK?
19:21We've got Bobby and Nicholas in the greenhouse.
19:24Caleb and Elijah, you're going to be in the red house.
19:27And Chantel and Mummy, you're going to be in the blue house.
19:32I actually thought, how brilliant.
19:34This is a good way to get them working together,
19:37not necessarily with the one that they would immediately join up with to cause trouble.
19:42Hands up who's in the red house.
19:44Hands up who's in the green house.
19:46Blue house.
19:48Mummy's going to be watching you, OK?
19:51And if she sees that the pair of you are behaving very well,
19:55she's going to give you a point in your house.
19:57The goal of the home team technique is for each house to have ten tally marks.
20:04Now when you get ten in your house, you get a chance to spin the dial.
20:10The children's faces lit up.
20:12They knew that there were rewards to be achieved and they wanted to get them.
20:16Yay!
20:17Coming up on Supernanny.
20:19You give the children a chore to do.
20:22Joe gives the kids a chance to succeed.
20:25Hey, look!
20:26You're all for me?
20:27But Chantel is failing the grade.
20:30Do not hit me!
20:33When Supernanny returns.
20:38These children have been on an emotional rollercoaster.
20:41And so I wanted to give them a discipline that would allow them to reflect about their behaviour.
20:46This is called the thinking pond.
20:51When Mummy tells you to do something and you make a choice not to listen and do as you're told,
20:58which means you break the house rule, Mummy's going to ask you to come to the thinking pond.
21:05This is where you're going to think about what you did wrong so that you know not to do it next time.
21:12I am so ready.
21:13Let's turn this around and make this a positive environment and a positive life and a positive family.
21:20And be happy, not angry.
21:25Ta-da!
21:26Look!
21:27You're all for me?
21:28Yeah!
21:29You've got to do this with Mummy!
21:30It's very rare that Mum gets to spend time with Chantel alone because the boys are always involved.
21:36So I set up a nice time for the galleys to have fun together.
21:39Everything you trapped is probably what you are.
21:43Oh, I see how you are.
21:50I don't want the purple.
21:54Pink purple, pink purple.
21:56Everything was going great.
21:57And then suddenly Chantel just snapped.
22:06Don't, no, that's enough.
22:08No.
22:09Do not hit me.
22:10Hitting is not okay.
22:11How does this make this special time with you hitting me?
22:17Chantel, don't.
22:19Chantel, that behaviour really isn't acceptable.
22:24You don't spit.
22:26Oh, it's so discouraging because that's what's been happening in the past.
22:31And I just so was hoping that it was going to be different.
22:36You're fine.
22:37You're fine.
22:38Turn around please.
22:39You're fine.
22:40And right now you are a little girl who is behaving not nice.
22:45I don't like super nanny.
22:47She's mean.
22:49If I talk to you, young lady, I expect you to listen.
22:53Now you owe your mother an apology for your behaviour.
22:57I'm talking to you, Chantel.
22:59I suggest you think about what you've done.
23:02I would like you to take Chantel to the thinking pond, okay, for her to think about her behaviour.
23:09Oh, I'm super nanny here.
23:12I do.
23:13Now I want you to sit on the thinking pond.
23:15No.
23:16And think about it.
23:19After Chantel got off the thinking pond, I pulled her aside so that I could have a word with her about her behaviour.
23:24Well, if you want alone time with Mummy, okay, what you've got to do is to make sure that when you are with Mummy that you treat her nicely.
23:33I definitely knew I'd made that little girl think because she got up from the thinking pond and she apologised.
23:39I'm sorry.
23:40Yeah?
23:41The next thing I needed to do was to get these children involved in helping Mum clean the house.
23:49So I introduced the chore challenge.
23:52This is how it works.
23:53Every week, you give the children a chore to do, okay?
23:57And you put their dial, alright, their coloured dial on the chore that you want them to do.
24:03And when it's been achieved, they get a point in their house.
24:07It's a good positive way of being able to give children a chance to succeed.
24:14Mummy is going to decide who's going to do what, alright, because it's always going to change.
24:20To start it off, there was one chore that they needed to all do together and that was to get that writing off them walls.
24:27The challenge is set.
24:28Let's go.
24:32This is awesome.
24:33It wasn't any fighting or, I want it to be me or any of that.
24:38Do you understand what you get for keeping your room clean?
24:41A point.
24:42Let's do the point straight away.
24:44Caleb's on the red team.
24:45Woo!
24:46Caleb gets a point.
24:47Well done.
24:48Well done, Eliza.
24:50Well done.
24:51Good job.
24:52You've nearly got one brick.
24:53Look at the red house here.
