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After financial troubles contribute to the end of a 12-year marriage, a single mom juggles a hectic work schedule while trying to raise six kids, who have become harder to control due to a lack of parental supervision.
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00:00Hi, I'm Blythe Newsome, and I'm a single mom with six kids.
00:04Lachlan is 13.
00:06Moira, stop messing with that before you break it.
00:08Aiden is 12.
00:09Aiden, go in your room.
00:13Daly is nine.
00:15Just walk down the stairs.
00:18Daly.
00:19Moira is eight.
00:20Yeah, I'm swinging.
00:22Elspeth is five.
00:24Yeah.
00:25And Finn is three.
00:28Elspeth, come around.
00:33In the last 18 months, my husband and I,
00:36we'd been married almost 13 years.
00:38We got divorced.
00:40Because of the divorce, we sold the house.
00:43The neighborhood that we lived in, it was so great.
00:45We lived four houses away from my mom and dad.
00:49The kids could walk down to their grandparents.
00:51It was big.
00:52It was spacious.
00:53They had their rooms.
00:54They had a playroom.
00:55Why did we even move from that house?
00:57That house is perfect.
00:59OK.
01:00I want my house back.
01:02My word.
01:03I tell you, this lady needs to concentrate on the present,
01:06not live in the past.
01:08Nana was part of our life forever.
01:11She was my nanny growing up and the nanny for my children.
01:15She was with my family for 30 years.
01:18About 10 months ago, Nana found a lump in her breast.
01:24It was breast cancer.
01:27Nana passed away.
01:30You know, this is so sad.
01:31This woman has so much to deal with.
01:34And it's destroying her and her kids.
01:37The homework now is very small.
01:39Children are in rooms two by twos.
01:42This is actually my room, my bed.
01:44I sleep on the couch.
01:47I get maybe four hours of broken sleep a night.
01:51That really takes its toll.
01:54Every year on a couch, she seriously must need sleep.
02:00There is no discipline in the house.
02:01I need you to sit down for a minute.
02:02No, no, no.
02:03There's no order.
02:10It's just pure chaos.
02:17Super nanny, I need you to help us be a family again.
02:24You know, this mom needs my help desperately.
02:26But more than anything, these six kids need my help too.
02:30I'm on my way.
02:45You guys can have a snack.
02:45Hi, guys.
02:47Hi.
02:47Hello.
02:49Hi.
02:49Nice to meet you.
02:50Jo Frost.
02:51Hi.
02:51I'm Blake.
02:52How are you?
02:53Nice to meet you.
02:54Please come in and help.
02:56The minute Jo walked in the house, I swear to God, I was thinking,
02:59please God, just go upstairs and deal with the kids so I could go to the bathroom.
03:02This is Lachlan.
03:04Hi, Lachlan.
03:05Pleased to meet you.
03:06Good to meet you.
03:07Jo.
03:08Hi.
03:09This is Aiden.
03:10Hi, Aiden.
03:11Pleased to meet you.
03:12That's Daly.
03:13Hi, Daly.
03:14Come down.
03:15Mom told my super nanny was coming.
03:16I was not shocked.
03:17My mom really needs that help.
03:20Is this Finn?
03:21This is Finn.
03:22Hi.
03:23Oh, hi, Finn.
03:24Hi, Jojo.
03:25How are you doing?
03:26Yeah, great.
03:27Please.
03:28Please.
03:29OK, Elspeth.
03:30Elspeth.
03:31Just leave her alone.
03:32Right.
03:33I guess I'll meet Maura later on today.
03:34She'll come down.
03:35OK.
03:36It's going to be extremely challenging for me.
03:38There's no two ways about that.
03:39I mean, there's a lot on this lady's plate.
03:41A lot.
03:42I was only there about 20 minutes, and I started to see exactly how chaotic this house
03:52was.
03:53Yeah.
03:54Oh, crap.
03:55No, stop.
03:56Please.
03:57Ah!
03:58Daly started to run for cover, and he hid himself in the closet.
04:03Daly.
04:04Daly.
04:05Daly.
04:06Daly.
04:07OK.
04:08Door and arms are coming off.
04:10Daly, don't mess.
04:13And it drove Elspeth nuts!
04:16You can't do that.
04:17No, Elspeth, no!
