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00:00Heading to the retreat are married couple hairdresser Tanya and window cleaner Ashley from Leeds.
00:16I hope people come and talk to us and we're not just kind of left in a corner.
00:22Yeah, me too.
00:23When we first met each other, it was just literally in the street outside.
00:29He had a puppy, you know, I'm an animal lover and I'm like, wow, perfect package, puppy and a man.
00:34And since that day, we just knew that we were meant to be together and then I moved in a couple of days later.
00:41And then found out puppy was never his.
00:44He tricked me.
00:46So luckily he's got his good looks and charisma otherwise, yeah.
00:53So within 18 months, we'd met each other, moved in, got married, had a child, done all those things really fast.
01:01But a whirlwind romance of marriage and children wasn't enough for Tanya.
01:06She wanted more.
01:08Tanya brought up the idea of an open relationship and letting other women join us, which was a bit of a shock at first.
01:15I didn't know if it was like a trap to see what I would say, but it wasn't a trap.
01:20Tanya and Ashley have been having sex with other people for five years.
01:26I think everyone always presumes that it's the male that wants to push it on the partner.
01:29But no, it was all me.
01:31Much to the shock of my mum.
01:33She was like, oh, I bet it was Ashley.
01:34I was like, no, it was all me.
01:39All their sexual experiences with other people have been governed by one strict rule.
01:44We do everything together. We're always together. We've only ever played in the same room together.
01:49It's a nice honour, isn't it?
01:53But now they're coming to the retreat to push their boundaries even further.
01:59So we're coming in to venture off our own separate ways to have sex separately from each other.
02:06I'm hoping it will only strengthen further the bond that we already have.
02:11I'm hoping it goes that way.
02:13I'm more nervous with this than I've ever been with starting it from the beginning.
02:19Because we're both used to relying on each other.
02:23Playing separately is a huge risk because it could go wrong.
02:26And what if I do this and then Ashley becomes jealous or he decides it's not for him.
02:30Ooh, cute dress.
02:36Hey, mate. You okay?
02:38Hi, guys. Nice to meet you.
02:40Hi.
02:41Are you feeling okay?
02:44Good.
02:45Hi.
02:46Hello.
02:47Go to both sides.
02:49Tanya definitely seems maybe a little bit more confident.
02:51There's definitely potential to play.
02:54I do like a blonde.
02:55What's your name?
02:56Ash.
02:57Ash, nice to meet you.
02:58Hi, Tanya.
02:59Welcome.
03:00Welcome.
03:01I think I said it's more nerves from him than her.
03:04He looks quite innocent.
03:06She looks quite feisty.
03:08Hi.
03:09Hi.
03:10Nice to meet you.
03:11Hi.
03:12I'm Ash.
03:13My first impression was more her come to my eyes.
03:16And she looks chic, but yeah, maybe I will discover something nice with him too.
03:23I think I'm the more anxious one in social situations, whereas Tanya is a bit more relaxed.
03:28Emily.
03:29Emily.
03:30Emily.
03:31What's your name?
03:32Ash.
03:33Sorry.
03:34Ash.
03:35Ash.
03:36You too.
03:37It just wasn't really giving me the energy.
03:38All of the residents are gorgeous.
03:39The women are all beautiful.
03:40The guys, obviously, all look after themselves.
03:41So, yeah, a bit nervous now that we've actually met them.
03:42Yeah, my heart's resting a little bit.
03:43You know, the decor is beautiful.
03:44Wow.
03:45To help the couple navigate their desire to have separate sexual experiences.
03:47Hi, I'm Effie.
03:48Come in.
03:49Non-monogamy coach Effie Blue.
03:50Make yourself comfortable in the sofa.
03:51Will offer her insight.
03:52I'd love to start with what brings you here today.
03:53So, we're already in the lifestyle, but we would like to open it up a bit further and play
03:56separately.
03:57So, we're not in the same room as each other.
03:58Mm-hmm.
03:59So, going off completely separate.
