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00:00Heading to the retreat are married couple hairdresser Tanya and window cleaner Ashley from Leeds.
00:16I hope people come and talk to us and we're not just kind of left in a corner.
00:22Yeah me too.
00:23When we first met each other it was just literally in the street outside.
00:29He had a puppy you know I'm an animal lover and I'm like wow perfect package puppy and a man.
00:34And since that day we just knew that we were meant to be together and then I moved in a couple of days later.
00:41And then found out puppy was never his. He tricked me. So luckily he's got his good looks and charisma otherwise yeah.
00:53So within 18 months we'd met each other, moved in, got married, had a child.
00:58Done all those things really fast.
01:01But a whirlwind romance of marriage and children wasn't enough for Tanya. She wanted more.
01:08Tanya brought up the idea of having an open relationship and letting other women join us.
01:13Which was a bit of a shock at first. I didn't know if it was like a trap to see what I would say but it wasn't a trap.
01:20Tanya and Ashley have been having sex with other people for five years.
01:26I think everyone always presumes that it's the male that wants to push it on the partner but no.
01:30It was all me. Much to the shock of my mum.
01:32She was like oh I bet it was Ash. I was like no. It was all me.
01:35All their sexual experiences with other people have been governed by one strict rule.
01:44We do everything together. We're always together. We've only ever played in the same room together.
01:48But now they're coming to the retreat to push their boundaries even further.
02:00So we're coming in to venture off our own separate ways to have sex separately from each other.
02:06I'm hoping it will only strengthen further the bond that we already have.
02:11I'm hoping it goes that way.
02:14I'm more nervous with this than I've ever been with starting it from the beginning.
02:19Because we're both used to relying on each other.
02:22Playing separately is a huge risk because it could go wrong.
02:26And what if I do this and then Ash becomes jealous or he decides it's not for him.
02:35Ooh cute dress.
02:37Hey mate. You okay?
02:39Hi guys. Nice to meet you.
02:41Hi.
02:44Are you feeling okay?
02:45Good.
02:46Hi.
02:47Hello.
02:49Tanya definitely seems maybe a little bit more confident.
02:51There's definitely potential to play.
02:54I do like a blonde.
02:55What's your name?
02:56Ash.
02:57Ash.
02:58Nice to meet you.
02:59Hi Tanya.
03:00Tanya.
03:01Nice to meet you.
03:02Welcome.
03:03I think I said it's more nerves from him than her.
03:05He looks quite innocent.
03:06She looks quite feisty.
03:08Hi.
03:09Hi.
03:10Nice to meet you.
03:11Hi.
03:12My first impression was more her come to my eyes and she looks chic.
03:18But yeah.
03:19Maybe I will discover something nice with him too.
03:22I think I'm the more anxious one in social situations.
03:25Whereas Tanya is a bit more relaxed.
03:27Emily.
03:28Emily.
03:29What's your name?
03:30Ash.
03:31Sorry.
03:32Ash.
03:33The guy.
03:34I know he's nervous obviously.
03:35That's a given.
03:36Just wasn't really giving me the energy.
03:40All of the residents are gorgeous.
03:43The women are all beautiful.
03:44The guys obviously all look after themselves.
03:46So yeah.
03:47Bit nervous now that we've actually met him.
03:50Yeah.
03:51My heart's resting a little bit.
03:53The decor is beautiful.
03:55Wow.
03:56To help the couple navigate their desire to have separate sexual experiences.
04:01Hi.
04:02I'm Effie.
04:03Come in.
04:04Non-monogamy coach Effie Blue.
04:05Make yourself comfortable in this sofa.
04:07Will offer her insight.
04:13I'd love to start with what brings you here today.
04:16So we're already in the lifestyle.
04:18But we would like to open it up a bit further and play separately.
04:22So we're not in the same room as each other.
04:24So going off completely separate.
04:26Okay.
04:27Okay.
04:28And whose idea was it to explore this world?
04:31I think it was Tanya's.
04:33No.
04:34Okay.
04:35Okay.
04:36So tell me about this desire to separate.
04:37It's major.
04:38We've been talking about this for well over a year.
04:39So it's been like a long time that we've sort of discussed and been like,
04:42Oh, what about this?
04:43Going for all scenarios and discussing it, but never actually.
04:47Mm-hmm.
04:48We're just not sure about how to do it properly without upsetting the other person.
04:53Okay.
04:54And I'm worried that she would meet with somebody and then he's disrespectful or...
04:56Okay.
04:57So you don't have to do it.
04:58There's nothing I can do to stop it.
05:00So why is it such a big deal for you to actually separate?
05:04We do spend a lot of time together.
05:07Ash is very, very affectionate.
05:10He's quite a clingy person.
05:12He does need to be touched, stroked and needs to be sat next to me all the time.
05:17When I'm at work, I have my earphones in and we just speak all the time.