04:18Is Finn in there?
04:19Yes.
04:24Mom had to unstrew the doorknob just to get Daly out.
04:29Stop, Daly.
04:30You're going to hurt somebody.
04:31Daly, we're not going to lock doors in this house.
04:34Stop!
04:35Stop!
04:36Stop!
04:39Stop! Stop!
04:45Having seen that there was no discipline in the house,
04:47I wanted to talk to Mum to find out just how long she'd been letting it slip for.
04:52The excuse card, which I'm going to play,
04:55the divorce, the move, Nana dying.
04:59Because when the divorce happened, Nana kept it together.
05:04Right, OK. She kept me together.
05:06Right, OK. Of course, of course.
05:09Her death's been overwhelming. Of course.
05:12I want her back.
05:15As a nanny, you become an integral part of a family,
05:18so I could relate how devastated this whole family were
05:22when they lost dear Nana.
05:24So she was the giant staple?
05:26Yes, she was. It's a cool picture, huh?
05:29Look at her smiling there.
05:31We still think about Nana a lot.
05:34Nana was a part of our family.
05:36Every day, coming home from school,
05:37Nana would sit on the front porch and wait for everybody.
05:39Yeah, that was nice, huh?
05:40You always said, don't make me put your money.
05:42She did, wouldn't it?
05:44I was glad to be reminded of Nana, because I miss her.
05:49In fact, Daley showed me a very special object he'd been given by Nana.
05:53My mom got it from Nana, and Nana told her to give it to me.
05:57May I borrow this?
05:58Yes, ma'am.
06:01Because I have an idea for this.
06:05And I knew that Nana's rope would come in handy later on.
06:08Mom, give me a ba-ba.
06:09We're not going to have a ba-ba right now.
06:10What's a ba-ba?
06:11I want a ba-ba.
06:12His bottle.
06:13A bottle.
06:14Okay.
06:15How many of those does he have?
06:16How many of those does he have, Adair?
06:17Give me a ba-ba.
06:18Six to eight.
06:19It has to be warm, or he'll throw it at you.
06:21Right.
06:22So he has as many bottles now, at the age of three and a half, six to eight bottles,
06:43as a three-week, four-week-old.
06:46As a newborn baby would have.
06:47Yeah.
06:48I personally recommend that parents let go of the bottle with their children.
06:51When they reach about 12 to 18 months.
06:54Okay.
06:55Come on.
06:56I want a ba-ba.
06:58Finn's perfectly capable of drinking out of a cup.
07:01He doesn't need a bottle.
07:03But the bad habit continues because his mother won't break it for him.
07:06Look.
07:07So at the moment what mum's doing is teaching Finn to ask for a bottle when he shouts and yells.
07:17Which is, you know, wrong.
07:19All right.
07:20Daley.
07:21Here.
07:22No.
07:23Mummy said get out.
07:24Later on in the day, I saw there isn't much order with regards to food.
07:42What's going on down here?
07:43Say, Joe, no!
07:44What's all this?
07:45What's all this?
07:46What's that?
07:47What's that?
07:48What's it got?
07:49A sweet shop here.
07:50A candy shop.
07:51What's this?
07:52Sweets?
07:53Raisins?
07:54What's all that going on in there?
07:55What's under this one?
07:56I found my sandwich!
07:57Okay, that's disgusting.
07:58You guys need to come and clean this off.
07:59My word.
08:00You've seen underneath those sofas?
08:01They've got all sorts crying underneath there.
08:02Aiden lost her cheese sandwich younger.
08:03Mum doesn't reinforce anything.
08:04Let alone have responsibilities for these kids so they can tidy up half of themselves and keep
08:13a home they're proud of.
08:14Who knows what I'm going to find.
08:15So who does all the washing and everything?
08:16My mum.
08:17Your mum.
08:18Okay.
08:19Do all of you guys have chores and things?
08:20Do you all do things?
08:21No.
08:22No?
08:23No?
08:24No?
08:25No?
08:26No?
08:27No?
08:28No?
08:29No?
08:30No?
08:31No?
08:32No?
08:33No?
08:34No?
08:35No?
08:36No?
08:37No?
08:38No?
08:39No?
08:40No?
08:41No?
08:42No?
08:43No?
08:44No?