24:56Later on in the evening, the boys started to really play rough.
24:59Caleb, I'd like you to go in the kitchen and wait for me, please.
25:02Mom certainly needed to put a stop to that.
25:05It's not Caleb, it's Bobby.
25:06Look, Bobby's holding him down.
25:07Look.
25:09I'm on my leg.
25:11That's not okay.
25:12You need to go sit.
25:13You're losing a point, Bobby, and you've got to go sit in the, at the thinking pond.
25:17Are you?
25:18What's happening there?
25:19Take him there.
25:20Be direct, okay?
25:21You're supposed to listen to Mommy when I talk to you.
25:22Come down.
25:23Come down when you talk to me.
25:24Come down.
25:25I just watched you.
25:26And you think about what you've done and what Mommy's asked.
25:28You think about all the things that you just did in that living room.
25:31Did you walk?
25:32Yes, I did.
25:33Bobby was playing up and Mom had to take a point off of his home team.
25:37We're looking for me.
25:39But Nicholas got really upset about it.
25:42Bobby, what are you doing?
25:44Everybody, you need to go calm down first.
25:47Mommy, I'll be mad.
25:48Calm down first and then talk to me.
25:50Stop filming it.
25:51You're going mad.
25:52It's really starting to get heated up.
25:53And Mom, before she could deal with it, had to learn to calm down herself.
25:57You're going to have to learn to remain calm.
25:59You've got five kids.
26:01It's something you're going to have to learn to do.
26:03See what you're hearing behind you and to the side?
26:07Mommy.
26:08Block it so that you can stay focused and channeled on the child at the time that is the priority.
26:14Mommy!
26:15Nicholas.
26:16Nicholas.
26:17Talk to Mommy about how you're feeling.
26:18Come down.
26:19Come down to Nicholas's level.
26:20Mommy's being bad and I'm not.
26:21You're going to have to talk to Bobby.
26:22Okay?
26:23Talk to your brother and tell him how important it is.
26:25Nicholas got really upset.
26:26But if he learns to encourage Bobby, then there won't be any more points.
26:40Okay, Chantel, Joe's just going to go home now.
26:43So I would love to say goodbye to you and have a big hug.
26:47Joe's leaving and I'm just going to keep reminding myself, follow through, follow through.
26:53Oh, two, two.
26:56Give me a hug.
26:59I can do this.
27:00I'm going to make this happen.
27:01This is going to work.
27:02Keep up.
27:03You all right?
27:04Keep it up.
27:05Keep it up.
27:06Cheryl's definitely got used to having another pair of hands around.
27:09But with five children, that woman's got her work cut out for her.
27:17Coming up on Supernanny.
27:19You're ready to say you're sorry to me.
27:22When it comes to discipline, Mom is on the run.
27:25Do not hit me.
27:26You're fuming.
27:27Until she slams into a reality checkpoint.
27:30God, I'm awful.
27:32Oh, my God.
27:33When Supernanny returns.
27:35But first, a tip from Supernanny.
27:37First thing many single parents forget about is spending time on you.
27:42But your parents need to recharge your batteries.
27:45So if you can, find a friend or a relative that can look after your children whilst you take a breather and have some fun.
27:52And if you can't, make sure you schedule some downtime so that you've got some energy that will benefit your whole family.
27:58For more information, contact ABC.com.
28:05I doubt Cheryl's got a big challenge ahead of her.
28:11I just hope she stays strong.
28:13We're going to make a scene with our poster paper.
28:16I want to make a monkey.
28:18To put in the jungle?
28:19Or to put in the forest?
28:20I want to make a bear in it.
28:22That's a brilliant idea, Chantal.
28:24The most important part is that we work together and have fun.
28:28Okay.
28:29That's terrific.
28:30Great fun at family time.
28:32I was using that one and this one.
28:34Make a character?
28:35Yep.
28:36Excellent.
28:37The kids are absolutely loving this.
28:39I like the way everybody's nicely talking to one another and working well together.
28:44Raise your hand if you had fun doing that activity.
28:46Honey.
28:47That's great to see.
28:48You had fun?
28:49But I hope it all lasts.
28:54Do not hit me.
28:55You do not hit me.
28:57You're going to go sit on the thinking party.
28:59Don't get mad.
29:00Stay calm.
29:01Remember, you're the one in control.
29:03Sit here and think about why we don't hurt people.
29:05And you don't come and see me until you're ready to say you're sorry to me.
29:10Cheryl.
29:11That's not the way.
29:15Go.
29:16You go sit on the thinking pond and you don't come back until you're ready to tell me you're
29:21sorry.
29:25Why are you running from him?
29:26No, it's a gay.
