Parental Guidance Season 3 Episode 2

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00:00:01OK, let's go!

00:00:03Parenthood is messy, chaotic and beautiful.

00:00:08We love you.

00:00:09We love you too.

00:00:10But modern parenting has never been more complicated.

00:00:14In this special event series of parental guidance,

00:00:17we're tackling the biggest issues facing parents today.

00:00:21The modern world definitely is rushing children through childhood.

00:00:24Last time, we took on screen time.

00:00:27The most popular online gaming platform for young children

00:00:31is a pedophile hellscape.

00:00:34And our traditional parents were voted the best.

00:00:37Yay!

00:00:39Tonight, peer pressure.

00:00:42Come on, I bet you've done something naughty in your life.

00:00:44A long-standing struggle for young people

00:00:46that is now pushing kids to the edge.

00:00:49I don't care about your opinion.

00:00:50Maybe we let him play instead of you.

00:00:52Four sets of parents take on the challenges

00:00:54and the panel decides who does it best.

00:00:57Essentially, two wrongs don't make a right.

00:00:59You're not perfect either.

00:01:00We can focus on some of your flaws as well.

00:01:02Here we go.

00:01:03Can today's kids make friends?

00:01:05There's almost a bit of flirting going on.

00:01:07Nathan and Joanne, you're in trouble.

00:01:10Do they practise consent?

00:01:12If you've kissed someone before,

00:01:14does that mean you've agreed to kiss them

00:01:16every time one of you feels like it?

00:01:18Do you let somebody take a naked photo of you?

00:01:21No, no!

00:01:22And can they resist toxic influences?

00:01:25I don't know what it's like to be a teenage girl

00:01:28navigating this culture.

00:01:45Parents, come on in. Nice to see you.

00:01:46Elvie and Sean.

00:01:48Nice to see you.

00:01:49Amanda and Hassan, it's so good to have you here.

00:01:51Mark and Tammy, nice to see you guys.

00:01:54Yeah.

00:01:55Hi Courtney.

00:01:56Hi John.

00:01:57Amy and Mark.

00:01:58Hello.

00:01:59Welcome to the ultimate parenting experiment.

00:02:02Tonight, we are getting into a really tricky topic

00:02:06because it's the hardest one for us to directly control.

00:02:09It's peer pressure.

00:02:11As children grow, so does the pressure to fit in and follow the crowd.

00:02:18This can lead to young people making unsafe, unhealthy or even illegal choices.

00:02:25Even though you won't be there when this pressure is happening,

00:02:28parents play a crucial role in helping kids develop the strength

00:02:32to stand their ground, to make good decisions and to resist negative influences.

00:02:38Tonight, this side of the room is back in the hot seat.

00:02:41We'll see how our focus families handle different elements of peer pressure.

00:02:47Ability to make friends.

00:02:50Ability to navigate consent.

00:02:52And ability to say no when the pressure's on.

00:02:56Panel parents, your job is to watch closely.

00:03:00Analyse the strengths and weaknesses of each parenting style as it relates to peer pressure.

00:03:08Whose parenting style gives their children the confidence and social skills to form healthy relationships.

00:03:17And the resilience and strength to stand strong against negative peer pressure.

00:03:23And take notes.

00:03:26Remember, you'll be voting later.

00:03:29So Focus Families, refresh us on your parenting style.

00:03:33Courtney and John, tell us about you.

00:03:36We're the ProTech parents, we embrace technology in our everyday lives

00:03:40so that our kids acquire the skills that they need for their future.

00:03:46I socialise with my kids through technology because we will play games together,

00:03:51we will live stream together, we'll make content together.

00:03:54Good morning!

00:03:55It's Wednesday morning, time to get ready.

00:03:58It is a family business, like back in the day you would open a cafe,

00:04:02you know, the whole family would chip in.

00:04:03I think they'd much rather give me 15 minutes of their time,

00:04:06do a TikTok, get paid, go back into their room.

00:04:09How are you, Klein?

00:04:11I'm really good, thank you.

00:04:12How about yourself?

00:04:13Gaming allows the children to socialise with their friends online

00:04:17and meet people online.

00:04:18Thank you for the gifts.

00:04:20It's very easy to succumb to peer pressure.

00:04:23So I think we've had a lot of conversations with them about standing up for what you believe in

00:04:28and making sure your voice is heard.

00:04:31Panel parents, what are our thoughts on our ProTech parents?

00:04:34Yeah, I really liked watching that, obviously because of the social media work that our family does.

00:04:39Like Courtney, we have experienced things that people only dream of

00:04:44and that's all thanks to what we do on social media.

00:04:47Yeah.

00:04:48Okay.

00:04:49Amy and Mark, we're the active parents.

00:04:53We choose fun and outdoor activities.

00:04:55And we prioritise family time.

00:04:57Ow!

00:04:58Oh!

00:04:59Ow!

00:05:00Ow!

00:05:01As active parents, I'm all for risky play.

00:05:05Also the backyard we built was a risky backyard.

00:05:10As active parents with peer pressure, we're constantly talking to the kids about it.

00:05:16No means no.

00:05:17If they don't want to do something, they don't have to do something.

00:05:20If you don't want to do it, just say no and walk away.

00:05:23Can I ask you, where the kids are playing?

00:05:26Where is that?

00:05:27That's our backyard.

00:05:28Yeah.

00:05:29I don't want to live at your house.

00:05:31Yes.

00:05:32Yeah, we're very lucky.

00:05:34Okay.

00:05:35Mark and Tammy, we're the upfront parents.

00:05:38And we still have old school values.

00:05:40With open communication where knowledge is power.

00:05:43Do a silly run.

00:05:47We're the upfront family and we're all about proactive parenting, having open and honest conversations.

00:05:53Dinner's ready.

00:05:54Get him ready.

00:05:55We've spoken to our children about drugs.

00:05:57Realistically, we've got four boys.

00:05:59It's not if, it's when.

00:06:00Did you help anybody today?

00:06:02Our front parenting is having big conversations with our kids.

00:06:05We have had the conversation about dick pics.

00:06:08Nothing is off-limits.

00:06:09If our kids felt pressured by others, they would like to think that they can remember what we've

00:06:18been saying for 13 years.

00:06:19Get him ready.

00:06:20Yeah.

00:06:21We rely on them knowing right from wrong.

00:06:23We've taught our kids to say no if they don't agree with something.

00:06:26Our kids will definitely, definitely say no.

00:06:28Much to our detriment sometimes.

00:06:30One comment you made that drugs is just a matter of time.

00:06:38I don't agree with that comment.

00:06:40We've got four boys and we need to be realistic about this.

00:06:44Peer pressure comes into this as well.

00:06:47When we've got a grade five child coming home telling us how to take cocaine.

00:06:52So they've already heard about these topics?

00:06:54They're already well and truly aware of these topics.

00:06:57Wow.

00:06:58Okay, Nathan and Joanne, tell us your preferred parenting style.

