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Lerin Gaines

Invisible Weight | DISC 5: Restoration | 411 Podcast🍾Reading Between The Wines (Episode 12)   Featuring: Mental Monday, Mentorship Series   05.12.25 | 7:00 PM EST   Streaming LIVE on all social media platforms @LERINGAINES   https://leringaines.com  https://linktr.ee/leringaines  https://www.facebook.com/leringaines  http://instagram.com/leringaines  https://www.tiktok.com/@leringaines  http://twitter.com/leringaines  https://www.youtube.com/@leringaines  https://www.twitch.tv/leringaines  https://dlive.tv/LerinGaines  https://dailymotion.com/LerinGaines   Song of The Day: "Diamonds" by Lil' Kim Featuring Kelly Price  Released 2000 | Unreleased   Burning Questions: Are your thoughts making deposits or withdrawals from your peace of mind?   I would love to hear from you! Share your response to tonight's Burning Questions:   Text: (609) 200-1098 | Email: Info@LerinGaines.com   DM on any social media platform @LERINGAINES (Facebook, Instagram, X, TikTok, YouTube, DLIVE, Twitch, DailyMotion)   Sign up for my FREE Monthly Newsletter 'Whispers of Wisdom' for updates, exclusives, and inspiration!   Subscribe now at LerinGaines.com   #Facebook #Instagram #TikTok #X #YouTube #DLIVE #Twitch #DailyMotion #ParentalAdvisory #ExplicitContent #LerinGaines #411Podcast #RBTW #ReadingBetweenTheWines #BurningQuestions #BlackDiamondConsultations #VacationWithMe #WhispersofWisdom #DISC5 #Restoration   DISCLAIMER: The content and information provided by Black Diamond Consultations are intended solely for educational and entertainment purposes. We do not guarantee the accuracy or completeness of the materials, and any reliance you place on them is strictly at your own risk. Our content is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice or judgment. Black Diamond Consultations shall not be liable for any errors or omissions in the educational and entertainment content or for any actions taken based on the information provided.   411 Podcast🍾Reading Between The Wines  DISC 5: Restoration  Track 12: Invisible Weight  ©️ 2025 Black Diamond Consultations Network  LerinGaines.com

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00:00Thank you so much for watching.

08:47Thank you,

09:17thank you.

11:23Thank you,

11:53thank you.

15:00that you want, giving you that extra that you want. So just be very careful of that.

15:07Luke 14, 28. For which of you intended to build a tower, sitteth not down first and counteth the

15:16cost, whether he hath sufficient to finish it. Right there, plain and simple. For which of you

15:25intended to build a tower, sitteth not down first and counteth the cost, whether he hath sufficient

15:34to finish it. Now, I was a victim of that. I can sit here and tell you this here today,

15:40and I say it with conviction because I was that type of person that I'm a dreamer. I love to dream

15:47and I love to vision myself in bigger and better places than I am here today. And if I didn't do

15:54that, I wouldn't be here podcasting and giving you this 4-in-1 podcast because before all of the

15:59lights, cameras, action, before all of this came about in 2020, I was dreaming big prior to that.

16:07I was dreaming big. I was thinking big and I was coming up with the game plan. But I will tell you,

16:13I didn't sit down first and I didn't count the cost first and I didn't go through all of those

16:18things first. And it caused a lot of stress. It caused a lot of extraness. And I had to

16:26do some backflips to make sure that we're still here today. And I wouldn't have it any other way

16:33because without all of that, we wouldn't be here. And I wouldn't be here speaking of the things that

16:40I'm speaking of and stepping into my purpose and doing the things that I'm doing. So everything

16:44happens, happens for good. But now that I know better, it's just my job, you know, give to the

16:50people, give to the community so that you don't make the same mistakes that I've made. Now, for

16:55those of you who don't want to listen, you want to do it your way, that's fine. I get it too. Cause

17:00you know, I was that person too, where, you know, let me just go ahead and find out for myself. And

17:05sometimes there's nothing wrong with that. That is the best way to learn is when you bump your head

17:11and you make mistakes. But if you can learn from somebody along the way so that you don't make

17:15those same mistakes, that's also a plus as well. But we all learn differently. We all pick up things

17:21on different terms and different timelines and different frequencies. So, hey, I get it.

