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Open House- The Great Sex Experiment Season 3 Episode 8 - Full
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00:00Heading to the retreat are married couple hairdresser Tanya and window cleaner Ashley from Leeds.
00:16I hope people come and talk to us and we're not just kind of left in a corner.
00:22Yeah me too.
00:23When we first met each other it was just literally in the street outside.
00:29He had a puppy you know I'm an animal lover and I'm like wow perfect package puppy and a man.
00:34And since that day we just knew that we're meant to be together and then I moved in a couple of days later.
00:41And then found out puppy was never his. He tricked me. So luckily he's got his good looks and charisma otherwise yeah.
00:53So within 18 months we'd met each other, moved in, got married, had a child.
00:58Done all those things really fast.
01:01But a whirlwind romance of marriage and children wasn't enough for Tanya. She wanted more.
01:08Tanya brought up the idea of an open relationship and letting other women join us.
01:13Which was a bit of a shock at first. I didn't know if it was like a trap to see what I would say but it wasn't a trap.
01:20Tanya and Ashley have been having sex with other people for five years.
01:26I think everyone always presumes that it's the male that wants to push it on the partner but no it was all me.
01:30Much to the shock of my mum. She was like oh I bet it was Ashley. I was like no it was all me.
01:35All their sexual experiences with other people have been governed by one strict rule.
01:44We do everything together. We're always together. We've only ever played in the same room together.
01:48But now they're coming to the retreat to push their boundaries even further.
02:00So we're coming in to venture off our own separate ways to have sex separately from each other.
02:06I'm hoping it will only strengthen the bond that we already have. I'm hoping it goes that way.
02:15I'm more nervous with this than I've ever been with starting it from the beginning.
02:19Because we're both used to relying on each other.
02:23Playing separately is a huge risk because it could go wrong.
02:26And what if I do this and then Ashley becomes jealous or he decides it's not for him.
02:31Oh cute dress.
02:37Hey mate, are you okay?
02:39Hi guys. Nice to meet you.
02:41Hi.
02:44Are you feeling okay?
02:45Good.
02:46Hi.
02:47Hello.
02:48Go both sides.
02:49Tanya definitely seems maybe a little bit more confident.
02:51There's definitely potential to play. I do like a blonde.
02:55What's your name?
02:56Ash.
02:57Ash, nice to meet you.
02:59Welcome.
03:00I think I said it's more nerves from him than her.
03:04He looks quite innocent. She looks quite feisty.
03:08Hi.
03:09Hi.
03:10Nice to meet you.
03:11Hi.
03:12I'm Ash.
03:13My first impression was more her come to my eyes and she looks chic.
03:18But yeah, maybe I will discover something nice with him too.
03:22I think I'm the more anxious one in social situations whereas Tanya is a bit more relaxed.
03:28Emily.
03:29Emily.
03:30What's your name?
03:31Ash.
03:32Sorry.
03:33Ash.
03:34You too.
03:35The guy, I know he's nervous obviously, that's a given.
03:37Just wasn't really giving me the energy.
03:41All of the residents are gorgeous.
03:42The women are all beautiful.
03:44The guys obviously all look after themselves.
03:46So yeah, a bit nervous now that we've actually met them.
03:50Yeah, my heart's resting a little bit.
03:53You know, like the decor is beautiful.
03:56Wow.
03:57To help the couple navigate their desire to have separate sexual experiences.
04:01Hi, I'm Effie.
04:02Come in.
04:03Non-monogamy coach Effie Blue.
04:05Make yourself comfortable in the sofa.
04:07Will offer her insight.
04:12I'd love to start with what brings you here today.
04:16So we're already in the lifestyle but we would like to open it up a bit further and play separately so we're not in the same room as each other.
04:24So going off completely separate.
04:26Okay.
04:27Okay.
04:28And whose idea was it to explore this world?
04:31I think it was Tanya's.
04:33Okay.
04:34Okay.
04:35So tell me about this desire to separate.
04:37It's major.
04:38We've been talking about this for well over a year.
04:39So it's been like a long time that we've sort of discussed and been like, oh, what about this?
04:43Going for all scenarios and discussing it but never actually.
04:47Mm-hmm.
04:48We're just not sure about how to do it properly without quite upsetting the other person.
04:53And I'm worried that she would meet with somebody and then he's disrespectful or.
04:57Okay.
04:58So you don't have to say.
04:59I can't.
05:00There's nothing I can do to stop it.
05:01So why is it such a big deal for you to actually separate?
05:05We do spend a lot of time together.
05:08Ash is very, very affectionate.
05:10He's quite a clingy person.
