- 11/28/2023
Roshni Sab Kay Liye
Topic: Waldain ki Zimmedarian
Host: Prof. Sumair Ahmed
Guest: Dr. Muhammad Ahmed Qadri, Mufti Muhammad Sohail Raza Amjadi
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Topic: Waldain ki Zimmedarian
Host: Prof. Sumair Ahmed
Guest: Dr. Muhammad Ahmed Qadri, Mufti Muhammad Sohail Raza Amjadi
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00:00 Quran-e-Hakeem, Sirat-ul-Nabi (SAW)
00:04 Ahadith-e-Mubarka, Fiqh-e-Wasayr-e-Bayan
00:07 and many more, God willing, with the best of scholars.
00:11 All praise is due to Allah, Lord of the worlds.
00:22 All praise is due to Allah, the Most High, the Most High.
00:24 Who is our Creator, our Master, our Sustainer.
00:27 All praise is due to Allah, the Most High, the Most High.
00:32 Who is our Creator, our Master, our Sustainer.
00:35 Allahumma salli 'ala Sayyidina wa Mawlana Muhammadin
00:39 wa 'ala aali Sayyidina wa Mawlana Muhammadin
00:42 wa barik wa sallim.
00:43 Respected viewers, Assalam-o-Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu.
00:46 I am your host, Sumair Ahmed.
00:48 You are watching the program, Roshni Sad.
00:52 Viewers, Islam is a complete system of life.
00:57 And Islam is seen to be a perfect guide in all aspects of life,
01:02 in all aspects of life, in all aspects, in all aspects.
01:07 At the same time, a very important system associated with this system of life,
01:12 which we call the family system.
01:15 Islam has also introduced this family system in a very good way.
01:19 And when we observe this family system,
01:22 then this family system seems incomplete without parents and children.
01:29 Certainly, both these relations are the most important and fundamental pillars of this family system.
01:35 It has been seen that in a society in which parents and children,
01:39 children, the rights of each other are fulfilled in the correct way,
01:42 in the light of the Quran and Hadith, and according to knowledge,
01:46 such a family becomes exemplary and exemplary.
01:50 And if this family system continues,
01:54 then a beautiful, exemplary, exemplary society is created.
02:00 We see that in terms of parents, in terms of service to parents,
02:04 in terms of obedience to parents,
02:07 and in terms of the principles of serving parents,
02:11 a lot of talk is done on this.
02:13 You also observe in different programs.
02:15 But relatively, it has been seen that the responsibilities of parents,
02:20 talk is a little less on this.
02:22 Content does not reach us in that way.
02:24 And as a result, we are seeing that today in our society,
02:27 we see that parents are not familiar with the parenting tips,
02:31 parenting skills, the principles of parenting.
02:36 And then what is happening is that our youth today,
02:39 today's children are being victimized.
02:41 We see that parents complain.
02:43 And you feel the need to present such a program,
02:48 in which the responsibilities of parents are as per the Quran and Hadith,
02:52 this light, this knowledge should be conveyed to you,
02:55 so that you can, according to the knowledge of the Quran and Hadith,
02:58 as responsible parents,
03:00 can train your children in a good way,
03:02 so that a better Islamic society can be formed.
03:05 In this regard, you are watching this program,
03:07 and the topic is the responsibilities of parents.
03:10 To talk, the two most distinguished figures of the Islamic world,
03:14 have come at this time,
03:15 Sahibaan-e-il-Mudanish, I will say for Mufti sahib,
03:18 without exaggeration,
03:20 that some figures, certainly the viewers, are such,
03:23 are of such perfection,
03:24 that for their introduction, you see the words are sometimes weak.
03:28 You are not dependent on any introduction,
03:30 the viewers who see you all over the world,
03:32 listen to your conversation,
03:33 try to act on it,
03:35 and that is why, the way you,
03:37 with the knowledge of the Quran and Hadith,
03:39 are making our hearts,
03:40 the hearts of the viewers who see you from all over the world,
03:42 beautiful.
03:43 Everyone presents you with love and respect.
03:45 With us is Mufti Muhammad Suhail Lazaamzadi sahib,
03:47 Qibla, Salam-o-Alaikum.
03:48 Wa-alaikum-salam,
03:49 Rahmatullah-e-barakatuh.
03:50 May the best of your life be with you, Mufti sahib.
03:52 JazakAllah.
03:53 And please come with yourself,
03:55 a personality,
03:56 who has a deep connection with your lessons and teachings.
03:59 I think that you are that personality of the country of Pakistan,
04:02 and the Islamic world,
04:03 who has, for the propagation of knowledge,
04:06 and the hearts of the students and students,
04:09 to beautify the hearts of Allah and His Messenger,
04:12 the character that you have presented,
04:14 the dedication that you have presented,
04:16 and the life with which,
04:17 Alhamdulillah,
04:18 you have dedicated many years of your life,
04:20 for the propagation of Islam,
04:22 for the propagation and the propagation.
