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02:30Welcome, welcome, welcome. Welcome on in. Welcome to the 411 podcast. It is Sunday,

02:58and this is Spiritual Sunday. I want to welcome you all in. I want to say thank you so much to

03:04everyone out there who is supporting. If you could please like, comment, subscribe, share,

03:11tag a friend, let them know exactly what we have going on here inside the 411 podcast.

03:17But before we go ahead and get started, I want to go ahead and give a very special thank you

03:22to my executive producer. I want to thank God for giving me another opportunity to come out here

03:28and give you the 411 podcast. We got a great show tonight,

03:33track 19, tithe, tolls and trust, rebuilding spiritual boundaries in the name of peace.

03:42So let's get right on into this here. I want to give a recap from our last episode.

03:49So for those of you who missed last episode, please go ahead and watch that replay.

03:56But we were helping out Roland from Newark, New Jersey. And Roland is a single father who's raised

04:03two kids, and he seems to be going through some financial issues, some car repairs and

04:10bills are piling up. He owes some back taxes and he got a lot going on. And from what I got of it,

04:19he's in his fifties and he's asking the question, if he can still do this, is it too late for him to

04:26turn this thing around? So if you've been around here for a minute, you know, that it's never too

04:31late to make a change. The fact that you're actually here listening today, that's a good

04:36sign that, you know, you are moving in the right direction. So if you can look up and you can get

04:41up. So we helped rolling out. And if you want to find out exactly the path, the journey that we

04:49laid out for him, you know, we can only give, you know, life experiences. And like, I don't know who

04:56I'm speaking to. I'm just speaking from experience. So I'm not here to give any advice. I want to make

05:02sure that that's very clear. So this is just basically what I would do if I was in Roland's

05:07shoes. So go ahead and watch that replay and want to give a very special thank you to my special

05:12guest, Ms. SOS for joining me and helping me out during that session. And now we can go ahead and

05:18get right on into the song of the day. We're going to talk about Ms. Fantasia. Her song, I'm doing me

05:28was released in 2010 off of her album, back to me. So the question that I have for each and every one

05:36of you out there is have you ever given so much of yourself to the fact that you feel that you are

05:42not getting a good return on your investment? She also has a song called when to lose. And

05:51sometimes you got to lose to win again. It's almost like the things that we go through in life

05:59that maybe we need to go through some of these so we can experience some storms, so we can

06:05experience some setbacks, so we can experience some pain, so we can experience some drama in

06:11order for us to remember. Jennifer Hudson, she has a song called I remember me. Sometimes we have to

06:19go back so we can remember ourselves. So that once we come across some of these same scenarios,

06:27once we come across some of this familiarity, we realize that no, we won't do that again.

06:38So once we remember, we realize that we're not going to tolerate this anymore.

06:44I've been there and done that before. I no longer want to go there anymore.

06:51And for those of you who have been struggling to make ends meet,

06:56just to make sure that everyone is okay around you, the job is okay. My kids are okay. My family

07:03is okay. People at the church, they're okay. People at the club are okay. How are my uncles,

07:09cousins, aunties, everybody else? Is everybody else okay? Sometimes it is okay to just say,

07:17I'm doing me this time around. Have you done everything that you could for everybody around

07:23you? And sometimes you look at yourself and you shortchange yourself a little bit.

07:29You do whatever you need to do to make sure that everybody is okay. But sometimes when we live like

07:36that, the main person that we need to take care of and the main person that we need to make sure

07:41is okay, we don't. And that person is yourself. So after you've done all that you can do,

07:49after you done pleased everybody that you can possibly please, and guess what? Sometimes you're

07:53not even going to please all of them. Somebody is always going to have something to say. Somebody's

07:58always going to show up and say that you didn't do what you were supposed to do when you could

08:01have and you didn't. So as we say, I'm doing me this time around, I don't need your drama right

08:11now. I'd rather be by myself because I won't let your drama, I won't let your trauma, I won't let

08:16any of negativity, I won't let any more of your depleting situations and scenarios take me down.