05:12He does need to be touched, stroked and needs to be sat next to me all the time.
05:17When I'm at work I have my earphones in and we just speak all the time.
05:21So even when we're not together we're still pretty much on the phone together.
05:24To sort of be around each other even when we're not.
05:26I do have a job, you know.
05:27I do have to work too.
05:28I have to remind him because he just wants to talk to me all the time.
05:31The thought of doing something else is quite a big thrill as well.
05:34There's like that element of excitement.
05:36Yeah, we really want to give it a go.
05:38Okay.
05:39Okay.
05:40What if you get rejected?
05:41I hope that don't happen.
05:43Tell me about that.
05:44I would never get rejected when I go out because it's Tani that does the talking.
05:48I like a shield.
05:49A beautiful shield.
05:50Okay.
05:51I say you go over and I'll be over in five minutes.
05:53So this is going to be a first for you?
05:55Yeah.
05:56I just don't know how to say to somebody, do you want to go?
06:01Okay.
06:02Yeah.
06:03Okay.
06:04It feels like there's a big challenge here, right?
06:07So it's beyond just the separating and doing your own thing.
06:10But there's a lot of relational dynamics that you're kind of stirring up.
06:14Yeah.
06:15Like Ash, there's a protective aspect of you over Tania.
06:19And you've never actually connected anybody like first off for yourself.
06:25No.
06:26I really want Ash to go and talk to people and kind of overcome that confidence barrier.
06:30The whole experience here is to challenge you, right?
06:34There's a party tonight.
06:36So separate, socialize and see if you can connect with somebody, right?
06:44Experience what you want to experience and get back together at the end of the evening
06:49and debrief and see what it feels like.
06:51Go out there.
06:52Have a great time.
06:54Take care.
06:55Yes.
06:56Oh, my God.
06:57Oh, my God.
06:58Look how pretty it is.
06:59No.
07:00He's got the bath that you like.
07:01Oh, wow.
07:02I think if I do pull someone and he doesn't, I think I will feel really guilty.
07:13I don't know where you're sleeping.
07:15This is mine.
07:16Do you sleep in the bathroom then?
07:17I think it's going to be a bit hard just letting her do her own thing.
07:19But I hope that tonight that I won't be thinking, oh, I wonder if she's with someone I don't like.
07:29Hello.
07:30Hello.
07:31Welcome.
07:32Already staying at the retreat.
07:33Come here.
07:34Our married couple, Charmaine and Jamie.
07:35Neither of us have been with, like, lots of previous sexual partners, so we want to explore that together.
07:48I feel like the social aspect of it will be the biggest barrier.
07:52I'm a bit worried because I feel like my self-confidence can sort of hold Charmaine back.
08:01Hi.
08:02How are you feeling?
08:05I'm feeling a bit over one.
08:07This whole experience is obviously completely alien to us.
08:10It's just a bit much for me.
08:12Like, I just don't want to go back in.
08:14I just wish they weren't so nervous.
08:16Yeah.
08:18I'm glad you feel a little more of this now.
08:20Yeah.
08:21I was wondering if you'd like to spend a little more time in the hot tub.
08:23I definitely would, yeah.
08:24Would you?
08:25I'd like to spend a little more time.
08:30Okay.
08:31Thanks.
08:33Ready?
08:34Yeah.
08:36After nearly walking out of this evening's social, Charmaine and Jamie are hoping that a date in the hot tub with Jen and Mark will be more successful.
08:46The idea of opening up, it just seemed like the right sort of thing for us.
08:50My main concern is that, will we enjoy the reality of it?
08:53Or is it something that should have stayed a fantasy?
08:59I'm curious about having sex with other people.
09:01But I have the worries that I hope might have fixed me and Charmaine.
09:08Woo!
09:09It's a bit of a dip.
09:10I felt like I was like...
09:11It is.
09:12Sink.
09:13So I was a little surprised when they asked us to go hang in the hot tub with them.
09:18The way we're going to approach this is we should be affectionate with each other and show them that it is okay and see if that helps them relax a little more, see if it gets them in the mood.
09:32Oh!
09:33How you doing?
09:34You look cosy there.
09:35I know, yeah.
09:36He looks moulded into it, don't he?
09:38Right.
09:39Cheers, guys!
09:40Yeah, cheers!
09:41Cheers!
09:42Right, I'm going to give you a question now.
09:44I'm going to give you some spicy questions, see how you handle it.
09:47Let's spice it up.
09:49What's like your wildest fantasies?
09:52You could take loads of these.
09:54Next one's yours then.
09:56I like to be dominated.
09:58Oh, yes.
