Open House The Great Sex Experiment Season 3 Episode 5
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00:00It's about to drop.
00:02Their relationship goes back to when they were teenagers.
00:05We've known each other for 16 years.
00:07Lauren's brother is one of my best mates and now I can't talk about women issues with him.
00:14Just three months ago, Tom's dreams came true when he proposed.
00:19Look at that rock on your finger.
00:21She just makes me, basically. She keeps me on my feet, definitely.
00:25The couple's passion for one another extends to their sex lives.
00:30I'm a huge adrenaline junkie and when it comes to sex life, the same.
00:35Tom fully understands what I'm like and, to be honest, joins me.
00:40Yeah, if I could, I'd have sex all the time. I love it.
00:44The frisky couple have already attempted to open up their relationship, but with disastrous consequences.
00:51I really, really wanted to be able to explore whether that's a couple swap or just get a woman.
00:57We kind of explored it a little bit, but Tom really struggled.
01:02Mm. Yeah.
01:04I feel like I'm chomping at the bit to be open because I don't want to be with just the one person for the rest of my life.
01:11Here they go!
01:21With its non-monogamy coach and experienced residents, Lauren and Tom are hoping the retreat is the answer to their problems.
01:29How you guys doing, alright?
01:31Hey!
01:32A good-looking couple.
01:33Yeah.
01:34Do you look lovely?
01:35Very lovely.
01:36Hi, guys.
01:37You alright?
01:38Hey!
01:39I love your shirt with all my matches.
01:41Yeah, these guys look fit.
01:44One girl, a bit of you.
01:46I'm excited, but nervous.
01:47Oh, I'm nervous now.
01:48Yeah.
01:49Definitely nervous now.
01:50I'm so excited to be here.
01:51I really am.
01:52I am like, come on!
01:53Yes, it's throwing Tom in at the deep end, but sometimes I think that's what people need.
02:06It's just a real big push.
02:08Guiding couples on their journey.
02:12Hello, come in.
02:13Is the retreat's non-monogamy coach, Effie Blue.
02:17Take a seat.
02:18I would love to know what brings you to this retreat.
02:21So, me and Tom had been together for about a year.
02:24I was terrified, but brought up the conversation with him about going open.
02:29Mm-hmm.
02:30I've tried in my life to be with a woman, to be with a man, and always felt if I was with one or the other, that I wasn't complete.
02:36We have tried opening up the relationship and had issues, which is obviously why we're here today.
02:47Do you want to tell me a little bit about that?
02:49I panic when it comes to actual performing.
02:53Mm-hmm.
02:54I've basically got hard midway having sex, and then it has just gone soft.
03:01When your penis doesn't work, it doesn't work.
03:04If it's with another female, like, she thinks she's done something wrong, and it's not that, it's not that at all.
03:12And then that's, for me, game over.
03:14I'm stuck in a rut on the fact that I can't, I can't get him up.
03:19Mm-hmm.
03:20And it's like, shit, again, I'm feeling a bit, I'm feeling like crap.
03:27I'm curious, does this impact sex with Lauren?
03:30Yeah, it's been a couple of times, it's been in the past even with Lauren herself, but not multiple times.
03:36I'm more relaxed, I'm more chilled, and I can perform.
03:39When you've attempted to open up with other women, what is the story in your head?
03:44I can't take the top off. I absolutely hate looking, looking at myself.
03:49Mm-hmm.
03:50I think what's really bad is I don't love myself.
03:53When I first met Tom, he was a really cheeky chappy.
03:58Then Tom got his heart diagnosis, and yeah, it had a huge impact, mainly on Tom.
04:04It was terrifying.
04:05The doctors basically told me that I had sudden death syndrome, so that means I can drop down, die at any point.
04:13It was so, so scary.
04:16He got really down.
04:17He obviously put on a lot of weight because he wasn't allowed to work out.
04:20Because of being such an energetic person, going to the gym all the time, looking after myself, and doing all of that is basically, well, it just went down the drain.
04:32You have a terrible relationship with your body.
04:34Yeah, definitely, definitely.
04:36It's like you're not going to get a hard-on, because you might be mentally aroused, but you're not physically aroused.
04:48Hey, you're okay?
04:49Yeah, I'm good.
04:53I wasn't expecting that.
04:55Do you want to tell me what's going through your mind right now?
04:59The fact that I've stopped in my path and just let myself go.
