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A Supernanny Jo Frost chega para confrontar a realidade de uma família onde o pai trabalha 60 horas por semana e é "inexistente" em casa, deixando a mãe para cuidar de seis crianças praticamente sozinha.
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00:00Bom, vamos ver o família que temos aqui essa semana.
00:05Oi, nós temos o Fagas.
00:07Este é meu filho, e eu sou Stacey, e eu sou a stay-at-home mom.
00:10Listen up!
00:12Ele drive a truck, e ele vai para a escola para a administração.
00:16Nós temos seis filhos.
00:18Eu trouxe a Sarah e Andrew, que são 10 e 8.
00:22E eu trouxe a Chelsea, que é também 8.
00:25E então, juntos, nós temos twins.
00:27Não chope-se!
00:28Benjamin e Zachary, e eles são 4.
00:31E então, nós temos Jacob, que é 2.
00:34Estes crianças são tão lindos.
00:37Most do meu dia é spento dizendo,
00:39não, não, não tem aqui, não tem as suas roupas.
00:43Stop, não, não tem as suas roupas.
00:47Move.
00:48Move o seu bairro.
00:49Go, go para o seu quarto.
00:51Eu nunca vou levar todos os seis de eles, por mim,
00:53em uma sala ou em uma restaurante.
00:55Não, não tem muito tempo com a família.
01:24Isso é um grande problema.
01:26Minha 2, Sarah e Andrew,
01:27não tem o meu pai de novo.
01:29Por muito tempo.
01:30O que você acha que você não mora aqui?
01:34Supernanny, eu quero que você possa me ajudar a ser capazes de ter 6 kids por mesmos,
01:39porque ele não está aqui.
01:42E eu não sei como fazer isso.
01:44Jo, nós precisamos de você.
01:46Por favor, vamos para o nosso casa.
01:48You guys, hold on in there because I'm on my way.
01:51Hi.
02:06Hi.
02:07May I come in?
02:07Yes, you may.
02:08Pleased to meet you.
02:13Jo.
02:14My name is Jo too.
02:15Jo, meet Jo.
02:17Pleased to meet you.
02:18Stacey.
02:18I'm Stacey.
02:19I was really excited because Jo was my last hope.
02:23And who have we got here?
02:24Chelsea.
02:25Hi, Chelsea.
02:25Pleased to meet you.
02:26How old are you?
02:27Seven, eight.
02:29Eight.
02:30I think Jo is cool.
02:34And what's your name?
02:35Hi, Sarah.
02:36Pleased to meet you.
02:36And who's this?
02:38Zachary.
02:39Hi, Zachary.
02:40But shake my hand.
02:41Pleased to meet you.
02:42Oh, and there's another Zachary.
02:45You're not Zachary though, are you?
02:46What's your name?
02:49Ben.
02:50And who's this?
02:51Andy.
02:52Hi, Andy.
02:53Pleased to meet you.
02:53I'm Jo.
02:55Hi.
02:55It was very hard to believe that Jo was actually in my house.
03:01And who's this little one here?
03:02This is Jacob.
03:03Hi, Jacob.
03:04Are you going to say hi to Jojo?
03:06No.
03:06Okay.
03:07So, can I place this somewhere?
03:11Yep.
03:11As long as it's up high enough where they can't get to it.
03:14I tell everybody when they come in the house, when they set their purses down, to put it
03:18three feet and above.
03:19And actually, I think I'm switching it to five.
03:22When I first arrived, Stacey and Jo asked the children to go outside and play in the backyard.
03:30You can see it's like they're on a beach.
03:32They're making sandcastles.
03:33Yeah, they want to go to the beach so bad.
03:36Do you go to the beach or get away?
03:38No.
03:39I'd be scared to death with a huge beach and my kids running.
03:44It'd have to be a gated beach.
03:46I don't know if they have them.
03:47We're big about gates and locks and stuff like that.
03:51So, it's the fear of not being able to control the kids.
03:54Jo gets embarrassed, but they have those harnesses that are like vests with leashes.
03:58It's hard to just go on a walk with them in the neighborhood.
04:02I can't even take them to the park.
04:04It's something that I want to be able to do.