09:59A bit of power play.
10:00A bit of power play.
10:01I think that's probably because I'm so bossy outside of the bedroom.
10:05Yeah, yeah.
10:06So it's kind of nice to let that go a little bit in the bedroom.
10:09Sorry, I'm playing footsie with your lips.
10:14I'm not really sure how it's going.
10:16We're just trying to gauge where they're at.
10:18Yeah.
10:19What are you feeling this evening then?
10:21Do we want to...
10:22Are we happy how things are?
10:24Chatting?
10:25Do we want to...
10:31I know that's a really hard question.
10:32It is hard.
10:33Yeah, I don't know.
10:34Sorry.
10:38I'm feeling anxious.
10:39Slightly vulnerable.
10:40But I tend to sort of like hide behind Sean, mate.
10:43How are your feelings for what's made?
10:45For what's made?
10:46Yeah.
10:47Be the boss.
10:49Yeah, I know.
10:50No pressure.
10:54I think, deep down, the worry is there.
10:56That, obviously, doing this is a big step.
10:58Like, I don't feel like your relationship is ever going to be the same
11:01once you've opened up.
11:03Yeah, I don't know.
11:04I don't know how I'm feeling.
11:05I think I'm just very overwhelmed from the whole day.
11:07Yeah.
11:08Yeah, yeah, yeah.
11:10We couldn't work out whether they wanted to take it further or not.
11:13We certainly...
11:14Yeah.
11:15Would have.
11:16Well, listen, we're around tomorrow.
11:18We're available.
11:19Yeah.
11:20I don't know.
11:23See you later.
11:26See ya.
11:27Bye.
11:31I feel like the longer we leave it, the more difficult it is to sort of, you know, take that leap.
11:37It's something that we want.
11:39But I think it took me by surprise this evening, like, how I sort of reacted.
11:45That definitely held us back.
11:48We are the worst flares ever.
11:52Jamie.
11:53Yeah?
11:54If you don't give a flying fuck, goodness me.
12:12I think that's what I find so intimidating.
12:17Like, everybody's so sure of themselves and we're just, like, floating around.
12:23Yeah.
12:27Charmaine is hoping that opening up her relationship with Jamie will spice up their sex life.
12:33I'd love to get to a point where we can be that free.
12:38Is that the goal for you?
12:39Yeah.
12:41But first they have to get over the confidence barrier.
12:44Both Char and Jamie are definitely introverts.
12:49I think that makes it harder.
12:51What? Opening up?
12:53Yeah.
12:54Like, in our situation, you're definitely an introvert.
12:58But I'm an extrovert so that I help.
13:00Do you know what I mean?
13:01Yeah.
13:02They don't have that.
13:03If it was two me's, nothing would ever happen.
13:06We were technically still dating when we decided to try our first swinger club or sex party.
13:14We had our first experience on the Friday night, which was a threesome.
13:17The following day, we had a married person orgy.
13:19And I think from there, we kind of realised that we really enjoy an orgy.
13:26Lots of people at the same time.
13:28I would have liked to have kissed them both.
13:30Would you?
13:31Yeah.
13:35Before Charmaine and Jamie attempt to mingle with the residents again, they check in with Effie for some advice.
13:41Sit down, get comfy.
13:45How did it go?
13:47I struggled interacting with people.
13:49Yeah.
13:50Which I didn't think I would struggle as much.
13:51But maybe I obviously rely on Jamie a lot more than I thought.
13:55You're able to maybe speak and connect more because you're doing for him a lot of the time.
13:59Yeah.
14:00And when you had to do it for yourself, it was a little bit more difficult.
14:03Yeah. Yeah, I think so.
14:04I think I'm worrying about, like, what the end goal will be.
14:07So, like, how I'm going to take it from just a conversation to that step further.
14:14Okay.
14:15Sliding from, like, social into sensual and potentially to sexual?
14:18Yeah.
14:19Is that what... Okay.
14:20I think that's what it is for both of us, to be honest.
14:22You decided on a couple that you're both connected with.
14:25Like, did you want to kiss them?
14:26Yeah.
14:27I can say confidently that, yeah, I did.
14:29What would it take for you to kiss them last night?
14:31For me to know that neither one of us are doing something that we're not sure about.
14:38Mm-hmm.
14:39Whether Charmaine's comfortable with this, that holds me back.
14:44Okay.
14:45And for you as well?
14:46Yeah, I think we're definitely in our heads a little bit with that.
14:50Mm-hmm. Okay.
14:51Okay.
14:52So, first of all, this is very normal.
14:57You don't know because you haven't done it before.