04:23 Not just me,
04:24 all of us,
04:25 all of you who see him,
04:26 like him,
04:27 present him with love and respect,
04:28 and I would like to say this without exaggeration,
04:30 great scholars,
04:31 great Muftis,
04:32 scholars,
04:33 I meet them on the spot,
04:34 and you can consider them,
04:35 that they proudly tell us,
04:36 that they are our Ustads.
04:37 We have received a lot of blessings from them.
04:39 We have with us,
04:40 Dr. Muhammad Ahmed Qadri Sahib.
04:42 Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu.
04:44 Walaikumussalam Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu.
04:45 Thank you very much,
04:46 JazakAllah.
04:47 Viewers, the topic is very important,
04:48 and without delay,
04:49 I would like to move on to the topic.
04:51 All the parents who are watching us right now,
04:54 I would like to request them,
04:55 that you have to listen to the conversation,
04:59 understand it,
05:00 and try to act on it.
05:02 And before that,
05:03 I would like to ask the first question to the Mufti,
05:05 Alhamdulillah,
05:06 you are watching this program of ARYQ TV,
05:09 and other programs,
05:11 and if it repeats,
05:13 you can watch it.
05:15 But along with this,
05:16 Alhamdulillah,
05:17 you can watch this program of ARYQ TV,
05:20 and other programs on digital media,
05:22 which includes Facebook,
05:24 YouTube,
05:25 and all other social sites,
05:27 especially our website,
05:29 www.aryqtv.tv
05:32 Alhamdulillah,
05:33 you can watch all these Islamic programs.
05:35 The first question,
05:36 I would like to ask you,
05:38 that earning is definitely one of the responsibilities of a father,
05:42 but in this day and age,
05:43 it is also being observed,
05:45 that children are put to work.
05:48 With this in mind,
05:49 I would like to ask you to say something.
05:51 In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
05:53 O Allah, bless our master and master Muhammad,
05:57 and his family and his companions,
05:59 and bless them.
06:01 Kibla Sumedh Sahib,
06:03 you gave a very strong introduction.
06:07 JazakAllah.
06:08 The conversation you gave.
06:10 The thing is that,
06:11 we have a very big gap here.
06:15 In the world,
06:17 will you find anyone,
06:20 who will say,
06:21 "Brother, take your right."
06:23 You will not find anyone like that.
06:25 The whole world is ready for this,
06:29 that we should get our rights.
06:32 Wherever you are in the world,
06:35 whether you are in Pakistan or anywhere else,
06:37 if there is a protest going on somewhere,
06:39 and they have put up banners,
06:42 then you will see this written on it,
06:44 that whoever has a right on us,
06:46 come and take it.
06:48 But this will be written,
06:50 that give us our rights.
06:52 This chaos,
06:54 this fight,
06:55 this disorder,
06:56 this disorder,
06:57 the root of all this is this,
06:59 that give us our rights.
07:01 The whole world and the people of the world,
07:03 are saying that give us our rights.
07:06 Give us our rights.
07:08 But what did my Prophet (PBUH) say?
07:12 These are the words,
07:14 the general and meaningful words.
07:16 That is,
07:17 a few sentences,
07:18 but the river is closed in a pot.
07:21 What did he say?
07:22 "Fa'atu kulla zee haqqin haqqa"
07:26 O my Ummati,
07:27 give every right holder his rights.
07:30 Islam says,
07:32 give rights.
07:34 The people of the world say,
07:35 take rights.
07:36 This is what the fight is about.
07:38 If everyone, including me,
07:40 What a beautiful beginning, Mufti Saab.
07:42 Sumer Bhai,
07:43 if you and all of us,
07:45 including me,
07:46 become those who give rights,
07:48 then tell me,
07:49 that there will come a time,
07:51 when no one will take rights.
07:53 Allahu Akbar.
07:54 I will tell you a glimpse of this.
07:57 In the era of Farooq-e-Azam (R.A)
08:00 who used to give rights to the right holders,
08:03 a time came,
08:05 when the money for Zakat is kept,
08:08 but no one is taking it,
08:10 poor or poor.
08:11 Subhanallah.
08:12 This is the reason,
08:14 that we have learned this right,
08:16 give, give, give,
08:17 I don't know from where.
08:19 This is the reason,
08:20 that if you separate parents today,
08:23 and ask,
08:24 tell me,
08:25 that your children,
08:28 will tell you many shortcomings.
08:31 They don't ask me.
08:33 If you separate children,
08:35 then they will also say,
08:37 what did the father do for us?
08:39 What did the mother do for us?
08:41 Even if you separate husband and wife,
08:44 and ask,
08:45 they will also say the same.
08:47 He didn't do anything.
08:49 Our desire and effort is to take away the rights.
08:53 This is the reason,
08:54 that there are fights.
