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Life in the Mead Family is complete chaos, with constant screaming and yelling. The children are really feeling the effects and what is worse, Mom and Dad have a secret that is tearing them apart. Can Jo help them let go of the past and restore trust?
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00:00Every family has a framed portrait,
00:03but behind that photo lies the real truth.
00:07Shut up!
00:08Shut up.
00:09Yeah, shut up!
00:10Shut up.
00:11You're absolutely .
00:12You'll never learn to communicate.
00:13Your damn sucks.
00:15I can't live here like this.
00:17You need to use your brain just for once in your damn life.
00:19What the hell were you both thinking?
00:21What respect do you have for one another?
00:24Stop thinking of your self.
00:26Is that what you're gonna do?
00:27Just walk away now, is it?
00:28Yep.
00:29Stop the dude I told you to do now!
00:32Get up.
00:33You're trying to be a wise guy.
00:35You're talking over me.
00:37Like, what's going on?
00:39Talk to me, Ashley.
00:40I'm very frustrated.
00:42I don't want to be here with him.
00:45I wish they could stop yelling at each other.
00:49Go off.
00:50I think you're stupid.
00:51Why are you continuing to drag these innocent children
00:55through this situation?
00:57I don't want to leave.
00:58Well, kids were supposed to be happy, not sad.
01:06Behind the portrait is the truth.
01:09And I'm here to deal with the truth.
01:11I'm here to visit the Meade family who live in Westlake Village, California.
01:21And they do desperately need help because they're a family in turmoil.
01:25I'm Tara Meade, and I'm 47.
01:28I'm David Meade, and I'm 44 years old.
01:31When David and I got married, it was a beautiful ceremony, sunset.
01:35We were very happy. It was a wonderful time.
01:38We have four wonderful children.
01:41They are what hold us together.
01:44I wish we were here for each other, but we're here right now for our children.
01:49Well, let's face it.
01:50Their marriage right now has expired.
01:52There's no love.
01:53There's no trust.
01:54And they do nothing but argue and shout and yell at one another.
01:58She's our child. Get the phone. Be a parent.
02:01You are an angry girl.
02:03That's lots.
02:04Why would I want to hang out with somebody that does this thing all the time?
02:07I want to have a nice time. I want to have a nice conversation.
02:10I'm tired of the stupid stuff to argue about.
02:13Back me up just for once, huh?
02:15Dad's relationship with his daughter is absolutely poor.
02:20There is no bond. There is no relationship.
02:23Ashley was my baby, baby. I mean, she was everything.
02:27I took her everywhere.
02:28But the turning point was when I caught Ashley with hard alcohol bottles, cigarettes, condoms,
02:34and in just the last three years, she has no respect for me whatsoever.
02:40You look like a when you said that.
02:42you.
02:43You lost your daughter.
02:46Who cares? You're not my daughter.
02:48See, that's what I want her.
02:50I hope my parents would get a divorce.
02:52Things need to change.
02:54And there are three younger children.
02:56Peyton, Roman, and Austin.
02:59And they really are feeling the effects of such anger and animosity in this family,
03:04where their needs are not being met as well.
03:06What is this for?
03:09One more year.
03:11One more year.
03:12One more year.
03:14One more year.
03:15Five bucks.
03:16My daughter wants to play.
03:17My look, my Dwayne.
03:17Dooh baby.
03:17My Dwayne!
03:18Bye Dwayne.
03:19Don't worry.
03:20The kids act like Dave Ashland and myself.
03:23The scream, they yell, sometimes they call people names and see things they shouldn't say.
03:27Yeah, my women's stupid.
03:29The area of mortals are mine.
03:30This is a family that not only are in disarray emotionally but physically as well.
03:37And it reflects in the state in the environment of the home, too
03:40I don't know what will happen if Jim can't help us. We may end up split up to worse like the rest of the world
03:50The problem is everybody's talking but nobody's listening
03:56See out there you say hello miss joe no, dude break that attitude
04:02Oh
04:06Hurry up
04:08Hi
04:10To meet you. Hello
04:12To meet you. What's your name young, sir? My name is Austin pleasure to meet you can I come in? Yep, thank you
04:19Oh, thank you. Thank you. What's your name? Payton. Payton pleasure to meet you. Do hi Dave pleasure pleasure
04:26I'm glad to be here. Glad to see you
04:28Be here so to get right down to it
04:31I really just want you guys to just carry on with what you would normally be doing today
04:36And I'll just mosey around if that's all right
04:38Absolutely, thank you appreciate it. You know generally when I go in and I visit a family
04:42I like to sit back a little bit observe on the outside
04:45You know it's part of what I do is the process and being able to help a family
04:48Hey, oh
04:52You're asking for it little guy
04:54I bet he's being an ass we're gonna correct this before you grow any older
05:02You don't call me a fat head come here. You're done get up. I'm taking your pudding
05:07Why'd you call her that I don't like that it comes out of your mouth. I've never said I shave some fat. Why don't you tell me?
