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Another exciting full episode of Supernanny! All 4 of the boys spend much of their day playing video games, have no responsibility around the house and act out. Are your siblings like that?
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00:00Well, I'm here in sunny San Dimas, California,
00:04and I better take a look and see what family needs my help now.
00:07Hi, we're the Browning family.
00:09I'm Bernadette.
00:10I'm Charles.
00:11We have six kids.
00:13Eric, who is 17.
00:15Devontae, who is 14.
00:17What the heck?
00:19Brett is 10.
00:21Joseph is 8 years old.
00:23Charlotte is 2.
00:25And Catalina, who's 20 years old, she's away at college.
00:29Let me get him.
00:32Come on.
00:33Five kids.
00:35That's a full house.
00:37I'm a real estate agent.
00:39Bye-bye.
00:40Oh.
00:41Oh, hello?
00:42Bernadette is on the phone literally from sunup to sundown.
00:47Oh, my mom.
00:48Hold on.
00:49Let me just see what she wants.
00:51Yeah.
00:52Everything else OK over there?
00:55My vocation is I'm a minister.
00:57When the Bible says, whoa, it means whoa.
01:01Bernadette, her annual income is considerably more than mine.
01:07And so she feels that because she makes most money that she should be able to make most of the decisions.
01:12Even though she may call herself the breadwinner, man does not live by bread alone.
01:17Who pays the mortgage here?
01:19Who pays the mortgage here?
01:21It seems to me there's a lot of anger underneath this relationship.
01:25And I try to raise my children using the principles of the Bible.
01:28But they always say the preacher kids are the worst.
01:31Let me hear what you're just saying about my kids.
01:33Go church, remember talking about our kids.
01:43Oh.
01:44Eric and Devonte are my kids from a previous relationship.
01:49I would like to have bonded a lot closer with Eric and Devonte.
01:53What's wrong with the sink?
01:55What's wrong with the...
01:56That was supposed to be funny, right?
02:01So funny I forgot to laugh.
02:03The number one thing about Eric is he's very selfish.
02:06He doesn't take anything seriously and doesn't listen.
02:09Hello?
02:10What are you thinking?
02:11Excuse me?
02:12Eric, I'm talking to you.
02:13Devonte, same thing.
02:16Stop!
02:17I mean it!
02:18Go with the family room and help us keep that crap up!
02:21Mom!
02:22They all just don't listen and don't respect me.
02:25So stupid.
02:27If you weren't so disrespected, I'd let you go.
02:30Supernanny, I really need your help.
02:32I'm at my wit's end and I'm pleading for you to come help me to get my kids under control.
02:37Supernanny, please come help our family.
02:41Well I tell you what, I've certainly seen enough and this family are in for a big wake up call.
02:45You better hold on.
02:46Hello.
02:47Hello.
02:48How are you doing?
02:49Very well.
02:50Pleased to meet you.
02:51Joe Cross.
02:52Nice to meet you, Charles.
02:53Come here.
02:55When I first arrived to say hello to this family, I was greeted by Charles, who was
03:14very smiley and pleased to see me.
03:17So, your wife, is she in?
03:19Yes, she is.
03:20Great.
03:21I'd love to meet the family then as well.
03:22Okay.
03:23When wife is upstairs, I'll have her come down.
03:24Hello.
03:25We need help.
03:26Bernadette stayed on the stairs for quite a long time.
03:29Which I thought was rather rude to be honest with you.
03:33She'd ask for my help and I'd come and she was kind of just standing there sussing me out
03:39rather than saying hello to me and inviting me to be in her home.
03:44Love to, love to meet up with everybody.
03:47My first impression was, is this a nanny?
03:51Because she reminded me of like a third grade teacher.
03:54Okay gang, can we interrupt the computers for just a second?
03:59I got introduced to the boys, or not as the case may be, as they were very busy playing
04:06with the video games.
04:07I just hope they're not too rude.
04:09They don't meow then?
04:10Yes, they're normally rude.
04:13There's no doubt that this family love technology.
04:16But it's really stopping them from spending time together and talking to one another.
04:20You've been playing since you woke up this morning.
04:22You've been playing for four hours.
04:27Like a lot of mums, Bernadette really balances between being a business woman and also being
04:32a house mum.
04:33But she seemed to have that cell phone glued to her ear.
04:36Shh, be quiet.
04:37I gotta use the phone.
