From Addiction to Accountability: How I Became the Man I Promised to Be

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In this raw, unfiltered video, I break down: ✅ Why “you knew what you signed up for” is a LIE. ✅ How addiction & ego almost destroyed my marriage. ✅ The 3 steps that forced me to grow up (no BS). ✅ Why recovery is worth the pain (and how to start).  📌 Subscribe and hit the bell 🔔—every week, we dive deeper into self-growth, fatherhood, and rebuilding trust.

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00:00The problem is that he did this before the relationship started.

00:04Now you're asking him to change.

00:05I used to say that all the time.

00:07That was my go-to.

00:08Anytime I felt attacked or judged or like my manhood was being questioned,

00:12I'd fire back with that BS and tell her, this is what you signed up for.

00:16You knew what you were getting.

00:18Why are you shocked?

00:19That's not true.

00:20That's not the case.

00:22When we fell in love, she didn't just fall in love with the kid that was in front of her.

00:25She fell in love with the potential of the man that I could be one day based on the crap that came out of my mouth.

00:33The things that I said I wanted to do.

00:35That I wanted to be a great husband.

00:36I wanted to be an amazing father.

00:39I wanted to be successful and I wanted to do something big in my life.

00:43And at some point, drugs and alcohol became my priority and I stopped growing.

00:47And I was content being a loser, hanging out on the couch, doing nothing.

00:51And then never taking any sort of criticism without turning it back on her.

00:57That's what our relationship looked like forever.

00:59And there are plenty of men out there doing the same thing still.

01:03It's easier to be lazy than it is to be challenged.

01:05And I get it.

01:05I was there for a long time.

01:07No judgment.

01:08But I can tell you from the other side of it now, it's a lot easier to just do the things you said you were going to do.

01:13To have the humility to take what they're saying and to grow from it.

01:17But if you have someone, if you have the privilege of someone who still cares about you that much, rise to the occasion.

01:24Be a man.

01:25Let's grow up.

01:26You can't be Peter Pan forever.

01:28The boy that just never grows up.

01:31Recovery is not easy.

01:32It's not.

01:33But it's worth it.

01:34The growth that goes along with it is worth it.

01:37And now today, I am the man I said I'd be.

01:39I am the husband.

01:41I am the father.

01:42I'm the person I said I would be in the beginning.

01:45I don't use these gaslighting excuses that this is what you signed up for because that's not true.

01:50It never was.

01:50Who would sign up for that?

01:52Unless day one I said I'm an addict.

01:54I'm a loser.

01:55Run.

01:56She's got it right.

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