14:59Yeah.
15:00So, until you take those steps, you're just not going to know how the other person feels
15:03because the other person doesn't know how they feel.
15:06Yeah.
15:07Does that make sense?
15:08That makes a lot of sense.
15:09Yeah.
15:10I want to move you guys from the social to the sensual to the sexual, if it makes sense.
15:17Yeah.
15:18Right?
15:19I want to start with the social.
15:20Hanging out by the swimming pool.
15:21Water's always fun.
15:23Connect with some couples.
15:25And then from that, you can, can I kiss you?
15:28Does this feel good?
15:29Yeah.
15:30I feel like it'll be challenging, but will you ever move forward if you don't challenge yourself?
15:33Exactly.
15:34Obviously.
15:35All we can do is try.
15:36Got steps to move forward with now.
15:37How fun.
15:39You're welcome.
15:42Yeah.
15:47You've got to stop worrying about how I'm feeling because I will make it known if I'm
15:51not feeling a certain way.
15:53I feel like everything is put on me.
15:56Everything's, I'll do what Sha wants.
15:59I'll do what Sha wants.
16:00It's sort of my day follow, isn't it?
16:02It's like blending.
16:03It's going to be years of self conditioning that I'm going to have to break through.
16:08Yeah, no, I think so.
16:18Down on the terrace, the residents are kicking off a masquerade ball in anticipation of the new arrivals.
16:25Ooh la la.
16:26Married couple Tanya and Ashley from Leeds.
16:30Are you completely done?
16:32I've got 15 minutes to finish getting ready, doing my hair and finishing my makeup.
16:35You need to calm down.
16:36Tell me about two minutes to get ready.
16:37I see.
16:38How's it going?
16:39Not really good.
16:40Are you scared now?
16:41No, I just wish that I would have had like an extra 20 minutes to get ready.
16:55The couple are no strangers to non-monogamy.
16:59But tonight, they're going to do something very different.
17:03I'm scared.
17:04You're all scared?
17:05Yeah.
17:06They will attempt to have separate sexual experiences, choosing their own partners without the
17:12other's approval.
17:13Trying something totally separate is over-racking because we can't see what a silver person doing
17:18when the other person's not there.
17:20And I'm not there to make sure she's okay.
17:22Yes.
17:23As ready as I'm going to be.
17:27I'm really excited to meet the other residents, see whether we click, who we vibe with.
17:33Yeah, I absolutely can't wait.
17:39So obviously there's always a worry about rejection, but I'm hoping that that doesn't
17:42actually happen.
17:43Tanya finds someone, she sort of goes off and I just sit in her room, clock watching,
17:48waiting to come back.
17:49It'll be pretty horrible.
18:12How are you going?
18:13Have fun.
18:14See you soon.
18:15See you soon.
18:16And with the pep talk out of the way, Tanya and Ashley are flying solo.
18:21for the first time.
18:22Shall we grab a seat?
18:23For sure.
18:24But Tanya's not alone for long.
18:28What would be your one thing that you would do?
18:30Maybe two.
18:31Um, yeah, just to make sure that there's a good amount of foreplay and a good amount of
18:36e-put, yeah, before you kind of have sex.
18:38So for me, I'd really like to be able to see someone's face, hear their breathing, kind
18:41of see what, what, if I'm doing something right, and then vice versa if they're playing
18:44with me.
18:45Yeah.
18:46Sounds like we like similar things.
18:47Yeah.
18:48Oh, my God.
18:49Oh, my God.
18:50Oh, my God.
18:51Oh, my God.
18:59On the terrace, quick to spot Ashley's nerves, Rochelle comes to the rescue.
19:04I like your little dimples.
19:05Very cute.
19:06I've only got one.
19:07Yeah, I know, I noticed.
19:08Yeah, the one's hidden.
19:09What do you do for a living?
19:10Window cleaner.
19:11Oh, yeah, vision technician.
19:12I like that.
19:14I think I'm the funniest person in the world, and sometimes I'm not.
19:20He seemed a little bit shy, but I think once he's done a little bit more, he'll probably
19:23be a bit more confident.
19:24I bet you see all sorts.
19:25You see all sorts.
19:26I don't use the ladders.
19:27I've got, like, a pole system.
19:28Oh, yeah, of course.
19:29But still.
19:34I'm hoping Ash has a good evening.
19:36Hopefully, whoever he's picked just pulls him out of his shell a little bit.
19:45Okay.
19:46Never have I ever had sex in a public place.
19:52Yeah, like, yeah, a lot of times we ended up with, like, a police marker on the car.
19:59We got caught.