17:28But on that note, welcome on in to the 411 podcast, track 12, Invisible Weight, Disc 5 Restoration.

17:35We're going to get into the song of the day. Diamonds by none other than the Queen Bee.

17:43Miss Lil' Kim featuring Kelly Price. Now, this song was not actually released. It's sort of a hidden

17:50gem. It's an unreleased song. And I believe that it was dropped somewhere between her hardcore album

17:58and Notorious K.I.M. somewhere in between. So we're just going to say 2000. If I'm wrong, it is what it is.

18:04The real Lil' Kim fans out there. If y'all know exactly when this came out, you can also let me

18:10know that as well. But one of my favorite albums too, Notorious K.I.M. But this song is Diamonds

18:16featuring Kelly Price. And we're speaking about Invisible Weight. This is Mental Mondays. And of

18:24course, this song speaks of the lavish life, living big, wanting diamonds. You can hear Kelly Price in

18:32the background saying over and over again that she wants diamonds. And that's what they speak

18:37about. All of the luxury, the high living, high price life. That's what I call it, the high price

18:44life. And if you were able to experience it, great. We all have fallen into this trap at one

18:53point in our lives of living beyond our means, living that high price life, buying expensive things,

18:59whether it's jewelry, cars, clothes, whatever the case may be, focusing on the outer more than we

19:06focus on the inner. Listen, I don't know who I'm speaking to. I'm just speaking from experience,

19:11but I've been there and I can relate. And some of us are stuck into this trap. Some of us have just

19:21gotten out. Some of us are swiping our way into this situation right now as we speak with credit cards

19:27and personal loans and debt that they might not even know what they're doing. They're just doing

19:35what they were told. They were just doing what they were taught. You know, more is caught than more is

19:40taught. So they might be mimicking and they might be subconsciously picking up some things that they've

19:47seen their parents, their grandparents, aunties, uncles, siblings, who knows. But some of us

19:56will escape. Some of us will never escape. And just like the Pussycat Dolls, one of my favorite songs

20:05from them, their line is, be careful what you wish for because you just might get it. You just might get

20:11it. So, and when you get it, just make sure that you're mentally prepared to be able to handle it.

20:21Because the heavy load, sometimes it's real heavy and it's hard and it takes multiple people to pull

20:29you up and try to uphold and keep it going. So just be careful because whatever you wish for,

20:37you just might get it. And the 10th commandment says, thou shall not covet. And I'm so thankful

20:46that I obey this today and I understand and I know that I don't want anything that anybody else has.

20:54Prior to that, the older version of me, I always wanted what everybody else had. And I had an attitude

21:01when I couldn't get what everybody else had. And if my car didn't look like yours and my clothes didn't

21:08look like yours and I didn't go to some of the places that you went to and my house didn't look

21:13like your house and this and that, the next, the other, I was very unhappy and I was very

21:21just a not nice person. I'll put it that way. So, and that came from me wanting, and that came from me,

21:29it came from just the spirit of covetousness. And I am so thankful that I have been delivered from

21:35that spirit. And we all have to go through our journey. We all have to, we all have to experience

21:42it at different times. And listen, be careful what you wish for because you just might get it.

21:50There's a price to live that high price, lavish life. And it comes in the form of debt. It comes

21:59in the form of sleepless nights. It comes in the form of needing to work extra. It comes in the form of

22:06not being the person that you were put on this earth to be and living the life that somebody else

22:16wants you to live. Just plain and simple. Anyway, welcome on in, welcome on in. And hopefully,

22:27you know, that message that gets to one person. I'm not here to try to move the masses. As long as I

22:35get to just one person, there's a breakthrough on one end. Listen, we're on Facebook, we're on

22:40Instagram, we're on X, we're on YouTube, we're on TikTok, we're on DLive, Twitch, Dailymotion.

