- 4/22/2025
Therapy Thursday: Do You Let Your Kids Play With The Kids Of A Gay Neighbor?
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00:00All right, Therapy Thursday is where the brilliance comes out in spurts.
00:05All right, we got Dr. Davi, Meredith M.D., Orlando B-G-Y-N.
00:10We are here to help you whatever it is you need, whatever your queer is, we got you.
00:15Which one of us would be Dr. Nick?
00:16Dr. Nick?
00:18Yeah.
00:18Oh, well, that's the big dog.
00:19I know.
00:20I mean, Hollywood Upstairs Medical College is probably the best institution ever on the second floor of any building.
00:30Let's see here.
00:30We got calls and texts here.
00:32What we got?
00:33We got one out the 727.
00:35We'll give it to you, Dr. Nick.
00:36It says, I'm freaking out.
00:38Yesterday, I hit a parked car in a grocery store plaza.
00:42I left a pretty big dent on the car, and I damaged mine as well.
00:46I panicked, and I left.
00:48Okay.
00:48As I was driving off, I looked up to see if there were cameras, and I saw a lot of them.
00:53Yes, I feel bad for the person's car, but that's what insurance is for.
00:56I'm just really worried cops are going to be looking for me, find me, and I get charged with a hit and run or something.
01:03I'm scared.
01:04You don't need any of the doctors.
01:06You need a lawyer.
01:07You think so?
01:07We don't do that.
01:08We don't do lawyering.
01:10You broke the law.
01:11You're going to jail.
01:12You kind of just have to wait it out.
01:13You're going to jail.
01:14Maybe.
01:15You're going to jail.
01:16You broke the law.
01:17Like, you hit something and left.
01:19That's a crime.
01:20Yeah, but he could potentially not get caught or in trouble.
01:23A lot of those cameras don't work.
01:26Now, that's true.
01:27Right?
01:27That's true.
01:27A lot of parking lot cameras.
01:29That's very true.
01:29Somebody hit my car out here, and I was like, yeah, man.
01:32Yeah.
01:32Right in front of the camera.
01:33They're like, that don't work.
01:34I'm like, what?
01:35It hasn't worked in years.
01:36It ain't worked in years.
01:37And we're not fixing it.
01:38We ain't fixing it.
01:39Don't tell very many people, I would say.
01:43You just told 375,000 people.
01:45Right, right.
01:46I don't think I would, like, lose sleep over this, to be honest with you.
01:51You don't lose sleep over a lot of stuff, though.
01:52That's what I'm saying.
01:53Dami, you are very low-key.
01:54You, like, half Jamaican.
01:56You just, you very cool runnings, man.
01:59You broke the law.
02:00And honestly, you probably need to go turn yourself in.
02:03What?
02:04Yeah.
02:04No.
02:04I just wanted to see how that sounds.
02:06You snitching.
02:07I just wanted to see how that sounds.
02:08You just always wanted to say that.
02:09I just always wanted to say that.
02:10I wanted to be on the other side of it.
02:12All right.
02:12No, don't turn yourself in?
02:14No.
02:14No.
02:14Okay.
02:15Now you have to wait it out, because they already
02:16left the scene, and see if the cops come in.
02:19Damage is done, bro.
02:20Hey, paint your car.
02:21Paint it.
02:22Change your tag.
02:23Fix the debt.
02:24Fix the debt.
02:25And act like it wasn't me.
02:27I don't know.
02:27Your cameras are on.
02:28All right.
02:29That's our advice.
02:30I'm sorry.
02:30That's what we got.
02:31All right.
02:31Let's see here.
02:32This says, Dear Freak Show, my daughter is getting a little chunky, like most preteens do,
02:39so I've curtailed sweets and extra snacking.
02:42I can't get her dad to follow the rules.
02:45How do I get him to follow the plan?
02:48Daddy's got to be on board.
02:50I mean, health should be a priority anyway.
02:52And by the way, kids go in different stages.
02:54Sometimes they got like a little extra chunk, and then they have a growth spurt, and then
02:57they're a little extra skinny.
02:58And then they stretch it out.
02:59Right.
03:00But I think that, I mean, having a wellness plan, having some kind of health and good food
03:05and all that stuff, and sugar's so bad for you.
03:08I don't know if you do any research.
03:09Sugar in general is terrible for you.
03:11So daddy has to get on board.
03:12Wait, but if the kid's fat, right?
03:15Daddy has to get on board.
03:17If daddy's good.
03:18Davi, this is your child.
03:20Daddy's feeding her.
03:21Right.
03:21Okay.
03:22Daddy's feeding her bad stuff that mom's trying to keep.
03:24But dad can't eat it at all?
03:26We're not talking about that.
03:26This is about dad giving her sweets.
03:28Giving, okay, okay.
03:29Okay, don't give her sweets.
03:30So mom has made rules.
03:31Yeah.
03:32And dad is like, hey, you want some ice cream?
03:35Right.