08:56 Even in parents and children,
08:58 we see this gap.
09:00 Allah.
09:01 In the Holy Quran and Hadith,
09:03 my Prophet (PBUH)
09:05 has given very clear statements.
09:07 See, the Quran is the word of Allah.
09:10 No doubt.
09:11 But no one was told in a dream,
09:13 that the Quran is the word of Allah.
09:16 It is the word of my Prophet (PBUH)
09:19 and the Hadith and Sunnah of the Prophet
09:22 are the same.
09:24 So we can't separate them.
09:27 Now see in the Quran,
09:29 in the Quran and Hadith,
09:32 it is not that after coming into this world,
09:36 it is not like that.
09:38 When the child is born,
09:40 in the mother's womb,
09:42 then the expenses of that time
09:44 are not the responsibility of anyone else,
09:47 but the responsibility of the father.
09:49 Allah.
09:50 (Arabic)
09:54 What happens in our society?
09:56 If the in-laws are rich,
09:58 where the wife is pregnant,
10:00 and has made different rituals,
10:02 "Go to your mother's house."
10:04 And all the expenses are put
10:06 in their responsibility.
10:08 This is not right.
10:10 This is an insult.
10:12 Whenever you go against the fitrah,
10:15 you will always collide
10:17 and destruction will occur.
10:19 So the expenses of that time
10:21 are also the responsibility of the father.
10:23 So much so that when the child is born,
10:25 all the expenses of the birth,
10:27 this is a different thing,
10:29 according to his ability.
10:31 You will not fight with him,
10:33 that in this hospital,
10:35 according to his ability.
10:37 This is also the responsibility of the father.
10:39 So much so that after the birth of a child,
10:41 when it is the stage of feeding,
10:43 the stage of upbringing,
10:45 then the responsibility of feeding milk,
10:48 if the mother does not feed milk,
10:50 she is also feeding milk to another woman,
10:52 then her responsibility,
10:54 her expenses are also the responsibility of the father,
10:56 not someone else.
10:58 (Arabic)
11:02 Subhanallah.
11:03 The one who is born to him,
11:05 "Molood" means son,
11:07 "Molood Lahu" means the son,
11:09 that is, the father is responsible for his livelihood,
11:11 his eating, drinking, dressing,
11:13 all this is the responsibility of the father.
11:15 Yes, it is so important that
11:17 according to his ability.
11:19 Right?
11:21 After this, you see that
11:23 the stage of feeding milk is over,
11:25 it has progressed for two years,
11:27 from that time until the child
11:29 does not grow up, does not grow up,
11:31 does not become intelligent,
11:33 all his responsibility,
11:35 the Holy Prophet (pbuh) has said in the Hadeeth-e-Pak,
11:37 that it is the responsibility of the father.
11:39 Allah.
11:41 The Holy Prophet (pbuh) has said that
11:43 the best dinar is that
11:45 which a man spends on his children.
11:47 Wow.
11:49 You understand this,
11:51 I am trying to say in the context of culture,
11:53 that if children are put to work,
11:55 then their upbringing will be garbage.
11:57 No.
11:59 Their education and training,
12:01 their school, college and university
12:03 will be garbage, nothing will happen.
12:05 How will a child become a miracle person
12:07 when he grows up?
12:09 He cannot become in the society.
12:11 In fact, the personality is damaged.
12:13 He will not be capable of anything.
12:15 And then to make children work,
12:17 do you have any weakness?
12:19 You mean like this?
12:21 That is, to understand it this way,
12:23 that to spend the whole day at home,
12:25 to make your wife and children work,
12:27 I think there is no bigger misfortune than this.
12:29 Allahu Akbar.
12:31 Viewers, after the break,
12:33 we will meet Dr. Sahab.
12:35 We see that parents
12:37 are brought up in a good way,
12:39 but in religious terms,
12:41 their responsibilities
12:43 are not fulfilled in the right way.
12:45 We will answer this question
12:47 from Dr. Sahab.
12:49 Viewers, we will meet you after the break.
12:51 Welcome back, viewers.
12:53 After the break,
12:55 we have a program for everyone.
12:57 And the topic we are discussing today
12:59 is the responsibilities of parents.
13:01 Before the break, I had asked a question
13:03 to Dr. Sahab.
13:05 Dr. Sahab, we see from many perspectives
13:07 that parents seem to be working very hard.
13:09 That is, they have to groom them professionally,
13:11 they have to raise them in a worldly way,
13:13 they have to take care of their clothes,
13:15 they have to take care of their food.
13:17 That is, from all the perspectives
13:19 which are related to worldly matters,
13:21 parents seem to be working very hard.
13:23 But from a religious perspective,
13:25 they have to make the child a good Muslim,
13:27 and parents seem to be fulfilling their responsibilities
13:29 in that way. What do you say?
13:31 I seek refuge with Allah from Satan, the accursed.