20:01So he taps on the window, and I wound it down, and he's like, you all right?
20:05I'm like, yeah.
20:06And then I realised it was police, and they're like, are you having a good time?
20:09I went, well, I was.
20:11So, like, you need to leave.
20:13I'm like, oh, okay.
20:14Everyone's really, really welcoming and really, really friendly.
20:17It's hot.
20:19How do I choose?
20:21How do I choose?
20:24What do you do for fun?
20:26What do I do?
20:27For work.
20:28I'm a yoga teacher, and I'm vegan as well.
20:30Classic.
20:31Oh, really?
20:32I was vegan for about...
20:33Oh, really?
20:34...nine months, yeah.
20:35Oh, wow, okay.
20:36It didn't really work out for me, so...
20:37Well, at least you tried it.
20:38Shall I let you go, and you can, like, mingle with my lady?
20:41Yes.
20:42Because I've never really done this before on my own, it's been very much more of a struggle.
20:47How are you?
20:48I'm good.
20:49Bit nervous.
20:50Yes.
20:51I'm Olivia, it's lovely to meet you.
20:53Is Tanya, like, your comfort blanket?
20:54Yep.
20:55Yeah.
20:56My husband, too, he's in there, and I'm like, where is he?
21:00I think I'm more nervous about coming out and just talking to people on my own.
21:03It's a social aspect, isn't it, isn't it?
21:06Ash is so quiet and reserved and not confident about himself.
21:10I definitely feel like there's some nervousness around there, like, the first time that they're
21:14separating.
21:15I'd rather have sex with someone than have to talk to them.
21:18Is that not fair?
21:21Yeah.
21:22The whole night has been, like, yeah, really nerve-wracking.
21:24It just feels awkward.
21:25What are you most nervous about?
21:28Erm, possibly that Ash doesn't interact with everyone and doesn't end up asking someone,
21:34I think.
21:35Can't think about that on his own in a corner, will he?
21:37Surely not.
21:50I don't think these trousers are going to go.
21:52I thought I will.
21:53Charmaine and Jamie are getting ready for their afternoon social at the pool.
21:58I just don't feel comfortable in this.
22:00I'm kind of running out of options at this point.
22:07Ultimately, it's whatever you're comfortable in.
22:09I'm not uncomfortable in anything.
22:10I'm not comfortable going down there.
22:12This is the issue.
22:17I'm just not confident in my body at the minute.
22:20And that's really a barrier for me.
22:23I get that.
22:24I really, like, I can't tell you.
22:26I don't want to go in the pool.
22:27I don't want to be in sleep.
22:29I feel like Charmaine might be questioning what we're doing.
22:37Erm, why we're here.
22:44Despite her wobble, Charmaine has decided to persevere with opening up their relationship.
22:50I think anybody that knows us would never imagine that we would do anything like this.
22:57Hey guys!
22:58Sit, take a seat, take a seat.
23:03How are you feeling about Jen and Mark today?
23:05I think Jen and Mark are a lovely couple.
23:07It would be nice to get to know them a bit more.
23:09My only fear is that we've sort of friend-zoned them because, you know, we didn't take that next step.
23:15So, obviously, it would be nice to see how they feel and what they want to do as well.
23:20How's your morning been?
23:21What have you been up to?
23:22It's been very up and down, I'm going to be honest, hasn't it?
23:24Oh, OK.
23:25Yeah, we're both very emotional today.
23:27We've struggled a lot with the social aspect of it more than anything.
23:31Yeah.
23:32Yeah, yeah, yeah.
23:33I sort of try and blend in and sort of hide in the corner.
23:36Probably not giving the right sickness to what I say.
23:39I think actually your quietness and your sort of shine is actually really endearing.
23:45No, thank you.
23:46I know it is quite hard, like, trying to step things forward.
23:50What do you feel about, like, playing games and stuff like that?
23:52Yeah, no, I'm not opposed to it.
23:53I think that's what we need.
23:54Yeah?
23:55Yeah.
23:56Give us a good spin.
23:57Hey!
23:58Jamie?
23:59I think you should snug Lily, my fiancée.
24:05It was my idea to open up our relationship and Jamie was sort of very apprehensive but very quickly.
24:14Curiosity took over.
24:17Is that all right?
24:18Yeah, I'm OK.
24:19Yeah?
24:20I need to see this.
24:21I need a good view, guys.
24:35Yay!
24:37That was a good one, guys.
24:39I think that was the sort of icebreaker that we needed to sort of throw us in a little bit.
24:43Me and Shabalai.
24:44With Jamie taking the first step, the residents are keen to turn up the heat.
