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These 3 kids could rip the wallpaper off the walls, hit the computer with the stick, throwing couch pillows, knocking things over, hit, kick, punch and bite! Luckily Supernanny is here to help!
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00:00So I'm in Marietta, Georgia, ready to help a family who do desperately need my help.
00:04We'd better take a look.
00:06Hi, we're the Johnson family.
00:07My name's Roy.
00:09I'm Kate, and we have three boys.
00:11Denver, our oldest, is four.
00:13Logan is three.
00:14And Jack is one.
00:16Sorry, that's a silly one.
00:18Logan!
00:19Logan!
00:21Logan is our most violent child.
00:23Logan will cry, hit.
00:29Hey.
00:30He'll be playing happily, and then throws whatever he's playing with at someone else's head.
00:36Yeah!
00:37No.
00:38Logan!
00:39Yeah!
00:40Logan!
00:41That's got to stop.
00:44Hey.
00:45Oh.
00:46Stop!
00:47Denver's biggest problem is dealing with authority.
00:52It's really hard for me to control him and calm him down.
00:57You're both going to be in time out if you don't stop it.
00:59I'm not.
01:00Yes, you are.
01:01I'm not going to stop.
01:02Denver will just blatantly ignore everything that's being said to him.
01:05Don't go outside.
01:06I'm just going to play with him.
01:08And then turn and smile as if he's not doing anything wrong.
01:13Well, so obviously these kids can do what they want.
01:18Daddy!
01:19About two years ago, we created our family business, The Coffee Park, where parents can drink
01:25a cup of coffee and let someone else watch their kids.
01:29We wanted to have a place our children could enjoy with us.
01:32Hey.
01:33Denver.
01:34What seemed like a great idea and such a fun thing to do with our family has become almost
01:39a nightmare for us.
01:42Uh-uh.
01:44What's that?
01:45We probably bring the kids to The Coffee Park less than once a week.
01:49They cause all sorts of havoc.
01:51Ow!
01:52They don't respect our employees.
01:55Ow!
01:56They hit children and push them over and take their toys away.
02:01Who's going to want to bring their kids there?
02:03We wanted to alternate between us, one being at home and one being at our store.
02:09It turned into me having to stay at home and doing all the office stuff.
02:14Please stop.
02:16The kids don't understand that I can't constantly get up.
02:19I have to sit here and do some work.
02:21I'm at my limit with my kids' behavior.
02:24I've kind of been defeated.
02:26Super Nanny, please, we need your help.
02:30Seems like you guys need a little bit of help in the business and a little bit of help
02:34at home.
02:35Bear with me because I'm on my way.
02:46Hello.
02:47Hi.
02:48Hi, Jo Frost.
02:49Pleased to meet you.
02:50Roy is at work right now and Super Nanny Jo is about to come and watch my parenting and watch my kids.
02:57I'm terrified.
02:58Hi.
02:59Hi.
03:00Hi.
03:01This is Jack.
03:02Hi, Jack.
03:03Hi.
03:04Who's this?
03:05That's Logan.
03:06Hi, Logan.
03:07Logan doesn't seem too happy right now.
03:10No, he's not.
03:11Who are you?
03:12Denver.
03:13Hi, Denver.
03:14Pleased to meet you.
03:15Walking into the home, I saw a house that was very unkept.
03:18There was lots of scribbles and artwork on the walls.
03:22The house was in absolute disarray and quite frankly, so was the discipline.
03:27Logan, stop.
03:28Don't rip the wallpaper off the wall.
03:30Let's go in the living room.
03:31Come on.
03:32Logan.
03:33We're going out of Jack's room.
03:34Logan!
03:35When Logan ripped the wallpaper off, I was horrified.
03:39No.
03:40No.
03:41No.
03:42Come on, Jack.
03:43No.
03:44Come on, Logan.
03:45Stop.
03:46No.
03:47No.
03:48No.
03:49Could you believe it?
03:50There was Logan behaving the way he was, and there was no consequences.
03:52So I wonder why he carries on and does what he does.
03:57Logan, come on.
03:58Come in the living room.
04:03Denver.
04:08No.
04:09Oh, my word.
04:10You are kidding me.
04:12These boys liked to clown around.
04:14Logan was running around like a little Tasmanian devil,
04:17and Denver was totally running mad.
04:20Denver.
04:23As soon as mum sits down to do some work for the shop,
04:26the children get worse.
04:28I need Jack.
04:29Oh, gosh.
04:30No more, Margaret.
04:31I need Jack.
04:32No, don't.
04:33Hold on.