22:46And I must say that I am very thankful because we had some restrictions on a specific platform,

22:54but we won the case and videos are now available to the public. So the full episodes of Disc 5

23:02Restoration are up and running on all platforms. No need to worry about anything being restricted.

23:08No need to worry about signing into a specific account and only being able to see this video,

23:14that video, this video. So listen, there's a message out there for anybody who's out there.

23:20Listen, no matter what platform you're on. Also, we're on Spotify, we're on iHeartRadio,

23:27we're on Deezer, we're on Amazon Music, we're on so many different platforms. So this is a big

23:35movement. This is a big step. This is a big, it's big for me compared to where I was in 2020 when I

23:44had 19 people, 19 people following only on Instagram. And then from there, we've expanded

23:53to so many different areas and so many different levels. So again, I could not do any of this without

23:58each and every one of you out there supporting and rocking and liking, commenting, sharing,

24:04stopping by. It's never a dull moment. And I want to say thank you all for that.

24:09So now tonight, we're going to head on over to one of my favorite states.

24:15Remember Dreaming Big, one of my favorite states.

24:17We're going to be in a desert one day. We're going to head on over to California. We're going to help

24:24out Miss Sabrina tonight, 33 years old. Sabrina is a mental health advocate and she is a social media

24:32content creator. And some of these stories, some of these burning questions, they just start to be

24:42real similar to some places that I've been. I don't know who I'm speaking to tonight, but I'm speaking

24:49from experience. Some of these scenarios just be so close to home. So if I start to get amped up about

24:57it, that's only because I have that true, real experience and I know exactly where we're coming

25:03from tonight. So Sabrina talks positivity, positivity, I'll back that up. Miss Sabrina talks

25:11positivity online, but silently battles depression and $38,000 in credit card debt.

25:20She's addicted to online shopping and buys news to avoid facing her loneliness. She feels like a frog.

25:28mentally she's strong on the outside, but mentally fragile on the inside. I'll take us through that

25:36scenario again. Miss Sabrina talks positivity online, but silently battles depression. And she is in

25:46over $38,000 in credit card debt. She's addicted to online shopping and buys new things to avoid facing

25:55her loneliness. She feels like a fraud, mentally strong on the outside, but mentally fragile on the

26:02inside. So we're here to help tonight. And we're here to have some breakthrough moments, not only for

26:11you, but only for, you know, before myself as well. So I get it because I've been here before.

26:20Um, I started in 2020, started the 401 podcast. I had no idea what I was doing. And when I started

26:29this podcast, I was in all types of debt. Sabrina has $38,000 worth of debt. I was in far more than

26:37that. Had no idea how I was getting out. Didn't think that I would ever get out. Um,

26:42and I was in a tough situation. Depression is sounds very similar. Didn't like myself. Didn't like the

26:57situation. Didn't like anybody. I, I, hell, I didn't like myself. So I didn't like anybody around me

27:03either. Um, she's addicted to online shopping. However, I wasn't addicted to online shopping,

27:14but let me tell you peer pressure, you know what they say about peer pressure. Um, I was fighting

27:22to try to do the right thing, but I was surrounded by a bunch of people who wanted to do the wrong

27:28thing. Excuse me one second.

27:33Definitely had to get that together. Cause I'm sure y'all didn't want to hear me coughing

27:45all over. So had to take a little break with that. Hold on one second.

27:49That's, that is one of the worst things when you were in radio, when you have to cough,

28:03when you're recording. But so I was surrounded by a bunch of people who wanted to do the right,

28:11excuse me, wanted to do the wrong thing. So I wanted to do the right thing and I wanted to

28:16get out of debt and I wanted to experience this debt-free living. Like I know that it's about,

28:24I didn't know all of it, but I didn't know some of the basics about debt-free living.

28:31And I was just surrounded by the wrong people. And because of that, it became fighting for my life,

28:37literally fighting for my life. And so it wasn't necessarily online shopping for me.