05:21So even when we're not together, we're still pretty much on the phone together to sort of be around each other even when we're not.
05:26I do have a job, you know.
05:27I do have to work too.
05:28I have to remind him because he just wants to talk to me all the time.
05:31The thought of doing something else is quite a big thrill as well.
05:34There's like that element of excitement.
05:36Yeah, we really want to give it a go.
05:38Okay.
05:39Okay.
05:40What about if you get rejected?
05:42I hope that don't happen.
05:44Tell me about that.
05:45I would never get rejected when I go out because it's Tani that does the talking.
05:48I like a shield.
05:49A beautiful shield.
05:50Okay.
05:51I say you go over and I'll be over in five minutes.
05:53So this is going to be a first for you?
05:55Yeah.
05:56I just don't know how to say to somebody, do you want to go?
06:01Okay.
06:02Yeah.
06:03Okay.
06:04I feel like there's a big challenge here, right?
06:07So it's beyond just the separating and doing your own thing.
06:10But there's a lot of relational dynamics that you're kind of stirring up.
06:14Yeah.
06:15Right?
06:16Like Ash, there's a protective aspect of you over Tania.
06:19And you've never actually connected anybody like first off for yourself.
06:25No.
06:26I really want Ash to go and talk to people and kind of overcome that confidence barrier.
06:31The whole experience here is to challenge you, right?
06:34There's a party tonight.
06:37So separate.
06:39Socialize.
06:40And see if you can connect with somebody.
06:43Right?
06:44Experience what you want to experience.
06:46Then get back together at the end of the evening and debrief and see what it feels like.
06:51Go out there.
06:52Have a great time.
06:54Take care.
06:59Yes.
07:00Oh my God.
07:01Oh my God.
07:02Look how pretty it is.
07:03Noah.
07:04He's got the bath that you like.
07:06Oh, wow.
07:08I think if I do pull someone and he doesn't, I think I will feel really guilty.
07:13I don't know where you're sleeping.
07:15This is mine.
07:16Are you sleeping in the bathroom then?
07:19I think it's going to be a bit hard just letting her do her own thing, but I hope that
07:23tonight that I won't be thinking, oh, I wonder if she's with someone I don't like.
07:26I do put you in some situations, I don't know.
07:36Hello.
07:37Welcome.
07:38Already staying at the retreat.
07:39Come in.
07:40Our married couple, Charmaine and Jamie.
07:42Neither of us have been with, like, lots of previous sexual partners, so we want to explore
07:48that together.
07:49I feel like the social aspect of it will be the biggest barrier.
07:53I'm a bit worried because I feel like my self-confidence can sort of hold Charmaine back.
08:01Hi.
08:02How are you feeling?
08:05I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed.
08:07This whole experience is obviously completely alien to us.
08:10It's just a bit much for me.
08:12Like, I just don't want to go back in.
08:14I just wish they weren't so nervous.
08:16Yeah.
08:18I'm glad you feel a little more of this now.
08:20Yeah.
08:21I was wondering if you'd like to spend a bit more time in the hot tub.
08:23I definitely would, yeah.
08:24Would you?
08:25I'd like to spend a bit more time.
08:30Thanks.
08:33Ready?
08:34Yeah.
08:35After nearly walking out of this evening's social, Charmaine and Jamie are hoping that
08:40a date in the hot tub with Jen and Mark will be more successful.
08:45The idea of opening up, it just seemed like the right sort of thing for us, but my main
08:50concern is that will we enjoy the reality of it, or is it something that should have stayed a fantasy?
08:56I'm curious about having sex with other people, but I have worries that I hope it might affect me in trauma.
09:08Woo!
09:09It's a bit of a dip.
09:10I felt like I was like...
09:11It is.
09:12...sink in the second.
09:13So I was a little surprised when they asked us to go hang in the hot tub with them.
09:18The way we're going to approach this is we should be affectionate with each other and show them that it is okay,
09:25and see if that helps them relax a little more, see if it gets them in the mood.
09:31Oh, how are you doing?
09:34You look cosy there.
09:35I know, yeah.
09:36He looks moulded into it, don't he?
09:37He looks moulded into it.
09:38Right.
09:39Cheers, guys.
09:40Yeah, cheers.
09:41Cheers.
09:42Right, I'm going to give you a question now.
09:44I'm going to give you some spicy questions, see how you handle it.
09:47Let's spice it up.
09:49What's your wildest fantasies?
09:52You can take loads of these.
09:54Next one's yours, then.
09:56I like to be dominated.
09:58Oh, yes.
09:59A bit of power play.
10:00I think that's probably because I'm so bossy outside of the bedroom.
10:04Yeah, yeah.
10:05So it's kind of nice to sort of let that go a little bit in the bedroom.
10:09Sorry, I was playing footsie with your friends.
10:14I'm not really sure how it's going.
10:16We're just trying to gauge where they're at.