05:14Come back here
05:22You lied to me about all the what are you doing? Picking it up really win yesterday. Yeah
05:30Just clean up the dog crap ash. Oh my god
05:33I
05:38Ask you in my room
05:40Okay, I would like that let's go into your room. Yes, that's a good idea
05:44It's private. Okay, let's come in then
05:48Come and sit down then I can hear I don't like the yelling in this house. I
05:55Try to make this house happy, but I can't because I'm just a little girl. That's all right
06:03That's right, and it's not your job my darling. Okay, I want you to know it's not your job
06:08Okay
06:10What would you like me to help your family with?
06:17Can you would like get them to stop yelling at each other for separate days?
06:25Because well kids were supposed to be happy not sad
06:30so
06:32Can you tell them that I'm I certainly can tell them that thank you for sharing your thoughts?
06:44These kids have any love love back in this house cuddles and kisses and affection and to govern us
06:52I'm
06:53mess
06:54You're just doing all your text paperwork and everything now yes, well he hands me everything
06:59Just in a pile
07:04I'll just bring you together for me. I just want to
07:08What's the situation there? I'm afraid to give her my stuff most of the time she doesn't file and organize it right so you don't trust
07:16Yeah, I don't trust her with all my paperwork all throughout the whole year
07:18I'd rather hold on to it. You don't really trust each other to do anything
07:21It is definitely a problem between us
07:23Take a look at here Joe. I'll show you what I'm talking about
07:26This stuff should be filed or done something with I I this is not the first time I've showed this
07:31Let me show you this this right here. I've asked her to organize and do something with
07:35You know you know here
07:36Jackpot
07:37Look at this female friend
07:39This is not stuff that's been filed
07:40A lot of this is from
07:41You're my proof about
07:42He made phone calls to his friend a female friend and I had proof of it
07:48Hold on a minute. Hold on a minute. I'm now so you now
07:51So now you're saying that he's having an affair
07:59I do believe he's he had an affair with her for a short time. Is this true?
08:03If you want to throw me under the bus like that you say how she got involved
08:07Well, how did she okay? She was your friend you would keep bringing her around and she fell for me
08:12I didn't fall for her and you fell back
08:14Really? She brought her in because we had a threesome with her
08:20So you was in a relationship with this woman
08:24Okay, and you believe that he carried on these
08:27Induendos and these this behavior beyond the three yes, he did it's your friend
08:33You brought her in you made it happen. I didn't instigate anything what he gave to her emotionally
08:39And physically I deserve that. No, you don't I
08:44Deserve the happy why you treat me like crap every day you tell me you hate my guts every day Tara. I think you're stupid
08:51That's what I think you're a idiot. I told you not to bring that one thing up
08:56You need to use your brain just for once in your damn life. You know that I'm sick and tired of the stupid
09:01You do you play with fire and you've got both you know, you don't bring that into marriage
09:07Are you struggling right now?
09:09With letting go of what was and what happened and moving forward?
09:15It's hard to let go
09:19Very hard and I do love him ask myself why am I here?
09:24I feel stupid and weak
09:28But I love my children
09:31But you know the kids know the truth don't you?
09:35They sense it they see it I mean you're not hiding nothing from them
09:41I've only been in that house 10 minutes and I asked a few questions and it all came out
09:46I'm grateful that they've been honest about this because it will allow me to do what's necessary
09:52Everyone having a meltdown today
09:54Some issues
10:01But I'm the boss
10:04Kids are playing up the kids are being moody and mom and dad are doing what?
10:09What's the milk Peyton would you like that would you like some milk? Is that how?
10:17Austin would normally sit down and have dinner or lunch. He needs the television. Oh, yeah keep him occupied
10:22Yeah, he just without the television but that television it just ruins his whole day. You like it that much?
10:29The television ruins his whole day. Yeah
10:33Right Aislin
10:35You and I conversation come on heart to heart
10:39It's really going on. How do you see it?
10:41My dad and I have nothing to do with each other anymore. We just
10:46Yell do you miss your dad? No
10:49He's calls me so much and it hurts and I'm his daughter. So if I call him
10:56He it hurts him. He doesn't see that being called a fat hurts. So you've been
11:02Talking the way back to him because you obviously don't have any respect for him
11:05I don't I wouldn't I don't even know if it's worth fixing
11:08When did you lose respect for your dad and he cheated on my mom it tore the family apart?
