01:30His approach to psychoanalysis is the approach
01:35Sex is the strongest factor
01:41And almost the only one
01:43In the interpretation of evolution
01:46For human character
01:48Since childhood
01:50One of his students was named Erik Erikson.
01:54He disagrees with Freud
01:56At point date
01:57Sex is not the only factor
02:00To explain the evolution
02:02human behavior
02:03A new approach has begun
02:06It is a method
02:07Psychosocial
02:09He began to explain human behavior.
02:12Socially
02:14It depends on social factors.
02:18In the interpretation of human personality
02:20He says that feeling guilty
02:22It starts from the three-year stage
02:24To the five-year stage
02:26Here, this will take us to another school.
02:32School means beautiful
02:34It is a school or cognitive approach
02:39For psychoanalysis
02:42Or the cognitive school
02:44cognitive
02:46Cognitive calls it
02:47This school too
02:51I agree with Eric Ericson.
02:53Guilt begins in childhood.
02:58And it begins, of course
03:00We know
03:02When does the child know when?
03:05committed
03:06wrong order
03:09Based on the directions
03:11His parents are like him
03:12His father and mother are the ones who tell him
03:14You are doing this right
03:16If you do that, it's wrong
03:18If the child did something
03:20Against the will
03:21His parents start to feel guilty.
03:25It is born inside him from this early stage.
03:30feeling guilty
03:31The child plays the same game with his parents.
03:38For example, the child wants something
03:41His parents don't want him
03:44They satisfy this desire
03:45For example, I want a game
03:46Do you want to watch anything on TVDZONE?
03:49Then he starts screaming
03:51Until
03:52It begins
03:54Parents feel
03:57With remorse
03:58They feel guilty
04:00Because they want
04:02Mom and dad want too
04:04They are
04:05Parents sleeping together in their child's eyes
04:10They begin to submit to his desires.
04:14Here too, there is a sense of guilt on the part of the parents.
04:19The child here is playing this game on them.
04:22Although he doesn't know exactly
04:26Whether they felt guilty or not
04:28But the trick works when he starts screaming.
04:31And the sin
04:33until he submits
04:35His parents are obedient to his requests.
04:37This is where the feeling of guilt comes in.
04:41There will be a conflict between
04:42Or contradiction or clash
04:45between
04:46External code and internal code
04:48Between the inner desire of man
04:51What does he want to do?
04:52and expectations
04:54and demands
04:56External
04:58People are out
04:59the society
05:00Those around him
05:01The community around him
05:03Dot Bishara is referred to as
05:05Reference Group
05:07Since childhood
05:09family
05:10This small family is
05:12Reference Group for Children
05:14But everything that grows
05:16This circle
05:17It's beautiful
05:18Reference Group, that means
05:19The thing that he measures by
05:22The scale that measures it
05:24His actions
05:25If he did that
05:27I wonder
05:28His mother's father
05:29They will be pleased with him
05:30no
05:31When he grows up
05:32Reference Group D
05:34It expands
05:35Including
05:36friends at school
05:37It includes
05:38the society
05:39Everything will grow up
05:40And so on
05:41The child since childhood
05:43When it remains
05:44Delete it
05:45The first is
05:46satisfaction
05:47others
05:48Here it is called
05:50people pleaser
05:51He wants to kill people by any means
05:54Because he doesn't want to
05:56He doesn't want them to be angry with him
05:58I don't want them to be
06:00Take a side of it
06:01They abandon him
06:02Therefore
06:04His actions remain
06:06Just because it gets him
06:08Their satisfaction
06:09For example
06:10if
06:11They will go out for lunch, for example.
06:13Or have dinner outside
06:14Always
06:15for example
06:16Satisfied
06:17What are they going to build?
06:18They will be destroyed
06:19For example
06:20He agrees to
06:21He eats
06:22Like them
06:23They want to go to the cinema
06:24What movie are you going to watch?
06:25He sees them
06:26What movie do they want to watch?