04:06It's just too stressful, and I couldn't handle it myself.
04:09No, no, no, no, no, no, no.
04:11Stacey went out into the cul-de-sac with all six kids, and she was really trying her best
04:16to keep tabs on them all.
04:18Hey!
04:19Don't go over those boards.
04:25Jacob, see the guy?
04:27He says slow.
04:28Thank you.
04:29Mom's definitely stressed out with trying to manage all the children at once.
04:34As soon as something happens and one child goes in one direction.
04:37You guys, don't go in the neighbor's driveway unless you ask.
04:39She shows this great anxiety.
04:42Missing one.
04:43Okay.
04:43Don't!
04:44I like my clothesline.
04:46I hang stuff on it.
04:47That's very dangerous.
04:51Get over here now.
04:53You don't do what Zaki does.
04:55That was naughty.
04:58Jacob!
04:59Who are you?
05:03Okay.
05:04Playtime was no fun for Mom at all.
05:06We've all six kids running off in different directions.
05:09And Joe, nowhere to be found.
05:11Where'd Daddy go, you guys?
05:13Joe!
05:14Well, can you tell me before you just leave?
05:16I thought you had Jacob.
05:20Here, Joe.
05:21Okay.
05:21Well, I'm going to a meeting.
05:24And we're not having a nap.
05:29Stacy feels like she is left here with the kids and, you know, I'm out doing whatever,
05:34which is actually work.
05:36I'm not able to spend as much time with the kids.
05:38I'm trying to get us to a place where I can.
05:40Well, nobody knows.
05:42I think the idea of being out alone with all six kids really got Mom flustered.
05:47So she brought them all in for a nap.
05:49You like ice water?
05:51I think that Mom puts the kids down for a nap.
05:56Not because they're tired.
05:57Stay here, please.
05:58Stay here, please.
05:59But because Mom needs a break.
06:00Get up here right now.
06:07Nope.
06:08You don't hide from me.
06:11Jacob, get to your bed.
06:12Just one frazzled mom trying to do the best she can, really.
06:15My head's going to explode, literally.
06:17Like, 90% of the time, physically, my head is like, I want to tear it off and throw it at somebody.
06:25She's emotionally and physically exhausted.
06:28So the overwhelming feeling of having to raise six children is a bit too much for Stacy, to say the least.
06:39Once the younger ones had gone down for a nap, I pulled Stacy aside to have a chat with her.
06:43What's the toughest time of the day for yourself?
06:45It depends if Joe's here or not, summer time.
06:47A lot of times he's not here.
06:49And that's when I get, like, all flustered and I'm trying to cook and they're all around.
06:53And you say he's not around.
06:54What does he do?
06:55He works, like, 60 hours a week.
06:57He's driving a truck right now, going to school full time.
07:01And so he's pretty much non-existent.
07:03Like I say, he sleeps here, like, four hours a night.
07:07So you raise these kids?
07:09Alone.
07:09Most of the time, pretty much alone?
07:11Yeah.
07:12And I can't do six by myself.
07:14Stacy and Joe have very different agendas right now.
07:17Joe wants to be able to change careers and better the family situation.
07:23And it's a long-term goal.
07:25But mom needs help now.
07:28You can only handle so much.
07:29And I got to a breaking point.
07:31And now I'm overwhelmed, exhausted, and can't do it anymore.
07:35I wanted to talk to Andrew and Sarah, get a chance to speak to you both, because their dad is not around much.
07:43They haven't seen their biological mother for over a year now, and that's hard for any child to take.
07:48So, like, this is new for you, right?
07:50Because you guys are obviously brother and sister.
07:53But then Daddy met Stacy.
07:57Yep.
07:58So, like, now you have a bigger family, right?
08:00Yep.
08:00So, where's your mommy?
08:04In California.
08:06In California.
08:06She hasn't talked to us since last year.
08:08She was turning eight, I think.
08:10We haven't talked to her since my eighth birthday and Sarah's ninth.
08:16Are there things that you would like to say to her?
08:18To your mom?
08:19I want to go visit you, have you been, and stuff like that.
08:23Yeah.
