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Transcript

00:00:00Thank you for joining us.

00:04:30I'm here again one more time in life, and I'm just going to kick this thing off, and I'm just going to go ahead and give it all to my executive producer, my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.

00:04:42Thank you so much for giving me another opportunity to come out here and do this four-in-one podcast.

00:05:12I started this thing.

00:05:42The way that it was supposed to be in the way that it was supposed to be done.

00:06:11Welcome to my new version of the four-in-one podcast.

00:06:41And I was brainwashed to follow somebody else's plan.

00:07:11I'm just going to give back to me.

00:07:41Teaching, training, and teaching, and teaching, and teaching, and teaching, and teaching, and speaking the truth.

00:08:11of being debt-free. I was just stuck and didn't know how to get out. As one of my mentors that

00:08:18I look up to says, stuck like Chuck in a pickup truck. I was stuck for so many years. I was stuck

00:08:24in the matrix. I was doing all of the things that everybody else was doing, thinking I needed to

00:08:29have everything that everybody had. And I got what everybody got. And now I'm finally broken

00:08:35free from that. And it's my mission. It is my purpose to make sure that I do whatever I have

00:08:41to do to separate and stay away from it as far as possible. Because when you know better, you do

00:08:46better. And I know better and I'm doing better. So welcome to Mental Mondays, where we're going to

00:08:52dig into the mental side of debt-free living. We also have Transformational Tuesdays, where we can

00:08:57go ahead and transform our mindset, our physical appearance, everything. All of that has to do

00:09:06with living healthy. And there are certain aspects of that that can keep us stuck when it comes to

00:09:12debt as well. And of course, you know, I love my wine, Wine Down Wednesday. That's going to be a

00:09:19thing as well. It's always there and it's never going to go anywhere because that's where we started.

00:09:23But having said that, you know, I've drank a lot of bottles of wine on this show, but I want to be

00:09:29real and be clear that, you know, you have to do it responsibly. You know, I'm not just going to

00:09:34take my money and just go blow it on, you know, expensive bottles of wine and we ain't going to

00:09:40be drinking every single day. Like, so we want to speak about that as well, how to do it responsibly

00:09:45and still enjoy and have fun and do the things that you need to do in your life. And then of course,

00:09:50coaching sessions Thursday, where you're going to get a combination of all of it. We're going to

00:09:56give you debt-free living from, it could be, it's a wild card. So you can get spiritual, mental,

00:10:03physical, financial, you never know, just come by on Thursdays and see what we have.

00:10:09And financial Fridays where we dig really deep, we dig really deep. You know, they always say that,

00:10:15you know, we're in this together. And I thought that, you know, whatever, that's so like cliche,

00:10:20that's so whatever. But I have to tell anybody out there who's listening to me that we truly are in

00:10:27this together because I'm learning right along with you. Each and every single day I learn something so

00:10:32new. And that's what I'm so passionate about, my growth and my learning. Because once I uncovered

00:10:39certain things, it was just like, oh my God, I can't believe it. Like, I've really been doing this for

00:10:46how many years? I've been doing what? And yeah, so when I say we in this together, we truly are in

00:10:53this together. And Saturdays, we will not be on broadcasting live, observing the Sabbath day. So

00:11:03no sessions on Saturday, but then we'll be back on Sunday with Spiritual Sundays. So

00:11:09thank you so much to everybody who has come. And, you know, like, comment, share, subscribe,

00:11:17tag a friend, let them know. And I have some students that are going to be coming in as well.

00:11:25And they're going to be learning and growing friends, students, you know, with family. But

00:11:30I'm just so passionate about the teaching and training aspect of that. So we'll see what

00:11:38happens when, you know, the mentor mentees come in. And I also have some slots available too. So if

00:11:46you are interested in learning how to become debt free, or you want to kick up your game when it comes

00:11:54to your financial literacy, because remember, you know, we always should strive to learn something

00:12:00new every day. And it doesn't matter how old you are, how young you are, just strive to do better.

00:12:07And the person who doesn't try to learn something new every day, you should be very cautious with

00:12:13that. Try to learn something new every day. And a person who thinks that they know everything,

00:12:19ladies and gentlemen, let me tell you, they know nothing at all. I went to a financial,

00:12:23not that I act like I know everything, but I trust me, the old version of me did. I thought I

00:12:28knew every single thing and ended up not knowing nothing at all. But I went to a financial literacy

00:12:34workshop. And this is what I want to let you know how serious I am about this, because the education

00:12:39pieces that I'm learning and pouring into Black Diamond consultations, obviously, is going to

00:12:46trickle down to my students and people who take my coaching. So I went to this three-day financial

00:12:51program, what was it, a week ago. And I walked away like, I feel like I didn't know anything before

00:13:01walking into there. I felt so confident going into there of all of the things that I've learned

00:13:06since 2022. I've been studying behind the scenes for, what is it, 2020 to what, two, three years,

00:13:11two and a half years now. I've been studying behind the scenes. So I went into this class

00:13:16and I was on point. Your board was on point. I was answering some questions, raising my hand.

00:13:21I felt like I was in school again, but I love this type of school. See, I didn't love the school

00:13:25system that the government and everybody else puts students in and whatever. I'm not even getting

00:13:31into that. But this type of learning, when it comes to money and getting your life right and building

00:13:37your legacy, oh, I'm right there. Sign me up for all that. I'm going to sign up for every single

00:13:42class. I'm going to be every single certification. Trust and believe this is a journey. And we're,

00:13:48like I said, we in this together. So anything that I get from that, I'm going to trickle it down

00:13:52and put it into my coaching program. But keeping it real with you, I learned so much and my mind was

00:14:00just like on fire after I left there. And I came across so many new avenues as well. Even just Saturday,

00:14:10I came across so many new things that I'm going to be able to bring right here, bring to the coaching

00:14:16session. So yeah, amazing. So here we are, Monday, May 5th, Mental Mondays. Thank you so much for

00:14:25coming in. Please like, comment, share, subscribe, tag a friend. I've noticed that after five years,

00:14:31this podcast has hit new heights. It's hit heights that I've never even seen before. And I never even

00:14:39imagined that I would be there. But truth be told is that we got a heck of a lot more to go and we

00:14:47have more heights to go. So I'm curious to see. And with this new format and with this new mentorship

00:14:53program, God only knows how far we're going to go. And yeah, we're here. So let me rewind this back

00:15:04because I know it's been a little gap in between episodes. So we're going to start to catch up and

00:15:09rock and roll and we'll have more daily content coming your way. But I want to give a very special

00:15:15thank you to the special guests who joined the live podcast version. And what was it? March. Yeah.