24:48Does anyone want to get in the pool?
24:49I'm ready to go.
24:50Let's get in!
24:51It's actually lovely and warm.
24:52Woo!
24:53I'm starting to feel a bit more confident and sure of myself.
25:04I feel good.
25:05Right, beach ball, keep the happy game.
25:06It's not the last person that touched it before you.
25:11That's one of you two.
25:12Oh, man.
25:13Sicky, sicky, sicky.
25:14You're all right.
25:15Seeing Charmaine with another man is quite uncomfortable for me.
25:16But I do want us to share the same experiences.
25:22Why is it sexier in the pool?
25:23Kiss another woman.
25:24Kiss another woman.
25:25Oh, man.
25:26Oh, man.
25:27Sicky, sicky, sicky.
25:30Doing Charmaine with another man is quite uncomfortable for me.
25:33But I do want us to share the same experiences.
25:37You just got rid of the road, so now we're on the side.
25:38Incoming.
25:39Oh!
25:40Oh!
25:41Oh!
25:42Oh!
25:43Oh!
25:44Oh!
25:45Oh, good!
25:46Oh!
25:47Oh, good!
25:48Why is it sexier in the pool?
25:50Kiss another woman was good.
25:52It was good to sort of come away from that feeling good about myself.
25:55Jamie and Charmaine's kissing game is...
26:00Yeah, she was a great kisser.
26:02I think at the end we had a little circle where it was kiss somebody that you could
26:06kiss somebody that you hadn't kissed.
26:12I think that went better than I expected.
26:15I think Jamie and Charmaine really opened up a little more.
26:20Yeah.
26:21They really came out of the shell a bit more today, didn't they?
26:23They're both really good kissers.
26:24Yeah.
26:25I mean, I didn't kiss Jamie, but...
26:26Oh.
26:27She...
26:28She has beautiful lips.
26:29Charmaine's a great kisser, yeah.
26:31Three way!
26:33Yeah, baby.
26:34We had a great time in the pool.
26:35I'm proud that we managed to get past the many blips that we have had so far in the retreat.
26:41Yeah.
26:42We thought we finally broke that barrier of our touching.
26:45It was a really positive experience for us.
26:47Yeah.
26:48The couple have agreed to meet Jen and Mark in a more intimate setting later this evening,
26:54as they looked to build on their experience in the pool.
26:58We were both interested in a date.
27:00It was good to get a bit back and I think that's what we needed from them really.
27:04Yeah.
27:05Last night I made sure I reserved some of my energy back.
27:08Yeah.
27:09I think we could maybe relax a little bit and just be ourselves a little more because,
27:12yeah, they've kind of softened now, aren't they?
27:22At the Masquerade Social, Tanya is going down well with the residents.
27:26Yeah.
27:27What would be the ideal scenario?
27:28What would be the ideal scenario?
27:29Probably, like, everyone.
27:30I'll just sit in the middle.
27:31So we're naughty then!
27:32But Gage is keen to secure top spot.
27:39Hi!
27:40Hey!
27:41I bet it's been a notch of whirlwind from walking down when we first saw you.
27:45Yeah.
27:46And he's not the only one.
27:48Can I just try something?
27:50What would you like?
27:51I like your little moon.
28:02Now you know how to keep a French kiss.
28:05Yeah!
28:06That's my first French kiss!
28:07Awesome!
28:08I like that.
28:09Yeah.
28:10Do you feel confident that you kind of got your hands on somebody or...?
28:14There's a few...
28:15I narrowed it down to like six.
28:16Six.
28:21Do you feel, like, confident that you can just go in and go, I'm ready for this or do
28:24you need someone that's, like, done it before?
28:30I don't want someone who's not done this before.
28:32Yeah.
28:33Because obviously I do want some guidance.
28:34I feel like you're going to light my comfort blanket now.
28:37You've got it.
28:38You've got it.
28:39Is this you asking me back, is it?
28:41Potentially.
28:42Yeah.
28:43I'm interested.
28:44I'm definitely interested.
28:45You're not going to reject you.
28:46I'm not going to reject you, no.
28:47Because if you do, honestly, I'll hunt you down.
28:48No, no, no.
28:51No, but I am interested, yeah.
28:53Okay.
28:54When you make that initial attraction with somebody, you can make the eye contact and you get the
29:02vibe and I feel like we both definitely have that.
29:04I feel like I'm having the most successful night out of me and Ash, but I'm not spoke to him.
29:17You down for it?
29:18Yeah.
29:19Yeah, me too.
29:20There we go.
29:21I don't want these to go gross.
29:22Just colour it.
29:23No one will know.