08:24Like, I miss you a lot.
08:28I hope she'll remember us and, like, see us again.
08:35But what's important is to make sure that you both know there are lots of people in this house that love you very much.
08:45I mean, that just must be such a heavy load for these children to carry.
08:48What I would love Andrew and Sarah to recognise is that it's not their fault.
08:56Jimmy, let me give you a big hug.
09:01Joe and Stacy have had some real serious challenges to deal with, and I'm prepared to do what is necessary to make a difference.
09:09But I need to know from them first whether they're prepared to make some big changes.
09:13Stacey and Joe, the blessing that you have in your life of having six children should be recognised, but it's not.
09:22Because emotionally, you're overwhelmed.
09:29Joe, you're away from home a lot.
09:33And, Mum, you're home here with the children.
09:36And that can take its toll in itself, can't it?
09:39It was so much easier when he was here.
09:45He always helped at bedtime.
09:46And we read with the kids together, and we sang songs with them, and, I mean, that seems like a dream now.
09:57Children do need your attention.
10:00They do need your quality time.
10:03Joe, Andrew, and Sarah would love to be able to spend more time with you.
10:10They want to be a part of this family.
10:15Mm-hmm.
10:15And under the circumstances with Sarah and Andrew's other parent, more than ever, they need that.
10:25In this house, everything's become overwhelming.
10:29What are you guys doing to change the situation right now?
10:34Because what I see is nothing.
10:37Mum, let's talk about how you are around the children.
10:42Jacob!
10:44Come here!
10:46This is you, walking around with your face all day like this.
10:53You've made it very clear that you guys can't even go on an outing or a vacation or enjoy yourselves
10:58because of the fear of not knowing how to handle the children when you're out.
11:03We tried it.
11:04We tried just to go to a little park here, and I don't know.
11:07It's just, it's just stressful.
11:11Wouldn't it be nice to all go out as a family again?
11:15Well, the kids would like to go anywhere, like on a vacation.
11:20You guys need to make a decision whether you are going to change where you're at right now.
11:26Because not only are you doing it for yourselves, but you're doing it for your kids.
11:30I felt like we need to get busy and make some changes because the kids, I mean, they're going to, you know, we're going to lose them emotionally.
11:39I don't want to become further disconnected with my kids.
11:42The pair of you are going to have to do it together to be able to raise your children and be a happier family than what you are right now.
11:50I'm taking what Joe has told me to heart, definitely, because I've been waiting for a change for a long time.
11:57Okay, so enough said and done.
12:01Tomorrow's a new leaf.
12:01I've got some big plans for the Fager family, but before I reveal them, there's some situations I need to address that I just can't wait.
12:13I wanted Joe to go on a picnic with Sarah and Andrew so that he could get the chance to answer some of the children's questions with regards to their biological mother.
12:22Okay, so tell me more about what you were trying to tell me the other day.
12:27It feels kind of sad because we haven't seen our mom in a long time and I feel depressed.
12:36I am depressed because she never calls us and I feel like she doesn't, like, love us anymore.
12:43And you guys feel like it's your fault that she hasn't called?
12:46Yeah.
12:46The children were very receptive to discussion with their father, which was fantastic.
12:53People sometimes make decisions.
12:56We don't understand why they make them.
12:58You guys feel like you can't talk about her?
13:02Sometimes.
13:03It's a hard thing to talk about.
13:05I still picture what she looks like in my head.
13:08It's not your fault.
13:10I hope that that picnic was a turning point for Sarah and Andrew.
13:14That maybe they can start to move on a little bit.
13:16Not to forget about their mom and, like I said, hopefully she'll call.
13:20But if she doesn't, at least that they can deal with it.
13:25So, Dad, I think we should have more days like this.
13:27What do you think, Sarah and Andrew?
13:29More time with Dad like this to come and hang out together?
13:32Yeah.
13:33Like one-on-one time.
13:34The picnic with my dad helped because me and Sarah have been having a hard time handling our problems about our mom.
13:46It was good to hear it wasn't our fault that she hasn't called us.
13:52Stacey and Joe are absolutely petrified at the prospect of taking all six kids out in public.
14:00Okay, guys, stay together.