05:07So, it feels like there's a lot riding on this, right?
05:11Because I feel like your anxiety is getting in the way of you potentially opening up, which is kind of what Lauren wants.
05:20And I imagine you feel the pressure of that.
05:25It's what I want as well.
05:28Lauren, what do you want to achieve?
05:30What would be your ideal situation?
05:32I would love to be able to, obviously, couple swap.
05:36And also, I've never had more than two men at once.
05:39And it's always been a fantasy of mine.
05:42And the same for women as well.
05:44But obviously, we need to get to the bottom of whatever this is.
05:49Sure, yeah, no, exactly.
05:50Hopefully, here is the place we can help you get over those things.
05:54Starting with a good old party.
05:56Tonight is about taking the lead.
05:58Once you kind of let your hair down and relaxed, right, I would love, Tom, for you to pick some people and invite them to somewhere cozy for a sensual group experience.
06:11This is about sensuality.
06:13That's about cuddles and touches.
06:16I want you to focus on one person.
06:20And I want you to focus on how the person that you're touching, how you're giving them pleasure through touch and through caressing.
06:27Because I want you to ease into that sexual space without it feeling like it's all about your dick getting hard.
06:36And then, be open to things escalating.
06:42That's the part that I get a bit, wow.
06:44When we say escalating, we don't always mean straight to sex.
06:48Yeah.
06:49Right.
06:50It sounds really exciting.
06:51Yeah.
06:52Okay.
06:53Beautiful.
06:54Yeah.
06:59Tom has a bit of work to do because his issues are mostly in his head.
07:06So, the exercise today is to get him into the present, feeling what pleasure looks like and to be more embodied.
07:13If you could just think about that he doesn't need a hard penis, it's amazing how quickly one will appear.
07:20Oh, wow.
07:23Oh, wow.
07:24I do worry for me and Lauren, because if I can't, if I can't do the whole open relationship, I feel like we go our separate ways.
07:35I'm hoping it won't get to that stage.
07:43Previously on Open House.
07:48Ultimately, why we're here is to bring in another couple.
07:52But I've got to be okay with Alex being with another woman.
07:57I'm so scared.
07:59What's at stake is Alana's, like, feelings and emotions.
08:02I've been cheated on quite a lot.
08:04Yeah, I've seen women as more of a threat.
08:07So, we kind of want you to face that threat.
08:10Would you be open to finding a woman for a little sexy threesome?
08:16That scenario wasn't in my head.
08:18I don't want to do it like I want to live.
08:20If this is going to work, it has to be the right person.
08:25Who Alex is sitting with now is Georgie.
08:29He's gorgeous.
08:31Would you like to come and spend some time in what's up with us?
08:35Yeah.
08:36If it does go wrong, is it something I'd be able to get over?
08:49I did not think this is where we were going to be on, like, our first night.
08:52I knew you were.
08:53This would have literally been my worst nightmare.
08:55Really?
08:56If someone was like, how would you feel about doing this?
08:57I'd be like, no.
08:58We didn't think that we would be in a hot tub if we were.
09:02Here you are.
09:03How would you feel if I gave Alex a little kiss?
09:07How do you feel?
09:12I'm OK.
09:13Yeah?
09:14OK.
09:15In that moment, watching Alex and Georgie kiss, I thought, oh, no.
09:33How did that make you feel?
09:34Like, fine.
09:35Like, I was like, yeah, like, almost a bit turned on by it.
09:58I really want you on me.
09:59Can I, like, put you on me?
10:00Can I, like, put you on me?
10:01I can't believe this.
10:02Are you proud of me?
10:03Yeah.
10:04Like, what the hell?
10:05Yay.
10:06Yeah.
10:07I've never seen Alana kiss another woman.
10:22I knew it was part of her life, like, long, long ago, but to see that, like, reopen that
10:27door was such a huge turn on for me to see that.
10:30It was, like, really hot.
10:32Oh, my God.
10:33I'm obsessed.
10:34Stop it.
10:35Can I just take you home with us?
10:40Well, it all flowed very naturally.
10:43Have you got three weeks?
10:44Yeah.
10:45Who the fuck would have thought we would have been here?
10:56I honestly don't know what's happening right now.
10:58I feel like this is normal.
11:04I think, like, things are feeling good.
11:07Do you maybe want to come back to our room?
11:10I would love that.
11:11Yeah.
11:12Let's just explore things a little bit more.
11:14Yeah.