00:15:24Thank you so much to every single person who've come through. I've learned a lot. It was a lot of hard

00:15:29work, but it definitely paid off and I couldn't do it without any of my special guests. So Mr. Antonio,

00:15:35thank you so much for coming through. Thank you so much for supporting me on Instagram. I appreciate

00:15:40you and I support you as well. Ms. Rockwell Hernandez from O'Shea Candles. Y'all go ahead and please

00:15:46check her out. Canadian artists. I love them when I have international guests come on. Thank you so much

00:15:54to Miss Maddie Lee Mars. That girl is beautiful. Number one, and she can sing her butt off. So

00:16:01check out Miss Maddie Lee Mars, Canadian artists. Watch the replays. You get to learn about all of

00:16:07the special guests that were here in March. And we have new live podcast sessions coming up soon

00:16:12where all of the cameras will be on and all that great stuff. You'll be able to see all of my special

00:16:18guests and interact with us. So that will be coming up soon. Um, also brother, Mr. Birdman 313.

00:16:28He's going to be in on Wednesday. So he'll be in on Wednesday. We're going to talk,

00:16:32we're going to drink some wine. And, um, also I believe that we will be discussing

00:16:37some of his books as well. So thank you so much for his books and, and just him being him and

00:16:44constantly supporting reading between the wines. He's a reoccurring guest that comes back and you're

00:16:50going to hear a lot more from him as he has joined the mentorship program as well. Um, let's see where

00:16:59we're at. This is such a different dynamic. So this is the first night. So, um, different dynamic

00:17:05because I got my notepad, I got my pen. Um, I get to do so many different things behind the scenes

00:17:10that y'all can't see me and it's okay. I'm all right with that. When I first started,

00:17:15it was all about lights, camera, action, but I'm all right with this concept here and I,

00:17:22we're good. So we get a little bumps in the road and all that stuff. It leaves for more,

00:17:28uh, creativity this way when you can't see me. Um, uh, Mr. Ian West, another guest who has been

00:17:37amazing. His second time, third time coming back, he was on transformation. He was on evolution and

00:17:44back for restoration as well. So thank you so much. And boy, speaking of cameras on and off,

00:17:53Ms. Valene Jackson turned it up and she showed out, she showed out and showed up. And I got a mixed

00:18:01bag feeling. A lot of my guests enjoy being on camera for the first time. I thought it was amazing.

00:18:06Um, I could see some people were a little uncomfortable, but when I first started the

00:18:11phone one podcast, I started from, you know, basically what I'm doing here right now. I used

00:18:15to be on the phone with my friends when I was younger and we couldn't see each other. This was

00:18:19way before video chat and all that stuff. So I took it back to the ropes when I started it and I got a

00:18:25lot of slack in the beginning. People were like, well, how come, you know, I can't, you know, these are

00:18:30the people who wanted to be seen. How come you can't see me? How come you can't, they can't see me?

00:18:35So those people, they wanted to be seen. That's what it was all about. And there were some people

00:18:41who enjoyed it and they didn't want to be seen. And then when I did put the camera on,

00:18:45some people still didn't want to be seen. So in any case, um, to each its own, but so you will get

00:18:53the radio version. Basically what we're doing here now, you will not see my guest, um, except

00:19:01when we do the live version, which we'll do several live versions throughout the year. So

00:19:07you'll have plenty of time to see the special guests to come on and the students as well. So,

00:19:11but again, I could not do that live series without each and every one of the special guests who've

00:19:18come through. So thank you so much. So let's go ahead and speak about Ms. Vonley Jackson and her,

00:19:24uh, podcast was so powerful. And, um, it seemed like we always speak about the same thing,

00:19:33but it was the art of letting go and the art of letting go. It's a, it's a true art. And it's

00:19:41amazing when you learn how to let go. And I remember back and I'm gonna take it back when I,

00:19:482020 was just a spiritual awakening for, it was a, first of all, it was a lot. It was a lot for me,

00:19:54a lot of changing, a lot of moving parts. And like I said, and, um, when there's a breakdown,

00:20:01most likely there's going to be a breakthrough. And I remember when I was fresh, it was new. I

00:20:08separated and I got my life together and I broke up with my significant other and just broke up with

00:20:16my employer, all types of stuff was going on. And, um, I was angry at the time. And I used to say,

00:20:23well, it doesn't matter. They don't bother me anymore. They don't, they don't hurt me anymore,

00:20:29but secretly on the inside they did. And it, it bothered me. It hurted me. They, um, took up a lot

00:20:38of real estate and my mental. Every time I heard specific names, I thought about the company that I

00:20:45used to work for certain foods, certain smells, certain drinks, certain places. Every time that

00:20:51I reminisced, I was ready to go in. And when I thought about how people betrayed me, I was ready

00:20:56to just rip everybody's face off. And even though I look good on the outside, lost all kinds of weight,

00:21:03started vacationing and doing all types of stuff. The internal dialogue didn't match with the, um,

00:21:09external. So one thing that I have to say is that it truly is an art of letting go. Once you learn how

00:21:16to let go, you will learn how to, you know, move to the next level and you won't even know

00:21:22what happened and how it happened. And you just wake up one day. And when someone says a certain

00:21:28person's name, or you think about an X or song comes on that you were used to listening to. And when

00:21:35you don't get that weird feeling on the inside, when your heart stops racing, when your palms start,

00:21:41stop sweating, when you know, all of those things don't matter to you anymore, that's when you know

00:21:47you've made it. So give yourself a little test because I would say, please be very cautious. If you have

00:21:53some of those symptoms, like I said, when I used to hear names, when I used to think about things, even

00:21:58certain, uh, certain, uh, perfumes, colognes, things like that, that would send you to, to a trip, uh,

00:22:05foods, all of that stuff, old family members, friends you run into that say, oh, well, what happened

00:22:12to X, Y, and Z? Huh. If you get any of those symptoms, heart racing, uh, you know, feeling like,

00:22:25you know, you got the streak of anger going through you wanting to do a drive-by, you know,

00:22:31all of those things that we used to do so well. Caution. There's nothing wrong with those feelings.