11:13And I an ideal family for you would be what you know that we unique my dad was removed everything would be perfectly fine
11:20What would you like us to go? Let's sit at the table. Okay
11:34Let's just cut straight to the boil of really what's going on in this home
11:44We've got three young children who have been raised
11:49In a dysfunctional family and you nod your heads like yeah yeah yeah if you're unhappy if you don't want this anymore
11:58Why are you continuing to beat each other up and to drag these innocent children through this situation?
12:05Here's your reality check is what I'm seeing in this home is a true representation of who the pair of you are right now
12:15You're messed up and you made some serious
12:18Mistakes with respects to your decisions and how you are gonna spice up your marriage
12:23You are both to blame for taking part in a sexual endeavor that has led you to the disastrous place that you're in now
12:36What the hell were you both thinking?
12:39What respect do you have for one another?
12:42I would just that's what she wanted that's what she got
12:45Oh really that's your attitude is it?
12:48And you brought the woman to the party and you went great she was for it and now the pair of you behaving this way
12:54I didn't bring her in what did she come on a stalk terror did she did somebody just deliver her to the door
12:59Did the tooth fairy realize that there was no sex going on in the bedroom?
13:06It's been a long time at the bottom of the well
13:12Do you both want this?
13:15Absolutely
13:18I don't know I have a hard time forgiving all of it
13:22I can't just do that immediately I can't I'm not gonna lie to myself
13:27I feel dead inside and I shouldn't I don't deserve it
13:35You need to think Tara whether I'm coming back tomorrow to help the pair of you
13:43Put things on track
13:45Laying things to rest
13:48Moving forward as a couple who are married
13:53And as parents raising their children or whether I'm coming back here tomorrow to help two people who have
14:03Decided to no longer be committed to one another but committed to their children
14:09You've been sitting in this space too long okay
14:12Tomorrow I come back and I will need to know which way I'm helping you all okay
14:18Mom has got some serious thinking to do
14:25This is far from over this is just the beginning
14:28If what you saw in there tonight you thought was it tomorrow's a whole different day
14:34Oh boy
14:36Well today's judgment day there's one decision that needed to be made and I'm about to find out pretty soon
14:48Whether mom makes a decision to part ways with Dave or whether they stay together and start moving forward
14:59Okay, so I left you with a very serious decision and I've brought you out here today to basically ask you what that decision is
15:07I thought about it
15:10But not very long my thoughts very quickly go back to the fact. I'd like to work on my family. I
15:16I love him. I want to rekindle things. I believe he feels that way
15:23Well, I think the first step you can do is to take responsibility
15:27For your part in this just have a quick conversation with Aislin say to her
15:33I know how you felt about the disloyalty
15:37But I need to also take responsibility for actually creating some of this mess, too
15:42Yes
15:43All right, okay
15:45Need a hug? Need a hug?
15:49Stand on your own two feet. You need to be stronger
15:52Mum has decided to stay. I'm happy that she's made that decision
15:57Because there's nothing better than putting the love back in the home and actually working on what's necessary
16:04For all of the family all of them
16:06As much as your dad and I have hated each other in the past I've decided to stay with him
16:15I know what happened with your dad and I
16:20Wasn't right and I know that affected you and I know it made you hate your dad
16:25And you I believe you instigated that didn't you to some degree, too
16:29You know, I did create a lot of it I did
16:34I did
16:35And I'm sorry
16:39I'm sorry about how to go through all this
16:44I am
16:45And I take full responsibility for myself and my actions and what I've done
16:55He has to work on a lot
16:59I want you
17:00Ashlyn
17:01To work on things with your dad
17:04I don't want you to hate him
17:06We're gonna work it out
17:07Gotta try
17:09For all of us
17:10It was important for mum to just be real with Ashlyn
17:16I do know that mum needs to talk to Dave
17:19And to be able to start a fresh slate
17:23So that we can move forward
17:25I'm really pleased to hear that Tara truly does want to, you know, make this work between the pair of you
17:34In saying that, I want to let you begin
17:37I apologize for mentioning her name all the time
17:41Because I know I put you through a lot
17:43And I do that on purpose
17:44I admit that
17:45So
17:46We have a lot to work on
17:48And I want to do that
17:51Because I love you
17:52I'm gonna try to put it in the past
18:02So we can move on
18:04But I do believe it takes two
18:13To work at this marriage
18:16Not just me
18:18And I need you here for me
18:19Not just the kids
18:20I'd like you to respond
18:25Yeah, well, you know, I feel like you don't try to make me happy at all, you know
18:32And that's why I get bitter
18:36Okay
18:37Can you excuse me for one moment, please?
18:39David, I'd like a word with you outside, please
18:40Really?
18:47Feel good, did it?