10:18Yeah.
10:19What are you feeling this evening, then?
10:21Do we want to...
10:23Are we happy how things are, chatting?
10:25Do we want to...
10:30I know that's a really hard question.
10:32It's a hard question.
10:33It is hard.
10:34Yeah, I don't know.
10:35Sorry.
10:38I'm feeling anxious.
10:39Slightly vulnerable.
10:40But I tend to sort of, like, hide behind Charmaine.
10:43How are your feelings for what's mine?
10:46Yeah.
10:47Be the boss.
10:49Yeah, I know.
10:50No pressure.
10:54I think, deep down, the worry is there that, obviously, doing this is a big step.
10:58Like, I don't feel like your relationship is ever going to be the same once you've opened up.
11:03Yeah, I don't know.
11:04I don't know how I'm feeling.
11:05I think I'm just very overwhelmed from the whole day.
11:07Yeah.
11:08Yeah, yeah, yeah.
11:10We couldn't work out whether they wanted to take it further or not.
11:13We certainly would have.
11:16Well, listen, we're around tomorrow.
11:18We're available.
11:19Yeah.
11:20OK.
11:23See you later.
11:26See ya.
11:27Bye.
11:31I feel like the longer we leave it, the more difficult it is to sort of, you know, take that leap.
11:37It's something that we want.
11:39But I think it took me by surprise this evening, like, how I sort of reacted.
11:45That definitely held us bad.
11:48We are the worst flares ever.
11:55Jamie.
11:56Yeah?
11:57If you don't give a flying fuck, goodness me.
12:12That's fine.
12:14I think that's what I find so intimidating.
12:18Like, everybody's so sure of themselves and we're just, like, floating around.
12:23Yeah.
12:24Charmaine is hoping that opening up her relationship with Jamie will spice up their sex life.
12:32I'd love to get to a point where we can be that free.
12:35Is that the goal for you?
12:36Yeah.
12:37But first they have to get over the confidence barrier.
12:40Both Char and Jamie are definitely introverts.
12:45I think that makes it harder.
12:46What?
12:47Opening up?
12:48Yeah.
12:49Like, in our situation, you're definitely an introvert.
12:50But I'm an extrovert so that I help.
12:51Do you know what I mean?
12:52Yeah.
12:53If they don't have that.
12:54If it was two me's, nothing would ever happen.
12:55We were technically still dating when we decided to try our first swinger club or sex party.
13:14We had our first experience on a Friday night, which was a threesome.
13:17The following day, we had a married person orgy.
13:19And I think from there, we kind of realised that we really enjoy an orgy.
13:25Lots of people at the same time.
13:27I would have liked to have kissed them both.
13:29Would you?
13:30Yeah.
13:34Before Charmaine and Jamie attempt to mingle with the residents again,
13:38they check in with Effie for some advice.
13:41Sit down, get comfy.
13:44How did it go?
13:46I struggled interacting with people.
13:49Yeah.
13:50Which I didn't think I would struggle as much.
13:51But maybe I obviously rely on Jamie a lot more than I thought.
13:54You're able to maybe speak and connect more because you're doing for him a lot of the time.
13:59Yeah.
14:00And when you had to do it for yourself, it was a little bit more difficult.
14:03Yeah.
14:04Yeah, I think so.
14:05I think I'm worrying about, like, what the end goal will be.
14:07So, like, how I'm going to take it from just a conversation to that step further.
14:13Okay.
14:14Sliding from, like, social into sensual and potentially to sexual?
14:17Yeah.
14:18Is that what...
14:19Okay.
14:20I think that's what it is for both of us, to be honest.
14:22You decided on a couple that you're both connected with.
14:25Like, did you want to kiss them?
14:26Yeah.
14:27I can say confidently that, yeah, I did.
14:28What would it take for you to kiss them last night?
14:32For me to know that neither one of us are doing something that we're not sure about.
14:38Mm-hmm.
14:39Whether Charmaine's comfortable with this, that holds me back.
14:44Okay.
14:45And for you as well?
14:46Yeah, I think we're definitely in our heads a little bit with that.
14:50Mm-hmm.
14:51Okay.
14:52Okay.
14:53So, first of all, this is very normal.
14:57You don't know because you haven't done it before.
14:59Yeah.
15:00So, until you take those steps, you're just not going to know how the other person feels,
15:03because the other person doesn't know how they feel.
15:06Yeah.
15:07Does that make sense?
15:08That makes a lot of sense.
15:09I want to move you guys from the social to the sensual to the sexual, if it makes sense.
15:17Yeah.
15:18Right?
15:19I want to start with the social.
15:20Hanging out by the swimming pool.
15:21Water's always fun.
15:23Connect with some couples.
15:25And then from that, you can, can I kiss you?
15:28Does this feel good?
15:29I feel like it'll be challenging, but will you ever move forward if you don't challenge yourself?
