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Lerin Gaines

The Real Me Is Tired | DISC 5: Restoration | 411 Podcast🍾Reading Between The Wines (Episode 40)   Featuring: Mental Monday, Mentorship Series   Monday | July 28th, 2025   Streaming LIVE on all social media platforms @LERINGAINES   https://leringaines.com  https://linktr.ee/leringaines  https://www.facebook.com/leringaines  http://instagram.com/leringaines  https://www.tiktok.com/@leringaines  http://twitter.com/leringaines  https://www.youtube.com/@leringaines  https://www.twitch.tv/leringaines  https://dlive.tv/LerinGaines  https://dailymotion.com/LerinGaines   Song of The Day: "Tired" by Kelly Price  Released 2011 | Kelly   Burning Questions: Are you tired from life's demands... or tired from hiding your truth?   I would love to hear from you! Share your response to tonight's Burning Questions:   Text: (609) 200-1098 | Email: Info@LerinGaines.com   DM on any social media platform @LERINGAINES (Facebook, Instagram, X, TikTok, YouTube, DLIVE, Twitch, DailyMotion)   Sign up for my FREE Monthly Newsletter 'Whispers of Wisdom' for updates, exclusives, and inspiration!   Subscribe now at LerinGaines.com   #Facebook #Instagram #TikTok #X #YouTube #DLIVE #Twitch #DailyMotion #ParentalAdvisory #ExplicitContent #LerinGaines #411Podcast #RBTW #ReadingBetweenTheWines #BurningQuestions #BlackDiamondConsultations #VacationWithMe #WhispersofWisdom #DISC5 #Restoration   DISCLAIMER: The content and information provided by Black Diamond Consultations are intended solely for educational and entertainment purposes. We do not guarantee the accuracy or completeness of the materials, and any reliance you place on them is strictly at your own risk. Our content is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice or judgment. Black Diamond Consultations shall not be liable for any errors or omissions in the educational and entertainment content or for any actions taken based on the information provided.   411 Podcast🍾Reading Between The Wines  DISC 5: Restoration  Track 40: The Real Me Is Tired  ©️ 2025 Black Diamond Consultations Network  LerinGaines.com

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00:04:003, 2, 1.

00:04:03You're now tuned into the 411 podcast and reading Between the Wines, powered by the Black Diamond Consultations Network.

00:04:10More than a podcast, this is a sanctuary for self-discovery, healing, and personal growth.

00:04:17Here, we explore what it means to live debt-free, not just financially, but spiritually, mentally, physically, and emotionally.

00:04:25Every episode is part of a journey across our weekly mentorship series, spiritual Sundays, mental Mondays, transformational Tuesdays, wind-down Wednesdays, coaching sessions Thursdays, and financial Fridays.

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00:04:44So grab your journal, pour your glass, and prepare to go beyond the surface.

00:04:49Because here, here's your guide through the 411 podcast, and founder of Black Diamond Consultations, Laren Gaines.

00:05:01What's going on?

00:05:02What's going on?

00:05:03What's going on?

00:05:05Welcome, welcome, welcome to the 411 podcast.

00:05:08What's going on, everybody?

00:05:11If you are out there, I want to say thank you so much.

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00:05:26And of course, I want to say thank you again for hanging out there with me tonight and checking it out here.

00:05:33I also would like to give a very special thank you to my executive producer.

00:05:40I want to thank God for giving me an opportunity to come out here and do it again.

00:05:45Another opportunity to get it right.

00:05:47Another opportunity to share my story.

00:05:52Another opportunity to just be here, hanging out, chilling with the people who have been supporting me.

00:06:03Welcome, and this is Mental Monday.

00:06:08Another week, like I said, another opportunity to do this thing and get it right.

00:06:14This is going to be, I want to say, a deep show.

00:06:19Let's just say deep.

00:06:20We're going to go in deep.

00:06:21I have an opportunity on a weekly basis to speak to so many different people.

00:06:27And so many people go, it's a rough time in the world.

00:06:35All you have to do is turn on the news.

00:06:37All you have to do is just pay attention.

00:06:40And you're going to understand if you don't already understand or overstand, however you want to box it up, label it up.

00:06:49It's a lot going on.

00:06:50But, like my girl Mary says, you ain't the only one.

00:06:56So, don't get so down on yourself.

00:07:00I've talked to so many people that get so down on themselves.

00:07:03And I have to say, listen, we're here, right?

00:07:06We woke up today.

00:07:08We're breathing.

00:07:10We're still pushing.

00:07:11We're still moving.

00:07:12And there's so many people that didn't make it.

00:07:13But we are still here.

00:07:15That's enough to celebrate.

00:07:18And that's enough to be thankful for and be grateful for that we're still here.

00:07:23And we're going to get into this tonight.

00:07:25But I just want you to keep that on the forefront as we go.

00:07:31Episode 40.

00:07:33The Real Me is Tired.

00:07:35This 5 Restoration 4-in-1 Podcast.

00:07:40Part of Mental Monday.

00:07:41The Black Diamond Consultations Mentorship Series.

00:07:45It's Monday, July 28th.

00:07:50This month is almost over.

00:07:52Here we are getting ready to get into August.

00:07:55This summer is just, it is what it is.

00:07:58It's just, I already knew that this was going to happen.

00:08:02The nice, wonderful, amazing, I can say so many great things about summer.

00:08:08The weather is just, I'm in my element.

00:08:11I'm in my zone.

00:08:12But we only get it for a couple months.

00:08:14And, you know, you know what happens.

00:08:17But, in any case, we're here.

00:08:20We're up.

00:08:21Ready to get this thing going.

00:08:23If you want to learn more information about the Black Diamond Consultations Mentorship Series, please do me a favor and just DM me and text me as well, 609-200-1098.

00:08:37I will give you all of the information that you need so that you can have a seat at the table.

00:08:41You can come in and you can dissect these scenarios.

00:08:44We can go back and forth and we can learn and we can grow together.

00:08:48We're going to get into it tonight.

00:08:52But before we do that, I want to give a quick recap of the last episode.

00:08:59Last episode, we helped Mr. Derek, 45, from Atlanta, Georgia, warehouse operations manager, recently got through a divorce after six months of being divorced.

00:09:1512 years, 12 years being together, no kids, but they have plenty of debt, plenty of shared debt.

00:09:22And it seems like homegirl just skipped out.

00:09:25She just skipped out and left.

00:09:27And now Derek is sitting here contemplating going back and forth, telling us that it's really not about the money.

00:09:34But we have apartment leases that are broken.

00:09:36We have joint credit cards that are through the roof and a whole bunch of resentment.

00:09:43And trying to date again, but going back and forth and not really understanding and knowing and can't trust himself, can't trust others.

00:09:53And bottom line, when we got a lot of this stuff going on, there's a lot of noise in the system.

00:09:59Again, I can't tell you what to do.

00:10:01The only thing I can do is just give you my opinion based on my real life expenses.

00:10:07And there's a lot going on.

00:10:11I want y'all to check out that replay.

00:10:13Go ahead and hit me up on YouTube.

00:10:17Hit that replay.