04:39No more, Margaret.
04:41Come on, let's wash your mouth.
04:42These boys are obviously bored and misbehaving.
04:53It's a good way of getting mum's attention.
05:02And obviously, it's a vicious cycle.
05:04Oh, Logan, stop.
05:07Logan.
05:08I want to go to the coffee.
05:10Okay, well, we'll go to the coffee park in a little bit, okay?
05:19So how much work do you actually get done?
05:21Not very much at all.
05:23I'd love to be up there at the coffee park making the coffee,
05:26enjoying the customers, making the food,
05:28and seeing what I put all this background work into.
05:36It's just a waste of a morning.
05:38Mum didn't get any work done for the shop,
05:40and the boys didn't have any fun with mum either.
05:42Do you want to go and eat some lunch at the back of the room?
05:47So we're going to the coffee shop, is that right?
05:49Yeah.
05:57Hello, hi.
05:58Joe Frost, pleased to meet you.
05:59Nice to meet you.
06:00How are you?
06:01Doing well.
06:02Good.
06:03It's a great idea.
06:04As a parent, you get to hang out, have a coffee,
06:06whilst the kids play under supervision in the tree house.
06:10But with the arrival of the Johnson boys,
06:13things turned into chaos.
06:16Hey.
06:19You want to go to sleep?
06:20Night-night.
06:21And on that bad service.
06:22I bit his diaper.
06:24You bit his diaper?
06:26No, you don't need that.
06:27That's sugar.
06:28Denver.
06:29The first thing I noticed was that Denver and Logan
06:31run around the coffee shop like they do at home.
06:37What parent is going to want to bring their kids
06:40into the coffee shop when the owner's children
06:43behave the way they do?
06:45And even worse, one of the employees told me
06:48that the kids like to run around behind the counter.
06:50That's dangerous.
06:52They come out from there, they come back here,
06:54and there's so much hot water and hot things
06:56that they could get burned or somebody could get hurt.
06:58Mum and Dad are really allowing their kids
07:00to jeopardise their business.
07:02But at the same time,
07:03these kids are also in dangerous situations.
07:06That just can't happen.
07:10Having watched these boys run around
07:12and spend time speaking to the employees,
07:14I saw Mum and Dad arguing over something rather petty.
07:19Mum forgot to bring up the diaper bag,
07:21and so Jack had leaked.
07:23Oh, hey!
07:24Watch!
07:25Watch!
07:26Watch!
07:27He's soaked!
07:28He's like the worst mum ever.
07:29Thank you so much.
07:30You're busy.
07:31And Mum had to ask one of the mums
07:33if they had a spare diaper.
07:35Did you not change him at all today?
07:36Yeah, I changed him.
07:38Well, he's covered in pee.
07:40That was really heavy on her for that.
07:42You know, he was quite mean with his choice of words.
07:45So do you have other pants for him?
07:47When Roy criticised me,
07:49it didn't really faze me
07:50because it happens a lot
07:51and I kind of just let it go now.
07:54I'll look in my car
07:55and if there's pants in there,
07:56then he'll have pants again.
07:58Dad speaking to Mum the way he did
08:01in front of those kids
08:02is totally unacceptable.
08:04These parents certainly need to work together as a team
08:08so that they're able to run this business successfully
08:11and come home as a partnership
08:13in how they raise their boys.
08:17When we got home,
08:18Dad headed towards the kitchen
08:19to get dinner ready
08:20and Mum was left alone
08:21to look after the kids.
08:22Mum, it's no different.
08:24Let him go.
08:31Kate, is this all the milk we have?
08:33We're going to need some for Jack.
08:35I know.
08:38Well, I need this for potatoes.
08:40Time out.
08:41I told you not to jump on the couch.
08:44No.
08:45Time out.
08:46No.
08:47You're okay, baby.
08:48What is it that you expect from Kate
08:50when you're at that coffee shop?
08:52What's her role?
08:53What do you expect her to be doing?
08:55I would like to see her keep the house clean
08:59and do everything that someone
09:01who's a stay-at-home parent would do.
09:03There are definitely times when I'll come home
09:05and say, did you do anything while you were here?
09:07Because I don't necessarily see the results
09:10of what she does.
09:11And that if I clean up,
09:12I'll say, well,
09:13I'm doing what you should have been doing all day.
09:16This dad obviously doesn't have a clue
09:18what it takes to look after three young boys.
09:21Logan?
09:23This is not about,
09:25well, I do the harder job.
09:26It's me.
09:27I do.
09:28I mean, it's immature.