08:23If you don't take care of you, then who else will? Song of the day, I'm doing me by Fantasia,

08:31released in 2010 off of the back to me album. Sometimes it's just okay to say I'm doing me.

08:37I've done everything that I could possibly do for everybody else around me, but today

08:42I just can't do it. Spiritual Sunday, thank you so much for joining in. If you are out there,

08:49please like, comment, share, subscribe, tag a friend, invite them and let them know exactly

08:55what we got going on here on the 4-in-1 podcast. Tonight, tithe, tolls, and trust,

09:05rebuilding spiritual boundaries in the name of peace. So we're going to help out

09:10Ms. Janet. She is from Montgomery, Alabama. Have that roll off properly. Montgomery, Alabama.

09:20Ms. Jasmine B, she's a choir director and a substitute teacher.

09:25Janice is spiritually exhausted after years of caregiving, divorce, and financial obligation

09:32to her church and family. She wants to reconnect with God from a space of peace,

09:39not guilt, and learn how to set boundaries without feeling selfish.

09:46Janice is spiritually exhausted after years of caregiving, divorce, and financial obligation

09:54to her church and family. She wants to reconnect with God from a space of peace,

10:01not guilt, and learn how to set boundaries without feeling selfish. So as we help Ms.

10:10Janet tonight, I want everyone to think about this. All so long, people have twisted it up

10:19and made it seem as if when you start to love yourself, when you start to think about yourself,

10:25that that could be some form of being selfish. Now, there's one thing when you are very prideful,

10:34when you're very boastful, when you're sort of do things in a way of being conceited,

10:41not really looking out for others, just all about self, self, self.

10:46Now, I do say everything starts with self because it does. You're not going to be able to get what

10:51you need to get from looking towards somebody else. You have to look inward. You have to look

10:59at yourself in order to get the answers that you need to move forward. And with getting with

11:05yourself, as everything starts with self, you get into your spiritual realm and you get to focus

11:12on you and you and your creator and your higher power. Everything starts with self.

11:19You're not going to get the things that you need to get from turning toward man,

11:24turning toward materialistic things, turning toward the world, trying to get the answers

11:29that you need. Everything starts with self. So I don't want people to take that as a form of

11:37being conceited, a form of being prideful, a form of being boastful. That's your spiritual

11:44connection. Everything starts with self. It starts there first before you can go outward into the

11:50world. So everything starts with self. So from what I get from here, Janice is torn. Maybe Janice

12:00doesn't know who she is. And I know it sounds kind of rough to say that, but yeah, people in there,

12:06it doesn't matter what age it is. People wake up at all different times. I woke up in my forties.

12:12It's no coincidence that Janice here is 50 and it looks like she doesn't know who she totally

12:20is at this moment. And that's okay. People can wake up at different times, but we should never

12:25feel selfish for giving ourselves some love for taking care of ourselves. Because if we don't

12:33take care of ourselves, like I said earlier at the top of the show, then who else will?

12:39So we have to look inside first before we can move forward and try to help and build

12:45and help someone else. Through this scenario here, I can clearly see that Janice has been

12:53ripping and running and doing for other people more than she has been doing for herself.

12:58She's tired. She's exhausted. And all she wants to do is reconnect. See, the key word reconnect.

13:05So she lost connection with God, clearly, when you begin to do things for everybody else before

13:12you even decide to think about yourself. Maybe she's not taking time to pray. Maybe that part

13:19of her life is gone dormant. I don't know. I'm only going from what I see here, but

13:26she wants to reconnect with God from a space of peace. It sounds like there's no peace here.

13:31Not guilt. So she's feeling guilty. And she wants to learn to set boundaries without feeling selfish.

13:40She's exhausted, spiritually exhausted after years of caregiving. Again, caring for other

13:48people before you care for yourself. That would be one of the red flags there.

13:56Choir director, substitute teacher, has a family.

14:00There it goes right there. Choir director. So a lot of this is with the church.

14:10And caregiving. So now we got a lot going on here and not to mention that she went through a divorce.

