Minimalism vs. Approval | DISC 5: Restoration | 411 Podcast🍾Reading Between The Wines (Episode 21)

Name: Minimalism vs. Approval | DISC 5: Restoration | 411 Podcast🍾Reading Between The Wines (Episode 21)
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Minimalism vs. Approval | DISC 5: Restoration | 411 Podcast🍾Reading Between The Wines (Episode 21)

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DISC 5: Restoration
Track 21: Minimalism vs. Approval
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03:00Welcome, welcome, welcome.

03:27Welcome on in.

03:28Welcome to the 411 podcast.

03:31What's going on, everybody?

03:33It's Tuesday, May 27th.

03:36Transformational Tuesday.

03:38Welcome on in.

03:40This is episode 21.

03:43Tonight, minimalism versus approval.

03:47So I will tell you that it's probably going to be an interesting show tonight.

03:52I'm going to make sure that I do a very good job of keeping my emotions in check because minimalism is something that I'm very passionate about.

04:06And you'll find out why as we go through this show tonight.

04:10But before we do that, I want to go ahead and give a very special thank you to my executive producer.

04:20Thank God.

04:21Thank you for giving me another opportunity to come out here and do the 411 podcast.

04:27And I also want to thank each and every one of you out there.

04:33If you listen, if you watch, if you like, if you share, subscribe, people who DM me, people who text me.

04:44Any way that you support this program, any way that you support this movement, I want to say thank you so much.

04:51There's been lots of highs and there's been some lows as well.

04:56And the fact that I'm still here, the fact that you are all still there, I want to say thank you so much.

05:05Minimalism versus approval, this five restoration, the 411 podcast, episode 21, transformational Tuesday.

05:16We're going to get right on into this.

05:21Yesterday's episode.

05:24Mental minimums.

05:27So we helped out Mr.

05:29Jared, and I'm just curious why we stay in Newark.

05:34I keep saying that just so curious why we keep staying in Newark, New Jersey.

05:39But hey, we can't pick and choose where people come from.

05:43But I'm from New Jersey.

05:45If anybody doesn't know that.

05:47But Jared was a customer service rep and he battled anxiety, depression, linked to his debt, twenty six thousand dollars in credit card debt.

06:03He did the professional route, which is good.

06:06He's seeking therapy, but he's still connecting himself, his personal value, his wealth based on his bank account.

06:14So I spoke last night about why we shouldn't compare ourselves to other people, why we shouldn't be focused on a material aspect of it.

06:28And again, this is a common theme that continues to be intertwined or woven throughout all of these shows here that we have.

06:40And tonight we're going to speak about minimalism.

06:43And there's no coincidence that people who are in severe debt, a lot of it is due to materialism.

06:52Ask me how I know, because I used to be me.

06:56So it seems like Jared was focusing on the material aspect of it, racked up credit card debt to twenty six plus and now is looking at his bank account and it's not the same as what it was before.

07:13So because his bank account is not what he wants it to be, he's comparing and basing his self-worth off of the value of his bank account, which is not a good situation to be in.

07:28If you want to hear more from last night's episode and how I gave my opinion, I'm not here to give any advice, how I gave my opinion and weighed in on Jared's situation.

07:40Please go ahead and watch that replay.

07:42I also want to let you know that I am on multiple different platforms.

07:47I am on Facebook.

07:48I am on Instagram, X, YouTube, D Live, Twitch, Daily Motion.

07:54I'm also on the audio version is also on Spotify, Amazon Music.

08:02Deezer.

08:05Podcast, there's so many I'm trying to name them all, excuse me, Audacity.

08:12The list goes on and on.

08:13Pocket cast, I can't even name them all.

08:16So wherever you go to listen to your favorite podcast, just check and see if the form on podcast reading between the lines is a part of that.

08:25And if not, please feel free to reach out to me and we will see if we can get that streaming on that platform.

08:31So song of the day, Love Yours by J.

08:38Cole, released in 2014 off of Forest Hills Drive.

08:45I want to speak about the beauty in a struggle because this debt free living is not easy.

08:53And the beginning is going to be an uphill battle.

08:55But there is excuse me.

09:07Definitely don't want that to be on there.

09:09There definitely is beauty in the struggle.

09:14Once you know better, you do better.

09:17Like J.