09:29We've got two parents here
09:31who have to grow up pretty darn quickly.
09:33They're raising three young human beings,
09:36and so they're going to need to step up fast.
09:40All right, guys, let's get to the table, okay?
09:42The boys sat down at dinner time,
09:44and dad didn't even try and correct their behavior.
09:48I've just reached a point where,
09:50of futility, that why even try to make it different
09:55because it's the same thing every night.
09:58Whatever.
10:00It's very clear, these parents,
10:02at their wit's end
10:03when it comes to being at home
10:04and running the business.
10:07Okay, I'll see you tomorrow.
10:09Bye-bye, bye-bye.
10:11We've certainly all got our work cut out for us tomorrow.
10:23Are you nervous?
10:25You should be.
10:29So, let's talk about boundaries, first of all.
10:32If you were going to set a boundary, what would it be?
10:35I don't think we know where to start.
10:38Let's take the shop.
10:39The children go around by the kitchen area,
10:41and that's a safety issue.
10:44Climbing up on the counters.
10:45Yeah.
10:46You know, opening up drawers that may have knives in them.
10:48You know, rules, we do not climb up.
10:50We do not go near.
10:51We do not go near.
10:52So, let's talk about discipline.
10:54It doesn't seem to be any here, does there?
10:57No.
10:58Not consistently.
10:59Not effectively.
11:01Not effectively, not consistently.
11:03We're talking about the wrong recipe here, right?
11:06You can't expect to have children that are going to listen
11:10if you don't follow through.
11:13Yeah.
11:14They'd never know the consequence to what they're doing.
11:16It's different every time.
11:18And sometimes I give in, sometimes I don't.
11:21They're confused.
11:22One minute you said this, then you'd said that.
11:24I'm confused.
11:25I'm angry.
11:26I'm getting mixed messages.
11:27Tell me no and mean no.
11:29Give me some rules because I need them.
11:32And it's very unsettling, and we can see that from their behaviour.
11:36Let's talk about the pair of you.
11:38You guys disagree on a lot of things, but you don't resolve anything.
11:44If you guys do not understand the importance of talking with one another
11:50and resolving the issues that you individually have as well as the pair of you as parents,
11:54nothing's going to get better.
11:56It's not.
11:57It's going to get worse.
11:59What is it that you need from Roy?
12:03I need him to back me up when I tell the kids no
12:06or when I say something to the kids,
12:08and then to respect what I do at home.
12:10I might not get the whole house cleaned in one day,
12:12but it's probably because I've been working on the computer for the coffee park
12:16and respect that it's hard to juggle it all.
12:20What about yourself, Roy?
12:21What do you need from Kate?
12:23I need to know that she's going to be there
12:26and be able to do everything that one would think that a wife should.
12:32You both need the support from one another,
12:36but you're a mirror reflection in that it's difficult to actually have that conversation.
12:40You're going to need to work together, but we are not throwing the towel in,
12:47because that's not an option here.
12:49That's not an option.
12:50You know, you're both committed in raising three young children,
12:53and that's the most important role that you'll ever do in your life.
13:00That's everything I've been wanting.
13:02OK. Good, so we're going to get it.
13:04Thank you very much.
13:06Come on, let's get knuckled down with home rules.
13:11The first thing that I wanted to do with the Johnson family was to put in some rules,
13:15so these boys would know what was expected of them.
13:18Short and simple, to the point.
13:20So, number one.
13:22No hitting?
13:23That's what I was going to say.
13:24The family very quickly come up with seven rules to be used at home and at the coffee shop.
13:29But it wasn't long before the boys flouted rule number one.
13:32No hitting.
13:33No.
13:34Logan.
13:35Logan.
13:36I had to show mum and dad how to do discipline.
13:39And then in a very firm voice, turn around and say to them,
13:42I want you to stop this behaviour.
13:44If you do not do that, then you will be going into timeout.
13:47And then dad had a chance to give Denver a timeout.
13:50Do not draw on the piano.
13:53Logan is.
13:55He's trying to control the situation.
13:56So in a firm voice, give him clear instruction of what you expect him to do.
14:01Denver, you need to listen to me or you're going to go to timeout.
14:05Look at me and listen.
14:07What's he doing?
14:08All right.
14:09If you're not going to listen, you're going to go to timeout.
14:11Come on.
14:12All right.
14:13No talking.
14:14Denver.
14:15Doesn't need to sit down.
14:16He's in that area and you're going to tell him why he's been placed there.
14:19Because you are not listening to me and you know better than to write on things that are not paper.