00:07:03We're the traditional parents.

00:07:05We have traditional mum and dad roles.

00:07:07We lead by example, being kind and disciplined with ourselves.

00:07:11One, two, three.

00:07:14We are traditional parents.

00:07:16We've chosen to parent our children with strong Christian values.

00:07:18One, two, three, four, five.

00:07:20We allow them to walk their path and we just sort of, we're going along protecting them

00:07:26and keeping them safe on it.

00:07:29As traditional parents, I think our children can handle peer pressure very well.

00:07:34And they have a very clear standard of what's right and wrong.

00:07:36That's based on our faith.

00:07:39If they're pressured to do something that crosses that line, then it's a hard no for them.

00:07:46We decided firearms is a good hobby because we like to do things together.

00:07:50We see it as a way to hone some fine motor skills.

00:07:53We believe it promotes a healthy discipline.

00:07:57They also get a sense of competition and achievement out of it when they do well.

00:08:03You guys teach your kids how to handle dangerous things safely.

00:08:08Yeah.

00:08:09If anything, that's the best thing you're doing there.

00:08:11I don't feel comfortable about kids being around guns, especially if they're on social media,

00:08:17a lot of bullying happening, if the kid knows there's a weapon inside the house.

00:08:21And I would argue, I'd argue social media accounts more likely to kill your kids than the gun in Australia.

00:08:27It's far more dangerous, more children die from online bullying than they do from guns.

00:08:32Wow, man.

00:08:34People should not have guns and you do not need guns.

00:08:37It's a sport.

00:08:38How's it any more dangerous to surfing?

00:08:41To hear an Australian family had guns, I think, was the biggest shock for me.

00:08:45And especially from a Christian family.

00:08:47I didn't expect it.

00:08:48OK, four very different parenting styles.

00:08:52Who will show us the best way of equipping kids to deal with peer pressure?

00:08:57This side of the room, remember tonight, you'll be our panel parents.

00:09:01So watch carefully and take notes.

00:09:04Later, you'll be voting on the parenting style you think is most effective

00:09:10when it comes to the issue of peer pressure.

00:09:15So let's get into the first challenge.

00:09:17Not all peer pressure is bad.

00:09:20Peer pressure makes us get out of bed to meet our friends at the gym.

00:09:25Push our kids out of their comfort zones on school camp.

00:09:29Healthy friendships help kids to enjoy the good times and stay strong in the bad times.

00:09:36But we are facing a loneliness epidemic.

00:09:40In an increasingly online world, the loneliness among young people is now at an all-time high.

00:09:45Kids have to learn how to make friends.

00:09:49If they don't learn how to make friends, by the time they reach their late teens, they could end up lonely for life.

00:09:56In this challenge, our focus kids put their social skills to the test.

00:10:03By going speed dating.

00:10:05For a new friend.

00:10:06For a new friend.

00:10:09In this challenge, we're testing whether parents have taught their children how to make friends.

00:10:15Do they know how to strike up a conversation with someone new?

00:10:19Healthy friendships help kids to feel more confident about facing negative peer pressure.

00:10:25Archer, come here.

00:10:29Archer, come here. Here's a text. Quick.

00:10:32How comfortable are your kids with making new friends? Let's find out.

00:10:37Rose is heading out for a milkshake.

00:10:39A milkshake.

00:10:40A milkshake.

00:10:41How comfortable are you with making new friends?

00:10:45I'm not that comfortable.

00:10:47Yeah, I know. This is going to be tricky.

00:10:49At least I have milkshake.

00:10:51Yeah, exactly.

00:10:53In this challenge, each child will have five minutes to make a new friend before the bell rings and a new interaction begins.

00:10:59We want to see if the kids are comfortable using social conventions and are confident in new social situations.

00:11:08Because these skills are their first lines of defence against negative peer pressure.

00:11:15My name's Zach.

00:11:16My name's Marshall.

00:11:18Marshall's our most confident kid.

00:11:20Do you have any hobbies or anything?

00:11:22Yeah, I like boxing. I've had seven fights.

00:11:25Have you won any?

00:11:26Yeah, I think I've won four fights and lost three.

00:11:29That's pretty good.

00:11:30Yeah.

00:11:32I think the active parenting style will help him out with making new friends.

00:11:36Building his confidence.

00:11:37Building confidence.

00:11:38Hello.

00:11:40My name's Marshall.

00:11:42Maddie.

00:11:43Do you like music?

00:11:45Yeah, I love music.

00:11:46Probably couldn't live without it.

00:11:47Yeah, same.

00:11:49Yeah.

00:11:51I'm a scaredy-cat.

00:11:53If I watch a horror movie, I'll have nightmares for the next week.

00:11:55Yeah, I don't like horror movies.

00:11:57Yeah.

00:11:58We were in the woods camping once and I was like, went down to this, through the woods and there was this old shack where people used to live in.

00:12:05When I go camping, for some reason my dad likes a park really far away from the bathroom.

00:12:10So like when we go to have a shower or something, we have to walk all the way there.

00:12:14We ran back and I'm like, I don't want to do this.

00:12:17Yeah.

00:12:18Hello, Jamie.

00:12:19Yeah, Rose.

00:12:20Nice to meet you.

00:12:21Nice to meet you.

00:12:22Nice to meet you.

00:12:23You look lovely.

00:12:24I think Rose is going to be a little bit nervous.

00:12:26Are you enjoying the summer?

00:12:27Yeah.

00:12:28I feel a little bit nervous for her.

00:12:30She's only 12, so she's quite capable.

00:12:31I'm used to being with her.

00:12:32What's your favourite joke?

00:12:33Joke?

00:12:34Yeah.

00:12:35Why did Shakespeare only write in ink?

00:12:36Why?

00:12:37Because pencils confused him.

00:12:38To be or not to be.

00:12:39That is the question.

00:12:40Oh.

00:12:41As traditional parents, we do monitor their social circles very closely.

00:12:58Hello.

00:12:59Hi.

00:13:00Saxon.

00:13:01Yeah, nice to meet you.

00:13:02Oh yeah, good.

00:13:03Nice to meet you, too.

00:13:04Are you started back to school?

00:13:05Yeah.

00:13:06What grade do you work for?

00:13:07I know.

00:13:08What grade do you work for?