08:45There's no cost any money.
08:46We asked Mum to do chores.
08:47There's not much respect right now for her new home.
08:50And she's finding it very hard to come to terms with leaving the old house and now being
08:56in the new one.
08:57What happened to the home?
08:58We had to sell it.
09:02Why?
09:03Yeah, why?
09:04Yeah, why?
09:05It was an awesome house ever.
09:06It was an awesome house, but it was going to be really hard for Mummy to pay for it.
09:13and it was just financially.
09:16Right.
09:17So did it get repossessed then?
09:19Is that you just?
09:20Foreclosure.
09:21Foreclosure?
09:22Yeah.
09:23Yeah.
09:24They're hard times.
09:25Yeah, well, how many people in America
09:28are having hard times?
09:29Exactly.
09:29And I think.
09:31Will you excuse me for a moment?
09:33Because I'd like to talk to mommy just on my own.
09:35Just to have some adult talk.
09:39How long ago did you divorce?
09:42It's been like 15 months.
09:43Whose decision was it to file for divorce?
09:48It was both of ours.
09:49Right.
09:52I want my life back.
09:55What do you want back?
09:58My house back.
09:58I want Nina back.
10:01You've had major, major events happen in your life
10:08that would rank in the top five.
10:13Deaf.
10:14Divorce.
10:16Moving homes.
10:18There are three major ones there.
10:22And all within 18 months.
10:25So, let's just take it one step at a time, literally.
10:29Just baby steps at a time.
10:36After chatting with Blythe, it was soon time for dinner.
10:40And oh, yes, the chaos returns.
10:42Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey.
10:46Stop.
10:47You sit right here, Elspeth.
10:48No!
10:49No!
10:52You're just picking.
10:53Mom!
10:54That is enough.
10:56I'm not staying.
10:57Okay, then you can sit there.
10:58No!
10:59I'm, she's there.
11:01No, no, I'm not staying.
11:03More.
11:04More.
11:06No, I don't want to leave.
11:08Well, Mom gave in to Elspeth's temper tantrum.
11:12And Moira had to move.
11:15Mom, give me some sauce.
11:16I want some meatballs.
11:17I know.
11:19Who wants sauce?
11:20Can I get some more pasta?
11:21That's what I do.
11:22You sure can.
11:23This pasta is sticky.
11:24No sauce.
11:25I've seen people speak to waitresses better
11:27than what these kids were speaking to their mom.
11:30I'm getting drinks right now.
11:32Get me this, bring me that.
11:34I mean, where are the kids' manners?
11:35One more.
11:36You don't eat.
11:37No.
11:38Um, usually just because it's just...
11:41No.
11:42Mom, give me the Bible!
11:45After seeing all of this, you know,
11:46I'm ready to leave for the evening,
11:48and I'm looking forward to coming back tomorrow, actually.
11:51You've got a lot to do, obviously,
11:52so I'm going to leave you be so that you can do that.
11:55Okay.
11:56You want to see me tomorrow?
11:57I do.
11:58Good, because we're going to have a very big family meeting tomorrow.
12:02Give me a hug.
12:04I'm going to give you a hug.
12:07I have a bottle and a pillow.
12:09Right now, I'm feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, tired, and I knew that Joe was going to tell
12:19me some things that were going to be really hard to hear about moving on.
12:23Let's talk about this.
12:33You're a single parent raising your six children.
12:37So who's going to do it?
12:39Because Nana's not here anymore, and Nana did it.
12:43When you got the divorce, Nana slipped into that role.
12:46Yes.
12:47Yes.
12:48What about yourself?
12:49There's so much that I'm doing all the time that I can't, I can't do it all.
12:55I can't follow through.
12:57Why is Finn still having bottles like a three-week-old baby?
13:02Because it's easier than hearing him scream.
13:04I mean, it's just one battle that I don't have to face.
13:08But from where I stand, it's not like you're prepared to fight any battle.
13:12Let's talk about house here, house space, okay?
13:19You lived in this big house that you loved.
13:24And over the years, you built up memories in that home.
13:28And now you're in this home that's not ideal for you because you've been used to things
13:32a certain way.
13:34But you're sleeping on the couch, not getting a good night's sleep, which is crazy to me
13:41because you've lost all pride and self-respect.