04:00Okay.
04:01So, we're going off completely separate.
04:02Okay.
04:03And we're going to take a little bit more off.
04:04To help the couple navigate their desire to have separate sexual experiences.
04:05Hi, I'm Effie.
04:06Come in.
04:07Non-monogamy coach Effie Blue.
04:08Make yourself comfortable in the sofa.
04:09Will offer her insight.
04:11I'd love to start with what brings you here today.
04:16So, we're already in the lifestyle, but we would like to open it up a bit further and
04:21play separately, so we're not in the same room as each other.
04:24each other so going off completely separate okay okay and whose idea was it to explore this world
04:31I think it was Tanya's okay okay so tell me about this this this desire to separate it's major
04:37we've been talking about this for well over a year so it's been like a long time that we've
04:41sort of discussed and been like oh what about this going for all scenarios and discussing it
04:45but never actually mm-hmm we're just not sure about how to do it properly without okay upsetting
04:52the other person and I'm worried that she would meet with somebody and then he's disrespectful
04:56or okay so why is it a big deal for you to actually separate we do spend a lot of time together Ash is
05:08very very affectionate he's quite a clingy person he does need to be touched stroked and needs to be
05:15sat next to me all the time when I'm at work I have my earphones in and we just speak all the time so
05:21even when we're not together we're still pretty much on the phone together to sort of be around
05:25each other even when we're not I do have a job you know I do have to work too I have to remind him
05:29because he just wants to talk to me all the time the thought of doing something else is quite a big
05:33thrill as well there's like that element of excitement yeah we really want to give it a go
05:37okay okay what about if you get rejected oh that don't happen tell me about that I would never get
05:45reject from a go because it's Tani that does the talking I like a shield a beautiful shield okay
05:50I say you go over and I'll be over in five minutes so this is going to be a first view yeah
05:55I just don't know how to say to somebody do you want to go okay yeah okay it feels like there's a
06:04a big challenge here right so it's beyond just the separating and doing your own thing but there's a lot
06:11of relational dynamics that you're kind of stirring up yeah like Ash there's a protective aspect of you
06:18over Tanya and you've never actually connected anybody like first off for yourself no really
06:26want Ash to go and talk to people and kind of overcome that confidence barrier the whole experience
06:32here is it is to challenge you right there's a party tonight so separate socialize and see if you
06:41can connect with somebody right experience what you want to experience and get back together at the
06:48end of the evening and debrief and see what it feels like go out there have a great time thank you
06:53yes oh my god oh my god look how pretty it is no it's got the bath that you like oh wow I think if
07:09I do pull someone and he doesn't I think I will feel really guilty I don't know where you're sleeping
07:15this is mine you sleep in the bathroom then I think it's gonna be a bit hard just letting her do her
07:21own thing but I hope that tonight that I won't be thinking oh I wonder if she's with someone I don't like
07:26already staying at the retreat our married couple Charmaine and Jamie neither of us have been with
07:43like lots of previous sexual partners so we want to explore that together I feel like the social
07:50aspect of it will be the biggest barrier I'm a bit worried because I feel like my self-confidence can
07:57sort of hold Charmaine back hi how are you feeling I'm feeling a bit over one this whole experience is
08:08obviously completely alien to us it's just a bit much for me like I just don't want to go back in
08:14I just wish they weren't so nervous yeah I'm glad you feel a little more yeah I was wondering if
08:21you'd like to spend a little more time in the hot tub I definitely would yeah would you would like
08:24to spend some time thanks ready yeah after nearly walking out of this evening's social Charmaine
08:39and Jamie are hoping that a date in the hot tub with Jen and Mark will be more successful the idea
08:46of opening up it just seemed like the right sort of thing for us well my main concern is that will
08:52we enjoy the reality of it or is it something that should have stayed a fantasy I'm curious about having
08:59sex with other people so I was a little surprised when they asked us to go hang in the hot tub with