28:46It wasn't buying extra things. It was trying to stop it from happening. Now, when you're not in

28:53control of your finances and you have other factors that are draining your pockets, whether

28:59it's people, places, things that you've signed yourself up to, it's, it's a rough situation.

29:07And this one here seems like Sabrina is in complete control. She don't, again, I just know what this

29:14scenario is right here. She doesn't have anybody leeching from her. She doesn't have anybody stealing

29:18from her. She doesn't have anybody encouraging her. Maybe she does. Maybe she has some friends that

29:24she's trying to keep up with because all of the online shopping and things like that and buying new

29:28things to avoid loneliness. That could be a problem. There are people who shop when they're

29:38depressed. Clothes, jewelry, they think that those things are going to make them feel better, but

29:44the work starts within. And you can dress it up on the outside all you want. If you don't take care

29:51of what needs to be taken care of on the inside, the minute after you buy that, the minute after you

29:57swipe the card, you may wore the dress one time, you may wear the sneakers a couple of times. After

30:01a while, that's going to fade. I used to do it with cars. I'm going to be like, I'm kind of bored

30:08of this car. And I think the car, I want to go get me another one. And about like a week or two,

30:14it would fade after people stopped saying, Oh my God, you got a new car. Oh, it's this and that.

30:19And you know, I thought that that was like making me feel better. But after that faded,

30:24I was sitting here, not only falling into more depression. Now I'm looking at this bill that I

30:32have, that's going to be coming in every month. And now we just signed ourselves up for three years

30:36worth of nonsense. Now it's so easy though, to sign you up for five years worth of nonsense.

30:43And the prices have gone up compared to what it was years ago. Most people that I talk to when I'm

30:52going through my coaching sessions, they're paying about anywhere between 800 to a thousand dollars a

30:56month for car payments. So for those of you out there who are buying things to avoid loneliness,

31:08like Sabrina, you won't be lonely after a while because you'll definitely have some bills that'll

31:18be coming in the mail that will keep you some company. So I'd be very cautious about that.

31:25Now with her feeling like a fraud, mentally strong on the outside, but mentally fragile on the inside,

31:32it's because it's backwards. See, we have to feel good on the inside and then we start to feel strong

31:40on the outside, but it starts with them first. Everything starts with self. So instead of trying

31:46to dress up the outside, making the outside look good, you know, that's what man does. We want to

31:52look at the outer appearance. We don't focus on the inner. We focus so much on the outer. This person has

31:58this. This person has that. This person looks like this. This person looks that. I want to look like

32:02this. I want to do that. Instead of focusing on the inner, naturally, that's what man does. Focuses on

32:09the outer appearance. So anybody out there who might be experiencing anything like Sabrina,

32:17you want to focus on the inner first. Heal yourself first on the inner.

32:22Get yourself together on the inside and then it'll start to pour on the outside and you won't need to

32:31worry about loneliness. You won't need to worry about any of that because you're going to have so

32:35many people and so many opportunities and so many things that will be coming to you that sometimes

32:41it'll be exhausting. So many people will want to hang out with you. So many people will want to be

32:47around you because you will become a blessing to so many people in different ways because you've done

32:54your inner work first, especially if you're a content creator, especially if you are speaking

33:01positivity, especially if you are coming from a place of love. There's a bunch of people out there

33:08that has all kinds of nonsense on the internet, all types of stuff where they're bringing people down,

33:13all types of evilness. And I just sit back and I look at all of the people that follow them

33:18that are in that same mind frame. So now if they can do it and they're coming from trolling,

33:25they're coming from trying to tear people down, they're coming from reposting stuff that's

33:31ignorant, they come from lower vibrational standpoints, lower vibrational frequencies,

33:37there's no reason why you wouldn't be able to do it, especially when you're trying to uplift and

33:41help people get to the next level. But it's just backwards. Ask me how I know.

