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411 Podcast🍾Reading Between The Wines
DISC 5: Restoration
Track 17: Silence In The Sheets
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Song of The Day: "Whenever You're Around" by Jill Scott
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00:03:30Welcome, welcome, welcome.
00:03:55Welcome on in.
00:03:56Welcome to Reading Between the Lines.
00:03:59What's going on, everybody?
00:04:00How you doing?
00:04:01It is Wednesday, May 21st.
00:04:05Welcome to Wine Down Wednesday.
00:04:08But before we go ahead and get into tonight's show, I want to go ahead and give a very special
00:04:14thank you to my executive producer.
00:04:17Thank you, God, for giving me another opportunity to come out here and do this Reading Between
00:04:22the Lines show.
00:04:23And I also want to thank each and every one of you out there.
00:04:27Thank you so much for the people who are out there joining in tonight.
00:04:30Thank you so much to the people out there who watch the replays.
00:04:33Thank you so much to everyone who comes through and whether you like, comment, share, subscribe,
00:04:39tag a friend.
00:04:40If you retweet anything, I just want to say thank you so much.
00:04:44So for those of you out there who are listening tonight, if you can please just hit that like
00:04:50button, share, invite a friend in, because you never know what you're going to get on
00:04:56the show tonight.
00:04:58Now I will say that these past couple episodes, they have been interesting.
00:05:07They have been interesting to say the least.
00:05:11And it looks like we're getting ready to go there again tonight.
00:05:14So track 17.
00:05:26Let's see if we can restore it again.
00:05:53So we had Miss Keisha from Baton Rouge, Louisiana, and Keisha had issues with struggling with
00:06:03body image.
00:06:05And also, instead of dealing with her situation, she tend to cover things up by purchasing
00:06:15clothes and avoiding looking at herself in the mirror, avoiding dealing with herself
00:06:21and just covering things up.
00:06:22And her bills were just piling up and she wants to feel special.
00:06:27She wants to feel beautiful.
00:06:29She wants to feel herself again, but she isn't doing what she needs to do to take care of
00:06:35the root cause.
00:06:36So yeah, it was pretty, I want to say pretty direct conversation last night around this
00:06:46specific synopsis that we dealt with last night with Keisha.
00:06:50So we gave her tons of, I'll say that I gave my personal opinion as far as her situation,
00:07:03but I also did give my opinion to everyone out there.
00:07:07If you are using your credit card and you don't have the means to pay it at the end
00:07:13of the month, back that up clearly swiping, charging, using your credit card, knowing
00:07:20that you don't have enough money at the end of the month to pay for the full bill.
00:07:24And you probably might be walking around as if you're just going to pay the minimum payment.
00:07:30That's a sign for disaster.
00:07:32So anyone out there, if you didn't catch last night's show, I strongly urge you to head
00:07:39on over there.
00:07:40If you might be someone who uses a credit card, knowing full well that you don't have
00:07:46the means to pay a month, you're setting yourself up for disaster.
00:07:50So we helped Keisha out last night.
00:07:53So if you are interested in that, go ahead and watch that replay from last night.
00:08:00And like I said, it has been a couple of interesting nights and we keep getting deeper.
00:08:08We keep getting deeper.
00:08:09The synopsis are becoming more and more interesting.
00:08:16These are real life situations that we're dealing with here.
00:08:19So I'm just letting you know, we're getting ready to go there tonight.
00:08:22So you might want to stick around.
00:08:24Song of the Day, Whenever You're Around by Jill Scott, released in 2007 off of The Real
00:08:31Thing, Words and Sounds, Volume 3.
00:08:35Jill Scott has so many albums.
00:08:37Let's just spend a little bit on Jill Scott.
00:08:38I love Jill Scott.
00:08:40And I particularly love this song because I love the music, the instrumental of it.
00:08:47And when you start to get into the words, that's a whole nother story.
00:08:50So for those of you out there who are in relationships, you might want to pay attention to this tonight
00:08:55because I'll tell you that the number one killer in relationships, the number one killer
00:09:01in marriages is basically what we're going to be speaking about here tonight.
00:09:06So I'm not in the business of making anyone do anything.
00:09:10I'm not here to persuade anybody.
00:09:12I'm not here to make anyone feel a certain way.
00:09:15I would strongly urge you all to take the information that you get tonight and do your
00:09:21own research after the show's over.
00:09:24Do your own due diligence.
00:09:26I'm not here to give anybody advice.
00:09:28So I'm changing the word and twisting it around and I'm just giving my opinion.
00:09:33And I don't know who I'm speaking to, but I'm just speaking from real life experiences.
00:09:37That's all it is, lived experiences.
00:09:39I'm not here to tell anybody how to live their life.
00:09:42If I was in these particular people's shoes, and in some cases I was in some of these situations,
00:09:49this is just basically how I would do it.
00:09:51I'm not telling you how to do it.
00:09:54But I can respect songs like Jill Scott whenever you're around.
00:09:58And also I want to take it to Jasmine Sullivan, In Love With Another Man, as opposed to when
00:10:06we find out on the other aspect, like Drew Hill, In My Bed, Creep, TLC.
00:10:15When you speak the truth to your spouse, your significant other, your boyfriend, your girlfriend,
00:10:20whoever, I just hope that they're paying attention.
00:10:23Because it takes a very special individual to be able to go up to you and say, listen,
00:10:27whenever you're around, I'm not feeling this way anymore.
00:10:29I'm feeling a certain way.
00:10:31It's not like it used to be in the beginning, because in the beginning, the fireworks were
00:10:36going off.
00:10:37Now I feel lonely.
00:10:39I feel whatever the case may be.
00:10:42Jill breaks it down in this record.