09:17them the way we're going to approach this is we should be affectionate with each other and show
09:23them that it is okay and see if that helps them relax a little more see if it gets them in the mood
09:30oh how are you doing you look cozy there I know yeah he looks molded into it don't he
09:37right cheers guys yeah cheers cheers right I'm going to give you a question now I'm going to give you
09:44some spicy questions see how you handle it let's spice it up what's like your wildest fantasies
09:52next one's yours then I like to be dominated oh yes a bit of power play I think that's probably
10:01because I'm such I'm so bossy outside of the bedroom yeah so it's kind of nice to sort of let
10:07that go a little bit in the bedroom sorry I'm not really sure how it's going we're just trying to
10:17gauge where they're at yeah what are you feeling this evening then do we want to are we happy how
10:23things are chatting do we want to I know it's a really hard I've been anxious slightly vulnerable but I
10:41tend to sort of like hide behind trauma how are your feelings for what's mine yeah you're the boss
10:47yeah I know no pressure
10:51I think deep down the worry is there that obviously doing this is a big step like I don't feel like
10:59your relationship is ever going to be the same once you've opened up yeah I don't know I don't
11:04know how I'm feeling I think I'm just very overwhelmed from the whole day yeah yeah yeah
11:08we couldn't work out whether they wanted to take it further or not we we certainly yeah
11:15well listen we're around tomorrow we're available
11:19I feel like the longer we leave it the more difficult it is to sort of you know take that
11:35leap it's something that we want but I think it took me by surprise this evening like how I sort of
11:44reacted that definitely held us back Jamie yeah if you don't give a flying fuck goodness me
12:14I think that's what I find so intimidating like everybody's so sure of themselves and we're just
12:21like floating around yeah Charmaine is hoping that opening up her relationship with Jamie will spice
12:31up their sex life I'd love to get to a point where we can be that free is that the goal for you yeah
12:39but first they have to get over the confidence barrier both Char and Jamie are definitely
12:47introverts I think that makes it harder what opening up yeah right in our situation you're
12:56definitely an introvert but I'm an extrovert so that I help do you know what I mean yeah if it
13:02they don't have that if it was two me's nothing would ever happen we were technically still dating
13:08when we decided to try our first swinger club or sex party we had our first experience on the Friday
13:15night which was a threesome the following day we had a married person orgy and I think from there we
13:21kind of realized that we really enjoy an orgy lots of people at the same time I would have liked to have
13:28kissed them both would you yeah before Charmaine and Jamie attempt to mingle with the residents
13:37again they check in with Effie for some advice don't get comfy thank you how did it go I struggled
13:48interacting with people yeah which I didn't think I would struggle as much but maybe I obviously rely
13:52on Jamie a lot more than I thought you're able to maybe speak and connect more because you're doing
13:57for him a lot of the time yeah and when you had to do it for yourself it was a little bit more
14:02difficult yeah yeah I think so I think I'm worrying about like what the end goal will be so like how
14:09I'm gonna take it from just a conversation to that a step further okay sliding from like social into
14:16sensual and to potentially to sexual yeah is that what okay I think that's what it is for both of us
14:21to be honest you decided on a couple that you're both connected with like did you want to kiss
14:26them yeah I can say confidently that yeah I did what would it take for you to kiss them last night
14:31for me to know that neither one of us are doing something that we're not sure about
14:38mm-hmm whatever showman is comfortable with this but that holds me back okay and for you as well
14:46yeah I think we're definitely in our heads a little bit with that mm-hmm okay okay so um first of all
14:55this is very normal you don't know because you haven't done it before yeah so until you take those
15:00steps you're just not gonna know how the other person feels because the other person the other person
15:05doesn't know how they feel yeah does that make sense yeah I want to move you guys from the the
15:12social to the sensual to the sexual if it makes sense yeah right I want to start with the social