00:22:40Embrace those feelings, but just know that that might be a sign of, I understand where you want

00:22:47to go, but just not yet. I understand where we want to get to, but just not yet. So if you still have

00:22:53those feelings, just tell yourself, just not yet. Baby steps, baby steps, just not yet. I don't think

00:23:02that I truly started to learn how to forgive people. Now, remember, remember 2020 was a breakdown,

00:23:11but my real breakthrough didn't come until 2022. And my real breakthrough didn't come through until

00:23:20I was in another country because all of those symptoms that I told you about heart racing,

00:23:27sweaty palms, feeling like you want to just go and rip somebody's face off, always trying to get

00:23:34under somebody else to get over. Is that, that's how, is that right? Get under somebody else to get

00:23:40over. Yeah. All of those things just to try to cover up, cover up, put on all types of jewelry,

00:23:47clothes, this, that, the next, the other, take this trip, do that, do that. That's the first thing

00:23:51I did. Let's just hop on a plane and act like we doing something, all of that. Yeah. But my

00:23:58breakthrough didn't come until 2022 to where I had to be out of my element. And my heavenly father

00:24:06said, listen here, since you don't want to do what you're supposed to do, I'm going to have to teach

00:24:11you a lesson. Because if you stay here in the States thinking that you're doing what you're

00:24:16doing and you're going to keep getting what you're getting. And all it's going to do is take for you

00:24:20to bump into somebody that reminds you of one of your exes from the past or bump into somebody that

00:24:24reminds you from somebody on your job that you were ready to, you know, get with. You're going to

00:24:30end up being in jail somewhere. You'll end up being in jail. You'll end up having a problem. There's

00:24:34going to be an issue. So let me take you out of your comfort zone. Let me take you

00:24:39to another country and go ahead and you try that stuff over there and see what happens.

00:24:45Breakthrough. Breakthrough moment right there. And then I came back a changed man. So I don't

00:24:52understand what we're trying to get to, but maybe just not yet. So if you still have those feelings,

00:24:57I want you to embrace them. Okay. I don't know who I'm speaking to. I'm just speaking from experience.

00:25:03Embrace them. Just know. I understand where we want to get to, but just not yet. We're just not

00:25:10there yet. So if you know you're not there yet, because you know the term fake it until you make

00:25:14it, I get it. Trust and believe because you have to fake it until you make it. Because if you don't,

00:25:18then you ain't going to get there. You have to believe it before it gets here. You have to speak

00:25:22it before it gets here. You have to speak it into existence. You have to become the person that you

00:25:27want to be. So if you are not there yet, trust and believe, I understand, and know. We're just

00:25:33not there yet. But don't sit there and act like you got it and you're all well put together. And

00:25:42don't sit there and trick yourself and not get the help and the healing and the growth that you need.

00:25:47There's an art to letting go. And Valene Jackson, thank you so much for coming through. I know we had

00:25:54such a great conversation. And one message that I have to say tonight is there's an internal dialogue

00:26:01and there's an external dialogue. That external dialogue, that's what everybody else sees.

00:26:06They see you put on the makeup, the clothes, the jewelry, the cars, the houses. They see all of that.

00:26:12But they can't see what goes on internally. Only you can. So don't fool yourself and don't trick

00:26:17yourself. Because I knew that, listen, every time I go past this situation, every time I

00:26:24experience something that reminds me of something, I felt a certain way and I challenged myself and

00:26:31I spoke to myself and spoke myself through, nah, we're not worried about that no more. Now today,

00:26:36when I say I feel good, I feel amazing, I truly do. Because people from the past, uh-uh,

00:26:45they didn't do anything to me. They did something for me. They helped me. Because without all of the

00:26:52issues and the situations and the drama and the backstabbing and the backbiting and all of that

00:26:57stuff that took place, I would not be here speaking to y'all today. So I understand and I get it. And I

00:27:05love each and every one of them. And I never thought I would get to the point. I always used to say,

00:27:10oh, when I see them in the street, oh, I better not never see them. Oh, I can't wait until I... That's how I

00:27:16used to act. Internally, that was the internal dialogue. I was ready to go in. Now it's like,

00:27:22you know what? I don't want to see them. Trust them. I'm on a whole vibrational level anyway. So

00:27:28the chances are me bumping into them and running into them are slim to none because that's a whole

00:27:33other thing. Once you level up and you get off of the vibration level that ignorance and all of that

00:27:43stuff is on, you ain't even worried about it. I used to be worried about bumping into them. And

00:27:48there was a possibility that I could have bumped into them because I was still vibrating from anger,

00:27:53hate, all of that type of stuff. But now that I'm on vibrational levels of joy, love, peace,

00:28:00happiness, kindness, I know that those folks aren't even on my level anyway. So I'm not even

00:28:05going to run into them. I'm not even going to see them. So it doesn't even matter to me.

00:28:08But I used to feel a certain way when I, certain little triggers, certain names, certain songs,

00:28:15themes, all of that stuff. But now I just smile with joy and I give nothing but peace and love

00:28:23and just more healing and growth for my enemies. Like when you can pray for your enemies and you

00:28:30don't feel bad no more, you don't feel like you want to hurt them. You don't feel like you want to

00:28:33smack anybody up. You don't feel like you want to do anything horrible and you want nothing but peace,

00:28:37love and joy for them. Huh. That's when you know you've made it. That's when I speak about the

00:28:43art of letting go. There's an art to it. And that's when you know you've let go. Yeah. Pray for

00:28:49your enemies because listen, the more that you get angry and want to pay back and want to repay,

00:28:55the Bible says never repay evil with evil. When you start to act like that, only thing you're doing

00:29:01is hurting yourself. That person is probably going on and starting to terrorize and disrupt the next

00:29:07human being. Disrupt the next soul and here you are sitting there harboring on and thinking about

00:29:14what they're doing and they ain't worried about you. And the more that you have those feelings,

00:29:20the quicker that you're going to dig yourself into a grave. When I figured that out, oh, this is life

00:29:27or death. Absolutely. You think it's a game. Every single time that you have anger, hate,

00:29:36discord leads to disease. And we already know where that comes from that. What comes after that?

00:29:43And you will end up being putting yourself six feet under and those people could care less about what

00:29:47you got going on. So be careful with that. The art of letting go, learn to let go, let, let folks go.