00:10:44So as opposed to finding out that somebody else is sleeping in your bed like Drew Hill,
00:10:49or maybe you have expressed how you felt during your alone time together.
00:10:58It's not popping off the way it used to.
00:11:00And then after you have bumped your head up against the wall a thousand times, and you've
00:11:05said your piece over and over and over again, maybe that's where the creeping starts.
00:11:11Maybe that's where all of the backwards type situations happen.
00:11:15I'm not saying that that's the right thing to do, because I feel that if something isn't
00:11:19right, then you should obviously speak your truth, speak the truth.
00:11:26And if things don't work, you have an obligation to yourself.
00:11:31You can get up and take responsibility for yourself and your life and remove yourself
00:11:35from the situation before you cause any type of hurt, damage, pain, trauma to somebody
00:11:40else.
00:11:42So I give credit to Jasmine Sullivan.
00:11:44I give credit to Jill Scott, especially from the way that she speaks.
00:11:48If you don't know the song, Whenever You're Around by Jill Scott, she's basically laying
00:11:52it down and wants to fix it.
00:11:56But then also letting you know, you know what?
00:11:59Somebody else is in my ear.
00:12:01Somebody else is paying me so much attention.
00:12:03Somebody else is making me feel special because you ain't.
00:12:08So no one should be.
00:12:11I want to make sure I got this right.
00:12:13No one should be subjected, if that's even correct, to any type of half-assed type of
00:12:22love affairs, because it wasn't like that in the beginning in a relationship.
00:12:27And sometimes we get comfortable and it's not exciting the way it used to be in the
00:12:32beginning.
00:12:33You know, who wants any type of lukewarm situation and who wants to settle for that?
00:12:39So I'm not here to persuade anybody one way or the other.
00:12:42But after we get into tonight's scenario, you're going to understand that both individuals
00:12:49deserve better.
00:12:50And if you're in this situation where whenever you're around your significant other, you
00:12:56just don't feel the way it used to be, you don't feel exciting anymore.
00:13:00It doesn't feel like it's love anymore.
00:13:03You don't even know who you are anymore.
00:13:05You don't do the same things that you used to do.
00:13:07You don't go to the same places that you used to go before.
00:13:10But the same way that you got that person, you have to continuously do the...
00:13:16Not saying you got to do exactly the same, but you got to spice it up, you got to keep
00:13:19things exciting.
00:13:20You can't be boring.
00:13:22For example, if you met them in a club, I don't suggest that, but if you met them in
00:13:29a club, most likely they're not going to want to stay home and do nothing all the time.
00:13:35You might have tamed that beast a little bit, but maybe they might want to go out every
00:13:39now and then.
00:13:40Okay, so if you met them in the streets, what you think is going to happen?
00:13:47You know what they say about how you can't turn into a housewife.
00:13:52I mean, that's just one scenario.
00:13:55If you met them in the street, what you think is going to be?
00:14:00But remember, whatever your scenario is, again, I'm not here to judge.
00:14:04I'm not here to say anything.
00:14:07You deserve better.
00:14:09Life is too short.
00:14:11No one should be unhappy in any type of situation.
00:14:16Let them know.
00:14:17Be a Jill Scott.
00:14:18Be a Jasmine Sullivan.
00:14:20Let them know.
00:14:23Let them know right off the bat, and remember, when you realize that you deserve better and
00:14:32you understand and you understand that you deserve better, just remember everything starts
00:14:38with self.
00:14:39Love yourself first and set these expectations and these boundaries in the beginning so that
00:14:42people know what to expect because we teach people how to love us.
00:14:47So if you don't set these expectations and these boundaries in the beginning and you
00:14:53allow one step over the line, two steps, three steps, it's going to be very hard to back
00:14:58that thing up.
00:14:59So I'm going to day whenever you're around by Jill Scott.
00:15:08Now we're going to get into this wine tonight, and I just want to let you know what's going
00:15:14on here.
00:15:16It's a very cold.
00:15:20It's a very dreary type of situation here in New Jersey.
00:15:25Some reasons why I don't like living in New Jersey, I'm just keeping it real.
00:15:33I don't like living in New Jersey.
00:15:35I'll come back to visit in the summertime when the temperatures are where it needs to
00:15:39be, but right now it's the end of May and it is about 50 degrees right about now, and
00:15:45I was thinking of sampling some nice, you know, rosé, you know, some white wine, but
00:15:54I had the feeling of I need to go back to red wine tonight.
00:15:57I was like digging into the Cabernets and looking at things like that, so I picked something
00:16:03that's sort of in the middle.
00:16:05It's a red wine, but it's like a summer vibe, but I got to be honest with you, I'm really
00:16:10not feeling this weather tonight.
00:16:12So I picked the Sangria.
00:16:15It's a red, but it's really, you know, the right type of vibe for this time of year,
00:16:21except I don't know what's going on with Mother Nature, and yeah, it's 50 degrees and
00:16:26raining and downpouring and everything else.
00:16:28So I also believe that I've sampled this wine one time before back in the day, but I can't
00:16:36quite remember.
00:16:37This is Sangria Grande.
00:16:40It is 11.5% alcohol volume, and for some reason I think I tried this before and it was really,
00:16:48really either sweet or super strong.
00:16:52So it's nothing special about this wine.
00:16:53It's in a, you know, regular old bottle, and it's bottled in New York, and it is made from
00:17:04100% Merlot grapes.
00:17:08And they say to serve it chilled, which I did chill it, and I also poured it over ice
00:17:13because that was the recommendation.
00:17:15And it's red wine with natural fruit flavors, full-bodied imported red wine for the ultimate
00:17:20taste experience, and it also makes a great party punch.