29:29No, I do not want to talk to you.
29:35What happened to the thinking pond?
29:36Be consistent.
29:37I want to earn a point.
29:38I got zero.
29:39Then look at your chore challenge.
29:40What does it say?
29:41Oh, Mom, can I back you?
29:42Yeah.
29:43Make sure the floor is cleared up first.
29:44It's great to see Chantel using the chore challenge.
29:45It's great to see Chantel using the chore challenge.
29:49Why are you doing it like that, though?
29:50Wouldn't it be a lot easier to do?
29:51Why are you doing it like that, though?
29:52Wouldn't it be a lot easier to do?
29:53Why are you doing it like that, though?
29:54Wouldn't it be a lot easier to do?
29:55Why are you doing it like that, though?
29:56Wouldn't it be a lot easier to do it like that?
29:57Why are you doing it like that?
29:58Why are you doing it like that, though?
29:59Wouldn't it be a lot easier to do it like that?
30:02See Chantel using the chore challenge
30:16Why are you doing it like that though, it'll be a lot easier to
30:19Show her, but don't take away her enthusiasm for this
30:33You're never going to get the whole thing doing it like that. You want to do that, go around to all the edges. Get all the edges, around all the edges
30:48I get a point for vacuuming. But I vacuumed. Mom, where's the price for Chantel?
30:56So did I. Cheryl, you've forgotten what's important here.
31:04I'm really excited to show Cheryl the DVD footage I have here because I feel she's going to learn so much from this experience
31:11Okay, so let's take a look Cheryl and see exactly
31:15What we've got here
31:17We're gonna make a scene with our poster paper
31:22Raise your hand if you had fun doing that activity
31:26Got creative a productive afternoon. Yeah, that was fun. You're so relaxed
31:31Keep up the good work, Cheryl. Absolutely fantastic
31:38Do not hit me. You sit here and think about what?
31:40We don't hurt people and you don't come and see me until you're ready to say you're sorry to me. I'm scary
31:48I'm mean and I'm yelling
31:50You're fuming and that's what we see then is the loss of control. You're annoyed and when you're annoyed everything else tenses up
32:01He runs after you you run
32:05It's a game. It's about having the self-discipline to be able to put in place the positive techniques that are going to help bring out a positive result
32:19Yeah, make sure the floor is cleared up first
32:21Why are you doing it like that would be a lot easier to
32:29What's she trying to do what's she trying to show you that she can do her chores and earn a point I
32:37Look so negative I
32:39Get a point for vacuuming I
32:43Get a point for vacuuming
32:45But I vacuumed
32:47But I vacuumed
32:49But I vacuumed
32:51So did I
32:53God, I'm awful
32:55Oh my god
32:57I didn't even give her credit for what she did
33:00You went I vacuumed as well. I did as well. Oh my god, I'm a child
33:05So we each get a point. No, we get one combined point for vacuuming
33:11This mummy here needs someone to know exactly how hard she's trying
33:19Doesn't she
33:23So you're empowering the children to start doing stuff for themselves
33:27But I've given that head start come let feel good about it
33:30And emotionally it is tough and it is challenging and it's bloody hard work
33:37but
33:40We can say bye-bye to that one if you like
33:43We close the DVD and we can get up from here and we can change that
33:48Joe had me close the lid on the
33:52DVD and say goodbye to that Cheryl
33:56I am so ready
33:59To say let's go let's make this let's turn this around in a positive way
34:07You need a hug
34:09Coming up on super nanny
34:11Joe doesn't like what she sees
34:13Just sit on the thinking on you need to listen to me
34:16Chantel
34:17And what do you need to say to mommy?
34:19Will she have time to get the job done?
34:21You sure you can't stay the rest of the week?
34:23When super nanny returns
34:29We're gonna clean up and we're gonna take baths and we're gonna read stories
34:36Mom was prepping the children for bath time
34:39Chantel
34:40Chantel was making it difficult for everyone
34:42I need you to sit on the thinking wand and
34:45And think about what's been going on tonight
34:48Chantel repeatedly ignores her mom and she got off from that thinking pond before she even had a chance to think
34:54You need to listen to me Chantel
34:57Okay, what I'm recognizing with Chantel is a circle of confrontation with you
35:01A vicious circle that needs to be broke
35:04And it does mean that you're gonna have to be authoritative and take charge
35:09Chantel's not getting away with this
35:11She needs to realize that her behavior is totally unacceptable
35:14Mommy's doing bath time now
35:16And then afterwards she's gonna do story time
35:19And everybody's gonna get a chance to tell the stories again
35:21Do you remember how great that was for you?
35:23What are you gonna do today so that you can get up from that thinking pond?