14:23Daddy, I'm trying to, I love listening to me.
14:25Listen the first time.
14:27Four minutes.
14:28Move away.
14:29Set your timer and then you've got to place him back.
14:31Dad was consistent and strong when Denver refused to do timeout.
14:36But then Denver made a break for it.
14:51Just watch him.
14:53Because he's waiting for you to play cat and mouse with him.
15:00With Denver running around in the backyard, I showed dad exactly how to take a hold of this situation.
15:07Denver, you're to come in this house by the time I count to three.
15:12Because if you do not, you will be going to bed straight after dinner.
15:16One.
15:17Two.
15:19Tell me what I just did with him over there.
15:24Using a firm voice.
15:26Yep.
15:27Firm voice.
15:28Did I sound like I was messing around?
15:29No.
15:30And what did I give him ultimately?
15:32Consequence.
15:33From where we were here.
15:34Once Denver knew that I meant business, he stayed straight in timeout.
15:39It gave me hope that they do have it in them to listen and made me realize that if I demand the respect that I should be able to get it from the kids.
15:49So then dad needs to follow through properly.
15:52Denver, you are in timeout because you were not listening to me.
15:57Do not write on the piano.
15:59You only draw on paper.
16:00Do you understand?
16:03Now can you say you're sorry?
16:04Sorry.
16:06Really?
16:07Are you?
16:09Dad did a good job when it came to handling the timeout.
16:13Now the question is whether mum can do it.
16:15Later on in the afternoon we went to the coffee shop where I showed mum and dad how to do discipline there with a very simple tool.
16:24This is your timeout wherever you place it to be.
16:27Whether it's up on a wall or it's down on the floor, this will be your timeout, okay?
16:33As long as the kids realize whether you're at home or you're at work that you want discipline when they misbehave,
16:40you'll see a dramatic change in their behavior.
16:42I still had to work on the boys not going behind the counter.
16:45So I showed mum and dad a very simple colorful tool to use that even a three-year-old would understand.
16:51See what that is?
16:52What is it?
16:53A big line.
16:54You can't cry.
16:55A big red line, okay?
16:57You can't go right there.
16:59Come here.
17:00That is our red line to say stop.
17:02We don't go in the kitchen anymore.
17:04The kitchen is just for us.
17:05Do you understand the rules, Logan?
17:06Yes.
17:07Just for snacks.
17:08All right.
17:09All right.
17:10The boys immediately tested the red tape boundary.
17:13Hey, come back.
17:15Denver, you know that's against the rules, okay?
17:18This is your warning.
17:19You're going to go into timeout, okay?
17:22All righty.
17:23Denver listened to dad and he started to respect the red tape boundary.
17:27Then Logan refused to stay in his seat at dinner time and mum for the first time did discipline.
17:33Stay in your seat, okay?
17:34And finish your dinner.
17:35If you get up again, you're going to have to go to timeout.
17:38All right, Logan.
17:39That's timeout.
17:40I told you to stay in your seat through dinner.
17:45You're going to stand right here for three minutes, Logan.
17:50Let's go finish your dinner, okay?
17:52Good.
17:53Timeout.
17:54Logan, you're in timeout because you didn't listen to mommy.
17:57Look at me and tell me sorry.
17:58Sorry.
17:59Okay.
18:00Give me a hug.
18:02All right.
18:03I think the X marks the spot, timeout place is great because it gives us a place to put
18:24our kids in timeout and I think we're going to put it up so that all of our customers can
18:28use it as well.
18:29You follow through which was amazing so just keep up with it.
18:33You're doing a good job.
18:34Just keep up with it.
18:36I think mum did a great job when it came to holding down discipline but dad's still not
18:42happy.
18:43I'm going to go put him in the tree house and go get Denver out of the bathroom and you
18:47get him to eat.
18:48Roy's words hit Kate really hard and I found her at the back of the shop distraught over
18:54his attitude.
18:55I feel like Roy doesn't help me at all build my confidence.
19:00I mean he points out everything I do wrong.
19:03He puts me down all the time.
19:04He doesn't lift me up.
19:06I just, you know, I'm hitting my breaking point.
19:09It's been a long time.
19:10Do you want the best bit of advice you're going to get?
19:13Yes, Roy does need to support you and that doesn't mean putting you down.
19:19He needs to be telling you from his own heart what you need to hear.
19:24And while you swallow it, Kate, while you take this CRAP every day, it's not going to get
19:32better.
19:33You're not meant to shut up and put up and tolerate stuff that you're unhappy about because
19:39you're married.
19:40You need to go out there and say to him, we need to talk.
