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00:00Hi, we're the Simmons family and I'm Debra.
00:02I'm Tracy.
00:03And we have four kids.
00:06We have two sets of twins.
00:07Peyton and Sophia are seven and Parker and Sydney are four.
00:11When there's two sets of twins, it's almost like it's exponentially more than just four against two.
00:18Double trouble, look at that, two sets of twins.
00:21Sophia definitely seems like a teenager already.
00:24I don't know, I did it.
00:26Keep the door open.
00:27Peyton is...
00:29Defiant.
00:31Sydney is...
00:33Volatile.
00:34Now!
00:35Now!
00:36Go.
00:37Now!
00:38Parker, he likes to get his way.
00:40Now!
00:42Put on the shirt.
00:45You're not gonna get it!
00:46No!
00:47No!
00:48No!
00:49No!
00:50Yeah!
00:51No!
00:52I'm a stay-at-home mom.
00:55Mom!
00:56Stop is hard to enjoy being around the kids.
01:00Sophia!
01:01No!
01:02I think they just wear you down and beat the life out of you.
01:05It's about getting into your room and staying in your room.
01:09All right, I'll be in my office.
01:10My office is in my home and a lot of times if I'm in my office and they're upstairs, it just sounds like a herd of elephants running.
01:19What?
01:20You guys need to settle down!
01:22When it comes to discipline, I have like this attempt.
01:26Out!
01:27And then I just...
01:28I just give up.
01:29Stop slamming the door.
01:30Stop!
01:31Stop!
01:32Don't!
01:33Stop!
01:34No!
01:35My words.
01:36Look, every time they draw a line in the sand, the kids just wipe it out.
01:39Discipline is...
01:41We're not consistent with it at all.
01:43Parker, please.
01:44Seriously.
01:45Parker!
01:46Parker!
01:47Why don't you guys make your beds?
01:48How about that?
01:49No!
01:50Yes.
01:51No!
01:52No!
01:53No!
01:54No!
01:55No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no!
01:56Why don't you make your bed?
01:57No!
01:58Why don't you make your bed?
01:59You don't talk like that.
02:00I'm here, no!
02:01See?
02:02Ow.
02:03Don't talk like that.
02:04Yeah.
02:05Don't be naughty.
02:06Yeah.
02:07You be naughty?
02:08Yeah.
02:09You be naughty?
02:10Yeah.
02:11Why are you being naughty?
02:12Get out.
02:13This is like Groundhog Day.
02:14This man keeps repeating himself and the kids ain't listening.
02:17Help!
02:18Help!
02:19What are you doing?
02:20The way they operate, all four of them could be getting in trouble.
02:23No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
02:25And they feed off of each other.
02:27They absolutely feed off of each other.
02:29Get out of there!
02:35Give me a nap!
02:37Unlock the door.
02:38You have to the count of three and unlock the door.
02:41One, two, three.
02:45Okay, Parker.
02:46Now you're in trouble.
02:47Well, that's a good way to avoid discipline, right?
02:49Just lock the doors.
02:50Open the door.
02:51Open the door.
02:53Open the door.
02:54I guess I wish I could just figure out how to juggle everything.
02:58Being a mom and not feeling like I can do my job.
03:02No!
03:03Yep.
03:04No!
03:05And how do I manage all four of them?
03:09And cooking, and cleaning, and doing everything else at the same time?
03:13Stop!
03:14Right there!
03:15Put your pajamas on!
03:17Supernanny, come on.
03:18It's two against four.
03:19We need your help.
03:23Hey, Mom and Dad.
03:24I know you've got your hands full with double trouble, so I'm on my way.
03:27Hello!
03:30Pleased to meet you, Jo Frost.
03:44I'm Debra Simmons.
03:45Hi, Debra.
03:47As Jo was coming into my house, I was a little nervous, because I know that she can be tough.
03:51Hi.
03:52Hi.
03:53I'm Tracy.
03:54Very nice to meet you.
03:55After I met the family, Dad went off to work, and whilst Mom was trying to serve lunch,
04:01the two sets of twins were going wild.
04:04Ow!
04:05Ow!
04:06Take it off!
04:08Sydney, get off the table.
04:12Stop it.
04:13Now.
04:15Mom didn't seem interested in trying to impose any discipline whatsoever.
04:21Yes, you're going to get...
04:23Parker, stop throwing my shoe.