03:35And honestly, as a dad, I will tell you that dads want to be the hero.
03:40We don't always want to be like the lion.
03:41And that's a bad thing.
03:43You should probably sit down with dad and say, listen, I get you want to be the hero when
03:47I'm not around and let her do a little sneaky sneaky or whatever.
03:51So how about we come together and decide how many of those sneaks I'm going to allow you
03:55to have?
03:56Okay.
03:56Okay.
03:56Like, let her control your sneaks.
03:58And then dad gets to be the hero when you win it, you know, because you want to have
04:02that bond.
04:03Mama's got it.
04:04Daddy, if I'm going to give you a little ice cream and that is going to make you love
04:07me, damn it, come on.
04:08Yeah.
04:09Give it to me.
04:09Yeah.
04:09But like, maybe you and her work it out and say, hey, maybe when y'all are out on the
04:13weekend, you can give her a sneak and make you feel like you're-
04:16Once a week.
04:17Doing a little bit.
04:17Yeah.
04:18A little ice cream.
04:19A little outing.
04:19Should be every night, though.
04:21Organized confusion, though.
04:22Make it look like it's mass chaos.
04:24Like, ooh, don't tell your mama.
04:25But mama knows.
04:26Yeah.
04:26Because y'all the adults.
04:27Be the adults, you know.
04:29Speaking of dads, we have one that came in about two dads.
04:32Hey, daddy.
04:33It says, a couple just moved in next door to us.
04:35It's two men, husband and husband.
04:38Their son moved in as well.
04:40He's probably nine years old around, and he's pretty close in age to my son.
04:45My husband doesn't want our son to be friends with him because he's scared he might, quote,
04:49learn bad habits.
04:51I'm not sure exactly what that means.
04:53You know what that means.
04:54But I know he doesn't like it because it's a gay couple.
04:57I am totally fine with it.
04:59They are both very nice.
05:00I've talked to them many times, but my husband hasn't been so friendly.
05:04What, if anything, should I do?
05:06Wow.
05:06That's hard.
05:07Close-minded.
05:07That's hard because people's bad habits tend to run deep.
05:12You know what I'm saying?
05:12And that man is just not as open-minded as you are.
05:15So, that's something that you might need to go in there and, like, share with him.
05:19Hey, you know, these are good guys.
05:22I met them, blah, blah, blah.
05:23Maybe have some, have them over.
05:25They're a neighbor.
05:26Like, you know, I mean, you don't have to because, I mean, that's very neighborly.
05:29Hey, neighbor.
05:30Daddy ain't gonna like that.
05:31Yeah, daddy ain't gonna like that.
05:32Like, I'm sharing my meatloaf with them.
05:33Nah, but it does get you a way to know these people.
05:38If the kids, let the kids play.
05:40I mean, you could have a heterosexual couple sitting next to you that's cheating on each other,
05:44drugging.
05:45Domestic violence.
05:45Drunk and beating each other and doing all kinds of stuff.
05:49You gonna let that kid hang out with you because they gonna get bad influences as well.
05:52So, it really can't be just based off of that.
05:55Let your kid have their friends.
05:56They're very hard to find.
05:58And don't think that they're gonna pick up on any of those kind of cues.
06:01That's a shame.
06:02Don't be small-minded.
06:03Yeah, for real.
06:04Be more open-minded about that stuff.
06:05We have a follow-up from the 904 that says,
06:09I'm in the same situation as our last message female couple with a baby girl.
06:14I'm okay with their lifestyle.
06:16I just want to ensure I teach my child what the lifestyle is, not others.
06:22Again, I'm open.
06:23However, let it be me when I'm ready and not on somebody else's timeline.
06:29Yeah, I get that.
06:30I mean, you gotta be a good parent.
06:31And, I mean, I've had plenty of gay neighbors.
06:34Those are good neighbors to have.
06:35You should not look down on them.
06:36I mean, they can bring your property value up.
06:38They care about stuff.
06:40What?
06:41Statistically, they make a lot of money.
06:43Well, what's wrong with this?
06:43What?
06:44How are you?
06:44You can't generalize.
06:45They bring your property value up?
06:48Why not?
06:49At least in liberal areas.
06:50They start planting flowers and stuff, and it's just, oh, my God.
06:53I have great experiences.
06:54How do they bring your property?
06:56I just want to know this.
06:57Because they care about their house.
06:58Really?
06:59Yeah.
06:59Some neighbors, have you ever had a bad neighbor?
07:01They didn't care about cutting their lawn, about the way their house looked, or fixing
07:04it up.
07:05This is the opposite problem.
07:06I'm trying to protect you, Meredith.
07:08What?
07:08I'm just saying, because I think somebody out there is dialing the number already.
07:11I don't believe she just, does that mean you stand next to straight folks, and you're
07:15like, I can't wait till they move?
07:16No, not at all.
07:17But it never, it was never an issue, and I was totally fine with it.
07:21Who cares?
07:21This is hilarious.
07:23All right.