14:21And she has some financial obligations to her church and her family.

14:25I don't know how much she's giving to her church, how much she's giving to her family,

14:29whether she's paying for her children's school. We don't know what that scenario looks like.

14:36But clearly, there's a financial obligation going on right there. She feels obligated to give.

14:42Now, I would say that it's interesting how the church is listed here first before the family.

14:52I know a lot of people who are in the church, and I've heard stories from the past that

14:57they will give to the church before they give to their own family.

15:03From the outside looking in, it looks as though this might be one of those scenarios here.

15:11Obligated to give to your church. And the question that I have to ask, and again,

15:18this is very touchy compared to last week when I spoke about giving to the church when you don't

15:24have, giving when you don't have. It's okay to tell somebody, I just don't have it to give to you.

15:34I might have it, it might be used and tucked away, and it might've been budgeted toward other

15:41categories that are needed in order to sustain and maintain my life. But just because I have it

15:47in the bank account does not mean that I have it to give to you.

15:52So I'm not quite sure what obligation that Janice has towards the church, but

16:01it's a little interesting that the church has been listed before her family. And this might

16:07just be me reading into it too much, but never should one feel that they should have an obligation

16:16to give to someone outside of their household versus taking care of their household first.

16:22Now there are different scenarios, different dynamics

16:26behind it. And this is not just one cookie cutter type of situation, but I'm just speaking in general

16:32that it's not good to give to the church before you take care of your own four walls.

16:36Make sure that you're standing on your own two feet.

16:39And as far as reconnecting with God from a space of peace until Janice takes a step back and learns

16:50to get with herself as everything starts with self, I don't think that there'll be much peace

16:58there because you have your church obligations, you have the substitute teacher obligations,

17:05obligations, you have the substitute teacher obligations, you're caregiving,

17:12you're financially stretching yourself thin from what you're giving to the church,

17:19what you're giving to your family. Again, I don't know the dynamic between a family,

17:23if the family is old enough to start generating income on their own or not.

17:30There are no ages listed here. So we might be dealing with little children who I don't

17:36know at this point, 55 years old. I would say maybe your kids are getting up there

17:45to the point where maybe they could start to contribute a little bit more or have the

17:50right conversations with them about where money comes from and how it's generated.

17:55But never should one feel guilty about taking time to themselves.

18:03So I don't know where that guilt comes from. And I don't wanna say this, but I'm gonna say it.

18:09Maybe the guilt comes from the church that you go to. Maybe they have you in a certain way,

18:18and I'm not gonna use certain terminology, but maybe they have you set up

18:23programmed in a certain way to think that you have to give a specific amount,

18:31a certain percentage. We spoke about this last week when it comes to tithing and giving.

18:40Some people call it giving back, but I don't like to say giving back because

18:45if you didn't take anything in the first place, why are you giving it back?

18:48So just giving, something's off here. There's guilt because maybe they want you to

19:00contribute a certain percentage. And now that leads me to the part where I say,

19:09I have it, but I don't have it to give to you. So

19:13give what you can. This is just coming from my perspective. Give what you can.

19:19You have to make sure that you are financially sound on your own two feet

19:23before you can start to dig into your pockets and give to somebody else.

19:28And if you can't give financially, and you're wrapped up and you're trapped up in a situation,

19:32then there's only other ways that you can give. You're gonna give spiritually,

19:37you're gonna give mentally, and you're gonna give physically from the time and the energy

19:43that it takes to stand up there, to volunteer, to do whatever you're doing.

19:48You may not be able to give financially all the time, but maybe you can give your energy

19:52in another way. Maybe you could support in another way. So I would strongly urge

20:01that we might need to hit this pause button. Maybe we don't need to reset everything,

20:06but we might need to hit this pause button and start to redirect and change some things around.

20:11Because if you are an acquired director, you're giving to the church already,

20:16you're putting time into it. It sounds like you could be putting a little bit more of your

20:20personal time into it as well. But if you can't give financially,

20:26you could be putting a little bit more of your personal time into it as well.