04:25Throwing shoes and not minding Mom at all, um, that's not a good start.
04:31Parker Head.
04:32That is enough.
04:33Parker Head.
04:34Parker, stop.
04:35Parker Head.
04:36Stop.
04:37Parker Head.
04:38Parker Head.
04:39Parker Head.
04:40I saw that Mom couldn't control the two sets of twins' behavior, so then when Dad tried
04:44to do it, I saw that he couldn't do it either.
04:47Hey.
04:48Parker, we don't do that.
04:51Get down off of that.
04:52Guys.
04:53Do I need to get rid of that thing?
04:55Sydney.
04:57Okay, guys.
04:59This is getting...
05:00Oh, Parker.
05:01No.
05:02Payton, please get down, all right?
05:03He begs the children to be quiet.
05:07Please.
05:08Can you...
05:09Can you guys just be good?
05:10Yeah.
05:11And they look at him and laugh.
05:13Sydney, don't do it again.
05:16And then ignore him and carry on doing what they were doing in the first place.
05:20Come on, Sydney, please.
05:21I mean, it really is this whining tone.
05:24Sydney.
05:26Kind of like a broken record, really.
05:28Can you say down off of that?
05:29No.
05:30Please.
05:31Please.
05:32Okay, Sydney.
05:33Come on.
05:35Dad finally decided to do some discipline.
05:38But his idea of a timeout was pleading.
05:43Now, don't kick.
05:44Don't even start that.
05:46Please.
05:47Please.
05:48Do you want to go in the closet?
05:50Okay.
05:53Sit right there.
05:55And I'll let you know when you can come out.
06:03I don't know what to do.
06:04I just at that moment thought, well, where's mum in all this chaos?
06:09I just kind of peeked into the bathroom area and mum was hiding.
06:13I'm hiding.
06:14You're hiding.
06:15To have what?
06:16Your breakfast?
06:17Just a snack.
06:18I usually hide from the kids when I eat, just so I can have a little peace and quiet.
06:22Where you got there?
06:23Some fruit?
06:24And yogurt.
06:25Oh, nice.
06:26Coffee.
06:27I found mum hiding out, eating in the bathroom so that she could get a few minutes of peace.
06:34No.
06:35No, don't.
06:36Don't start hitting and stuff.
06:38Parker.
06:40Okay, then, Parker.
06:42No one's going to share their toys with you if that's how you want to act.
06:48Tracy, why are you talking to Parker through a door?
06:53He locked the door on me.
06:55No child should be able to lock themselves into their bedroom and keep out everybody else.
07:01These kids are far too young.
07:03Far too young.
07:07What kind of foods do the kids like to eat?
07:09What kind of things do you prepare for them?
07:11They like the dino chicken, mini corn dogs, macaroni and cheese.
07:17Yeah.
07:18They're not really too fast on fruit and veg and stuff.
07:20No.
07:21When mum served dinner, I saw she wasn't exaggerating.
07:27These kids sat down at the table and they weren't even eating what they should have been.
07:33Where's the healthy food plan?
07:35Jamaican.
07:36Yeah.
07:37Do you particularly like to cook or not really?
07:39I do.
07:40I mean, some people don't like it.
07:41You do?
07:42I love to cook.
07:43You love to cook.
07:44Mum just wasn't instilling a healthy eating habit and I want to know why.
07:48What's the response that you get?
07:50I don't like that.
07:52Right.
07:53I'm not going to eat that.
07:54I'm not going to try that.
07:55It could be my own macaroni and cheese.
07:57Yeah.
07:58It's not from the box.
07:59You know, the chicken is not shaped like a dinosaur.
08:02After the kids had their fill of what mum had put out there, it was time for dessert.
08:08Their end goal is to get through dinner as fast as possible so they can get dessert and really
08:17as much as they can possibly hold.
08:19Cookies!
08:29There's four more left, guys.
08:30Parker, how many cookies did you eat?
08:32How many did you eat?
08:33How many did you eat?
08:34What about you, Sydney?
08:35Mm-hmm.
08:42The kids really should have been winding down after dinner, but when dad took them upstairs
08:48they were still very lively.
08:50Stop!
08:51I heard it!
08:52Parker!
08:53Parker can get, I won't say violent for a four-year-old, but I mean, he gets very upset.
08:58Parker was having a meltdown and dad was back to being a broken record again.
09:03Stop!
09:04Stop, Parker!