00:13:09yeah what grade you in i'm in grade eight i'm great too oh really yeah you look much taller than

00:13:13me yeah um uh yeah so you had like a great holidays yeah it was it was good yeah too cute

00:13:27um yeah so

00:13:42if i had to pick a friend out of everyone i met today i would probably pick

00:13:46saxon because i don't know i don't know oh nathan and joanne you're in trouble

00:14:01what did you think of that that was very cute there was almost a bit of flirting going on

00:14:06amy and mark we thought that marshall introduced himself very well and he shared his interests a

00:14:12lot yeah and one thing is generous in giving compliments the traditional parents you guys

00:14:20may feel nervous at the beginning she done excellent why were you nervous you weren't i i just

00:14:28i don't know to be honest nervous now to find that saxon kid

00:14:34nathan you're a dad of two girls i'm a dad of six girls

00:14:37and it's really tricky for dads to navigate their little girl growing up it's the first time i've

00:14:54kind of seen that ria you know ever and it's played back at you and so it's kind of a little bit of a

00:15:00well i know what he's doing and i know what's happening there yeah but i mean we've got a long

00:15:03way to go before she's dating it is happening and you're just not told about it i was interested

00:15:10in boys i remember the grade six i think joanne might be a bit naive to think that at 13 years of

00:15:18age rose he's not thinking about boys i think there's a risk of the traditional parents wrapping

00:15:23their kids in cotton wool and not letting them experience the real world their views are really

00:15:28outdated next we welcome an expert something's clearly gone wrong and how they understand consent

00:15:36to confront the year's most challenging topic consent if you've kissed someone before does that

00:15:42mean you've agreed to kiss them every time one of you feels like it it's not consensual at all no

00:15:49one was consenting to it then which parenting style will come out on top and can now share whose

00:15:56parenting style works the best when it comes to peer pressure

00:16:05tonight we'll see how our focus families handle different elements of peer pressure with our first

00:16:12challenge underway speed dating for a friend having friends is a vital part of a happy and well-rounded

00:16:22life especially for kids and parents can support healthy relationships by equipping their kids with

00:16:29good values and an awareness of how to resist negative peer pressure should we see how our other parents

00:16:36went yes as parents our job is to help our children become socially adept knowing how to introduce

00:16:46themselves how to meet someone's eyes shake their hand they need to learn to focus on being

00:16:51interested rather than interesting

00:16:57healthy friendships are one of the best ways to combat negative peer pressure

00:17:01in this challenge we are seeing how our focus kids go making new friends

00:17:06nice to meet you nice to meet you my name is samuel what's yours my name's archer as upfront parents

00:17:14archer going out to meet new people i don't have any concerns about that i know by us being able to

00:17:20have conversations with our kids yeah it's probably given them the confidence to then go and maybe

00:17:25approach people and speak to them as well do you have any hobbies um

00:17:30um um yeah i like to play football basketball i like to play video games nice i like to play video

00:17:41games as well yeah i feel like every teenager does nowadays i'm not going to get addicted to gaming and

00:17:49stuff like other people hi what's your name archer what's your name natasha

00:18:02do you play any sports yeah i play basketball same i used to do swimming

00:18:09what's your favorite food um i had a chicken

00:18:25hi hi what's your name my name's landon i'm hugo it's good thanks nice to meet you

00:18:33as pro tech parents people often assume that because our kids are on technology that they will

00:18:40turn into screen zombies milk tricks are good

00:18:45we can see that they can be at home but still socialized

00:18:50i think online friends are better because you don't have to see them all the time

00:18:55that's the real answer

00:18:56you don't have to see them all the time

00:19:06do you play any games yeah i play fortnite i play fortnite as well

00:19:10nice what level are you i'm i don't really know what level i am but i'm over 200.

00:19:16over 200 i'm only 100. yeah

00:19:18nice to meet you what is your favorite thing to do with friends probably play fortnite

00:19:34i'd probably go shopping yeah that's pretty good yeah

00:19:38okay let's talk about our upfront parents mark and tammy with archer seemed a little bit nervous

00:19:53you know shaking the leg fidgeting a little bit it actually surprised me seeing his reaction there

00:19:57because out of the four boys whenever we go out he's the first one to make friends but that's in

00:20:02his comfort zone yeah i think i'd be nervous speed dating too oh yeah for courtney and john with

00:20:10landon i noticed the first thing obviously he said that he wasn't comfortable but i love that he

00:20:14shook hands and he introduced himself that was fantastic i think when there was an interest that

00:20:20was shared his face lit up and then he started to communicate a bit better but watching landon kind

00:20:26of reminded me of myself when i was young i was hooked to the screens and video games and i was very

00:20:31anti-social i couldn't hold conversations yeah you can see he wasn't comfortable being in that like

00:20:36he's normally used to probably chatting to the people online which to me is to us it's actually a

00:20:40concern i think that's where the concerns of us who don't do much screen time we feel that that

00:20:46negatively affects ability to form relationships and things like that exactly you even mentioned

00:20:54which i think's a bit of a dangerous narrative is online friends are better it was a joke yeah

00:21:00it was a joke i have my own reasons but yes there's a lot of things we joke about that then

00:21:06carry on to our kids saying that you don't need friends in real life you've got them online

00:21:11it's just a crazy concept to me i really did take on board what they said about landon and his social

00:21:18skills i do feel sorry for him though because i would be stressed too that is a very stressful

00:21:23circumstance and it doesn't come down to using technology let's be honest that's a really hard

00:21:29thing for a lot of adults to do what our job as parents is is to help our children to become

00:21:37socially adept it's about providing opportunities for face-to-face interaction with new people

00:21:43that's the essential skill for their overall emotional and social growth let's get into the

00:21:50next challenge as parents we teach our kids about road safety stranger danger but when it comes to

00:21:57consent many parents put it in the too hard basket while 90 percent of parents agree that it's their

00:22:04job to teach consent less than half actually have that conversation with their kids that means that

00:22:10kids are more likely to learn about consent from their peers which could lead to inaccurate or even

00:22:16harmful ideas of what consent is and how it should be given so in this challenge we asked the focus

00:22:23parents to simply talk about consent with their kids and we did say keep it as age appropriate as

00:22:30you felt comfortable to help them out we provided scenarios from the federal government's consent can't

00:22:37wait campaign these are specifically designed to help with these conversations for this one we've brought

00:22:44in an extra expert to help review how you went joining us in the parent lounge is consent educator

00:22:52daniel prince chape thanks for having me good to see you then grab a seat perhaps we could just start

00:23:04by explaining the work that you do and and why consent is so important i work with young people young men

00:23:12predominantly across australia helping them make sense of the messages that they get about consent respect

00:23:18and sex dan how big is the problem when it comes to young people and something that keeps me up at

00:23:24night is that 15 to 19 year old girls are the biggest victims of sexual assault in our nation

00:23:30and the flip side of that very unfortunate coin is that 15 to 19 year old boys are the biggest

00:23:36perpetrators of sexual violence in our nation

00:23:41now i do this work because that's not who i believe young boys are i don't believe they're wired that way

00:23:47something's clearly gone wrong and how they understand relationship sex power

00:23:52consent and it's our job to help prevent that and help them actually know what is a healthy relationship

00:24:00okay peer pressure can impact a child's decision making their ability to say no especially when it

00:24:07feels like everyone else is doing it let's find out how our focus parents handled one of the most

00:24:14important conversations they'll ever have this challenge will reveal if these parents know how

00:24:22to talk to their kids about consent in an open and factual way there's a text parents it's time to