14:02So I'm bringing everyone to the park because with a little bit of confidence and the right tools, they'll have nothing to fear.
14:07What's important here is that you guys always keep yourself at a distance where mommy and daddy can see you.
14:17If you can't see mommy and daddy, you've gone too far.
14:23It wasn't long before Zachary ran off and broke the rules.
14:29Come here, Zach.
14:30This was a good opportunity for Dad to step up.
14:35So you're going to place him on the bench, okay?
14:38You're going to explain to him why you've put him here, okay?
14:41And then you're going to leave him here for four minutes.
14:43Zachary, look at me.
14:46I can hear you.
14:48You're sitting on the naughty bench because you ran off, right?
14:53And you were told to stay where mommy and daddy could see you, not to run away.
15:00So you'll have to stay there now because you did not listen.
15:05Now that Stacey and Joe have seen how easy it is to discipline the children out in public,
15:11I hope they now know they can go anywhere.
15:16Mom and dad are petrified to take their six kids anywhere.
15:20Oh, but I've got a surprise for them because we're going to attack that fear head on.
15:26Jojo would like to say something very important.
15:34You guys are all going to go away for six days together as a family to Florida.
15:41And I'd like to present this to you.
15:42Oh, my gosh.
15:43Yeah, Florida.
15:46Of course.
15:47Florida.
15:49Florida.
15:50I never thought in a million years at Joe would take us on a vacation.
15:56Honestly, I never would have thought that this was even a possibility.
16:00I wouldn't perceive taking six kids, especially some that are as young as they are, on a vacation like this.
16:06We're going to need these!
16:09What they learn on vacation, they can take home.
16:11And what they learn at home, they can take on vacation.
16:14Who's going to make sandcastles?
16:16You're going on an airplane.
16:17Yeah.
16:18I'm kind of in shock because I'm going on the airplane in one day with my six children and my husband for the first time ever.
16:29We really haven't got any time to waste.
16:32No, sure don't.
16:33Because we're going very soon.
16:34Yeah, I was just, like, excited, but, like, holy crap, like, how am I going to be able to, you know, pull this off?
16:41We're doing the countdown technique.
16:42We're writing everything down so we can eliminate it before we leave, right down to the last thing.
16:47Everybody has to pre-plan before they go on holiday, make sure there's a checklist.
16:51So the countdown technique is all about that.
16:53Shorts.
16:54Underwear.
16:56Books.
16:57About goggles.
16:58Goggles.
16:59Socks.
17:00Socks.
17:00How many socks?
17:02Well, I don't know how many.
17:03I have eight kids.
17:04No, I have six kids.
17:06See?
17:07The little suitcases we've got here is because they're going to pack their toys and activities to occupy themselves on the plane with.
17:15He's trying to pack the food.
17:17Darling, you're going to eat there.
17:19You need to pack some toys to play with on the beach.
17:22Oh, dear, this is like packing one of my bags.
17:24This vacation is going to be the opportunity of a lifetime.
17:29I'm anxious to see how Joe's going to help us do this.
17:32Call in, flight for Florida.
17:34Flight for Florida.
17:36They were going on an airplane, so I wanted to go over a few rules with the children to make sure they know how they are expected to behave.
17:45Benjamin, listen to what Joe's just saying.
17:47When you're on the airplane, it's very important, okay, that you listen to Mommy and Daddy.
17:54that you look into your little bags and keep yourself active by doing your word searches or playing with your toys,
18:04but no shouting or screaming, no kicking your feet and having temper tantrums,
18:11because there are other people that will be on the airplane.
18:15I'm a little worried because it's a lot to deal with, and maybe the twins and Jake will be a little naughty on the plane.
18:25But I don't really know.
18:27The main point here is to make sure that you keep the kids occupied.
18:31I think it taught them a little something because they, some of them have never been on a plane before.
18:39Florida, here I go.
18:41Okay, keep going.
18:43Okay, so we're buddy system, we're going to head this way, real buddied up.
18:47When we arrived at the airport, I had the older children pair up with the younger children,
18:52so that everybody was accounted for and nobody would go wandering off.
