00:02I'm kind of confused because he met this girl, Alyssa, at Ferg's, but they have not hung out one-on-one.
00:08They just met, they were out with their friends.
00:10Right, but he kind of sounded like, you know, this was the perfect date, and this was, he was like, for sure they were going to go out again.
00:18They had talked about it, and for some reason, she is not responding to any of his text messages.
00:23Right, so he hasn't been able to set up a real date yet, so we are going to try to get her on the phone.
00:28Kevin has tracked her down. She's on hold right now. Let's bring her back on.
00:32Alyssa, are you there?
00:34Yes, I'm here.
00:35Hey, Alyssa, I appreciate you agreeing to come on with us. That's a big deal, and I know it's kind of a big ask, so thank you for that.
00:41We wanted to talk to you about Nick. I'll just tell you what we know.
00:44We know you guys met at Ferg's. You guys exchanged numbers after talking for a while.
00:48He really wants to see you again. He wants to set up a real formal date with you,
00:52but apparently you're not responding to his texts or messages or calls or whatever,
00:57and he's a little confused by that, so he was just kind of wondering what the deal is.
01:01So is there a reason you're not trying to set something up with him?
01:06I can't believe he called you guys. Okay.
01:10Okay, well, if he really wants to know.
01:12So, you know, yeah, what he said is true.
01:15We met. I thought for sure I'd go out with him,
01:19but we were, like, joking when we met, you know, how we both were on Bumble, obviously,
01:23and then when I went home that night, I was like, I wonder if I can find him, you know,
01:28because if you're in the same radius, like, at some point, you'll probably come across someone.
01:33Right.
01:33So I was, like, swiping like crazy, and I did, and I was shocked.
01:40On his profile, it says, what did it say?
01:44It said, no drama, no kids, no big girls.
01:49Oh.
01:49That is a quote.
01:51Wow.
01:52Wow.
01:52From Nick?
01:54Yeah.
01:55So that's, like, the first thing you see when you go to his profile is his name,
01:58and then no drama, no kids, no big girls?
02:01Yes.
02:01Oh, my goodness.
02:02Can you write that stuff?
02:03No.
02:04You can write anything you want on your profile, I guess.
02:06I would have never gone out with him, ever, if I saw him, like, on Bumble.
02:10So it's like, okay, I met this guy, great.
02:13Like, he seemed nice, but I feel like that, it was so telling of who he must really be.
02:19Like, it was so cocky.
02:20I mean, obviously, it didn't personally offend me, but I just thought it was so rude.
02:27I just couldn't believe what I was reading.
02:30Okay, well, the no kids thing, some people want them, and some people are very strongly
02:35about the kid thing.
02:36Yeah, maybe I do want kids.
02:38I don't know, but it's just, like, if he doesn't want kids 100% already, that's, like,
02:42a deal breaker.
02:43But is he talking about kids now, or is he talking about the future, you know?
02:47I don't know.
02:48I just think that's such a weird thing to put, like, so, like, bluntly on your profile.
02:53But honestly, the no big girls really personally bothered me the most.
02:58Not, you know, not that I put myself in that category, but I just thought it was so mean
03:04and rude and cocky and disgusting.
03:08Okay.
03:08I could see why that is not the best representation of yourself, to be putting that on your profile
03:14and the first thing people see.
03:15Totally understand that.
03:17And that would make sense why you'd be turned off.
03:19So, Alyssa, here's the deal.
03:20We have Nick on the phone with us, and I just want to ask him bluntly about this.
03:24Can you hang on one second for me, Alyssa?
03:27Yeah.
03:28Nick.
03:29Hey.
03:30Hey, so is that what your Bumble profile says?
03:33It says, no drama, no kids, no big girls?
03:37Yeah.
03:38I put that there, and that's been my bio since I created my Bumble.
03:43Do you think that's the best way to represent yourself?
03:45Listen, I know what I want, and I don't want to waste any of my time with online dating.
03:51I don't want to waste my time.
03:52I don't want to waste their time.
03:54If they've got drama, they've got kids, or if they're big, it's just not going to work.
04:00Wow.
04:00He's being honest.
04:03A lot of people don't have a lot of extra time in this world, so is he such a bad person for putting it?
04:09Yeah, he is.
04:10The funniest part is he says he wants no drama, and then he calls a radio station.
04:14Well, there's that.
04:15Yeah, let's say that part, too.
04:17How about I'm honest, and obviously I didn't return your call for a reason.
04:22I don't understand why.
04:23This doesn't even apply to you.
04:25You're not a big girl.
04:26It doesn't matter.
04:27It just shows how you think.
04:28What if one day I put on, wait, I have no idea.
04:31It's just rude, off-putting, and I promise you, almost nobody's going to want to go out with you.
04:37Yeah, it's kind of a blunt statement right out the gate, Nick.
04:39I will be honest with you, man.
04:40I mean, I just don't think that's, if you walked up to somebody and you said, yeah, what do you look for in a girl, and you said that to them,
04:47I feel like that would take everybody back a little bit, like, whoa, okay, you just bluntly said that.
04:53And so to put that on your dating profile, you kind of feel like, and especially if there's pictures, you can pick what you're into type of thing.
05:00I'm kind of confused why that would be kind of what you lead with.
05:05Look, I've had my time wasted before, and I'm just not down with it anymore.
05:11So I'm not going to let anybody, whether it's from Bumble or anywhere else, waste my time.
05:16I've got too much to do.
05:18So what?
05:18You're, like, better than everybody else?
05:20Believe me, we all have a lot to do.
05:21I mean, I think, you know, obviously in online dating, sometimes people get catfished, whether they're ugly, big girl, whatever you want to put.
05:29It's just the fact that that's how your mind thinks, and that's the first thing that you say.
05:34It's so off-putting, and, you know, I was so turned off.
05:40Like, there's no way I would change my mind.
05:42Okay, so you're definitely not interested in another date.
05:45No.
05:46Or a date at all, I guess.
05:47No, I don't think you are.
05:48All right, so now you know what's going on, Nick.
05:50Nick, you're wondering where she went.
05:52This is why she has not responded to you, and I guess that's just going to be it, man.
05:58Whatever.
05:58I mean, she's not a big girl now, but if she does end up having kids, she could get big in the future.
06:04So, good.
06:05And there's Nick.
06:06All right, Nick.
06:09Thanks for coming on, man.
06:10Thank you, Alyssa, as well.
06:12You guys have a great day.
06:14Good luck, guys.
06:15See, you're like, hey, he's just being honest and being forward, but now he got mean at the end.
06:22Right.
06:22Like, that's his real thinking.
06:25It's not just like, he's being shallow.
06:27Yeah.
06:28I mean, and I think all of us would love no drama in our lives, but it's not like we go looking for it.
06:33It comes to us.
06:34I mean, I'm the perfect example of that, obviously.
06:37Yeah, we have a segment about it.
06:38But I'm just saying, I mean, we all want no drama, but that's impossible.
06:42Yeah.
06:43I think it was the last thing of No Big Girls is what really bothered her big time.