15:19hanging out by the swimming pool water is always fun connect with some couples and then from that
15:26you can can I kiss you does this feel good I feel like it'll be challenging but will you ever move
15:31forward if you don't challenge yourself exactly obviously all we can do is try got steps to move
15:36forward with now have fun thank you you're welcome thank you thank you you've got to stop worrying about
15:49how I'm feeling because I will make it known if I'm not feeling a certain way I feel like everything is
15:55put on me everything's I'll do what I want so I'll do what I want it's sort of my day for isn't it
16:02it's like blending it's gonna be yeah years of like self-conditioning I'm gonna have to break through
16:07down on the terrace the residents are kicking off a masquerade ball in anticipation of the new
16:24arrivals married couple Tanya and Ashley from Leeds are you completely done I've got 15 minutes to finish
16:33get maybe do my hair and finish my makeup you need to calm down it's only about two minutes
16:38to get ready how's it look you look really good you're scared now no I just wish that I would
16:49have had like an extra 20 minutes to get ready the couple are no strangers to non-monogamy but
17:00tonight they're going to do something very different I'm scared you're scared yeah they
17:06will attempt to have separate sexual experiences choosing their own partners without the other's
17:12approval trying something totally separate is overracking because we can't see what civil person
17:17doing and the other person is not there and I'm not there to make sure she's okay yes ready as I'm
17:25going to be I'm really excited to meet the other residents see whether we click who we vibe with yeah
17:34absolutely can't wait so this is always a worry about rejection but I'm hoping that that doesn't
17:42actually happen oh can you find someone she sort of goes off and I just sit in the room with clock
17:47watching where things come back will be pretty horrible
17:51thank you
18:04how you going
18:12have fun see you soon and with the pep talk out of the way Tanya and Ashley are flying solo for
18:21the first time should we grab a seat for sure but Tanya's not alone for long what would be your one
18:29thing that you would do maybe two and yeah just to make sure that there's a good amount of foreplay
18:35and a good amount of people yeah before you kind of have sex so for me I really like to go to see
18:39someone's face hear their breathing kind of see what what if I'm doing something right and then
18:43vice versa if the opposite they're playing with me sounds like we like similar things yeah
18:47on the terrace quick to spot Ashley's nerves Rochelle comes to the rescue I like your little dimples
19:06thank you he seemed a little bit shite but I think once he's done a little bit more he'd probably a
19:23bit more confident I bet you see also do you see all sorts I don't use the ladders I got like a pole
19:27system oh yeah but still I'm hoping Ash has a good evening
19:35hopefully whoever he takes pulls him out of his shell a little bit okay never have I ever had sex in a
19:51public place maybe have sex in a public place yeah like yeah Lord Simon we ended up with like a
19:59police marker on the car so we got caught on the window and I wound it down and it's like you're
20:05right all right yeah and then I realized it was police and they're like you have a good time I went
20:10well I was like you need to leave okay everyone's really really welcoming and really really friendly
20:17yeah it's hot how do I choose what do you do for fun what do I do I'm a yoga teacher and I'm vegan as
20:30well classic I was vegan for about nine months yeah oh wow okay didn't really work out for me
20:36so at least you tried it shall I let you go and you can like mingle with my lady yes because I've
20:43never really done this before my own it's been very much more of a struggle how are you I'm good a bit
20:48nervous I'm Olivia it's lovely to meet you is Tanya like your comfort blanket yep yeah my husband too
20:57I know he's in there and I'm like where is he I think I'm more nervous about coming out and just
21:01talking to people on my own it's a social aspect isn't it is the ashes so quiet and reserved and not
21:08confident about himself I definitely feel like there's some nervousness around there like the
21:13first time that they're separating I'd rather have sex with someone than have to talk to them
21:18the whole night it's been like yeah really nerve-wracking it just feels awkward what you
21:26were you most nervous about um possibly that Ash doesn't interact with everyone and doesn't end up