04:38Hey, did you call me?
04:39My phone is dying.
04:40I can't let my phone die.
04:41And that's Sandy, miss?
04:42And this is?
04:43My cell phone.
04:44Take it everywhere I go.
04:46Where's my cell phone?
04:47Do you have my cell phone?
04:49The worst part about mum constantly speaking on her cell phone is that her youngest child,
04:55Charlotte, often gets ignored.
04:57Can you hold on a second, please?
04:59Okay, hold on.
05:00Here.
05:01Okay.
05:02Take her down.
05:03Okay.
05:04Okay.
05:05Take her down.
05:06Come on.
05:07Are you all right?
05:09Take her down.
05:10Okay.
05:11Sorry about that.
05:13Little Charlotte attached to me very quickly because I was giving her the attention that
05:18she craved.
05:20I sat at the dining table and little Charlotte wanted to climb up onto my lap so that she
05:27could play with me.
05:28Oh, hello.
05:29Hello.
05:30And when Bernadette saw that, it certainly touched a raw nerve.
05:35And she was trying to coax Charlotte to move away from me.
05:39I'm going to go upstairs and watch TV.
05:41Hmm?
05:42Come on.
05:43Let's go watch TV.
05:44Come on then.
05:45Down you get.
05:46You want to go with me to watch TV?
05:47Charlotte just looked at her and thought, I do telly every day.
05:48For hours.
05:49I don't want to do telly.
05:50I'm having fun just being.
05:51With somebody else.
05:52She'd rather sit in there with Super Nanny than go watch TV.
05:53So.
05:54I don't know.
05:55This is ridiculous.
05:56I noticed that Bernadette was really coming down heavy on her kids most of the time.
06:01Just sick of you guys yelling back and forth with each other.
06:04I'm thinking that this game is going to help you.
06:19By keeping you quiet.
06:21Keeping you out of my hair.
06:23That's not even working.
06:24After seeing mum yell at Bernadette.
06:26She's like, I've already told me this.
06:28I was just kidding.
06:29I'm not going to worry about how you're doing.
06:30Seeing mum yell at Brett, I wanted to take the time to talk to the two older boys
06:34to see if mum's behaviour was quite typical.
06:37So, what's up with mum?
06:39She's mad down there, like, she's angry.
06:42She's always angry.
06:43She's always angry?
06:45She's trying to make it seem like we're bad kids,
06:47we don't do anything we're supposed to do, we're just out,
06:50and, nah, it's not even like that.
06:52And, Charles, what's your relationship like with him?
06:55I mean, at the end of the day, he's not your dad,
06:56but, I mean, he's your stepdad, I mean, he's raised you.
06:58I can care less.
06:59He's put food in your belly, he's put a roof over your head,
07:02he's been there for you, right, or not?
07:04Huh?
07:05Huh?
07:06I don't want to say nothing.
07:08I don't want to say nothing.
07:08No, I want to hear.
07:09I want to hear.
07:10I think he's free, though.
07:13Tell you the truth.
07:14And that's what I know not to be.
07:17So, learn your lessons here and there.
07:19And you're talking about that you don't feel like he's got a job
07:21because, well, he's a preacher.
07:23No, nah, like...
07:24That's a good job, but I think that he, I mean, he could do that,
07:28and he could do something else like other people do.
07:30So, how much are you on board with this experience of me being here
07:35and changing situations?
07:37I'm fine with it.
07:38Huh?
07:38I'm all going in.
07:39So, you're 100% in?
07:40Yeah.
07:41Yes.
07:42All right, I want to handshake on that, then.
07:44All right, good.
07:45I want to handshake on that, then.
07:47All right, listen, thanks for your chat, yeah?
07:48After speaking to Eric and Devante,
07:56I realized this family was all about the money.
08:00And I saw with my own eyes
08:01because a fight broke out over dinner time.
08:03What do you do all day, Charles?
08:04Working all day long.
08:06So, basically, you stay home all day,
08:08taking us places,
08:10and on a computer, and watching the baby.
08:11When was the last time you took a trash can out?
08:14Dang.
08:14When was the last time you picked up your socks and things?
08:17When was the last time you did anything
08:18without your mother complaining
08:20and you getting ready to fight over it?
08:22When?
08:23When?
08:23When was the last time?
08:25Get out of here.
08:26Yeah.
08:26Words got exchanged,
08:27and a lot of feelings came out that had been pent up.
