Ever heard this in a relationship? “I never asked you to do that.”
What they don’t realize is:
💔 You did it because you wanted to love them deeply.
💭 You paid attention. You anticipated.
But when it’s not reciprocated, it creates emotional imbalance—and quiet resentment.
In this video, we dive deep into:
✅ Emotional accountability in relationships
✅ The truth about expectations (yes, they’re healthy!)
✅ Why reciprocity, transparency & respect matter
✅ How to stop people-pleasing and start healing
✨ Follow for real talk on healing, attachment styles, and building emotionally safe relationships.
🎯 Watch this if you’re done with one-sided love.
🧠 Let’s build conscious, balanced relationships together.
What they don’t realize is:
💔 You did it because you wanted to love them deeply.
💭 You paid attention. You anticipated.
But when it’s not reciprocated, it creates emotional imbalance—and quiet resentment.
In this video, we dive deep into:
✅ Emotional accountability in relationships
✅ The truth about expectations (yes, they’re healthy!)
✅ Why reciprocity, transparency & respect matter
✅ How to stop people-pleasing and start healing
✨ Follow for real talk on healing, attachment styles, and building emotionally safe relationships.
🎯 Watch this if you’re done with one-sided love.
🧠 Let’s build conscious, balanced relationships together.
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00:00I hate it when someone says, I never asked you to do that.
00:05Well, maybe you never had to ask me to do that because I never made you ask me to do that.
00:13I never put you in a position where you had to ask me for that.
00:19I just knew based on the way that you feel loved and cared for and heard and seen that
00:27this was something that I should do and it's something that I want to do because my end
00:33goal is to make sure that I love you the way that you feel loved.
00:37My end goal is to anticipate your needs and instead of making you feel like you have to
00:45ask for them, I put in the effort and the initiative and do them myself.
00:52I never want to put you in a position where you feel like you are burdening me or you
01:00feel like, especially after saying it once or twice or three times, that I'm not being
01:07responsive or not, I'm not paying attention.
01:10I never want to put you in a position like that.
01:13But I feel like when people say, I never asked you to do that, it's a way for them to escape
01:20accountability, it's a way for them to escape the truth that relationships, whether they
01:27are romantic, whether they are friendships, family relationships, at work, whatever, have
01:34an inherent right to having expectations.
01:41And you hear so many people saying things like, well, when you have expectations, that's
01:47going to open the door to disappointment.
01:48And if you really have expectations of someone, then it's not really genuine.
01:53I completely disagree with that because I think part of having a healthy relationship of any
01:59kind is understanding that there are expectations of both sides.
02:06Most importantly, expectations of respect, expectations of reciprocity, expectations of transparency,
02:16expectations of agreement on the dynamic between the two people.
02:24Otherwise, what's going to happen is you're going to have a really unbalanced connection with
02:30someone because when one person is, you know, really introspective and pays a lot of attention
02:40and thinks, what can I do to make sure that this person feels heard and seen and respected
02:47and valued and, and they put that initiative and then the other person doesn't do that because
02:52they think, well, you can't have expectations of me, then it creates a lot of resentment.