13:43Oh, yes.
13:44Oh, yes.
13:45I mean, seriously, why wouldn't you clean your home?
13:48We vacuum a couple times a day.
13:50There's no way.
13:51Well, no, wait a second, the, the, we couldn't find, we couldn't find the vacuum cleaner for
13:56three days.
13:57No.
13:58That's not fair.
13:59What is the point in me being here right now?
14:00You tell me.
14:02What's the point in me being here right now, Blythe?
14:04I know.
14:05Tell me why you asked for my help.
14:08Because right now, I need a woman opposite me.
14:11I need a woman, okay, and a mother, then let me tell you something.
14:15Hey, Nana.
14:16No, sit back down.
14:17I'm talking to you.
14:18Done.
14:19Blythe, sit down, please.
14:20It is 1.15.
14:21My children need to be picked up.
14:23She just got up and walked out of her own home, made me realize just how difficult it
14:29is for her even to listen and hear what I've got to say.
14:33Jill, really?
14:34I'm done.
14:35Hey, Nana.
14:36Then let me tell you something.
14:37Hey, Nana.
14:38No.
14:39Sit back down.
14:40I'm talking to you.
14:41The truth had all come tumbling down for Blythe.
14:43At least respect me, please.
14:44You know it.
14:45This was the first time that I've had a parent walk out on a family meeting.
14:48You're being very disrespectful.
14:49You're criticizing.
14:50I'm here.
14:51I'm here.
14:52Correct.
14:53But you know what?
14:54I'm about to help you.
14:55Listen, listen to me.
14:56Give me five minutes, will you?
14:58It's not your fault that your husband lost his job.
15:03It's not your fault that Nana got cancer.
15:05Nana got cancer.
15:07Nana got cancer.
15:09Isn't that so sad?
15:12Don't worry.
15:13The teachers would have been rang for a minute.
15:15But listen to me.
15:16I don't care about the rain.
15:17Let it rain.
15:18That's it.
15:19The heavens are opening up, obviously.
15:20But listen to me seriously.
15:21I'm about picking up from the bottom and working all the way up to the top.
15:26Okay?
15:27I'm not going to sit here and pussyfoot around.
15:29It can't get any worse than what it is.
15:30Can it?
15:31It can't get any worse.
15:32We're at the bottom.
15:33So, seriously, we're at the bottom.
15:34You only trusted one woman in your life.
15:49Okay?
15:50You trusted one woman in your life.
15:52I'm asking you to give me a chance here.
15:54And trust me.
15:56Okay.
15:57Let's continue where we started off, okay?
16:13Okay.
16:14All right?
16:15Let's talk about the house.
16:16No, I don't want to talk about the house.
16:17No, no, no.
16:18We have to talk about it.
16:19No, I will.
16:20Live.
16:21Live.
16:22Trust me, okay?
16:23All I want to say to you about it, okay?
16:26Is that we can make things better.
16:27I agree.
16:28All right?
16:29It's not the best.
16:30I agree.
16:31So, let's change it.
16:32Okay?
16:33We can't change what's happened.
16:35But we can certainly change what's going on right now in the present.
16:40Are you worth it?
16:41Yes.
16:42Are your kids worth it?
16:44Yes.
16:45Gosh, yes.
16:46Exactly.
16:47And that's what's important.
16:53Once the storm had passed and Blythe and I had dried off a little bit.
16:59Let's get into the car.
17:00Okay.
17:01I wanted to start teaching straight away, so I took her on a little trip.
17:04You're going to drive to the old house.
17:07Okay?
17:11When Joe told me where we were going, I thought I want to turn around.
17:15I don't want to walk back on the grass, but I sat there and played with the kids so many
17:25times, I don't want to go back there and listen to my home.
17:28I want to go back there and miraculously have it be what it was before.
17:36Once outside the house, there was a favorite spot that Mom had.
17:42And she took me to it and there was a message on the wall.
17:45It kind of faded because of the rain.
17:46The rain's washed it off.
17:48Oh, look.
17:49The O, the V, the E.
17:53They snuck out the back and snuck out the side gate to come and do it.
17:57And then they came in and their hands were muddy and I said, what have you done?
18:00And they're like, nothing.
18:02That's fabulous.