08:31Well, I know she pays all the bills around the house.
08:33Yeah, yeah.
08:34I know she does.
08:34Because she makes most of the money, right?
08:36No, no, no.
08:37No, you guys want to do this?
08:38No, no.
08:38We're going to do this.
08:39No.
08:39The way that we communicate most of the time is yelling.
08:42I would like to give you the opportunity, Eric,
08:46to voice your opinion with how you feel.
08:50He hasn't provided as a man she should provide for his family.
08:54And it still seems like he's freeloading off of her.
08:56There is some validity to this.
08:59Can I just ask one question here?
09:02As a family, is this what you want?
09:06No.
09:06Of course not.
09:07Absolutely not.
09:09This isn't healthy.
09:10I agree.
09:10It got really late, so I moved on to watch Mum put Charlotte to bed
09:15and see exactly how she did that.
09:18And I was shocked.
09:20Charlotte is in their bed.
09:24She's got a can of spray cheese and a bag of crackers.
09:30She's looking at the can and hoping that the cheese would end up on the cracker somehow.
09:34In a world where disobedience can get you stabbed and leaving the gang can get you killed.
09:40You're kidding me.
09:43Do you think this is appropriate for her to be watching?
09:46I really don't know what's on.
09:48My husband had that on.
09:49There was a TV documentary about gang violence.
09:53I mean, are you kidding me?
09:54That's not what you want your toddler to be watching before they go off to bed.
09:57Oh, no.
09:59She shouldn't be watching that.
10:00She said, well, I didn't know.
10:02Make it your business to know.
10:05I wasn't paying attention.
10:07I'm speechless at this point.
10:10So, she sleeps in this bed here?
10:14Mm-hmm.
10:15I sleep for her.
10:16What bedtime routine do you have?
10:18I give her a bath.
10:19I let her play.
10:20Do you read stories or anything like that?
10:23Occasionally.
10:24What books does she like?
10:25What's her favorite?
10:26Regular books, Jack and...
10:28But every little one, like, has a favorite couple of books.
10:33What would you say is her favorite two books?
10:34I don't think she has any favorites.
10:36You don't really read much to her, do you?
10:38Mm-mm.
10:40Do you know how much she misses out on not having that interaction with you?
10:47I wouldn't say she's missing out.
10:49No?
10:51No, because she's with me all day.
10:54I sit on the bed and I start to talk to Mum.
10:56And I think she's realizing that I'm putting two and two together.
11:00Would you say that you're quite defensive today with me?
11:03I feel that you're making me feel like, um...
11:05I'm not doing an inadequate job, that I don't know what my kids' needs are.
11:13And I do know.
11:14But if you did know, I wouldn't be here, would I?
11:18That's true.
11:19I feel that I need help.
11:21She knows that tomorrow she's going to get called out.
11:24OK.
11:25I can't wait to speak to you tomorrow.
11:31I'm looking forward to it.
11:33God, not as much as I am.
11:34I am so looking forward to speaking to you tomorrow.
11:38I'm eager for the day to end so I can sit down and really tell this woman about herself.
11:44I'm eager to sit down and talk to Charles about what he needs to do to step up.
11:48I'm eager to talk to them about their parenting skills and what they need to do to change.
11:53I'm scared.
11:56Why?
11:57I don't know.
11:58It felt like when she left.
11:59She was like, I can't wait to see you tomorrow.
12:02I can't wait.
12:03Like, like, oh my gosh.
12:05Like, what's going to happen?
12:06Just one more day of conflict.
12:08I don't think it'll hurt us that much.
12:11We'll see.
12:17We've got issues.
12:19Absolutely.
12:20I agree.
12:21I want to talk about responsibility.
12:24And chores.
12:26And exactly what these boys do.
12:29There's no doubt that these boys have lazy-itis.
12:32To say the least.
12:34Mm-hmm.
12:35They do not have the initiative to get up.
12:39And feel that, let me just do my bit around here.
12:44I feel that there's very much a case of each and every one for their own.
12:48They all have their own video games, computers, and televisions.
12:53These kids stay on the computer all day.
12:56They're on the video games all day.
12:57Who knows who's looking after Charlotte when she's just around the house, and you're on the phone in your office, and you're in your office reading your scriptures.
13:08And I may not be there 24-7, you know, sitting down and reading books or playing games with her, but I still feel that she is being taken care of.