00:10:18But what I feel is that Derek is suffering from the lack of tending to his spiritual side.

00:10:34Number one priority.

00:10:36Because when you know who you are, others will know who you are, and you won't be able to.

00:10:43Let me back that up.

00:10:45When you know who you are, others will know who you are, and you will not set yourself up for some of the things that he's experienced.

00:10:53People who know who they are spiritually will not sign up for this type of scenario here.

00:10:58And so lacking the financial aspect as well, because that ties in.

00:11:04It starts with spiritual.

00:11:07Once that spirituality is broken, you start to open up the door for all types of other things.

00:11:12People to play games with your mind.

00:11:14You start to do things outside of your character.

00:11:17Next thing you know, you're spending money, and you're doing the most when it's starting in the spiritual realm.

00:11:22And so he says that it's not about money, but it is about money because he has a broken lease, apartment lease.

00:11:32We have, and you're not even living in it, first of all.

00:11:35So if we're going to have an issue, and let's just start by that.

00:11:40That was one of the examples that we gave.

00:11:44Joint credit card debt.

00:11:46And then we're trying to get out here and date and try to do it again without cleaning up some of the stuff that we

00:11:50listen to the situation in the first place.

00:11:55Go ahead and watch that replay on YouTube.

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00:12:04And if you do not find the 411 podcast and reading between the wines available, just drop me a line.

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00:12:14I want to say that we are officially back on X.

00:12:17We did some troubleshooting over the weekend, and I'm not going to tell you what happened,

00:12:23but it was something very simple.

00:12:25But we're back on X in maybe like two weeks.

00:12:29So we want to build that momentum back up.

00:12:32I did learn something new about Dailymotion, that there is a cap as far as, you know, the length of the show.

00:12:42And we had a pretty lengthy show a couple days ago.

00:12:46So because it went over the threshold, which I noticed is probably useful information to some people, but it is what it is.

00:12:55Because we went over the threshold, now we have an episode that will not be posted to Dailymotion.

00:13:01But I also want to recognize Dailymotion.

00:13:04Everyone out there, thank you so much.

00:13:07It is amazing, all of the love out there, overseas, France.

00:13:14Thank you so much to everyone who watches on Dailymotion.

00:13:18We have awoken, is that not even a right word?

00:13:24We, not even a right word that I'm just making stuff up right now.

00:13:29But we have cracked the code and we've done something different for Dailymotion.

00:13:35So join in, celebrate.

00:13:38If you want to check out Dailymotion, please go ahead and join the crew of the people who have been streaming those replays.

00:13:48Again, from the bottom of my heart, I want to say thank you so much.

00:13:52Great, beautiful things are happening over there.

00:13:54All right, so let's get on into the song of the day.

00:14:01We are here.

00:14:02And let me just back this thing up, right?

00:14:05So I want to talk about the title of this episode.

00:14:09The Real Me is Tired.

00:14:12How many of you out there are tired?

00:14:16We're going to go through this.

00:14:17We're going to get deep for a minute.

00:14:18I said that that would be a good word, a key word to describe this episode, deep.

00:14:23So let's get into it.

00:14:26Song of the day, Tired by Kelly Price, released in 2011 off of her title album, Kelly.

00:14:34The song starts off, and we're going to go through this.

00:14:37I love this song.

00:14:38Kelly Price is an amazing singer, beautiful voice.

00:14:42I feel that she doesn't get enough credit for what she's contributed to the music industry.

00:14:48She's been writing music for so long before she even stepped on the forefront.

00:14:51One of my favorite Kelly Price's album is Mirror, Mirror.

00:14:55That album from top to bottom resonates and speaks on so many different levels.

00:15:01Highly, highly, highly recommend.

00:15:03If you want, you don't know anything about Kelly Price, you want to learn about Kelly Price,

00:15:07put Mirror, Mirror from top to bottom.

00:15:11You will not be disappointed.

00:15:13This is off of the Kelly album.

00:15:17None of my favorite Kelly Price's albums, but she does have joints on here like this one here.

00:15:22Of course, the one she has with Stokely.

00:15:24And she has a song called Intervention on here, which will help so many people who've been in any type of domestic violence situations.

00:15:35I highly recommend you keep that song Intervention in your back pocket to be able to share that song with somebody.

00:15:43And as we are speaking here on the 4-in-1 podcast, somebody reached out to me and said,

00:15:48Laram, please help me because my baby's father is, he was abusing her.

00:15:54And I had to be very careful as far as texting this individual back and forth because I didn't want him to read her text messages.

00:16:05She said it was a very, like, toxic situation.

00:16:11And I'm on the other end feeling it because I was like, if I do something wrong or say something and he sees it, she could potentially be getting beat.

00:16:20So, I remembered that song, Kelly Price's Intervention.

00:16:25So, what did I do?

00:16:27I passed that song to her and said, here's a great song.

00:16:31Listen to this song.

00:16:32As you're listening to the Kelly Price song Intervention, which is off of this album, Kelly,

00:16:38she spells out the hotline to call for women who need help, men who need help, anybody who's being abused.

00:16:48Listen to that song Intervention, send it to somebody, there's a way to send it to them secretly like I did here on a 4-in-1 podcast to be able to help somebody without the abuser knowing.

00:17:02Powerful.

00:17:03When Kelly made that record right there, powerful.

00:17:06I don't care if anything, if she'll make anything else, that right there is powerful.

00:17:10It's called Intervention off of this album called Kelly.

00:17:13But right now, we are speaking to the folks out there who are tired.

00:17:18Track 40, The Real Me Is Tired, Song of the Day, Tired by Kelly Price, released off of her album Kelly.

00:17:25It starts off with, there's a hole in my heart.

00:17:28I don't know who I'm speaking to.

00:17:29If anybody out there who has felt that something has driven a hole through your heart.

00:17:35Whether you've been through any type of tragic situation, whether you've been through any breakdown, any shakeup, any setback, she says my soul is bleeding and I need to free my mind because Lord knows, Lord knows.

00:17:54And then we get into, I'm tired.

00:17:56I'm tired, tired of the way he treats me.

00:17:59Anybody in a relationship, a friendship, and you're just tired of the way that they are treating you.

00:18:08Tired of the guilty feelings.

00:18:11Anything that you have put yourself through and you have guilt.

00:18:17Because most of the time, I want to say all the time, but just err on the caution and say most of the time, the stuff that we've been through is a result of our own actions, our own decisions.

00:18:35Because nobody can hurt you unless you allow them to.

00:18:39So when you go and you overspend or you go and you put yourselves in a situation or go to places that no longer serve you, you might have a little guilt.

00:18:53Tired of the broken dreams.

00:18:58That's a big situation right there when your dreams get broken.

00:19:02That's one of the beautiful gifts that God has given us, the ability to dream and think big.

00:19:07And when we allow people to come in and infiltrate and mess up our mind and take up real estate and make us to start questioning and thinking differently about who we are, our dreams become broken.

00:19:21When we start to open up our mouths and share and say a little bit too much to the wrong people, and then they start to twist things around and make us feel differently about who we know who we are, that's when we get broken dreams.