06:28And all along he is
06:29OK
06:30He has no opinion
06:31he
06:32continued
06:33to them
06:34He is
06:35Just because
06:37I just want
06:38He gets
06:39Their satisfaction
06:40That's it
06:41I sacrifice
06:42You can
06:43Grow up with him
06:44Even when
06:45When it starts
06:46in
06:47He reaches the age of
06:48youth
06:49Known as Bint
06:50here
06:52His first goal remains
06:53The only one
06:54To get
06:55Her satisfaction
06:56And sometimes
06:58The other party
07:00especially
07:01If it was a party
07:02attractive
07:03It means beautiful
07:04He is trying
07:05exploit
07:06First party
07:08Here
07:09First party
07:10he
07:11The man who wants
07:12Satisfies
07:13woman
07:14Or vice versa
07:15The woman who is
07:16I want to please the man
07:17That's it
07:18here
07:19They fall
07:20Or they might fall into something called
07:22Submissive Behavior
07:23Submissive Behavior
07:24Submissive Behavior
07:25He can do anything to please her.
07:28Here you can take advantage of it
07:30For example
07:31If he had a car
07:33You can use him to carry out all her errands.
07:37Or he gives it as a gift
07:40etc.
07:41While the submissive behavior
07:45He thinks he is getting close to her
07:48But
07:49Psychologists say
07:50This behavior makes her further away from him than ever.
07:54And quiet exploited
07:56Of course, I am saying here that men and women can be
08:00The situation may be the opposite.
08:02And they say
08:04Funny thing
08:06Funny thing here
08:07The most appropriate way
08:09To treat this person
08:11Attractive too
08:12Very attractive
08:13He says that he thinks highly of himself
08:15A very beautiful one and she thinks very highly of herself
08:18The most appropriate method
08:19To deal with it
08:21In two ways, I mean
08:23They are very close to each other.
08:25Or you deteriorate the length of the first step and the second step
08:27The first step is called
08:29Or technique, they say about it
08:31Hawar
08:33And Discualify
08:35Technique
08:36Hawar means a female who appears to her
08:38It appears to her to mean
08:40If she is, for example
08:42for example
08:44Stop in the street or in class
08:46Or trying to show
08:48Don't walk in front of her
08:50Stop somewhere and she'll still see you
08:52Just turn your back on her
08:54So that it does not differ from you
08:56I'm not interested in it
08:58Here she is trying to
09:00It means to attract your attention
09:02The other way they call it
09:04Qualifine and
09:06Discualifine
09:08Which is qualification and non-qualification
09:10It means that if there is a chance
09:12For example, to talk, if one, for example
09:14The ultimate in blonde attractiveness
09:16There is nothing wrong with it
09:18He tells her, for example,
09:20You are amazing
09:22You are great but I don't like you
09:24Go out with the blonde
09:26Here, all she cares about is
09:28He gets
09:30satisfaction
09:32Psychologists say that man
09:34When you admire someone
09:36What is thrown at him?
09:38His behavior will not remain
09:40It is submissive behavior.
09:42He is a submissive person
09:44And humiliated
09:46He does anything just because
09:48Satisfies the other party
09:50exploits it
09:52They say
09:54This means
09:56Need means behavior
09:58No one recommends him
10:00There are other types
10:02to feel guilty
10:04For example
10:06Guilt is
10:08First thing
10:10The result of an action you actually committed
10:12You really know you made a mistake
10:14It is natural that you feel guilty.
10:16This is normal and supposed to be the case.
10:18This is a healthy thing.
10:20The second need
10:22he
10:24feeling guilty about something
10:26You didn't do it
10:28But you want to commit it
10:30For example
10:32I got a story
10:34It means Jimmy Carter
10:36former US President
10:38It's from the seventies.
10:40He was a witness
10:42On signature
10:44peace
10:46Between Sadat and Manah
10:48Beijing
10:50It was very friendly
10:52very
10:54But
10:56I confess
10:58Ban
11:00There was a certain woman
11:02He craved her and was always thinking about her.
11:04He was craving her in his mind.
11:06He felt guilty.
11:08For this
11:10For this reason
11:12It means
11:14Here
11:22Psychologists say
11:24If a human being
11:26It means exhibition
11:28For this kind of guilt
11:30He has to use one of Freud's methods.
11:34Her name is
11:36Reproduction
11:38And Denail
11:40Repression means that
11:42He is trying
11:44He suppresses this feeling of guilt.
11:46All that is pushed to the surface
11:48He suppresses it
11:50The other trick
11:52Or the other way
11:54This is the dynail method.