09:07What is wrong with you?
09:11Ah!
09:12Okay, that's crazy.
09:13Now stop it.
09:14Stop it.
09:15Stop it.
09:17Stop it, Parker.
09:19Honestly.
09:20Ow!
09:21No discipline, locked doors and bad eating habits.
09:25I've got plenty of food for thought on this family.
09:28It's time for me to leave.
09:30Tomorrow morning we will be having a discussion.
09:33These parents do know what they need to correct.
09:36Good night.
09:37Good night.
09:38Good night.
09:39Good night.
09:40I just think that they're waiting for somebody to give them a kick up the backside and give
09:43them some motivation to get on with it, you know?
09:46Well, I want to address the importance of the issues that you're going through and what I've noticed so we can get to the bottom of some of those, okay?
10:05Okay.
10:06Okay.
10:07So, can we talk about discipline?
10:08Sure.
10:09Sure.
10:10Okay.
10:11Who does what and when and for how long?
10:13Yeah.
10:14There's no consistency.
10:15There's no fault.
10:16Yeah.
10:17There's empty threats and that's it.
10:21Well, the thing is you guys lack making a decision.
10:26That's true.
10:27Tracy, I don't know how you listen to your voice all day because every minute you are telling the children over and over again to stop doing something.
10:38Yeah.
10:39Look, you see this?
10:41This was made by you, okay?
10:44This was made by Tracy.
10:46It's the record that says over and over and over and over again.
10:52Payton, don't do that.
10:54Sidney, stop doing that.
10:56You're like a broken record.
10:58If I could slap this thing, I'll take that.
11:02A broken record.
11:03We need to stop this, okay?
11:06When it comes to actually stepping up and telling these kids, no.
11:12I mean, it's no.
11:13Well, it doesn't, doesn't appear.
11:16Now, why is that?
11:18I don't think I know how to do that.
11:21Not effectively.
11:22And then I go upstairs in the house and there are locks on the doors.
11:26So now your kids can lock themselves away from their parents.
11:29That's not a good thing.
11:31You should always be able to go into your child's bedroom.
11:34If there was a fire, then what?
11:36We'd have to scramble to find a key because there's normally...
11:39Scramble? You can't scramble when there's a fire.
11:41You'd be kicking that door down or at least trying to.
11:44I mean, it's not common sense, the pair of you.
11:48It's really not.
11:49The fact that they can just lock that door, and let's face it,
11:52they're locking that door against the pair of you
11:54when they don't want to hear what you have to say
11:57or they can't get their own way, they lock the door and use it.
12:00I mean, that should never happen.
12:02We can change that.
12:04Yeah.
12:05What I want to go on to next is meal times
12:08because this is when I'm seeing no common sense.
12:11There's no logic behind what you do, really.
12:14They pretty much dictate what they want to eat.
12:17And for an easy life, you say, OK, fine, but actually it's not an easy life.
12:20Not when I'm watching the kids eat the amount of food that they ate yesterday
12:25that didn't even consist of one piece of fruit or one piece of vegetable.
12:29If you're going to give your kids food that are high in fats and sodium and sugar,
12:34their blood sugar level is going to peak.
12:36You're going to get like a 10-minute spurt and then the kids are going to come down,
12:38they're going to need that raised again.
12:40I'm hoping one of you two are going to justify why that happens.
12:44I just don't want to hear it.
12:45I don't want to hear the whining and the complaining about what I put in front of them.
12:49You and 200 million other parents.
12:52But sometimes as parents, you have to do the things that you don't want to do.
12:57Mm-hmm.
12:58Right.
12:59What I'm hearing is you guys saying the same thing over and over again and no results.
13:03Well, guess what?
13:04We're going to change the results, right?
13:06Which means we've got to change.
13:08So, I look forward to seeing you guys very, very soon because you're going to be
13:11roaring up your sleeves and working hard.
13:14Good.
13:22With parents not knowing how to discipline, it was my first priority.
13:26Hello.
13:27Hello, Josie.
13:28Hey, Josie.
13:29All right, Josie.
13:30And I need to make sure that these kids are not locking themselves away from their parents.
13:34The first thing I do want to do is to change these locks on the kids' doors, okay?
13:40As you can see, no locks on these.
13:42Okay.
13:43Those kids do use the locks, whether it's in the bathroom or it's in their bedrooms,
13:46to keep us out.