19:43No, I know.
19:44I mean...
19:45Then step up for yourself because nobody else is going to do it, Kate.
19:49Nobody.
19:51You hear what I'm saying?
19:52Yeah.
19:54I hear you.
19:55I hear you.
19:57You can make this better, Kate.
19:59Come on.
20:00If mum and dad really want to get control over their children's naughty behaviour, then
20:10they must work together and Roy must stop putting his wife down.
20:16Come on.
20:17Do what you need to do.
20:19Hey, Roy.
20:20Come here.
20:21No, I need you to build me up, OK?
20:24And I need you to stop putting me down and pointing out everything that I do that's wrong.
20:29OK?
20:30With everything.
20:31The coffee park is both of us.
20:33So you need to recognize that and recognize how hard it is for me and build me up.
20:38You're right.
20:39You do a good job.
20:40And I'm sorry for being so hard on you.
20:43I'll try to...
20:44No, you can't try.
20:45You just...
20:46You've got to do it.
20:47I will.
20:48OK.
20:49I will.
20:50OK.
20:51Roy's apology seemed a little less than sincere.
20:53He apologized, but I'm used to hearing I'm sorry.
20:56And it didn't seem like he really was being heartfelt.
21:00After I saw Roy's half-hearted apology, I just knew I needed to step in.
21:04You're killing her softly.
21:06What is it deep-rooted that you're feeling frustrated and angry with?
21:12I don't know.
21:13I think that just the stress of the coffee park, I just lash out at someone to blame and not really fair to her, I guess.
21:20Put it right.
21:21It's not OK to talk to your wife that way.
21:24It's not OK for anybody to.
21:26So, apologize.
21:27Feel it.
21:28Apologize.
21:29Show her that you can change that.
21:31Talk to her.
21:32Put it right.
21:33OK.
21:34It was hard to hear Joe hit right at the core of the issue.
21:38It was kind of one of those moments where I realized that I really haven't been giving her all the support that she needed.
21:44I'm sorry.
21:45OK, thank you.
21:46I really am.
21:47And I know that I haven't given you the support you need.
21:52I'm sorry.
21:54I'm sorry that I've just been tearing apart at your faults and not helping you through everything.
22:00I'm sorry.
22:02I never meant to hurt you with it.
22:05I love you.
22:07Roy apologized again and really, truly opened his heart up.
22:11I really think that now we can work on the little things knowing that we've hopefully put this bus behind us.
22:19Ah!
22:20Ha ha ha ha ha!
22:26Alright, so I've got something for the pair of you.
22:29Two aprons.
22:30Dad, you are going to be at home with the kids today.
22:34Kate, you're going to work.
22:36I think it's important that both parents have empathy and appreciate each other's roles.
22:42Dad clearly doesn't understand how difficult that is for mum.
22:45And so what I want them to do is to experience walking in each other's shoes.
22:49I am going to work.
22:51Bye!
22:52Bye!
22:53I was excited to get out of the house and be able to talk with other adults.
22:57OK, so this is where you grow eyes at the back of your head, Roy.
23:01I was a little worried on how the boys would act and whether or not I would be able to handle it.
23:07Dad was trying to get some work done for the shop.
23:09And as usual, the kids were going mad behind him.
23:12Welcome to Mum's World.
23:14Logan, no more throwing.
23:16What happened?
23:20You're going to break things. Stop.
23:25You want more snack?
23:28You want a snack too? You want it cut? OK.
23:31Dad's learning.
23:32It's just not that easy to look after three kids and run a business at home.
23:37So how much work we get done?
23:38Not very much.
23:40Dad's certainly getting a taste of what mum has to experience every day.
23:44I decided to go up to the shop and see exactly how mum was getting on.
23:48Oh, can I go get a coffee around here?
23:51Mum was clearly enjoying herself. She was having a blast actually and smiling like I'd never seen her smile.
24:00I kind of got a little bit of my spark back being able to interact with my employees and talk with other adults.
24:06Alright, well listen, I'm going to go back because your husband's holding down full.
24:11Hello.
24:14Hello.
24:15When I got back home, the house was looking reasonable and the boys were happy.
24:18How did that work out with the work that you needed to get done within the shop?
24:22I was able to get the schedule out finally when they calmed down a little bit.
24:26It was refreshing for me to get to be at home with the boys.
24:30Going down.
24:31So often I feel like I'm missing out on all the good times.
24:35Hi.
24:36Hello.
24:37Hi.
24:38How was your day?
24:41It was good.
24:42Alright.