21:33asking someone I don't think about that on his own in the corner will it surely not
21:37I don't think these trousers are gonna go I will Charmaine and Jamie are getting ready for
21:55their afternoon social at the pool I just don't feel comfortable in this
21:59I'm kind of running out of options at this point
22:07ultimately support if you're comfortable I'm not comfortable in anything I'm not
22:10comfortable going down there this is the issue I'm just not comfortable in my body at the minute
22:19and that's really a barrier for me okay I really like I can't tell you I don't want to go in the pool
22:27I don't want to be in school I feel like Charmaine might be questioning what we're doing
22:37um while we're here
22:39despite her wobble Charmaine has decided to persevere with opening up their relationship
22:50I think anybody that knows us would never imagine that we would do anything like this
22:57sit take a seat take a seat how are you feeling about Jen and Mark today I think Jen and Mark are
23:06a lovely couple it'd be nice to get to know them a bit more my only fear is that we've sort of
23:10friend zoned them because you know we didn't take that next step so obviously it'd be nice to see how
23:16they feel and what they want to do as well how's your morning been what have you been up to
23:22I've just been very up and down I'm gonna be honest okay you've struggled a lot with the
23:28uh social aspect of it more than anything yeah yeah yeah I sort of try and blend in and sort of hiding
23:34the corner probably probably not giving the right sippies I think actually you're quite nice and
23:42your um sort of shine is actually really endearing no thank you I know it is quite hard like trying to
23:49step things forward what do you feel about like playing games and stuff like that yeah no I'm not
23:53opposed to it yeah give us a good spin hey Jamie I think you should snug Lily my fiancee it was my
24:05idea to open up our relationship and Jamie was sort of very apprehensive but very quickly curiosity took
24:15over I need to see this I need a good view guys that was a good one guys I think that was the sort of
24:41icebreaker that we needed to sort of throw us in a little bit more me and Shabalai with Jamie taking
24:47the first step the residents are keen to turn up the heat I'm starting to feel a bit more confident
25:02I'm sure of myself I feel good all right beach ball keep the happy game it's not the last person that
25:15touched it before you
25:16seeing Shabalai with another man it's quite uncomfortable for me but I do want us to share
25:35the same experiences
25:48why is it sexier in the pool?
25:51Kissing everyone was good it was um good to sort of come away from that feeling good about myself
25:55Jamie and Charmaine's hissing gamers yeah she was a great kisser I think at the end we had a little circle where we were
26:03uh kiss somebody that you hadn't kissed
26:07I think that went better than I expected I think Jamie and Charmaine really opened up a little more
26:19yeah they really came out of the shell a bit more today didn't they?
26:22they're both really good kisses
26:24yeah I mean I didn't kiss Jamie but she um
26:26she has beautiful lips
26:28Charmaine's a great kisser yeah
26:30three way
26:33yeah baby
26:34we had a great time in the pool
26:35I'm proud that we managed to um get past the many blips that we have had so far in the retreat
26:42yeah we thought we finally broke that barrier of our touching
26:45so it was a really positive experience for us
26:47yeah
26:48the couple have agreed to meet Jen and Mark in a more intimate setting later this evening
26:54as they looked to build on their experience in the pool
26:57we were both interested in a date
26:59it was good to get a bit back and I think that's what we needed from them really
27:03yeah
27:04last night I made sure I reserved some of my energy back
27:07yeah
27:08we could maybe relax a little bit and just be ourselves a little more
27:11because yeah they've kind of softened now aren't they?
27:21at the masquerade social Tanya is going down well with the residents
27:26what would be the ideal scenario?
27:28probably like everyone or just sit in the middle
27:32so we're naughty then
27:35but Gage is keen to secure top spot
27:39hi
27:40hey
27:41I bet it's been an absolute whirlwind from walking down when we first saw you
27:44yeah
27:45and he's not the only one
27:48can I just try something?
27:50what would you like?
27:51I like your little moon
28:01now you know how to give French kiss
28:04yeah that's my first French kiss
28:06awesome
28:08yeah
28:09yeah
28:10do you feel confident you kind of got your eye on somebody or?