33:51I've done it before. I've been that before. That's why in 2022, I had to step away because I knew that

34:01it was going in the wrong direction. Saying one thing, but then behind the scenes, whenever the cameras,

34:10whenever the podcast wasn't recording, whenever I had to face reality, and then I had to look and say,

34:17okay, I've come this far. I'm passionate about what I'm doing. I want to help people. I enjoy it,

34:25but I don't enjoy my own current circumstances. So how about we fix that first so that I can come back

34:32and then truly be able to help people in a right aspect because I'm speaking from truth now,

34:38not just speaking a bunch of nonsense before, like before. Then on the other aspect of it,

34:46if I wanted to stay where I'm at and have some long-term stability, oh, you really got to get

34:54this thing together because then not only is it going to come crashing down one day, Sabrina,

34:59you got to be careful because what's done in darkness will come to light. And either you won't

35:05be able to handle the pressure of it or something's going to get exposed or listen,

35:13I would say focus on the inner and then all of that other stuff will come on the other end,

35:20on the outside. And there's nothing wrong with the coach being coached. I have plenty of mentors.

35:27I have plenty of people that I look up to, and there's no way that I could be where I'm at here

35:32today if I didn't sit down and listen to somebody else. You don't always have to be the smartest

35:40person in a room. And actually today when I'm the smartest person in a room, that only works well for

35:46a little while. After that, I'm trying to get out. I want to get into different rooms where I'm not the

35:51smartest person in the world. Somebody please teach me something because most of my life, majority of my

35:56life, I thought it was cool to be the smartest person in a room. And exactly what happened was

36:03I was the smartest person in a room and the people who were around me, either they didn't want to

36:09elevate to the next level. They weren't on the same page as me. So you got to be very careful when

36:17you're always the person who's giving advice. You're always the person that people are running to.

36:23You're always the person that people are looking up to. Because as you are giving out that energy,

36:30when do you get replenished?

36:34So as you wake up, you're giving, giving, giving, giving, giving, and you don't have anybody in your

36:41corner that say, oh, hold up. Maybe you might want to do it this way. I see that this is happening,

36:47but there might be a better way that you can do it. Let me show you how you can turn this thing around

36:52and double and quadruple. Don't be so quick to jump into a situation where you became the expert

37:03and everybody's just seeking and pulling and taking from you and you don't turn around and

37:11replenish your own situation. And also, I used to be a know-it-all. Some people still think I'm a

37:21know-it-all. But I learned to listen more than I speak. And that was a big lesson. Because when I

37:33look back at how I used to operate, I used to do a hell of a lot of talking and not a lot of listening.

37:39And I used to do a lot of over-talking. And that was hard for me to... But I had to get with self,

37:46and I had to say, okay, yeah, you were doing a little too much. Doing a little bit too much there.

37:54Bottom line,

37:58start in the inner. And it'll appear on the outer. But you got to start with self first. Don't try to

38:06dress up the outer. Don't try to put on things. Don't try to purchase things. Don't try to put it

38:13all on. Because that stuff is temporary. That stuff's going to fade. After the clothes are done,

38:19after the jewelry, after the cars, after the makeup, after all of that stuff is gone,

38:25you still are going to be facing you. You are still going to be dealt with the inner conflict.

38:30You're still going to be faced with all of that stuff that you didn't heal from, that you didn't deal

38:37with. Anybody out there, if you feel differently, if you want to chime in, you want to let me know

38:45what you think about tonight, text me 609-200-1098. Again, that number is 609-200-1098. That is the

38:54official 411 Podcast Reading Between the Wines hotline. Now we're going to head on into burning

39:04questions. And it just flows right on end. So again, same concept. Text me if you want to chime

39:13in tonight, 609-200-1098. You can email me at info at laryngaines.com. You can also DM me on any of my

39:22platforms, Facebook, Instagram X, TikTok. I believe those, yeah, those are the ones you can DM me on.

39:33Facebook, Instagram X, TikTok. Everything is at laryngaines. Burning question for tonight.

39:46Are your thoughts making deposits or withdrawals from your peace of mind? I'll go ahead and say that

39:59again. Are your thoughts making deposits or withdrawals from your peace of mind?

