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With Dad away from home during the NBA season, Mom is left to look after the girls while he's gone. Supernanny will help her out!
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00:00My name is Mike, this is Angela, and we are the James family, and we have four kids.
00:07My oldest daughter, her name is Jayden James, she's eight years old.
00:11My second daughter, Amaya, she's five years old.
00:14We also have Michael, who's 20 months, and we have McKinley, and she is seven months.
00:20I'm going to my gym right now.
00:26I'm a professional basketball player.
00:28I play in the NBA with the New Orleans Hornets.
00:31My preparation for the season is very vital to me.
00:35Mike spends most of the day training.
00:37So I'm going away from the family majority of the day.
00:40Then when I leave for the basketball season, I'm going for six, seven months.
00:45This is new because usually when he leaves, I just pack the whole family up and we go where he is.
00:54This time we're going to stay here.
00:56So it's new territory for me.
00:59So now Angela's going to be the one that the majority of the time is going to have to deal with the kids.
01:04Jayden and also Amaya, they fight for my attention, they fight for their mother's attention.
01:10Michael, she's picking up both of their bad characteristics.
01:16No hitting.
01:19The parent that gets the most respect from the kids would definitely be Mike.
01:25Hey!
01:26We're going to share.
01:27Period.
01:28Jayden, that's enough.
01:29I guess because Angela's with them more, she tolerates more from them.
01:34Our biggest problem, major problem with our children is they're very active.
01:39They're very energetic.
01:40A big pool and yet these kids are unsupervised.
01:45Got to think of safety.
01:47I'm a woman that wears many hats, I guess like most women.
01:53Okay, let me call you back because children go on wild.
01:57Being an MBA wife, a mother of four, we have a new construction company.
02:02We formed two other new companies and I'm the vice president, writing checks, drawing up contracts
02:10and dealing with the accountants.
02:13I have a lot on my plate.
02:14Hi, Mommy!
02:15Stop it!
02:16Y'all better stop, I'm not playing with you.
02:18I'm feeling real chaotic right now.
02:21I would love to have time for myself.
02:25It's when all the kids are hungry and start going crazy.
02:29No!
02:30Baby!
02:33We try to do a regular schedule, but we've got so many new things going on.
02:38It's hard to get a schedule.
02:41Hey, Mom, you know it's too late for dinner when they're falling asleep.
02:46Finally it clicked.
02:47You're doing something wrong here, so I've got to figure it out.
02:51Mom's seriously stressed out here.
02:53There's just no way she can possibly take on it all.
02:56I need to help her.
02:57You only get one chance to raise your kids and I want to do it right.
03:01Supernanny, I would be so grateful for you to come into my home and help whip me into shape and my kids.
03:08Hang in there, Mom and Dad.
03:09I'm on my way.
03:10Hello!
03:20It was certainly a different scenario, me turning up to this house because they have electric gates.
03:26And I'm fully aware that I'm arriving to help a family who are in the limelight.
03:32Hello.
03:32How are you?
03:39Hi, Jo Cross.
03:40Pleased to meet you.
03:40Nice to meet you.
03:41My James.
03:42And this is my family.
03:43Hi.
03:44Hi.
03:45Look at this little one here.
03:46This is McKinley.
03:48Hi, McKinley.
03:49And what's your name?
03:50Amaya.
03:52Hi, Amaya.
03:53Pleased to meet you.
03:54You're going to shake JoJo's hand?
03:55Hi.
03:56Pleased to meet you.
03:57And is this your big sister here?
03:58Jaden.
03:59Hi, Jaden.
04:00Pleased to meet you.
04:01JoJo, how are you?
04:02Good.
04:03When Jo came, I wasn't sure what to expect.
04:06I didn't want there to be any presumptions, you know, whether it's NBA family or I just
04:13didn't want her to assume.
04:15Hi.
04:15Pleased to meet you.
04:18Oh, I love it.
04:18You're in for a good ride, aren't you, buddy?
04:22A nice little ride.
04:23A nice one.
04:25I also got a chance to meet the nanny, too.
04:27Hi, Nanny V, right?
04:28Nanny, Nanny Jo.
04:30Nanny Jo.
04:31Hi, pleased to meet you.
04:32Nice to meet you, too.
04:33Growing up, I didn't have a nanny, and so I'm just used to doing it without much assistance.
04:39But you burn the candle at both ends of the stick, and it's not healthy.