09:18Cole says, there is no such thing as a life that is better than yours, and that is absolutely the truth.

09:24There's no such thing.

09:26And I know that some of you out there listening may not even feel that way.

09:31And I get it.

09:32I didn't start to feel that way about my life until 2020.

09:40But even when it gets hard, we still have to continue to think of the end game.

09:45Where do we want to be?

09:46Where do we want to go?

09:47Where do we want to grow?

09:49Checking Instagram, checking social media, comparing yourself to other people is a trap.

09:58And it's set up that way on purpose to get us stuck, to get our minds twisted and distorted so that we can go out and rack up a bunch of consumer debt.

10:12And again, I'm not sitting here acting like I haven't been there before because I have.

10:16And yes, I post things on Instagram too.

10:19Like if I go to a nice restaurant, which, you know, I don't do it every night, but if I get to a point where, you know, I have a nice dinner and I'm enjoying family and friends, yeah, I might post something in my stores.

10:35But that's exactly what's happening.

10:39Special occasions, not all the time.

10:42Not all the time.

10:45Social media is a snapshot.

10:48This is not how people are living on a day to day basis.

10:52However, some of us can get our minds twisted and distorted and might feel and believe that this is exactly how people live on a day to day basis.

11:03So they go out and they try to mimic it and they try to compare and they try to make their lives the same.

11:09And that's when we run into some problems.

11:13Like J.

11:13Cole says, you will never be happy until you learn to love yours.

11:20Looking, wanting what somebody else has is a recipe for disaster.

11:25I've done it so many years.

11:27Majority of my life I've done it.

11:28I didn't know who I was.

11:29I always look outside, didn't look in, look towards other people for validation, wanted everything that everybody else had.

11:39And then when I got it, I realized that I didn't want it.

11:42I paid too much for it, couldn't afford it.

11:45And my life was miserable.

11:49Everything starts with self.

11:51And like I said in the beginning, I didn't know how to love myself until I realized that I was surrounded by a bunch of stuff that I didn't love and a bunch of people that I didn't love.

12:03And they didn't love me either.

12:05Now, there was a whole bunch of people hating, hating me, hating on me, hating me, whatever you want to call it.

12:13And I was right along with them because if I had known any better, I wouldn't have put myself in that situation in the beginning.

12:19See, when you love yourself, you won't put yourself in situations that don't serve you.

12:25Some of us are sleeping, some of us are conversating with the enemy on a daily basis, and we don't even know it.

12:40And the sad part about it is that the enemy, thank you so much for joining, the enemy sometimes is in our own four walls.

12:49And let's take it even deeper, the real enemy sometimes is within.

12:55And we walk around, and I've done it too for so many years, thinking that somebody is doing something to you, they did this to me, they did that to me, when in reality, I did it to myself.

13:10When we put ourselves in situations that don't serve us, when we attach ourselves to people who don't love us, when we go to places that we know full well we don't belong, who's the real enemy then?

13:29Now on the flip side of it, we ain't going to take this all the way down no dark, dreary path, excuse me, no dark, dreary path, let's take it on the flip side, because we're going to learn about this tonight on Transformational Tuesday.

13:52For those of you who have someone who's in your corner, who's rocking with you, ready to weather the storm, ready to grow with you, they know that they may not be perfect and you aren't either, but they're willing to work with you, that's a blessing.

14:09If you are in a relationship, I don't care if it's a situationship, a friendship, when two people can clearly come together and say, listen, we have a problem, this is not working, and if we continue to go down this path, it's going to be a problem, I know you got your flaws, I got mine, I'm not perfect, nobody's perfect, but let's try to work this thing out together.

14:39If you have somebody in your corner like that, especially when it comes to the financial aspect of it, especially when it comes to the spiritual aspect of it, I mean, listen, go on and on, all of them, the mental aspect, the physical aspect, wow, that's probably somebody you might need to hold on to, that's what I call a blessing, when somebody's willing to listen and work and grow and let's try to make this thing work.

15:08And if you bring a problem, if you bring a situation, if you bring a scenario to your significant other, your friend, your lover, your mate, I don't care, whatever, and they are willing to listen, willing and able, wow.

15:23Track 21, Minimalism Versus Approval, Disc 5 Restoration, Song of the Day, Love Yours by J. Cole, you gotta love yours, because there's no such thing as a life that is better than yours, no such thing.