13:47So, it's definitely a good thing to get rid of those locks.
13:51Okay.
13:52It works.
13:53I expect these parents, as they become older, to have some etiquette and to knock on the
13:56door and, you know, to ask before they can come in and that's something that they'll
13:59grow into as a family.
14:00But at the moment, they're all young children and I believe that parents exercise the right
14:05to be able to go into their children's room and to make sure that they're okay.
14:10Oh, yeah!
14:11Yeah.
14:12Now that these kids can't lock themselves away, it's time for me to put a discipline technique
14:17in place.
14:19I'm going to use a reflection room for all four kids and leave the door open whilst they're
14:28thinking in there.
14:29Whilst Dad was out playing with the children...
14:31There you go, look!
14:32Mum helped me set up the reflection room.
14:35This is going to be the reflection room, which is going to be your time out, okay?
14:40I call it the reflection room because, you know, it is about the kids reflecting and what
14:45they've done.
14:46So, they start to recognise that you're going to put some very firm boundaries in place.
14:51I'm going to ask you to clear the crayon area in a moment because the reflection room
14:56is a boring room.
14:57It means we're here alone, just not doing anything while the rest of the kids are out
15:02having fun and playing.
15:03Okay.
15:04But before we'd even finished, Parker gave her a good reason to use it.
15:09What is it?
15:10Before you rip his head off?
15:12Yeah!
15:13It's all the shooting!
15:15Parker, that is Sophia's toy.
15:17I don't want to use this.
15:19All right.
15:20You're going downstairs to sit in the reflection room.
15:23Do you hear me?
15:24Don't.
15:25And you don't hit.
15:27Don't kick.
15:30Don't kick.
15:31You have to stay in here for five minutes.
15:41Because you did not ask Sophia if you could take her toy.
15:44And then once she wanted it back, you threw it.
15:47Parker, stop.
15:48Come out.
15:49Just getting Parker into the room took a lot out of Mum.
16:04And I didn't really know whether she would follow through with discipline.
16:08So I took her aside to talk to her.
16:10And that's when she broke down.
16:12Inside, I can see it.
16:13I can see how emotional you are inside.
16:15Right?
16:16I can see that inside you.
16:19You're going to get tough and you're going to deal with these kids.
16:22Do you know why?
16:23Because these kids are going to carry on like that and walk over you.
16:26And I know that you've got that mental strength to deal with that.
16:29They're going to find respect for you.
16:31Do you know why?
16:32Because you are a loving mother.
16:34You are a mother who wants to do best by your kids.
16:37I do.
16:38After the talk, she got an apology from Parker.
16:42She had done it.
16:43Parker, I need an apology.
16:45Sorry.
16:46Everybody.
16:48But it wasn't long before Parker would start all over again.
16:53Mommy gave you a warning.
16:55And you're continuing to disrupt the game.
16:57This time I suggested that Parker do his time out in the kitchen
17:01so that Mum could keep an eye on the kids in the backyard.
17:04That boy pulled every trick out of his hat to push Mum's buttons.
17:12Just take him back to the door and these five minutes have to start all over again.
17:17Take it back.
17:18He definitely wanted to get my attention.
17:20You definitely wanted me to respond to him.
17:25Ignoring Parker when he is in that zone and in the time out,
17:29that's very hard.
17:31It's very frustrating.
17:34The other kids came inside and that's when Mum decided to put Parker back into the reflection room.
17:45And he went absolutely mad.
17:48Parker was so mad that he became very destructive and started to tear up everything in that room.
18:02It seemed like it took forever.
18:05And it was exhausting.
18:06But I knew I had to stick with it.
18:07Because I can outdo them.
18:08They're not going to get the better of me.
18:09Parker.
18:10Can you apologise to Mummy?
18:11Sorry.
18:12Mum's going to have more challenges like this.
18:13But if she remains consistent, then the kids are going to realise pretty quickly she means business.
18:26Next on the discipline agenda was mending Dad's broken record.
18:40This is what I hear.
18:42Payton, don't do that.
18:45Get down off of that.
18:46Guys.
18:47Sydney.
18:48Oh, Parker.
18:50Payton, please get down.
18:52Alright.
18:53Voices project well in the shower.
18:55And so I decided to give Dad a fun vocal coaching session there.
19:00What you want to be able to do is to slow your speech pattern down, okay?
19:05You need to behave yourself.