04:43We'll do the Buckingham Palace tour, shall we?
04:45The first thing I did was to look around the property because it's very large, and I wanted
04:50to get an essence of really where everybody spends their time.
04:57So my profession is being a ball player, so why not have my gym in my backyard?
05:01Yeah, for real.
05:02Yeah, for real.
05:02So I can do all my training.
05:08This is McKinley's room, but I want to put Michael and McKinley in this room.
05:13So Michael would sleep there, and McKinley would sleep there.
05:16All right, okay.
05:17So eventually, you're going to have both kids in this room, the youngest ones.
05:21But at the moment, you just have...
05:23Nobody up here.
05:25Oh, right.
05:25Okay, nobody.
05:26Right, okay, so it's all set up, but nobody's in here.
05:29All right, okay.
05:33Okay, Maya, this is your room, is that right?
05:34Yes.
05:35Okay, so are you...
05:37Do you sleep in your room then?
05:38No, not yet.
05:39All right, okay.
05:41So no one sleeps in their rooms.
05:43Hold on a minute.
05:44Where do they all sleep?
05:45They sleep in the playroom.
05:48They all sleep in the playroom.
05:49All right, we'll get to the playroom with them, will we?
05:51So even though they have beautiful rooms that are ready for them to go into,
05:55they all sleep together in one tiny playroom.
05:58And this is where they hang out and sleep and do everything.
06:03So all of them are here at the moment?
06:04Michael, Jayden, and Amaya.
06:07Right, okay.
06:08And obviously, the little ones in your room.
06:09Yeah.
06:10After everybody had settled for a little bit,
06:12Dad went off to the basketball courts to practice.
06:14I'll see y'all later.
06:16Love you.
06:17And Mum went into her office to sort out some business and take care of the kids as well.
06:22Don't put any tape on our mouth, baby.
06:24Sorry, Christy.
06:24Maya, don't climb up there.
06:25You know better.
06:26Now I'm confused.
06:27I'm on...
06:28I'm in the company file.
06:32Okay.
06:32And it's just these two.
06:34So we're good on the foundation.
06:35We're good on the basketball experience.
06:38Michael, get down.
06:40So you're trying to do business and you're the kids?
06:42Uh-huh.
06:44This is what it's like for you all the time.
06:46Yeah.
06:47They're okay right now because I know they're going to look at the books and just...
06:51I can see them.
06:52Okay.
06:53And now I'm going to go back to open and restore company.
06:57Hey.
06:58Oh, sorry, Christine.
07:00No, no.
07:00Don't play with that.
07:01After Mum had finished doing her business in the office,
07:03she actually had a bit of a shock because she couldn't find Jayden.
07:08Where is Jayden?
07:10Jayden?
07:12Do you know where Jayden is?
07:13Mm-mm.
07:16It turns out that the nanny thought that Mum was looking after Jayden and so neither knew where she was.
07:23And they actually live on a really large property with a swimming pool that's not protected or alarmed.
07:30So it's a very scary, dangerous situation.
07:33The kids are in the office.
07:34Mike's nowhere to be seen.
07:36The nanny is over here.
07:38I mean, what's going on?
07:38I don't know where Jayden is.
07:43Do you know where Jayden is?
07:44Mm-mm.
07:46So I'm here working with NBA basketball player Mike James and his family.
07:53Mum doesn't know where Jayden is, neither does the nanny.
07:57Miss Valder, did you see Jayden?
08:00No.
08:01Nobody knows where she is and we're on a property that's extremely large
08:05with a swimming pool that's not protected.
08:08So do you find yourself doing the old walk around the house trying to find her?
08:22Oh, yeah.
08:24Usually she's here.
08:26Yeah, she's good.
08:27Jayden, you're fine.
08:28You just need to make sure you let me know you're down here.
08:32Because I didn't know where you were.
08:33There needs to be more communication of who's got the kids and where are they right now.
08:38So sometimes the girls, they'll go off because this is all their home.
08:42Yeah.
08:43And then you're left going, where are the girls?
08:45And that worries you.
08:46Yeah.
08:46Because you don't know where they are.
08:48I don't like it when they do that because then you're sitting down at your desk for two hours
08:52and you look up and somebody snatch your kids and I don't know.
08:55Yeah, yeah, yeah.
08:56The whole family have a long day ahead.
08:58There's lots to be done and there's no schedule.