13:18How do you define the word look after?
13:22It's totally unacceptable that you feel it's okay for Charlotte to walk around and do as she please.
13:32It's not taking care of it in a way that allows her to grow.
13:35Charles, let's just talk about you for a moment.
13:40Okay.
13:40And the job that you do is dedicated.
13:42Right.
13:43That takes time for you to be able to preach.
13:49But it's no good if the man who is giving those sermons is not recognizing the importance of his own responsibility as a man in the home.
14:03I want you to stand up and be proud of the work that you do, and be proud of the work that you do as a father, and not feel that you have to apologize for it.
14:12That's right.
14:14Bernadette, let's talk about you.
14:17You talk with attitude.
14:20You're the big hustler on the phone, busy, busy, busy.
14:24No, no, no.
14:24I just have a drive, and that drive is to not end up in some little apartment that doesn't hold eight people.
14:30And if I had a balance...
14:32It's not a bad balance.
14:32You've got no respect.
14:34You've got no respect for anybody else.
14:36You live in your own bubble.
14:38You feel time would allow you to be respectful.
14:42Manners cost nothing.
14:44I can't change overnight.
14:45You'll only change if it's a priority.
14:48You claim, I work so hard because I want them to have a roof over their head.
14:51I work so...
14:52What, you and...
14:53And how many?
14:54You and 50 other million parents that do the same?
14:56Well done.
15:00I'm not going to sit here and give you a gold medal for that.
15:03But I'm willing to work with a pair of you if you want to change the issues that are in this house.
15:10I can accept criticism.
15:13Good.
15:14So let's begin.
15:16Let's get busy and start work, right?
15:18Yes.
15:19Let's get busy.
15:20Much ado.
15:21Okay.
15:23The first thing that I wanted to tackle was to make sure that Charlotte was going to be taken care of by at least one parent at all times.
15:38So I wanted to get mum and dad together to make a schedule.
15:40So the first thing we are going to do today is to work out our parental roles.
15:46Two parents working.
15:48Two parents trying to raise a family.
15:51Nobody knows who's doing what.
15:53We've got a young infant running around the house.
15:55Nobody's taking care of her.
15:56How many hours are the three of you just at home?
16:00You two and Charlotte.
16:01From 8.30 to 12.30.
16:03That's four hours.
16:04The next question is, how are you going to divide your working hours and take care of this little wife?
16:10Both parents need to spend the time working out who is going to do what so they find a healthy compromise.
16:17So they can both be happy doing the jobs that they do.
16:20And be in sync when it comes to raising their family.
16:23So this is what we do.
16:25If you are spending a big amount of time with Charlotte in the morning, okay, after lunch, she would go down and have an afternoon sleep.
16:35And then the hour and a half where you are with her, you can multitask.
16:40You can set up some proper toys for her to role play with and have fun with, okay?
16:46And you can be doing your work at the same time.
16:48Have you filled this out before?
16:50I don't know.
16:51The parental roles, I felt, was very good.
16:54I didn't realize that I could possibly spend time with my daughter.
16:58There we go.
16:59That's the TV we want them watching.
17:01Good work.
17:02Good work, the pair of you.
17:03With a plan in action for Charlotte, the next thing I wanted to deal with was to get this family communicating with one another.
17:10And I was going to do something that this family were not going to like.
17:14This family have used technology far too long as a babysitter.
17:18There's no communication in the house, so today it stops.
17:20I'm stripping them of all technology today.
17:23Mum, I'll have your BlackBerry.
17:25Boys, I'll have your remote.
17:27We want to get in tune?
17:28Right, let's get in tune.
17:29Remote controls in there, please.
17:30Television off.
17:32Off, everything off.
17:33You want to get in tune?
17:34You can learn to hear each other's voices.
17:35Boy, oh boy, oh boy.
17:37I mean, they couldn't believe this was really going on.
17:40Brett and Joseph were running upstairs with anything they could find to hide underneath the beds.
17:45Right, all downstairs.
17:46I really regret that we have allowed technology to just consume every, almost every aspect of our family life.
17:56Well, everyone come around.
17:58Joe brought in this clear jar.
18:00Where she put my cell phone.
18:02I was panicking.
18:03I'm like, oh, no way.
18:04Is my phone going to stay in there?
18:05Today, no technology.
18:07All day?
18:11Really, I want to say I'm going to kill her.