18:49I don't understand
18:50Feel good to sit at a table and watch your wife cry and tell you she was sorry
18:56And yet when it was your turn to respond to her
18:59You couldn't even find a bone in your body
19:04To turn around and apologize for your part in this as well
19:08And to even reach out and tell her that you love her
19:11Really, Dave?
19:12Oh, well, I misunderstood
19:13I didn't misunderstand what she wanted
19:15No, you never
19:15No, do not me, Dave
19:18Do not
19:19You may have many people fooled
19:21But if you think you have the wall over my eyes
19:24Let me tell you something
19:25You're gravely mistaken
19:26Stop thinking of your self
19:28Let me tell you what's gonna happen
19:29Your missus will walk
19:30And she'll take her kids with her
19:32And you'll be on your own
19:33Like an old lonely man
19:34Wondering why you didn't leave your ego
19:37Outside this house
19:39And take care of what you needed to
19:41Wow
19:43Right now, you're acting like a coward
19:46Right now
19:47And it disgusts me that you're doing that
19:49Do you hear me?
19:51Yes, I'm asking you very nicely
19:51Then if you care, then go in and show me
19:54You see, you're a child
19:56A child
19:58Well, I don't agree with you
20:02So what, you're gonna walk away and slam the door
20:05Is that how you wanna deal with the professional, is it?
20:09Is that what you're gonna do?
20:10Just walk away now, is it?
20:11Yep, I walk away when I have a problem
20:13Oh, great
20:13And that's great
20:14Then why don't you come back after you've had your soul?
20:25So at this stage, I don't know where Dad is
20:27He's obviously gone for a walk
20:29To cool off
20:30And now he's not only worried
20:32That I know the truth
20:33He's now worried about the whole world knowing the truth
20:35He's been called out
20:37I'm glad you came back
20:49Thank you for joining us
20:52So, please, please
20:56Tara, I love you, man
20:57I wouldn't be here if I didn't
20:58You know, we have four kids
21:00And, you know, we need to be together
21:02I can't do it without you
21:03I need you to be close to me
21:05And listen to me
21:06And communicate
21:07And love
21:07And laugh
21:08I want to be treated like
21:10Your friend and your husband
21:13Someone that you
21:14You want to come home
21:16Because it makes you happy
21:17Not because you want to talk down to me
21:19I'm going to ask you to do something moving forward
21:23That I think is imperative
21:24To this marriage
21:25I believe
21:27That you both
21:29Need to do
21:30Six weeks
21:31Once a week
21:32Individual
21:33Counseling
21:34I want you to commit to doing that
21:36You both need
21:39Beyond me
21:40So, here is what I have for you
21:43A marriage commitment
21:44Okay, the pair of you
21:46So, you hereby commit to six individual
21:48One-hour therapy sessions
21:50With a counselor
21:51Trust me, when you've been here
21:53You're going to want to do more
21:54So, here is our first step
21:55I'm not perfect
21:58Nobody is
21:59Nobody is
22:00Thank you
22:05You're welcome
22:05I feel mentally tired right now
22:07It's been a very long day
22:08Working with this family
22:10Bad habits have been created
22:11And certainly bad memories
22:13Have been created in this home
22:15And what I want to do
22:16Is to start putting some happy moments
22:18In this house
22:19Some love
22:19Some affection
22:20And I certainly have a game plan
22:22To be doing that tomorrow
22:23After a really heavy emotional day yesterday
22:32Today I'm coming back
22:33To sort this house out
22:35Have you ever seen so much mess and junk everywhere
22:38This family is in disarray
22:40Emotionally and physically
22:42And when you have a family
22:44That just can't see eye to eye
22:46It reflects in the state
22:47And the environment of the home too
22:48I also want to work with Dave and Ashlyn
22:52Because I think it's so important
22:53At this stage now
22:54That they come together
22:55And spend some good quality time together
22:57So I wanted to give you
23:01This
23:03Rules of engagement
23:05And as you can see
23:07The first one here
23:08No bringing up the past as a new mission
23:10I really believe we need to start looking forward
23:13No point bringing it up
23:15No insults
23:16Doesn't get us anywhere
23:18Okay
23:18And they're hurtful
23:19I think it's absolutely essential
23:21That the three of you
23:23Really follow these rules of engagement
23:25Alright come and join me
23:28In the living room
23:28Tear our TV off
23:30In the living room
23:33What I want to do is concentrate
23:34On your living quarters
23:36Okay
23:37I don't see a family right now
23:39Who are proud of where they live
23:41I mean to see bunk beds today
23:43And know that they've not been put up
23:44And the kids could be off the floor
23:46You know it's creating nice sleeping space
23:49For the children
23:50There is this filing cabinet
23:52That we have here
23:53For you to be able to put
23:54And label
23:55Where things need to go
23:57So I want us to just spend
23:59The next couple of hours
24:00With full max energy
24:02So that we can get this done
24:05Alright let's get going then
24:07Hair's going up
24:08I don't know about you
24:08But get no work done
24:10And guess what we're going to do
24:14Put up the bunk beds
24:15And get you your bed
24:16Yay
24:17Okay we need rooms
24:18You see all the receipts
24:20In your room
24:20And everything
24:21Everything
24:22Taken away and filed
24:23Pull their sleeves up
24:24Let's get in there
24:26And make this house
24:28More conducive to a living
24:30Loving family environment
24:32Let's get some organisation
24:34Ashlyn
24:35So you take care of the whole kitchen area
24:38Right now right
24:38Okay Roman, Austin, Peyton
24:40Out of this room
24:41Come on dad's trying to get the beds together
24:43Build artwork
24:45We're getting there
24:47Thank you
24:49Peyton
24:54Roman and Austin
24:55Let's come outside
24:56Come with me
24:57Come with me kids
24:58Come with me
24:59Okay come over here
25:00I want you to come over here
25:01Okay
25:02Stay there
25:03There's the gate on the other
25:06Oh yeah
25:14Alright hold on
25:18Austin
25:20Where is your box?