19:07You need to behave yourself.
19:10Here, look.
19:11Come down.
19:12Come down so you're giving me eye contact.
19:14And even if your head is slightly tinted, you're looking at them like this.
19:17Behave yourself right now, otherwise you're going in to time out.
19:22Try that.
19:23Behave yourself right now, otherwise you're going in to time out.
19:27Dad's made some progress, but the real test is going to be in a real life situation.
19:37Sydney, if you're going to be outside, you've got to have some shoes on, okay?
19:40Later on in the afternoon, I saw Sydney starting to play up.
19:44And that would be when Dad would use the reflection room and hopefully a firm voice too.
19:50I went over again with Dad how to use discipline properly and his firm voice.
19:56I then want you to go over to her, give her eye contact, come down to her level,
20:03and really lower your tone.
20:06And sent him back to deal with Sydney.
20:09Okay, so here we go.
20:10I knew it was going to be a battle, because it's Sydney.
20:13I mean, she's so strong-willed.
20:16You want to be outside, you need to have shoes on, or you're going to go sit in time out.
20:23Sydney?
20:26I just thought, oh boy, here we go.
20:28Stop!
20:29She was fighting and clawing every step of the way.
20:34Got her into the room and pretty much knew it was a long battle.
20:37Come down and say to her, you did not listen to Dad, and so you're staying in here.
20:41Sydney?
20:42You, Sydney, you did not listen to Daddy, so you're going to stay in here.
20:47This time, Dad was going to draw the line and stay put.
20:55You move her back in.
20:58Don't worry about that.
21:00Dad started to panic.
21:01I mean, this man really does sweat when he gets nervous.
21:04It was far from over.
21:08Okay, so no communication, and you just literally continue where you were.
21:13Dad was using the discipline technique for the first time.
21:16However, Sydney, hmm, she did not like it.
21:33Get out of here!
21:34I was kind of worn out myself, and I think Sydney had kind of worn down as well.
21:39After Sydney did finally stay in the room for four minutes, Dad did the last steps of the technique by making sure he explained what she did wrong and asking her for an apology.
21:53Sydney, the reason you were in here, Sydney, is because you wouldn't listen.
22:04You need to apologize to Daddy for not listening, Sydney.
22:10So, lift her up, give her a hug and a kiss.
22:12In the past, the kids always did win when it came to discipline.
22:16I love you.
22:17And today, for once, I won the battle.
22:22The line has been drawn.
22:23There is a line.
22:24It will not move.
22:25All right, we've done the hugs and the kiss.
22:27All right, no grudges, okay?
22:28Let's just move on.
22:29Let's enjoy the fun.
22:30The kids are out playing cards.
22:31You gonna play Go Fetch?
22:33Is it the last of Sydney?
22:34I don't think so.
22:35I think Sydney's gonna give them another run for their money.
22:38But if I can really have the opportunity to teach Mom and Dad to have a backbone, then it's gonna be good for them when I'm not there.
22:45You gonna play Go Fetch?
22:46You gonna play Go Fetch?
22:47You gonna play Go Fetch?
22:52All right, Deborah, come and stand over here.
22:54Next was to tackle that terrible food plan.
22:57And I saw that Mom had a big box of recipes, so it was about time we started to use them.
23:07We're going to muscle into all of these recipe books.
23:11You're going to pick out some really healthy options, all right?
23:14And you're gonna come up with seven meals.
23:17And you're gonna place each meal into one of these triangles.
23:22I eat healthy, but I don't provide that for the kids.
23:27And you love to cook.
23:28I do.
23:29So, I mean, once you start, I mean, look at all these lovely root vegetables. Look!
23:32I think I will have to force them to eat different things because they're not used to eating that way.
23:37But it's definitely worthwhile.
23:39To get the kids involved, the triangles became a part of the meal wheel game.
23:43And what we're gonna do is each one of you are gonna get a chance to choose a meal by spinning the meal.
23:50And then it will be on a certain night.
23:53I love that wheel, the food wheel that Joe brought in.
23:56Who's gonna go first?
23:57Got them involved, got them excited about eating that food.
23:59Okay, who's next?
24:01Spin the meal!
24:02One of my favourites.
24:09All right, Parker, what you got?
24:12One of your favourites, Parker.
24:15Oh, you've chose your favourite.
24:17Okay, grilled fish.
24:19We have, what do we have there?