18:56Look at this. You're doing the buddy up system fantastic.
19:01I kind of like the buddy system so no one gets lost in anything,
19:05because Ben and Zach usually like run away and stuff. It's very cool.
19:10The Fager family got to the airport with no incident.
19:16And for the first time, this family went on an aeroplane.
19:21Listen, listen to me, all of you.
19:23Reggie and Zachary, we're going to take off in a minute.
19:27Remember, stay in your seatbelt, okay?
19:36The golden rule for taking children on an aeroplane
19:38is to be prepared, organised and to bring lots of activities.
19:44General tips for you when you're on the plane.
19:46Make sure that they get out their activities and they're playing with those
19:49so you can keep the kids occupied.
19:51Now, if they do something that is banging or kicking the other person in front,
19:57then just use your tone of voice.
19:59All right?
20:01Just a minute, honey.
20:03No.
20:04Don't kick that chest.
20:05Somebody else is sitting there.
20:06If it comes out of control when they're really, really shouting,
20:09get up from your seat, lean into the children and say,
20:12too loud.
20:14Have fun, but too loud.
20:16The Fagers were prepared and organised
20:18and that flight went smoother than they could ever have imagined.
20:23Folks, we are going to Florida.
20:25I booked the whole family a vacation at the Marco Island Marriott Resort & Spa.
20:35Gather them together first.
20:38Tell the children what you expect from them.
20:40Listen, we're not going to run off, right?
20:42Stay together.
20:43Stay together.
20:44We're going to follow the person in front of us.
20:46Walk slow.
20:47Come on, let's go.
20:48The children have never been to a hotel before, so I reminded them always to buddy up so they could be a nice shot of their parents.
20:59This is a very large resort.
21:02We need to stay close together so that you don't get lost, okay?
21:06Okay, guys. Back in line.
21:08Buddy up.
21:09Buddy up.
21:12When I first saw that room, I'm like, wow.
21:17Okay.
21:19Start unpacking your clothes.
21:21Keep the toys in there and then they can dip into the toy bag whenever they want.
21:25Get the kids sorted, get their clothes laid out, everything done, and then you can start to order dinner.
21:31Remember that even though we're on holiday, there's still the cornerstones of a routine that need to be met when you're on vacation.
21:37Ben, did you put all your clothes away?
21:41Good boy.
21:43Stacy and Joe are going to have to work really hard together in making sure that all six of their children toe the line.
21:49First morning we got here, we went down to the beach. I was nervous.
21:53So remember, this is a time for children to have fun, for you to relax and have fun with them.
21:59I wanted to show mum and dad the easiest way to stop the kids from running off was to keep them occupied and engaged in an activity.
22:08Joe had me sit down in the lawn chair and just let my kids play and just watch them and observe them and relax.
22:16Just get water.
22:18Dad did a fantastic job in keeping the kids all engaged and it gave mum a break too.
22:24But mum's break didn't last long. Benjamin run towards the water and mum had to go and get him.
22:29Benjamin! Warning! Benjamin!
22:38I gave you a warning and you did not listen. Oh, oh, oh!
22:43Um, we don't throw sand at other people.
22:46When you put him onto his naughty spot, you're going to explain with your glasses off so you can give him eye contact, okay, why he's there.
22:58Alright?
23:00Discipline needs to be consistent, whether you do it on the beach or at home.
23:04Benjamin, you're in the naughty spot. You're going to get water without asking. I gave you a warning and you did not stop.
23:10Now you will sit here. Let's move away.
23:22Benjamin knew that mum meant business and he stayed there for four minutes.
23:27So what do you need to say to mummy?
23:28Stacey did a fantastic job with the naughty spot and if she continues with it, things will get easier.
23:40This afternoon, I had an activity for them and it's all about bonding, teamwork and bringing them together as a family.
23:48We have to use all these pieces as a family to make the boat. Think we can do that?
23:52Yeah!
23:53I bet you can.
23:55When I first heard we were going to build a boat together, I thought it was kind of cool. I thought that was going to be fun.
23:59But I didn't realize we'd have to make it ourselves. I thought there would be plans there.
24:04Okay, work together, mum.