15:44Let's get into tonight, we are going to help out Tasha and Malik, Charlotte, North Carolina, shout out to anybody who lives in Charlotte, North Carolina.

16:02Before I get into tonight's session here, if there's anything out there that sparks an interest in you, anything that I'm speaking about tonight raises an interest in you, please feel free to reach out, you can text me at 609-200-1098, I'm opening it up now, you can email me,

16:32if there's any questions that you'd like me to ask, anything that you'd like me to address on the 4 in 1 podcast, Reading Between the Lines, email me, info at laryngaines.com, thank you so much for joining, I appreciate you, info at laryngaines.com, I have a great way of twisting things around and taking names so that people don't know who it's coming from, if you want it to be anonymous, just put that in there as well and we'll make that work.

17:01Info at laryngaines.com, you can also text me at 609-200-1098.

17:07Tonight, we're helping Miss Tasha and Malik, Charlotte, North Carolina, Tasha is an event planner and Malik is a carpenter.

17:18They are shifting toward a minimalist lifestyle to escape financial stress, but outside judgment and internal pressure threatens to unravel their commitment.

17:32Tasha and Malik of Charlotte, North Carolina, event planner and a carpenter, they are shifting toward a minimalist lifestyle to escape financial stress, but outside judgment and internal pressure threatens to unravel their commitment.

17:52So I said in the beginning of the show that this is, I'm going to have to try to keep my emotions in check because I am a minimalist today, and as we go through and help Tasha and Malik, I might be helping myself and I pray that I'm helping somebody else out there as well, but some of this might take me down memory lane a little bit.

18:12So clearly, they understand that they got a lot going on and they want to escape the financial stress. They don't want to deal with it anymore, so it sounds like they're working more towards a minimalist lifestyle.

18:31When you have been attached to so much stuff and you can understand and your eyes get open to what the minimalist lifestyle is and how much money you can save and how much, not even just the saving of the money, but I don't want to be bothered with it.

18:49I don't want to be bothered with the nonsense that comes with having all of this extra stuff attached to me.

18:55So I get it. Financial stress, but let's speak about mental stress as well. There are so many different things that we can do to help when it comes to relieving some financial stress, when it comes to minimalism.

19:13And this is the best way I could probably lay it out here. I'm looking at my life, looking at this situation here, knowing where I came from, where I used to have over 100 pairs of shoes. I had so many clothes that I probably didn't have to wash clothes for a whole year.

19:29I had so many clothes I didn't have to worry about doing laundry. Hats, accessories, this, that, the next, the other. And then now when you're attached to other people who live the same exact way, you can imagine what my environment looked like.

19:51And when you wake up over and over and over again with the same personality, so you can't just blame it on one person. Couldn't blame it on number one, couldn't blame it on number two, couldn't blame it on number three. It had nothing to do with them, but it had everything to do with me.

20:11Because what we experience in our world is a reflection of what's going on on the inside. So if you keep attracting the same situations, the same scenarios, the same people, and over and over and over again, I would strongly urge you not to point your fingers and blame them and say, why do I keep running into the same people? Why do I keep having the same situation show up over and over again?

20:36It's probably because you failed the test. And that's exactly what happened in my life. Number one was a hoarder, number two's a hoarder, number three's a hoarder. By the time I got to four, I'm like, uh, yeah, never claimed to be a genius, but I lived long enough to see this. To the fact that I turned my life to be a minimalist, and that's one of the best things that I could possibly do.

20:57If I needed to pick up and move at the drop of a dime, I would be able to do it within hours. That's how much of a minimalist I am. I'd be able to do it within hours and the next day be moved in completely fine and have every essential necessities that I need and be just completely okay with it.

21:22In fact, that when things start to get a little cluttered, when it's a little bit too much, I will immediately just automatically start donating things and getting rid of things. This weekend, it was great. I did the same thing. I went through and started to get rid of some things.

21:42Because when you hold on to stuff and you hoard stuff, you don't allow any room for any growth or room for anything new, anything fresh. Same thing when it comes to your money. When you hoard, you don't allow any flow and it will become stagnant.

22:09Thank you so much for joining. I appreciate you. We all know what happens when you charge to the max or you go right to the max. You have no room for nothing else because all your money is exhausted.