00:17:25Just add fresh fruit.
00:17:28So I don't have the fresh fruit, but I most certainly did pour it over ice, and I don't
00:17:34know much about this wine.
00:17:36When I did my research, there's about, out of five stars, this gets about a 3.8, and
00:17:43it is from the New York region.
00:17:45And one of the reviews says, super fruity and delicious, lots of berry flavor, amazing
00:17:51on ice with an additional hint of little brandy.
00:17:55So I guess they added brandy in their wine.
00:17:59When I used to make Sangria for barbecues and stuff, when I used to, you know, host
00:18:04parties and stuff at my house, it was like the ultimate disaster because I would mix
00:18:13up all types of red wines together, and I would pour all types of vodka and anything
00:18:21I could find in the house.
00:18:23And let me tell you, by the time people got done sipping one glass of this Sangria that
00:18:29I used to make, they could barely walk.
00:18:32So that was the experience that I used to do back in the day with my Sangria.
00:18:40And it probably doesn't fit well with tonight's show because we're going to find out as we
00:18:45get into the show later on, but I just felt like I had to put that out there.
00:18:49It's one of these wacky days today because of the weather, and this is how I'm feeling.
00:18:53So cheers.
00:18:55And we're going to go ahead and get Mr. Birdman 313 in while I go ahead and sample this wine
00:19:02here, and I'll get back to you and let you know exactly what we feel about this wine.
00:19:15I will say that putting it over ice probably helped because I can't imagine what it would
00:19:22be if I actually did not put it over ice, and I believe I did taste this before back
00:19:27in the day, and I wasn't really a fan.
00:19:31So this one, yeah, I'm going to go along with the 3.8.
00:19:36It's sort of like right in the middle.
00:19:38Would I get this one again?
00:19:41Absolutely not.
00:19:42And you definitely do need the ice to make this work because drinking it directly out
00:19:47of a bottle is not recommended at all.
00:19:50So I can understand with adding things to it like fruit and others, but yeah.
00:19:55So cheers, everybody.
00:19:57This is a mediocre wine tasting here tonight.
00:20:00I'm not really feeling the wine, but we're going to get through it tonight.
00:20:04And with that being said, Birdman 313, what's going on?
00:20:09How are you doing?
00:20:10Hey, how's it going?
00:20:11Hey, you're a funny guy tonight, man.
00:20:17It's the weather.
00:20:18It's the weather that's doing it to me.
00:20:19Oh, well, you know, I'm trying to push some of this weather up that way.
00:20:23You know, I mean, it's in the 90s here.
00:20:26Well, this is exactly why my time is limited in the state of New Jersey.
00:20:33Yes, yes, yes.
00:20:34And it's all right, though, you know, because it started cooling off around the evening
00:20:40time, like down to the 80s.
00:20:42But you know, we're down to the 80s, that's exactly what it is.
00:20:50So far, we're not getting any rain.
00:20:53That's a blessing.
00:20:54But I know when the rain do come, man, they come.
00:20:58Listen, you said down in the 80s, that's exactly where I want to be.
00:21:04At nighttime, walking around with flip flops on, you got your basketball shorts on, you
00:21:11got your T-shirt on, just able to walk around out there.
00:21:15And I bet that heat feels amazing.
00:21:18I don't know where you're going to walk at around here at that time.
00:21:21But yeah, yeah, you know, it is.
00:21:25Why?
00:21:26What will happen at night in Texas?
00:21:28Oh, man, you know, you know, you know, the, oh, you know, the song, The Freaks come out
00:21:32at night.
00:21:33Oh, it's like that?
00:21:35Oh, yes, like that.
00:21:37Oh, wow, that's crazy.
00:21:41When I was in California, and it was like 9, 10 o'clock at night, and you look at the
00:21:47temperature, and it's like 85 degrees, oh, man, I love that.
00:21:52Yeah, but when you're down in Galveston, you know, if you're on the beach, you know, it's
00:21:56cool then, but, you know, like in the city, it's just some areas you do not walk around
00:22:06when it gets dark.
00:22:07Oh, you're going to get robbed and everything else?
00:22:10Oh, man, yeah, yeah, all kinds of things can happen, you know, so.
00:22:14Oh, well, before I get to Texas, I need you to, you know, school me on what areas are
00:22:19good and what's not, because that's nothing else.
00:22:25I need to know.
00:22:26Wow, that's crazy.
00:22:27You know, no, you will fit in with your program.
00:22:30You'll probably fit in good in Austin.
00:22:33I want to go where it's most hot.
00:22:35Oh, well, hey, man, well, you need to go to Brownsville then.
00:22:41Yeah, I don't know.
00:22:43I've never been there.
00:22:44I just know it gets hot down there, but, you know, and they also get a lot of storms.
00:22:48So I mean, the whole, well, anything below Dallas, because, you know, Dallas gets snow
00:22:56in the wintertime.
00:22:58Oh, that's crazy.
00:23:01Yeah.
00:23:02Yeah.
00:23:03You know, we get snow every once in a while, but, you know, anything below Dallas is normally
00:23:12is good to go.
00:23:13You'll have like maybe a week or two where it's cold.
00:23:18And oh, I could deal with that just a week.
00:23:21Yeah.
00:23:22Yeah.
00:23:23OK.
00:23:24Yeah, that's not bad.
00:23:26A week or two where it's cold versus, you know, three, four months here.
00:23:31And then it act like you don't want to leave.
00:23:35That's what we deal with three or four months, maybe even more than that of where it's cold.
00:23:40And then it acts like it doesn't want to leave.
00:23:42And then out of nowhere, it'll just become hot out of nowhere.
00:23:45It's like there's no in between.