00:29:56God can take people far. God can take care of people far way better than you can. That angriness,

00:30:01that bitterness, that ain't doing nothing but poisoning your own system and putting you into a state,

00:30:06a lower vibrational state. And anyway, wow. Very passionate about that. But I feel great. I feel

00:30:18amazing. And you should all feel that same way too. And if you don't feel great and amazing, keep

00:30:24speaking until you believe it and put yourself in better situations. Shout out to Mickey Howard,

00:30:32recording artist, Mickey Howard. She follows me on Instagram. I follow her on Instagram. She was the

00:30:40first R&B artist to acknowledge the 4-in-1 podcast. So shout out to Miss Mickey Howard. And I love her

00:30:51song, Love Under a New Management. See, when you let go, you just are under just, I'm under a new

00:30:57management. And it's just a new, different type of love. And I don't look into other people, places,

00:31:08and things. I only look to one. And that's my executive producer. And I love when Mickey Howard

00:31:18says experience is a good teacher and it takes someone like me to know. Speaking of this mentorship

00:31:24program, speaking of this whole journey that I'm on, experience is a good teacher. And because of

00:31:31that, I have become the teacher. And it takes someone like me to know. Be careful what you ask

00:31:37for, people. Because I remember when I was at the height of my career in retail, and it was a point

00:31:46where it became boring to me. I was like, I don't feel like even being here anymore. This is so boring.

00:31:54And I said, God, I want to do exactly what I'm doing. Because I would love everyone would knock

00:32:00on my door and be like, hey, Laren, can I speak to you? I have a problem. And I'm sitting here speaking

00:32:05to them about their personal problems, telling them how I used to make $8 an hour. And here I am making,

00:32:11you know, what was I making? You know, I'm not going to put the salary out there, but trust and believe

00:32:16I went from $8 an hour to, huh, more money than I've, the most money that I've seen in my life at

00:32:24that time. Put it that way. It was lots and lots of money. And I told them, listen, I started off at

00:32:29$8 an hour. And I know I'm paying you, what, 9, 10, 12, sometimes at the time, 15. You can be just

00:32:39like me. Trust and believe. And I know you're going to have a family one day. I know you got a family.

00:32:43I would get people on the right track. And I was pretty much a coach at that time. And I

00:32:49didn't even know I was, but that job set me up for what I'm doing here today.

00:32:55And I remember just saying, God, I want to be able to use my life to help people because I thought I

00:32:59was going to be in a music industry and that didn't work. And here I was in my 20s, late 20s,

00:33:05early 30s. And I just said, well, if it's not going to be the music, then just let it be something

00:33:11else to where I'm actually using my life as an experience. Well, what did I say that for?

00:33:17Because when I said that, I'm sure he was like, okay, and started to put things in order. But

00:33:23I didn't know that the hell that I would have to go through to get here today.

00:33:28And experience is a good teacher. And I've learned a lot. And I'm here to continue to grow,

00:33:36here to share, and here to help people overcome some of the things that I've been through. Maybe

00:33:42you won't make the same mistakes that I've made. Maybe you will. Maybe you're going to be stepping

00:33:46into something you don't even know you're stepping into it. But just know that you can come here to

00:33:51the 411 podcast, Reading Between the Wines, to get some healing, some breakthrough, some type of way.

00:33:56I want to be a resource for people out there to know that this is a place where you can come.

00:34:00And yeah, what a great introduction. Thank you so much to Burning Sky. I see you out there. Thank you

00:34:08so much for joining. The people out there, if you are on Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, Twitter, YouTube,

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00:34:47that because last month, I experienced some issues where they blocked something and it was available

00:34:54here. But just know that you can go get us from several different places, which is amazing.

00:34:58Thank you so much for that support out there. Let's get into the song of the day.

00:35:06I'm going to take my little sip. I know I was out there talking a lot, but song of the day,

00:35:12Tricks on My Mind by Montel Jordan, released in 1996 off of his album, More. So tricks on my

00:35:19mind. I love this song because Montel Jordan is a West Coast artist. And at this time in 96,

00:35:28I believe that we were, you know, I'm a Mary fan. I'm not trying to not take it there,

00:35:34but I'm a Mary J. Blige fan. And Share My World was out during this time. But Montel Jordan was calling

00:35:43himself the king of hip hop soul. Mary J. Blige is the queen of hip hop soul. So I knew what he was

00:35:50doing with this album with more. Even though he's a West Coast artist, he was giving us more East Coast

00:35:57vibes. There was a lot of samples. He used the Method Man, Mary J. Blige, Roll I Need sample on this

00:36:05album. And that's what Tricks on My Mind is giving you. You get that you're all I need sample off of

00:36:12here. And I loved it. So Tricks on My Mind, he's basically speaking about why are you going to play

00:36:19Tricks on My Mind? You know, in a relationship, someone playing Tricks on your mind. Have you been

00:36:24there before? Because I know I have. So here's the thing. We can't allow people to play Tricks on

00:36:33our mind unless we start to play them on ourselves. Because when someone starts to play Tricks on your

00:36:39mind and playing games, we have to be strong enough to let them know. Actually, we don't have to let

00:36:44them know anything. I backed it up. We got to be strong enough to speak to ourselves and let ourselves

00:36:49know that a game is coming. And you do exactly that. You relinquish your power and you give up

00:36:56your power when you allow people to play Tricks on your mind. Because you need to be able to see that

00:37:01thing coming before it even gets here. Like my friend says, be very careful when you first meet

00:37:07people. My mentor, thank you so much. Shout out to AKA Bronx, New York. Thank you so much for everything

00:37:18that you have taught me over the years. But she says, stay out of the bedroom. Stay out of the

00:37:23bedroom because everything is going to be hot and heavy in the beginning. Yep. Everything will be hot and

00:37:28heavy in the beginning. And for those of you who don't know, if you're in a relationship,

00:37:32out the step in a relationship, you just got out of a relationship. Whenever you meet somebody for

00:37:37the first two years, don't do anything drastic. I will repeat that again. For the first two years

00:37:44after you've been dating somebody, don't do anything drastic like move in with them, get married,

00:37:48get pregnant, all of those things. Start taking on car notes, paying bills, taking responsibilities.

00:37:56There's something in your brain that makes you high. Yep. When you first meet somebody,

00:38:03you get those little butterflies in your stomach. When you see that person, your heart goes pitter

00:38:09patter. You just don't know what to do. You're just a mess. For the first two years, it takes two years

00:38:15for that little thing to dim down. Now, when we do things quick and heavy and start moving in with

00:38:23people and doing things, I don't know who I'm speaking to. I'm just speaking from experience.

00:38:27You understand where I'm coming from? When that thing starts to wear off, you wake up

00:38:32and you start to ask yourself and question yourself, what the hell did I get myself into?

00:38:38What the hell are you here for? And how the hell do I get you out of here?

