The Silent Relationship Killer No One Talks About

cupandinspiration

What if the real threat to your relationship isn’t cheating… but silence? When conflict ends with defensiveness and avoidance instead of repair, love slowly dies. Discover the mindset shift that can save your connection and deepen trust.  🔔 Subscribe for more relationship and self-growth insights.  #relationships #relationshipadvice #healing #emotionalintelligence #conflictresolution #avoidance #selfgrowth #healthyrelationships #relationshiphelp  ©️ All rights and credit reserved to the respective owner(s).

Transcript

00:00One of the most pernicious emotional responses in relationship is the defensiveness to avoidance

00:06and a lack of repair pathway. What I mean is if you get into a conflict and you go defensive and

00:13then you eject and you become avoidant for a period of time and then you don't come back

00:18and resolve the conflict, you just kind of ride it out and never address it again, that's abusive.

00:25We are going to have conflicts in relationship. We have to learn how to resolve them.

00:30The avoidance and denial pathway is the worst habit that a person can have. I'm not talking

00:38about this. We're not going to address this. I'm moving on. That speaks to a lack of capacity,

00:44humility, and the ability to actually say, let's look at this. What happened? What can we do better

00:48with? And I get it. Most of these men and women that do this have shame. But learning how to work

00:59with shame in such a way where you don't have to respond to it, you can just go, man,

01:02I feel ashamed that we did this again, but let's try. Let's try to fix this. That's the path.

01:07The humility, the willingness,

01:10the recognition that if we don't change it, we're just going to ruin another relationship.

01:17The number of relationships that are destroyed by avoidance. And yeah, anxiousness has its place

01:22too, but I'm talking specifically about the defensiveness, avoidance, and denial.

01:29The lack of resolve. That's a pernicious pathway in relationship.

Category

Transcript

Recommended