24:07Boat building was very fun because our family never, never has built anything together before.
24:16Well.
24:17It could hold the flag in.
24:19Yeah.
24:21The kids have really good ideas and that's something that Joe's really showing us is that we need to involve the kids and listen to their ideas and have them help us.
24:30Yeah, you can come out here anyway, my love.
24:32Look, see where Ben is going to help Ben.
24:34Come here, put it on first.
24:37Ben and Zach were very naughty.
24:40Ben just hit Zach as hard as he could with the oar.
24:47After Ben hit Zachary, Dad pulled the boys aside.
24:51Now, Benjamin and Zachary, I want you to give each other a hug and tell each other you're sorry.
24:56Yeah, but how does that resolve it? What have they learned from that?
24:59This is the point.
25:00Okay, Benjamin and Zach, come here, please.
25:02There will be no hitting one another, okay, because that's unacceptable behavior. It's naughty behavior.
25:06You said it was an accident. If it was an accident, you need to say you're sorry, Ben. So look at Zachary.
25:12I learned something. If it's an accident, go ahead and apologize. Just make clear that it's not acceptable to hit each other.
25:20Once we sorted out our incident, it was back to boat building.
25:24Are you happy with that?
25:25Yep.
25:26I'm proud of Sarah for naming the boat. Andrew really, you know, did his part in getting it together. Even like the twins picking their own ideas. Chelsea with the waves, that was awesome.
25:39Who built this boat?
25:41The Vegas family.
25:43And you did a very good job in working together.
25:46What was great for me is for this family to feel very proud of the boat they had built. And together as a family, they had fun with it.
26:00I needed to let them have their family quality time alone. And so I took it as a perfect opportunity to say goodbye to them so that I can go away and let these guys get on with the advice and the technique and see how they do.
26:17Listen, guys, I'm going to go. I'm going to leave you guys, okay, to get up with having fun. I'll see when I get back. Don't forget the techniques. Have fun. Bye.
26:30Bye.
26:32Enjoy the afternoon in our Balinese spa.
26:35Are you naked?
26:36I'm glad to see you took time together, Sitta, and spent time by yourselves.
26:41You're naked.
26:44It's about time you've had some fun together.
26:47This is like a honeymoon we never had.
26:52Yeah.
26:53It's just so great to see you guys enjoying the day.
26:56I don't know which fork to use.
26:57I don't either. I just dig in.
27:04You have your swimsuit on?
27:07Well, get it on or throw it in that bag.
27:08Good! A family trip to the beach.
27:10Look for Ben and Zach's shoes under all the beds right now. We only have one. We need three.
27:15This is mine.
27:17There's a phone under there.
27:18Disorganization equals stress. It's that simple.
27:22Put those away. The buckets are not what we're looking for. We're looking for your shoes.
27:25Look under the couch.
27:26Here's one. See? They're in the towels, you guys.
27:32Now exiting.
27:33That's crazy. It took an hour just to get out the door.
27:40Are you going to go on the scavenger hunt today?
27:42Yeah.
27:43A scavenger hunt. The kids are going to love this.
27:45How old are you?
27:4727.
27:48Count them.
27:49One.
27:51Two.
27:52Joe, I'm loving that enthusiasm.
27:54Eight. Okay.
27:55What are you doing, Sarah?
27:56What are you doing, Sarah?
27:57Why are you not part of it?
27:59So I can't get to do anything?
28:01It takes forever because there's 50 million of us.
28:05I don't know. Every time I've done a scavenger hunt, it's really fast.
28:08I know, but you've never done it as a family with little kids.
28:11We've got Jacob who's about to fall asleep and two four-year-olds are rolling around the floor.
28:15Come here.
28:16That's because we're not doing anything.
28:17Stacy, are you hunting for your positive attitude?
28:20Funny they've been acting like this since we started.
28:22If you guys want to carry on making big progress with your family, you've got to be 100% motivated.
28:27We've got more work to do.
28:29Okay, should we take a look?
28:30Sure.
28:31Yep.
28:32We're going to enjoy the afternoon in our Balinese Spa.
28:38He will never do that.
28:39This is like a honeymoon we never had.
28:41Yeah.