13:33 In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Ever Merciful.
13:35 O Allah, send peace and blessings upon the beloved
13:37 of all creation.
13:39 O beloved of the chosen one,
13:41 inform us of our objectives and forgive us our sins.
13:43 Ameen.
13:45 I am still lost in the conversation
13:47 of my brother,
13:49 respected Dr. Allama Mufti Suhail Raza Amjaddi.
13:51 Same to you, sir.
13:53 And the truth is that
13:55 the beautiful way
13:57 in which he was able to
13:59 create a balance in the conversation,
14:01 may Allah grant him peace.
14:03 May Allah keep him healthy and well.
14:05 Your father is a well-educated man,
14:07 and your father is also a knowledgeable person.
14:09 SubhanAllah.
14:11 So, I think
14:13 that the father who has
14:15 brought up his son,
14:17 I will start here,
14:19 the upbringing is evident in the children.
14:21 What a relevance Dr. Suhail Raza Amjaddi has made.
14:23 I am a fan of the upbringing,
14:25 and I have a connection with love.
14:27 And the intellectual
14:29 is passed on from generation to generation
14:31 as a treasure.
14:33 And the Quran has said
14:35 to give the treasures. So how will you give them?
14:37 By teaching
14:39 the truth to your children,
14:41 by teaching the Quran,
14:43 love for religion, preparation for the hereafter,
14:45 and the maturity of the
14:47 way in which the life
14:49 has to be lived in the generations.
14:51 Even an animal can live life.
14:53 Allah is the greatest.
14:55 So, just living life,
14:57 putting moments as per your will,
14:59 is not life.
15:01 Life is the name of following.
15:03 And that is why it is said to be obedience.
15:05 So, when the Quran and Sunnah
15:07 become a part of personality,
15:09 and there is a balance in life,
15:11 and in that balance,
15:15 the natural
15:17 condition of a person,
15:19 and moral values,
15:21 all of them
15:23 become a part of your life,
15:25 then
15:27 there is no need for authenticity.
15:29 Allah is the greatest.
15:31 Otherwise, there are many people with degrees,
15:33 everyday, I don't know how many people
15:35 would have attained authenticity.
15:37 But knowledge, which has been interpreted
15:39 as wisdom, and knowledge,
15:41 which has been interpreted as morality,
15:43 and knowledge of Sufism has been called
15:45 knowledge of morality, because
15:47 the name of the balance between
15:49 morality and morality is training.
15:51 SubhanAllah.
15:53 Doctor, you are saying that
15:55 there is no need to tell about flowers,
15:57 their fragrance is enough.
15:59 If the author says that it is fragrance,
16:01 then it is useless.
16:03 SubhanAllah.
16:05 Now, if I make my child a Hafiz-e-Quran,
16:07 I want a lot of forgiveness,
16:09 but I am saying it openly.
16:11 Because we have sat on the
16:13 mattress of Madrasas and
16:15 we have straightened our shoes,
16:17 then Allah has given us respect.
16:19 We are not among the deprived.
16:21 Allah has said a lot.
16:23 And this feeling of inferiority,
16:25 remove it from your mind that
16:27 if my child becomes a Hafiz-e-Quran,
16:29 then he will beg somewhere.
16:31 Hafiz-e-Quran, which my Lord
16:33 gives His knowledge with His blessings,
16:35 He does not ask, He distributes.
16:37 The concept of inferiority
16:39 that has been imagined in our society,
16:41 throw this feeling of inferiority
16:43 out of your mind.
16:45 Secondly, the Quran that you are reading,
16:47 the one that you are reciting,
16:49 how can it be that his prayers
16:51 are being accepted in the heavens
16:53 and Allah has kept him deprived?
16:55 And now modern science has proved
16:57 that the memory that is in your mind,
16:59 the cells in your brain,
17:01 the cells of memory,
17:03 when they are activated,
17:05 and they are activated with a repeat,
17:07 and they are activated with a special
17:09 photogenic communication,
17:11 and they are activated with a special
17:13 communication,
17:15 and those cells are strengthened in that way,
17:17 then that memory,
17:19 compared to that which
17:21 the people of social sciences,
17:23 the people of psychology,
17:25 who go through the learning process,
17:27 when we test,
17:29 the child who listens to a thing repeatedly,
17:31 and does it, and does it, and does it,
17:33 his cells are stronger
17:35 compared to those who do not have
17:37 this opportunity.
17:39 The person who remembers,
17:41 the child who remembers,
17:43 the small child who is speaking
17:45 and when he reads
17:47 the name of Allah,
17:49 then Allah's support is there
17:51 with the will of Allah,
17:53 when he memorizes the Quran,
17:55 in 8 years, in 7 years,
17:57 in 9 years, his ability to speak,
17:59 his way of speaking,
18:01 his tone, his communication,
18:03 and then after that,
18:05 a skill of Arabic language comes
18:07 and English is nothing,
18:09 if you work hard, in 6 months,
18:11 you will be able to speak English,
18:13 but the one who has the knowledge of the people of Jannah,
18:15 the one who has the presence of Allah,
18:17 his time has come,
18:19 and then, what was said,
18:21 "Wa bil Walideen Ahsana"
18:23 so which parents are these?