40:06So this is a deep one. And I can just put it this way. There's a younger version, which is the person

40:19who you have been experiencing since 2020. And then there's the older version. The older version

40:29is the person that was running the show majority of my life. Younger version is the person who was just

40:38born in 2020. So for those of you who knew me before, you don't know me today. I'll say that again.

40:49For those of you out there, anybody, whether it's friends, family, old coworkers,

40:55for those of you who knew me before 2020, you don't know me today. And depending on the situation,

41:07I don't know you either. And I'm going to take it even more deeper, not to be disrespectful,

41:15but I'm just keeping it real. And just like you may not know me today, I may not even want to know you.

41:21You may not even want to know me.

41:27So my thoughts from previous, I was overdrawn. So many withdrawals from my peace of mind

41:35because I was living from a lower vibrational place, constantly seeking validation,

41:47doing some of the things that Sabrina was doing. Of course, this sounds so familiar.

41:51I was out here podcasting and doing certain things and behind the scenes, it wasn't what it

41:59was really all cracked up to be. And I hear that a lot when it comes to content creators

42:05because we see what other people have and we want what other people have.

42:12And we put on a show for people. And sometimes it's not always cracked up what it's been. I've heard

42:21that there are certain people that are posing, they're renting cars, they're living in their cars,

42:28they're sleeping on people's couches, all types of stuff. It's been a lot that I have seen and heard

42:37when it comes to some content creators. There's some sort of get rich quick scheme thinking that

42:43they're going to go viral and have a whole bunch of followers and become famous and all of that type

42:50of stuff. I never fell into that trap. But I do know from the aspect of producing content

43:01and trying to uplift somebody else before you even decide to uplift yourself.

43:08So I was always trying to uplift somebody else. I was always trying to pull somebody else up.

43:15And here's another analogy that I came across about a week or two ago.

43:20That it is so easy for the enemy to pull you down off the ladder.

43:28You're climbing up the ladder. It's so easy for the enemy to pull you down off the ladder.

43:35Because he's already on the ground. She's already on the ground. You're up high. You're climbing up

43:40high. And you're reaching your hand down trying to help them get up to where you are. But it takes far

43:46more strength for you to try to pull somebody up on your level of the ladder. It's going to take

43:53you far more upper body strength for you to try to pull somebody else up that has their feet flat

44:00planted on the ground. It's going to take you far more energy and far more strength to pull that

44:07person up versus what it's going to take for them to pull you down. So I was always trying to uplift

44:14somebody. I was always trying to help somebody get to the same level that I was.

44:20Going in lower vibrational places. Taking myself to lower vibrational states. Finding people in lower

44:27vibrational frequency levels. And trying to pull them up to mine. And it just didn't work. And what

44:35happened? They pulled me down right down to their level. And now I was vibrating from a lower vibrational

44:41frequency. Ready to cuss everybody out. Ready to turn into the Tasmanian devil. Had I just minded

44:50my business, which I know how to do today. I know how to mind my own business. And that's not coming

44:56from an arrogant standpoint. Just listen to, I want y'all to read between the lines. Mind your own

45:02business. But I learned how to mind my own business and stay exactly where I was. Now while I'm climbing up

45:08the ladder, how about I meet somebody along the way who is either on the same page on the same level

45:16or they're inspiring me to climb even higher because I want to get to where they are. Instead of looking

45:23down, looking down on a lower level, lower vibrational level, trying to pull somebody up to my level.

45:31And then even if you were strong enough to get them up to your level for a minute, what says they're

45:39going to stay there? If they didn't do their workout, if they didn't build their upper body strength,

45:44how are they going to be able to hold on? So you place them there with you, but you think that they

45:50have everything that they need to go ahead and sustain it and maintain it? So yes, I used to have

45:58plenty of withdrawals overdrawn. They might as well have just closed the bank because I had nothing

46:04to give to anybody else. I had nothing to cash or repay anything because I was completely withdrawn.

46:17But sometimes we got to go on a negative. Sometimes we have to get so far back.

46:22And what do they say? Boomerang? You have to be pulled so far back that that thing just starts

46:33to swing around and comes back in the other direction. So today, my thoughts make deposits.