28:44This is great.
28:45And look, your humor's back. You're just laughing away.
28:49You're able to spend some good quality time together as a couple and just forget about the kids.
28:55I didn't even make a phone call or anything.
28:58Letting go is such an important part of being able to relax and make sure that you do that at home as well.
29:03I'm glad you had such a fantastic time.
29:05Look for Ben and Zach's shoes under all the beds right now.
29:09We've got one more shoe to find, okay?
29:12Here's one. See?
29:14They're in the towels.
29:15What was going on there?
29:17Good job you didn't have a plane to catch. You'd have missed it.
29:20What you're not going to do is get yourself out the door if you're not organized.
29:23So you have to be ahead of the game so that you're able to be able to smoothly get out of the door.
29:29And that's what I didn't see happen here.
29:33It takes forever because there's 50 million of us.
29:37I don't know. It took us an hour to get started.
29:39Oh, my word. Sourpuss face you are, man.
29:44And then you're wondering why the kids are sitting on the chairs going,
29:46I don't want to do this.
29:49Energy levels completely flat.
29:51Got to be excited.
29:53I was very excited.
29:55Well, if that's excitement, I'd hate to see you, Abby.
29:58I started correcting her.
29:59So, Mum, you've got to recognize that a holiday is about everybody doing something that they love to do.
30:06Doesn't all evolve around you.
30:10There is stuff that needs to be tweaked today because you need to be able to take this back home as well now.
30:15But I'm very proud of the pair of you in how far you've come along.
30:19I mean, absolutely remarkable. It really is.
30:22Even though the meeting was a lot more positive than I actually expected,
30:25there were some serious things that she brought out.
30:29So, are we ready to be able to tweak the rest of these? You guys ready?
30:33All right, then. So, let's carry on and get some work done.
30:38Hi!
30:40I'm swimming again.
30:42You went swimming again.
30:44After watching the DVD footage, the first thing I needed to help this family with
30:48was sorting out the chaos and getting them out of the house.
30:51So, I'm giving them the out-the-door technique so they can use it here and at home.
30:56The first step that we're going to do is tap organization.
30:59Which is, let's have all the shoes in one place, all the beachwear in one place, okay?
31:06We need to prepare ahead of time.
31:08And that's the bottom line.
31:10The stuff needs to be set up and we want the kids to be able to do that.
31:13All the beach toys right here with the big purple bag.
31:16That's good, Sarah. Come on down and be a part.
31:17Oh, well done. Look at this.
31:19Good job. The shoes are great, guys. The shoes are great.
31:22Okay, come here.
31:24Okay, Stacey and Joe. So, we've lined up their shoes, we've lined up the beachwear.
31:27The children know where to go when you're about to do the next stage.
31:30And this is the next stage.
31:32Once everything was in its place, it was time to get this family moving.
31:35And you guys have, starting from now, ten minutes to do that. Let's go.
31:39Get your swimsuits on.
31:41Ten minutes with all their beach gear is going to be a challenge.
31:43But if they could do it here, then when they got home, it'd be a piece of cake.
31:48We're not ready yet.
31:50Dad, come on. Chop, chop.
31:51Go put your shoes on, buddy.
31:53Here, put them on.
31:54Chop, chop, Dad.
31:56The older children are doing their stuff.
31:58JoJo really helped us get the act together.
32:01A lot.
32:03You have two minutes.
32:04Room key.
32:06The front.
32:07One minute.
32:08One minute. Give me the boogie board, please.
32:10We ready? You got Jacob, Joel.
32:11Yep.
32:12So, we are ready.
32:13Can I just tell you how long it took you all last time to leave this room?
32:18It took you 60 minutes.
32:20Shall I tell you how long it took you now?
32:23Because you were organised, it took nine minutes and 21 seconds.
32:28Yay!
32:30Good job.
32:32Fantastic.
32:33Jo was telling the truth when she said it took 60 minutes to get out the door.
32:37It's not cool.
32:38I mean, we don't like seeing that.
32:40Right, come on champions, let's go to the beach.
32:41Okay.
32:42And it just goes to show you that when they're focused and they're organised and they prepare
32:47beforehand, they can quite easily get a family of eight out the door.