22:26That becomes financial stress because if there's something that's new comes out, if there's something new that you want, if there's a different change or something that you want and you haven't evaluated your financial situation and ask yourself, do I really need this? Or am I just so used to accumulating things? For example, subscriptions. How many of you out there have a bunch of subscriptions and don't even know you have it?

22:54I've done coaching sessions with people and they say, Laren, I have no idea how many subscriptions I have. Well, number one, we should be checking our bank statements, credit card statements, whatever you want to call it, to see exactly what's being charged every month.

23:14Then if we can't do that because some of us may not be there, I get it. They have an app that you can download on your phone that will tell you all the subscriptions that you've signed up for and you can unsubscribe right then and there.

23:30That little exercise saved people more than $100 a year because they were so used to just signing up for things, not looking at the financial aspect of it. Just because you have the money, let's just go ahead and spend it and sign up for it that they didn't realize that they're spending, basically not spending, wasting hundreds of dollars a year in subscriptions that they don't need.

24:01Should we go down a list? Netflix, Hulu, Amazon Prime. I mean, all of these different TV shows and networks, they all have their app.

24:14So check your statements and see. That could be an issue when it comes to, I'm going to call it hoarding. Another reason why someone would want to be a minimalist.

24:30I watch people who just pick up things because they spend time in a retail environment where they just pick up things and because they have something at home, oh, I need the color blue of it. I need this to match it.

24:52So we're just picking up things and buying things just because it's quote unquote cute or I want this color. I got all these colors and I need to collect it. Really? If you have six of them, you really need to add another one just because it's a purple color or it comes in a different shade.

25:22So think about that. Think about your own situation here. Again, I'm just thinking about mine.

25:34The other thing about this here that is interesting is outside judgment, outside judgment.

25:43I said in the beginning that this is not for everybody, and I strongly urge.

25:50See, I've changed the way I started to approach this because one thing that I've learned is that you can't change anybody. The only person that you can change is yourself.

25:59And a lot of my issues in the past, and I don't know if they're dealing with this as well, is when you think that you can change people when you want to just be so helpful when you want to just give your all to somebody else to try to pull them up to your level.

26:23That becomes a problem, and I had a scenario brought to me a couple weeks ago.

26:31It is far easy for someone who's on the ground at ground level to pull you off of a ladder, pull you down off of a ladder.

26:41They have much more leverage and strength to pull you down off of the ladder versus you trying to pull them up to your level. The chances are you pulling them up to your level or you falling down from them pulling you down.

26:52Check that out. Which one you think is going to win that game? Someone who's on the ground trying to pull and tug you down off of a ladder, or are you trying to pull them up while you're standing and holding on to a ladder?

27:07You can't change people, and this journey is not easy, and it takes a specific person to be able to say, I want to live debt free.

27:20And there is no pressure here. There is no coercing anybody. And if you're in a situation, if you're in a relationship, if you're in any type of situation and both parties are not on the same page, chances are that you're fighting a losing battle.

27:39I hate to put it that way, but it is a reality. So many different couples, people come to me for assistance, but they have a significant other who is dealing with financial avoidance, won't look at a bill, don't know what's going on, don't know how much money is coming in.

28:00And they think that getting any type of coaching, guidance, mentorship from one level is going to be able to help them protect both of them. And the response that I have to say to that is absolutely not.

28:14Outside judgment, when you're looking or not looking, when you are basically worried about what someone from the outside thinks, they probably didn't even judge you yet. They probably didn't even say anything, but in your mind and your mental trip that you go down, you're so concerned and worried about outside judgment.

28:45A lot of times we make up these things in our own minds. We make up these scenarios.

28:52And half of the time, they're not even true to begin with.

28:57And.

29:00If it was true.

29:03What do you care for?

29:04Someone's judging you, how you're living and cleaning up your life. What do you care for? Tell me the last time that they paid into your bills.

29:15Anybody at your job have to have they paid your bills.

29:23So when it comes to outside judgment, your friends that you hang out with.

29:29Do they pay into your bills?

29:31Do they pay into your bills?

29:35Are they there with you during the sacrifice when you are trying to make ends meet?

29:40When you were robbing Peter to pay Paul.

29:46So never should we ever be worried about outside judgment.

29:52Never should we be comparing ourselves to anybody else.