46:42And I'm on point when it comes to those deposits. And I'm not saying that every day is a perfect day.

46:49There might be a little withdrawals here or there, but I know that we're not going to go into the

46:53negative because there's a lot of things that I understand. And once you know things,

46:58it's kind of hard for you to unsee them. Once you see things, it's kind of hard for you to unsee them.

47:03And I'll take it there. And I say this plenty of times.

47:10Good morning, gorgeous. Mary J. Blige. She has a song called Love Without the Heartbreak.

47:14And then I got to take it to my mentor, too. There's two people.

47:20Shout out to Mary J. Blige and shout out to my mentor in the Bronx, New York.

47:24Mary says, I never claimed to be a genius, but I lived long enough to see this.

47:29So even though every day might not be a perfect day and there might be some withdrawals,

47:35because sometimes you may not know everything, you may not see everything, especially when you meet

47:38people and you're in new environments. It might take a little bit before you are able to see

47:43certain things. But once you see it, you know it. And I never claimed to be a genius, but I lived long

47:47enough to see this. So whenever I see the signs or somebody starts to remind me of some of the places

47:53that I used to be and some of the places that I never want to go, that's when that kicks in.

47:59I never claimed to be a genius. Like I ain't the smartest person in the world, but let me tell you this

48:03right here. I lived long enough to see this. And this thing right here, I want no parts of it.

48:06So now I have the strength. I have the courage. I have the energy. I have the

48:11understanding to get up and take responsibility for myself. See, before when I knew that something

48:19wasn't right, I would sit in it and I would be stuck in it because I didn't know how to get up and take

48:25responsibility for myself. And I always was worried about the other person. I was always worried about

48:30somebody else's feelings and what would they think and what would they do? And today I cannot be

48:36responsible for anybody else's nervous system. It is a full-time job managing my own. So I cannot

48:43be responsible for nobody else's feelings, but I'm going to take responsibility for myself.

48:50So the question that I have to ask each and every one of you out there, are your thoughts making

48:54deposits or withdrawals from your peace of mind? And I told you today, I give people a peace of mind.

49:00This version of this person that you are hearing today, this is me giving you the peace of my mind.

49:06Diversion from the past. I would give people a peace of my mind. I would give you that get

49:11right energy. I would give you that, who are you speaking to? Who are you talking to like that?

49:16That type of person. Oh, well, I know that they ain't say nothing to me. I know they ain't looking

49:22at me like that. Who that person think they is? I used to do all of that. 10 times worse than what

49:31anybody could ever imagine. I don't even want to think about that anymore. I don't even want to

49:36take it there anymore. And the beauty about it is, is that no one can make me take it there.

49:43The only person that can allow that to happen is myself. See, before I thought that people were

49:49doing things to me, but they were actually doing things for me. They were teaching me a lesson

49:53about how to have some self-control, which I had none of it. And I had a conversation yesterday

49:59with somebody about self-control during this conversation. I won't name the individual

50:05because they, it's just too much. I'm not going to do that, but it was a close family member.

50:14And as close family member says that as I get older, Laren, I get angry. I get, I get, as I get

50:20older, I'm able, people were able to make me. They basically worded as they easily angered as they

50:28get older. They get easily angered. And I'm thinking to myself, well, that's just, that's

50:34incorrect because I think about my older, just think about a little child having a tantrum tantrum.

50:42I used to do that, but it didn't stop. It carried on until I was 30, 39. I didn't start to really

50:53like stop having these fits until I was like 39 years old. And I said, I'm going to get in my life,

50:58maybe 38. Last end of 38, my birthday, December, around that timeframe, December 38. I said, absolutely

51:07not 39. I was calmed down. I wasn't having major crazy tantrum tantrum, but my mouth was, it was a

51:14trip. I could bring several people down to their knees immediately. And without even raising my voice,

51:20it's just a slick words that would come out of my mouth will make a grown man cry.