00:38:42Sometimes it's too late because we said I do. Sometimes it's too late because we put ourselves in

00:38:48some situations and we become pregnant. We become parents and now you have to deal with that

00:38:53individual for the rest of your life. Be very careful. Stay out the bedroom. And if you go and

00:39:02play that game, make sure that you do all your homework. Make sure that you put in your reps first

00:39:07so that you know that when these tricks start to be played, you know when it's game. But can't

00:39:14nobody play tricks on your mind unless you let them.

00:39:23Now, we're going to shift gears a little bit and I'm going to help out Mr. Jason. Jason is from

00:39:33Charlotte, North Carolina. So when I spoke about playing tricks on your mind, spoke about you doing

00:39:39it to yourself. Nobody doing it for you. Nobody doing it to you. Excuse me. You doing it to yourself.

00:39:44That's exactly it. So a lot of times we're stuck in the situations that we're in because we play tricks

00:39:52on our own mind. Now, the episode tonight, the weight of the mind, we're speaking about mind.

00:40:00We're going to be speaking about mental. We're going to help Jason out a little bit. Shout out to

00:40:06Charlotte, North Carolina. Jason suffers from anxiety and avoidance when facing his debt.

00:40:18The stress keeps him up at night and impacts his work performance. He wants to start planning,

00:40:24but mentally shuts down every time he tries. I'll go ahead and read that again, just in case y'all

00:40:35need to go ahead and dissect this a little bit. Jason suffers from anxiety and avoidance when facing

00:40:46his debt. And we're going to break all of this down. The stress keeps him up at night and impacts

00:40:51his performance at work. He wants to start planning, but mentally shuts down every time he tries.

00:41:01So again, a lot of the things that we experience, we do it to ourselves. And I'm not here to give

00:41:08anybody advice, just to let you know that this is not any financial advice. This is not any medical

00:41:14advice, any of that type of thing. I strongly urge you to go ahead and seek a professional

00:41:20because I am not certified in any of these things. But like I said earlier in the beginning,

00:41:27experience is a good teacher and it takes someone like me to know. Sometimes the people who have

00:41:32real life experience in some of these things can give you the tools and the information that you need

00:41:41versus you going elsewhere. So I'm going to just put that out there like that. But again,

00:41:45I'm not here to tell you what to do. I'm only speaking from my life experiences and the things that I

00:41:50know. But I'm going to help Jason a little bit tonight. And for those of you out there,

00:41:54if you have any experience with this, drop it in the comments, let me know. And when I get towards

00:42:00the end of the show, we're going to go ahead and read your comments and everything like that.

00:42:06When it comes to anxiety, when it comes to stress, when it comes to anger, when it comes to all of

00:42:11those things, just know that that's from the enemy. God is not going to give us anxiety. God is not

00:42:19going to give us stress. God is not going to give us anything that's going to make us angry and step

00:42:24out of our character of love. Now, having said that, when we are in debt, when we get into these

00:42:31situations here, we have to look in the mirror and ask ourselves, how did we get here?

00:42:37And sometimes it takes us to take some responsibility. I was in tons of debt.

00:42:47I had people in my environment that I didn't want there. I was doing a blame game, pointing a finger.

00:42:54You did this, you did that. But they didn't do anything. I allowed that to happen. I invited the

00:42:59enemy in. You ever heard of sleeping with the enemy? I invited that in. And then when I look up,

00:43:05I'm like, well, how the hell did you get here? And number one, how the hell do I get you out of

00:43:09here? So when you have anxiety, when you have stress, when you have anger, think about what did

00:43:21I do to put myself in this situation? How did I get here? What did I do to put myself in this

00:43:29situation? Why am I feeling this way? Some of us can't ask that question because we're too busy

00:43:35pointing fingers at everybody else and blaming everybody else. She did this. He did that. She

00:43:40did that. They did that. They didn't do anything that you didn't allow them to do. And no one told

00:43:46you to swipe the credit card and buy the cars and do all that. And I'm not sitting here to point

00:43:50fingers because I was a stone cold fool. I used to want every single car, every single piece of

00:43:57jewelry, every single sneaker shoe that everybody else had. And I was the most angriest.

00:44:02I was the most disrespectful. I don't like the person that I was before, but I love who I am

00:44:09today. And if it comes with all of that jewelry, cars, clothes, this, that, the next, the other,

00:44:14you can have that because I don't want that. The joy and the peace and love that I have

00:44:18today versus the person I used to be dressed up and all this. I don't want that. And I can sleep

00:44:25good at night knowing that my bills are paid. Second, I can sleep good at night knowing that I don't

00:44:31have all of the extra stress that some of my coworkers, some of my family, some of my friends

00:44:38have. They can have all that. Y'all want to go on all your trips and you want to do all of this and

00:44:42you want to do all of that and drive this and drive that and buy this and buy that. Okay. I was always

00:44:48called weird when I was younger. Like you're just strange and you're not doing what everybody else

00:44:53does. And you always, you know, drive these certain cars and yeah, because I, I was preparing

00:45:01for what I, who I am today. And when I did step out of my comfort zone, when I did swipe the credit

00:45:08card, when I did buy things extra that I shouldn't have been buying, when I did go on trips that I

00:45:13shouldn't be going, I couldn't have hardly have enjoyed because I was angry and I was miserable

00:45:17because I knew that I was doing something going against God's plan. All of my family members,

00:45:24everybody who was around me, I would be the person who would ruin everything because while I'm here,

00:45:28while I spent my money, while I did some dumb things to get here, I'm bringing everybody else

00:45:33down because deep down inside, I know that this isn't right. And I'm mean mugging everybody

00:45:37and I'm just, and I'm just miserable towards everybody. I don't know who I'm speaking to tonight.

00:45:43I'm just speaking from experience and I'm letting you know that this is the person that I used to be.

00:45:48Now I'm different. So Jason, when it comes to that anxiety and all of that stress and I can't do this

00:45:54and I can't do that, I'm not saying that you're going to get out right away because it takes some

00:45:59time, but we might need to do some reflection. We might need to look in the mirror and ask,

00:46:04where is this anxiety coming from? What is causing these? What triggers is it? And whatever it is,

00:46:09get rid of it. If that car gives you anxiety every time you have to go ahead and make that car payment,

00:46:17if that job gives you anxiety every time you go there, maybe we might need to change some things up

00:46:23and get rid of it. Maybe you need to look for another job. Maybe you need to go ahead and downsize.