18:13Because my life was right there in a cookie jar, and I couldn't do anything about it.
18:20Oh!
18:22Oh, my phone is running.
18:24I could hear it ringing inside the jar.
18:26I could see the phone numbers lighting up, and I could not touch it.
18:30The cell phone's like a family member.
18:33So when I couldn't reach out and touch it, I'm going to hug it.
18:38This is ridiculous.
18:40How long do we have to do this, did she say?
18:42I'm not going to laugh.
18:45See, it's important.
18:46It's important.
18:47It was all drama in that house, you know?
18:49The phone was ringing.
18:50She's like, I need the phone.
18:52I need the phone.
18:55But I understand what her purpose was.
18:57To take my concentration off my cell phone and put it more on my kids.
19:04This family can no longer use technology now,
19:08which means that they're going to have to come together
19:09and have some decent conversation
19:11and start having constructive conversations with one another.
19:15It seems that there's been a lot of stuff that's been underneath for too long.
19:20Nobody listens, and everybody talks over everybody.
19:24So today, I'm going to bring in a soapbox,
19:27and everybody can have their say.
19:29Mom, why do you let Joseph get his way all the time?
19:31Just because he cries or whines?
19:34Another issue of mine is, instead of yelling,
19:36like, oh, we have more family meetings like this.
19:38That soapbox just gave an opportunity for the whole family
19:42to voice their opinion on how they were feeling about everybody else.
19:46I would really love for one day for you to be able to say
19:49that I was there for you whenever you needed.
19:52And I mean that from the bottom and the depths of my heart.
19:56Eric, I'd like you to look at Charles.
19:58It's respectful.
19:59He's been very truthful and honest here.
20:01Sure.
20:02Well, I think Charles deserves the respect for you just to tell him that.
20:05If we change, everybody's changing their ways.
20:07Why not?
20:08For years, I have been treated as though I'm just trying to live off of your mother.
20:16But what has not been shown to you guys over the years is that I was there helping her do those things,
20:23even though I was in the background, in the shadows.
20:26Joe has definitely opened up my eyes to a lot of things.
20:29Listening to Charles and understanding Charles and not trying to be such a boss all the time.
20:35I just want to say you've done really, really good tonight.
20:37You've done really good.
20:38I never really listened until Joe opened up my eyes and my ears.
20:43I'm really proud of how well you've done tonight, because I know how hard it was for you to swallow and just be.
20:52It is.
20:53It's very, very, very composed.
20:56It took that.
21:01The next day, to get this family more united and the kids behaving better,
21:06I would have to get Charles and Bernadette and work on their relationship.
21:11I'm going to be married.
21:12Hello.
21:1213 years.
21:14It's a long time.
21:15It's a long time.
21:17Tell me one beautiful thing about this woman that did not make you hesitate to marry her.
21:21She was very forgiving.
21:24What about yourself?
21:25One thing that just won me over was the fact that he was a Christian man.
21:29Things have changed.
21:31There's been bitterness, resentfulness.
21:33There's certainly been a detachment.
21:37And I think it's important for you both at this stage
21:39to really look at the things that you've been expecting from each other that have been shallow.
21:44But the things that you do remember and know are core.
21:51I had mom and dad write in two circles, shallow and core.
21:55The outside shallow values were their emotions of how they were feeling right now.
22:01And that had blinded the core values of why they met.
22:05When I was writing them down, I was like, gee, you know, I had to look at them like, you know, this is my guy.
22:13I thought it was refreshing to just kind of backtrack and look at what really brought us together.
22:18Bernadette, you start off with one of your shallow feelings.
22:24No money.
22:25Never has any money.
22:27Let's have one of yours.
22:28Neglect.
22:29It's one of mine.
22:31Give me three things out of your core.
22:34He's honest.
22:35He's patient.
22:36And he has Christian values.
22:40Do the same.
22:42Companionship, love, and forgiveness.
22:46Show each other yours.
22:47I got a chance to reflect on, you know, all the things that I really do feel about Charles.
22:53You know, it was a time to take all that negativity, kind of bring it back home, like, you know, this is why I married him.
23:00And these things are still there.
23:01Can I ask you a perfect question?
23:03Why are you still married to Bernadette?
23:04I'm still married because I still love her.
23:05And I think that maybe one day that she'll begin to see what the real me.
23:10You still love her?
23:11Why are you still married to Charles?