18:07My head gets that it's just four walls and a roof.
18:11My heart is in a totally different place.
18:14You say goodbye to a house now, but you don't say goodbye to your memories.
18:18You remember them.
18:19They stay in your heart.
18:20You take those with you and you create new ones in your new home.
18:24She needed to make a decision in her heart, as well as her mind, that she was going to create new memories in her new home.
18:33So I asked Mom to go, buy house, just to say it, just to let herself say it so that she could hear her own voice.
18:40Buy house.
18:41Because I'm about to create a new home now with my family.
18:45What are you letting go of?
18:47Just the house.
18:48Exactly.
18:49What are you keeping?
18:50I'm keeping the memories.
18:51Yeah, of course you're keeping the memories.
18:53We're not letting go of memories.
18:54Goodbye to my house.
18:55To this house.
18:56Goodbye to this house.
18:58Goodbye house.
19:00I have a new home now.
19:02You too.
19:03I said goodbye to the house, not the memories.
19:06Because those are mine.
19:08Mom's going to have to find the strength from somewhere to push through everything that's going on right now.
19:14And so I decided to get Daley and Mom together.
19:19You really worry about Mom, don't you?
19:21Yeah.
19:22Yeah, of course.
19:23You love Mom very much and you worry about her.
19:24And then when she gets upset, you get upset.
19:26Yeah.
19:27Yeah, exactly.
19:28So you're all part of one big family.
19:30Mom can't just do this on her own, okay?
19:33It takes you as a grown-up boy as well to understand what's going on.
19:38Now, when you and I spoke the other day, we spoke about Nana and we spoke about the fun times.
19:45And it makes you feel sad all the time, right?
19:47Yeah.
19:48Yeah.
19:49So a lot of children ask, why did it have to happen?
19:52Me and Nana were so close.
19:55There was this bond between the two of them.
19:58Why did it have to happen to Nana?
20:01I don't know.
20:04I don't...
20:05I wish I knew.
20:07Me too.
20:09My mommy had breast cancer, the same as Nana.
20:12And it was very aggressive as well.
20:15And she didn't survive.
20:18It's sad because, you know, we feel lost.
20:22During my observation day, I became aware that Nana had left a rock for daily that had the word strength.
20:33And when I saw that, I knew I'd be able to use this rock in a very powerful way.
20:37You know, Nana was a very wise woman because Nana left you this rock and it says strength.
20:42This is certainly what she's asking the whole family to have.
20:47Strength.
20:48Now, mommy's going to need a lot of strength to put things back on track, right?
20:52Yeah.
20:53I think this might be a good idea if you lend this to mom for a while so she can carry it around in her pocket.
21:06Oh, mom.
21:10He's a very brave guy.
21:11An amazing guy to give it to me.
21:12And you know what?
21:13If he can give it to me, he must believe in me.
21:17When times get tough, she can pull out that rock and recognize what it symbolizes.
21:22Mom being that rock.
21:24So, where's the rock?
21:25Right here.
21:26I want my mom.
21:36Finn started crying, saying that he wanted a bottle.
21:40There was going to be no great time to get rid of the bottles.
21:43So, don't be gone for punishment.
21:45Get rid of him and leave him.
21:47Finnie, we're going to throw our ba-ba's away and drink out of a big boy cup.
21:51Okay?
21:52No!
21:53No!
21:54Finn went into this whole huge fit.
21:57And then that led to a total meltdown.
22:02I thought, I'm ruining his life.
22:04This is, like, going to be one of those life-changing moments that this child is going to be in therapy in for the rest of his life.
22:10Because I took his bottles away.
22:15I love my mama!
22:17I love my mama!
22:18I was literally to the point where I thought, just forget it.
22:21I can't do this.
22:23This is too hard.
22:24I love my mama!
22:25I love my mama!
22:26I love my mama!
22:27I love my mama!
22:28Finnie, we're going to throw our ba-ba's away and drink out of a big boy cup.
22:31Okay?
22:32I made a decision that Finn was going to come off the bottles.
22:36And it was as simple as that.
22:37I'm like any mother.
22:42Your child is hurting.
22:43It makes your heart break.
22:45It's your weakness.
22:47And I just wanted to give in.
22:49I love my mama!