15:33Exactly.
15:34Obviously.
15:35All we can do is try.
15:36Got steps to move forward with now.
15:37Have fun.
15:39You're welcome.
15:42Yeah.
15:47You've got to stop worrying about how I'm feeling, because I will make it known if I'm
15:51not feeling a certain way.
15:53I feel like everything is put on me.
15:56Everything's, I'll do what Sha wants.
15:59I'll do what Sha wants.
16:00It's sort of my day for, isn't it?
16:02It's like blending.
16:03It's going to be years of self conditioning that I'm going to have to break through.
16:08Yeah.
16:09Yeah, no, I think so.
16:18Down on the terrace, the residents are kicking off a masquerade ball.
16:23In anticipation of the new arrivals.
16:25Ooh la la.
16:26Married couple Tanya and Ashley from Leeds.
16:29Are you completely done?
16:31I've got 15 minutes to finish getting ready.
16:32Do my hair and finish my make-up.
16:33You need to calm down.
16:34Something about two minutes to get ready?
16:35Absolutely.
16:36How's it going?
16:37Not really good.
16:38Are you scared now?
16:39No, I just wish that I would have had like an extra 20 minutes to get ready.
16:53The couple are no strangers to non-monogamy, but tonight they're going to do something very
17:02different.
17:03I'm scared.
17:04You're scared?
17:05Yeah.
17:06They will attempt to have separate sexual experiences, choosing their own partners without the
17:12other's approval.
17:13Trying something totally separate is overracking because we can't see what a silver person doing
17:18when the other person's not there.
17:20And I'm not there to make sure she's okay.
17:23Yes.
17:24Ready as I'm going to be.
17:28I'm really excited to meet the other residents, see whether we click, who we vibe with.
17:33Yeah, I absolutely can't wait.
17:39So obviously there's always a worry about rejection, but I'm hoping that that doesn't
17:43actually happen.
17:44Tanya finds someone, she sort of goes off and I just sit in the room clock watching,
17:48waiting to come back.
17:49It'll be pretty horrible.
17:53And with the pep talk out of the way, Tanya and Ashley are flying solo for the first
18:22time.
18:23Shall we grab a seat?
18:24Sure.
18:25But Tanya's not alone for long.
18:27What would be your one thing that you would do?
18:31Maybe two.
18:32Yeah, just to make sure that there's a good amount of foreplay and a good amount of e-put
18:37before you kind of have sex.
18:38So for me I'd really like to be able to see someone's face, hear their breathing, kind
18:41of see if I'm doing something right and then vice versa if they're playing with me.
18:45Yeah.
18:46Sounds like we like similar things.
18:47On the terrace, quick to spot Ashley's nerves, Rochelle comes to the rescue.
19:04I like your little dimples.
19:05Very cute.
19:06I've only got one.
19:07Yeah, I know, I noticed.
19:08Yeah, the one's hidden.
19:09What do you do for a living?
19:10A window cleaner.
19:11Oh yeah, vision technician, I like that.
19:14I think I'm the funniest person in the world and sometimes I'm not.
19:17Yeah.
19:20He seemed a little bit shy but I think once he's done a little bit more he'll probably
19:23be a bit more confident.
19:24I bet you see all sorts.
19:25You see all sorts.
19:26I don't use the ladders, they've got like a pole system.
19:28Oh yeah, of course.
19:29But still.
19:34I'm hoping Ash has a good evening.
19:36Hopefully whoever he's picked just pulls him out of his shell a little bit.
19:40Windy.
19:45Okay.
19:46Never have I ever had sex in a public place.
19:53That's what I mean.
19:55Maybe I had sex in a public place.
19:57Yeah, like a lot of times we ended up with like a police marker on the car.
20:00We got caught.
20:03So he taps on the window and I wound it down and he's like, you alright?
20:06I'm like, yeah.
20:07And then I realised it was police and they're like,
20:09are you having a good time?
20:10I went, well I was.
20:11So.
20:13Like you need to leave.
20:14I'm like, oh okay.
20:15Everyone's really, really welcoming and really, really friendly.
20:18It's hot.
20:21How do I choose?
20:25What do you do?
20:26For fun.
20:27What do I do?
20:28For work.
20:29I'm a yoga teacher and I'm vegan as well.
20:30Classic.
20:31Oh really?
20:32I was vegan for about.
20:33Oh really?
20:34Nine months, yeah.
20:35Oh wow, okay.
20:36It didn't really work out for me.
20:37At least you tried it.
20:38Shall I let you go and you can like mingle with my lady?
20:41Yeah, sorry, yeah.
20:43Because I've never really done this before on my own, it's been very much more of a struggle.
20:47How are you?
20:48I'm good, a bit nervous.
20:51I'm Olivia, it's lovely to meet you.
20:53Is Tanya like your comfort blanket?
20:54Yep.
20:55Yeah.