28:13there's a few... I narrowed it down to like six
28:16six
28:21do you feel like confident that you can just go in and go
28:23I'm ready for this
28:24or do you need someone that's like
28:25done it before?
28:30I don't want someone who's not done this before
28:31yeah
28:32because obviously I do want some guidance
28:34I feel like you can light my comfort blanket now
28:37you go
28:38is this you asking me back is it?
28:40potentially
28:41yeah
28:42I'm interested
28:43I'm definitely interested
28:44yeah I'm definitely interested
28:45you're not going to reject me
28:46I'm not going to reject you no
28:47because if you do honestly I'll hunt you down
28:48no no no
28:51no but I am interested yeah
28:54okay
28:55when you make that initial attraction with somebody you can make the eye contact and you get the vibe and I feel like we both definitely have that
29:04I feel like I'm having the most successful night out of me and Ash but I've not spoke to him
29:17you down for it?
29:18yeah
29:19yeah me too
29:20there we go
29:33I don't want these to go gross
29:34just colour it
29:35no one will know
29:36you colour it?
29:37no
29:38no
29:39hi
29:40hello
29:41nice to meet you
29:42nice to meet you
29:43am I okay to borrow time?
29:44absolutely yeah
29:45yeah
29:46see you soon
29:47any good time?
29:48yeah
29:49I was so nervous when I first came in but
29:51not as bad as me
29:52now I feel okay
29:53I think I spoke to every single woman here now but
29:55yeah it was pretty hard but
29:57you clicked with anyone?
29:58no
29:59I really struggled to narrow it down
30:01I've narrowed it down now
30:02who?
30:03Gage
30:04we clicked together so well
30:06okay
30:07how do you feel?
30:08I feel a bit more nervous now knowing that you're going to be going off without me there
30:14a bit scared
30:15not going to see you pretty much after this conversation
30:20I felt just like a bit more thrown off that Tanya's gone and asked somebody first
30:24would you ask anybody?
30:25have you had that discussion?
30:26no no
30:27no
30:28I believe that having found out that I have actually
30:31yes I've clicked and I've chosen someone
30:33I think that was maybe like a kick up the bum like
30:36I've actually got to ask a woman now
30:39all you need to do is by yourself
30:41right
30:42a little part of me is thinking you know if Tanya enjoys this
30:45that might be what she wants to do more and more often
30:47but it might not be my thing
30:49so that might throw our relationship a bit
30:52see you soon
30:53yeah it's just a bit scary what might happen next
30:56we're going to put heels on
31:06I should shouldn't I
31:07this evening Charmaine and Jamie have invited Jen and Mark for a second date
31:13you have to get on the floor
31:15yeah
31:16but after a few hurdles will the couple embrace the full opening up experience
31:21I feel like we've already broken past quite a few mental barriers now and hopefully this evening we can break past a few more
31:28ready?
31:30I feel excited about this evening
31:36so I think it's a good
31:37good way to experiment going a little bit further
31:40perhaps, maybe
31:42I'll have the margarita
31:46margarita?
31:47yeah
31:48now you've got to re-rim the glass
31:50don't spill it
31:51thank you
31:53you're welcome
31:56to help Charmaine and Jamie progress from social to sexual
32:00the couples start up a game of truth or dare
32:03who wants to roll first?
32:05I quite like the dare
32:06truth
32:07go on
32:08was you always okay introducing another guy?
32:11we only kind of got into this because
32:14I was interested in seeing Jen with another guy
32:16it was never the other way around
32:18Jamie you're not necessarily turned on by the idea of me with another man
32:23I don't like the idea of you enjoying yourself
32:25yeah
32:26yeah that's what I'm like
32:27I still like that now
32:28but also like
32:30how many times are you going to be watching?
32:33not
32:34you're going to be busy
32:35yeah you're going to be busy as well
32:37well I mean that's to start with eventually
32:39I'd like to give Charmaine that fantasy of like introducing other guys
32:46you choose
32:47you choose
32:48are you picking your own dare?