22:51That does penetrate when you have to listen to a child cry and scream the way Finn does.
22:57But eventually he stopped.
22:59I was very surprised with how quickly it all came to an end.
23:08All of a sudden he's laughing because we're playing hide and seek under the covers.
23:12No!
23:13I found one!
23:14I knew it!
23:15He stopped.
23:16He stopped.
23:17He stopped.
23:18He stopped.
23:19All right?
23:20And do you know what?
23:21And do you know what?
23:22And tonight he may cry and then you'll just have to listen to it and pause through it and then he'll stop.
23:27Okay.
23:28But looking now, that's what you need to remember.
23:31And then a magic moment.
23:33He asked for a glass of juice.
23:35You hold the juice.
23:37Can I have a glass of juice?
23:39I felt like I had won the lottery.
23:41You did it!
23:43You did it!
23:44You're such a big boy.
23:47So now it's time to get Mom some help around the house.
23:50Mom, on a piece of paper, I would like you to write down all the chores that would be helpful if the kids did them.
23:57Okay.
23:58The fact that some of these kids are 13, 11 and 9 and have never ever done any chores blows me away to be honest with you.
24:05Guys, come downstairs.
24:08Everybody, we're having a meeting.
24:10So this was a time for Mom to assert herself and get busy with these kids.
24:14But considering they've never picked up anything themselves, there was going to be a little bit of trouble.
24:19Because I can't do it all anymore, guys.
24:21Every person has to make their bed before they go to school in the morning.
24:24Oh, man.
24:25Longlet and Aiden, you are responsible for cleaning your bathroom.
24:29They're not going in there. I'm not letting them in there.
24:31Deal. Deal.
24:32You three have the other bathroom.
24:34Or you four.
24:36Guys, these are the rules. This isn't like a discussion right now.
24:40But what we are going to do is we're going to tag team the kids, all right?
24:44To help Mom dedicate the chores, she wrote down on a piece of card the job that the team needed to do.
24:50You two are going to be a team and you're going to go clean the bathroom upstairs.
24:55The kids would have matching ribbons and when they had finished, they would hand in those colored ribbons afterwards.
25:01You three have the other bathroom.
25:03But Mom!
25:04Ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah.
25:06No butts.
25:07I don't like cleaning up.
25:12Even if, you know, the kids don't like it, I know it's, like, really good for my mom. Like, it's for the best.
25:21For the first time to really do chores, they did really well.
25:24Once they got going, I got it.
25:27They just did it.
25:28Great job.
25:31It is nice to see the kids all pulling together with Mom.
25:34However, she is still sleeping on the sofa and I think that's wrong.
25:39As a mother, you have done what every other mother would have done, okay?
25:43You prioritised the children's sleep.
25:45But you do want a bed to be able to sleep in, obviously.
25:48Because there's no spare bedrooms, it makes sense to put her in Lachlan and Aidan's bedroom.
25:54And so, I snuck off to the shops, got what I needed for her to bring back.
26:01So, what we all did as a family was to put two girls' bunk beds together.
26:06I'm glad that she got a room, like, she was, she's able to room with me and my sister.
26:11Setting up the bedroom today was really fun.
26:16It was everybody in there together.
26:22The nice thing was, is that when they finished, all the kids jumped on the bed to join her.
26:27Do you know how long it's been since I've been able to say to my kids, come lay down in bed with me.
26:35Let's just hang out.
26:36It was a good thing for my mom to get a bed.
26:39Oh, guess what?
26:40You're not sitting on my bed anymore.
26:42No.
26:43And then it was dinner time, and I knew I wanted to make some changes.
26:53In the old house, they used to have a family tradition of talking about the best and the worst part of their day.
26:59But since she's moved to the new home, she hasn't done that, and yet the kids absolutely loved it.
27:06I'm thankful that we're all here together.
27:08I'm thankful for each one of you and for the happiness you bring to my life.
27:13Aw.
27:14So, it was time to bring back that old family tradition, and they'll take turns by using that special Rock of Nanas.
27:21You know what, Ellie?
27:22I'm going to have you start, and you get to hold the rock.
27:24Yay!
27:25And I want you to tell us what was the worst part of your day?
27:28I didn't play at school.
27:33You didn't play at school?
27:35And what was the best part of your day?
27:37Uh, having dinner.