11:56Which is rejection
11:58denial
12:00He says no I
12:02I don't feel guilty
12:04I don't feel guilty at all
12:06He refuses and denies it
12:08Like someone who smokes cigarettes, for example
12:10There is someone who is a hundred years old
12:12And he smokes
12:14He tries to refuse
12:16The idea from the beginning
12:18The third type
12:20from feeling guilty
12:22It is the feeling resulting from
12:24About something
12:26You didn't do it
12:28It means
12:30Or you didn't do it
12:32You did it
12:34It means
12:36For example, if you are thinking
12:38thinking of a specific person
12:40A certain person is successful
12:42Thinking badly about him
12:44brings him bad luck
12:46Meaning, he thinks about him and wishes him well, for example.
12:48He fails
12:50some bad accidents
12:52or something like that
12:54As we say in our region
12:56We say envy
12:58Envy is
13:00wishing for the blessing to go away
13:02The blessing of others
13:04It means wishing for the blessing of others to be taken away
13:06It is the same
13:08What they call it in English
13:10It means he is bringing
13:12bad luck
13:14For another person
13:16He doesn't like it
13:18He is a hypocrite
13:20Something happens to him
13:22Not good
13:24It means it starts
13:26feel guilty
13:28He feels that
13:30Because he wished him bad
13:32In it
13:34Because he wished him bad
13:36in his mind
13:38This really happened to him.
13:40He begins to feel guilty.
13:42Although it may not be
13:44He has no interest in the subject
13:46The fourth type is
13:48feelings
13:50You feel that you are
13:52Andani Navi was not afraid
13:54If you helped a person
13:56But it didn't help him enough.
13:58For example, a friend of yours
14:00It means it was
14:02He is going through a crisis
14:04And you helped him
14:06One, two, and ten
14:08And you couldn't help him more
14:10From this point on
14:12In the end, he is
14:14He suffered setbacks
14:16Certain means
14:18You start to feel guilty here.
14:20On the side
14:22Because you help a certain person a lot
14:24It may come to you
14:26a time
14:28You will get something called
14:30Compassion Fatage
14:32Which is exhaustion
14:34And fatigue
14:36Too much sympathy
14:38with the affected person
14:40The last type
14:42from feeling guilty
14:44It is you
14:46You feel that
14:48You did something better than others
14:50For example
14:52All your sisters, for example
14:54University dropout
14:56For example, it means
14:58You are the only person who went to university
15:00You feel guilty here if you
15:02It means that you are better than them
15:04And if you have better opportunities than them
15:06They did not get these opportunities
15:08I mean a person, for example
15:10Responsible for survival or rescue
15:12for example
15:14Extinguishing a fire, for example
15:16firefighter
15:18Rescue Officer
15:20For example, people are in a fire.
15:22But failed to save
15:24A person here
15:26feel guilty etc
15:28These are the five types
15:30from
15:32Types of guilt
15:34The five
15:36In the story we try to see
15:38The hero
15:40The hero of the story
15:42The guilt that I feel is haunting me.
15:44Which of these five types does it belong to?
15:46Psychologists say that
15:48It also means
15:50About five ways
15:52To deal
15:54with guilt
15:56The first thing is that you
15:58facing reality
16:00Face the reality that you are
16:02You really did something
16:04You made a stand
16:06specific
16:08If you are
16:10You deny that you did this
16:12You actually did it and are facing reality.
16:14second person
16:15You are trying to understand why you acted like this.
16:18Why did you say what you said?
16:20Why did you do this?
16:22You face reality
16:24And you are trying to understand why you acted this way
16:26Third year
16:28The third thing is that you tell the people who were harmed and hurt as a result of your actions. You tell them, explain to them why you did it, and apologize to them, of course.
16:40And see what can be done to fix the mistake that happened. This is the fourth step.
16:47Step five is that you make a pledge to yourself that you will not repeat this wrong action again.
16:57Ah, these are the five steps. Ah, this is a very, very quick overview of guilt. Ah, we are now trying to explain the story to you quickly.
17:10Think of your duty as you think of your right, and work for the sake of perfection, not for the sake of fame and reward.
17:24Do not expect more from people than they have the right to expect from you.