00:19:35I can relate to the next thing, especially being the Sagittarian that I am tired of old routines.

00:19:45See, I don't like to be stagnant and I don't like to be stuck.

00:19:49And when I sense that I'm going through the same motions over and over and over again and not getting any different results, we already know what that definition is.

00:19:58But deep down inside, the internal dialogue wants something different, but I realize that I'm on this hamster wheel that I've been in the past.

00:20:07And sometimes, let's just keep it real since we said tired.

00:20:10When we're tired, when we're tired, most of the time we've done it to ourselves, and I've done it too, where I put myself in a situation or committed to something, whether it's a project, whether it's a relationship, whether it's a friendship, committed to it, knowing damn well that that's not what I really want.

00:20:30So, old routines, getting up, doing the same thing over and over and over again, that right there, that's enough to make me tired.

00:20:40Tired of the baby mamas going back and forth, arguing with people, disagreeing.

00:20:47Single parents out there, I don't know who I'm speaking to, I'm only speaking from experience.

00:20:52Tired of the ghetto drama, listen, I know we've come from some places, I know I've come from some places, I have family members who are still in certain situations, but that don't mean that I want to go back.

00:21:11Tired of the back and forth, one of my biggest breakthroughs in what I've learned, and I've had some shakeups just this year.

00:21:21Here I am, and I remember that I always remember to practice what I teach.

00:21:26Here I am teaching people, the minute that you go back and forth, round and round, arguing or debating with somebody about something that is outside of you, you've already lost the game.

00:21:37And as much as I've said that time and time again on this podcast, the minute that you go back and forth, round and round, arguing and debating with somebody else about something that's outside of you that has nothing to do with you,

00:21:50you've already lost the game.

00:21:52I'm so passionate about that because majority of my life, that's what I used to do.

00:21:56I used to pride myself on going back and forth and arguing with people.

00:22:00And as much as I talk about that here on the 411 podcast, your boy slipped up about a month ago.

00:22:06The old version of me showed us a little bit.

00:22:09There's a time and place for everything, but I definitely had to let them know the nice version of me that you see here today.

00:22:19Yes, he's here.

00:22:21I've arrived.

00:22:22But trust and believe that there's another version deep down inside of me that will protect the person that you think you might be trying to push over on.

00:22:33And I don't like to get like that, but trust and believe that it's for everything.

00:22:43Tired of in and out of the courts.

00:22:44Tired of the games and lies.

00:23:14I can spot a mile away because I've put myself into situations where the crazy games were played.

00:23:24I put myself into situations where lies were just readily accessible.

00:23:31I don't know who I'm speaking to.

00:23:32I'm just speaking from experience.

00:23:34Anybody out there.

00:23:36Tired of the phony alibis.

00:23:38People going over and beyond extra to just tell you that they weren't here.

00:23:46But in reality, they were really there.

00:23:49And they weren't doing this the way they were doing that.

00:24:00Tired of praying that it works.

00:24:02Now, see, sometimes God will take us out of a situation, start to remove us out of a situation.

00:24:10But as stiff-necked and obedient as some of us are, we run towards the thing that God is trying to rip away from us and separate us from.

00:24:24We wonder why it's not working.

00:24:26And then here we are sitting here praying and going back and forth, questioning and asking why.

00:24:30This one here is deep.

00:24:37I've been tired of going to church.

00:24:40Now, I got tired of going to church, too.

00:24:43And I got tired of going to church.

00:24:44I got tired of being around phony people in the church.

00:24:48I got tired of watching people talk about other people, pointing people out, laughing, carrying on in the church while the pastor is speaking.

00:24:58And the different clothes that this person has to wear and doing this and doing that.

00:25:03For what?

00:25:06Only to get out of church and go back to doing the same thing that you were doing right before you went in there.

00:25:14If not, even worse.

00:25:18Cussing and carrying on before you even get out the parking lot.

00:25:24I learned a lot about church life.

00:25:28And my awakening, biggest awakening, spiritual awakening, really came when I got up out of there.

00:25:39And I've learned so much about God.

00:25:42I've learned so much about the Bible.

00:25:44I've learned so much about how to conduct up as a human being by removing myself from that situation.

00:25:49So you got to be careful about the church, people that you connect yourself with, because are they helping you dig into the scriptures and learn and grow?

00:26:01People out there that are struggling, who is tired of paying bills?

00:26:15Because that's a whole nother situation.

00:26:20Tired of keeping it real.

00:26:23Tired of crying, smiling.

00:26:27Ariana Grande has a song called Fake Smile.

00:26:30I used to get so sick and tired of these little fake smiles and need to go and show up at parties and gatherings.

00:26:38Signing myself up for stuff that I know wasn't me.

00:26:42Oh, I was so tired.

00:26:46Tired of the haters.

00:26:49Tired of the players.

00:26:54This one here is real deep.

00:26:56Tired of faking it because you don't do it for me no more.

00:26:59Anybody out there in a relationship, in a situation, go to work for an employer that just don't do it for you no more, and then you're just so tired of it.

00:27:10It's okay to be tired.

00:27:14But just don't stay stuck there.

00:27:16Don't stay stuck and don't keep showing up every single day being tired.

00:27:20Don't keep doing it over and over and over again.

00:27:22Just use that as an excuse saying that I'm tired.

00:27:25I'm tired.

00:27:26I'm tired.

00:27:29The next question is, now that you understand and you know that you are tired, what are you going to do about it?

00:27:38Because I've learned that my vitality, thank you so much for joining.

00:27:42I appreciate you.

00:27:43What I've learned is that my vitality is so important to me.

00:27:47My energy is so important to me today that I'm just not willing to go ahead and give it up to the other side.

00:27:58Give it up.

00:27:59To the unknown.

00:28:02Just give it away.

00:28:04For free because it's more valuable than anything.

00:28:11This one here.

00:28:15Letting go, then holding on.

00:28:18Let's speak about Lauryn Hill.

00:28:21The song.

00:28:22Telling somebody to leave, but you mean stay.

00:28:33Telling somebody to leave and then you begging them to stay.

00:28:37Letting go, but then holding on.

00:28:39Telling somebody that it's over, but yeah, we can still kick it this way.

00:28:43That's a version of being double-minded.

00:28:48And the book of James is so powerful.

00:28:56Speaks a lot about being double-minded.

00:28:58And a double-minded man is unstable in all his ways.

00:29:03Listen, remember I said I have to remember to practice what I teach.

00:29:10And what I've learned about myself is that I will be...

00:29:16I have been the most unhappy when I do certain things such as what we're speaking about.

00:29:27Letting go, then holding on.

00:29:29Saying that I don't want this, but still showing up for that.

00:29:32Saying that these are my standards.

00:29:37And absolutely not.

00:29:39I'm not going to put myself in this situation.

00:29:41But then sometimes saying, well, you know, out of all of the four qualities, you probably met maybe about three.

00:29:50And I'm tired of waiting.

00:29:52So we could be a little bit lenient this time around until the next thing shows up.

00:29:58That's being double-minded.

00:30:00And I've learned that when I'm double-minded, I have been double-minded.