27:39Mine, too.
27:40Mm-hmm.
27:42The worst part of my day was probably homework, pretty much homework.
27:48My best part of the day was leaving school.
27:53Oh, yeah!
27:54For the first time in a very long time, I wasn't stressed.
27:59It didn't hurt the bit of my stomach because I'm trying to run everywhere and do everything.
28:03The best part of my day is right now.
28:05Aw!
28:06Aw!
28:07I'm going to be leaving you for three days, okay?
28:14I'm terrified that I'm going to go back to where we were before.
28:21Thaley can't be swanning his weight around the house.
28:25I've got his mother, and he needs to respect you as his mother.
28:29Okay.
28:30She's got to make a choice to either really use these techniques and listen to the advice
28:37I've given her and put it into practice, or really go back to square one.
28:41Are they?
28:42She cannot afford to go back to how things were before.
28:45See you when I get back, love.
28:46When Joe leaves, what if it goes back to that?
28:49What if we lose it all again?
28:51Bye.
28:52Bye-bye.
28:53Bye-bye.
28:54Three days.
29:01So it's been three days since I've been away, and I'm curious to see, did Mum hold up?
29:07All right, let's take a look at the first clip.
29:09We're going to look at the bottles.
29:11Okay.
29:12And how that's been going.
29:15I'll pour you a drink.
29:18Good job.
29:22Go see the table.
29:24Good job.
29:25He's off the bottles.
29:35They're gone.
29:36Good job.
29:37They're gone.
29:38Because look, he's on to cups.
29:39Yes.
29:40And big boy cups.
29:41Exactly.
29:42He's drinking out of cups.
29:43This is exactly what he's supposed to be doing.
29:46Let's move on to the next clip.
29:49Ah!
29:50Do not pee in the bushes.
29:51No.
29:52Go.
29:53I'm going in the bathroom.
29:56Well, that's where we go potty.
29:59No, no, no, no, no, no, no.
30:06Let's go inside and go potty, and we'll come find some bugs.
30:09Oh, no, he didn't.
30:10Caught in the act.
30:11In order to break that habit, it means you've got to follow through with it.
30:24So, I do love your tone there, because you are saying, hey, come on, we don't want to be
30:28doing it here, but follow through by taking him to the bathroom, because you're breaking
30:32that little habit that's happened.
30:33Okay.
30:34I'm going to take a look at some chores.
30:42Can you shut the door, please?
30:44I don't want to be with her!
30:46Mom!
30:47I want to walk with Faden.
30:49No!
30:50You promised me I could walk with Faden.
30:51Okay.
30:52Elizabeth and Mora, you just spray the bathroom counters on the kitchen counters.
30:57Lachlan, Finn, and Daley, you need to vacuum the rooms.
31:02Aiden, you need to fold the laundry.
31:04Go!
31:24Okay.
31:25I love the fact that they were all like...
31:30Vacuum comes out.
31:32They're polishing away.
31:34So, you've become very good at giving direction and pairing them off and telling them what they've
31:38got to do, all right?
31:39You've certainly got into a place where you're like, I need help with the running of the house,
31:44and these kids are old enough to be able to do it, and you're sticking with that.
31:48So, we're going to move on to the last clip here.
31:50Daley, take the shirt off.
31:54Stay in your room.
31:55You are not going to take part in this game.
31:57No, Daley.
31:58I'm sorry.
31:59No.
32:00Daley.
32:01Daley.
32:02What?
32:03You are not going to take part in the game.
32:04I'm sorry.
32:05It doesn't matter, love.
32:06I'm sorry, Mom.
32:07Daley, you're not going to ruin my day and everybody else's day.
32:10Well, you ruined everyone else's day, Mom.
32:11Well, I'm sorry.
32:12Keep trying to make that perfect day, okay?
32:13He's just being a smart pants right now.
32:19You know, he's being really disrespectful and cocky with you.
32:24And when he plays up, what's important for you is to be able to really show your authority
32:31for your tone of voice.
32:32So, your face is dead serious, you're giving him a lot of eye contact, and you're really
32:39exercising your voice.
32:41Otherwise, this will get worse.
32:43This really will get worse, this behaviour.
32:46So, what I would love to see is more authority.
32:50Okay.