29:56And see, when we let the outside judgment, when we let that enemy into our situation, we let that enemy into our relationships.

30:04This is where internal conflict comes in.

30:07So now because we're worried about outside judgment.

30:10Now there's internal pressures that threatens this whole commitment that these two.

30:16Have decided to journey that they've decided to go on.

30:20So.

30:23If I was in these, this couple shoes, there definitely would be some.

30:28Spiritual exercises.

30:32Deep meditation.

30:35Because you are going to need to be spiritually grounded to be able to fight all of the nonsense.

30:44That's coming from the outside.

30:45That is threatening to disrupt what you have committed to and what you're building upon.

30:51You both clearly know.

30:54That moving towards a minimalist lifestyle.

30:57Is easier.

30:59You can see it.

31:01You're working on it, but you're letting outside issues.

31:06People, because that's the only other thing that's going on.

31:10I think that's.

31:13That's a shame.

31:17So I would say definitely need to have some spiritual.

31:23We need to go down that path.

31:26I'm not quite sure.

31:28I'm not quite sure.

31:30I'm not quite sure.

31:32I'm not quite sure.

31:34I'm not quite sure.

31:36We need to go down that path.

31:38I'm not quite sure what that looks like.

31:43Because I don't know this full scope and the details of this.

31:50But it sounds like this couple will be able to make it.

31:54This doesn't sound like a disaster. I've had some.

31:58Situations that were like a little sketchy, but this one looks very promising.

32:05So that's that's what I have to give to Tasha Malik.

32:07If there's anybody out there tonight that has something a little bit different, you want to chime in.

32:13You want to let me know how you feel about tonight's show.

32:16Please text me at 609-200-1098.

32:20That is the official form on podcast reading between the wines hotline.

32:25I want to thank each and every one of you for joining in.

32:28And right about now, we're getting ready to get into burning questions.

32:31Burning questions.

32:34What are you willing?

32:36To give up today to become the version of yourself you've always dreamed about tomorrow.

32:42Burning questions.

32:44What are you willing to give up today to become a version of yourself?

32:48You've always dreamed about tomorrow.

32:51Now, I want you to think about that.

32:53Think about Tasha and Malik.

32:55Tasha and Malik.

32:57Think about what they are willing to give up and what struggles they are experiencing and how the struggles could get in the way of what the end game plan is.

33:11Think about your own scenario.

33:12Think about where you are today.

33:16Think about where you want to be tomorrow, next month, next year.

33:21You know what you need to give up because nobody else is going to know that better than you.

33:32And I don't know who I'm speaking to.

33:33I'm only speaking from experience.

33:35But sometimes we just try to hold on.

33:40We try to hold on to people and try to take them with us.

33:44And I already gave you that ladder scenario.

33:47That people, the people that we're trying to hold on to and trying to pull up the ladder, they're trying to pull us down because they're comfortable right where they're at.

33:57What are you willing to give up today to become the version of yourself you've always dreamed about tomorrow?

34:03There's some places that we just don't, we can't shake.

34:06We got to keep going back.

34:09I know somebody who was in a great relationship, but they couldn't stay out of the hood.

34:14And because they couldn't stay out of the hood, it caused issues.

34:17And you know what that scenario is, that little saying is, you can take people out the hood, but you can't take the hood out of them.

34:24And then they also have that one where you can't turn into a housewife either.

34:33What about the material things?

34:36I talked about the subscriptions.

34:38There are some people who have a problem and they just learn.

34:41I just have to shop online.

34:42I have an issue where I just love Amazon.

34:46I just love Sheen.

34:47I just have to do it every week.

34:51You have to do it every week.

34:53I just love Starbucks coffee.

34:54I just, I just love Dunkin Donuts.

34:57I got to have my, my latte every day.

35:01What are you willing to give up today to become the version of yourself you've always dreamed about tomorrow?

35:05That one little simple thing.

35:08And you might think that it's, oh, it's not that much.

35:11Those things do add up.

35:14And before we start to add up the dollars, because it's not all, not all just focusing on money.

35:22It's the habits and the routine and it's the discipline.

35:25If you discipline yourself enough around certain things, that daily discipline will start to trickle in and spill over into your financial life.

35:38But if there's no self-discipline with just simple, basic things.

35:45How do we expect it to flow into our bank accounts?