00:30:06That's being unstable.

00:30:10You inherited nothing.

00:30:11You will get nothing.

00:30:14And when I looked at my life and I said, wow, you signed up for this.

00:30:20You signed up for that.

00:30:21You knew you shouldn't have been linked up with this.

00:30:25You knew you shouldn't have been linked that.

00:30:27You know better.

00:30:28When you know better, you do better.

00:30:30Now, if you're better and you ain't doing better, you're being double-minded.

00:30:37One day you want to do it this way.

00:30:38Then you want to repent.

00:30:40And then you want to go back to the other side.

00:30:42And then you want to play that game.

00:30:44Then you want to think that you can do both and serve both.

00:30:47And play both sides and be lukewarm and be in the middle and, you know, double-minded, unstable ways.

00:30:55You want to inherit nothing.

00:30:57And I choose not to be double-minded today.

00:31:01For those of you out there that are just tired and you feel that your strength has gotten the best of you and you might be a little weak and you know you're weak internally, but then you have to go ahead and put on the show and put on that mask and be strong on the outside.

00:31:22Second Corinthians chapter 12, verse 10.

00:31:29When you can admit that, listen, I don't got this.

00:31:37I've had a weak moment.

00:31:38I'm feeling weak at this time.

00:31:41I understand the game.

00:31:44I understand the hustle.

00:31:46And right now, this is bigger than me.

00:31:48And I can't do this right now.

00:31:50So I'm going to back up.

00:31:51And I'm going to put it in your powerful hands.

00:31:55That's when you get your strength back.

00:31:59So anybody out there that's tired, recognize it.

00:32:03Understand it.

00:32:06Everything starts with self.

00:32:09Ask yourself, what role did I play in this?

00:32:12Is there something that I can do to fix the role of tired right here today?

00:32:17And when that thing is bigger and better than you, just remember 2 Corinthians chapter 12, verse 10.

00:32:28For when I am weak, then I am strong.

00:32:31If you stumbled, if you fell, if you made a mistake, trust and believe that the minute that you open your eyes, the next day, he's giving you another opportunity to do it again.

00:32:39And when you stay stuck in the past, playing those same broken records over and over and over and over again, that's not a good place to be.

00:32:55Take the record.

00:32:58Take it off.

00:32:59You could break it.

00:33:01Don't play it no more.

00:33:03That would be a good example of how to move past that.

00:33:07Put a new record on.

00:33:09It's a new day, a new opportunity to make it work.

00:33:14Stay in the present moment.

00:33:17That's the best place that you can be.

00:33:19You stay in the past, you're going to be depressed.

00:33:21You stay in the future too much in the future, you're going to bring on stress.

00:33:25But if you stay in the present moment and you pick the right song, you get the right one and the right motivation and the right inspiration and the right people and the right scenario and the right situation, you got something.

00:33:43Song of the day, Tired by Kelly Price.

00:33:46Off of her album, Kelly, released in 2011.

00:33:50All right, so yeah, like I said, the key word to Night Deep, Tired.

00:34:00The real me is tired.

00:34:01I will say that the real me has been tired sometimes, but I also know why I'm tired today.

00:34:10Because see, in the past, I was tired, but I was unaware of what I was doing.

00:34:20I was unaware of what was happening to my environment.

00:34:23I was unaware of the situations that I was attached to.

00:34:27Now, when the real me gets tired, I can look at what I'm building, I can look at the end goal, and then I can make better decisions that way.

00:34:42One thing about being tired is when you are tired, you have to be very, very, very careful.

00:34:50There's one thing when you're tired because you're working on your goals, you're working on being a better version of yourself, you're raising your vibration to higher levels.

00:35:00And yes, that does require work because remember, faith without works is dead.

00:35:04And so, yes, we have to work.

00:35:06We are commanded to work.

00:35:09So, yes, there might be a little fatigue here and there, but as long as you are doing the right thing and you are coming from a place of love, when you get tired like that, there's a time for reflection and there's a time to rest up.

00:35:26And that's needed so that you can go back and make better decisions.

00:35:30Because if you stay tired, we can make poor decisions.

00:35:36Now, it's one thing if you're bringing it on because of the goals and the dreams and the ambition that you have over your life and your circumstance, your kingdom.

00:35:44But there's another thing when you're tired because you put on too much and you've attached to other people's stuff, other people's dramas, other people's karma.

00:35:55That's another situation.

00:35:57So, we're going to get into tonight's scenario here and we're going to help Mr. Dante out, 37, from Columbia, South Carolina.

00:36:06Shout out to anybody out there from the Carolinas.

00:36:11Let's get on into this tonight here.

00:36:14Dante says, Dear Laren, I am 37 and I live in Columbia, South Carolina.

00:36:22I've always been the dependable one, the one people call when they're in trouble, when bills need to be covered, when someone needs a ride to the airport, or they just need to vent.

00:36:37I used to wear that as a badge of honor and now it feels more like a chain.

00:36:42I don't think anyone really sees me.

00:36:45They see what I can do for them.

00:36:48I've gotten so good at everything's okay that I don't even think I know how to say I'm not okay, even if I wanted to.

00:36:57Lately, I've been asking myself, who's really there for me?

00:37:02Who's checking for me?

00:37:04Who even knows the real me?

00:37:06The tired me?

00:37:07The struggling me?

00:37:08The one who wants to lay it all down for once?

00:37:11My question is, how do I learn to live?

00:37:15Let go of being everything for everyone before I can completely lose myself.

00:37:21I'm going to take it to the top.

00:37:23Dante, 37, lives in Columbia, South Carolina.

00:37:27I've always been the dependable one.

00:37:30The one people call when they're in trouble, when bills need to be covered, when someone needs a ride to the airport, or just needs to vent.

00:37:39I used to wear that like a badge of honor.

00:37:41Now it feels more like a chain.

00:37:43I don't think anyone really sees me.

00:37:46They see what I can do for them.

00:37:49I've gotten so good at pretending everything's okay that I don't even think I know how to say I'm not okay, even if I wanted to.

00:37:57Lately, I've been asking myself, who's really there for me?

00:38:01Who checks on me?

00:38:03Who even knows the real me?

00:38:06The tired me?

00:38:07The tired me?

00:38:07The struggling me?

00:38:08The one who wants to lay it all down all for once?

00:38:12Lately, I've been asking myself.

00:38:15Now I just read that part all over again, but I'll do it again.

00:38:19Lately, I've been asking myself, who's really there for me?

00:38:23Who checks on me?

00:38:24Who even knows the real me?

00:38:27The tired me?

00:38:28The struggling me?

00:38:30The one who wants to lay it all down for once?

00:38:32My question is, how do I learn to let go of being everything for everyone before I completely lose myself?

00:38:40Now, I am going to start at the bottom, but then I'm going to take it back to the top.

00:38:48How do I learn to let go of being everything for everyone before I completely lose myself?

00:38:58Unfortunately, and again, this is just my opinion.

00:39:01I am not here to give anybody any advice.

00:39:05Everyone needs to do their own due diligence and do their own research.