25:23Roman
25:23Where is your box?
25:25Right there
25:26Peyton
25:26Where is your box?
25:28Okay
25:29Listen to Jojo
25:30Look at me
25:31The toys you are going to choose
25:34From this pile
25:35You are going to put in your own box
25:38They're the toys that you will play with
25:42When mummy and daddy say to you
25:44Go and play with your toys
25:45Up you get
25:46And choose the toys you would like to put in your box
25:48These kids have got so much toys
25:50I don't even think they know what they've got
25:51To be honest with you
25:52Just an enormous amount of toys
25:55To do what?
25:56To pacify?
25:57To compensate?
25:59They don't know any different
26:00The fact is
26:01Is that they're probably rediscovering
26:03All of their toys right now
26:05Oh that's a good one
26:12I like that
26:12Oh guys
26:14Oh here's my money box
26:17Oh here's my money
26:20My money
26:21My money
26:22I'm all filled up
26:26Austin do you see anything else?
26:30It's like a sea of toys
26:32Three
26:34Two
26:35One
26:36High five
26:39And a boy
26:40Give me a box
26:40Give me a high five
26:41Good sorting out your stuff
26:43Austin give me a high five
26:44Good sorting out your stuff
26:45All right
26:47Okay
26:48Push them on in
26:49Can you do it?
26:53I'm flabbergasted
26:55There was like five or six other boxes
26:57In that garage
26:58I cannot believe
26:59The amount of toys
27:01These kids have been bought
27:02To pacify
27:03To be honest with you
27:04To pacify
27:05Really
27:06Your behaviour
27:07Dave's behaviour
27:08The environment
27:11In that house
27:12You cannot replace
27:13What they fundamentally need
27:15In their life
27:15With toys
27:16Love and affection
27:17And time
27:17You cannot
27:18How's it going on in here?
27:20The filing is wonderful
27:21If I can take one of these boxes
27:25So you've labelled stuff
27:27So that actually you know
27:27What's in each box
27:28Okay
27:29And just the cleanliness
27:30Of this space here
27:31Gosh
27:32I can breathe
27:32It's great
27:33Yeah
27:33So this room
27:34Very happy with
27:36Let's move into here
27:37Cleaned up all the grates
27:39Here with the
27:39You've noticed
27:40Tiles
27:41Yeah
27:41Just the dirt
27:42That was in the cracks here
27:43Alone
27:43Yes
27:44It was the roof
27:45Okay
27:46This is the room
27:47I'm really impressed with as well
27:48I mean
27:49Look at how much room
27:50Is on each side
27:51I know
27:51If it was like
27:52Meant for this room
27:53Oh look at how wonderful
27:56Can we say
27:57Thank you
27:58Thank you
28:00Wow
28:01Dave and Ashlyn
28:06We're moving
28:08We're making speed
28:09How are you feeling?