24:24Grilled chicken, sweet potatoes, vegetables.
24:27And?
24:28Fruit dressing.
24:31Mm-hmm.
24:32So, now we've chosen.
24:34The only thing left to do right now is to go and shop for this food.
24:38So, we're gonna go off to the farmer's market, all right?
24:42And we're gonna do a little bit of shopping.
24:44And we're gonna do a little bit of tasting as well.
24:46Who's ready to go to the farmer's market?
24:48Me!
24:49All right, let's go then.
24:52When we went to the farmer's market, I wasn't really sure how that was going to go.
24:56We're gonna go around very slowly.
24:58And we're gonna start to sample things that we like, okay?
25:01The biggest thing is that they have to be enthusiastic about their children trying different fruits and veg.
25:06Let's try one of these.
25:08It's really important to just be very eager.
25:11Let them sample.
25:12And they start to tell you about what they like and what they don't.
25:14Do you like this?
25:15You do?
25:16Sydney, is that a thumbs up?
25:19That's a thumbs up.
25:20That's a toot.
25:21Oh, she gave me a two thumbs up.
25:23The kids tried different fruits.
25:25They had raw vegetables.
25:27What do you think?
25:28You see?
25:29And you know what you just said?
25:30You said, I don't want to try it.
25:31But look, you like it.
25:32Oh, we gotta get sweet potatoes.
25:34For some parents, it's really problematic to get their kids to eat fruit, vegetables and a healthy eating plan.
25:41But with some good organization and getting the kids really engaged and interested, it is possible.
25:47Buy mango.
25:48It's a mango.
25:49Mango chicken.
25:50It's wonderful when you see that.
25:51It really is.
25:52I spent a whole day really working hard transforming their thoughts about food, but the real test
26:08was gonna be at dinner time.
26:09Okay, do you guys want milk or water?
26:11No.
26:12I want water.
26:14The last time we ate with our kids and enjoyed the experience, I honestly don't remember.
26:21Who's ready for chicken?
26:22Me.
26:23Me.
26:24Just to see all the variety of food and that we all were going to sit down at the table
26:29and eat at the same time, made it feel like a family again.
26:32Keep an eye on Parker because he's not eating some of the chicken.
26:34Oh.
26:35He's gonna have some of the mango.
26:36I have it with the chicken as well.
26:37A piece of mango, a piece of chicken.
26:39I'm doing it.
26:40You are?
26:41Good job then.
26:42That's what I want to see.
26:43More milk.
26:47You need to eat your chicken.
26:48Let's eat some more chicken first.
26:50As the meal wore on, Sydney started to lose interest and it was up to Mum to set her
26:55straight.
26:56Can you take the bite out of this one?
26:58Can you finish that one?
26:59Yeah.
27:00Can you?
27:01Can you?
27:02Shall I tell you the difference between telling and asking?
27:03There's a choice.
27:04Can you?
27:05No.
27:06Finish off the pepper.
27:08Eat the rest of that pepper.
27:11Please sit in your chair and eat the rest of the pepper.
27:15You're not gonna get down Sydney, you're not gonna play.
27:19Scent.
27:22And then you've told her, so then you just let go of it and you continue to eat.
27:26She can decide.
27:27And eventually, Sydney listened to Mum and decided just to get on with it.
27:32Sydney, did you just finish off that pepper?
27:35No way.
27:36It was a complete turnaround, watching this family eat at dinner time.
27:40They'd gone from junk to really healthy options.
27:44Dinner was over, but so was my time teaching this family for several days.
27:50So there's lots for you guys to be getting on with whilst I'm away.
27:54We've got discipline, Tracy, certainly your voice.
27:58I've gone for three days.
28:00Don't forget what you've been taught, because it's necessary that you use it.
28:04I know that it works, and I know that there's a light at the end of the tunnel.
28:08I hope that we don't let anything fall through the cracks.
28:11Good night.
28:12Good night.
28:13Mum and Dad sure have a lot on their plates.
28:17But I'm particularly worried whether Mum's going to remember it all.
28:22I just hope these guys can do it without me.
28:25I'm in trouble.
28:32It's only been a few days, but I am eager to see how the Simmons family have done without me.
28:37The silence.
28:42I'm afraid.
28:43Really?
28:44I am.
28:45Let's have a look.
28:50Payton, move.
28:53Payton, I'm asking you right now to move.
28:56Payton!
29:00Go!