18:25 These are the parents who have the awareness of this,
18:27 and these are the parents
18:29 who have the responsibility of this,
18:31 that tomorrow I have to go back,
18:33 so to reach my trust to society,
18:35 so that I keep this in my mind,
18:37 that from my side,
18:39 send it to people,
18:41 even if it is just a sign,
18:43 so which is the biggest sign?
18:45 These are the righteous children,
18:47 who make the words of Allah and the Prophet,
18:49 and the actions, a part of their lives,
18:51 and tell them that this is how the believers live.
18:53 Subhan Allah, Subhan Allah,
18:55 and viewers,
18:57 I have to say with a very sad heart,
18:59 unfortunately, we see in this age,
19:01 that parents complain,
19:03 that their children are standing against them,
19:05 Mr. Mushti,
19:07 what is the mistake,
19:09 what responsibilities do you have to take care of,
19:11 what is the problem,
19:13 how are parents
19:15 moving away from their responsibilities,
19:17 that as a result,
19:19 we see children in many places,
19:21 in many places,
19:23 we heard this complaint from parents,
19:25 that their own children are standing against them,
19:27 what do you say?
19:29 See,
19:31 I will say this first,
19:33 Dr. Sahib, MashaAllah,
19:35 has defined this in a very beautiful way,
19:37 I will say this in a way,
19:39 that I will divide it into some parts,
19:41 number one is that,
19:43 there is a class,
19:45 especially of the father,
19:47 who does not spend on the children,
19:49 right?
19:51 They do not earn,
19:53 they just leave it on the children,
19:55 leave it on the wife,
19:57 so obviously,
19:59 the children,
20:01 whom we call the obligations,
20:03 are being taken away from them,
20:05 and they will be a serious sinner,
20:07 and they are not fulfilling their role
20:09 in the upbringing of the child,
20:11 in that too,
20:13 they will be a serious sinner.
20:15 There is a class,
20:17 a group,
20:19 in the form of parents,
20:21 especially in the form of the father,
20:23 who spend without reason,
20:25 in the Quran,
20:27 according to their ability,
20:29 on their children.
20:31 In fact, there is a pure hadith,
20:33 that the Prophet (pbuh) said,
20:35 there was an Arab,
20:37 he said, O Prophet of Allah,
20:39 if I have one dinar,
20:41 spend it on the children,
20:43 if I have more,
20:45 spend it on the wife,
20:47 if I have more,
20:49 spend it on your servant,
20:51 if I have more,
20:53 then give me what you think is appropriate,
20:55 because the Prophet (pbuh) earns,
20:57 so that he can send his children,
20:59 this is a charity,
21:01 so that he can send his children,
21:03 so he said,
21:05 that he should not raise his hands in front of anyone,
21:07 and he should treat his neighbors with kindness,
21:09 so he said,
21:11 that Allah (swt)
21:13 for this deed,
21:15 will give a good life to his children,
21:17 and will make his children rich,
21:19 this is in its place.
21:21 But there is a class,
21:23 that whatever the children ask for,
21:25 give them,
21:27 but do not give them Islamic teachings,
21:29 do not give them religious training,
21:31 everything is ready to give,
21:33 except Islam,
21:35 in the best school,
21:37 in the best college,
21:39 in the best university,
21:41 even if it costs millions,
21:43 why don't you spend millions in a semester,
21:45 why don't you spend it on your salary,
21:47 why don't you spend it on your earnings,
21:49 why don't you have to sell anything,
21:51 but do your children offer prayers or not,
21:53 have my children become,
21:55 the true servants of Allah,
21:57 or the true servants of Allah,
21:59 have they become the true,
22:01 honest, and sincere followers of the Prophet (pbuh)
22:03 or not,
22:05 there is no sorrow on this,
22:07 there is no worry,
22:09 the people who complain,
22:11 when they come to us,
22:13 they complain,
22:15 that those who have arranged for education,
22:17 but not for training,
22:19 then tell me,
22:21 that whatever you sow,
22:23 you will say that wheat has sprouted,
22:25 how is this possible,
22:27 whatever you sow,
22:29 that will sprout,
22:31 that will be cut,
22:33 and you will be benefited from that,
22:35 usually,
22:37 you lie in front of the child,
22:39 you betray the children,
22:41 in front of the child,
22:43 the parents fight with each other,
22:45 and the whole neighborhood,
22:47 is fighting,
22:49 in front of the child,
22:51 all these things,
22:53 prayers are not the same,
22:55 you are doing all the wrong things,
22:57 so I will say with great responsibility,
22:59 that the father is ideal for his son,
23:01 and the mother is ideal for her daughter,
23:03 whatever he will learn from you,