00:24:31talk about consent with your children okay all right kids i'm talking about consent you know what

00:24:39consent is don't you one of the biggest issues with peer pressure is its effect on how consent is

00:24:45given kids need to be aware of any peer pressure to say yes and the best way to learn that is from

00:24:51their parents in this challenge our focus families must talk about consent with their kids i'm scared

00:24:59we'll be right okay let's go as protect parents i believe that we are really good at talking to our

00:25:05kids no topic is really off limits with this family so we're gonna have a chat to you i definitely

00:25:11believe as parents that it is our job to have hard conversations with our children and we should never

00:25:16expect or leave that job up to anyone else our challenge is to talk to you guys about consent

00:25:23you could get consent to touch dad did you ask him for consent just i didn't but i married him it's

00:25:29fine later on you might have a girlfriend and you might want to kiss her and then you would have to

00:25:36ask for consent to do that you would have to make sure she's comfortable right yeah with so many domestic

00:25:44violence cases i feel like the responsibility as a parent of two boys is to raise the boys to be

00:25:51respectful towards not only women but everybody if you've kissed someone before does that mean you've

00:26:00agreed to kiss them every time one of you feels like it no why it's just permission like for example

00:26:06can i have your consent to film you yeah that's a way of asking that's a big one in this house isn't it

00:26:13yeah that you do not apply

00:26:19that is absolute rubbish the other day when we went to the haunted house like we're all a bit scared

00:26:24i said to you do you want to be in this you literally just said no no focus on what i've asked

00:26:30what about all those trending videos that we did here like with the

00:26:33dances that we all did i came and showed kind the vlog before i put the vlog up and i said do i

00:26:38have permission to post this did i ask you that at breakfast doll yes yes i did so there you go

00:26:49do your kids like being on social media i knew you'd do that

00:26:56um yes they do they do we check with them often i check weekly actually do you still

00:27:02like being on my tick tock do you want to do my tick tock yeah but maybe they're just trying to

00:27:06say yes because you're their mom they don't want to let you down but i don't in that video i didn't

00:27:11feel like he really wanted to look you'd have to understand my son he fully set me up he knows how

00:27:19to press our buttons he has no problem being on my channel there's so many times where you feel like

00:27:26there's young people trying to set you up right in so many different ways they come in they want to

00:27:30one-up you and when things like that come up i think i like to err on asking them a follow-up

00:27:35question like ask them what they felt in that scenario how do i lean in curiously to keep that

00:27:40open communication going and whether he was being silly and bantering or whether he actually had a

00:27:46sense of i feel hard done by i think it allows that to actually come to the surface and then resolve

00:27:51that yeah yeah it's not consensual at all no one was consenting to it put yourself on there as much

00:27:59as you want but why including your kids kids are young they're gonna say no to you they don't

00:28:02they're gonna please you can you be in this video oh okay yeah but they don't want to

00:28:06you're just forcing them to do it sorry so you can get paid next when you're kissing someone it's

00:28:13important to check in one parenting style gets a rude awakening how old are your daughters we don't

00:28:22need to be on their backs harping on about sex and sex topics it's a recipe for my son or daughter

00:28:28to be having sex in a bush somewhere

00:28:38we're tackling peer pressure peer pressure affects how consent is given by making it difficult for

00:28:44someone to say no when they don't feel comfortable already so we've asked our focus parents to discuss

00:28:50different areas of consent with their kids grab those journals write your notes panel parents

00:28:58remember you'll be voting later let's have a look at another one in theory articulating consent is simple

00:29:06yes or no but in practice it can be really tricky what happens when alcohol or peer pressure

00:29:14or hormones come into play we need to be having regular open dialogue about this topic

00:29:22so what do you think consent is consent's like asking permission to do something with the other

00:29:27person it's just manners yeah as traditional parents we definitely try to protect them from

00:29:32adult themes as much as possible we're not intentionally trying to broach sex at this age

00:29:37when you're kissing someone it's important to check in before doing something else with them

00:29:49i may have a few concerns about the topics we'll just have to take it as it comes she doesn't want

00:29:54to talk about the sex doesn't like talking about yes actually i don't really care but maybe not with

00:29:58you there too and like well i don't know it's a bit weird i love you that's how they came to be well

00:30:06yeah but you know chatting about the kids

00:30:15uh if you kiss someone and they want to do that go further say they sit on a bed

00:30:23you can just like emma stop it no she's saying she's let her speak i go why are you sitting on a

00:30:28bed and then they go oh i want to do this and then they go no man and they could walk cool dad

00:30:34definitely call your dad i like that definitely call dad yeah because dad's got a shotgun and a shovel

00:30:42all right how old are your daughters again 12 and 14. yeah i think that maybe start to have

00:30:57some type of conversation around consent and sex because it would be around them just so they don't

00:31:07feel so awkward it was awkward yeah i'm not gonna lie i don't really think anyone's 100

00:31:15comfortable having a full-blown chat about sex or their sex life with their children we weren't asking

00:31:20you to talk about your sex life with your kids they know about everything that they should know

00:31:26we don't need to be on their backs harping on about sex and sex topics i feel like being over

00:31:31protective about consent it's almost a recipe for my son or daughter to be having sex in a bush

00:31:39somewhere without me knowing i want to go to dan here what did you make of what you saw there with

00:31:45our traditional parents yeah i just want to humanize that yeah it can be uncomfortable i would just say

00:31:51that one of the things that i think is just a general good rule for everybody is like we need to get

00:31:56comfortable getting uncomfortable because i wouldn't want any young person feeling like their

00:32:01desires or their curiosity is shameful from what i saw like they're actually really ready and happy to

00:32:07have those conversations and i could see their insights and empathy ticking over it's never too

00:32:13early to begin conversations about consent if kids don't learn consent from us they're going to learn

00:32:20it from somewhere else their friends or social media in our family on the first sunday of

00:32:26every month we sit down with the kids and we talk about tough topics six daughters we have found

00:32:29that it's helpful to normalize having hard conversations we've also discovered the more we

00:32:35do it the more comfortable we become the more comfortable they are to the point where they

00:32:41believe it or not actually start to look forward to those sunday conversations the chocolate milkshake

00:32:46and the treats while we talk for 15 or 20 minutes about a tricky topic let's watch another consent chat

00:32:56what's consent yes means yes and no means no well done you know what it is don't you keone yeah yes

00:33:03means yes and no means no exactly what i said you copy i don't know if we've actually said the word

00:33:08consent to them before no the kids get ask us something we just give them a pretty straight

00:33:13answer i reckon it's never planned it's just like oh yeah all right you go out with your friends to a

00:33:19local football game but there's a lot of older kids who are being loud and aggressive and you feel

00:33:25uncomfortable would you stay or what would you do would you try and stick it out or would you go

00:33:32yeah i would probably stay but i'll probably stay you kind of have to

00:33:42you can always say no

00:33:46okay

00:33:49have you had a deep conversation about consent because all i say is yes means yes no means no