29:01You have to stop acting that way, Payton.
29:05Let me hear an apology.
29:07Sorry, dear.
29:09No.
29:10Sorry, dear.
29:11That is not an apology, Payton.
29:13Sorry, there.
29:15I told you I was sorry, now I'm going in.
29:24Tell me what you saw there that could have been corrected.
29:28Payton's apology could have been a better apology.
29:33The apology didn't come genuine.
29:37And in that case, you were then supposed to walk out and say,
29:40well, if you can't apologise sincerely, then actually you can stay in here and calm down.
29:45Because you could see we're still angry.
29:47And that's when you had to walk out and give it like 30, 40 seconds and then go back in.
29:51And then in the beginning, you actually didn't go over and give them a warning.
29:56I'm telling you right now, stop this behaviour, otherwise I'll be putting you into the reflection room.
30:00Mm-hmm.
30:01So let's take a look at the next clip here.
30:03What do you want to drink?
30:05Milk?
30:06Water?
30:08Or?
30:09It's appealing.
30:10We don't have a pop anymore.
30:11Daddy and I dumped it out.
30:13Why?
30:14Because it's not good for you.
30:16Drink that water.
30:17I'm very pleased to see that.
30:22Much needed.
30:23And I'm sure you've noticed a difference as well.
30:25Yes, we have.
30:26Never be afraid to tell your kids why.
30:28You know, that it is high in sugar, that there are lots of additives, preservatives.
30:32Let them know that the choices that you're making for them are healthier ones
30:36because you care about what they are drinking, what they are eating.
30:40All right?
30:41We'll move on to Dad's voice.
30:43I'm it!
30:44Peyton, stop throwing the pillows at Sydney.
30:48Come over here and sit down.
30:52If you're playing, get your feet in there right now.
30:54If you're not playing, we're going to start and you will be left out.
30:58You can make a choice as to how you want to play the game.
31:01If you want to play the game right, you make the choice.
31:05Very good. Look at you.
31:07You've been going to the restroom a lot.
31:09You've been singing in that shower.
31:11Have you heard of singing in the shower?
31:13Straight away, you nipped that in the bud.
31:15You came right down with your tone of voice.
31:18You slowed your speech pattern down.
31:20Absolutely fantastic.
31:22Well done, Tracey.
31:24Absolutely brilliant.
31:25You've done really well there.
31:26OK, Mum, let's take a look at yours.
31:28Peyton, quiet.
31:30Sophia, what are you playing?
31:32Please tell them.
31:33Sydney, stop yelling.
31:34What happened, Parker?
31:36Sydney.
31:37Peyton, no throwing.
31:40Sophia.
31:41Sydney.
31:42Peyton.
31:43Peyton.
31:44Sydney.
31:45Keep your hands and your feet to yourself.
31:49Sydney, what did I just tell you?
31:52I've got a record you can borrow.
31:54I think I've got my own.
31:57We need to work on the voice big time, Debra.
32:01OK?
32:02And how are we going to do that?
32:05Well, you've done such a great job.
32:06You're going to teach your wife.
32:08All right.
32:10There are lots of things that we need to really tighten up and tweak with regards to your voice,
32:18your posture.
32:20Mum needs to step up.
32:21She does.
32:22She needs to become more assertive, take a hold of those reins.
32:25Because if she doesn't, she will go back to square one very, very quickly.
32:29So let's get cracking because we still have lots of work to do, all right?
32:37Whoa!
32:38After the DVD meeting, I knew that Mum needed more coaching with her voice.
32:43Go play for a minute while we talk.
32:46And as I'd previously already helped Dad, I enlisted his help.
32:51Basically, everything that you learn from me, you're actually going to teach each other.
32:55And it just helps you to feel supported by one another.
32:58So I had Tracy take Mum up to the shower and do some voice training.
33:02What we just practiced doing was just talking deeper.
33:05We also practiced, like, getting down to their level.
33:07So we would just get down like this.
33:09It helps to bring your voice down a little bit.
33:11And then just, you know, don't do that or else you're going to time out.
33:15Don't do that or else you're going to time out.
33:18That is crazy.
33:20Why am I getting in the shower?
33:22And why did he get in the shower with Joe?
33:24Kind of goofy at first, but all about slowing down, talking deeper, and really getting their attention.
33:30Because it was like, you know, where I was just whining all the time.
33:35So practice that again.