00:39:08But from what I see here, you've already lost yourself.

00:39:16When people do not know who they are, certain people, it's a certain type of person, can spot someone who does not know who they are a mile away.

00:39:30And they're able to pick that person up, and they're able to shape them, they're able to mold them, they're able to turn them into Play-Doh or some sort of silly putty and make them what they want them to be.

00:39:40Now, when you start to wake up, like Dante is waking up now, it doesn't feel so good.

00:39:48Now we want to have an attitude.

00:39:49Now we want to feel a certain way.

00:39:51Now depression starts to sink in.

00:39:54That is because you do not know who you are.

00:39:57So you said, before I completely lose myself, you already have.

00:40:00I know it sounds harsh, but I'm keeping it real.

00:40:08I don't know who I'm speaking to.

00:40:09I'm only speaking from experiences.

00:40:11I've been there before.

00:40:15Today, absolutely not.

00:40:17When you don't know who you are, people will pick you up, they will shape you, and they will mold you, and they will turn you into the person who they want you to be.

00:40:33And now he says, how do I learn to let go of being everything for everyone?

00:40:37You can't be everything for everyone.

00:40:40The first thing you need to do is be everything for yourself.

00:40:43Because if you can't be everything for yourself, you can't be anything for anybody else.

00:40:50It looks like your vitality is in the net, just from on the outside looking in.

00:40:57Your energy levels are being depleted because you are trying to be everything for everyone else instead of being it for yourself.

00:41:07How do you get the title of always being the dependable one?

00:41:12How does that happen?

00:41:15Now, some of us, we get this title put on us because of our environment, what we grew up in, what our parents put us through.

00:41:26Unfortunately, some of us have to be the dependable one because in our family dynamic, nobody else is.

00:41:32And it's a shame when a child is labeled as a dependable one, almost like forced to be a responsible adult because sometimes the adults are not responsible.

00:41:46And the adults won't make sure that things are done.

00:41:48So then God has put something in us to grow up faster than what we're really meant to do so that we can be the dependable one.

00:41:58And then everybody sees, oh, this person is smart.

00:42:01This person, you know, is making sure that things are done.

00:42:05We'll just go ahead and put everything on them because we know that they're going to get it done.

00:42:08There's always one person in the family on that role as being the dependable one.

00:42:17The one people call when they're in trouble.

00:42:21Now you got to take on everybody else's stuff.

00:42:24This one here, I don't understand this one when bills need to be covered.

00:42:33Absolutely not.

00:42:35Now, even when I was in debt, you're not going to be able to call me and think that I'm going to cover your bill.

00:42:44Now, being wrapped up and trapped up in a relationship, that's a little bit different.

00:42:49Yes, I fell victim to paying bills for my significant others because they didn't do what they were supposed to do.

00:42:58Unfortunately, that's a lesson that I had to learn, but I'm so thankful that I learned it because that type of situation will no longer go on here today.

00:43:07This is a 50-50 type situation.

00:43:10We're going to have to meet each other right in the middle.

00:43:12So, um, I don't understand that part.

00:43:20Actually, let me back that up and stop saying I don't understand because I do understand because, listen, I was there before.

00:43:28But I'm not sure what this means, how big of a circle of these bills you were covering, but that's a recipe for disaster.

00:43:42When someone needs a ride to the airport, when somebody needs to vent.

00:43:49Now, there's a financial aspect of it.

00:43:52There's a whole aspect of it.

00:43:54Ripping and running, going here, there, everywhere, doing backflips, making sure that people are getting to places that they need to get to.

00:44:03And then now we speak about the spiritual and now we speak about the mental.

00:44:06When people need to vent, your spiritual being can take a hit.

00:44:13Your mental health can take a hit.

00:44:17When people think that they can call or show up at your front door and bring their drama to you.

00:44:24I know lots of people who are readily accessible to the people that they've allowed to just tap in whenever they want to.

00:44:36And for me, I know this ain't about me, but listen, I know I've been a couple years ago, five, six years ago, this would have been me right here.

00:44:47But you just can't show up at my doorstep whenever you want to.

00:44:51And it's not going to be all roses if you decide to think that you can do that.

00:44:55And you can't just call my phone and start to unleash your BS on me and think that I'm just going to be answering that all the time.

00:45:05Now, if there's somebody who obviously has a 9-1-1 situation and this is genuine and this is not an everyday thing and someone's going through something, of course, let's be open-hearted and let's do the right thing and help people as needed.

00:45:22But anybody out there that has a friend that just calls them every single day and has nothing good to say and there's always some drama, there's always some issues, nothing ever goes right, that's the situation I'm speaking about.

00:45:33Not somebody who's calling you with a 9-1-1 situation and they never have a problem or it's a once in a blue moon and this is a real situation and they need a friend to rock with them.

00:45:45I got you.

00:45:46I'm talking about the person, and I know that there's people out there where you think that as soon as you wake up, first thing I can call with some BS.

00:45:55I have family members that thought that they were going to do me.

00:45:57Absolutely not.

00:45:58You are not calling me at 7 o'clock in the morning, unleashing your BS because you don't know how to get in your spiritual realm and understand and know who you are.

00:46:07No, not happening.

00:46:10So it seems a lot of this is going on.

00:46:12Now, you used to wear it as a badge of honor, call that as people-pleasing because it sounds like you were a people-pleaser, might still be a people-pleaser.

00:46:24And when people gave you, I guess, if you feel that they're showing you love or acknowledge that you are just a powerful person and you can call Dante.

00:46:40Call Dante.

00:46:41He can help you.

00:46:42He can help you wherever you need to go to.

00:46:44Call Dante.

00:46:44Hey, because of that, you wore that as a badge of honor, but now it feels like a chain because you were trapped up and wrapped up and you're a slave to your own.

00:47:01And now you say you don't think anyone really sees you.

00:47:06They see what I can do for them.

00:47:08Now, you said that nobody else has to say that.

00:47:12You said it right there.

00:47:13You said enough right there.

00:47:14I don't think anyone really sees me.

00:47:17They see what I can do for them.

00:47:20And this part is really deep.

00:47:22You've gotten so good at pretending everything's okay that I don't even think I know how to say I'm not okay.

00:47:30And guess what?

00:47:31After all that you've done, even if you do say that your things are not okay,

00:47:35probably going to go in and one ear and out the other.

00:47:40And then now that's where the resentment comes in.

00:47:42And that's where, and I could just think back about myself.

00:47:46When there was a time when I wasn't okay.

00:47:49After all of the stuff that I did for everybody else.

00:47:53The minute that Laren said, I'm not okay.

00:47:56This is not good.

00:47:57I'm starting to really be tired.

00:47:59I'm not feeling this.

00:48:01The situation is no good.

00:48:03I don't like how I'm feeling.

00:48:05Please.

00:48:09And because of that, this is not a recommendation.

00:48:14I repeat, this is not a recommendation.

00:48:17How you should conduct yourself as a human being.

00:48:20But after that, once I did open up and said I'm not okay.

00:48:25And people decided to do the 180.

00:48:27And turn their back on me.

00:48:29Oh, now the gloves come off.