20:31Again, I don't know. But when it comes to the financial obligations,

20:39sounds like you're already putting a lot of physical time into it.

20:45So maybe we might need to back up on one versus the other so that you can have some personal time

20:51so that you can be rejuvenated and start to make some good financial decisions when it comes to

20:57what you're doing, where your money is going. Because when you are physically drained

21:05and when you are mentally drained, sometimes it makes sense when you are financially drained as

21:13well, because your mind wasn't sharp enough, your spiritual discernment wasn't sharp enough

21:20in order for you to make good, positive, sound financial decisions.

21:26See, all of these things go hand in hand and they're interconnected. So if you are spiritually

21:31drained and you are mentally drained, and then you turn around and make some poor financial decisions

21:37that puts you into the area and the scenarios of being financially drained, it makes sense.

21:43Now, if your mind was clear and you had some peace, you had some time,

21:49you were able to get things under control and have a little bit of clarity around the situation.

21:54Therefore, you'll be a little bit more sharper when you show up in the physical world and

22:01you'll have that mental discipline and that spiritual realm of discernment to be able to

22:09realm of discernment to be able to make some better financial decisions.

22:17So there's a lot going on here and I see she's financially obligated to her church and her

22:24family. That line just keeps sticking out and jumping off the page to me, financially

22:30obligated to her church. That's deep. To the fact that we are putting our financial obligations

22:40to the church over the relationship and the connection that we have with God. That's deep.

22:49Everything starts with self. That's the first thing that we would focus on is connecting

22:56spiritually, focusing with ourselves inward and then pushing outward. Focus inward and then push

23:06outward. It seems as if her connection with God has been put on a back burner,

23:15which we all know that God is a jealous God and we should never

23:22put anyone before God, have no other gods before him. So again, when it comes to some of these

23:29people, we can start to make people a God. The people, the relationships that we have in our

23:36lives, the jobs that we go to, the cars that we drive, the money, the clothes, the jewelry.

23:42We have to be very careful about making all of these external gods.

23:54And there's some guilt coming from, and I can only assume from her place of worship,

24:02because it seems as if she's so programmed to the financial obligations that she has to the church

24:09that she might not want to do certain things. Maybe it's the time that she's putting in and

24:14she wants to spend time and rest and just relax, but she feels guilty because she has some

24:20obligations to the church. And here's the thing that jumps off the page as well, and learn how

24:27to set boundaries without feeling selfish. One should never feel selfish when it comes to setting

24:34boundaries as far as what you need to make your life go round, what you need to make sure that

24:39you are feeling healthy and whole and sound so that you can conduct yourself as a positive

24:46human being in the world. Because if you have to show up and you are tired, you're disrespectful

24:54as far as the way you look at people, as far as the energy that you are projecting out there in

25:00the universe, that's a problem. If you have to show up somewhere, mean mugging people,

25:06being disrespectful, not showing up as a decent human being, that's the only way that I could put

25:13it, then maybe you might need to go back and reevaluate some things and get your boundaries

25:21set up so that where you can have that time to yourself, so you can hit that reset button,

25:26so you can relax and you can rejuvenate so that you can show up in a world

25:31respecting people as if you want people to respect you.

25:40So there's some boundary issues. She probably is a people pleaser. She probably says yes and

25:45agrees to doing things that she doesn't want to do. And I've been there before.

25:51And I used to be that person that showed up and was very angry, disrespectful, all of the stuff

25:55that I just said, that was me because I didn't know how to say no. I didn't know how to set

26:00boundaries. And I went to places that I shouldn't have gone to. And I signed up for things that I

26:05really didn't want. And it was a disaster and it always ended in disaster. And I was always drained,

26:13depleted, and worn down because of what somebody else put on top of me.

26:18What somebody else wanted me to carry. And I just gladly said, sure. Knowing that I had all

26:24these things going on, knowing that I had other obligations, knowing that I had my plate full.

26:31But here I was like, sure, pile it right on just to make somebody happy. And while I'm sitting

26:35there watching everybody else become happy and enjoy, I'm sitting here just as miserable as I

26:41can be because that's not what I wanted to do in the first place.