11:15Let's take the next step.
11:16We'll do baby steps.
11:17Let's do it.
11:19I didn't think that was going to be a thing at all to bring in, like, a single female.
11:24I thought that would be way too intimidating.
11:27I was really glad I was below water because I was really turned up.
11:30Yeah.
11:33Yeah, like, this has been insane.
11:35Honestly, I can't believe it.
11:37Like, it's such a change.
11:38And you weren't going to do anything.
11:40And now we're inviting...
11:42I asked them to come back to our room.
11:44Back to our room.
11:59Oh my God, they're short shot.
12:00I know.
12:01I did say my ass, like, eats them.
12:03New arrivals Lauren and Tom are preparing for a big night.
12:07Oh, that's not a lot.
12:12They'll be attending a sexy barn dance, where they hope to meet residents who could help Tom overcome his physical stumbling block when it comes to opening up.
12:22Whenever we've dipped our toes into being open, Tom felt he just couldn't perform, felt really uncomfortable.
12:32They've been tasked with finding residents interested in joining them for a group experience, where the focus is only on foreplay.
12:42Hey, babe.
12:43What?
12:44I look fucking ridiculous.
12:45Fucking ridiculous.
12:46With no pressure to perform, the hope is Tom will relax and rise to the occasion.
12:52I do foresee hurdles.
12:54The residents are all very beautiful.
12:56The problem with that is obviously Tom being body conscious.
13:04If I went in there on my own, I think I'd probably walk straight back out.
13:08How are you guys feeling?
13:09Yeah.
13:10Great.
13:11Shit's good.
13:12This is out of my comfort zone.
13:13The heart palpitations I've got right now.
13:14are through the roof.
13:15So, what we're going to do is we're going to do with the heart palpitations.
13:16How are you guys feeling?
13:17Yeah, great.
13:18Shit's good.
13:33This is out of my comfort zone.
13:35The heart palpitations I've got right now are through the roof.
13:39So, what we're going to do is we're going to go around and we're going to talk to them.
13:46I feel sick inside.
13:47I don't think I can.
13:48Okay.
13:49So, listen.
13:50There's no pressure.
13:51That's what we're saying.
13:52Let's just give it a really good go.
13:53This is what we're here for.
13:55First to meet them are married couple Jem and Daz.
13:59What are you looking for then?
14:01That's the question.
14:02So, for me, I need that conversation.
14:05Yeah.
14:06And for you, it's obviously just about feeling body confident around.
14:09Yeah, I'm a bit, yeah.
14:10Yeah.
14:11Just lacking in confidence a little bit.
14:12That's understandable.
14:13Yeah.
14:14You know, it's really nerve-cracking.
14:16If there's any environment where personality matters more than looks, it's this environment.
14:21We'd love to chat to them and try and help them with their journey.
14:24Hello.
14:25You all right?
14:26I'm Tom.
14:27How are you doing me?
14:28All right.
14:29How are you doing?
14:30I'm Gage.
14:31This is my wife, Olivia.
14:32What's your dynamic?
14:33So, we...
14:34It's a big word, that is.
14:35It's a very big word, isn't it?
14:36It's a very big word, isn't it?
14:37Dynamic.
14:38I love it.
14:39Why did I say we've babbled in it before?
14:40We're really good at reading people's body language and kind of like how they're feeling.
14:44You know when someone's nervous and you know when someone's a little bit scared.
14:47But when you have that, you know, responsibility to kind of give them that first good impression
14:51of the lifestyle, you want to make it the best.
14:54I used to be, like, really, like, outgoing, going gym seven days.
14:57I used to have, like, the abs.
14:59And I basically comfort eat and drink and, of course, I put on the weight now, so...
15:03You can just, like, kiss and you can, like, you can go down on them and you can touch.
15:08And you don't necessarily just have the build-up, but I think it is the poor mentality.
15:12You think you've got to go through that natural process.
15:15Olivia and Gage, they made me feel so, like, it just felt natural just talking to her.
15:21After a confidence boost from Gage, Tom moves on to single resident Aaron,
15:27who's no stranger to open conversation.
15:30Do you have an idea of kind of what you want from the experience?
15:34Basically, have fun, relax and try and let my hair down.
15:38To a couple that's coming into the retreat that are looking to open up,
15:41I think the best thing they can do is talk to us.
15:46You know, you've come here for the sex, but don't forget that the sex comes from a person.