32:51Before I left, I wanted to speak to Jo about giving Sarah and Andrew a journal so they could write
33:00down their feelings about the situation with their biological mother.
33:04I thought that perhaps we could have you explain to the children what these books represent.
33:11Okay.
33:12I don't have any doubt that it's good for the kids to write their feelings down, to get them
33:16out, talk about them.
33:17So that should be a positive thing.
33:18These books, that one's yours, that one's yours.
33:27And the reason I'm giving you these is for you guys, anytime you start to have feelings
33:32about your mom.
33:33Write them down.
33:34Just write them down.
33:35Because we don't know what's going to happen, guys.
33:39But, you know, someday, you know, maybe if you're able to talk to her again, you can show
33:46her these books.
33:47Or you can keep them to yourself.
33:49I encourage you to share them with me.
33:51You can.
33:52And this is just a chance for you guys to write down your feelings.
33:56I liked writing in the journal because it made me feel excited to let my feelings go
34:04in a journal.
34:06Yeah.
34:07I don't really talk about my mom a lot in front of other people.
34:13I love you guys.
34:15That made me feel good.
34:18Well, when Sarah was reading from her journal, she did add a little bit about the divorce
34:23and stuff that she's never talked about before.
34:25So, and Joe said that was a huge step for her.
34:29That took a lot of courage.
34:31And you're a very brave little girl to write that down on that pad.
34:36And I'm really proud of you.
34:38Very proud of you.
34:43This vacation has given the Fager family a fresh, positive outlook on life.
34:48And will definitely keep them smiling at those memories.
34:52It's been an absolute pleasure to be able to take you guys on holiday and give you the vacation
34:59that you've dreamed of.
35:00You've done very well.
35:01I'm really proud of you.
35:02I'd like to thank Joe for giving me the realization that I need to spend more time with my family.
35:07I guess I could just say thanks, Joe, for giving me my family back.
35:11Come on, give me a cut.
35:12Come on, give me a cut.
35:13Thank you, Joe.
35:14Take care, darling.
35:16We had lots of fun.
35:19I'm going to miss Joe Joe so much.
35:22Keep drawing.
35:23I want her to stay for the rest of her life.
35:26I wanted to give you this.
35:28This is the flag and I want you to look after it.
35:30Take care, my love.
35:31I felt a little special when Joe Joe handed me the flag of the boat.
35:38Have a kiss.
35:39Mwah.
35:40Bye, Joe.
35:41Stacey, keep positive.
35:45Okay.
35:46There are no words to describe how grateful I am to Joe.
35:52For picking us and helping us.
35:57May I hug you?
35:58I can leave the Fager family knowing that they have a positive outlook on life
36:02and that together as a family, they will just continue to thrive.
36:06Bye.
36:12I think our family is closer together.
36:14I think we're more of a unit.
36:17I really feel like a totally different person.
36:20I love you very much.
36:22I love you too.
36:23Stacy's a lot less stressed out now because of the techniques that Joe's taught her.
36:27Go out there.
36:28There it goes.
36:29Warning.
36:30Warning.
36:31It's amazing how, when I say, warning, that they're like, no, no, no.
36:35I'm done.
36:36I'm sorry, Mom.
36:37Jacob.
36:38You went down?
36:39No.
36:44I've never spent this much time with my family before ever.
36:46Go out of the way!
36:47Woo!
36:48Sarah and Andrew, for their mom, they're able to talk about that more openly.
36:54Give me a smoke.
36:55Perfect.
36:56She helped us a lot.
36:58I wish she could stay here for the rest of my life.
37:01One of the biggest things that I've realized is how important each moment is.
37:05is just the sheer amount of time that I spend with my family.
37:08I've learned that when I come home from work, that if I can just take out just a little bit
37:12of time and just spend some quality time with my kids, that it'll benefit all of us.
37:17Not only did I feel like a vacation wasn't possible, I mean, I didn't leave the house.
37:22Now I can go anywhere with all six of them.
37:25Joe has shown me how to embrace my children and, like, their lives and their laughter and
37:32just like everything that I've so missed out on.
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