00:23:47It's either one or the other.
00:23:48Yeah.
00:23:49Well, you know here.
00:23:50Well, that's way sometimes it feels like that way here.
00:23:54You know, you know, you don't have no autumn.
00:23:56It goes right straight from hot to cold.
00:23:59Then you don't have no spring and it goes from, you know, cold to hot.
00:24:05So and so some people, some people will say there's no change of season in the state of
00:24:12Texas.
00:24:13Hmm.
00:24:14Hmm.
00:24:15But that depends on what you mean change.
00:24:19I mean, I see the leaves fall to see them changing colors, but I know what they're talking
00:24:24about as far as, you know, heat wise.
00:24:26Right.
00:24:27Right.
00:24:28Right.
00:24:29All right.
00:24:30Well, we will see, because Texas is definitely on my next list of places to be.
00:24:35Oh, yeah.
00:24:36Oh, yeah.
00:24:37Oh, yeah.
00:24:38You know, you don't have to hit me up to man.
00:24:40Yeah, definitely going to be in that desert somewhere.
00:24:43Yeah.
00:24:44Yeah.
00:24:45All right.
00:24:47So we got an interesting show tonight.
00:24:51I said the past couple of nights it has been one after another where, yeah, it's been been
00:24:59out there and this one's probably going to fit right on into it as well.
00:25:02So I was trying to find a book that made sense for tonight's and I was coming across an issue.
00:25:11So we're going to be helping out a couple, which we'll get into that shortly.
00:25:17So the book that I came up with and I realized that I have changed my library around completely,
00:25:24so which makes sense.
00:25:26But the book I have tonight is called Money Hacks, 275 Ways to Decrease Spending, Increase
00:25:32Saving and Make Your Money Work for You.
00:25:35So this is all going to tie in and it's all going to make sense once we get, you know,
00:25:41to the next segment.
00:25:42But Money Hacks is going to be for this couple and you all are going to find out exactly
00:25:48what we're going to get into.
00:25:49Just think about when we opened up the show with Jill Scott, whenever you're around, we
00:25:54get ready to get into something.
00:25:55So this couple definitely is going to need some help.
00:25:58So give me a number.
00:26:01Maybe we can give this couple some money hacks that they can get their situations together.
00:26:07We're going to start with 15.
00:26:10Let's see here.
00:26:12I haven't even had much wine tonight, neither.
00:26:15So I can't blame it on that.
00:26:17We're going to start with 12 and we're going to go up to, let's say, 249, 12 to 249.
00:26:26You give me a number.
00:26:28OK, I'm going to say 19.
00:26:3119, that's a good one.
00:26:3319.
00:26:34I wonder if you can relate to 19.
00:26:37Let's see.
00:26:38Yes, I can.
00:26:41That is my better half's birthday, June 19th.
00:26:45So I'll use 19.
00:26:47All right.
00:26:48That's what's up.
00:26:4919th is hack number nine, aim for zero.
00:26:54Want to fix a problem?
00:26:56Aim for zero.
00:26:57Want to fix a problem?
00:26:59Aim for zero.
00:27:01Number nine, aim for zero.
00:27:04Want to feel even more in control of your money each month?
00:27:07Try using a zero base budget.
00:27:10With this method, every single dollar you bring home each month gets allocated to a
00:27:15particular category.
00:27:16The goal is to make your expenses for the month match your income to the penny.
00:27:22That doesn't mean you should spend every penny you make.
00:27:24It means that every penny is accounted for and assigned to a budget category.
00:27:30You still determine how much money you want to go towards savings, credit card payments,
00:27:35student loan payments, eating out, and gifts.
00:27:39This method ensures that there aren't underspending in areas that are priorities to you, like
00:27:45transferring money to savings or giving to charity, while also giving you strict limits
00:27:51for those discretionary categories you're not as good at predicting each month, like
00:27:56groceries or entertainment.
00:27:59If you find your total for the month comes to something below zero instead of zero exactly,
00:28:06you'll have to decide which category to adjust in order to hit that magic number.
00:28:11Working out the math can take time, and it might seem daunting, but if you want a strong
00:28:18foundation for your finances, it's worth trying.
00:28:21Be prepared to reallocate funds as needed throughout the month to maintain that perfect
00:28:27zero.
00:28:29It's also a good idea to leave any leftover funds in a miscellaneous category for your
00:28:35first few tries to provide a safety net just in case.
00:28:40So again, it's the same concept over and over again, if anyone's listening.
00:28:47Budgeting.
00:28:48Most people run away from a budget.
00:28:50We spoke about this plenty of nights.
00:28:54I ran away from a budget for years, and it was a complete disaster.
00:28:58I didn't know anything about it.
00:28:59I was just nervous and afraid.
00:29:02When I heard the word and the term budget, it just made me go into a different direction.
00:29:07But now that I know what a budget is, I don't believe that I can operate without using one.
00:29:14So it's like once you know this information, you know it and you can't, at least for me.
00:29:20Again, I can't speak for anybody else, but do you think that would help this couple tonight?
00:29:27Because I know you know what the scenario is.
00:29:29Yeah.
00:29:30Yes.
00:29:31And no.
00:29:32It just depends.
00:29:33No.
00:29:34Yeah.
00:29:35No.
00:29:36I know the scenario and I thought about this a lot of yes and no involved in it.
00:29:42So yes, it can.
00:29:45But no, if they don't talk about it.
00:29:49Hmm.
00:29:50That makes sense.
00:29:52I know exactly what you're talking about.
00:29:55Well, without any further ado, let's get on into it and see.