15:50I'm a single guy. I've literally just come out of a relationship with two women.
15:55Oh, wow. At the same time for two years.
15:57Oh, wow. That's crazy.
15:58Split 50-50.
15:59Yeah.
16:00There'll be days and weeks and months where I don't feel like I have the confidence.
16:04Yeah.
16:05And I'll go and play, and I won't even get half.
16:07But that's okay, because you're around people you're comfortable around.
16:10Wow. That's, that's how I'm...
16:12That's what I'm... This is what we're trying to get through to talk.
16:14Yeah.
16:15Speaking to Aaron, he made it easy for me to basically say,
16:20I don't need my penis basically. I've got my hands and I've got my tongue.
16:24And I think Lauren really likes them as well.
16:27Aaron has given me fanny flowers.
16:32So I've never had more than two men at once.
16:34So my ideal situation would obviously be more men.
16:37I know you are.
16:42Fresh from meeting Aaron, Lauren feels it's time for Tom to start deciding who to invite to their sensual soiree.
16:50Aaron.
16:51Because he was on the same page as you.
16:52Even he doesn't get hard.
16:53Yeah.
16:54Because I feel like he would understand you as well.
16:57Yeah.
16:59Aaron made me feel really at ease.
17:01He, yeah, he was absolutely brilliant.
17:03I'm so scared of the rejection.
17:07Mainly for Tom, rather than for me.
17:09Because is he then going to be really nervous going forward?
17:13That little bit inside that if they say no.
17:15It'll feel like shit, yeah, but, you know.
17:19You just have to wait and see and see what happens.
17:22We just want to know if you want to come back to him basically just...
17:26Maybe some games, some teasing, some fuddling.
17:29If it escalates, it escalates.
17:30If it doesn't, it doesn't.
17:32Yeah.
17:37Okay, guys, I'm not going to say that I'm going to play.
17:42It's for me at the moment, I take a lot more to get to that point.
17:48I was surprised by Aaron, because he said he doesn't want to play.
17:53Aaron, without being rude, obviously we have to move along with being honest.
17:56Not everyone is everyone's cup of tea.
17:58But for me, I don't obviously want to put Tom off even more with this process.
18:04It's like rejection.
18:06I'm just, yeah, I'm shocked.
18:07Yeah, I'm shocked.
18:14Right, move all the things off the bed.
18:16Put them all on the, here.
18:19In their bedroom, Alana and Alex are preparing to be joined by resident Georgie.
18:25Are we going to be weird and go, are you okay if we get protection just in case?
18:29Or just have it on the side?
18:32They're hoping that tonight they can take their first steps towards their ultimate dream of a couple swap, by having a threesome.
18:41I don't know how this is going to go.
18:43Seeing Alex being with another woman.
18:47With where we are now, look, I'm definitely open to just seeing heart goes.
18:56But as much as this is a really big step for me, it's also a really big step for him, because he's going to potentially be with another woman.
19:05This is all new and it's starting to feel very real.
19:08So my worries going into this is me being with another woman and how that might make Alana feel.
19:15I hope that it's the most amazing experience that we could have, but equally it could not be.
19:19Hello, come here, come here, come in, you all right?
19:27Oh, it's so nice.
19:30It would be, it would be devastating if anything went wrong here, for sure.
19:35So much better. Okay, cool.
19:39This is a bit more chill.
19:40Yeah, yeah.
19:41If you don't mind, I'm just going to pick up the momentum.
19:44No, I like that. Let's just pick up when we're left off.
19:50The sexual chemistry was insane.
19:52The fact that I could, like, just let go of everything and just really enjoy it, like,
20:06I never thought that would have happened in this experience.
20:12Oh, my boy, that's it.
20:27Oh, my boy, that's it.
20:28Oh, yes.
20:30Can I have taste it?
20:32taste. But as play between Alana and Georgie intensifies, Alex retreats to the sideline.
20:51I think, like, I was overwhelmed. It was, like, from zero to a hundred and it caught
20:59me off guard, right? Although I was, like, turned on an idea, I wasn't, like, turned on.
21:22I can't quite match that right now.
21:29Oh my God, yeah.
21:37I've had, like, the best evening, like.
21:40Give me a little kiss. Yeah. Bye.
21:48I think she's in, I'll see you soon as well. Yeah, we'll see you soon.