23:05 is a pure plant,
23:07 as you give water,
23:09 it will be made,
23:11 whatever you are teaching him,
23:13 because they say,
23:15 that whatever a person,
23:17 whatever he says,
23:19 especially the parents,
23:21 the children do not do what they say,
23:23 the children do what the parents do,
23:25 so through your practice,
23:27 through your exercise,
23:29 you are filling all the wrong things,
23:31 in his empty vessel,
23:33 so when he grows up,
23:35 he will take the same eggs,
23:37 that are filled in it,
23:39 for God's sake,
23:41 take care of your children's upbringing,
23:43 in school,
23:45 in college,
23:47 in university,
23:49 education is given,
23:51 but upbringing is the mother's lap,
23:53 it is the father's role,
23:55 and my Prophet (PBUH) said,
23:57 that the children,
23:59 that the parents give,
24:01 the best thing,
24:03 nothing is better than this,
24:05 that is to teach them manners,
24:07 Allah,
24:09 and whatever the Mufti said,
24:11 I understood the summary of the book,
24:13 that the Mufti is saying to you,
24:15 to all the parents,
24:17 you have to be the one,
24:19 what you wish your kids to be,
24:21 if you want to make your children,
24:23 first you have to become that,
24:25 it is not possible,
24:27 that you lie,
24:29 and expect from your children,
24:31 that they will be honest,
24:33 and honest,
24:35 and will speak the truth,
24:37 and will cut the way they sow,
24:39 if you are misbehaving with your parents,
24:41 then your children will be good,
24:43 and will be obedient,
24:45 Allah is great,
24:47 viewers,
24:49 actions speak louder than words,
24:51 your actions,
24:53 teach your children,
24:55 what you say,
24:57 it does not teach,
24:59 if you want to make your children,
25:01 you have to be a worshipper,
25:03 if you want to make them honest,
25:05 you have to speak the truth,
25:07 we are going to have a discussion,
25:09 a very important question,
25:11 I will talk to the doctor after the break,
25:13 see you right after this short break,
25:15 welcome back viewers,
25:17 a very important, very relevant topic,
25:19 is being discussed today,
25:21 I am talking for Puraham Roshni,
25:23 on the responsibilities of parents,
25:25 we see that there are many places,
25:27 many places,
25:29 many branches,
25:31 where parents fulfill their responsibilities,
25:33 in a way,
25:35 and as a result,
25:37 we get disobedience in our children,
25:39 disobedience,
25:41 but we want to talk about another aspect,
25:43 viewers,
25:45 I think this is also an important question,
25:47 in today's questions,
25:49 some families,
25:51 where there are real children,
25:53 step children,
25:55 generally it is seen,
25:57 that the good couple,
25:59 is given to the real child,
26:01 and the old one,
26:03 and in the family,
26:05 it is also differentiated,
26:07 that one is given quality food,
26:09 and the other is given the leftover,
26:11 the difference between step children,
26:13 and real children,
26:15 what does the religion of Islam,
26:17 recommend in this regard?
26:19 This is a very fundamental question,
26:21 and a very fundamental thing,
26:23 which affects the entire social circle,
26:25 absolutely right,
26:27 when a person sees that,
26:29 one child,
26:31 is his own,
26:33 and the other,
26:35 is his step child,
26:37 now,
26:39 in that situation,
26:41 when you discriminate,
26:43 that this is mine,
26:45 and this is not mine,
26:47 then the first thing is,
26:49 that the person who does this,
26:51 is making the displeasure of the Lord,
26:53 a part of his life,
26:55 this is the fundamental thing,
26:57 because the Lord has given the responsibility,
26:59 to the step children,
27:01 and now the children are your responsibility,
27:03 and you should treat them,
27:05 the same way,
27:07 you have treated your own children,
27:09 this is one thing,
27:11 the second thing is,
27:13 that the Holy Prophet (PBUH)
27:15 and Allah (SWT)
27:17 has always taken care of the self-respect,
27:19 of the human being,
27:21 and the question you asked,
27:23 that is it good clothing,
27:25 or good food,
27:27 and this is a different thing,
27:29 which is used as a term,
27:31 in Shariah,
27:33 and the Qibla Mufti has come,
27:35 and you know, Mutabanna,
27:37 Mutabanna is used as a term,
27:39 what is inside it,
27:41 and how the Holy Prophet (PBUH)
27:43 has,
27:45 those people,
27:47 who you had no blood relation with,
27:49 how you have accepted them,
27:51 and kept them with love,
27:53 this is the relation,
27:55 and the first son or daughter,
27:57 the one whom the Holy Prophet (PBUH)
27:59 has kept as a servant,
28:01 he has given him the right,