09:01There's no structure in this house that supports the pair of them to keep them on the same page.
09:05So really, who knows what they're doing?
09:07So there's no real set kind of routine?
09:10Um, I usually do have them in bed by 8.30, between 8.30 and 9.
09:16What, all of them?
09:16No.
09:18Oh, just the oldest two who have to go to school.
09:22When they get four and having to go to real school, then I make sure.
09:26These kids go to bed far too late because these kids need at least 10 hours and they're not getting it.
09:31Come on.
09:35So you're taking the kids up to bed now?
09:37Yeah, we're just going to hang out in the playroom, which is where they sleep, so.
09:44The family live in a really huge house and all the girls have beautifully decorated rooms.
09:51However, they all sleep in this really small room.
09:54Where's your blanket?
09:56I grew up with a very big family, so it's not uncommon, especially in smaller homes with larger
10:07families, that everybody just slept in the bed, so it was quite natural, really.
10:12What y'all doing?
10:13I'm just getting them down to bed.
10:16Dad did come back from the basketball court six and a half hours later,
10:20and I really wanted to see how he was going to put the kids to bed.
10:23I want a kiss.
10:24I don't particularly feel that the family recognized the importance of creating a calm
10:33environment for the body to be able to unwind and get into the sleep mode.
10:38Okay, time for bed now.
10:39No more games.
10:41Good night.
10:41All right, good night.
10:44Grab this one.
10:46Stop, stop, Jay.
10:48Then they get in bed and the parents kind of scratch their heads wondering why the
10:52children are not going to sleep yet and they have to keep going into the room.
10:57Yeah?
11:00Hello?
11:00Get your
11:02to bed.
11:03Stop playing with me.
11:07Don't play with me.
11:09I watched Dad put the kids to bed, and after that I wanted to sit down and talk to him about his
11:13take on bedtime and really what he thought about it.
11:16So is it equally important to yourself as it is to Angela to have the kids sleeping
11:22in their own rooms and having a bedtime routine?
11:26I don't care.
11:29It's not that important.
11:31You know, this is not about Mike James and his universe.
11:35You know, this is about him acknowledging also the people that have supported him
11:42and him becoming the success that he is.
11:45So what challenges do you think Angela's going to address whilst you're gone?
11:50Being away from me.
11:52That's our biggest challenge.
11:54How does it make you feel when you know that your wife's tired and she's depleted?
12:00One thing I learned is, especially in this world, first, there ain't no rest for the weary.
12:08I'm tired and depleted also.
12:10I understand that.
12:11But you know what?
12:12I'm tired of getting up every single morning, 7.30 in the morning.
12:15But I'm asking you about your wife.
12:16But I'm just saying, you know, but what I'm trying to explain to you is,
12:18I'm doing what I'm supposed to do on the court.
12:22She has to do what she has to do as far as with the business, with the finance, everything else.
12:26He became rather combative with me.
12:29It was just really uncordial to really behave that way when you've only just met somebody.
12:34So I see more than what you have seen in the past 24 hours.
12:38Not even 24 hours.
12:39I can't come to a conclusion on a situation in less than 12 hours.
12:42I'm about to show you how I can.
12:43Bull crap.
12:44I refuse to believe that.
12:47It's always easier to deal with somebody else's children.
12:52But until you have your own, you will never hold on.
12:55That's very arrogant.
12:56No, it's not.
12:57It's a truth.
12:58You're not even giving me a chance.
13:00You're not even giving me a chance.
13:01This is what I find amazing.
13:03That you actually had the...
13:04I'm giving you a chance.
13:05You actually had the control to make a decision to have me come here.
13:09And I'm appreciating you being here.
13:11You can't come to a better assessment about my family than I can.
13:15You can't.
13:16To help and resolve the situations, that's exactly what I am going to do.
13:19Otherwise, I won't be here.
13:20Okay, I ain't got nothing to say.
13:23I'm going to keep it going.
13:26Okay.
13:26You know what you're going to do?
13:28I'm listening.
13:29You're going to trust me.
13:30I'm going to listen to you.
13:31And I'll come to that assessment for myself when I listen to you.
13:35When you're trying to come into my family, and now, after a few hours, try to tell me
13:41how I'm supposed to be with my family, it's almost like, hold on.
13:46So, tomorrow, we'll have a nice family meeting, all right?
13:49We'll sit down.
13:50We'll talk about what needs to be addressed, all right?