00:46:27Maybe you need to sell that car. Maybe you need to sell that house. Hmm. I know I did that

00:46:33and I feel so much better. Listen, the person I am today, uh, that'll be a whole nother episode,

00:46:40but yeah, cutting grass and shoveling snow and doing all that stuff, you know, trying to decorate

00:46:46your house and outdo your neighbors and all that stuff. Yeah. Been there and done that. I don't want

00:46:50that condominium lifestyle today. Somebody else going to be shoveling that snow. Somebody else going

00:46:55to be cutting that grass. I want no parts of it today. I did that before. No, thank you.

00:47:00Having the pets run around in the backyard, cleaning up dog poop, this, that, the next,

00:47:07the other. I'm good. I'm good. Yeah. Want no parts of it. Avoidance. Let's speak about Jason's

00:47:14avoidance issue. You can avoid debt all you want. You can avoid paying your bills. You can avoid taking

00:47:21responsibility, but it's always going to be there. And there's a little thing called interest.

00:47:28And the more that you avoid it and the more that you don't take responsibility for the actions that

00:47:35you've caused to get to that situation, the worse it's going to be. Find out what's triggering it.

00:47:43Do whatever you need to do to try to avoid it as much as possible. And I know it ain't easy,

00:47:48easier said than done and dig into it. Find out. I was paying over, I want to say about $200 in credit

00:47:58card interest. Just reckless paying and swiping cards, doing dumb stuff. When I started to get out

00:48:06of avoiding taking responsibility and I started to dig into my credit card statements and I saw how much

00:48:14money I was paying in interest that wasn't even freaking going to the balance. Oh, a light bulb

00:48:23went off. I said, you know what I could be doing with that money? I would challenge you to think

00:48:28about when I say avoidance, that's basically when you've given up. When you don't want to open up

00:48:33credit card bills, statements, you don't want to take responsibility. You don't want to try to do

00:48:37better. You just say, oh, well, it is what it is. You have that mentality. When you get to that point

00:48:45where you start to see how much money is trickling out and that you're losing daily, weekly, monthly,

00:48:55annually, it'll open up a whole new door for you. But I get it when it comes to that avoidance.

00:49:04I get it. A lot of people have been there. And this is another thing when it comes to avoidance,

00:49:09and I don't want to go off tangents because I know we're sitting here helping Mr. Jason out here.

00:49:16If you are in a relationship with someone who is dealing with some financial avoidance,

00:49:23meaning that they could give two craps about what's going on in your financial situation,

00:49:27and you're sitting there trying to pull the weight for them, and they're the ones just creating all kinds

00:49:32of nonsense and voiding, taking responsibility. There's a lot to be said about two people being

00:49:37on the same page. And there's a lot to be said about somebody who is putting in their work and

00:49:41one who isn't. I don't know who I'm speaking to. I'm just speaking from experience, but

00:49:46I think it says something about being evenly yoked. Okay. Just put it that way.

00:49:55Be very careful with that. Because some of those things may not be long term. And you might think

00:50:03that it's long term, but yeah, be very careful with that. Distress keeps him up at night. I already

00:50:11spoke about how I can sleep at night. I used to toss and turn. I used to think about bills and think

00:50:20about how I'm going to pay this and how we're going to rob Peter to pay Paul. There is no answer to it

00:50:26except to pay for your debt. Get out of debt. And when you get out of debt, some of us are able to

00:50:31sleep better at night. And I've had some of the best sleep that I've had in my lifetime. And listen,

00:50:36I've had a lot of years of being out there. A lot of years of fussing, fighting, and carrying on

00:50:43in the middle of the night over bills and this, that, the next, the other, that. Yeah, it's time for me to

00:50:47have some makeup. Good night's rest and joy and peaceful nights. And they're here. And now that I

00:50:57know what it's like to sleep peaceful and to be able to sleep and not get up in the middle of the

00:51:03night and pace the floor, I don't want to go back to that. So that's not a good thing. And do I have

00:51:08the answer for when you have sleepless nights? Besides, sometimes you're just going to have to

00:51:12get in there and do what you got to do. Take responsibility. Pay back what is owed.

00:51:21And one thing, when it comes time to learning and planning and shutting down, you're going to have

00:51:32to ask for some help. If you get to the point where you keep trying to do things, but you shut down and

00:51:40you mentally can't handle it. You avoid taking responsibility for the things that have been put

00:51:46in front of you and the bills and the things that are coming in. And you can't sleep at night. Now's

00:51:51the time where you might need to seek some professional help. There are all types of financial

00:51:57coaches. There are different debt forgiveness programs, but you need to be very careful because

00:52:03some of those 1-800 numbers and the things that you hear on the radio, they could get you into some

00:52:08situations. But I would start working out all types of deals that you can work to get some of this debt

00:52:14cleaned up. I don't know what type of debt you have, but majority of Americans out there, the credit

00:52:20card debt is the number one high interest debt, toxic debt, which is considered payday loans and stuff

00:52:27like that. Car payments, all of that stuff. You can eliminate it. Your life just going to have to be

00:52:34different. And that means you may not drive the car that you're driving right now. You might have

00:52:41to cut that credit card up. Actually, there is no might. That's probably the first step because

00:52:46anybody who's in credit card debt, the first thing you need to do is cut the credit cards up and stop

00:52:49using them. And you may not be able to go to those fancy restaurants. You may not be able to go on

00:52:55those vacations. So we're only getting a little surface here. I don't know what the true detail

00:53:01is, but yeah, definitely seek some professional help at this point, because if you continue to

00:53:09avoid and continue to have sleepless nights and this and that, the next, the other, it's only going to

00:53:13lead to something far worse than this. So any questions, any feedback, any thing that you have for

00:53:25Mr. Jason out there, please feel free to go ahead and drop it in the comments. If you're

00:53:30watching the replay, listening to the replay, you can comment and let us know how you feel about that.