00:48:33Now we're ready to rock.

00:48:35We're ready to rumble.

00:48:36We're ready to get this thing started.

00:48:38We're ready to turn all the way up.

00:48:40And that is just not the right thing to do.

00:48:42My recommendation is, if you want to see who really is around you and who's really down for you, go ahead.

00:48:54Tell them that it's not okay.

00:48:55Tell them how you're feeling.

00:48:56And I want you to keep track and keep count of all of the people that are on their back.

00:49:03Because some of them will do it.

00:49:04And unfortunately, the most disturbing and disrespectful type of thing is that sometimes it's the people that are so close to you.

00:49:13The people that tell you that they love you every single day.

00:49:16That they are down for you every single day.

00:49:20That if you need me, I'm here.

00:49:22Sometimes it's family members.

00:49:25That should be enough to help you get your lesson learned.

00:49:33And it could be a breakthrough moment for you to be able to turn this thing around.

00:49:38And make sure that it doesn't happen again.

00:49:43If you have to question who's really there for you, the chances are that you already know the answer.

00:49:50Probably nobody.

00:49:53You want to know who's checking for you.

00:49:56Who's going to check on you.

00:49:57The minute that you need something, just ask and see.

00:50:00I remember one time I was stranded in Philly.

00:50:05I went to help somebody else out.

00:50:08And our transportation issue ended up backfiring.

00:50:13And I never like calling people.

00:50:16Because I had that happen to me when I was younger.

00:50:19When I reached out and say, turned around and gave me their butt to kiss.

00:50:24Did the 180.

00:50:25So deep down inside I said, Laren, you will not get to a situation where you have to open up your mouth and ask anybody for anything.

00:50:32You're not going to do it.

00:50:33That's what I told myself growing up.

00:50:35Because when I asked people for money, you know, and it started from a child.

00:50:41Like this whole thing with money happened from a childhood.

00:50:44Like there were certain things that I wanted to get as a child and even a teenager.

00:50:50And I wasn't able to get it.

00:50:52Like I asked for money, whether it be for my mom, whether it be for my dad, whether it be for my grandparents.

00:50:58I asked for money.

00:51:00And whatever the case may be, that has nothing to do with me why I couldn't get it.

00:51:04But it made me feel a certain way.

00:51:05And I had this internal dialogue with myself that said, when you get to a certain point and you're able to make money,

00:51:11you're going to be able to get anything you want.

00:51:14And you ain't going to ask nobody for nothing.

00:51:16So that was the internal dialogue that plays with me.

00:51:22I don't want to ask anybody for anything.

00:51:25I was stranded in Philly.

00:51:27And I had to ask who I thought was my friend at the moment.

00:51:34And I'm going to just leave it at that.

00:51:35They didn't come to my rescue, but let me know.

00:51:39Okay, remember when we said we're not going to ask anybody for anything?

00:51:41Don't put yourself in a situation where you would need to ask anybody.

00:51:46When I took that trip to Philly, I didn't think things through all the way and didn't think how I was going to get back.

00:51:54And yeah.

00:51:57So now we think a little bit differently.

00:51:58And when you know better, you do better.

00:52:05That's why I say, if you want to know, just ask.

00:52:07Just don't be like what I was.

00:52:15Turning into the Tasmanian devil and turning up, giving people an attitude.

00:52:22When people show you who they are, believe them the first time and be okay with it.

00:52:26Be cool with it.

00:52:29Accept people and love people for exactly who they are and put them in a proper place where they need to be.

00:52:35And that's one of the biggest things that I've learned.

00:52:38Accept people and love people for exactly who they are.

00:52:41And once you learn that, keep them where they need to be.

00:52:47Like I said before, it sounds like you've already lost bits and pieces of yourself.

00:52:53And you said before, I completely lose myself.

00:52:56If you're still signing up for that, I feel that you don't know who you are.

00:53:03And there's a lot.

00:53:09We can take it from the spiritual realm.

00:53:12Because you're signing up for some things that you don't want to.

00:53:17And you're going along with the plan and you don't want to.

00:53:20And when you know who you are, other people will know who you are.

00:53:25And they won't ask you.

00:53:27They won't test you.

00:53:28They won't try you.

00:53:30And even if they do, you will be equipped with so much ammunition that you'll be able to shut that thing down immediately.

00:53:39The old version of myself, people would test me and they would try me.

00:53:43And they would try to push my buttons and take advantage.

00:53:46Today, they don't even try because they already know.

00:53:52And then the people that don't know, I let them know very quickly that we're not having this.

00:53:59From the mental aspect, I can only think that this stems from childhood situations where you felt that you had to be the dependable one.

00:54:08And you felt that you had to, listen, when there's lack of love and you don't get the things that you need as a child, you will end up growing up and showing up and being some sort of people pleaser.

00:54:20Where you got to make people happy because you didn't get the happiness and the joy that you got that you needed as a child.

00:54:26So there's some mental work that I feel might need to be done as well.

00:54:35And when we're tired because we've ran ourselves down and we've done so much.

00:54:44Your body can take a toll.

00:54:47It can start to take a toll on your body.

00:54:48So from the physical aspect, I don't know, when everybody needs something, maybe Dante will just disturb his peace.

00:55:01Wake up out of your bed to go do things for other people and then you can become tired and worn down.

00:55:08And the financial aspect, paying bills.

00:55:12So we got a lot going on here.

00:55:13Yes, this is Mental Monday.

00:55:15But some of these things are all interconnected, just as we are interconnected as human beings.

00:55:24So things can cross.

00:55:29When it comes from the mental aspect, since we're focusing on the mental aspect of this here.

00:55:39It's going to take, it's going to take from what I see here.

00:55:45That's, that's a big, big struggle here.

00:55:50And, uh, that's going to be some heavy weight to carry.

00:55:54But the beauty behind it is, is that it'll be done.

00:56:05When you get to a point in your life where you've accepted all of the stuff that you've accepted.

00:56:12And what you thought somebody said, making up these scenarios and I have to do this because I don't want people to think this way about me.

00:56:22And I don't want them to think that way about me.

00:56:25And what if, and what if that.

00:56:28When you get past all of that.

00:56:29You become very powerful.

00:56:33When you could care less what somebody else thinks.

00:56:35When you start to tell people no, and that's exactly what that means.

00:56:38And no.

00:56:43And you could be okay with it.

00:56:45And it don't change you one way or the other.

00:56:47You become very powerful.

00:56:48If you are the person that starts to hem and haw and go back and forth and, oh, well, I don't want them to get upset.

00:56:55And is it disturbing your peace?

00:56:57If the answer is yes.

00:56:59Then guess what?

00:57:00I don't care.

00:57:02If it's disturbing my peace and I can't be.

00:57:06The true authentic version of myself.

00:57:09Just to make you happy.

00:57:10The answer is absolutely not.

00:57:15Now I've done that before.

00:57:18Disturb my peace just to turn around and make somebody else happy.

00:57:21Sign up for this.

00:57:23When I really wanted that.

00:57:26Went here.

00:57:28When I know I really wanted to go there.