21:51I love you so much. I loved it. I genuinely loved every minute of that. There wasn't any part where I thought, I feel uncomfortable or, like, oh, I don't know how I feel about this. Like, I literally loved every single second of that. Did you enjoy it?
22:13Did you enjoy it?
22:16I loved seeing you, like, enjoy it. Yeah. I loved it.
22:21Oh, I do not always seem to get the wet patch.
22:24Oh, I do not always seem to get the wet patch.
22:28Maybe I could have done more, but I think I was a little bit, like, overwhelmed by how quickly it all went.
22:43At this moment, I don't know if I can open up the relationship.
22:50It's the morning after Alana and Alex's first threesome with a female resident, Georgie.
23:15You're so quiet.
23:16I got up this morning feeling really good about what happened, but I could feel there was something a little bit off.
23:35What are you thinking about?
23:39I'm just thinking, processing.
23:41Are you sure you're okay?
23:46Yeah.
23:50When we first came in here, obviously our aim and our kind of end goal was to be able to do a full couple swap.
23:57I knew Alex was in his head a little bit. Even at home, like, he can go a bit quiet sometimes, but today I just knew there was something kind of underlying.
24:10Hello.
24:15Hello. Come in.
24:16Hi.
24:17Take a seat. Take a seat.
24:18Take a seat. Get comfy.
24:19Yeah, you all right?
24:21How was last night?
24:23Like, I'm really happy.
24:24Yeah.
24:25It just, it felt right.
24:28Beautiful breakthrough.
24:29Absolutely.
24:30I think what I liked is it was actually Georgie that said, like, would you be okay if I kissed Alex?
24:38She kind of, like, led it a little bit, which was nice.
24:41Like, I actually enjoyed watching it, which I never thought those words were going to come out of my mouth.
24:48What are you thinking, Alex?
24:51I don't, I don't know.
24:54I don't want to take away because I loved last night.
24:56It was incredible.
24:57Sure.
24:58But I was a little bit, like, overwhelmed by the whole situation.
25:03Okay, yeah, tell me about that.
25:04I don't know, like, I don't think I was, I wasn't, like, turned on physically, like.
25:09Okay.
25:10So that's what I'm confused at the moment about.
25:12Okay, okay, okay.
25:15The couple thing I definitely want to do, but again, I don't know if I go all the way.
25:18So, that's where, I think, that's why I was being quiet this morning because I wasn't sure.
25:22For me, there was, like, something missing and I don't know what it was.
25:25I feel like maybe I'm more of a connection-based, like, when it comes to sex.
25:29Like, deep, deeper emotions.
25:31Sure.
25:32Intimacy?
25:35Is that what you're seeking?
25:36Like, intimacy to go with your sexual experience?
25:39I do find it better if there's a connection.
25:43And that's where I am right now.
25:44Like, I'm trying to figure that out.
25:47The thing that I want to understand is, how do you feel about that?
25:55Um, I don't feel comfortable with that.
26:00Sure.
26:01Now, like, I do see that as threatening.
26:04Like, what if you build, like, this really great connection with someone else that you then feel is, like, better?
26:14That's never ever going to be the thing.
26:17You okay?
26:18Yeah.
26:19It's okay.
26:20You're really challenging some of the things that you're the most afraid of and stuff is coming up.
26:30Like, that's all about that.
26:32So that's scary to you right now.
26:34So let's just look at it in the face.
26:35Tell me, what do you mean by connection?
26:38I think it's definitely not, like, deep connection with what I have with you.
26:44It's a lot less than that.
26:46Okay.
26:47It's more familiarization.
26:48Like, you almost want to be friends with that person before it, okay?
26:51Yeah.
26:52I've never been, like, a one-night guy, if you know what I mean?
26:55To be fair, like, yeah, even we didn't sleep together, like, straight away.
26:59Mm-hmm.
27:00So I get that.
27:01I know that's not necessarily, like, how you work.
27:04Mm-hmm.
27:05So what would that look for you in terms of you guys dating couples?
27:09Like, do you want to have, like, one couple friend that you date and play with?
27:16Or do you sort of meet a bunch of couples?
27:20Like, what does that look like for you?
27:21We did say, like, it would be nice to have, like, one couple that we're, like, best friends with.
27:26Mm-hmm.
27:27And we get on really well with them and, like, play together as well.
27:30Mm-hmm.
27:31So what I have in mind is I want you to have a taste of the couple experience that you want.
27:38But I feel like the next challenge for you is to navigate the connection piece.