20:56My husband too, he's in there and I'm like, where is he?
20:59I've been more nervous about coming out and just talking to people on my own.
21:03It's a social aspect isn't it?
21:05Yeah.
21:06Ash is so quiet and reserved and not confident about himself.
21:09I definitely feel like there's some nervousness around there like the first time that they're separating.
21:15I'd rather have sex with someone than have to talk to them.
21:18Is that not fair?
21:20The whole night has been like, yeah, really nerve-wracking.
21:23It just feels awkward.
21:25What are you most nervous about?
21:27Erm...
21:29Possibly that Ash doesn't interact with everyone and doesn't end up asking someone.
21:34I don't think he'll be out there on his own in a corner, will he?
21:36Surely not.
21:50I don't think these trousers are going to go.
21:52But I will.
21:53Charmaine and Jamie are getting ready for their afternoon social at the pool.
21:57I just don't feel comfortable in this.
21:59I'm kind of running out of options at this point.
22:07Ultimate support if you're uncomfortable in.
22:09I'm not uncomfortable in anything.
22:10I'm not comfortable going down there.
22:12This is the issue.
22:17I'm just not confident in my body at the minute.
22:20And that's really a barrier for me.
22:23I get that.
22:24I really, like, I can't tell you.
22:26I don't want to go in the pool.
22:27I don't want to go in the pool.
22:28I don't want to be in school.
22:34I feel like Charmaine might be questioning what we're doing.
22:38Erm...
22:39Why we're here.
22:45Despite her wobble, Charmaine has decided to persevere with opening up their relationship.
22:53I think anybody that knows us would never imagine that we would do anything like this.
22:58Hey guys!
23:01Sit, take a seat, take a seat.
23:02How are you feeling about Jen and Mark today?
23:04I think Jen and Mark are a lovely couple.
23:06It would be nice to get to know them a bit more.
23:08My only fear is that we've sort of friend-zoned them because, you know, we didn't take that next step.
23:15So, obviously, it would be nice to see how they feel and what they want to do as well.
23:20How's your morning been? What have you been up to?
23:22It's been very up and down, I'm going to be honest, hasn't it?
23:24A bit?
23:25Oh, OK.
23:26We're both a bit emotional today.
23:27We've struggled a lot with the social aspect of it more than anything.
23:31Yeah.
23:32Yeah, yeah.
23:33I sort of try and blend in and sort of hide in the corner.
23:36Probably, probably not giving the right sippy or something like that.
23:40I think, actually, your quietness and your sort of shine is actually really endearing.
23:45No, thank you.
23:46I know it is quite hard, like, trying to step things forward.
23:50What do you feel about, like, playing games and stuff like that?
23:52Yeah, no, I'm not opposed to it.
23:54I'll bring us what we need.
23:55Yeah? Give us a good spin.
23:57Hey!
23:58Jamie?
23:59I think you should snog Lily, my fiancée.
24:05It was my idea to open up our relationship and Jamie was sort of very apprehensive but very quickly.
24:14Curiosity took over.
24:17Is that all right?
24:18Yeah, I'm OK.
24:19Yeah.
24:20I need to see this.
24:21I need a good view, guys.
24:35Yay!
24:37That was a good one, guys.
24:39I think that was the sort of icebreaker that we needed to sort of throw us in a little bit.
24:43throw us in a little bit more.
24:45Me and Shabalai.
24:46With Jamie taking the first step, the residents are keen to turn up the heat.
24:51Does anyone want to get in the pool?
24:52I'm ready to go.
24:53Let's get in.
24:54It's actually lovely and warm.
24:55Woo!
24:56I'm starting to feel a bit more confident and sure of myself.
25:05I feel good.
25:07I feel good.
25:08Right, beach ball, keep your happy game.
25:13You snogged the last person that touched it before you.
25:16Ah!
25:17That's one of you two.
25:18Oh, man.
25:19Sicky, sicky, sicky.
25:20Oh, you're all right.
25:21Seeing Shabalai with another man, it's quite uncomfortable for me.
25:23But I do want us to share the same experiences.
25:36Just got rid of the roads and now it looks sideways.
25:37Incoming!
25:38Oh!
25:39Oh!
25:40Maybe I did it on purpose.
25:41Why is it sexy when you're in the pool?
25:43Kissing everyone was good.
25:44It was good to sort of come away from that feeling good about myself.
25:57Jamie and Charmaine's hissing game is...
26:00Yeah, she was a great kisser.
26:02I think at the end we had a little circle where it was kiss somebody that you hadn't kissed.
26:12I think that went better than I expected.
26:15I think Jamie and Charmaine really opened up a little more.
26:20Yeah.
26:21They really came out of the shell a bit more today, didn't they?
26:23They're both really good kissers.
26:24Yeah.
26:25I mean, I didn't kiss Jamie but...
26:26Oh.
26:27She...
26:28She has beautiful lips.