24:43Both parents have a deeper appreciation of what the other one does and so together we created a schedule
24:49they can equally take responsibility in raising their children and running their successful business.
24:54I'm going to be at work Monday, Wednesday and Friday.
24:57But mum did have one concern.
24:59A part of me says I want to be home with my kids and sometimes I feel like that when the kids are with him they have so much fun and enjoy them and play and then when I'm at home with them it's just a constant struggle to get them to listen and we don't have that fun.
25:15This is just a real shame.
25:17What I want to do is to teach mum how easy it can be to get out there and have fun with your boys.
25:23How old are you?
25:24Twenty-six.
25:25Twenty-six.
25:26Twenty-six.
25:27I know you remember what it was like when you were younger, right?
25:29So we need to pull out that inner child and let's have some fun with these kids, okay?
25:32Wow.
25:33Look at this.
25:34Look at this big pirate hat.
25:36She wanted me to really join their pirate adventure wholeheartedly.
25:40Kate, take her through the jungle.
25:41Go through the trees.
25:42Ready?
25:43Ready?
25:44We're going to have to just push away through the jungle.
25:46Push away through the jungle.
25:47Push all the branches away.
25:48Oh.
25:49Oh.
25:50Wait over that.
25:51Oh.
25:52What I am seeing is Kate make more of an effort today than she has made since I've arrived.
25:58And this is really allowing her to connect with the children and have a lot of fun with them.
26:03Pirate play was definitely quality time with my boys.
26:06Let's talk about what's important for while I'm gone for several days.
26:12First and foremost, we need to be kind to one another.
26:16Be mindful of your language.
26:18Time out.
26:19What?
26:20I want you to practice more on your tone of voice, alright?
26:23I'm definitely very nervous that I won't be able to follow the time out techniques.
26:28Follow through.
26:29Be consistent.
26:30Have fun with your kids.
26:31And talk.
26:32The toughest part while Jo is away is going to be getting Denver to follow through the
26:39steps of time out.
26:40Mwah!
26:42I think this family have done very well.
26:45But I'm going to be very curious to see how much control they have over their boys when
26:49I'm gone.
26:50Bye JoJo.
26:51Quite anxious to see.
26:52I've been away for several days, and yes, I am interested to see whether the Johnson
27:05family kept it together, and were they kind to one another?
27:09Who's excited?
27:10Alright, let's do it.
27:11Alright.
27:12Let's take a look at the tree house.
27:14Yes!
27:15Be careful, bud.
27:17Here.
27:18No, no, no.
27:19Oh.
27:20Hey, Denver.
27:21Hey, don't yell.
27:22Called that poor kid on the block.
27:23Denver.
27:24No, put it.
27:25Pull it up.
27:26You okay, bud?
27:27Come here.
27:28Being a parent, you take your kids to the coffee shop, you actually see that there's
27:44this little boy, this other little boy, they are behaving atrociously, and they're now
27:51throwing toys at your child.
27:53And then you realise after that, they're the owner's children.
27:57What's the next thing you think?
27:59The owners aren't in control.
28:01Yeah.
28:02Why aren't they disciplining them?
28:04My word, what kind of a place is this?
28:06How can I take my kids to a place like this for them to enjoy when there's this child,
28:11doing what they're doing?
28:13One, it's not acceptable for your children to behave that way, but two, it's important
28:21for Denver and for Logan to realise that just because Mummy and Daddy own the coffee shop
28:28doesn't mean it's their castle.
28:30This is Mummy and Daddy's workplace, because that's scary.
28:35I mean, I'd give a kid a concussion, throw that big truck and throw it at the back of
28:39someone's head.
28:40When we see that behaviour, we curb it straight away.
28:44So let's move on to the creative play.
28:46Okay.
28:47Let's see if we can do a rule song.
28:49A rule song?
28:50Yes.
28:51Oh, that sounds good.
28:52I like that.
28:53Johnson Brothers Band.
28:56No pushing people.
28:57No pushing people.
28:58No pushing people.
28:59No pushing people anywhere.
29:00Go play the guitar.
29:01Yeah!
29:02All right.
29:03Who made the t-shirts?
29:04I did.
29:05We kind of all decided to play rock star together.
29:07It's absolutely fantastic.
29:08It was a lot of fun.
29:09Did you get so much back from that with the kids?
29:10I definitely did.
29:11It was fun to, you know, just take a break and just play with them and not think about
29:12anything else.
29:13Fantastic.
29:14All right.
29:15So we're going to look at yourself, Kate, here with Denver's time-outs.
29:16Denver!