00:53:37And yeah, again, like I said, like Ms. Mickey Howard said, experience is a good teacher and it takes

00:53:43someone like me to know. I have been in and out of debt at least three times. And in 2020 was the

00:53:51last straw. And I said, absolutely not. And the pandemic happened. I remember people on the TV

00:53:58saying, there's a couple of things that are getting ready to happen and you can need, there's going to

00:54:04be a group of people who changed their life. And there's going to be a group of people who just stay

00:54:09stuck. This is a time for people to start to figure out what they want to do. And there's going

00:54:14to be a group of people who move and elevate to the next level. And I basically said, I want that to be

00:54:19me. Cause I already knew what I was dealing with. I was in a job that I couldn't stand. I was in a

00:54:24marriage. I couldn't stand. I was in all types of stuff that I didn't want. And I had a whole bunch

00:54:30of credit card debt. I had a whole bunch of debt because you know, the American dream going buy a

00:54:38house. Everything's wonderful. Oh, I'm a homeowner. Hmm. Well, ladies and gentlemen, let me tell you

00:54:45this. You are not a homeowner until you make that final payment. Do me a favor and stop paying them

00:54:50for six months to a year and see what happens to that home since you think it's yours. So I knew I

00:54:56had a significant amount still left. If I would have thugged it out a little bit, if God allowed me to

00:55:04live until here under the circumstances that I was under, I would have owned my house today,

00:55:11but I don't know what my health would look like. I don't even know if I probably wouldn't even be

00:55:15here today. The amount of stress and the BS that I had to deal with. And just like Jason,

00:55:19the sleepless nights and all of that stuff, please. So I get it. I get it. So, um, yeah,

00:55:31Jason, I hope this helps you and I hope we're able to help you with that. And if those of you out

00:55:38there, if you have any questions that you would like us to discuss here, um, please feel free.

00:55:46You can text me at 609-200-1098. Again, that number is 609-200-1098. You can also email me as well.

00:55:58And, um, maybe we'll discuss your scenario here on 411 Podcast, Reading Between the Wines.

00:56:06And, um, yeah, I'm sitting here thinking like, so it hits home all too well. And I get it

00:56:16because I've been there before. And, um, yeah. Now, ladies and gentlemen, this is the segment where

00:56:25we get into burning questions. Again, if you have any questions that you'd like to

00:56:31bring to the forefront, you may text me at 609-200-1098. And maybe we'll go ahead and

00:56:40answer your burning question live here. Burning question tonight. What daily mental habits

00:56:48help you stay focused, resilient, and emotionally balanced? I'll read that again.

00:56:55What daily mental habits help you stay focused, resilient, and emotionally balanced?

00:57:06So, and again, if you want to chime in tonight, please go ahead and put that in the comments and

00:57:11let me know. So what daily mental habits help you stay focused? I'll take it into the focus aspect.

00:57:20I'll take it into the resilience and then the emotionally balanced. So to stay focused,

00:57:28first of all, I don't leave my environment without prayer. I remember my former self.

00:57:39Soon as the alarm clock would get off, I'm jumping in a shower, rushing around, getting ready for work,

00:57:46going through somebody's drive-thru, Dunkin' Donuts, whatever the case may be, and going into work

00:57:52without prayer, without getting grounded, without centering with self. And whatever crap that was on

00:58:03the news, whatever was on the radio, whatever argument, disagreement that I had before I stepped

00:58:09out into my environment, I poured that on every single person that I encountered. If someone gave

00:58:15me an attitude on a road, on a drive-thru, whatever the case may be, here I am passing that along to

00:58:23the next person. So one thing that I do to stay focused and stay grounded is to center with self

00:58:30before I even leave my environment. Because we are going to face challenges on a day-to-day basis.

00:58:40We are going to experience some nonsense. We're going to experience some BS. We're going to experience

00:58:44some trials because it's a test. This is a test. Life is a test. And if you don't pass the test,

00:58:52you just have to do it over again. So for those of you out there who might say, oh, wow, I keep

00:58:56experiencing the same thing over and over again. I keep running into the same type of personality.

00:59:02I keep experiencing the same thing over and over again. That's because you are not passing the test.

00:59:07And if you don't pass the test, you have to do it again. So as we get tested throughout the day,

00:59:15our tolerance level gets chipped away little by little by little by little. Now, if you don't build

00:59:23that tolerance level up in the morning before you leave your environment, you're already entering

00:59:28into a lower state, subjecting yourself to nonsense and subjecting yourself to depletion.

00:59:37Now, when you get to depletion, that's when the attitude, that's when the cuss and the fight,

00:59:40and you're already on a lower vibrational level at that moment. So you want to build your level up

00:59:46high. You want to leave high because you don't know what you are going to face. The enemy is waiting

00:59:52to come out there and devour and to cause havoc and to wreak nonsense into your world. So as you know

01:00:00that, that means you have a responsibility to do something to protect yourself. Anybody who runs out

01:00:07and just puts themselves out there, you're asking for trouble.

01:00:14So I would say that's one aspect. I also control the things that I consume

01:00:20from a visual

01:00:23and from hearing,

01:00:26from listening to certain things. I

01:00:28don't put myself in an environment with negative people and negative themes

01:00:33because I used to be my own worst enemy.

01:00:36I used to be the person who would bring somebody down.

01:00:39I used to be the person who would pick up the phone and call somebody and have nothing

01:00:43nice to say at all. And I wasn't happy until you're just as

01:00:46miserable as I was or even worse.

01:00:48That used to be me.

01:00:51What is that? A definition of an energy vampire?

01:00:55So I know what that's like.

01:00:58So you have to be cautious of that as well.

01:01:02And you have to be resilient when it comes to dealing with those type of people.

01:01:06And you have to be able to dodge that.

01:01:08And you have to be able to protect your peace and protect your energy.

01:01:11And emotionally balanced.

01:01:18Don't put yourself into environments that are not producing.

01:01:22If you feel that something triggers you emotionally,

01:01:29remove it immediately.

01:01:31So I get up and I remove myself.

01:01:34I remove myself and I don't put myself into situations where

01:01:38there's going to be some type of emotions going on.

01:01:41Because when emotions are high,

01:01:43intelligence goes out the window.

01:01:44And I had to tell myself time and time again and work myself through and say,

01:01:49okay,

01:01:50is this hurting me?

01:01:57Is this helping me?

01:01:58Why do I feel this way about X,

01:02:04Y,

01:02:05and Z?

01:02:06What triggers this situation here?

01:02:09And once I started to dig deep and figure out what the trigger points are,

01:02:16what I don't like,

01:02:18guess what?

01:02:19You don't have to go back.

01:02:21Now,

01:02:22if you keep putting yourself in a situation,

01:02:24knowing that certain things bother you,

01:02:26then you're just asking for help.

01:02:28You're asking for trouble.

01:02:30So I know I don't like certain things,

01:02:32so I'm not going to go there.

01:02:34I know I don't like certain people,

01:02:36so I'm not going to be around that.

01:02:41And another thing,

01:02:44we are not responsible for regulating anybody else's nervous system.

01:02:50Only person that you are responsible for taking care of is you.

01:02:54Everything starts with self.

