Why ‘Selfish’ Women Get Cherished (And Nice Girls Get Mummy-Zoned)

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n this video, I break down the psychological patterns I discovered after studying 100+ marriages. Why do women who prioritize themselves attract masculine, doting partners? Why do people-pleasers attract takers? We’ll dive into: ✅ The “Reciprocal Circuitry” of happy relationships (and why HE needs to give FIRST) ✅ How “self-abandonment” sabotages your love life (even if you think you’re “kind”) ✅ The 20% Brat Rule: How to be selfish in a way that inspires adoration (not anger) 🔔 FOLLOW for: “How to Communicate Your Needs Without Sounding Demanding.”

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00:00I've cracked the code on how women end up with golden retriever but masculine husbands that

00:06cherish them and if you're a people pleaser let me guess let me guess you attract takers

00:12you attract men that are looking for mummies we've all been there I get it girlfriend well

00:19after analyzing patterns because that's what my brain loves to do and happy marriages versus

00:24unhappy marriages obviously the ideal is a reciprocal circuitry of give and take but it

00:32starts with the man giving first because that is what creates safety for his woman right anyway in

00:37the happy marriages the woman is actually naturally self-centered and I use that word with because it

00:45has a negative connotation but what that actually means is cherishing and not self-abandoning okay

00:50people pleases self-abandon and you also might be introspective so you kind of accidentally

00:56over function because you can explain behavior you put up with it but sometimes it's these more

01:03aloof self-centered women who might not even know what femininity principles are but they're actually

01:10more embodied in their femininity because they're more natural about like oh well this is what I want

01:15I didn't feel good and they don't need to justify it they don't need to make excuses for people's

01:20behavior they're just kind of very secure in being like I didn't like that or yeah I like that and

01:25they just move on so this is my playful but semi-serious message for you you need to embody like 20% more

01:34brat yeah you need to be more selfish and you need to be like 20% more brat okay and this is good advice

01:43for people pleasers do not come at me in the comment okay if you're already a brat then you can leave my

01:48advice alone a little bit of self-focus goes a long way in love tell me in the comments

01:53how much more brat do you need to embody in your love life

01:57you

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