26:29Charmaine's a great kisser, yeah.
26:31Three way!
26:33Yeah, baby.
26:34We had a great time in the pool.
26:36I'm proud that we managed to get past the many blips that we have had so far in the retreat.
26:42Yeah.
26:43We thought we finally broke that barrier of our touching.
26:46It was a really positive experience for us.
26:48Yeah.
26:49The couple have agreed to meet Jen and Mark in a more intimate setting later this evening,
26:55as they look to build on their experience in the pool.
26:58We were both interested in a date.
27:00It was good to get a bit back and I think that's what we needed from them, really.
27:04Yeah.
27:05Last night I made sure I reserved some of my energy back.
27:08Yeah.
27:09We could maybe relax a little bit and just be ourselves a little more because, yeah,
27:12they've kind of softened now, aren't they?
27:22At the Masquerade Social, Tanya is going down well with the residents.
27:27Yeah.
27:28What would be the ideal scenario?
27:30Probably, like, everyone.
27:31I'll just sit in the middle.
27:32So we're naughty then!
27:36But Gage is keen to secure top spot.
27:39Hi!
27:40Hey!
27:41I bet he's been an absolute whirlwind from walking down when we first saw you.
27:45Yeah.
27:46And he's not the only one.
27:48Can I just try something?
27:49What would you like?
27:50I'm a lucky little moan.
27:51Now you know how to give a French kiss.
27:52Yeah!
27:53That's my first French kiss!
27:54Awesome!
27:55Yeah, I know.
27:56Yeah.
27:57Do you feel confident that you kind of got your eye on somebody or...?
28:01There's a few...
28:02I've narrowed it down to, like, six.
28:03Six.
28:04Six.
28:05Do you feel confident that you can just go in and go, I'm ready for this, or do you
28:24need someone that's, like, done it before?
28:27I don't want someone who's not done this before.
28:32Yeah.
28:33Some guidance.
28:34I feel like you're going to like my comfort blanket now.
28:37You got it.
28:38You got it.
28:39Is this you asking me back, is it?
28:41Potentially.
28:42Yeah, I'm interested.
28:43I'm definitely interested.
28:44Yeah, I'm definitely interested.
28:45You're not going to reject me.
28:46I'm not going to reject you, no.
28:47Because if you do, honestly, I'll hunt you down.
28:48No, no, no.
28:53No, but I am interested, yeah.
28:55Okay.
28:57When you make that initial attraction with somebody, you can make the eye contact and you get the vibe,
29:02and I feel like we've both definitely had that.
29:03All right.
29:04Oh, wow.
29:05Guys, do you know how good she's looked when he's kissed?
29:07Yeah, I was like, okay.
29:08I think it was a good kiss as well, so.
29:10I feel like I'm having the most successful night out of me and Ash, but I've not spoke to him.
29:11You down for it?
29:12Yeah.
29:13Yeah, me too.
29:14There we go.
29:15I don't want these to go great.
29:16Just colour it.
29:17I don't want these to go great.
29:18Just colour it.
29:19No, no, no.
29:20You colour it?
29:21No.
29:22No.
29:23Hi.
29:24Hello.
29:25Hi.
29:26Hello.
29:27Nice to meet you.
29:28Am I okay to borrow time?
29:29No, absolutely.
29:30Yeah, yeah.
29:31Yes, I'll see you soon.
29:32Any good time?
29:33Yeah.
29:34I was so nervous when I first came in.
29:35Not as bad as me.
29:36Now I feel okay.
29:37I think I spoke to everything I'm here now, but, yeah, it was pretty hard, but.
29:39You clicked with anyone?
29:40No.
29:41I really struggled to narrow it down.
29:42I've narrowed it down now.
29:43Who?
29:44Gage.
29:45We clicked.
29:46We clicked.
29:47We clicked.
29:48No, no, no.
29:49No, no, no.
29:50No, no.
29:51No.
29:52No.
29:53No, no.
29:54No.
29:55No, no, no.
29:56No, no, no.
29:57No, no, no.
29:58No, no.
29:59No, no, no.
30:00No, no, no.
30:01No, no.
30:02No, no, no.
30:03No, no, no.
30:04No, no, no.
30:05We're all together so well.
30:06Okay.
30:07How do you feel?
30:08I feel a bit more nervous now knowing that you're going to be going off without me there.
30:14Bit scared.
30:15Not going to see you pretty much after this conversation.
30:19I felt just like a bit more thrown off that Tanya's gone and asked somebody first.
30:24Would you ask anybody?
30:25Have you had that discussion?
30:26No, no.
30:27No?
30:28No.
30:29I believe that having found out that I have actually, yes, I've clicked and I've chosen
30:33one.
30:34I think that was maybe like a kick up the bum like, oh, I've actually got to ask a woman
30:38now.
30:39You need to do this by yourself.
30:41Right.