26:44No, is a complete sentence. And there's nothing wrong with that. And what I've learned is that

26:52when you don't say no, regardless of whether you say no or you don't say no,

26:56these people are pretty much okay. And they're going to move on with their lives regardless.

27:01They're going to move on with their situation. They're going to move on with their scenario

27:05regardless. And while you say yes to something that you originally didn't want to do,

27:10and while you say yes to something that you originally meant to say, no,

27:15just look around at everybody else carrying on with their lives, living on

27:22just as if nothing happened and they could care less about what you got going on.

27:30And you're the only one feeling a certain way internally.

27:33And if you were anything like me, that internal will start to show out in the world and show up

27:42externally. However, I felt on the inside, damn sure showed up on the outside and that's how it

27:50always starts. And that's what it is. You have to make sure your internal dialogue matches the out.

27:57So if your internal dialogue is not in a good, healthy place,

28:01trust and believe that that's exactly what your environment and your world is going to end up

28:04being. Wow. So, yeah, I'd say hit the reset button. This is a deep one. This is a deep one

28:14here. And I feel because I feel on multiple reasons because spiritually there's some

28:23spiritual exhaustion here and some spiritual neglect here. Everything starts with self.

28:30Janice needs to take a good look in the mirror and start to hit, hit that pause button and start

28:35to prioritize some things. Maybe you might need to delete some things out of your life that just

28:40no longer serve you. That's not matching up and making sense. And there's nothing wrong with that

28:46because if you're feeling exhausted, you have guilt, you have shame because of the way you

28:55are showing up in the world, then we might need to do something about that because we're not

29:00supposed to conduct ourselves like that. We're not supposed to be showing up in a world like that.

29:08And give what you can give. If it's a financial situation and you're strained and you're strapped

29:16because you have a family that you have to take care of, which they should be put before the

29:20church. We might need to just give what we can give. And if you can't give it from a financial

29:28aspect, then the time. But then again, I can't even say the time because it looks like you're

29:34already strapped to begin with. So maybe that's that time that you need to start pulling back

29:39because time is more valuable than money. Some people think that money is it. Money is everything.

29:46Time is more valuable than money because if you were on your deathbed and you were ready to take

29:51your last breath and somebody gave you a few more years to live or a million dollars, which one are

29:59you going to take? So I don't want to turn this into a whole financial aspect, although there

30:06is something that has to do with it. But it may also be just giving up too much of your time

30:13to places that no longer serve you to the fact that you got more time invested in them than you

30:19have in yourself. This is deep. This is this is a deep one here because it's looked like it's

30:31coming from both angles. Multiple angles. And never should we feel guilty and selfish for

30:39doing something for ourselves that may help better ourselves and everybody around us,

30:45because if you keep on doing for others, you keep on doing things for others and you don't do for

30:50yourself. If you're anything like me, that's when you forget about guilt and selfishness. That's

30:57when when a light bulb starts to go off and I start to wake up and realize and see what game

31:01is being played. That's when the anger used to come in. That's when the resentment used to come in.

31:09Thank God I've been delivered from all of those things, because then there were some times where

31:13revenge would come in. Like, oh, I see what game this is. But see, I can avoid all of those.

31:21I could avoid anger. I could avoid revenge. I could avoid resentment today with just one simple word.

31:31No. And I do today because I don't have to go places. I don't have to attach myself. I don't

31:38have to do anything that I don't want to do today. And I don't. And if it don't make sense

31:46for me and the situation I have going on here, then I just don't do it. And you got to be careful

31:55because giving to certain places where they want to make you feel a certain way, if you don't meet

32:01this specific quota or you don't meet this certain cap, if that's all that you have to give, then

32:08that's exactly what that means. Never should we put ourselves in a situation financially just to

32:14say that we gave. That's a problem. Let me know what you think about tonight's scenario.

32:29Wow. This one definitely has me thinking. How many people out there

32:41are tithing, putting themselves in a situation financially just to say that they did it?