13:53So that we can knuckle down and do some hard work.
13:55So, I'll see you tomorrow.
13:56I'll see you tomorrow.
13:57Okay.
13:58Good night.
13:59His statement is pretty typical of a parent who feels rather defensive and insecure about my presence
14:07in their household.
14:09I just hope that Mike starts to grow some empathy towards his wife's situation.
14:15See you tomorrow.
14:16Good night.
14:17You're welcome.
14:28Let's start off with this family meeting.
14:31What I'd like to do is to go through the issues that I feel need to be addressed.
14:36Have you gone through, like, the safety of the house with regards to, you know,
14:41the areas that you really want them to not be in at the moment, places where they need supervising?
14:47Do you have a pool?
14:48Do you have, like, a safety alarm in there?
14:49Like, what do you have?
14:51Because the house is big and it doesn't take long for fatal accidents to happen in the swimming pool.
14:58Like, Michael, she's the only one right now.
15:01That we worry about.
15:03But she wouldn't be able to get outside unless there's a reason for her being outside.
15:08No, she can open that door by herself.
15:10Right, okay.
15:11So, I think what we need to really think about is being able to have a conversation with the
15:15kids about safety, about no zone areas, supervision, safety with the pool is prevention.
15:24The thing that I want to talk about is the bedtime routine.
15:28There is a bedtime routine in the sense that I try to get the girls in bed, you know, by 8.30,
15:34at least the older two, because they have school. I try to put the 20-month-old in the bed with the
15:41older two, but she's just hadn't been ready for that.
15:44Do you want her ready for it?
15:45Yes. I want all four of them in the bed, 8, 8.30, downtime, sleep.
15:51She's more than ready for it. She's just pulling the leg that's got bells on right now.
15:56Okay.
15:57She's doing that. You're aware of that though, right, Mike?
15:59Of course.
15:59Yeah. Okay. So, explain to me why is it not a priority, because I know it is for yourself.
16:06It is a priority, because she has to deal with it. She's the one that puts them in bed the most
16:11of the time, so she has to deal with them, so of course it's a priority.
16:14I would certainly say making the bedrooms more personal to the girls by having little things
16:21up there that they're familiar with will allow them to feel quite snuggy-bug up in their bedrooms.
16:27And if one added, for example, some fairy lights or something that they liked.
16:31So, you know, there's lots of things you can do.
16:33I don't think that a light is going to make a difference. It's just all we have to do is now just
16:39convince them now why this is where they need to be, because they need to start sleeping in
16:43their bedrooms, and I think it's going to be all right. I don't think that that light...
16:48This house is quite a big house. You know what I'm saying? It's a lot of space between...
16:52But I understand the personalization of the rooms. Okay. I respect that. I have nothing to say. You're
17:00right. So it's important that we get things into practice, and that we have things running. And as
17:08you know, the James family are a team, and not one player is above his team. Right, Mike?
17:15Got to have a point guard and a captain, though. Got to have a team leader.
17:19God, I tell you what, I want to spend half this day chipping out of his ego, aren't I?
17:23Seriously. I'm joking. I'm messing with you.
17:26But, you know, you know what I'm saying, all right? You know, it takes a team.
17:29Yeah, I'm up for that. One, two, three, two. All right.
17:40I'm here at the household of Mike James. He's going off to training camp very, very soon,
17:45and I don't have a lot of time to put things into place. So every second counts. This is yours for
17:52the office. When you've got four kids, you've got to be flexible when you're creating a schedule.
17:57Simple as that, really. You leave at 7.30 to get the girls to school at 8. 45 minutes that leaves
18:04for you to get all the kids up, all the kids dressed, all the kids washed. A bit of breakfast
18:09down them, of course. I'd better get up at 6.30, OK? So, kids go till when? The girls go until 3,
18:17but on three days, they have after-school activities. And this is when Nanny V will come in. Looking at the
18:23list that Angela wrote shows me that this woman does need a schedule just to utilise her time.
18:30I'm all done with my board. Good for you. Go and put that in your office. Got you. That's a good
18:36piece of work there, Angela. Now that Mum's on schedule, I have a little something for Dad.