29:17All right.
29:18Time-out.
29:19I told you not to hit or kick and this morning I told you not to hurt your brother.
29:21You are in time-out because you are in time-out because you are not left.
29:22You are in time-out because you are not left.
29:23I did.
29:24It was a lot of fun.
29:25I did.
29:26It was a lot of fun.
29:27It was a lot of fun.
29:28Did you get so much back from that with the kids?
29:29I definitely did.
29:30It was fun to, you know, just take a break and just play with them and not think about
29:31anything else.
29:32Fantastic.
29:33All right.
29:34So we're going to look at yourself, Kate, here, with Denver's time-outs.
29:37I told you not to hit or kick and this morning I told you not to hurt your brother.
29:42You are in time-out because you are not listening to Mommy.
29:46I want to.
29:47Woo!
29:48Woo!
29:49Woo!
29:50Woo!
29:51Woo!
29:52Woo!
29:53Woo!
29:54Woo!
29:55Woo!
29:56Woo!
29:58Woo!
29:59Woo!
30:00Woo!
30:01Woo!
30:02Woo!
30:03Woo!
30:04Woo!
30:05Woo!
30:06Woo!
30:07Can you tell Logan and Jack you're sorry?
30:09Sorry, Logan!
30:10Sorry, Jack!
30:12All right, so, you did implement a time-out which is great because you made a decision but
30:18that certainly needed time-out and you went ahead and you did that.
30:22But in the beginning when you made a decision to do a time-out there was no eye-contact.
30:27And you didn't there and then say to him, you need to look at me right now
30:31because I am talking to you.
30:33so that you could see that you facially were very serious
30:36with your tone of voice as well.
30:38You then got up and then he started to play cat and mouse with you.
30:42So it's your warning, really, that needs to brush up.
30:45You get the warning down, then everything else will follow.
30:49All right, in saying that, I'm going to move on to communication here.
30:53OK. You did it on here?
30:56Yep. Oh, good.
30:58Did you play with the Coffee Park website today?
31:01Nope.
31:02It's loading upward.
31:04All right, I'll work on the website.
31:07I'll do this in my spare time.
31:09You can do it now, I'm sorry.
31:11You can do it now, I know that that's important too.
31:16OK. Not good.
31:17You just need to be honest with each other.
31:19You're still tippy-toeing around each other
31:23because you're worried about how the other person will react.
31:26So it's almost pretense that the pair of you are playing this little,
31:29you know, verbal game between each other.
31:31But actually, it's not real.
31:33And you've got to be real with each other.
31:35If you actually feel that Roy's come in and he's poking his nose in what you're doing,
31:39you know, there are ways in being able to say,
31:40look, right now I'm feeling this way when you behave like this.
31:45You know, and vice versa.
31:47All right.
31:47All right.
31:48So I have seen you recognise the importance of being able to knuckle down with your kids
31:53and really have fun and enjoy that time with them.
31:56And the things that I believe we do need to work on straight away is certainly communication.
32:02And treehouse behaviour's got to go.
32:05It's got to go.
32:06So are we feeling ready for that work?
32:08Yeah.
32:09OK, good.
32:10All right.
32:11Let's go on and do some more work.
32:12It was very clear watching the DVD that mum and dad are still struggling
32:23when it comes to handling discipline in the coffee shop.
32:25So I decided to meet them there so I can give them some additional practice.
32:33Denver and Logan, you're playing in the treehouse right now.
32:36You cannot come out here unless we come to get you.
32:39This is your warning.
32:41If you come out again, you will go on timeout.
32:42Mommy and daddy need to clean up.
32:44Hey, hey.
32:45Where are the kids?
32:45When you're giving them a warning, where were they?
32:47What were they doing?
32:48Walking.
32:48Correct.
32:49You remember the warnings?
32:51Remember?
32:51Eye contact coming down using that voice.
32:54Don't let them walk away.
32:56Hey, Denver, stop what you're doing.
32:59Look at me.
33:00Come here, Logan.
33:00Look at me.
33:01Come here.
33:01Right here.
33:02Turn around and look at me.
33:05Logan?
33:06You need to stay in the treehouse.
33:08If you come out again, you will go to timeout.
33:10That was 100% better.
33:12That was a proper warning.
33:14But Logan decided to carry on with his misbehavior,
33:18knocking down Denver's blocks when mum had already given him a warning.
33:22He knocked it down again.
33:24And after you told him not to.
33:26Logan, you need to take a timeout because I told you not to knock down Denver's tower.
33:31You are not playing nice.
33:33You are going to timeout.