23:12Because I love him.
23:13If you love each other, realize that as long as you're going to keep harping on about the outside things here on this shallow circle,
23:21that you're never going to grow closer as a couple to start seeing the reasons why you married each other in the first place.
23:29Sometimes we get so busy with so many other things that we don't reflect on those things.
23:34And it's really made me feel good that she still remembered those things.
23:38Please work on these.
23:40A lot to work on.
23:41What's your marriage, basically?
23:43Absolutely.
23:44This is your marriage?
23:45Those two discs.
23:46So, listen, I just want to round everybody up.
23:49What I have here are chore lists.
23:53Next step, boys and chores.
23:56It is important that you guys are all mucking in and doing things as well.
24:00It's respectful to be in a house and to make sure that you're taking care of your own quarters,
24:05your own bedroom, as well as making sure that you help towards keeping this house in order as well.
24:13These kids have got lazy-itis.
24:14They don't like to do a lot of work.
24:16Perfect.
24:17Each child has the same chore board, and on that chore board are a list of expected chores for them all to do.
24:23Every day, I want you to delegate their chores.
24:26Okay, today your chore will be to make sure you do this and this.
24:28Today, I'd like you to do that.
24:30They've got the chores, so they know they're going to be asked to do one of those things.
24:33Devante.
24:33Okay, can I see you for a minute?
24:36Can you, tonight, wash the dishes?
24:39And you're going to put them away.
24:44Okay, would you guys like that?
24:45Oh, okay, I'm going to joke a tray.
24:47You want to wash?
24:48I'll put them away.
24:49You put them away, okay.
24:49All right.
24:50Go ahead.
24:53That's it, Josie.
24:54That's it.
24:55Stop in love.
24:56Brett, get yourself from underneath the bed.
24:59The chore boards are absolutely fantastic.
25:01I was very impressed to see that my kids were following the chore charts.
25:06You did a good job.
25:07With a little bit of, you know, follow through, I think it's going to work.
25:12No little kid time.
25:13Some older time.
25:14So we're going to go and shoot some pool.
25:16Now the boys are doing more chores, what I need to focus on is Charles' relationship with
25:21his two older step-sons.
25:22Charles would like to very much have a friendship with the older boys, so I set up for the three
25:28of them to go down to a pool hall and to shoot some pool.
25:33So the reason why I thought it'd be cool to hang out here today, because you've always
25:36got the younger ones around, and they get enough time just to, like, hang out together, you
25:41know, and do things that are older.
25:43Well, this is a, it's excellent, because I've wanted an opportunity for this for a long time.
25:48For the three of us to go and to just shoot a few games of pool was, to me, a start toward
25:54making things better.
25:55When you and Bernadette got married, you said, you said yes to her, but, but you said yes
26:00to these two as well, didn't you?
26:01I saw Bernadette at the time of a single mom, and I married the whole package of wife and
26:08kids.
26:12Game!
26:13I win.
26:14I want my money.
26:15Cash.
26:16Cash money.
26:17Cash.
26:18Cash money.
26:19Cash.
26:20Cash money.
26:21I win.
26:22I don't want to hear you crying about it.
26:23Good start.
26:24So what do you guys think?
26:26Good start?
26:27Yeah.
26:28Something as simple as just playing pool.
26:30It's a step toward the unity that we should have in our family.
26:34Now that dad and the older boys are connecting more, I want to pay attention to Charlotte having
26:40a proper bedtime in her own new bed.
26:43What is this?
26:45And no spray cheese.
26:48Look at that.
26:52This is your bed.
26:54We all love Charlotte's bed.
26:57She looks like a little princess.
26:59It's very pretty.
27:00Isn't this pretty?
27:02We're going to set up the bedtime routine where we're going to place her into this bed, read
27:08her a story, kiss her goodnight, and we're going to walk out of the bedroom.
27:14I kind of felt that Jo really was there for me.
27:17She was just very understanding about me not really understanding how to put my two-year-old
27:24to bed.
27:25And she really honestly wanted to help me.
27:28See the people being blown away by the dog's knee?
27:31Deeds together.
27:34It was sweet to watch mum tuck Charlotte into her new bed and read her stories.
27:40I just hope that this family keep up the hard work whilst I'm gone.
27:44There is lots of work to do while I'm away for several days.
27:49I want to see two parents who are going to put everything in to making this change.