35:29Behave
35:30And what do you need to say to mommy?
35:33I'm sorry
35:34Exactly
35:35You see you do know it
35:37Alright, so if you want to go and change that, let's go and see that happen
35:42I'm sorry
35:45You gonna listen to mommy now?
35:46Alright, well it's time for you to take a shower
35:48Oof
35:52Chantel gets a point for putting her stuff away
35:55Nicholas gets a point for putting his stuff away
35:58And Caleb gets a point for putting his stuff away
36:01And you...
36:03Elijah was keeping his teammate one point away
36:06From earning a reward
36:08One more point to spin the dial
36:11These are Elijah's boots right here
36:13They go in the boot bucket and they know that
36:14But Caleb, he wasn't going to settle for nine points
36:19Elijah, go put your boots away
36:21No, I want more point to spin the wheel
36:24Then you won't get a point
36:26Alright, we've got Caleb encouraging his brother now
36:29That's how it happens
36:30You're in a big family
36:31So we want the older ones to play a part
36:34And they do influence the younger ones as well
36:36That's the dynamic of your family
36:38Like they'll look up to the older ones
36:40And the older ones will set an example for the younger ones
36:44Mama, Mama, I put my boot away
36:47Really?
36:49Let's see
36:50Where'd they go?
36:52In the boot bucket
36:54In the boot bucket
36:55Good job, Elijah
36:57Why don't you give me a point?
36:59You want me to give you a point?
37:01Well done, Caleb, for helping teamwork
37:03Good job
37:04It was very heartwarming to see Caleb step up
37:06And help his brother so they could achieve ten points
37:10Elijah, come and have a look and see what Mummy's going to do
37:13This family's really starting to come together
37:15Ahhhh!
37:17You've got ten points!
37:19You've got ten points!
37:21It was the most excited that I've seen the children since I've arrived
37:24And they just felt a sense of pride and accomplishment
37:27Just so what this family needed
37:29Good job, Caleb!
37:31That's lovely, Chantal
37:32It was really good to see you giving your brother a hug because he's achieved that
37:36I think this time Caleb should spin the dial first because he's the oldest
37:40And he's been working very hard getting points and encouraging you, okay?
37:45So let's all watch Caleb spin the dial
37:49A restaurant!
37:53Alright, we need to get the phone and make some plans
37:57Yay!
37:58I was so amazed after Caleb got to take his spin, you know
38:01That it was such a positive environment that all the kids were like, group hug and
38:06Wow!
38:08This is awesome!
38:10Yeah!
38:16And then they had to go and find him with the flashlight
38:19Eyes!
38:21And with the flashlight
38:22When I first walked into this house, it was a complete shambles
38:26The children were fighting all the time
38:29Kiss!
38:31Sleep tight!
38:33But now they're working together as a team
38:35And they seem a lot happier
38:37Sleep tight, okay?
38:39Time for me to go?
38:41Are you sure you can't stay the rest of the week?
38:43I really would love to
38:44You can sleep in my bed, I'll take the couch
38:47Joe has given me the ability to grab a piece of confidence within myself
38:52I want to say how I'm tremendously proud
38:57Of your strength
38:59Of your courage
39:01And I don't want you to forget any of those
39:03Because single parents feel that they're not being heard
39:06And that they feel isolated and very alone
39:09And you're not alone
39:10Joe has given me direction
39:13And a leg to stand on
39:15Great part of you
39:17With the different techniques and rules
39:18To make that grow
39:22Can anybody talk her into coming back?
39:24I feel good leaving Cheryl
39:26Because I feel that she's gained so much confidence
39:29In being able to raise her five children now
39:31The single mum?
39:32She's gonna be alright
39:40A child
39:42Joe brought a big chunk of hope into our house
39:47And has shown me that I have the ability
39:50To make our family a happier and healthier one
39:54I didn't realize I was so angry
39:57I don't want to be that way
39:59And I don't have to be that way
40:01I'm more than ready to be the mom that they deserve to have
40:05This is going to be you mama
40:06Chantel's showing me little signs that we could have a relationship that I'd almost given up hope on
40:14All the things that I dreamed of doing with my daughter
40:18One, two
40:20Caleb and Nicholas both are really responding
40:22Right, good job
40:24She helped mommy make new rules
40:26I like the rules
40:28Hitting is not okay and we don't hurt one another
40:31Thank you JoJo
40:33Thank you JoJo
40:34There's hope and a positive future for me and for my kids
40:41I'm very grateful to JoJo
40:43Thank goodness she came
41:04Thank you
41:05Thank you
41:06Thank you
41:08Thank you
41:10Thank you
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