00:33:54that's actually more towards have you had any deeper conversations so it is a conversation we're

00:33:58always having when it comes to sex maybe not as much we definitely do with a 13 year old but not

00:34:03so much the boys i guess um because they're still younger i guess but that challenge there you weren't

00:34:09talking about sexual consent no we weren't you were talking about being exposed to older kids and they

00:34:15were doing something naughty do you feel confident that leila would say no to peer pressure

00:34:21yes yeah i think so yeah i think those boys were talking about because it was put in a football

00:34:28context and when we talked about it later they were talking about that if they were in the footy game

00:34:32would still be there for our team leila also said she wouldn't leave yes

00:34:40which yeah i guess yeah that can be concerning um i guess that's more of a conversation we need to have

00:34:47yeah yeah i think that was probably the bit that you know caught my attention and no doubt for all

00:34:52of us trying to help young people feel like they can own what they're feeling not just emotions

00:34:57in terms of i'm happy i'm sad but like i'm uncomfortable girls especially who can sometimes

00:35:02be conditioned to be nice to go just along with things not to rock the boat giving her a hundred

00:35:08percent power to say you can walk away you can tell a trusted adult because we want to help all our

00:35:13young people to identify that feeling and then feel so empowered to act consistently with that to

00:35:19keep themselves safe yes the recent australian child maltreatment study said it was one in three

00:35:25girls that have experienced sexual violence and so we have to acknowledge that and do something about

00:35:34next this has been one of the most important conversations i think i've ever been involved in

00:35:39we get deeper into the most uncomfortable areas of consent is there such a thing as safe sexting

00:35:45i just don't think that we should be putting down women we're not here we go

00:35:57tonight we're tackling peer pressure and the different ways it can affect our kids including

00:36:02how consent is given we know consent is always needed no matter what and comes in many different forms

00:36:09but how do we teach this let's watch mark and tammy our final consent chat

00:36:16parents it's time to talk about consent with your children that's going to be interesting okay boys

00:36:23in this challenge our focus parents are discussing a wide range of scenarios where consent

00:36:28is needed so we can fully unpack this complex topic so this morning we're going to be talking about

00:36:35consent consent consent do you need consent to go in the swimming pool

00:36:43i think the upfront parenting style makes it easy to approach difficult conversations with our kids

00:36:48we talk about war we talk about religion we talk about suicide drugs mental health you know matt

00:36:53you and your friend are playing a wrestling game and your friend wants to stop what do you do

00:37:00you tackle him until he says stop yeah but he said stop i'll just stop but if i'm angry then i probably

00:37:08won't stop do you do it one more time and then stop yeah you always have to get that last hit yeah as our

00:37:15front parents our children are familiar with adult things we need to arm them with that information

00:37:24you're sent a naked photo online i'm just making up names johnny sends you a naked photo of cecilia

00:37:35that's weird block them and delete them notify the police what is the first thing you do when you

00:37:43get it though from johnny what do you do what's your reaction like what do you think ew why cecilia

00:37:48got no clothes on the thing at the moment that we're noticing is the girl shorts have gotten shorter and

00:37:58shorter and shorter i'm saying to our boys don't come home with the girls with the short shorts i don't

00:38:06want to be friends with the mother-in-law okay so then there's actually a big good conversation to

00:38:13this cecilia let somebody take a photo of her naked in the first place didn't she

00:38:19do you let somebody take a naked photo of you no no no yeah so all of this can go away

00:38:29if you don't allow somebody to take a photo of you

00:38:41i would never blame a girl for having her photo shed

00:38:46i have had a naked photo of me leaked before

00:38:51i've had been in that circumstance before i thought i could trust someone

00:38:58i have told our boys a lot about my past including that event i have told them how i feel and why you

00:39:05shouldn't be doing that to women thank you for being so brave the reality is young girls are doing this

00:39:14kids are doing this even young boys are doing this our kids are feeling the peer pressure to sext

00:39:22dan what is it with sexting this just become normalized it's quite extraordinary how many

00:39:29young people are aware of sexting and nudes and again late primary into year seven like this is when

00:39:34this is rife and starts happening a lot boys know there's more pressure on girls to share nudes

00:39:40and there's more shame when they do is there such a thing as safe sexting in your opinion

00:39:47i don't believe there is i think we do have to hold the line on that for the safety of everybody

00:39:56any other thoughts on that um what was the short shorts thing what was that

00:40:02so the thing at the moment that we're noticing is the girls they're wearing short shorts

00:40:11i'm saying to our boys don't bring the girl home with the short shorts

00:40:17here you go i'm not judging the girl with the short shorts i'm judging the girl's mum

00:40:23you were very judgmental there and because you have all boys as well you know how men judge women and go

00:40:31well she wore that so it was okay yeah for me to then do such and such i'm a mother of boys but

00:40:39if i was a mother of a girl i would not let my 12 year old go out in a brazilian butt bikini that's

00:40:44just my opinion i think girls should be able to wear whatever they want i really do but i do think

00:40:50that there's an age as well where it's appropriate a 12 year old in a g-string on a beach makes it very

00:40:56difficult for my husband to walk down comfortably so women need to dress appropriately so that nathan

00:41:04feels comfortable do you want to put a bunch of kids and your husband that you're on the beach and

00:41:09they just walk through and you've just got a row of backsides you know like how do you feel about that

00:41:15i'm not really thinking is my husband looking at that i just don't think that we should be putting

00:41:22down women we're not can we also notice the theme in all of this that we've turned the focus to the girls

00:41:32there's always concern for me that it can suggest that someone had it coming to them or they should

00:41:38that that's a type of person that we shouldn't respect as much as someone fully clothed right

00:41:43i think we have to address that that it shouldn't change how we relate to

00:41:48the respect and decency and care that that person is owed but there's a great deal of concern from

00:41:55many of the parents in the room around what kids are wearing the word that i would use is concern about

00:42:01early sexualization sure i do worry about porn culture over sexualization and these pressures

00:42:09because i speak to parents all the time navigating this and wanting to go but where do we draw the line

00:42:15when is it okay why is it that our culture perhaps places more value on a girl when she looks a

00:42:22particular way and takes a sexy selfie and not her artwork not her creativity her academic performance her

00:42:28volunteering her strength her athleticism and my heart breaks because i don't know what it's like to

00:42:33be a teenage girl navigating this culture being told that the most important thing about you is if you're

00:42:38hot sexy thin enough or not i don't have no idea what that's like to have that vomited at me from

00:42:44everywhere i turn online in advertisements so i think we actually got to give them grace and we're

00:42:49going to give parents grace for navigating through that and asking well what are we valuing and

00:42:54celebrating our young women for in this country i think daniel opened our eyes to why some of these

00:43:00things happen i think we've got a lot of work to do ourselves highlighted to us like oh we've got some