27:54I'm going to miss her during these three days, but also I know that I have to get myself
27:59in gear to raise my kids and to be the wife that my husband wants me to be.
28:04You guys want to say thank you, Jo.
28:06See you soon.
28:07Good night.
28:08Good night.
28:09Two seconds after she walked to the door, I went and got my cell phone.
28:12Please don't tell her.
28:20After three days on their own, let's hope that the Browning family have really pulled
28:24things together.
28:25Let's get straight to business.
28:27What we're going to do, Bernadette and Charles, is take a look at the first clip here,
28:31which is all about family time.
28:33Take a look.
28:34Charles, come on.
28:35It's movie time.
28:36Joe, come on.
28:37Join the family.
28:38Bubba's hurry up.
28:39That's our family time.
28:40I tried.
28:41You want to climb under the table?
28:58What could you have done to have more fun on your family time?
29:08If you ask them what they want to do, then it usually goes reverse back to sitting with
29:13the video games and playing video games alone.
29:17It's the 21st century babysitter video games.
29:21Right.
29:22Television.
29:23Right.
29:24It has been convenient, no doubt, for the pair of you to have your children watch television
29:30and play on the video games.
29:32They need convincing.
29:33Just suggesting is not enough.
29:36And it is sad more than anything.
29:39You guys are being robbed of enjoying the time that you could be having with them and
29:44really enjoying parenthood.
29:46Go upstairs and bring me a diaper.
29:47But where's daddy changing?
29:48Is she wet?
29:49She's saying a teeth.
29:50That must mean she's wet.
29:51Yep.
29:52Seems like she's been wet for some time.
29:53A teeth to her means change me.
29:54It's baby language.
29:55She was just trying to explain to her dad I guess she was wet.
29:56But he said he's going to wait till a commercial and there's no commercials on a DVD but so that
30:16means.
30:17So she was wet for a couple of hours.
30:21I was trying to not interrupt my time with the kids.
30:25I was trying to have family time and show Charles Hager and you come back down.
30:28I thought he wouldn't have a problem with it until he started making those jokes.
30:34I think I had cooked something and I just sat down and to catch my breath and she tells
30:39me to go run up and change a diaper.
30:41Well you know.
30:42You didn't cook.
30:43You had pizza.
30:44Well whatever it was that I went out and got the pizza and something else.
30:47I haven't seen an effort that has shown a willingness or a hundred percent commitment
30:54from one another.
30:57Together with this.
30:59I know that I'm committed but I can only speak for myself and that's where the problem
31:04lies because I'm not sure what degree that Bernadette is committed to the same thing.
31:11and that's probably where the problem lies.
31:14That's me.
31:15It's not saying that she wanted it.
31:16I'm not trying to put her down.
31:17Yes I understand.
31:18I'm just saying that that hasn't been communicated yet.
31:20Let's take a look at the last but not least clip here which is all about armchair parenting.
31:28That's going to be me.
31:29Joseph.
31:30Get down here now.
31:31Sit down.
31:32You're going to be next to me until I get ready to go to bed.
31:35Everywhere I go you go.
31:36You understand me?
31:37You're going to be my shadow.
31:38Brent.
31:39Come here.
31:40Come here son.
31:41Come closer.
31:42Go back up to your room and spend another 15 minutes.
31:43See ya.
31:44Look at me.
31:45Turn it off.
31:46Now.
31:47If you ever give up your day job there will be a job at San Quentin prison that's for sure.
32:06But this is a prison here.
32:10I mean you know these kids are not listening.
32:12These kids need me to be the warden.
32:15There's no love.
32:17There's no side of Bernadette that we know is deep down in there somewhere.
32:22It's very well said that these kids need to listen and do as they're told.
32:29But I don't see no balance.
32:32Positive attitude creates an energy in a house that allows successful results.
32:42Today what we're going to work on is having some fun.
32:44It's about muscling through the I don't want to do this.
32:47When they see you doing it they're like okay well we'll give it a go.
32:50We'll try.
32:51Okay.
32:52Okay.
32:53Alright.
32:54Let's get busy then.
32:55The DVD clearly shows me that this family still need working on.
33:03And dad's a pastor so I asked him to prepare a sermon that would allow him to speak from his heart about his family.
33:10So I thought we'll round the family up and we'll go and listen to it outside on the front lawn.
33:14A sermon?
33:15Yeah.
33:16I've never had to preach directly to my family.