32:48And how much toll do we put on ourselves when we run ourselves ragged, running around

32:56trying to please people and to make everybody else happy first before we even think about

33:01ourselves? And then what toll does that put on us spiritually, mentally, physically, and financially?

33:13If you want to chime in tonight, you can please text me at 609-200-1098. Again, that number is

33:22609-200-1098. That is the official 4 in 1 podcast reading between the lines hotline.

33:31You may also DM me on any of my social media platforms, Facebook, Instagram X, TikTok.

33:41Tonight's burning question, is it possible to honor God and others without sacrificing your

33:49own peace and purpose in the process? Is it possible to honor God and others without sacrificing

33:59your own peace and purpose in the process? And my answer is yes. And this would help tie in

34:10with Janice as well. So it is possible to honor God and the way we can honor God

34:19is by getting with ourselves first, strengthening and deepening our prayer life,

34:30our meditation life, focusing on God first before we focus on others. That way,

34:41with clarity, with rejuvenation, with a clear peace of mind, we're able to help others.

34:55We'll come from a peaceful place. We'll come from a restful place. We'll come from a place

35:02of abundance versus coming from a place of scarcity. We won't be looking at our watches,

35:08looking at the time. We won't be drained. We won't be down. We won't be out because we've

35:16taken time to rest, relax, rejuvenate, pray, ask questions, receive the answers,

35:27and then operate properly in a physical realm.

35:36That's protecting your peace. And if you're asking and you're getting with God

35:42and you're having him direct you, now we're walking in purpose.

35:49So it is. It's very possible to honor God and others without sacrificing your own peace.

35:58Doing it the other way, now you're sacrificing your own peace and your purpose and you're doing

36:03it out of order, out of sync, and who knows what that's going to become.

36:07But it doesn't sound anything good at all.

36:11Very, very deep burning question because that used to be me. I used to not honor God. I would

36:21make everyone else, I put everyone else before myself, put everyone else before God, and

36:30I would not honor God. I would make everyone else, I put everyone else before myself,

36:37put everyone else before God, and let me tell you, it didn't work out well.

36:43My peace was always disrupted. I always felt like I wasn't standing in my purpose.

36:51I always knew that I was doing something incorrect but was so caught up and I didn't know how to get

36:56out of it. But let me tell you, disobey long enough. Just keep disobeying. Keep going along

37:05thinking that your plan is better and bigger and better than His.

37:09Sometimes thinking that you know everything.

37:15God has a way of fixing everything and rebalancing and equalizing everything.

37:21He sees and hears everything and knows everything.

37:23I would say boundaries. Boundaries is so important and never should anybody make you feel a certain

37:33way because you decided to set boundaries to make sure that you can protect your peace and to protect

37:38your spiritual being and your spiritual foundation. That's the most important thing that you can have

37:48is a spiritual foundation and make sure that it's on solid ground

37:52and it's not built on a house of cards or some nonsense or...

37:59That's how you honor God, by making sure your spiritual foundation is on lock and key.

38:05And can't nobody, no man, no job, no cars, no money, no situation can come in and try to take

38:13you off your game, sweep you up off your feet, make you start to think a certain way,

38:20make you feel a certain way. Unshakable faith, undeniable.

38:32It is possible to honor God and others without sacrificing your own peace and purpose in the

38:39process. Yes, it is. By making sure your spiritual foundation is on lock and key and you know who you

38:46are. And you're not going to know who you are until you get with yourself. Everything starts

38:51with self until you understand and know exactly what you got. Lay it out all on the table,

38:56just you and yourself, staring back at yourself in that mirror, trying to figure it out, map it out.

39:03Think about it from the other aspect. You dishonor God and others when you give up and you sacrifice

39:11your own peace, just to please other people, follow their plan, go along with their situation,

39:19become a yes-man to whatever they want you to do. And then look at your life and look at the

39:26yes-men to whatever they want you to do. And then look at your life and look at your situations and

39:33look at your scenarios as an aftermath, as an afterthought, after you've been depleted and

39:38drained from living in the world and doing what everybody else wants you to do. I believe that

39:44is the ultimate disrespect that one can give to themselves and to God when we operate like that.