27:43For you to actually go there and start making a connection.
27:46And for you to feel, like, to figure out what it feels like when it's happening.
27:50You spend a bit of time connecting with the couple.
27:52And then, once you feel like you have a connection in place, then you can escalate things in your own time.
27:59And take it from there and you see how it goes for you.
28:01How does that sound?
28:02No, that sounds good.
28:03You happy?
28:04Okay.
28:05Good.
28:06I'm fine with that.
28:07Are you definitely fine?
28:08Yeah, I feel relaxed.
28:09Okay.
28:10I think that the biggest thing off my chest was what we've spoken about now.
28:13That was, like, just something I needed to understand.
28:20You're welcome.
28:21You're welcome.
28:22Enjoy.
28:23I'm excited to meet Subcarpo today.
28:30But, um, this moment, I don't know if I can go all the way.
28:36We'll have to see.
28:38We love each other, right?
28:39Yeah, we do.
28:41At the sexy barn dance, Lauren and Tom are coming to terms with being rejected by resident
29:00Aaron.
29:01Let your hair down.
29:02Let my hair down.
29:03I'm going to make you line dancing.
29:04I'm not line dancing.
29:05That is not happening.
29:06Oh, ah.
29:07Oh, my God.
29:08I used to do quite a lot of dancing with Lauren.
29:09This is what I used to really enjoy.
29:10So, I feel a lot more comfortable, yeah.
29:33When I was around Tom, we had a little mini dance battle.
29:43And, like, the fact that he was just busting out the robot and, like, just having so much
29:47fun with it.
29:48And I was like, let's do this, let's do that.
29:49And he was just like, yeah, let's do it.
29:50It's the last.
29:52I'm buzzing.
29:57I'm literally buzzing from how happy he is.
30:00He's so relaxed now.
30:07Rejection behind them, thoughts return to their objective, finding residence for a sensual
30:14after-party.
30:15I feel a lot more comfortable, yeah.
30:17So, I think it's a lot more easier to invite people and to see if they say yes or no.
30:22You lead the way.
30:23You're welcome.
30:24Welcome to my friend.
30:25Hello.
30:26I'm your shirt for tonight.
30:27Have you guys been enjoying yourself?
30:28Yeah.
30:29You're welcome.
30:30But it was basically, we're just wondering if you'd like to be, to, like, come back with
30:46us and just basically cuddle, kiss, touch.
30:53Well, I'm ready whenever you guys are.
30:55I'll be at the bar.
30:56I wasn't expecting that.
30:57I wasn't expecting the fact that I was actually waiting for a no.
31:01time.
31:02As Tom's confidence grows.
31:03And I was just wondering if you guys want to come back.
31:06Yeah.
31:07Yeah.
31:08Yeah.
31:09Oh, wow.
31:10Yeah.
31:11So does the after-party.
31:12Wondering if you want to come.
31:15Yes.
31:16I love that.
31:17That's quick.
31:18That's so easy.
31:20And the guest list swells to five.
31:23We were pleasantly surprised.
31:24And it actually feels kind of, like, nice.
31:27Like, feeling, I know it sounds weird, but wanted.
31:31I would say I'm definitely attracted to him.
31:33For sure.
31:34They're a vibe.
31:35100%.
31:36I'm just really excited just to get to know them a bit more.
31:41Lauren and Tom's next challenge will be their biggest yet.
31:45As the five residents will be joining them to attempt to help Tom overcome his performance
31:50anxiety and successfully open up.
31:55We're basically, we'll go back to the bedroom and basically see what happens.
32:00I'm not promising anything.
32:02I've still got them hurdles.
32:03I've still got them body confidence and all that.
32:06The worst thing that can happen is going into shock and walking out.
32:15Having been in two minds as to whether he's ready to open up, Alex has agreed to try
32:28to make connections with couples.
32:30Oh, this looks so cute.
32:35We're just looking for, like, good vibes.
32:38Obviously, going into the couple scenario is slightly different because it's both of us
32:43have got to have an attraction to two different people then.
32:48We'll see.
32:49You know, if it's the right people, then it'll be there.
32:56Hello.
32:57Hello.
32:58Hi, I'm Joe.
32:59Joe, lovely to meet you.
33:00How are you doing?
33:01Hello again.
33:02Was it just on the walk in?
33:03Literally on the walk in.
33:04Both Alex and Alana really want to get to know them, don't we?