07:23Let's see.
07:24Out of the 813, it says, we're trying to save money in our household, but now that stuff
07:30is tight, I want to cut our cable, and my boyfriend says he wants to choose to take our
07:36lawn care over his self, says the person who probably won't cut our grass on time or
07:42as nicely as the company does it.
07:44We're in a battle.
07:45Which one would you choose?
07:47Oh, all day, lawn care.
07:48If you had to cut lawn care or cable?
07:50Well, we can dial back on some cable, and we can do streaming or something if we need
07:54to.
07:54We can look into that.
07:55If you have an option that you use that's not like cable.
07:57Yeah, cable is so old school and not necessary these days.
08:01There's plenty of streaming options for the low.
08:05I would not get rid of the lawn care, because that's a big burden.
08:10It's easy for the person that's not responsible for cutting the grass to be like, ah, just get
08:15rid of the lawn care.
08:16He said it.
08:17He said it.
08:18He said he'll take care of it.
08:20Go ahead.
08:20Go ahead.
08:21If that's what you want to do, that's your responsibility.
08:23But she knows she's not going to be able to get him to go do the grass like the lawn
08:27care people do.
08:28They show up, about three, four of them, and they knock it all out.
08:31He's going to be like, I'll get to it.
08:34She don't want that.
08:35That full cable package, that's like $100 plus a month.
08:38Mine is $2.30.
08:39So unnecessary.
08:41If I went your route of the bootlegging and all that stuff you're doing, how much would
08:45I pay?
08:46You wouldn't pay a lot at all, bro.
08:48It's a different route.
08:50It's not as user-friendly, but I got everything.
08:53Everything.
08:54How much?
08:55It's damn near free.
08:56Okay.
08:57So that's what Doc is doing.
08:58But he said it goes through a lot.
09:01I don't want to go through a lot.
09:02I just want to turn on my Chicago Fire.
09:06It's on there.
09:06Every season of Chicago Fire ever shot.
09:09Someone said, damn, Doc is trying to put me out of business.
09:11Shake my head right now.
09:13That's the long guy?
09:16Oh, that's the cable man.
09:17Yeah, that's the cable man, broadly.
09:19All right.
09:19Okay.
09:20Well, yeah.
09:20Doc says do the cable hookup.
09:22Yeah.
09:22At the 941, it says my wife and I just sold our house.
09:25We made around $200,000 from the sale, but then we just realized we never talked about
09:30what we were going to do with the money.
09:31I thought the logical thing was to buy another house and repeat the process.
09:36But no, she wants to rent, travel, and, quote, live her life, as she says.
09:40I look at it as being responsible versus irresponsible.
09:44What?
09:44You want to just rent and waste your money?
09:47I mean, you might as well just take that and flush it down the toilet.
09:49You made money off of your house because you bought a house and you sat on it and then
09:52you invested in where you live and then you made some money.
09:55I will say that that's a big process and maybe she's not ready to jump right back into
10:01that because there is a lot that, especially you just sold a house, now to go right back
10:06into wanting to buy a house, maybe she needs a break.
10:09Maybe going and living abroad isn't necessarily the wisest thing.
10:12You know what?
10:13He's saying that because this is what Davi did.
10:15You remember that he sold his house and then he rented for a few years?
10:17And I rented on the beach and I'm so glad that I did.
10:20I wouldn't have taken it back for anything.
10:23I'm glad I didn't rush into another house because then I wouldn't have got the ideal
10:27situation that I ended up with.
10:29But does that make you a flipper or something?
10:31Because, I mean, that's their house.
10:33Like, most people flip houses that they ain't living in.
10:35They sold it.
10:36If they buy another house, there ain't really nothing you can do.
10:39I mean, some people buy a house with the expectation to live in it for three, four,
10:43five years.
10:44And then that's what I did with my first house.
10:46I lived there for about three and a half years.
10:48I never intended to stay, like, a really long time.
10:51I made some money and kept it moving.
10:53I hate moving.
10:54Yeah, same.
10:54Man, I don't want to be flipping houses that I live in.
10:56I don't want to pay rent anymore.
10:58I mean, you could get a smaller house or even, like, a condo or something.
11:00You don't have to have a house with a lawn.
11:02But if you just made $200,000 and let's say you find something that's $2,000 a month to rent,
11:08it's not, like, an incredible burden to rent for a year while you find your next house.
11:13What's wrong with $200,000 just sitting in the bank?
11:15Everybody don't do that no more?
11:16We've been scared of Silicon Bank.
11:18But you don't have a house right now.
11:19Right.
11:19You've got to figure out your next house.
11:20You have no home.
11:21You're homeless.
11:22Yeah.
11:22You're homeless for $200,000.
11:23You're homeless for $200,000.
11:24Wait.
11:25Yeah.
11:26They're like, well, even the homeless people around here bawling.
11:29Something's wrong.
11:30I think that's something.
11:30I ain't damn.
11:31I ain't damn.
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