18:41We're going to let Mike take care of the girls, all four of them, by himself for about an hour. So you
18:49get me time. OK. Mike had mentioned to me in quite a hostile way that he did have empathy. He did know
18:56what his wife was feeling. He understood everything. How could he not? So I thought,
19:00let's have Mike live a day in the life of Angela and four kids. There is an instructor waiting in the
19:08gym for you to do some yoga. Oh, OK. I was curious to see how it would play out. Because he deals with
19:16the older kids, but he never really gets time to spend alone with all four of the girls at the same
19:23time. It's not as easy as I make it look. Just like his job. When I told Dad about it, it wasn't
19:32enthusiastic at all. You're going to look after the kids and take care of them for an hour. Do we
19:39have to stay here? Where are you going to go? Take them somewhere to go play video games, take the
19:43girls. Yeah, that would be too easy. It's just a little tough, especially for me to have a stranger
19:50come in. And I also don't like being pressed a certain way and pushed a certain way.
19:56He had the opportunity to play with them on the swing set.
20:02Jayden was on the swing and knocked Michael over. And there you go. Cheers.
20:06It's OK. It's OK.
20:22Fortunately, Michael wasn't hurt. And Dad calmed her down. And she was absolutely fine. But
20:27Mike wasn't done yet. Whoo! Whoo! I think McKinley got some duty in her booty. Angela!
20:42Dad took McKinley inside to change her and she started squirming around. And
20:47I actually just told Dad a useful piece of information. But he got really defensive with me.
20:53Mike might always wipe from front to back so she don't get no infection.
20:58This is my fourth daughter. Please. Got this right here, baby.
21:01All right, good.
21:04Will you lay down? Yo, why do you feel... Get your little...
21:07Daddy, can we go swimming?
21:10You know what? Let me think about this one, Jay.
21:13Uh, no.
21:17I really couldn't believe that these girls were asking to go into that large swimming pool with
21:24their daddy on his last day. And he didn't care about what they wanted to do. He was really putting
21:31up a fight. Amaya, find a movie.
21:34My movie's later.
21:36We're going to sit down and watch a movie.
21:37No, that's easy for you.
21:38And, uh, your point is...
21:44And my point is Jayden wants to do something.
21:47Jay, what you want to do, Jay?
21:51You want to go swimming?
21:52Yeah.
21:52I got McKinley. Who's going to watch McKinley?
21:55And who's going to watch Michael?
21:57Okay, we're going to watch a movie. Who wants to watch a movie? Say yay!
22:01Who wants to go swimming?
22:02Oh, come on, let him go swimming. Let him go swimming with daddy.
22:10I felt so sorry for the girls. It was like pulling teeth to get dad to do something that
22:17these girls just wanted to do with their dad before he went away for such a long time.
22:23Come on, let's go to the water. Let me see how long you can stay underwater. You ready? Go.
22:28Come on. I mean, in the end, dad was happy to be spending time with the girls.
22:33And he really got involved with it. But he was happy when he saw Angela's face.
22:38Say, hey, hey, baby.
22:40He kind of mentioned to me there was some hiccups. So he's like, man.
22:47It wasn't very long, but it was long enough to say, okay, this isn't so easy.
22:51Hey!
22:52I'm learning and I'm giving more of me.
22:55And I'm allowing myself to just accept the situation and not just deal with it, but enjoy it.
23:05Mike got to see exactly how difficult it is looking after four children.
23:08And now he's not so moody, I'm going to talk about safety.
23:11All right, main house, pool, guest house and basketball court and playground.
23:17All right, let's make it clear to the girls when they can go into certain areas and when they can't,
23:23when it's off boundaries, all right? So they know and they start to learn.
23:26It's important you guys know. That way you're kept safe and you know what you can and can't do.
23:30But you just can't go in the office.
23:33So let's circle it off and then put an X next to it.
23:36No.
23:37The gentleman's room, upstairs.
23:39Gentleman's room, okay. Gentleman's room, off bounds.
23:42Okay, the pool area, all right?
23:45Off limits, off limits.
23:48So after going through the map of the house, I wanted to go through the pool safety.
23:53First, we started off by putting alarms on the doors that lead out to the pool.
23:56Ready?
24:01And then I took the whole family out to show them something I had bought, especially for the pool.
24:07There is an alarm in this pool. If a child did fall into that pool,
24:12there would be an alarm that would go off that would notify you like that, okay?
24:17Because parents always say, it was just, they were here just one minute.
24:21They were here, they were here a second ago.
24:23But it wasn't no second ago.
24:25And what you're going to show, Mike, is that alarm, okay?
24:30You're going to jump into the pool now and show these kids that alarm going off.