51:26Not proud of it, but that's reality. So I'm thinking to myself, well, as you get older,

51:34you're easily angered. That's a problem because see, we have been commanded that our job is to have

51:42self-control. So now if you let some outside source, people, places, material things, whatever

51:49the circumstances may be, get you angered. And then easily on top of that, you already lost the

51:56game. I tell my daughters all the time, the minute that you go back and forth, round and round, debating

52:04or arguing with somebody about something that is outside of you, you've already lost the game.

52:10So once you argue and debate, go back and forth, round and round, lowering your vibration,

52:21screaming, yelling, cussing, wanting to fight somebody, you've already lost the game and you've

52:25given up your power. See, the true power comes in when you start to learn how to have self-control.

52:32And I don't care what you say. I don't care what you do. As long as you don't put your hands on me,

52:35you're not going to have me step out of my character and start becoming somebody that I know

52:41I'm not. Now I'm glad and I'm thankful and I'm proud that I'm able to say that today, but I couldn't

52:48say that before because I was everything but that. You said something, I was ready to go upside your head.

52:54You said this, I was ready to just go in and let you know. And I'll only let you know, but let

53:01everybody around you know, let the wave keep rippling until everybody knew. We don't have

53:08to do all that today. So I don't know who I'm speaking to tonight. I'm just speaking from

53:13experience, but if you're easily angered, people, peace of mind. They're just taken with all's left

53:23and right. And we are all energy. Like I said, we're all interconnected. We are all one in the same.

53:29Whenever you get angry, all that energy that you are releasing, you're giving somebody else power.

53:37That's how that works. If someone is doing something on purpose and angering you on purpose

53:42and pushing your buttons on purpose and doing things to get you angry on purpose. And if we're

53:48all energy, we're all interconnected. We are all one in the same. We're all in this universe together.

53:55When you release that good energy, you become depleted and the other person takes your energy.

54:05They're energy vampires. Now you don't have to believe me if you don't want to. Like I said,

54:11I don't know who I'm speaking to. I'm just speaking from experience, but one moment of anger

54:16gives you, I believe I had this written down. One day of anger gives you 40 days of sorrow.

54:28One minute of anger will give you 40 days of sorrow. And all you're doing is poisoning your

54:34own system. All you're doing is digging your own grave because anger, all that does is poison your

54:41system, your own system. Having said that, I'm so thankful that I'm still here

54:46because I've done enough for a lifetime. And I believe that that is the reason why

54:52I'm not easily angered today. I don't think that there's anything that anybody can do.

54:59And I'm not trying to tempt anybody because I don't want to experience it because just as I'm saying

55:03this, I do know that the older version is still within me, but the younger version of me

55:11is in control today. I have self-control today, but I'm not going to put myself in environments.

55:20I'm not going to put myself in situations where there's people who are willing to and ready to

55:25withdraw from my peace of mind because my peace of mind is everything to me. So because of that,

55:33I'm going to protect that and I'm going to nurture and I'm going to do whatever I have to do to make

55:38sure that we don't go back to where we used to be. With that, I want to say thank you all so much for

55:49joining in and hanging on in there with me tonight. I see y'all out there. Thank you so much.

55:53Again, I am on Facebook. I am on Instagram. I am on X, YouTube, TikTok, DLive, Twitch, Daily Motion.

56:00Everything is at Laren Gaines. You can head on over to LarenGaines.com. If there is anything tonight

56:06that you have heard that sparked something in you, if there's anything that you might've said,

56:12hmm, I think I might want to learn a little bit more about what he's speaking about,

56:17you can head on over to LarenGaines.com and sign up for my free 15-minute consultation.

56:21And we can sit down, have our private one-on-one conversation and see if I'm a good fit to bring

56:30you on a coaching program. Again, everything is at LarenGaines.com.

56:35Phone number 609-210-98. You can text me 609-210-98. You may also sign up for my free monthly

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57:04note, I want to say thank you so much for everybody who's been out there listening. Please like, comment,

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57:16Transformational Tuesday, same place, same time. I'll see you tomorrow. And on that note, thank you so

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