33:36Parker, Parker.
33:38But it definitely worked.
33:40I could hear myself.
33:41Parker, get over here right now.
33:44That was good.
33:45And, you know, after that I could use it.
33:47I could bring back that voice that I needed.
33:50What do you think?
33:51Let's try it out in the real world.
33:54There we go.
33:58Parker.
33:59No.
34:00Just a few minutes later, Mom got a chance to put that new voice into practice.
34:06Oh, surprise, surprise.
34:08Parker was playing up again.
34:10Parker.
34:11Immediately, when Parker started acting up, I just thought, there is just no rest.
34:16Parker, you have a choice.
34:17No, no choice.
34:18He has a warning.
34:19So your tone of voice is without, is absolute.
34:23It's with conviction.
34:24What I need Deborah to be is more assertive.
34:27We want these children to recognize that Mom is not a pushover.
34:32Parker, you're sitting in time out because you would not listen.
34:36And I asked you, this is your time out spot.
34:43You have to be on and you have to be prepared to turn it on.
34:49And so I just sucked it up and did it.
34:53Get away from me, butthead.
34:55When she placed Parker out to do his time out, he knew.
35:01He knew she wasn't messing around.
35:03Now, when he's done his four minutes, you're going to go over to him with the same firm voice.
35:08You need to tell me you're sorry.
35:11Remember, it's all about your body posture.
35:13You're upright, you're confident, you're assertive, and you're taking care of this.
35:17You're taking care of him because you are not going to be a pushover.
35:21You're going to be assertive in the way you address it. Off you go.
35:25Parker, I put you in time out because you did not listen.
35:28Parker, you need to apologize.
35:30Sorry.
35:31A sincere apology is where he's going to give you the eye contact.
35:35If he doesn't do that, then walk away.
35:38I could see that this discipline process was really taking its toll on Mom.
35:44And when I just took her to the side, all this emotion just came to the top.
35:49You're doing this beautifully.
35:51This is a complete 360 turnaround.
35:54Completely.
35:55Do you feel different?
35:56I do.
35:57And I think the DVD was an eye-opener.
35:59Looking at myself.
36:00Good.
36:01Good.
36:02Miss, you broke down.
36:04Don't get upset with yourself.
36:06Don't get angry with yourself.
36:08You learned from it.
36:09That's what's good about it.
36:10You learned from it.
36:11That's a good thing.
36:12Right?
36:13Okay, you're changing.
36:14That's a good thing.
36:15That's a good thing.
36:16Right?
36:17No passive.
36:18No passive.
36:19Assertive.
36:20Okay.
36:21Assertive.
36:27Parker, I need that apology.
36:29She walked with purpose.
36:31She spoke with conviction.
36:33Sorry.
36:35And she came out with a result because he did what he was told.
36:39I was very, very pleased with her.
36:41After he got out of time out and I offered him a drink, he said thank you.
36:46Which really made me feel good.
36:50Now that's what I'm talking about.
36:52That is what I am talking about.
36:55With mum now gaining control, which is a good thing, it's time for me to go.
37:00JoJo's going to leave now.
37:03Goodbye young man.
37:04You've got to shake JoJo's hand.
37:05Are you going to go all shy on me?
37:08It's been a really wonderful experience for me working with the Simmons family.
37:12Bye.
37:13They were on board from the get go.
37:16They supported each other a hundred percent.
37:19Bye Sophia.
37:20Take care darling, okay?
37:22Thanks Jo for helping my family.
37:24What I want to say to you both is that you've worked very, very hard.
37:30You have recognized what was necessary, okay, to change and you've done it.
37:36So keep it up.
37:37Jo, thank you so much for coming into our home and putting our family back together.
37:43I feel very confident and very empowered.
37:46Alright, keep up your work and yourself with that voice, okay?
37:49We've come so far just to sit back and think about all the improvements we've made.
37:53It's unbelievable.
37:55Bye.
37:56Take care.
37:57Bye Jo.
37:58Bye bye.
37:59Mum and Dad have worked really hard and as a result of that all four kids have been very receptive to change.
38:04Which is absolutely fantastic.
38:06So hopefully this family will understand the importance of what they've done to continue in their success.
38:23It's a great week.
38:24Bye.
38:25Come on.
38:26We love you.
38:28We love you.
38:29We love you.
38:30Bye.
38:31Bye.
38:32Bye.
38:33Bye.
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