24:34When she introduced Mike, as far as him showing the girls this is what happens if someone falls
24:42in the pool, we didn't expect that. He didn't expect it.
24:45Jay, you want to go swimming?
24:47All right, in we go, Dad. Show the kids.
24:51Come on, baby.
24:52Daddy! Daddy!
24:54Baby, just jump right there.
24:56The kids were eager for Dad to do it, and he started to dip his toes in the water.
25:01And I don't know whether I should do it. I thought, I'll just get in.
25:05Look at me, Dad. They're looking up to you.
25:07Oh, my God.
25:07Oh, no!
25:08Oh, no!
25:16Mike had a really good opportunity to show his lighter side,
25:20but then he walked off.
25:23I mean, what's with that?
25:24Mike, Mike, Mike, Mike!
25:26I'm going to dry off.
25:28Dude, come here for a minute!
25:31And it created a very hostile situation.
25:43So he storms off, and I've only got a couple of hours left with Mike.
25:47I mean, does he really want this?
25:49Come on, baby girls. It's time for bed.
25:53So, Mike, I'd like to do this thing with the kids and putting them to bed
25:57in their bedrooms.
25:59Is that...
26:00Let me ask you a question.
26:01Y'all want to stay in your bed tonight?
26:04Huh? You want to stay in your bed?
26:05What about you, Jack?
26:06Can we...
26:07I hope he realizes this isn't about what Mike always wants.
26:11This is about responding to what his kids want and meeting those needs.
26:16You see how my child treats me?
26:17You see, but hold on, but hold on.
26:18I'm not talking about the kids.
26:19But what I'm trying to say is this right here.
26:20I'm not talking about the kids.
26:21Ideally, what I wanted to do was to teach them how to sleep into their own beds,
26:36but Mike wants to do it his way, and he's doing it in a really aggressive manner.
26:52That's not necessary.
26:52What do you think I'm trying to do?
26:54I'm trying to motivate my children to stay in their bedroom right now.
26:57I've got something nice for them. Jaden's scared about going in her room.
27:02What, you want to give him a teddy bear?
27:03No one can tell you anything.
27:05You want to give him a teddy bear?
27:06You're always right, Mike.
27:07And you're always right.
27:08Mike.
27:09How come you always get to be right? How come you right?
27:11How come your two plus two always got to equal four, and nobody else know how to do math?
27:15You asked me to come in here to help you.
27:20You asked me to come and help you.
27:22You know what's funny, though?
27:23Ever since you've been here, you judge me.
27:25What did you say about me earlier?
27:26I got an ego this big.
27:28Yeah.
27:28I got an ego.
27:29You don't even know me.
27:30Be a little bit humble.
27:31Big head.
27:32Let me explain something to you.
27:33I'm probably one of the most humble people you'll ever meet, but you know what?
27:36Stop trying to control everything.
27:37That's not me.
27:39All I control.
27:40Stop trying to control.
27:41I'm listening.
27:42You asked me here to help you.
27:43And I'm listening.
27:44Let me do my job.
27:45I'm listening.
27:46Stop saying that.
27:47Just do what you got to do.
27:48I'm listening.
27:48I'm all ears.
27:50And I'm listening.
27:51Let's do it.
27:51All right, good.
27:52I hope Mike realised that this is not about what he wants all the time.
27:59This is about understanding what his children would like and what would help them.
28:04Tonight you're going to sleep in your own bedrooms, but this is what I feel would be a
28:08really good idea.
28:09What I want you to do is to collect some of those things that you really like,
28:15like your cuddlies and stuff like that, okay?
28:17And then JoJo's got this Christmas lights, like fairy lights.
28:21So we'll put them in your room, okay, so they'll be cosy for you.
28:25Y'all ready to go to bed now?
28:27Yes.
28:28Come on.
28:28It wasn't about trying to be in a battle or trying not to see eye to eye.
28:34It's just that you have to see from my point of view also.
28:38Give me a kiss.
28:39Daddy.
28:40I love you.
28:40Everyone always think that I put up guards.
28:44They think that I'm trying to fight something.
28:46But at the end, I'm just being myself.
28:49And I crack jokes.
28:50I love to have fun.
28:51You be a big girl.
28:52Come on.
28:53Come on, Mike-Makes.
28:54And you got, look at the lights though.
28:55The lights are crazy cool, right?
28:57That's cool, yeah.