35:49What are you willing to give up today to become the version of yourself you've always dreamed about tomorrow?

35:55Now, I posted something yesterday.

36:02Titled, I remember me.

36:05I remember the younger version of myself.

36:08Who I am.

36:10Who I am.

36:12Who I am.

36:14Who I am.

36:15I remember the younger version of myself.

36:18Who basically was a people pleaser.

36:23I didn't know who I was.

36:26Any clothes, cars, jewelry, flashy things.

36:32I was all about it.

36:34Sybil has a song called Don't Make Me Over.

36:37And anytime I got into a relationship, that's exactly what happened.

36:41That relationship made me over.

36:42I became a different person.

36:44And I became tied to, I became stuck to whatever environment I was mesmerized and fascinated with the person.

36:54Whatever baggage they had, whatever nonsense they had, I basically made it a part of mine.

37:01I remember that person.

37:05And I remember him oh so well.

37:08Because today, now that I know better, I do better.

37:11And that type of living, that type of lifestyle.

37:15That individual.

37:19I have to say today, absolutely not.

37:22I thank the younger version of myself.

37:27For teaching me all of the things.

37:32But I'm no different today.

37:35And I have to remember myself.

37:37And I have to remind myself.

37:41That I'm willing to give up any type of disrespectful, downright dirty individual.

37:52Who is going to take me off of my path.

37:57Thank you so much for joining.

38:02And it usually with me, it usually starts with the people.

38:04It starts with the people.

38:10Then it flows into the material world.

38:14When your mind gets distorted.

38:18And then it trickles into something else and then into something else.

38:21So today I'm willing to give up all of that.

38:27No longer people pleasing.

38:29You're going to need to come with something better than the same old BS.

38:35That I've been listening to for the longest time.

38:40But one thing I have to say is that.

38:42When you thank you so much for joining, I appreciate you.

38:45When you are willing to give up something.

38:49And you complete.

38:52Several reps, several cycles and you start to have some discipline into it.

38:57You won't need to worry anymore.

39:02You will not need to worry anymore.

39:04My mentor says, learn, you don't got to worry about it today because today you know how to pick them.

39:09And that is so true.

39:11Today.

39:13We know how to pick them.

39:15Whatever you give up today.

39:18That's not going to be a problem.

39:20Once you commit to it, once you stick to it, once you see the benefits of letting this go.

39:26You ain't got to worry about it.

39:29And when it shows up.

39:31Maybe you'll be able to say, I remember.

39:34I remember.

39:36And you know what? I also remember.

39:38I remember where I'm going and I'm not going to let any distractions.

39:41I'm not going to let any BS.

39:43I'm not going to let any drama come in here and decide to disrupt and change and mess things up.

39:55What are you willing to give up today to become the version of yourself you've always dreamed about?

39:59Dreamed about.

40:01If you're watching this replay, drop it in the comments.

40:05Text me 609-200-1098.

40:08This is a good one.

40:11In a reflection, what are you willing to give up today to become the version of yourself you've always dreamed about tomorrow?

40:17My life didn't change until I started giving up people.

40:20People that no longer serve me.

40:22People who didn't want anything good going for me.

40:30Thank you so much for joining in.

40:33If you like anything that you heard tonight, please feel free to text me at 609-200-1098.

40:41Again, that number is 609-200-1098.

40:46It really does feel like a Monday, but it's transformational.

40:49Tuesday Memorial Day was yesterday, and I don't know about each and every one of you out there.

40:55I don't know if you celebrate it or not, but I don't really celebrate certain holidays.

41:02But I worked yesterday.

41:05I've worked yesterday, but for some reason, it feels like it's a Monday.

41:11So I don't know.

41:13That's where we're at here.

41:16I am on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, TikTok, DLive, Twitch, Dailymotion.

41:22My handle name is atlarangaines.

41:25You can also go to my website, larangaines.com, and you can sign up for my free monthly newsletter,

41:33which is Whispers of Wisdom.

41:35Whispers of Wisdom will give you inspirational content, motivational content,

41:41delivered to your inbox once a month around debt-free living from the four lenses of Black Diamond Consultations,

41:49which is spiritual, mental, physical, and financial well-being.

41:57You also can sign up for a free 15-minute consultation if you are interested in learning more about debt-free living.