29:24Do you colour it?
29:25No.
29:26No.
29:27Hi.
29:28Hello.
29:29Nice to meet you.
29:30Am I okay to borrow time?
29:31No, absolutely.
29:32Yeah.
29:33Yeah.
29:34I'll see you soon.
29:35Any good time?
29:36Yeah.
29:37I was so nervous when I first came in, but...
29:38Not as bad as me.
29:39Now I feel okay.
29:40I think I spoke to every single one here now, but...
29:41Yeah.
29:42It was pretty hard, but...
29:43You clicked with anyone?
29:44No.
29:45I really struggle to narrow it down.
29:46Narrowed it down now.
29:47Who?
29:48Gage.
29:49We clicked together so well.
29:50Okay.
29:51How do you feel?
29:52I feel a bit.
29:53I feel a bit.
29:54I feel a bit.
29:55I feel a bit.
29:56I feel a bit.
29:57I feel a bit.
29:58I feel a bit.
29:59Yeah.
30:00I feel a bit.
30:01Yeah.
30:02Yeah.
30:03Yeah.
30:04Yeah.
30:05Yeah.
30:06Yeah.
30:07Yeah.
30:08Yeah.
30:09I feel more nervous now, knowing that you're going to be going off without me there.
30:14Bit scared.
30:15Not going to see you pretty much after this conversation.
30:20I felt just like a bit more thrown off that Tanya's gone and asked somebody first.
30:24Would you ask anybody?
30:25Have you had that discussion?
30:26No, no.
30:27No?
30:28No.
30:29I believe that having found out that I have actually, yes, I've clicked and I've chosen
30:33someone, I think that was maybe like a kick up the bum, like, oh, I've actually
30:36got to ask a woman now.
30:38Yeah.
30:39Yeah.
30:40All you need to do is by yourself.
30:41Right.
30:42A little part of me is thinking, you know, if Tanya enjoys this, that might be what she
30:46wants to do more and more often, but it might not be my thing.
30:50So that might throw our relationship a bit.
30:53See you soon.
30:54Yeah.
30:55It's just a bit scary what might happen next.
30:57Hi.
30:58I'm going to put heels on.
30:59I should turn there.
31:00This evening, Charmaine and Jamie have invited Jen and Mark for a second date.
31:14get on the floor but after a few hurdles will the couple embrace the full opening up experience i feel
31:21like we've already broken past quite a few mental barriers now and hopefully this evening we can
31:27break past a few more ready
31:34i feel excited about this evening so i think it's a good a good way to
31:39experiment going a little bit further perhaps maybe i'll have the margarita margarita yeah
31:50don't spit it thank you
31:57to help charmaine and jamie progress from social to sexual the couple start up a game of truth or
32:03dare who wants to roll first truth go on was you always okay introducing another guy we only
32:12kind of got into this because i was interested in seeing jen with another guy it was never the
32:17other way around jamie you're not necessarily turned on by the idea of me with another man
32:23but the idea of you enjoying yourself yeah yeah that's what i'm like it's still like that now
32:28but also like how many times are you going to be watching not you're going to be busy yeah you're
32:35you're you're you're going to be busy as well well i mean that's that's to start with eventually
32:40i'd like to give charmaine that fantasy of like introducing other guys
32:46you choose you choose are you picking your own dare
32:48you choose okay let's go there okay kiss
33:19kiss what who shall i guess not me
33:34charmaine look like she was enjoying herself um best of goal if she's enjoying herself then i'm okay with it
33:39that's nice with the game nearing its end there is one final question putting charmaine and jamie on
33:54the spot once and for all
34:00say what you want for tonight oh that's a difficult that is tough guys that is tough that is tough we
34:06could shut our eyes if you want no pressure no pressure do you know what though we came into this
34:11evening with like no real expectations we've said that all along haven't we we just wanted to see
34:16how obviously things went that's a really boring answer but yeah what about you again no expectations
34:23i mean i'm liking the vibe and yeah yeah just but what not talking expectations what do you want to happen
34:33do you want to take a minute to check your movie travel yes take a minute again faced with the
34:44ultimate question can the pair take the leap and have sex with another couple obviously i really like
34:51like jen and mark i will be somewhat disappointed if we don't but
35:10i will not get into it none that you don't feel confident
35:35you're okay yeah no we've had a discussion
35:49and obviously we both think that you are we're both attracted to both of you basically
35:57i feel like it's my own confidence still holding me back okay yeah yeah oh okay oh babes you're
36:04gorgeous thank you i just wanted to make sure it was on the table if you wanted it yeah no because
36:09i know that's it's helpful to know isn't it so yes it is a lot should you go to the room
36:20see you later see you guys see you later bye
36:27i don't know what's going on in jamie and char's head they seem to want to take that next step
36:33just something's holding them back and i it's hard to say what it is