32:51So, you ready for some more work?
32:52Yes!
33:01After watching the DVD footage, I realised that Daley still needs to curb that behaviour.
33:08This is what I've got for you.
33:11Okay, Daley report.
33:12Daley report.
33:13I think it's crucial that Mom has a report book that allows her to write down what's
33:18been happening and going on with Daley.
33:20I want you to write it daily with regards to his behaviour, alright?
33:26And he really does need to realise that he's got to start respecting his parents.
33:30Daley, love?
33:32Come here for a second.
33:33No!
33:34I don't want to talk to me.
33:35Daley, I need you to come talk to me.
33:36I don't want to talk to me.
33:37Daley, there's some neat things we're going to do.
33:39Please come here.
33:40You know, Blythe is allowing Daley to feel like she has no control.
33:45Stand up and stop faffing around.
33:50Stop showing off.
33:51Go and sit down at the table, please.
33:52Making sure that she used her tone of voice to curb that behaviour is certainly going to stop her from getting into a place where he feels he can just overall whatever she says.
34:02Every morning before I leave for work.
34:09It's not stupid, Daley.
34:10This is...
34:11This is...
34:12Don't be disrespectful.
34:14This is your daily report.
34:16And I'll be writing it every day.
34:17And I'll write what's happened during the day and also the really cool stuff.
34:22Cool.
34:23OK?
34:25Are we done yet?
34:27Yes.
34:28Thank you. Bye.
34:29I'm certainly getting used to having more control and taking up the reins of authority.
34:36But it's a slow process.
34:37But she'll get there.
34:38Why don't we go outside into the backyard?
34:41It's nice outside.
34:42Before I left, I knew that I wanted to give this family an event that would allow them to celebrate and honour Nana's life.
34:53What was it that you loved about Nana that made you smile?
34:57Everything.
34:59I miss laughing with her.
35:01I miss her telling Daley, don't make me put you over my knee.
35:06And us all giggling.
35:08Well, I have something in this bag that I want to give to you all.
35:12Hey!
35:14See? That's right.
35:16It is.
35:18There is a very special walk that is happening for charity where thousands of people are going to be in honour of those fighting cancer.
35:28And what I thought would be a wonderful idea for all of you would be to celebrate and honour the life of Nana, her spirit, the woman who she was.
35:39Nana is up in heaven, just delighting in this.
35:48What would Nana say about the shirt?
35:50Girl, give me one.
35:51It is about remembering Nana and the wonderful times that they had with her.
35:57Yeah, all about Team Nana.
36:00My son put on a pink shirt with such pride.
36:06I'm bringing this to school.
36:08Team Nana is off the chain.
36:11Listen, it is time for me to leave.
36:16I'd like to wish you all continued happy memories in your home, together as a family.
36:23You have something very special.
36:25It's called each other.
36:27I think we've come a long way.
36:28Bye-bye.
36:30Bye-bye.
36:32Daley, take care of yourself.
36:34Yes.
36:35My mom got the help she needed.
36:37My mom's happy now.
36:39Bye.
36:40Take care.
36:41Bye.
36:42And brave you.
36:43Thank you so much.
36:44It's been an interesting experience, and it was a really valuable thing to have happen.
36:52The children and I are so much better because of Jo.
36:56I'm laughing again.
36:57I'm smiling again.
36:59We are going to go on into the next chapter.
37:03Woo-hoo!
37:05Because mom is becoming more stable.
37:08The children are happier than what they were when I first met them.
37:12And there is a very bright future for herself and for her children.
37:30Woo!
37:32I'm so happy that Jo pushed us to do this.
37:34If Jo had not come into our home and into our hearts, we're probably sitting at home right
37:39now and being sad instead of doing something.
37:44We went from being a family that lost someone to breast cancer to a family who's fighting in honor of Nana.
37:52Nana, you guys have done great.
37:55What if, out of this walk, one woman decides to do a self breast exam and someone doesn't die from this disease?
38:03Then Nana didn't die in vain and a life is saved.
38:06See, Nana got a little heavy.
38:08And even though sometimes we're going to have to carry each other, that's what we'll do.
38:11We'll just carry each other through the hard times and smile through the good times.
38:16Woo!
38:17Yay!
38:19Woo!
38:20Woo!
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