42:05And again, when it comes to debt-free living, you have to be serious about it.

42:11No one can do this for you.

42:14No one can do this for you.

42:18You will get the tools, you'll get the support, you'll get the resources to make it happen.

42:24But the only person that can make it happen is you.

42:28If you are a person that thinks that we can just wave a magic wand and everything's going to be okay,

42:36it's not going to happen.

42:38If you are a person who can't stop with some of the online shopping, which we spoke about,

42:45it's not going to happen.

42:47If you are a person who still swipes your credit card,

42:51knowing full well that you don't have enough money at the end of the month to pay for it,

42:55and you're just going to make the minimal payments,

42:58not going to happen.

43:00This is for somebody who is sick and tired of being sick and tired.

43:04They've had enough.

43:05They hit rock bottom and they can't get any lower.

43:11Sign up for that free 15-minute consultation.

43:15Apply to see if you qualify.

43:17Because again, this is not for everybody.

43:20This is only for those who are serious about this.

43:23People who want to change.

43:26People who no longer want to live off of borrowed money.

43:31People who want to build something in the future.

43:33You know, I probably have this quote wrong,

43:37but this really woke me up.

43:40And maybe it'll wake somebody up tonight.

43:42I'm not going to say I have it wrong, but if I do, don't hold me to it.

43:46But Warren Buffett had a quote that said that if you,

43:51somewhere along the lines,

43:53that if your money,

43:55basically, if you're not making money in your sleep,

43:58you'll work until you die.

44:01Until you die.

44:03Now, if I got it right, it wasn't until the rest of your life.

44:07The word die was in it.

44:09Like if you are not making money in your sleep,

44:12you will work until you die.

44:14After I heard that, that's enough.

44:16That's all I needed to hear.

44:18If you are not making money in your sleep,

44:22you will work until you die.

44:25That's it. I'm done.

44:27Sign me up and let me know what we need to do to make sure that that doesn't happen.

44:29Because one thing I'm very passionate about is Black Diamond Consultations.

44:36Because my name's on that.

44:38And I'm going to rock in this thing.

44:41Trust me.

44:43Once I understood and know what my purpose is and the plan,

44:47oh, I'm here. I'm signing up for it.

44:49Tired, not tired.

44:51Whatever the case may be.

44:53We still going to keep rocking this thing and doing this thing until God takes me up off it.

44:57But to get up every day and go to work for somebody else

45:01and help somebody else's business

45:03and not make sure that I'm not taking care of my own, for my family as well, my legacy.

45:08Absolutely not.

45:10I stopped that.

45:12I want to say I stopped that in 2020.

45:17Yeah, basically 2020 I stopped that.

45:19I said, absolutely not.

45:21Yeah, I get that I might have to go to work for somebody else.

45:23I get that I might have to have two and three jobs to make a hustle and do what I got to do.

45:25But at the end of the day, I want to make sure that I got my own too.

45:29Because I clock in at Black Diamond Consultations before I clock in anywhere else.

45:35If you are not making money while you sleep, you will work until you die.

45:44That's all I needed to know.

45:46And that's enough to get me to start getting my life together.

45:52Again, it's not for everybody.

45:56But if you're interested in learning more, head on over to laryngaines.com.

46:00And on that note, I want to say tomorrow I want you to come back.

46:05We have Wine Down Wednesday.

46:07Author Birdman313 will be coming in.

46:13We're going to sip some wine.

46:15I think I got some Pinot Grigio.

46:17My sister gave me a bottle of Pinot Grigio that we're going to sample tomorrow.

46:20And chop it up with Birdman313.

46:28Wine Down Wednesday, every Wednesday.

46:33You get some financial literacy.

46:37Wine sampling in a more relaxed environment.

46:42Definitely some laughs.

46:44So definitely come back tomorrow.

46:46And I want to say thank you so much to everybody out there who listens.

46:49If you can please do me a favor.

46:51Please like, comment, share, subscribe, tag a friend, invite them in.

46:56Let them know what's going on over here on the 411 Podcast.

46:59Reading Between the Wines.

47:01And on that note, I'll see you all tomorrow.

47:03Wine Down Wednesday.

47:05Reading Between the Wines with Author Birdman313.

47:07Thank you so much.

47:09Everybody take care.

47:11Have a good night.

47:15Bye.

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