30:42A little part of me is thinking, you know, if Tanya enjoys this, that might be what she
30:47wants to do more and more often.
30:48But it might not be my thing.
30:50So that might throw our relationship a bit.
30:52Do you think?
30:53Do you think?
30:54Yeah, it's just a bit, a bit scary what might happen next.
31:00If we're going to put heels on, I should, shouldn't I?
31:07This evening, Charmaine and Jamie have invited Jen and Mark for a second date.
31:13You have to get on the floor.
31:15No.
31:16But after a few hurdles, will the couple embrace the full opening up experience?
31:21I feel like we've already broken past quite a few mental barriers now and hopefully this
31:26evening we can break past a few more.
31:28Ready?
31:29I feel excited about this evening, so I think it's a good, good way to sort of experiment
31:40going a little bit further.
31:41Perhaps, maybe.
31:42I'll have the margarita.
31:44Margarita?
31:45Yeah.
31:46So don't need to complain.
31:47You've got to re-rim the glass.
31:50Don't spill it.
31:52You're welcome.
31:53To help Charmaine and Jamie have progressed, we're going to be
31:58social to sexual.
32:00The couple start up a game of truth or dare.
32:03Who wants to roll first?
32:05I quite like it, yeah.
32:06Truth.
32:07Go on.
32:08Was you always okay, introducing another guy?
32:11We only kind of got into this because I was interested in seeing Jen with another guy.
32:16It was never the other way around.
32:18Jamie, you're not necessarily turned on by the idea of me with another man.
32:23I don't like the idea of you enjoying yourself.
32:25Yeah.
32:26Yeah, that's what I'm like.
32:27I'm still like that now.
32:29But also, like, how many times are you going to be watching?
32:33Not that you're going to be busy.
32:35Yeah, you're going to be busy as well.
32:37Well, I mean, that's to start with, eventually.
32:40I'd like to give Charmaine that fantasy of introducing other guys.
32:43You choose.
32:44You choose.
32:45Are you picking your own dare?
32:46Lick a neck.
32:47Lick a neck.
32:48Lick a neck.
32:49Lick a neck.
32:50Lick a neck.
32:51Lick a neck.
32:52Lick a neck.
32:53Lick a neck.
32:54Lick a neck.
32:55Feel the bullful like Nicky.
32:56Oh!
32:57Goosebumps.
32:58Ooh.
32:59Okay.
33:00Guys.
33:01I've been so horny all day.
33:03This is killing me.
33:04Oh.
33:05Okay.
33:06Guys.
33:07I've been so horny all day.
33:08This is killing me.
33:14You choose.
33:15Okay, let's go dare.
33:17Okay.
33:18Kiss.
33:19Kiss what?
33:20Char, I guess.
33:21Not me.
33:22sure might look like she was enjoying herself um best to go if she's enjoying herself then i'm okay
33:39of it it's nice with the game nearing its end there is one final question
33:53putting charmaine and jamie on the spot once and for all
34:00say what you want for tonight oh that's a difficult that is tough guys that is tough
34:06that is tough we can shut our eyes if you want no pressure no pressure do you know what though we
34:10came into this evening with like no real expectations we've said that all along haven't
34:14we we just wanted to see how obviously things went that's a really boring answer but yeah
34:20what about you again no expectations i mean i'm liking the vibe and yeah yeah just
34:28but what not talking expectations what do you want to happen
34:36do you want to take a minute to check your movie trouble yes take a minute again faced with the
34:44ultimate question can the pair take the leap and have sex with another couple obviously i really like
34:52jen and mark i will be somewhat disappointed if we don't but
34:57let's all
35:20charmaine and jamie are considering whether or
35:23not to open up their relationship with jen and mark
35:29how do you feel i will not get into it one that you don't feel confident
35:38i'll be a problem
35:39are you okay yeah no we've had a discussion
35:49and obviously we both think that you are we're both attracted to both of you basically
35:57i feel like it's my own confidence still holding me back okay yeah yeah oh okay oh babes you're
36:04gorgeous thank you i just wanted to make sure it was on the table if you wanted it yeah no because
36:09i know that's it's helpful to know isn't it so yes it is a lot you should go to the room
36:20see you later see you guys see you later bye
36:23i don't know what's going on in jamie and char's head they seem to want to take that next step just
36:33something's holding them back and i it's hard to say what it is i don't think they're ready to open
36:40their relationship no not right now i i'd like them to be but they're not i don't think
36:56i really can't do this
37:04i think this whole experience has been an emotional roller coaster
37:11however i'm glad that we've done it because i think we've got a lot to take away from the retreat
37:33tanya has left tonight's social with her date for the evening
37:37leaving husband ashley to find his own partner for the night
37:41i'm more nervous now without having tanya there to sort of help me out
37:47and whilst gage tends to tanya's needs
37:50his wife olivia is also left alone on the terrace