01:02:56When we start to put ourselves into situations where we think that we can control

01:03:01somebody else's situation and somebody else's outcome,

01:03:04you're setting yourself up for failure.

01:03:07I used to be so emotional like Carl Thomas because I was trying to control not only my environment,

01:03:16but somebody else's.

01:03:17It's called self-control for a reason.

01:03:19There's enough going on with self that it takes a lot of work to control me

01:03:24that I don't have time to be worried about trying to control somebody else's outcome

01:03:28and somebody else's environment and somebody else's behaviors and somebody else's actions.

01:03:33Try it if you want to.

01:03:34That's all I have to say.

01:03:38Try it if you want to.

01:03:40After a while,

01:03:40you're going to realize that you keep hitting a brick wall and you keep hitting these same stumbling blocks.

01:03:45And there's a reason for it is because we have not been put on earth to control another human being.

01:03:51Now he put us on earth to control all types of things and to trample and to conquer all of the creepy crawly things

01:03:59and the fish of the sea and the birds and all of that stuff.

01:04:03And, you know, I'm just giving it to you on my version.

01:04:06And I'm not sitting here trying to say I'm an expert when it comes to biblical text,

01:04:11but not nowhere in my studies have I learned that he put us here to control another human being.

01:04:19That comes from the other.

01:04:21So you can go ahead if you want to, but we've not been put here to control anybody else.

01:04:26And it is not our job to regulate somebody else's nervous system.

01:04:29I can't be responsible.

01:04:30I don't want to be responsible for anybody else's feelings.

01:04:33The only person I don't want to myself, and if we all focused on self, this world would be a better place

01:04:39instead of worrying about what somebody else has going on.

01:04:43So we take on too much.

01:04:46Sometimes we do too much and we wonder why mentally we feel that we can't handle,

01:04:51we can't get to the next level.

01:04:56I don't know who I'm speaking to.

01:05:01I'm just speaking from experience.

01:05:04But on that note, I want to say thank you so much for those of you who came through.

01:05:10If you're out there, give me some feedback.

01:05:13Let me know how you feel about Mental Mondays.

01:05:17Please like, comment, share, subscribe, tag a friend, invite them in.

01:05:21Let them know what we have going on here tomorrow.

01:05:25Join me back here.

01:05:28Same place, same time.

01:05:31Right here, 411 Podcast, Reading Between the Wines.

01:05:34Transformational Tuesday.

01:05:35If you have any burning questions that you'd like us to dissect, any scenarios, any situations,

01:05:43anything that has to do with your financial, mental, spiritual, walk in life, financial,

01:05:54go ahead and let us know.

01:05:56Text me at 609-200-1098.

01:05:59You can also email me at info at laryngaines.com.

01:06:05And also, head on over to laryngaines.com.

01:06:08Check out Black Diamond Consultations.

01:06:11I do offer coaching services as well.

01:06:15If you are passionate about debt-free living and want to upgrade and level up your life,

01:06:24head on over to laryngaines.com.

01:06:27You can send me a text message.

01:06:29And I offer free 15-minute consultations.

01:06:33And again, you have to hit your rock bottom.

01:06:38I can't pull anybody through.

01:06:41I can't let anyone get...

01:06:43I can't pull anyone through.

01:06:45I can't push anyone through.

01:06:46If you want to get to the next level of your life, you have to take that responsibility.

01:06:50When I learned that, when it comes to the type of business that this is, this is a financial

01:06:57business, this is not about selling anything.

01:07:02This is not about coaxing or coercing anybody to do coaching so that you can become debt-free.

01:07:11Because like I said, I was in and out of debt three times.

01:07:15Got out of debt.

01:07:16Oh, Lord, please help me get out.

01:07:18I promise I won't do it again.

01:07:19And as soon as you get out of debt, be swiping up a storm again and charging up a storm and

01:07:24purchasing up a storm.

01:07:25And oh, Lord, please help me get out of debt.

01:07:29And I promise I won't do it again.

01:07:31And then what happened?

01:07:32Go ahead and do it again.

01:07:33The person who will succeed in this journey, the person who will succeed in this is that

01:07:38person who has had enough.

01:07:40When enough is enough and you want to cut them credit cards up and you want nothing to do

01:07:43with it again.

01:07:45Oh, that's the person that's going to succeed.

01:07:47When you think about a credit card, it makes you want to throw up.

01:07:51You feel like the worst feeling ever.

01:07:56That's when it comes to debt-free living.

01:07:57When you are not borrowing somebody else's money, you are not living off of somebody else's

01:08:03money.

01:08:03You are not living from paycheck to paycheck.

01:08:06You are not.

01:08:07Listen, you have got to get good and sick and tired of yourself, good and sick and tired

01:08:13of your situation when you are just disgusted, when you are embarrassed, when you are all

01:08:18of that.

01:08:20Those are the people who are going to succeed, not the person that thinks this is a game.

01:08:25I've coached many people who are not serious or they think that they're serious about it

01:08:30or all, you know, this might be this situation or I can't pay this or I can't do that.

01:08:35Well, if you have that mentality, that means that you're not ready and you're not serious

01:08:41for this program.

01:08:43You have got to be good and sick and tired of yourself to where you absolutely do not

01:08:47want to do it again.

01:08:48Because if you continue to go down this path, this could be a life or death situation for

01:08:52you.

01:08:53Those are the type of people who will benefit from any type of financial coaching.

01:08:57The coach is not going to go ahead and just wave a magic wand and everything's going to

01:09:01be okay.

01:09:02We will give you the tools and everything that you need to succeed.

01:09:05But guess what?

01:09:06What is in between you and getting out of debt and getting to the next level is one simple

01:09:12word and that is action.

01:09:15If you do not take action with the things that you've learned along this journey, it is

01:09:21never going to work.

01:09:22And when I learned that, I understood exactly who this program is for.

01:09:31So if you are interested, you might have heard something tonight that you like, something

01:09:37might have sparked.

01:09:39I have a free 15 minute consultation so we can discuss a few things to see if you qualify

01:09:44for the coaching sessions.

01:09:46But on that note, you can come back, you can learn and continue to learn and continue to

01:09:53get more information to be able to help you guide your decision as far as what direction

01:09:59you're going in your life.

01:10:01And on that note, I want to say thank you so much for everybody out there.

01:10:05Please like, comment, subscribe, share, tag a friend, do whatever you need to do to let

01:10:11them know what we have going on here.

01:10:12Thank you so much.

01:10:14See you tomorrow.

01:10:15Have a good night.

01:10:17Take care.

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