28:58I know Mike's really going to miss his girls when he's gone,
29:00so I want to give him a way to be able to reach out to them
29:03whilst he's gone for so long.
29:05This is what I do with some businessmen that go away, right?
29:10They literally record the stories and then, like, it's a surprise for the kids
29:15because when they don't see you, they, like, listen to the DVD
29:18and it's like his daddy's voice telling them a story.
29:20So if you find the time tonight and you want to do a couple of stories,
29:24even though you're not physically here, you are here
29:27because they're hearing your voice.
29:28That'll be fun.
29:28Yeah, it'll be comforting for them as well.
29:30This is a very important, you know, situation because it can help me be a better husband,
29:35be a better father.
29:36I think that what she's doing is great.
29:38I think that she does a good job.
29:40She's a professional at this.
29:42She's an expert.
29:46I've given the family time to be alone before Mike leaves.
29:50I'm just hoping that he's going to find the time to take these stories for the girls.
29:56But I don't know if he will.
30:07Hi!
30:09Hello!
30:11Mike had already left the training camp when I arrived,
30:13so now my concentration is purely on mum.
30:16But I want to find out how these kids slept in their beds.
30:21How are you, darling?
30:21How are you doing?
30:23How are you?
30:24You did?
30:25Give me five!
30:29Sleeping in my room is really fun because
30:32when I wake up, I have a good sleep.
30:36Well done!
30:38That's fabulous, Angela.
30:40Oh, yeah.
30:40That's great!
30:41I was walking around, I didn't know what to do with myself.
30:46I am really looking forward to these girls watching the tapes tonight.
30:50But first, I need to teach mum the basics.
30:54So, come over with me.
30:57I taught her how to follow through with discipline.
30:59All the idle threats are hot air.
31:03How to give a proper warning.
31:05Come down to the child's height and use eye contact.
31:08Anything towering is intimidating.
31:12And how to set up a realistic bedtime schedule.
31:15So, at 7.30, you start that whole process.
31:19What comes first?
31:20Quiet time.
31:21Quiet time, exactly.
31:26And before I left for the evening, I had a wonderful surprise.
31:29to give to these girls for their dad's first night away.
31:33So, I have a DVD here that is very special, right?
31:41Hey, baby girls.
31:42I love you.
31:44You know I wish I was there to see you while you go to bed.
31:47And what a result!
31:49Dad had taped the stories, just like I'd asked him,
31:52so these girls could watch that.
31:54So, here go one.
31:55You ready?
31:56It's called The King of the Birds.
31:58A bear and a wolf were walking together in the woods.
32:00Amaya, Jaden and Michael were kind of like looking at the screen like,
32:04that's daddy, he's reading us a story.
32:06And they were really excited.
32:08That is the king of the birds, said the wolf.
32:10We must treat him with great respect.
32:12But it was bittersweet for him as well, because it reminded them of how much they do miss dad,
32:18and how difficult it is for this family, because Mike is away so often.
32:22Moral of the story, baby.
32:25Don't be greedy.
32:27Be thankful for everything you have in life, and make the best of that situation.
32:32I love you, baby girls. I love you.
32:36Enjoy, Jaden?
32:40Yeah.
32:42It was good, actually.
32:44I started crying because I miss him so much.
32:49Even though it's sad, it's cool.
32:51It's cool that daddy's doing that, right?
32:54It's okay to feel sad.
32:56It's okay to cry.
32:58It's okay.
33:00She just burst into tears, and my heart just pulled.
33:11I am gone for several days.
33:12Okay.
33:13If you don't get this down, you're going to become more overwhelmed.
33:17It's going to be stressful.
33:18When Joe leaves, I don't want to go backwards, you know what I mean?
33:22Like, it's as much painstaking for me to have change as it is for the kids.
33:27The supervision is going to be crucial, because that's all about safety.
33:32Yep, got it.
33:33It's crucial that Angela implement everything she's been taught if she wants to succeed whilst Mike's gone.
33:40One of the things that I noticed was that McKinley was forever on Mum's hip.
33:51Come on.
33:52Wait.
33:52So, it was important for me to teach Mum just to let that baby go.
34:00McKinley!
34:01Tummy time!
34:02Look at this, look.
34:04McKinley must have thought, wow, great, I've got floor space, let's go for it.
34:08And she just darted across.
34:11What's she doing?
34:11Oh, she's crawling.
34:15McKinley was like a little wound up baby on a cartoon, you know?