28:03 that the Holy Prophet's face,
28:05 never got a stain on it,
28:07 that he wanted to tell the society,
28:09 that see, how to live with humans,
28:11 so that Allah (SWT)
28:13 is pleased with you,
28:15 now if a person says,
28:17 that I will get my son or daughter,
28:19 to get the same level of education,
28:21 and this second child,
28:23 has come with the same education,
28:25 or has come from the first house,
28:27 so that he is like an orphan,
28:29 then on the Day of Resurrection,
28:31 you will have to answer for this,
28:33 because now,
28:35 you have the right to this,
28:37 and who has seen,
28:39 that whom you are considering
28:41 as an orphan,
28:43 how much he has become a saint,
28:45 how much he is known to Allah,
28:47 how much he is loved,
28:49 so now,
28:51 the feeling,
28:53 that you are creating in someone's heart,
28:55 and in that child's heart,
28:57 you are creating hatred for yourself,
28:59 the society that is watching,
29:01 which you call a silent spectator,
29:03 so he is not a silent spectator,
29:05 the society understands this,
29:07 that see,
29:09 what brand is he making his son wear,
29:11 and what is he doing with this child,
29:13 and then silently curses,
29:15 and shakes him,
29:17 so we should try,
29:19 that we should think about this,
29:21 because the Holy Prophet (pbuh)
29:23 has kept his life at every level,
29:25 and told us,
29:27 how to get along with people,
29:29 when he saw an orphan,
29:31 how he picked him up,
29:33 put his hand on his head,
29:35 brought him up,
29:37 changed his clothes,
29:39 when he saw an orphan,
29:41 how the Holy Prophet (pbuh)
29:43 said that I am their heir,
29:45 so should we understand this,
29:47 that we have forgotten our Lord,
29:49 that our actions,
29:51 our moral actions,
29:53 we should think that
29:55 our Lord is not watching us,
29:57 my Lord is watching,
29:59 and my Lord,
30:01 his grip is very strong,
30:03 the money and the thing,
30:05 we should think that
30:07 I should spend it on my family,
30:09 or on my children,
30:11 and I should ignore the step son,
30:13 or daughter,
30:15 and this silence,
30:17 this is the reason of destruction,
30:19 that the houses of the house
30:21 get destroyed,
30:23 and you must have seen,
30:25 that what should we do,
30:27 our children,
30:29 our children don't listen to us,
30:31 just turn around and see,
30:33 did you listen to your parents,
30:35 or not,
30:37 we are very worried about our son,
30:39 he is 18 years old,
30:41 and he left the house,
30:43 so you should think that
30:45 when you were 26, 27, 30,
30:47 when you left your house,
30:49 did you ever turn around
30:51 and ask your parents,
30:53 did they sleep in the graves,
30:55 there are such cases,
30:57 I have seen it with my own eyes,
30:59 that they slept in the graves,
31:01 they were not lucky that they could
31:03 go to their graves,
31:05 and then you say that my children,
31:07 should obey me,
31:09 and then you are doing the call to prayer,
31:11 and you are watching TV,
31:13 and you are sitting at home,
31:15 watching TV,
31:17 and then you expect that
31:19 your children should pray,
31:21 and talk about religion,
31:23 and then obey,
31:25 obey in that,
31:27 that whatever I have said,
31:29 listen to me,
31:31 see, what Qibla said,
31:33 that if you grow wheat,
31:35 then wheat will grow,
31:37 if you grow barley,
31:39 then barley will grow,
31:41 if you grow rose,
31:43 then rose will grow,
31:45 if you grow rose,
31:47 then rose will grow,
31:49 and then you should ask your children,
31:51 that when you pray,
31:53 and go towards fasting,
31:55 and go towards Zakat,
31:57 and go towards goodness,
31:59 then remember the favours of my
32:01 Mustafa Kareem,
32:03 and give this message to the next generation,
32:05 because I did not ask anything from you,
32:07 I just ask that in your life,
32:09 you should follow the life of Huzoor,
32:11 in such a way that you will not be ashamed
32:13 in the grave,
32:15 if this becomes a part of your life,
32:17 then you will be among those who will return with success,
32:19 and if you cannot do it,
32:21 then remember this,
32:23 that whatever we do,
32:25 how many buildings we build,
32:27 how much ever we do,
32:29 from a social perspective,
32:31 we may become very famous,
32:33 but when we look back,
32:35 then the reasons for that,
32:37 are something else,
32:39 and there are many examples of this,
32:41 I don't want to say,
32:43 and this is on social media,
32:45 and in case studies of social sciences,
32:47 everywhere,
32:49 there is research,
32:51 that the one who did not respect his parents,
32:53 is the one who is ruined.