39:51I used to get up every morning and as soon as the alarm clock went off,

39:54jump up, get in the shower and be ripping and running and going and doing what everybody

39:58else wanted me to do. Not taking time to pray, reflect, not even taking time to look at myself

40:04good to see if we feel good about what we're doing, how we're moving, how we're showing up.

40:15So I get this. I get this, Janice. And let's hope that tonight we have some sort of breakthrough

40:24because it's something else when we feel that we are obligated

40:32to give and do for others and to others before we even give to ourselves.

40:42If there's anything that you heard tonight when it comes to the burning questions or

40:47tonight's scenario, please feel free to reach out. 609-210-98. That is the official 411 podcast

40:55Reading Between the Lines hotline. Again, that number is 609-210-98. I am also on Facebook,

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41:14You can also head on over to Laryngaines.com. If there's anything that you heard tonight that

41:20sparks something in you that made you say, I want to learn a little bit more about that,

41:26you can head on over to Laryngaines.com and you can sign up for my free 15-minute consultation.

41:33I focus on debt-free living from spiritual, mental, physical, and financial wellbeing.

41:40We focus on the physical first, understand and know who you are.

41:45Once you understand and know who you are, then we focus on the mental aspect,

41:51making sure that we are operating from a space of abundance and we are deleting any thoughts,

41:57negativity, any areas of scarcity in our lives and how we feel and think about money.

42:03After we connect the spiritual to the mental, now we flow into the physical realm,

42:10focusing and looking at ourselves and seeing how we are showing up in the world.

42:14How are we showing up and how are we becoming? Who is the person that we are becoming and how is it

42:25and how is it matching up? From that, we move to the financial aspect,

42:35debt-free living from spiritual, mental, physical, and financial wellness.

42:40Head on over to Laryngaines.com if you're interested in a free 15-minute consultation.

42:46Now, when I speak about the free 15-minute consultation, I want to say it is for only

42:52those of you out there who are sick and tired of being sick and tired, people who look at their

42:59own current situation and know that there's something that is just not right, something

43:03that needs to change. You have to want the change. This is not something that I can wave a magic wand

43:10and make it work for you. I give you the information, I give you the tools, the exercises,

43:16the programs, and then it's all up to you to make it work and for you to make it happen.

43:23But again, it's only for those who look at their current situation and they want different. They

43:30know that there has to be more to life than just this. There has to be more to life than paying

43:35excessive credit card debt. There has to be more to life than being drowned and stuck and can't

43:40swim in student loan debt. There has to be more to life than this, than the personal loans. There

43:46has to be more to life than the payday loans. There has to be more to life than the excessive

43:52car payments and living well beyond our means, keeping up with the Joneses.

43:58For those of you who are ready to cut up your credit cards,

44:03for those of you who say, I get it. I get the end game. I'm not where I need to be right now.

44:13I might need to learn a little bit more. I might need to study a little bit more.

44:18I'm ready to sit down. I'm ready to listen.

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44:42Now I want to let you know that we have several different nights. We have spiritual Sunday.

44:52We have mental Monday. We have transformational Tuesday. We have wind down Wednesday and we have

44:59coaching session Thursdays and we have financial Fridays. So six days, we're not here on Saturdays,

45:08six days throughout the week, you will get awesome content that will help you

45:16on your spiritual, on your mental, on your physical and financial journey.

45:24Spiritual Sunday, mental Monday, transformational Tuesday, wind down Wednesday,

45:34coaching sessions Thursday, by the way, which is a wild card. So you never know what you're

45:38going to get on Thursday. And then we have financial Friday. So stick around at Laryngaines,

45:46make sure you like comment, share, subscribe, tag a friend, text a friend, invite them in,

45:53share this video, like this video, put your comments in there. Let me know what you think

45:59about tonight's scenario. And on that note, I will see you when I see you. I will see you

46:06mental Monday. Thank you so much. Have a good night. Take care.

46:28So

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