Have you ever betrayed YOURSELF to prove loyalty to someone else? 💔 In this video, I break down why “people-pleasing” is a form of self-abandonment—and how to build reciprocal friendships that actually value you. Learn:
✅ The difference between “being a friend” vs. CHOOSING friends
✅ How to spot one-sided relationships (and fix them)
✅ Why boundaries = self-respect, not selfishness
🔔 Follow daily for self-growth strategies that help you reclaim your power. ⚡
Drop a comment below: Have you ever walked away from a friendship that didn’t reciprocate?
✅ The difference between “being a friend” vs. CHOOSING friends
✅ How to spot one-sided relationships (and fix them)
✅ Why boundaries = self-respect, not selfishness
🔔 Follow daily for self-growth strategies that help you reclaim your power. ⚡
Drop a comment below: Have you ever walked away from a friendship that didn’t reciprocate?
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00:00One way self-abandonment shows up is when you're willing to be a better friend to other people than you are to yourself.
00:06OK, when we stop abandoning ourselves, the narrative changes.
00:09We stop being friends to people and we start choosing people to be friends with.
00:14Because once we understand that friendship is an actual relationship, we can understand the distinction between somebody I am constantly willing to betray myself for.
00:22So I can prove my loyalty to them.
00:24Maybe I'm seeking validation or love myself versus somebody I understand.
00:27They respect this relationship.
00:29They value it.
00:30And it's reciprocal.
00:30All right.
00:31And it doesn't mean quid pro quo, but it does mean that the foundation that it is built on is that there's accountability.
00:37There's awareness of value.
00:38OK, there's an understanding of expiration potentially and fragility.
00:42OK, and there is a clear communication that, hey, I value you as much as you value me.
00:47We go and do what we do.
00:49All right.
00:51Versus somebody who, for example, doesn't have the capacity and is not willing to extend their capacity, however, is always saying,
00:59well, a friend just gets my silent moments.
01:01A friend doesn't need me to support them.
01:03OK, a friend will check in when they notice that I'm quiet.
01:06Right.
01:07If a person knows everything that a friend does, but they don't do or exhibit any of those qualities, well, that's somebody you are a friend to.
01:13And they understand that they don't have to be one in return.
01:16But when you stop abandoning yourself, you start saying to yourself, hey, I'm no longer willing to betray you to show my loyalty to someone else who I don't feel safe with.