32:55 No, no, and viewers,
32:57 we have to think a lot,
32:59 and understand,
33:01 and keep this thought with us,
33:03 and it is important,
33:05 Museeza, I want to ask you,
33:07 if there is a difference between a mother and a father,
33:09 or if there is a fight,
33:11 then how to complain to the children,
33:13 that the mother should tell her child,
33:15 that your father is this and that,
33:17 or should complain about him,
33:19 similarly, the father should complain to the children,
33:21 for the mother,
33:23 how do you see this?
33:25 When Dr. Kibla was talking,
33:27 when a scholar is talking,
33:29 many points come out,
33:31 and this is especially with children,
33:33 the issue of step,
33:35 of step-mother,
33:37 see, the father should think,
33:39 there is a dimension in this,
33:41 that sometimes,
33:43 the first wife passed away,
33:45 and she has children,
33:47 or the first wife and husband,
33:49 there was a separation,
33:51 divorce,
33:53 and now the children are in her responsibility,
33:55 now she has got a new marriage,
33:57 and after that,
33:59 she does not give any attention to the children,
34:01 children are like orphans,
34:03 they are roaming in the family,
34:05 and there is no arrangement for their upbringing,
34:07 education,
34:09 think about it,
34:11 she is your blood,
34:13 the woman,
34:15 who did not become yours,
34:17 what is her fault,
34:19 you fulfill your responsibility,
34:21 otherwise, you will be a severe sinner,
34:23 and if you have married a woman,
34:25 and she had children,
34:27 and she has children,
34:29 and she will not take care of them,
34:31 and you are not taking care of them,
34:33 as if they are poor,
34:35 think about it, they are orphans,
34:37 and my Prophet (PBUH) said,
34:39 that the best house is that,
34:41 in which there is an orphan,
34:43 and he should be treated well,
34:45 and the worst house is that,
34:47 in which there is an orphan,
34:49 and he should be treated badly,
34:51 now we come to the second point,
34:53 the question you asked,
34:55 the father does not complain,
34:57 if the father is telling his son,
34:59 or daughter about his wife,
35:01 he is not complaining,
35:03 he is opposing them,
35:05 you should understand this,
35:07 and the wife's mind is made,
35:09 that she can do whatever she wants,
35:11 but where the son will reach,
35:13 equal to the father,
35:15 he will be young,
35:17 then I will see my husband,
35:19 and what does she do,
35:21 from the beginning to the end,
35:23 she is not complaining,
35:25 she is saying,
35:27 that she did this,
35:29 and that,
35:31 when you do this,
35:33 then remember this,
35:35 the child will not be his,
35:37 nor his,
35:39 he will be dependent,
35:41 he will not be worthy of you,
35:43 nor his wife,
35:45 this is a poison,
35:47 a poison,
35:49 which will destroy the child,
35:51 I will say this,
35:53 especially,
35:55 because we have many cases,
35:57 in the courts,
35:59 of fights,
36:01 it is not possible,
36:03 that there is no dispute,
36:05 even if there are differences,
36:07 try to solve it in a closed room,
36:09 do not fight in front of the children,
36:11 number two,
36:13 if there are very severe differences,
36:15 then never,
36:17 do not put the children,
36:19 against their wife,
36:21 or wife,
36:23 against her children,
36:25 if you have a problem,
36:27 suppose,
36:29 but if the children,
36:31 are misbehaving with your wife,
36:33 then stop the children,
36:35 that children,
36:37 she is your mother,
36:39 and the mother should also,
36:41 have the same attitude,
36:43 and the wife should also,
36:45 have the same responsibility,
36:47 and the last thing,
36:49 when it is time to give time,
36:51 to the children,
36:53 do not give it over social media,
36:55 there is a famous example,
36:57 that if you want to know,
36:59 who is who,
37:01 then turn off your wifi,
37:03 then you will know,
37:05 that the wifi is off,
37:07 they will not come for you,
37:09 so for God's sake,
37:11 give your time to the children,
37:13 when you need the children,
37:15 then the children will give you their time,
37:17 and if you do not give them time,
37:19 then they will not give you their time,
37:21 as and when you want to do,
37:23 you have to do it,
37:25 many examples,
37:27 have touched your hearts,
37:29 the only aim of this program,
37:31 is that we all should,
37:33 try our best,
37:35 to raise our children,
37:37 according to the Quran and Hadith,
37:39 so that they become,
37:41 a good example for us,
37:43 so that we can give our guest,
37:45 the program Roshni,
37:47 thank you very much,
37:49 may God keep you safe,
37:51 you have given us,
37:53 a very good and wonderful talk,
37:55 may God make us,
37:57 the ones who follow the same,
37:59 with a beautiful character,
38:01 may you become a light,
38:03 so that even the devil,
38:05 becomes a Muslim,
38:07 Assalamu alaikum,
38:09 May Allah bless you,
38:11 May Allah bless you,
38:13 May Allah bless you,
38:15 May Allah bless you,
38:17 May Allah bless you,
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