28:09Good
28:10Ashlyn
28:11Good
28:11The only way
28:12You get to build your relationship
28:14Is to hang out
28:15Just to hang out with each other
28:17I want you to spend some time together
28:19Being pushed to build up
28:23My relationship with my dad
28:24It may change
28:26But it's not going to change right away
28:27Just go now
28:30And hang out and spend some time
28:31Cool deal
28:32And keep up with this
28:33I want some dates
28:34Okay
28:35Father and daughter dates
28:36To hang out
28:36Joe sent me and my dad
28:38Out of the house
28:39I can't remember
28:40When the last time
28:41Me and my dad
28:41Has done anything together
28:43So what do you think
28:50Do you think that
28:51All this is going to help
28:52You're going to follow
28:52The rules
28:54Are you
28:55Yeah
28:55I like rules
28:56What are you learning
28:58I'm just going to slow down
29:00And not get so upset
29:03I think mom really does
29:05Want to give this a try
29:06She needs things to work out
29:09I do too
29:10It's been like three years
29:13Since we've been hanging out
29:14Doing things together
29:15You know
29:16Yeah
29:17You're very important to me
29:20I want to spend more time with you
29:21Don't you wanna?
29:24Or no?
29:24When we were sitting down
29:27It felt really awkward for me
29:28But I want to see if I can
29:32Build up my relationship
29:33With my dad
29:34I don't know for sure
29:35If it will work
29:36But it's probably slowly
29:38Gonna get better
29:39I leave you all
29:43For a while
29:45To implement
29:46The techniques
29:48And the rules
29:49That have been put
29:49In this house
29:50So I'm leaving you
29:51With the Mead family homework
29:52Kids
29:53No television
29:54No television
29:57But this is what
29:57We are gonna do
29:58Puzzles
29:59Reading
30:00Arts and crafts
30:01Tickling daddy
30:02Until he can't laugh anymore
30:04Okay
30:05Tara and Dave
30:07I want you to begin
30:08The counselling
30:09Alright
30:10Show me good promise
30:11Show your family
30:12Good promise
30:13And the full family
30:15You will go and enjoy
30:16A day out
30:17And enjoy that
30:18Alright
30:18So
30:19It is possible
30:21Bye
30:22Good night
30:23Sleep well
30:25Bye y'all
30:25Come back to see us sometime
30:27You hear that
30:27Bye bye
30:28Bye love
30:29I'm feeling really good
30:30Right now
30:31Leaving this family
30:32However
30:32My concerns are
30:34Ashlyn
30:35Becoming very
30:36Negative towards her parents
30:39And insulting
30:39So I am gonna be rooting
30:41For this family
30:42Every day until I get back
30:43Just praying and hoping
30:44That they're gonna hold it together
30:46Say goodbye to the TV
30:57No
30:58Yeah
30:58We're gonna move it out of here
30:59Okay
31:00I did what Joe asked me to do
31:01Remove the TVs
31:02And the video games
31:03What?
31:07Hold on
31:07It's going outside
31:08Girl
31:09I'm gonna see the TV
31:11Let go
31:11Let go
31:12Say goodbye
31:12Say bye
31:14See you soon
31:15See you soon
31:16Let's play
31:21Come on
31:22Hey
31:23Hey let's play
31:25Forget that
31:26Come on
31:26Come on
31:29Stand up
31:32It's not a big deal
31:32Let's talk about some toys
31:36Hey
31:36Come here
31:37Before Joe would've came over
31:42I probably would've gave in
31:43And just gave him back to television
31:44For a little while
31:45And just took it away
31:46When he wasn't watching
31:46Baby
31:47Baby
31:48I sure hope Joe would be proud of how I'm handling it
31:52I'm sure trying real hard
31:54It's okay
31:55Okay
31:56It's baby steps and I'm ready to get the process started
32:10But I also am nervous
32:11Opening up cans of worms
32:14So to speak
32:14Not just one but many
32:16Yeah I bet
32:17I'm glad there's the first step taken
32:21I'm very thankful
32:22And we know where to go
32:24We know what to do
32:25And we put this foot forward
32:26And it's working
32:27I feel better today
32:28What pulled you back into the marriage
32:31I get overly frustrated
32:33I raise my voice
32:35And I yell at times
32:36And I gotta stop doing that
32:39I'm gonna do this
32:40Because I want things to change
32:41You know
32:42I think there's hope for us
32:44Because you know
32:45Obviously we need to get some stuff off our chest
32:47Or whatever
32:47Hopefully we'll clear the air
32:48And we can go on
32:49We're our family outing
33:01We went to the pirate dinner adventure
33:03I heard Austin laughing
33:19Over hundreds of people
33:20And he loves it
33:22He's having fun
33:23They're using their imagination
33:24He is out there having a good time
33:28I had a great time
33:30At the pirate dinner adventure
33:31Because our whole family got together at once
33:34And we normally don't do that
33:36The only thing that I didn't like
33:38Was that I sat next to my dad
33:40Everything that he's told me before
33:43I can't just forget about it
33:45Because those things did hurt
33:47And they scarred me
33:48But since it's my dad
33:49I think I'd like to see us
33:51Getting along
33:52And me not feeling frustrated at him
33:54One, two, three
33:56Arr!
33:58Arr!
34:06Ashlyn?