00:30:00So we have Lionel and Mariah and not Mariah Carey, just Lionel, Mariah, not Lionel, Lionel
00:30:09Richie and Mariah Carey in Kansas City, Missouri, and in their 40s, Lionel was a real estate
00:30:20agent and Mariah is a paralegal.
00:30:23This couple has slowly drifted apart.
00:30:25They share a bed, a mortgage and $75,000 in debt, but barely talk.
00:30:33Their romance disappeared under the weight of bills and responsibility.
00:30:39Now wine is their only moment of connection at night.
00:30:44So I'm going to turn it over to you because as I read this here, I'll read it one more
00:30:48time and turn it over to you.
00:30:49There's a lot of things going on here.
00:30:51And if you just look at the surface and you go really quick, you can miss some potential
00:30:56disasters that are here.
00:30:59So the couple has slowly drifted apart.
00:31:03They share a bed, a mortgage and $75,000 in debt, but barely talk.
00:31:08Their romance disappeared under the weight of bills and responsibility.
00:31:13Now wine is their only moment of connection at night.
00:31:18What do you think of this?
00:31:19Well, to me, like I said, you saying that their romance has disappeared and then you
00:31:28said their only connection is wine.
00:31:31Huh.
00:31:32Okay.
00:31:33Right there.
00:31:34That's a bad combination.
00:31:38That's a bad combination because they're taking alcohol again and they're masking their true
00:31:45problems.
00:31:48My question is, do they have any kids?
00:31:52That's a good point.
00:31:53And you said that they are $75,000 in debt.
00:32:00And you said they don't really talk no more.
00:32:02So all that right there constitute a bad situation and they may just be living together because
00:32:13neither one of them can move out on their own.
00:32:15Wow.
00:32:16Wow.
00:32:17I didn't think about that.
00:32:18And also, you said, since the romance has died down, do they even love each other?
00:32:29That's the way I look at it.
00:32:33I can say this is from a voice of experience.
00:32:39Like I tell people a lot of times, if I tell you something, it's because of my experience.
00:32:46But also, you might want to look into these things happening to you.
00:32:54That's how I feel it is.
00:32:58They seem like they both have good jobs.
00:33:01They need to cut back on their spending too, because it seems like they're living a lavish
00:33:06lifestyle.
00:33:07They're living more than what they're bringing home.
00:33:11And that can add on to the debt also.
00:33:16Yeah, I see that.
00:33:20We got a real estate agent and a paralegal.
00:33:23There's decent jobs.
00:33:24There's definitely nothing wrong with that situation there.
00:33:29So that would based on.
00:33:34And how did they get in debt anyway?
00:33:37That's why I'm saying they need to cut back on their spending.
00:33:40But how did they get into debt this much?
00:33:45Yeah.
00:33:46Again, we only know just a brief overview, but that is a good question.
00:33:53Because if both of them are working and a real estate agent and a paralegal in this
00:33:57day and age, they should be able to maintain.
00:34:01And as far as the love, is it possible he has a side piece?
00:34:06Is it possible she has a side piece?
00:34:09I mean, that's where the money is going to.
00:34:16And all of that comes into play.
00:34:21Yeah, yeah.
00:34:24Something's happening.
00:34:25There's another question.
00:34:26Both share a.
00:34:29And you know what?
00:34:31It says a couple.
00:34:33Now it doesn't say that they were necessarily married.
00:34:36They might just be a couple.
00:34:38So we don't even know if they're married.
00:34:40OK.
00:34:41That's a good point there.
00:34:44Couple.
00:34:45But I'm quite sure, you know, if they share in the same bed, you know, and maybe maybe
00:34:53the love just unfaded away for both of them.
00:34:57That has a lot to do with it, because, you know, I mean, hey, you know, love can fade
00:35:02from, you know, some of the little antics that people play.
00:35:08Yeah.
00:35:09And you don't know how, you know, and then, you know, like if they try to talk about it,
00:35:14do it, do it.
00:35:15Does it come into an argument every time they try to talk about it?
00:35:20You know, like I said, do they have kids?
00:35:24Because maybe they don't want to talk about this in front of their kids.
00:35:30And so then at nighttime, they drink some wine and by then neither one of them really
00:35:37want to talk.
00:35:38They just want to go to sleep because they both had to get up and go to work the next
00:35:42day.
00:35:43And they probably drinking that good old red wine that made you want to go to sleep.
00:35:48Yeah, yeah, but it's a little bit more to it than that.
00:35:56Just that, like I said, you know, with everything that you're saying in this, there's a little
00:36:03bit more, but it's something that's very small that that that's making all this happen.
00:36:10Like I said, their expense, you know, how was they living?
00:36:15How was they?
00:36:16Was they living that lavish lifestyle?
00:36:19Was they living what they were trying to?
00:36:20Or were they, you know, like trying to impress their friends like she, you know, like her
00:36:25going to the nail shop, going to the, you know, beauty parlor, him going to the barbershops
00:36:32and want nice vehicles, all that stuff come into play.
00:36:37Yeah, yeah, I agree.
00:36:41I totally agree.
00:36:45The couple has slowly drifted apart.
00:36:47They share a bed, a mortgage and seventy five thousand dollars in debt, but barely talk
00:36:53that right there.
00:36:55That's enough to make me just like lose it.
00:36:59You're sharing a bed and you got a big old mortgage.
00:37:06Seventy five thousand dollars worth of debt, and now we ain't going to speak about it.
00:37:10I believe that that is the number one problem in relationships and that leads to divorce
00:37:17and separation and breakups is because we're dealing with financial avoidance here.
00:37:22When there's a problem, you're avoiding it and you're not discussing it.
00:37:26And that's an issue.
00:37:28And it's a problem when you have couples, because one person might be on point.
00:37:35We don't know this whole story.