00:43:08bigger conversations to have we've got some really big conversations too i do think we need to turn

00:43:15that focus around and be like having this discussion with our boys about how we respect women not

00:43:23disrespect them because of what they choose to wear this has been one of the most important

00:43:31conversations i think i've ever been involved in who is going to go home and perhaps rethink their

00:43:37conversations they've had in regards to consent with their kids yeah yeah definitely me too

00:43:43there you go every single one of us in this room thank you so much daniel change is possible through

00:43:55an open dialogue about consent and body safety we can help young people to build relationships based

00:44:01on respect and clear boundaries it starts with all of us coming up come on i bet you've done something

00:44:08naughty in your life i have but that was when i was little peer pressure takes hold

00:44:13this is kind of boring do you want to just like go uh and what follows i don't care if i'm being

00:44:19mean i don't care about your opinion you'll shock everyone is it okay to bully the bully two wrongs

00:44:25don't make a right you're not perfect either so we can focus on some of your flaws as well

00:44:35we're diving into one of the toughest challenges parents face negative peer pressure is real

00:44:41in this challenge we're putting our focus kids in a real life pressure test they're going to head

00:44:59to a park for a play date with a chaperone and a new friend what they don't know is their new friend is an

00:45:06actor and once the chaperone is distracted the actor child will try to get them to play in an out

00:45:13of bounds area and exclude another child panel parents remember you'll be voting later who taught

00:45:22you the most and which parenting style do you think handled peer pressure the best so grab those journals

00:45:29write your notes peer pressure is an extremely common issue for kids as they grow older

00:45:36with around about 90 of teens reporting that they've been subjected to negative peer influences

00:45:44this challenge will test whether these children have been taught how to deal with their peers when

00:45:50the pressure is on hey guys i got a text message come have a look parents how does your child go with

00:45:57playing old school games send archer to the park where his new friends are waiting off you go to

00:46:03the park then to the park to the park have fun see ya enjoy meeting your new friend bye in this

00:46:09challenge our focus children are on a play date their new friend is an actor who will pressure them to

00:46:15break the rule don't play at the playground and how will they go when another child wants to join in

00:46:23and there's pressure to exclude them hi hi those up front parents our advice is worry about yourself

00:46:29not what everyone else is doing while i'm gone don't go on the flying fox because i'm not here to

00:46:33supervise they know you say no if they don't feel safe or confident with something all righty do you

00:46:38want to just do some grip ball then sure all right hey can i play there's only two things though

00:46:45you can have mine if you want oh thanks so much yeah i'll go here and we'll just play catch okay okay

00:46:53cool what if you guys both stand next to each other and try and throw the balls at me no all righty we'll

00:47:00do it after this i'm not gonna play you guys can do it if you want to get hurt but i'm not gonna go on

00:47:05the flying fox why wouldn't you go on it because the lady on the phone call said we can't but why would

00:47:13she let us because we could get hurt but we can't get hurt if it's soft padded ground and tambour yeah

00:47:20and we just hold on to it well we could fall over and maybe hit our heads why are you being so boring

00:47:25how am i you don't want to do anything i'm just doing the right thing wait till she comes back

00:47:30she'll never know we'll see which one of us it doesn't matter if she can see us or not she told us

00:47:34not to do it come on i bet you've done something naughty in your life you can't just done nothing

00:47:38naughty i have but that was when i was little yeah yeah you're still little oh my god i mean

00:47:43you're seven i'm a big boy um with archer with the upfront parents he obviously didn't go on the

00:47:53flying fox he said i'm just doing the right thing and he included the child and even gave him the pad

00:47:59as well so that was very nice to see yeah he clearly knew right from wrong and that showed that in your

00:48:06parenting she nailed it it was really good should we see how our other parents went yes oh there's

00:48:15you go you see him yeah yeah okay say hello i certainly believe that it's easy for kids to get

00:48:21peer pressured as pro-tech parents i've had these conversations with the boys hi i've taught my boys

00:48:28to always stand up for the right thing people that may need your help it's really important for my boys

00:48:35to be decent human beings with strong morals and values

00:48:41land landland yeah let's go on the plate quickly i don't think we're allowed bro come on let's go

00:48:47we're not allowed just one just one no please just one time yeah why not i got three he's not gonna

00:48:55come back he's all the way over there um please no hey here you go can i please join you

00:49:07no no you can play maybe you could like play picky in the middle with them oh no i'll be in the middle

00:49:16do you know no no no you're being mean to either we let him play or maybe you can go play over there

00:49:23i don't care if i'm being mean i don't care about your opinion maybe we let him play instead of you

00:49:28hey what are you doing stop you're not playing see see how it feels when you get bullied

00:49:34so maybe stop bullying him then

00:50:04okay i was quite proud of him that he actually stood up for the other child

00:50:10we don't like boys yeah and he even like was showing the other boy how it feels how it feels

00:50:16to be excluded it's not nice he really did me proud to be honest and that's how i parent him

00:50:24we don't tolerate disrespect yeah i actually made a note essentially two wrongs don't make a right

00:50:30i can see he has got that from us because we are often teaching that lesson if they start

00:50:38bullying one of the other kids it's okay well you're not perfect either so if you want to do that

00:50:44we can focus on some of your flaws as well how does that make you feel if we did that to you

00:50:48you don't tolerate disrespect is it okay to be disrespectful to somebody who is disrespectful

00:50:58is it okay to bully the bully no it's not

00:51:05it was great that landon stood up for himself and tried to include the new friend

00:51:11but it's important to remind our kids to speak calmly and avoid escalation

00:51:18all right let's watch a couple more challenges and just remember our focus parents haven't seen this

00:51:23footage hey jamie as traditional parents we have definitely spoken to our kids about peer pressure

00:51:31i think rose feels probably a bit uncomfortable when she feels pressured to do things she wouldn't

00:51:36normally do i do have to go and make a phone call though can you guys just promise me that you don't

00:51:41go and play on the playground equipment while i'm not watching you that kids have very strong

00:51:45senses of justice i think they'll always try to do the right thing i think i'm gonna win this game

00:51:51but like whatever this is kind of boring do you want to just like go to the playground uh um um

00:52:02she told us not to so well we should wait for her to come back you know we'll we'll be fine there um

00:52:10i think we should just wait because okay she'll come back soon okay we'll just wait then

00:52:15oh my god hi hello what are you guys playing we're just about to do like a hopscotch oh can i play

00:52:27sorry actually it's just the two of us why not are you sure well it's just the two of us you know

00:52:34she can she can play it'll be great hopscotch is better with more people anyways

00:52:39with rose um she's done so well yeah she wasn't influenced at all she didn't buckle so she looked

00:52:48uncomfortable yeah with the situation yeah which i expected i expected to be a bit uncomfortable in a

00:52:54in the situation where there's rules being broken yeah we're happy to do the right thing and we

00:52:59would expect her to do that i think yeah okay we've got one more to see should we take a look