37:53you're all right yeah i'm good how are you i'm good it's got all really quiet
38:01this prosecco's nice yeah you on the prosecco or the no secco
38:05no it's the no secco which one are you on the yard yours i've had mine yeah
38:09okay yeah i wonder if you wanted to go spend a bit more time together
38:17yeah i would like to get to know you more that's good to hear yeah yeah
38:21do you want to sit down yeah sit down yeah oh god i lost my shoe
38:26what do you do for work i'm a cabbie crew oh really like fly around fly around oh my god
38:31my worst nightmare why is it your worst nightmare like really bad taking my shoes off yeah take
38:38your shoes off let's get let's get comfortable meanwhile in the bedroom tanya's all for reaching
38:44new heights this is like immense so i'm gonna go and i'm gonna sleep with someone and ash is not
38:50gonna be there now i'm gonna do this on my own it's crazy that's better yeah i'm hoping that
39:05everything goes okay with ash and that this doesn't cause any issues in our relationship
39:14what do you want to do now then do you want to have chats do you want to do you want to have fun
39:22we can go to the earth if the earth's available let's go
39:29olivia's really outgoing and confident whereas i'm a bit more reserved and shy so i don't know see how it
39:36goes oh it's nice oh it looks so big
39:49you all good yep it's our very first time being separate from each of us so i'm trying to put out
39:55my mind what tanya's doing right now
40:07ash was still on my mind but i was still able to kind of switch off and stay in the moment
40:37having sex with somebody else without my partner being there was intense but it was exciting as
40:49well
40:56do you have pineapple pizza no no pineapple pizza do you have pineapple on your pizza pineapple and jalapeno
41:03yeah like the two opposites what's the best pizza pineapple jalapeno try it i don't like jalapenos it's
41:12too spicy for me then the pineapple fixes it okay next time i'll i'll try it just try it
41:28it went really really well i would say tonight it was like losing virginity because it was so much so
41:43new something so different um the complete unknown are you good hey i'm great well i'm great yeah
41:50i think still in the back of mind i'm like oh my gosh it's doing under is okay yeah
42:00but if i get back it's like how did it go like amazing he goes oh change my mind i came back
42:08right shall we get this awkwardness out of the way because this is making me cringey
42:14definitely think tanya was going to be in my head if it goes wrong it might put us off forever
42:19these buttons are really good look at the tiniest buttons ever but i have to try concentrate on
42:24myself just take it off
42:27have a bit of a bit of a bit of a bit of a lot
42:48Thank you. I'll see you later.
42:50Good time. Good letter.
42:53See you all.
42:53See you soon. Bye-bye.
42:55I feel pretty good, but my instant thought is,
42:57I want to find Ash. I want to find him. I want to speak to him.
43:03Playing solo, it's still very, very hard to kind of switch off
43:07from thinking about your partner and what's your partner doing.
43:09Are they OK?
43:24There's always a possibility that maybe he is having a better time,
43:27maybe he's enjoying it more with somebody else than what he is with me.
43:30Maybe he's going completely wild because I'm not there.
43:37Are you happy now?
43:44Yeah.
43:44Do you enjoy yourself?
43:46Yeah.
43:46How's the nerves now?
43:49It's felt good.
43:50Yeah, it's felt good.
43:51I felt like I'm going to feel like I'm doing something wrong,
43:53but yeah, I'm not.
43:56Being solo has been really fun, exciting, something totally new.
44:00It was just as exciting as I imagined it would be.
44:03I know if Ash was to not come back to me,
44:11that would be crossing a hard boundary.
44:13That's crossing over from sex to, like, lovey-dovey.
44:16Hello.
44:32All right?
44:33Did you have a good time then?
44:34Yeah.
44:35Did you have a good time?
44:36Yeah, I did.
44:37Oh, you're scared?
44:38At first, yeah.
44:39And then it felt, like, really natural, normal.
44:44When Ash came back with a big smile on his face,
44:45it was like relief.
44:47He's had such a good time as well.
44:48So it just made me feel happy.
44:50I worried you were going to be mad when I got back.
44:52I had, why?
44:53Don't know.
44:54I was thinking worst-paced stuff.
44:56A nice guy?
44:57Yeah.
44:58Yeah, it was good.
44:59Checking in.
45:01Yeah, I used, like, the tickle thing, like,
45:03interchanged it, like, with kissing and touching,
45:05and it was quite good.
45:10We've finally been able to separate and, you know,
45:13fulfil a fantasy that we've had for a long time.
45:16Breakfast.
45:17We don't have to rely on Tanya anymore.
45:20And we can be our own people and do our own thing.
45:25It's what?
45:27Oh.
45:28It's work.
45:29Really?
45:29Yeah.
45:30Oh, no.
45:31I'm fine.
45:35If you are a curious couple or single
46:01and interested in being part of the next Open House series,
46:05visit channel4.com forward slash take part.
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