00:37:37One person might be on point trying to get out of debt, but the other person could be
00:37:42digging the hole even deeper.
00:37:44I was just on a conference call today, a financial conference call, and one of the financial
00:37:52coaches spoke up.
00:37:53And that's exactly what's going on in his scenario, is that he's trying to help a couple.
00:37:59And one of them is dealing with financial avoidance, where they just black out and do
00:38:04whatever they want to do, spend all kinds of crazy money.
00:38:08And then the husband is trying to pull this together, but she doesn't want to listen.
00:38:13So yeah, it's very hard to move past something when you have someone going against you.
00:38:20I don't know who I'm talking to, but I'm just speaking from experience.
00:38:23And I'll tell you one thing.
00:38:24I'll never do that again.
00:38:25Yeah.
00:38:26Yes.
00:38:27Go ahead.
00:38:28Go ahead.
00:38:29Go ahead.
00:38:30Try me.
00:38:31No, I'm just saying yes.
00:38:32Yes.
00:38:33Go ahead.
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00:59:29Appreciate it.
00:59:31That was some that was good.
00:59:33That put you at the top of the track right there, I love it.
00:59:37So you know how it you know, I know that you talking about it but it's
00:59:39all no communication, right?
00:59:40The communication.
00:59:41Can love truly thrive when communication is silenced by financial
00:59:43strain.
00:59:44And are we willing to have the uncomfortable conversations that bring
00:59:46us closer.
00:59:49Bird man, what do you think
00:59:50I feel about that situation there.
00:59:53Yeah, they say no is a complete sentence.
00:59:55So now, do you think that majority of people
01:00:01are willing to have uncomfortable conversations?
01:00:07You know what, it depends.
01:00:09I'm gonna put it like this.
01:00:1130 and under, no.
01:00:1435 and up, okay.
01:00:17They may sit down and try and give it a try.
01:00:21But that's how I feel about it.
01:00:23If it's 30 and under, no.
01:00:26They don't wanna hear that.
01:00:27They don't wanna hear nothing you got to say.
01:00:29And sometimes they'll just tell you,
01:00:30I don't wanna hear nothing you got to say.
01:00:33But 35 and up, we may can get a conversation
01:00:38every once in a while to see if we can work it out.
01:00:42But it has to be somebody that's mature too.
01:00:47So that's my answer there.
01:00:51Yeah, I agree with you.
01:00:53Can true love, true love.
01:00:55Can love truly thrive when communication is silenced
01:00:58by financial strain?
01:01:00I would say no.
01:01:01I don't believe that you are living your best life
01:01:05and you're really loving each other
01:01:08the way that you possibly can
01:01:09when you're in a whole bunch of debt and nonsense.
01:01:12What type of, now that I know today,
01:01:17I wanna say what type of love is that?
01:01:18But when you don't know any better
01:01:20and you think that that's what love really is.
01:01:23I feel sorry for people when you don't know any better
01:01:26and you think that that's what love really is.
01:01:28Struggling, going along with,
01:01:34that's when people settle.
01:01:36And I almost got caught up in that situation.
01:01:40So I feel for you.
01:01:43Anybody out there, all I have to say
01:01:45is that you don't have to live that way.
01:01:47You know, I'm gonna say something.
01:01:49I remember when I first moved here
01:01:52and a friend of mine, he was getting me into the DJ.
01:01:56And I would go to this club to DJ and everything.
01:01:59And it was this lady and she was an older lady, she was.
01:02:03And she came over and asked me to dance.
01:02:06She said, well, it don't look like you gonna come
01:02:08and ask me.
01:02:09I said, I just got here.
01:02:11So I'm just looking around.
01:02:14And she had a wedding ring on.
01:02:17And then she twisted it around.
01:02:20So we danced one time, I went to sit down
01:02:23and my friend that was getting me off into it,
01:02:25he called me over and he said, man, be careful.
01:02:28He said, this chick is a married woman.
01:02:32And I'm like, really?
01:02:33He said, yeah, but she always telling people,
01:02:36different guys, how unhappy she is.
01:02:39And she's just tired of it.
01:02:42And that's why she come to the club.
01:02:45And then I'm like, thank you for that.
01:02:49Sure enough, her husband walked in.
01:02:51He never walked over to it.
01:02:53He was watching.
01:02:54I quit talking to her.
01:02:55She got to talk to another guy.
01:02:57That's when he busted in.
01:03:00Wow, wow, that is a cop.
01:03:03Wow.
01:03:04That's so funny.
01:03:06And my dad always told me, he said, look here,
01:03:11you're in that situation.
01:03:13Boy, he said, he said, get yourself out of that.
01:03:16He said, you don't need that.
01:03:18And I'm like, yeah, even my mom would tell me that
01:03:21because she knew, she said, you know that woman Mary,
01:03:25but I know she want to talk to you.
01:03:26You're my son.
01:03:27So I don't care how old you get.
01:03:30I'm going to tell you, hell no, you can't talk to her.
01:03:33It's like that, so, hey.
01:03:38Yeah, wow.
01:03:41And again, like if you ain't talking at home,
01:03:44trust and believe that somebody else will.
01:03:47Okay, definitely.
01:03:49You ain't going to like it when somebody else did,
01:03:51when you find out somebody else is doing it.
01:03:54So yeah, I don't think so.
01:03:56That's not going to work.
01:03:58And are most people willing to have
01:04:00the uncomfortable conversation that brings people closer?
01:04:04And I'm going to say, I don't think so either.
01:04:08I think people will avoid it.
01:04:10They'll avoid anything uncomfortable
01:04:11because they don't want to hurt anybody's feelings.