00:53:05i'm just going to go and grab my phone just wait till i come back before you go

00:53:08into the playground and play on the equipment because i'm not here to watch yep i think as

00:53:13active parents we're just teaching the kids to stand up for themselves marshall with peer pressure

00:53:17i think he'd do really well give one hey this is getting a bit boring would you want to go to the park

00:53:32i'll probably be here till about two o'clock

00:53:35oh yeah we can yeah yeah yeah let's go now let's grab a bit of a swing yeah you want to see you can

00:53:45get the highest or something yeah hi oh oh hi hey can i play with you yeah sure uh i don't know it's kind

00:54:01just the two of us three is a bit of a bit of a party no we're a good man four is a bit of a party

00:54:07three's pretty good nah sorry we're good now you're trying to exclude a friend um

00:54:17what's your name uh luca okay oh just on the swings now you want to go up to the slot okay

00:54:23all right with the active parents he did fall to the pressure

00:54:35he did go to the playground so i didn't follow the rules that was a bit of a letdown

00:54:41that's a tough one for me because his assessment of that is that it was really not too much of a

00:54:47negative impact by by going into that boundary but once it come to more serious things like

00:54:51excluding a friend he stuck to some very good values within that but he still broke the rule

00:54:58yeah when he's at a party in grade nine your children are going to face much greater pressure

00:55:07from the kids that they know and have long-standing relationships with the fear of ostracism makes the

00:55:13pressure so much higher and so much harder fostering self-confidence within our children

00:55:21can serve as a shield against negative peer influences when paired with teaching empathy

00:55:30it empowers them to move from being passive bystanders to active upstanders empathy is the key

00:55:37ingredient to resist peer pressure next eddie your voice is hurting my ears right now parents

00:55:43listen up they're all hating on me don't infront me got it the secret weapon skill

00:55:49babbling about something every parent needs the babbling to you was it potentially important to her

00:55:57then the panel vote on which parenting style has the best approach when it comes to peer pressure

00:56:04our vote is going to

00:56:11tonight we're going to get to the heart of peer pressure one of the biggest issues for kids

00:56:16and their parents today it is time for our focus parents to face the final challenge of the night

00:56:23panel parents remember you'll be voting later on who handled peer pressure the best in this challenge

00:56:31our focus parents will be tested on one of the most important skills in the parenting handbook

00:56:37listening panel parents in this challenge the parents think that they're teaching one child

00:56:44an important life skill like ironing changing a tire or baking a cake they believe that's the test

00:56:53but while they're focused on the task we sent in another child to share a story about something

00:57:00that's happened in their life the real challenge did you listen

00:57:04the pennies just dropped active listening and open communication between parents and children

00:57:14is crucial adolescents who perceive their parents as supportive are far better equipped to withstand

00:57:24peer influences that may lead to risky behaviors

00:57:27all right you know how to read a recipe sort of i've sort of taught you half of these stuff before

00:57:35but not all of it put it in put in where put oh so i was looking to my instagram you know how the

00:57:42what are you doing i want to tell you something no like now no i'm doing something with landon can't

00:57:47please no the kids can be very distracting you know how they're all hating on me about my company no see

00:57:55this is a quarter one second mate please just one this see this i do try and stop my child from

00:58:02talking so i can come back and revisit that situation at a time where i can give that child

00:58:07my attention there was this guy in particular called heat one for you he sent about like 400

00:58:12messages every single day are you worried about that because you've come to me at a really random

00:58:18time so i just want to make sure that you're worried because you're saying worried no you're just

00:58:22like i'm just telling you oh he's made about like five accounts

00:58:27block him leave it at that mom don't interrupt me again got it

00:58:34so lenny iron hot around the back yes darling remember at party

00:58:41there was a cat in a dress yes there was a cat in a dress there are oftentimes a hundred percent

00:58:54when i'm not listening properly sometimes all i can hear is blah blah blah blah so iron from the top

00:59:03drop down okay yes darling there was one cat at the cafe did scratch me out go away

00:59:13eddie your voice is hurting my ears right now

00:59:20from the pro tech family i learned that sometimes dealing with serious issues we have to prioritize

00:59:27yeah i agree with elvie but i do see like if you know they're showing a concern or something's upset

00:59:35them we should definitely stop what we're doing and listen to what's happening because it's quite

00:59:41important to them they wanted to tell us something unlike the cat with the skirt and that was quite

00:59:46funny but when you are doing something and you know then something else comes in you do get a little bit

00:59:52frustrated with the pro tech friends i think you've done really well like obviously it was a lot for

00:59:57you but you did address the topic you didn't ignore him which i reckon it's hats off to you because we

01:00:02hear deals with bullies online and that's something that we've dealt with as a family i did say to him

01:00:08does this worry you and his answer was no because of that it's just another day like we deal with it

01:00:15every other time all right shall we watch a couple more of the challenges

01:00:19is it off the ground yeah um just be careful because the car's in the air now at the sleepover

01:00:27remember that um there was brianna vivian there was rose i'm an airline captain we do a lot

01:00:33with distraction management at work so as you filter out that distraction and focus on the more

01:00:39important task and then um hey ems we're just about to get to the point where we're taking the

01:00:44car off so it's a bit it's a little bit of a i just keep going um and we're two different colored

01:00:50teams two different colored tutus and yeah look sometimes when the kids are trying to to talk to

01:00:56me it can be a little bit full-on and sometimes i don't listen as as as i should we need to concentrate

01:01:03is that okay uh okay so no more do you remembers go inside and tell mum some stories because we're just

01:01:11going to take this off it's a little bit of a dangerous part okay okay once you got one nut on

01:01:20then it's it'll sit there by itself so when lewis was over when lewis was over yeah do i have to use

01:01:27this no just do them up with your fingers first in the pool we're doing he can do the best no that's

01:01:32right leave it just go finger tight and then you try to redo them at the end as active parents we want

01:01:37to be there for the kids as much as we can we're always trying to listen to them and have an open

01:01:42ended conversation communication's a big one absolutely yeah marsh just hold on a second

01:01:46layla just go till they're up tight do the time to tell a story man yeah i am listening lewis got the

01:01:53courage to do it again and then that time he belly flopped did he yeah did he get a big red mark on

01:02:00his belly yeah the story was marshall's friend's name was lewis who came over when he done the flip

01:02:08off the cave uh he belly flopped marshall said he landed flat on his stomach i was impressed well done

01:02:18mark you remember most of the content so you were listening you're trying you were trying your best

01:02:22i think that part is good you didn't kind of brush him off which was good i think there was once there

01:02:27where i kind of pulled up and said hold on yeah but he still stuck around and you continued to listen

01:02:32so it was good with the traditional family you can see just a lifetime of procedures based around safety

01:02:42is very much your style it was a two and a half ton car in the air you just that was my focus and

01:02:48i was babbling about something about what happened two weeks ago

01:02:51it says babbling to you was it potentially important to her

01:02:59ah look it could have been yeah it sounded in my head like babble because i wasn't really focused on