36:39i don't think they're ready to open their relationship no not right now i i'd like them to be
36:46but they're not i don't think
36:56i really can't do this
37:04i think this whole experience has been an emotional roller coaster
37:09however i'm glad that we've done it because i think we've got a lot to take away from the retreat
37:27tanya has left tonight's social with her date for the evening leaving husband ashley to find his own
37:39partner for the night i'm more nervous now without having tanya there to sort of help me out
37:45and whilst gage tends to tanya's needs his wife olivia is also left alone on the terrace all right yeah
37:55i'm good how are you i'm good it's got all really quiet
37:58i know
38:02this seco's nice yeah on the prosecco or the no seco
38:05no seco yeah which one are you are yours i've had mine yeah
38:12yeah i wonder if you wanted to go spend a bit more time together
38:17yeah i would like to get to know you more yeah that's good to hear yeah yeah
38:21do you want to sit down yeah sit down yeah oh god i lost my shoe
38:26what do you do for work i'm with cabby crew oh really like fly around fly around oh my god my
38:31worst nightmare why is it your worst nightmare like really bad taking my shoes off yeah take
38:38your shoes off let's get let's get comfortable meanwhile in the bedroom tanya's all for reaching
38:44new heights this is like immense so i'm gonna go and i'm gonna sleep with someone and ash is not gonna
38:50be there now i'm gonna do this on my own it's crazy yeah i'm hoping that everything goes okay with ash
39:06and that this doesn't cause any issues in our relationship
39:08what do you want to do now then do you want to have chats do you want to do you want to have fun
39:22you can go to the earth if the earth's available
39:29olivia's really outgoing and confident whereas i'm a bit more reserved and shy so i don't know see how it goes
39:38oh it's nice oh it looks so big you are good yep it's our very first time being separate from each of
39:54us so i'm trying to put out my mind what tanya's doing right now
40:08ashe was still on my mind but i was still able to kind of switch off and stay in the moment
40:38and i was like having sex with somebody else without my partner being there was
40:46intense but it was exciting as well
40:49do you have pineapple pizza no no pineapple pizza do you have pineapple on your pizza pineapple and jalapeno
41:03do you yeah like the two opposites that's the best pizza pineapple jalapeno try it i don't like jalapenos
41:12it's too spicy for me then the pineapple fixes it okay next time i'll i'll try it just try it
41:25it went really really well i would say tonight it was like losing virginity because it was so much so
41:43new something so different and the complete unknown are you good hey i'm great
41:50well i think still in the back of mind i'm like oh gosh it's doing under is okay yeah
41:59it's about if i get back and it's like oh it's like amazing because i'll change my mind okay
42:08right shall we get this awkwardness out of the way because this is making me cringy
42:14definitely think tanya's going to be in my head if it goes wrong it might put us off forever
42:19these buttons are really look at the tiniest buttons ever but i have to try concentrate on myself
42:27just take it off
42:31i feel pretty good but my instant thought is i want to find ash i want to find him i want to speak to
43:01it's like playing solo it's still very very hard to kind of switch off from thinking about your
43:08partner and what's your partner doing are they okay
43:24there's always a possibility that maybe he is having a better time maybe he's enjoying it more
43:28with somebody else than what he is with me maybe he's going completely wild because i'm not there
43:43you happy now yeah yeah do you enjoy yourself yep how's the nerves now
43:49yeah it's felt good like yeah it's felt good i felt like i'm gonna feel like i'm doing something wrong but
43:53yeah i'm not being solo has been really fun exciting something totally new it was like just as exciting
44:02as i imagined it would be
44:08i know if ash was to not come back to me that would be crossing a hard boundary
44:13that's crossing over from sex to like lovey-dovey
44:30hello all right a good time then yeah yeah good time yeah i did oh you scared at first yeah and then it
44:39was felt like really natural normal when ash come back with a big smile on his face it went like
44:46relief he's had such a good time as well so it just made me feel happy
44:50how worried you're gonna be mad when i got back i'm hard why don't know i was thinking
44:54worst case stuff a nice guy yeah yeah good checking in yeah like used like the tickle thing like
45:02it changed it like with kissing and touching and it was quite good
45:10we've finally been able to separate and you know fulfill a fantasy that we've had for a long time
45:16breakfast they don't have to rely on tanya anymore and we can be our own people and do our own thing
45:22guess what oh really yeah
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