01:04:13They don't want to, maybe the other partner,
01:04:16the spouse can't handle it
01:04:18and they might take things personal.
01:04:20But if you don't have that level of communication
01:04:23in the beginning, when you first start and say,
01:04:25hey, listen, we getting started in this situation.
01:04:29This is what I need.
01:04:29This is what I don't, vice versa.
01:04:32You put your issues out on the table.
01:04:36As we continue on this journey,
01:04:39it ain't going to be all roses.
01:04:40And I want to feel that I can bring something to you
01:04:43whenever I can.
01:04:44Like that level of communication and understanding
01:04:47has to be set in the beginning.
01:04:49If that's not set in the beginning,
01:04:50I think it'll be very hard for people to bring things up
01:04:53over a period of time,
01:04:54especially if the communication has not been on point.
01:04:57That's true.
01:04:58That is so true there.
01:05:00Yeah, yeah.
01:05:01And be very careful because the person that you meet
01:05:03within the first three months,
01:05:05that's just a representative.
01:05:06You have to base that off of six months plus
01:05:10before you really get to know the person.
01:05:12So it's why it's very important to have that communication
01:05:16and conversation in the beginning
01:05:18because the dynamics are going to change as time goes on,
01:05:22at least within the first year or two.
01:05:25Exactly.
01:05:26Yeah, yeah.
01:05:27Wow.
01:05:30Any questions that you want to throw out there
01:05:33or anything you want to leave for the group tonight
01:05:35before we get out of here?
01:05:37No, you know, as usual, normal.
01:05:39You know, I said what I had to say
01:05:41and I just don't want to repeat myself.
01:05:44Okay, okay.
01:05:45I feel you with that.
01:05:46Well, we got through another episode.
01:05:49I want to say thank you so much
01:05:50for coming through tonight as always.
01:05:53Thank you for your insight.
01:05:54I appreciate that.
01:05:55We definitely, this is one that we really dissect
01:05:59and talk about part a lot tonight.
01:06:01Yeah.
01:06:02Hey, you're welcome.
01:06:03You know, I'm more than happy to come through and talk
01:06:09because like I said, a lot of your stuff
01:06:11that you're putting out there, I've been through it
01:06:15and I'm not trying, you know, if I can help somebody
01:06:18or let somebody see the light
01:06:19and don't make the mistakes I made, then hey, I'm happy.
01:06:24Yeah, yeah, definitely.
01:06:27You want to let everybody know where they can follow you at,
01:06:31get your information, your books and all that good stuff.
01:06:34Sure, I'm on, my books are on amazon.com
01:06:39authors slash authors slash Birdman313.
01:06:43I have 10 poetry books there.
01:06:46My books is also on goodreads.com slash Birdman313.
01:06:54I have, I'm on Instagram, Birdman313, of course.
01:06:58I'm on, also on YouTube.
01:07:02I have a lot of videos of my poems
01:07:07and majority of the videos that had the poems
01:07:11are poems from my books.
01:07:14So I have, I think I like have like about 600 videos
01:07:18on there, but most of the videos are
01:07:22with other people on there, but majority of them
01:07:25that's mine is from poems that out of my books.
01:07:30Wow.
01:07:31And I'm also, I'm also on Spotify now
01:07:33under the coffee, wine and words platform.
01:07:37I have 10 videos there.
01:07:40Oh, I'm gonna definitely have to check that out.
01:07:42So YouTube, you said you have over how many videos?
01:07:46600.
01:07:47Wow, that's, that's congratulations on that.
01:07:50That's a lot.
01:07:51Yeah, and a lot of them is live events that I've done.
01:07:55It's me collaborating on, now I'm kind of like working
01:07:58with some, a few musicians where we, we do, you know
01:08:02they're playing a guitar when I'm reading my poems.
01:08:06I've been getting off into that.
01:08:07So, you know, a lot of them is, is you, is it
01:08:12a majority of them is when I was out in California.
01:08:16I love it when I go out there
01:08:17my mind just seems to just expand.
01:08:21And I just, I just write, write, write
01:08:23when I go out there and shoot a video.
01:08:25And I, you know, I just, it just seemed
01:08:28like I could take the same video
01:08:30and write seven or eight poems to put with it.
01:08:34No, that's good.
01:08:35That's amazing.
01:08:36So now when you're in your hometown
01:08:39how many nights a week do you do poetry?
01:08:43To be honest, poetry is really in Houston is dead.
01:08:48I don't, I don't do anything no more.
01:08:52I mean, majority of the people that I used to deal
01:08:54with, we don't even communicate.
01:08:57Oh, okay.
01:08:58I go to Austin.
01:08:59That's where I do most of my poetry at now
01:09:02is there in Austin.
01:09:05And you do that once a week or every day?
01:09:08No, it's like once or twice a month.
01:09:12I'll go up there.
01:09:14I get on the radio station.
01:09:15I get a chance to get on the radio.
01:09:17I can't even get on the radio station here in Houston
01:09:20but I can go up there and get on the radio station.
01:09:22That, you know, that's crazy.
01:09:25That sounds amazing though still
01:09:27that I'm just like intrigued by that.
01:09:30That's good.
01:09:31Yeah. And then LA Poetry Society
01:09:34they're starting to give me a little feedback now.
01:09:37And I'm, I'm, I'm really, really
01:09:40really want to go out there to do something with them
01:09:43but getting a lot, you know, cause like late on a night
01:09:46they, they normally have a reading on there
01:09:50and they always, you know, acknowledge me.
01:09:54So I want to go out there to do a live set with them.
01:10:02Yeah. I'm thinking like, you know, when I go to Texas
01:10:05I definitely would love to see you live.
01:10:08So I'll have to try to set that up.