32:51lick
32:52a nick
32:53lick a nick
32:54lick a nick
32:55lick a nick
32:56an old man
32:57you choose
33:03oh
33:04ok
33:05guys
33:06I've been so horny all day
33:07this is killing me
33:09you choose
33:11ok let's go dare
33:13ok, kiss
33:14you choose okay let's go dare okay kiss kiss what
33:33sure might look like she was enjoying herself um that's the goal if she's
33:37enjoying herself then I'm okay with it it's nice with the game nearing its end
33:50there is one final question putting Charmaine and Jamie on the spot once and
33:56for all say what you want for tonight that is tough guys that is tough that is
34:06so if we can shut our eyes if you want no pressure no pressure do you know what
34:10though we came into this evening with like no real expectations we've said that
34:14all along haven't we we just wanted to see how obviously things went that's a
34:17really boring answer but yeah what about you again no expectations I mean I'm
34:23liking the vibe and yeah yeah I just but what not talking expectations what do
34:32you want to happen
34:38just like a minute to check your movie trouble yes again faced with the
34:44ultimate question can the pair take the leap and have sex with another couple
34:50obviously I really like Jen and Mark I will be somewhat disappointed if we don't but
34:59myself
35:02Charmaine and Jamie are considering whether or not to open up their relationship with Jen and Mark
35:27how do you feel I will not get into it one that you don't feel confident
35:34I'll be improve you okay yeah no we've had a discussion and obviously we both think that you are we're both attracted to both of you basically
35:54I feel like it's my own confidence still holding me back okay
36:01yeah yeah okay oh babes thank you I just wanted to make sure it was on the table if you wanted it
36:09yeah no because I know that's it's helpful to know isn't it so
36:12yes it is a lot
36:16you should go to the room thank you
36:19nice to meet you guys see you later thank you see you guys see you later
36:23bye
36:25I don't know what's going on in Jamie and Char's head they seem to want to take that next step
36:33just something's holding them back and I it's hard to say what it is
36:38I don't think they're ready to open their relationship no not right now I I'd like them to be but they're not I don't think
36:48I really can't do this
36:55I think this whole experience has been an emotional rollercoaster
37:10however I'm glad that we've done it because I think we've got a lot to take away from the retreat
37:17Tanya has left tonight's social with her date for the evening leaving husband Ashley to find his own partner for the night
37:40I'm more nervous now without having Tanya there to sort of help me out
37:47and whilst Gage tends to Tanya's needs his wife Olivia is also left alone on the terrace
37:53all right yeah I'm good how are you I'm good it's got all really quiet
37:59I know
38:01this Prosecco's nice
38:03yeah you on the Prosecco or the Norseco
38:05no it's the Norseco
38:07which one have you had yours? I've had mine yeah
38:10okay good
38:11yeah I wonder if you wanted to go spend a bit more time together
38:16yeah I would like to get to know you more
38:19yeah that's good to hear
38:20yeah? yeah
38:21do you want to sit down? yeah I'll sit down yeah
38:22oh god I lost my shoe
38:24what do you do for work?
38:27I'm a cabin crew
38:28oh really?
38:29fly around
38:30fly around
38:31oh my god my worst nightmare
38:32why is it your worst nightmare?
38:33I travel sick
38:34like really bad
38:36taking my shoes off
38:38yeah take your shoes off
38:39let's get let's get comfortable
38:40meanwhile in the bedroom Tanya's all for reaching new heights
38:45this is like immense
38:47so I'm gonna go and I'm gonna sleep with someone and Ash is not gonna be there
38:51now I'm gonna do this on my own
38:53it's crazy
38:54yeah
38:55that's better
38:56it's a bit sexy innit?
38:57yeah
38:58I'm hoping that everything goes okay with Ash and that this doesn't cause any issues in our relationship
39:09what do you wanna do now then? do you wanna have chats? do you wanna?
39:20do you wanna have fun?