01:03:05what she was saying in that situation maybe you should have put your profession hat aside and be the

01:03:12dad so obviously your father to two children she obviously has something important to say maybe try to

01:03:17hear her out first determine is it important could it wait till later i triaged a situation and and it

01:03:22was and it was there's a car in the air and there's a kid underneath it and then there's someone over

01:03:27here telling me what happened two weeks ago so i kind of went well this is where i need my my focus

01:03:32and attention now so that's and that's the way i dealt with it it's pretty typical that the children come

01:03:38to us when we're busy oh yeah they see us actively involved in something and they think but now is the

01:03:45time where i need this urgent need satisfied saying to your child this matters a lot to you and it

01:03:51matters to me because it matters to you but i promised your brother or your sister some time

01:03:56with this activity right now as soon as we're done i'll come find you and we'll go through it and that

01:04:02way to use your word nathan you've triaged if it's important you're there for them if not they know

01:04:09that the appointment has been set and that they are valued because what they have to share with you matters

01:04:14children can resist peer pressure when they feel self-confident when they know how to make good

01:04:21decisions and when they have people they can talk to what you want to do is maintain open communication

01:04:27where teens can ask you questions without judgment or fear next he was so confident done so well in

01:04:35that challenge when it comes to peer pressure didn't he start bullying the kids as well which parenting

01:04:39style has the best approach it was pretty obvious who did really well and who maybe slipped through a bit

01:04:52okay that is the end of our challenges focus parents i'll get you to step out of the room

01:04:58while we get the votes

01:04:59so we can figure out which parenting style taught us the most about peer pressure

01:05:12all of these challenges are designed to test which parenting style gives their children

01:05:19the confidence and social skills to form healthy relationships

01:05:23the resilience and the strength to stand strong against negative peer pressure we'll talk first

01:05:32about our traditional parents nathan and joanne we found the girls during the challenges were

01:05:38extremely confident especially with the speed dating are you saying back to school yeah remembering

01:05:43the first challenge i rose how well spoken she was it was a pleasure to watch confident sometimes there

01:05:48are a bit obviously awkward maybe talking about consent with their parents when you're kissing someone

01:05:55it's important to check in before doing something else with them especially being 12 and 14 um

01:06:04i do think that they should have known a lot more as the traditional family they don't want to talk

01:06:09about this topic and dan's statistics suggests it's you know 15 to 17 is where a lot of the issues are so

01:06:17they've got time to make sure that their girls are fully equipped with everything they need to be

01:06:23able to make sure they're not part of that yeah let's talk now about our upfront parents mark and tammy

01:06:30i feel that they brought up a really good conversation around the consent to narrow down what it actually

01:06:36means they were excellent like they owned up to it and they said like oh you know we realized that maybe

01:06:42we shouldn't have addressed this like that and it was just it was really good to see that they were aware

01:06:47that you know there was a problem and that you know they were going to work on that that was good

01:06:52but i think sometimes the language may be used around the boys was probably something that i

01:06:57found a bit concerning eddie your voice is hurting my ears right now in all those challenges you could

01:07:05see there's a little bit of off the cuff sort of remarks yeah but depending on the child it could

01:07:10definitely be sending a different message to what they intend to correct yeah our pro-tech parents

01:07:17i liked how landon sort of took the opportunity to not teach the boy a lesson but just to show him

01:07:24like the implications of what he was doing see how it feels when you get bullied somebody stop bullying him

01:07:30didn't he start bullying the kids as well i think he stuck up for it he was just he started then to

01:07:34play with the other boy and then just said how does that make you feel looks actually good his eye

01:07:42contact was a bit of a issue and we felt like he couldn't spark that conversation to keep going

01:07:48so i think there's probably a broader interest would be would benefit a lot very important yeah

01:07:54let's talk now about amy and mark our active family i think amy and mark smashed it out of the park

01:08:01like what stood out with us the most was the listen to me challenge and then that time we belly flopped

01:08:09did he yeah mark done a great job as a father's able to multitasking for two children when it came to

01:08:17the peer pressure challenge i think marshall didn't follow one of the rules would you want to go to the

01:08:22park oh yeah we can that was a bit of a let down i think him being on the swing was minor compared to

01:08:29everything else something you got to think about is there something wrong with pushing boundaries

01:08:33if someone gives you a set rules are you allowed to break them how many times can you break the rules

01:08:38a small rule broken could be a bigger rule broken later but i don't think any of us are perfect

01:08:43none we've all broken rules speed dating the child fantastic uh eye contact do you have any hobbies or

01:08:50anything yeah i like boxing i've had seven fights i love marshall he is the sweetest kid he was so

01:08:58confident done so well in that challenge yeah i agree good chat guys panel parents return to your seats

01:09:05write down which parenting style you learned the most from when it comes to peer pressure

01:09:10i do find it hard to decide because all the family doing quite well the children most of them are

01:09:17confidence and not too much of being influenced by others it was pretty obvious you know who did

01:09:24really well and who maybe slipped through a bit let's bring our focus parents back into the room hey

01:09:38focus parents the panel parents have discussed everything they've seen tonight

01:09:42and can now share whose parenting style they learned the most from when it comes to dealing

01:09:48with peer pressure let's start with lv and sean our authoritative parents we said we learned a whole

01:09:54lot from the active family so we see that marshall handles all different conversations really really

01:09:59well he's really confident which shows that i think he's got a lot of exposure to different activities

01:10:06thank you okay give it to a straight life school parents

01:10:10we've learned a lot from each of you however our vote is going to traditional parents because

01:10:17you've clearly worked around building the girls up which i think is very important thank you thank you

01:10:24thank you okay let's go to amanda and hassan the parenting style that we learned the most from is

01:10:29active parents when it came to the pre-pressure we believe that you guys will tackle it straight away

01:10:36because strong on family-based activities you guys are doing very well thank you nick and sophia we

01:10:44took a little bit from from everyone but i think the most we took from was mark and amy the active

01:10:49parents we really enjoyed marshall in the challenges that he'd done we think he was a great conversationalist

01:10:55spending all that time together as a family i think it's really shone through him oh thank you

01:10:59there we go active parents well done thank you so much um that's surprising um no thank you so much

01:11:09that means so much to hear all those beautiful comments and you know we're doing something right

01:11:14so that's great love hearing that focus parents next time you get to move into the panel role

01:11:21and panel parents you'll be in the hot seat next time four new parenting styles are having the hard

01:11:29conversations australia needs to have about body image killers and botox is the norm these days we

01:11:36confront a generation's worrying obsession at school they used to be writing on the walls about mummy's leg

01:11:43this is for me an area that requires immediate intervention and we aren't parents with the tools

01:11:50to navigate their way through go go go guys honestly think you look pretty good for your age

01:11:58if i want my children to believe that they are perfect then i need to reflect that in my behavior

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