34:07Come get your mask
34:09Oh, I didn't want to touch that
34:12That was disgusting
34:12Since Joe's left
34:14I feel that Ashlyn just became
34:17The way she was before
34:18No, no, no
34:19This is wrong
34:20Ashlyn
34:22Come on
34:24There's a serious lack of
34:25I don't care
34:26Don't be a fat kid growing up
34:30It's not fun
34:32What makes you think that you
34:34Stay to do that?
34:35If she's fat when she's older
34:36She's going to understand
34:38Why I'm trying to help her
34:39I'm going to ask you to please stop
34:39He has no friends down the street
34:43I'm going to ask you to stop
34:44Stop it
34:46It's not funny
34:48You're not being funny
34:49You're not being cute
34:50I'm not trying to be cute
34:51I'm not trying to be funny
34:52You don't need to do that to her
34:53I'm not doing it to her
34:54Payton, come here
34:54Stop it
34:55She told Payton, you know
34:57She had no friends
34:58And no one likes her
34:59I wasn't even mad
35:00I was
35:01My feelings were hurt for Payton
35:02She's on a wall running around
35:04Crying because of you
35:05You're not her parent
35:07I am disgusted
35:08I'm not talking to anybody
35:10Because I'm right
35:10No, then go to your room
35:12And don't talk to anybody
35:13I'll go to my room
35:13I'm not going to talk to anybody
35:14For you to do that to her
35:16At six years old
35:17Is so wrong
35:18I'm trying to help her
35:20We're not helping her
35:20You're trying to be a wise guy
35:22You're talking over me
35:24That's a little girl
35:24And she'll need that from you
35:26Why I'm doing this
35:27Payton
35:29Come here, honey
35:31I understand where it comes from
35:35I really, really do
35:36Ashlyn
35:37She handled it like her father
35:39Handled things with her
35:40She was hurt from the past
35:42So that came out that way
35:43On Payton
35:44There's no anger here
35:45Relax
35:46It's just maybe
35:48See it differently
35:49I didn't
35:50I grew up a big kid
35:51People called me names
35:53People never hung out with me
35:54I was
35:54I had less friends
35:55Than everybody else
35:56Stop
35:56Listen
35:57Listen right now
35:58You are your father
36:00He is you
36:01You are the same
36:02The worst person on earth
36:03You just called me
36:04I'm not going to play your games
36:05I'm going to walk away
36:06And you can spend the whole
36:07Entire day in here
36:08Because I'm frustrated
36:09You make me
36:10Everyone's frustrated
36:11You need to apologise
36:12I'm not apologising
36:14You will
36:15It's return day with the Mead family
36:23What have they been doing
36:24Whilst I've not been there
36:26I'm not expecting everything
36:27To be perfect for this family
36:29They had a lot of work to do
36:31Hello
36:32Hi
36:32Hello
36:33How was your dinner out
36:36Isn't it cool
36:37Individually
36:38It was a blast
36:38It was great
36:39But I really enjoyed
36:40Also watching them laugh
36:42And get involved
36:43Everybody had a great time
36:45It's a real fun thing
36:46To do for the family
36:47How you doing love?
36:48Good to see you
36:49I can't get my TV back please
36:52The TV's went out the house
36:53The first day
36:54They did
36:55They did
36:56And who took them out?
36:57I did
36:57You took them out
36:58Just explain how that went down
37:00It was horrible
37:01He was throwing tantrum about it
37:05He threw himself on the ground
37:06Remember this is not just something he enjoyed
37:08And played a lot of
37:10This also was the babysitter for him as well
37:13Whilst everything else was going on
37:15So he's become very addicted to the television
37:19And it's also his escapism as well
37:21It's where he zoned out
37:22Let's step back over here for a moment
37:25So we can take a look at this
37:26As we are looking at the rules of engagement here
37:29Who do you feel was the worst?
37:33Probably Ashlyn
37:34Are you aware of that?
37:40Ash?
37:43Ashlyn and Nyle, let's have a chat
37:44What are you so angry about right now?
37:53Because you're sitting there fuming
37:55And you're not talking about it
37:57What's happening right now?
38:01Your parents have got every right
38:03To be annoyed with you
38:04If you don't really pull your socks up
38:08And do what you're supposed to do
38:09You are going to force your parents
38:11To do things that you're not going to like
38:13Why would you want that?
38:16Like, what's going on?
38:18Talk to me, Ashlyn
38:19I'm very frustrated
38:25What are you frustrated with?