34:18She went like this.
34:20She went really, really fast.
34:22Mum was like, is that McKinley?
34:24Go back by the door and then take this ring.
34:26Okay.
34:26Let her come and get it.
34:27She's like, oh, let's see, Mummy, get the ring.
34:29I was very stunned at how fast McKinley took off.
34:32And I'd seen her crawl a little bit, but not that fast.
34:36So, McKinley being put on the floor and having tummy time allows her to strengthen
34:40her neck muscles and her forearms here that prop her up that start the development of her crawling.
34:49When she was young, she'd only see a couple of inches in front.
34:53Now, all of a sudden, she's having to focus.
34:56So, her visual tracking is important.
34:59Come here, baby.
35:01Keep her attention, keep her attention.
35:02McKinley.
35:03McKinley is really ready to take the next step.
35:06And being on my hip was a hindrance more than it was a help.
35:10But in my eyes, her being on my hip was a sign of me loving her.
35:14But now I know I can put her down and love her also.
35:17Was that fun?
35:20Want to crawl some more?
35:26Come with Mummy, because Mummy's got something to show you.
35:28Come on.
35:30Come on.
35:31The kids had watched Dad do the video stories, but I wanted to give them another thing to make
35:38them feel like they were connecting more with Dad. So, I took them into Mum's business room,
35:43so that they could communicate with him via the webcam.
35:46Hey, baby.
35:49See, look. Daddy can see what's in that box.
35:52Daddy.
35:52Daddy, bye, bye.
35:54Look, look.
35:54You know, they were so excited. They were all trying to talk over each other. I was breaking out a sweat.
35:58I was like, hold on a minute. Calm down so Daddy can hear you.
36:01I love you.
36:03I love you.
36:03Don't move yet.
36:04For them to see him on the other side in real time, oh, they were amazed. I mean,
36:11you could hear them screaming and Michael, like they all wanted a piece of him.
36:15Mum, in order for this to work efficiently so that both of you are not frustrated, okay,
36:21is that you want to get the girls to speak one at a time. So, you'll have to instill that with the
36:25girls when you're sitting down. Dad.
36:27Surprise. That's beautiful.
36:30It's for you.
36:31Oh, thank you.
36:33You know what I said to myself when I saw him on the webcam? I said, okay, I can do this. I can be
36:39away from him and not feel so far apart. It was a different kind of connection.
36:44Yeah.
36:45I'm glad you gave me something. I love you.
36:46I love you, too.
36:48Bye-bye.
36:50Bye-bye.
36:52Bye-bye.
36:55Bye-bye.
36:59Time for me to leave because you don't need me anymore now.
37:03Right?
37:03Right.
37:04Mum has been very open. She's been very receptive to learning. And for me, that's important because
37:11Angela is left to hold the fort with the family and know that she can certainly be that backbone
37:18for when Mike's not around.
37:19And then...
37:19Jojo!
37:20Jojo!
37:21Jojo!
37:21I've made a lot of strides.
37:24I've taken everything that I've learned, no matter how big or how small, and making them my own.
37:30Bye-bye, darling.
37:31Yeah, bye-bye.
37:32Aw, bye-bye.
37:34Look at her rubbing all on you.
37:36Aw.
37:37Hey, Angela, take care.
37:39Thank you so much.
37:40You're more than welcome.
37:42Similar to Mike.
37:43Mike and Jojo with their special relationship, I call it.
37:49I am proud to see the transition, and I'm grateful for that. And I'm going to continue to take steps forward.
37:55Underneath the hard exterior is a very sensitive man, you know, and he's a man who's on top of his game professionally. And all I would want for that man is to be on top of his game personally.
38:10Okay, bye-bye, sweetie.
38:11Bye, Jojo!
38:13Bye-bye, darling.
38:15Bye-bye, darling.
38:17Bye-bye, darling.
38:17Bye-bye, darling.
38:18Bye-bye, darling.
38:19Bye-bye, darling.
38:21Bye-bye, darling.
38:23Bye-bye, darling.
38:25Bye-bye, darling.
38:27Bye-bye, darling.
38:29Bye-bye, darling.
38:31Bye-bye, darling.
38:33Bye-bye, darling.
38:35Bye-bye, darling.
38:37Bye-bye, darling.
38:39Bye-bye, darling.
38:41Bye-bye, darling.
38:43Bye-bye, darling.
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