33:18You guys come on are we going to go out to the front and go and have church?
33:21I thought it was an interesting twist.
33:24Okay.
33:25The text I'm using is from a book that's in the poetic books of the Bible called the Song of Solomon.
33:30They have made me the keeper of vineyards but mine own vineyard have I not kept.
33:36First of all I'd like to just take the first three words they have made me.
33:41God has made me a husband.
33:43The scriptures tell us that what God has joined together let no man put asunder.
33:48So God is the one that makes us husband and wife.
33:51As I look back and look at our experiences over the last week or so I see that I've been very negligent and very slack
33:58and lackadaisical in those areas.
34:01It was really poignant to hear Charles talking about wanting to become a better father, a better husband
34:08so that he could take care of his own vineyard.
34:11These are the vineyards that I've kept and I look at them in relationship to my own vineyard.
34:16My own vineyard have I not kept.
34:19I was touched because finally this man is you know reaching out to us through a sermon.
34:26I've not kept many promises that I've made to my children which is I've seen that's adversely affecting them
34:34and I've not kept an open lines of communication.
34:37Wow it was deep.
34:39I'm determined to do better in the future.
34:43I do feel that I need to strive to keep all of those hats and all of those responsibilities in some type of balance.
34:51I must say I was really impressed. I really was.
35:01So I am really hoping that Charles will lead a very good example to his sons and his daughters.
35:09I just didn't realise all of that until you let her.
35:15Yeah mate.
35:17I love you too Woody.
35:19The sermon definitely brought mum and dad closer together and I wanted to take advantage of really bringing out mum's fun love inside.
35:27So this family could do something together and have a lot of fun.
35:31So we are going to play a knockout game right now okay which takes two teams.
35:38The whole idea of this exercise was to get the family to loosen up and have some fun not escape from one another.
35:44One member of the family on each team have to complete this puzzle.
35:49This puzzle will lead you to the next step.
35:53The losing team gets pied.
35:56On your marks, get set, go!
36:00Spread it out, spread it out.
36:02The middle piece inside the middle piece.
36:03Where?
36:04It goes right there.
36:05Go to backyards.
36:06Alright go!
36:07To the next stage, quick!
36:08After the puzzle both teams had to rush out into the backyard
36:11and use a water squirting gun to reveal a message.
36:15You've got to spray off that phone with a water gun.
36:17Okay here you go.
36:18Come on hey Jo!
36:20Come on Brett!
36:21Hey!
36:22Jo Jo go to front yard.
36:23Hey keep going!
36:24Keep going!
36:25Keep pumping!
36:26Keep pumping!
36:27Moving into the last leg of the game it really was neck and neck.
36:30Whatever piece of paper says the winner is the winner and the rest get pied.
36:34Got it!
36:35No!
36:36No!
36:37No!
36:38No!
36:39No!
36:40No!
36:41Babe you got that!
36:42Line up!
36:43It was Eric who found the label which meant that Bernadette, Brett and Devante were up
36:49for a pie in the face.
36:50On your marks, get set, go!
36:52Alright!
36:53Good!
36:56That pie in our face, I mean literally in our face like this.
36:59Come there boy!
37:00Ah!
37:01It just showed that both parents were willing to have fun and mess around to this level.
37:08Which I was really pleased to see.
37:10I can't believe that we did this.
37:12We would have never thought of it.
37:14It's about loosening up sometimes and letting your hair down and having fun.
37:18I think that it was an excellent way to end our time with Jo.
37:25Give me a hug.
37:26Give me a hug because I am going now.
37:28I leave the Browning family knowing that they are certainly going to think about what they've
37:35been taught over the last two weeks.
37:38Look I just want to say to all of you as a family that the key is having a laugh, loosening
37:44up, communicating, listening with one another.
37:47And I just hope that they make those decisions that enhance their family quality life together.
37:54Bye-bye.
37:55The thing that has changed the most is the willingness to pursue a better course.
38:02Bye-bye.
38:03She's my help.
38:04Bye-bye.
38:05It's now time for me to pick up the pieces and put the puzzle together.
38:09Bye-bye.
38:10Come on, come on.
38:11I'm going to say Jo, thank you.
38:12I want to tell you that I am going to follow through.
38:14I am not going to be lazy.
38:16I'm not going to be an armchair parent.
38:18And I'm going to do my best for my kids.
38:20Bye Jo!
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