01:10:11Yeah. And like I said, you know, normally, you know
01:10:14like I said, Austin is, is one of the places that I do.
01:10:18Austin, matter of fact, you know, even in San Antonio
01:10:22I've done one time in San Antonio
01:10:24but there's a couple of places that I was talking with
01:10:28and they have invited me to come and read in San Antonio.
01:10:33So I just got to make, I just got to make it happen.
01:10:36Yeah. Yeah.
01:10:38All right. That sounds good.
01:10:39I definitely will keep you posted
01:10:43and probably be next year sometime
01:10:45but definitely want to get out there.
01:10:48Yeah. Yeah.
01:10:50Like I said, you're more than welcome.
01:10:51Hey, and I got a place that I'm doing.
01:10:53I was, I was, I was telling my editor the other night
01:10:57I said, man, it's a spot that I found with a
01:11:01he's a friend of mine from Austin.
01:11:04He plays guitar and it's a, it's a wine bar
01:11:08and they got all kind of wines up in there.
01:11:13And I told her, I said, Larry would love this.
01:11:17And we do something once every, every two months.
01:11:25We are here, you know, he'll come out there
01:11:27and they already told me, you know, and she, they said,
01:11:31Hey, even if you want to set up an open mic, you can
01:11:35but the owner's girlfriend, we were talking about that.
01:11:40And she said, I don't know any poets in Houston.
01:11:43And I said, don't feel like you, but I said
01:11:45I'm a poet myself.
01:11:46I said, the people I used to hang out with
01:11:49we don't even talk no more.
01:11:53Yeah. I mean, things happen.
01:11:56Yeah.
01:11:57Everything that happens happens for a reason.
01:11:59So we don't know immediately
01:12:02but we'll figure it out at the end.
01:12:04Oh yes. Yes.
01:12:06But yeah, you know, like I said, you come 98
01:12:08that's one place I'll take you and you go in there
01:12:11and you might have to bring you like about $500.
01:12:14Cause you'll look at the wine.
01:12:15You might, you might get one bag full of wine.
01:12:22Oh, wow.
01:12:23I definitely want to check that out.
01:12:25Yeah.
01:12:28All right.
01:12:29Well, I guess next week, same place, same time.
01:12:32Of course.
01:12:33Of course.
01:12:35All right.
01:12:36On that note, I'm gonna finish up this little glass here
01:12:39and get on up out of here.
01:12:42Thank you so much.
01:12:44And as always, I'll see you next time.
01:12:46And I appreciate you.
01:12:47Yes, you're welcome, man.
01:12:48And you have a good evening.
01:12:50You too.
01:12:51And enjoy that heat.
01:12:52Cause I know I need it.
01:12:53Yes. Yes.
01:12:54Yes.
01:12:56All right.
01:12:57Take care.
01:12:57Good night.
01:12:58Yeah. Good night.
01:13:01Well, ladies and gentlemen, there you have it.
01:13:04That was Arthur Birdman 313.
01:13:08I want to thank him for coming through
01:13:09and I thank each and every one of you out there
01:13:12for hanging in there with us tonight.
01:13:15Like I said, I was throwing a little shade
01:13:19on this Sangria Grande,
01:13:21but I will tell you that if you do purchase this,
01:13:24definitely add the fruit like they suggest
01:13:26and definitely have it over ice.
01:13:29I guess there's a reason why it says serve chilled over ice
01:13:32because if you didn't have it that way,
01:13:34it probably would not.
01:13:36I don't think you would have liked it
01:13:38cause it is like a sweet wine.
01:13:41And I think that the ice and extra fruit
01:13:45just will give something to it
01:13:47to make it a little more desirable.
01:13:50So, but again, in all in all with 11 point,
01:13:54let me make sure I got this right.
01:13:5611.5%.
01:13:58Yeah, that definitely one glass hit the trick tonight.
01:14:03So no need to pour another one
01:14:05or else I would be like done.
01:14:09I would be done.
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01:15:10So first, I believe that it is imperative
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01:15:18Know yourself, get to know who you are,
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01:16:01from the spiritual, mental, physical, and financial aspect.
01:16:07And on that note, I will see you tomorrow,
01:16:10everybody, same place, same time, 7 p.m.
01:16:13We have coaching sessions Thursday.
01:16:15So you never know what you're gonna get on Thursdays.
01:16:17It's a wild card.
01:16:18We can focus on spiritual talk,
01:16:20we can focus on mental,
01:16:23we can focus on the physical,
01:16:26or we can focus on the financial.
01:16:28You sorta get a little bit of all of those,
01:16:33depending on which night it is.
01:16:35Like tonight, we got a different combination.
01:16:38But coaching session Thursdays,
01:16:43you never know what you're gonna get.
01:16:45Sunday is spiritual Sunday.
01:16:48Monday is mental Monday.
01:16:50Tuesday is transformational Tuesday.
01:16:52Of course, we're here Wednesday for Wine Down Wednesday.
01:16:55We have some great conversations, some great wine.
01:16:59We read a little bit, relax,
01:17:02different type of environment.
01:17:04Thursday, it's a typical wild card.
01:17:08And then Friday is financial Friday.
01:17:12So on that note, I wanna say thank you so much.
01:17:14Thank you so much to Birdman313.
01:17:16Thank you for coming through.
01:17:17Thank you to everybody out there for watching.
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01:17:26And on that note, I will see y'all tomorrow.
01:17:28And I'm gonna finish up my Sangria Grande.
01:17:32Finish up this glass here.
01:17:34And I'll see y'all tomorrow, 7 p.m. Eastern Standard Time.
01:17:37Same place, same time.
01:17:39Coaching session's Thursday.
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