38:27Here
38:27Living here
38:29Excuse me
38:34It's okay to feel angry
38:39It's okay to feel hurt
38:41It's okay for you to feel that
38:43But to hold on to all that anger
38:46And all that hatred
38:48Is what will make you ill
38:49You need to be able to own up
38:52For the things that you're not doing
38:53And put it right
38:54Dave, come here please
38:57Dave
39:05Just
39:06Allow us to know
39:09That you know
39:10How you've behaved
39:12That has been wrong
39:13I guess I've been kind of abusive, man
39:16I didn't realize it
39:18You know
39:19I've been trying to get you to come around
39:21And listen to me
39:22And stuff
39:23And I've been going about it
39:24The wrong way, I guess
39:25I love you to death, Ashlyn
39:28You know I do
39:29Right?
39:32I know that
39:34I'm sorry
39:35Did you accept your father's apology?
39:41Yeah
39:42Do you actually want a relationship
39:44With your dad?
39:45I want it if he changes
39:46The way he talks
39:47But at some stage, Ashlyn
39:50You need to look at
39:52How you're going to move past that
39:54What are you going to do
39:55With respects to how you talk
39:57To your family?
39:59I'm going to talk with respect
40:00And I'm going to do what I'm told
40:02Before they ask
40:04It's a start
40:05Alright?
40:07It's about making it work
40:08And you both have to
40:10Make the effort
40:11You guys are like
40:13Two peas in a pod
40:14Seriously
40:15Which
40:16Can have you
40:18Banging heads together
40:19Like stags
40:20So you need to move on from this
40:23You need to do what you need to do
40:25Getting things off my chest today
40:27Has been a really big release
40:30For me on my behalf
40:31It was hard to
40:33Say those things that I've said
40:35But after I've said it
40:37I felt a lot better
40:38Payton, you can come with me, my love
40:42So do you remember when
40:44When I first came here
40:46Yes
40:47And do you remember what you said to me?
40:49Yes
40:49What did you say?
40:51Can you help me, Miss Jill?
40:53Because my mum and dad
40:56Were yelling a lot
40:58At each other
40:59And then you fixed it
41:01Right?
41:03It's fixed now?
41:04Is it getting better?
41:06Yeah
41:06Okay
41:07That's a good thing then, right?
41:08So what have you noticed then?
41:11Um
41:11I noticed that
41:13If they didn't yell at each other
41:16That it would be a better thing
41:19Right?
41:19It is better
41:20This is a good thing
41:21This makes me very happy
41:22So I just wanted to gather you all together
41:27Because it's time for me to leave
41:29I feel there's a lot that's been learnt
41:32And a lot that continues
41:35Thank you for being brave enough
41:37To let me into your home
41:39Dave
41:40Boy, you're a tough cookie
41:42But not impossible
41:43I hope you can appreciate
41:44Where I had to go with you
41:46Oh, yeah
41:46In order to get you
41:48Where you needed to at least be
41:50Aislin
41:51You and I have had to have serious words today
41:53In order for you to be able to move forward
41:55You have to be responsible for your own behaviour
41:58The same for yourself as well, Tara, okay?
42:01Remember, continue with counselling
42:03Because it's so needed
42:05Oh, this is for me
42:09This is a gift for me
42:10Oh, wow
42:13This is beautiful
42:15There we go
42:16How about that?
42:18Very generous
42:19Thank you very much
42:20Before I leave
42:21What I'm going to ask you all to do
42:23Is to take a photo right now
42:25As a family
42:26So give me some love
42:27Give me some kisses
42:29It's because I've got to go now
42:30Bye-bye, darling
42:32Bye-bye
42:32Bye-bye
42:33Bye-bye
42:35Pink
42:37Take care of yourself, okay?
42:40Aislin, okay?
42:42Get yourself together
42:43Hey, big man, give me a hug
42:44Okay, guys
42:47Listen, take care
42:48Take care
42:50Take care
42:51Good night
42:52Drive careful
42:52Thank you
42:53Bye
42:53Bye
42:54Thank you, Miss Jo
42:56Take care
42:57Bye-bye
42:57Bye-bye
42:59I couldn't be more thankful
43:03More happy
43:04Settled within my heart
43:06To see not only my husband
43:08But my children happy
43:10To give us this gift
43:11Saved our family
43:13A lot of stuff
43:14I didn't have a clue about
43:15I'm going to try all the stuff
43:17She recommends, you know
43:18Because I really want
43:19A good relationship
43:19With my family
43:21Especially Ash
43:22Thank you, Miss Jo
43:23Thank you
43:24It's not been an easy journey
43:25For this family
43:26They've made baby steps forward
43:28And that's what I want to see
43:30This family continue to do
43:31Because this family
43:33Can do it
43:34If they really want to
43:35I want to see you guys
43:37I'll see you guys
43:42And that's how I'm going to die
43:46I'll see you guys
43:48You're enjoying
43:50You're looking for
43:53You
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