33:34No.
33:36You are in timeout because you did not listen and you knocked down Denver's toys.
33:40Look at me.
33:42Stand on the X and look at me.
33:44No.
33:46Sit down.
33:57Kate, we're talking rather like this, as if we've come out of Mary Poppins.
34:02When you gave him a warning, you gave him a low tone voice and that's exactly what you want.
34:06It's not Mary Mary quite contrary.
34:09It's sit down there and do your time.
34:11You did not listen to mummy.
34:13So let's try that again, please.
34:16Logan, sit down.
34:18You're sitting in timeout because you didn't listen and you didn't play nice with Denver.
34:22Okay, three minutes.
34:25Do you see the difference?
34:34Logan, you got timeout because you didn't listen.
34:37You need to tell me you're sorry.
34:39Sorry.
34:40Can you give me a hug?
34:43Mum's certainly a little bit wobbly when it comes to timeout, but she does know the steps.
34:48I'm very optimistic. With more practice, she's certainly going to nail it.
34:55Okay, so Kate and Roy, I've brought this in for the pair of you.
35:00Okay, it's dinner tonight here.
35:03Kate and Roy did say to me in submission, they want to enjoy themselves as a family
35:08within their business. So I'm going to show them exactly how to do that.
35:11We're going to have a picnic. Would you guys like to help me spread out the blanket?
35:15All right.
35:16Mum, we're going to spread out the blanket.
35:18All right. Good job, guys.
35:22Guess what? All the customers are gone, so we can have fun and have a huge picnic.
35:27Daddy!
35:28Hey, Jack, Jack.
35:28In the coffee park, can't we?
35:30Just our family.
35:31Let's see.
35:32Look at all this yummy stuff.
35:34When we had the family picnic, it was great. It was a lot of fun to have our kids at our coffee shop
35:40and be able to really enjoy everything that we built.
35:42Really sweet. Who's enjoyed their picnic this evening?
35:46Look at Jack.
35:46Everybody did.
35:48Yeah, they did, right?
35:50It's nice, isn't it, just to take a moment, right?
35:52I'm enjoying my family.
35:54You're enjoying your family?
35:58That's when you know you're on the right road.
36:00When you hear something like that from your kids, you know you're doing something right.
36:03The point of our picnic was to show us that we can do family things at the coffee park and it doesn't
36:09have to be all about stress and discipline, that we can still have a good time there and so it was
36:14very refreshing and it was fun.
36:16I didn't want to leave the Johnson's until I had a final word with Kate and Roy back at home.
36:23I wanted to give you one last thing.
36:27I think it's really important for Kate and Roy to understand that as a young couple they are on this
36:32business adventure together. They are on this parenting journey together but together they're
36:38also a very young couple.
36:40I think it's important for you to have these around your house.
36:43Those times that get tough is the times when you need to look at these pictures and go,
36:47I know that I'm in love and we're going through a little bit of a blip in the road
36:52but we'll get through it together.
36:55The picture of Kate and I is going to help us stay grounded and remember the good times.
37:01On the days when it gets hard to be able to look at that picture and see us both so happy,
37:06it's going to be really encouraging for me.
37:09So it's time for me to leave. I've really had a wonderful time working with you both.
37:16You've been so receptive to everything that has been taught really.
37:19Listen, you take care.
37:21Jo's had a great impact on my family. I was sad to see her leave but also happy that now I can
37:26take back control of my home and implement what she's taught me.
37:29Take care, okay?
37:31I've learned a lot about myself and how the way that I act in any situation
37:36affects Kate and everyone else and I can't take anything for granted.
37:41Come here, let me say goodbye.
37:44Bye-bye. Bye-bye, Denver.
37:46Bye-bye.
37:46I love Annie Jo because she helps families.
37:59I love Annie Jo because she helps me with my family.
38:01I love Annie Jo because she helps me with my family.
38:02I love Annie Jo because she helps me with my family.
38:04I love Annie Jo because she helps me with my family.
38:06I love Annie Jo because she helps me with my family.
38:08I love Annie Jo because she helps me with my family.
38:10I love Annie Jo because she helps me with my family.
38:10I love Annie Jo because she helps me with my family.
38:12I love Annie Jo because she helps me with my family.
38:12I love Annie Jo because she helps me with my family.
38:14I love Annie Jo because she helps me with my family.
38:14I love Annie Jo because she helps me with my family.
38:16I love Annie Jo because she helps me with my family.
38:16I love Annie Jo because she helps me with my family.
38:18I love Annie Jo because she helps me with my family.
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