39:22we can go to the yurt if the yurt's available
39:24let's go
39:26let's go
39:29Olivia's really outgoing and confident
39:31whereas I'm a bit more reserved and shy so I don't know, see how it goes
39:40oh it's nice
39:43oh it looks so big
39:49you all good?
39:50yep
39:51it's our very first time being separate from each of us so I'm trying to put out my mind what Tanya's doing right now
40:20Ash was still on my mind
40:25but I was still able to kind of switch off and stay in the moment
40:41having sex with somebody else without my partner being there was intense
40:47but it was exciting as well
40:57do you have pineapple pizza?
40:58no, no pineapple pizza
41:00do you have pineapple on your pizza?
41:01pineapple and jalapeno
41:02do you?
41:03yeah
41:04like the two opposites
41:06what's the best pizza?
41:08pineapple jalapeno
41:10try it
41:11I don't like jalapenos, it's too spicy for me
41:13the other pineapple fixes it
41:15oh
41:16okay next time I'll try it
41:17just try it
41:18just try it
41:20oh
41:21oh
41:22oh
41:23oh
41:24oh
41:25oh
41:26oh
41:27oh
41:28oh
41:29oh
41:30oh
41:31oh
41:32oh
41:33oh
41:36it went really really well
41:38I would say tonight
41:39it was like losing virginity
41:41because it was so much so new
41:43so much so different
41:44erm
41:45the complete unknown
41:47are you good?
41:48hey I'm great
41:49you went well
41:50I'm great yeah
41:55I think still in the back of my mind I'm like oh my gosh it's doing under me, it's okay
41:59yeah
42:00about if I get back and he's like oh I'm just going like confused and he goes oh I'll change my mind I came back
42:09right shall we get this awkwardness out of the way because this is making me cringy
42:14definitely think Tanya's going to be in my head
42:16if it goes wrong it might put us off forever
42:19these buttons are really bad
42:20look at the tiniest buttons ever
42:23but I often try to concentrate on myself
42:27just take it off
42:29you have a stick
42:30have it
42:31ooh
42:38a bit of warmer
42:39thank you
42:48thank you
42:49I'll see you later
42:50good time
42:51good letter
42:53see you well
42:54see you soon
42:55bye bye
42:56I feel pretty good
42:57but my instant thought is
42:58I want to find Ash
42:59I want to find him
43:00I want to speak to him
43:03playing solo
43:04it's still very very hard to kind of switch off from
43:07thinking about your partner and what's your partner doing
43:09are they okay
43:13oh
43:15oh
43:19oh
43:20oh
43:21oh
43:24there's always a possibility that maybe he is having a better time
43:27maybe he's enjoying it more with somebody else than what he is with me
43:30maybe he's going completely wild because I'm not there
43:33oh
43:39oh
43:45you happy now
43:46yep
43:47do you enjoy yourself
43:48yep
43:49how's the nerves now
43:50it's felt good
43:51yeah it's felt good
43:52it felt like I was gonna feel like I'm doing something wrong but
43:53wrong but yeah i'm not being solo has been really fun exciting something totally new
43:59it was like just as exciting as i imagined it would be
44:08i know if ash was to not come back to me that would be crossing a hard boundary
44:13that's crossing over from sex to like lovey-dovey
44:23hello all right a good time then yeah did you have a good time yeah i did oh he's good at first
44:38yeah and then it was felt like really natural normal when ash come back with a big smile on
44:45his face hit my life relief he's had such a good time as well so it just made me feel happy
44:50i worried you're gonna be mad when i got back i don't know i was thinking worst case stuff
44:56a nice guy yeah yeah good checking in yeah like used like the tickle thing like
45:03interchanged it like the kissing and touching and it was quite good
45:10we've finally been able to separate and you know fulfill for a fantasy that we've had for a long time
45:15breakfast breakfast we don't have to rely on tanya anymore and we can be our own people and do our
45:22our own thing
45:26guess what
45:26guess what
45:28guess what
45:30really
45:32yeah
45:34if you
45:47if you
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