00:57:34The mental aspect took a trip.

00:57:37But the mental aspect was played.

00:57:45I saw something today.

00:57:48Where somebody said.

00:57:50It is not selfish.

00:57:54And it's not.

00:57:55It truly isn't.

00:57:57And I thought for some reasons that it was.

00:57:59Because of how.

00:58:01Things get.

00:58:02In the matrix.

00:58:05It is not.

00:58:06Selfish.

00:58:07To take care of yourself.

00:58:09And yourself first.

00:58:11Because if you don't love yourself first.

00:58:13And you don't do the things that.

00:58:15Recharge you.

00:58:17Make you happy.

00:58:18Make you feel good.

00:58:21Build your spiritual.

00:58:23Being up.

00:58:25Keep your mental health in check.

00:58:30Keep your vitality levels.

00:58:32On point.

00:58:33Keep you good.

00:58:35Keep you good from financial aspect.

00:58:38If you don't do the things that keep all of these things up and running into the levels that are acceptable.

00:58:45How can you help somebody else?

00:58:47And how can you show up the right way?

00:58:49I witnessed somebody almost every single day show up mean mugging and being disrespectful.

00:58:57And I could say.

00:58:59The only thing I could do is just pray for them.

00:59:01And say.

00:59:02You know what?

00:59:02I remember that used to be me.

00:59:03Projecting your BS off on somebody else because you didn't take time to build yourself up spiritually.

00:59:13To build yourself up mentally.

00:59:15To be able to handle the nonsense that we all got to deal with in this world.

00:59:19But now because you didn't do your job.

00:59:24You think that it's okay to project and give attitudes and throw shade and just be disrespectful to other people.

00:59:33That's the most disturbing thing that I have to deal with on a day-to-day basis when I see people like that because that used to be me.

00:59:39And I know it's like God, I understand that I get to see it, to witness it, and sometimes I see myself in other people.

00:59:55It ain't easy.

01:00:03If you want to chime in on tonight's scenario, tonight's assignment, please feel free.

01:00:09You can text me at 609-200-1098.

01:00:13I never claim to be a genius, but I live long enough to see this.

01:00:17And you might see something that I didn't see.

01:00:21So if there's something in tonight's scenario, if there's something in tonight's assignment that you saw that, you know,

01:00:28Hey, Laren, have you thought about it coming from this aspect?

01:00:33I've witnessed this.

01:00:34I've experienced that.

01:00:37We all grow together and we all learn together.

01:00:39Please feel free.

01:00:42Reach out.

01:00:42Let me know.

01:00:44609-200-1098.

01:00:46You can also DM me on any of my social media platforms.

01:00:50Facebook, Instagram, X, TikTok, DLive.

01:00:59Let me know what you feel about tonight's scenario.

01:01:03Now we're going to go ahead and get into burning questions.

01:01:08So this is the segment where I'm going to ask some questions here.

01:01:13And these questions, you can take it from the rhetorical aspect.

01:01:21You can also journal, reflect, and ask yourself these questions.

01:01:29Because one thing that I've learned, instead of questioning others, sounds we need to question ourselves.

01:01:40I was so big on questioning others that sometimes I didn't take that time to question myself.

01:01:52Burning questions.

01:01:54Are you tired from life's demands?

01:01:58Are you tired from hiding your truth?

01:02:01We're about to get deep now.

01:02:04Are you tired from life's demands?

01:02:07Or tired from hiding your truth?

01:02:10Now, I don't know if you can sense it, but I sort of get a little stumbled up with the last part.

01:02:21We're tired from hiding your truth.

01:02:23And the reason why I get stumbled up from hiding your truth is because I don't like that saying.

01:02:28Because it isn't your truth.

01:02:30See, I was tricked before with thinking that it's your truth.

01:02:36I've heard, oh, go ahead and tell your truth.

01:02:40But it's not your truth.

01:02:41It's the truth.

01:02:45So are you tired from life's demands?

01:02:48Or are you tired from hiding the truth?

01:02:51That's the way it should be worded.

01:02:54But I wanted to put that in there so I can have a conversation about when we hear people say,

01:02:59go ahead and speak your truth.

01:03:00I don't want to speak your truth.

01:03:05I want to hear the truth.

01:03:07And we all know where the truth comes from.

01:03:11And see, that's the problem.

01:03:14And again, I don't know who I'm speaking to.

01:03:15I'm only speaking from experience.

01:03:17But I tried to tell my truth.

01:03:20And I tried to live in my truth instead of living in the truth.

01:03:24And then that's where all of the drama and some of the stuff that Dante was going through,

01:03:31I went through as well.

01:03:32Because I'm sitting here trying to live my truth instead of just living the truth.

01:03:39And life's demands, listen, this is life.

01:03:44And there's going to be all types of stuff that go on.

01:03:46But that don't mean that we have to sign up for it.

01:03:49That don't mean that we have to let life happen to us that way.

01:03:53Life is going to happen anyway.

01:03:54But listen, I don't need your life mixing and intermingling with my life.

01:04:02Because listen, I have enough on my plate to be focusing on my life.

01:04:07I can't have yours.

01:04:10So be careful.

01:04:12Life's demands.

01:04:14Is it your demand?

01:04:15Is it what your life is demanding?

01:04:20What it takes to make your world go round?

01:04:25There's some demands that are going to be there.

01:04:27There's some things you got to do.

01:04:28Yes, you got to get up.

01:04:29You got to go to work.

01:04:30You got to do this.

01:04:31You got to hustle.

01:04:31You got to grind.

01:04:32You got to make it work.

01:04:34Those are your life's demands.

01:04:36But take a look in your life.

01:04:39Ask yourself the question.

01:04:40Do I need this or do I want this?

01:04:45Because if I need it, that's one thing.

01:04:49But all of these wants here, because I want this and I want that, it's going to cause a lot more pressure.

01:04:57And there's going to be more demand for my time, for my energy, for my money, for my resources.

01:05:03So listen, we write our own stories.

01:05:09So whatever you got going on in your world, that's because you wrote it.

01:05:13And if you don't like it, then that's time for us to go ahead and write a new story.

01:05:18Start a new chapter.

01:05:21We can start to write some things out.

01:05:23We can start to delete some things from our story.

01:05:25And we can start to write things that make sense.

01:05:27I don't know who I'm speaking to.

01:05:31I'm only speaking from experience.

01:05:32But that's exactly what I had to do.

01:05:34Because my life was very demanding.

01:05:36The old version of me, that life was very demanding.

01:05:45Today, it might be demanding from a different aspect.

01:05:48But that's because I wrote my own story.

01:05:50And I write what I want to happen, what I want to show up here today.

01:05:54Not what somebody else wants.

01:05:56Not because someone else projected and put their other stuff and their burdens on me.

01:06:02And I just signed up for it and said, here we go.

01:06:06So the question is, are you tired from life's demands?

01:06:11Your life demands?

01:06:14And if that's, hey, listen.

01:06:16This is life.

01:06:17And if that's real, I get it.

01:06:18But now what I submit to you is, dig a little bit deeper.

01:06:23Let's dig and get down to the root cause and ask ourselves, how did we get here?

01:06:31Why are we here?

01:06:33Do we like it?

01:06:34What can we do to fix it?

01:06:37What do we need to write into the story?

01:06:40And what do we need to write out?

01:06:42And when you don't do that, when you don't reflect.

01:06:53You don't take that time to reminisce.

01:06:59You're sitting from the truth.

01:07:00Not your truth.

01:07:06You're hiding from the truth and you're not facing the truth.

01:07:14Burning questions.

01:07:15Are you tired from life's demands?

01:07:17Or tired from hiding your truth?

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01:11:00financial.

01:11:01This has been a journey,

01:11:03and I had no idea

01:11:04that this is exactly

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01:11:06But I started

01:11:07on one aspect,

01:11:09and here we are

01:11:10here today.

01:11:12I am what my purpose is.

01:11:13I understand what

01:11:14my goals are.

01:11:15I understand where I want to

01:11:16navigate

01:11:18in this world.

01:11:20And

01:11:20I know it's different,

01:11:22especially for me to do this

01:11:24is different

01:11:25compared to what I used to do.

01:11:26The show has taken a turn,

01:11:28and it's a different aspect as well.

01:11:29And I'm so grateful

01:11:31and thankful

01:11:32for the people

01:11:33who are embracing it

01:11:35and people who are still here

01:11:36and the new people

01:11:37that are coming in the comments.

01:11:38I want to give a very special

01:11:39thank you to Miss Sophie Davis

01:11:41all the way from the UK.

01:11:43Thank you so much

01:11:43for your encouraging words.

01:11:46Amazing.

01:11:47And

01:11:48it's bigger

01:11:51and better than me.

01:11:52it has nothing to

01:11:54do with me,

01:11:55but it has

01:11:56everything to do with

01:11:57giving

01:11:58to the community,

01:12:00everything to do with

01:12:02understanding

01:12:04and knowing

01:12:05what my purpose is

01:12:06and just going.

01:12:07And

01:12:07again,

01:12:08I want to say thank you.

01:12:09Thank you so much to

01:12:10everyone out there

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01:12:14But that's where we're at here.

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01:12:37I know Drew Hills

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01:12:55I know

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01:13:56for everybody

01:13:57I have been down

01:13:58this path

01:13:59where I have been

01:14:00so

01:14:00invested

01:14:02and that is a great word

01:14:04so invested

01:14:05into somebody else's

01:14:07path in life

01:14:07more than they were

01:14:08and it just didn't work

01:14:10because I wanted them

01:14:12to win so much

01:14:13but they didn't

01:14:14want themselves

01:14:14so I vowed

01:14:16to tell myself

01:14:17that

01:14:17I will no longer

01:14:19try to

01:14:20I want to get

01:14:23the right words

01:14:24I know

01:14:27I will no longer

01:14:28put myself

01:14:29in a situation

01:14:30where

01:14:30I want the person

01:14:33to win more

01:14:33than they do

01:14:34because

01:14:36as I'm pushing

01:14:37as I'm fighting

01:14:38and we're trying

01:14:39to make this thing

01:14:40work

01:14:41and the other person

01:14:42is

01:14:42not holding up

01:14:44their half

01:14:44unless

01:14:47we all get weak

01:14:48sometimes we make

01:14:48mistakes

01:14:49but

01:14:49you gotta

01:14:53want to do this

01:14:53I can give you

01:14:55the tools

01:14:56I can give you

01:14:57the resources

01:14:58I can show you

01:15:00the path

01:15:01but you're gonna

01:15:02have to walk

01:15:03through that door

01:15:03yourself

01:15:04you're gonna

01:15:07want this

01:15:07this is for the

01:15:09person who

01:15:09wants to get

01:15:11out of debt

01:15:11this is for the

01:15:12person who wants

01:15:13to do the right

01:15:13thing

01:15:14this is for the

01:15:14person who wants

01:15:15to show up

01:15:16spiritually

01:15:17mainly on point

01:15:18this is for the

01:15:19person who wants

01:15:20to get that

01:15:21great level of

01:15:22discernment

01:15:22so that they

01:15:23will not

01:15:24go back

01:15:24into the

01:15:25environment

01:15:25and make

01:15:25the same

01:15:26mistake

01:15:26over and

01:15:27over and

01:15:27over again

01:15:27person who

01:15:31has bumped

01:15:32their head

01:15:32several times

01:15:34and they

01:15:34want to do

01:15:35something

01:15:35different

01:15:36tired

01:15:39just like

01:15:39Kelly Price

01:15:40tired of

01:15:41doing the

01:15:41same thing

01:15:42over and

01:15:42over again

01:15:43sick and

01:15:43tired of

01:15:44being sick

01:15:44and tired

01:15:44but they

01:15:45want

01:15:45something

01:15:46different

01:15:47I've

01:15:48always wanted

01:15:49something

01:15:49different

01:15:50because I

01:15:50knew that

01:15:51I was

01:15:51different

01:15:52every time

01:15:53I showed

01:15:53up into

01:15:53rooms

01:15:54even today

01:15:54still today

01:15:55even when I

01:15:56show up into

01:15:57certain environments

01:15:58when I know I

01:15:59don't fit in

01:15:59it's okay

01:16:00because

01:16:01I'm different

01:16:03and I'm

01:16:04striving for

01:16:05something

01:16:06different

01:16:06and there's a

01:16:07select group

01:16:08of folks

01:16:09there's a

01:16:10certain class

01:16:11of folks

01:16:11there's a

01:16:12certain

01:16:12section

01:16:14or caliber

01:16:15of folks

01:16:15that this

01:16:16is for

01:16:17and there's

01:16:17others

01:16:18that it's

01:16:18not

01:16:19and the

01:16:19ones

01:16:20that frown

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01:16:22the ones

01:16:22that click

01:16:23off

01:16:23the ones

01:16:24that don't

01:16:25want

01:16:25I'm okay

01:16:27with that

01:16:27because this

01:16:29is only for

01:16:30the select

01:16:31few

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01:17:21and on

01:17:22that note

01:17:22I am going

01:17:23to get

01:17:24some much

01:17:24needed rest

01:17:25so that I

01:17:26don't show

01:17:26up tired

01:17:27because

01:17:27when we

01:17:28show up

01:17:29tired

01:17:29we're not

01:17:30thinking

01:17:31clearly

01:17:31we can

01:17:32make some

01:17:33poor

01:17:33decisions

01:17:33and rest

01:17:35is important

01:17:36because

01:17:37we can

01:17:38make some

01:17:39poor

01:17:39decisions

01:17:40financially

01:17:41that could

01:17:43affect us

01:17:43when we

01:17:44do not

01:17:45have a

01:17:45good night's

01:17:46sleep

01:17:46and we

01:17:46don't

01:17:47stay

01:17:49focused

01:17:49so

01:17:51remember

01:17:52that

01:17:52stay

01:17:55healthy

01:17:55stay

01:17:57safe

01:17:57out there

01:17:57and on

01:17:59that note

01:18:00I will

01:18:01see you

01:18:01when I

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