33:08Yeah, they're definitely good looking.
33:09They're super hot.
33:10Who was the one who instigated sort of coming here and stuff then?
33:13I think coming here might have been more me.
33:16Did you guys come in initially looking to bring in a single lady?
33:21What were you initially looking for?
33:23Connections with couples.
33:24Yeah.
33:25Is where we were looking at.
33:26The hardest part was obviously for me to kind of get over, like, insecurities with having
33:31another female, like, being physical and, like, smash that on the first note.
33:37So we're like, yay!
33:38Yeah.
33:41One thing I'd say is, oh, I'll do three things as easiest.
33:44You guys have actually done probably one of the harder things.
33:46Like, foursomes are sort of easier because everyone's got something to do.
33:49Hi, I'm Alana.
33:50Hi, Alana.
33:51Lovely to meet you.
33:52So, tonight?
33:53Today?
33:54Tonight?
33:55You're looking for a couple swap?
33:56Yeah.
33:57Just trying to, like, find our way into it now.
33:58It's definitely going to be a space that's just finding our, like, place.
33:59Big thing letting someone else into your relationship.
34:00But it's nice because, like you say, everyone's, like, scenarios are different.
34:02Well, it's about you guys, that's the thing.
34:03It's like, you're not here to please someone else.
34:04Yeah.
34:05It's what's best for you.
34:06I didn't know how I was going to feel about it.
34:07Yeah.
34:08But actually, like, I've shocked everyone, ended up being absolutely fine with it.
34:13Alex and Alana were quite attractive, right?
34:14Yeah.
34:15I've been trying to get into it now.
34:16I've been trying to get into it now.
34:17Definitely within a space that's just finding our, like, place.
34:18Big thing letting someone else into your relationship.
34:20But it's nice because, like you say, everyone's, like, scenarios are different.
34:23Well, it's about you guys, that's the thing.
34:24It's like, you're not here to please someone else.
34:25Yeah.
34:26It's what's best for you.
34:27I didn't know how I was going to feel about it.
34:28Yeah.
34:29I was here.
34:30Alex and Alana were quite attractive, actually.
34:33There was definitely a vibe there.
34:36I think we'd definitely be into them if they wanted to kind of spend a bit more time with us.
34:45Can I go for a chat?
34:46Yes.
34:52Tea.
34:53Ooh.
34:59How have you found it?
35:00Um.
35:01Like, it's been nice to speak to couples today.
35:05Like, obviously that was what we wanted to do.
35:09For me, I feel like, um, Jem and Daz, I just feel like they would be, like, a really great couple to get to know.
35:15I feel like they've got a similar vibe to us.
35:18How are you feeling?
35:20Is there anyone that you felt like, might have had a connection with?
35:29I've, like, um, honestly at the moment, I just don't know right now if I can go any further.
35:45Okay.
35:46How do you, how are you feeling about that?
35:50Um.
35:51Yeah, like, I'm a little bit surprised.
35:55Um.
35:58What is it that's making you feel that way?
36:00Is it that you don't feel like you want to go any further at all?
36:04Or do you feel like it's just maybe been a little bit too much too soon?
36:09Like, it's just got a bit overwhelming?
36:11Uh.
36:14Mate, I don't know, like, it's more of a me thing this now.
36:23Like, for now, uh, that's as far as I can go.
36:27you've hit like a bit of a wall with it yeah okay
36:34i do want to redo this okay
36:39that makes me happy
36:50with alex unable to continue the couple stay at the retreat has come to an end
36:57going forward i do think open up the relationship is for me and alana but
37:07it's going to take time it will take more time for me
37:27um i don't know i feel like emotional now
37:34i could what just happened i don't know
37:40it's just the whole thing's like just very overwhelming isn't it like
37:43i don't know because i don't like i don't know what to say
37:54it's just like a very emotional few days isn't it
37:59the future will at some point be a full open relationship but at the moment it's baby steps
38:05still
38:12it's just been a very overwhelming process but um
38:16i don't want to keep crying but like i'm actually really proud of myself
38:23opening up our relationship is a lot harder than i first thought like i really thought it was going
38:28to be a straight line but it's curves and angles and everything that goes with it it's not easy
38:33but like we've absolutely got the ability to do it
38:40i absolutely love you to pieces and i'm happy and glad and i love you so much i love you so much
38:56just goes to show that you're saying that you haven't got it however
39:00if you hadn't then why is everyone saying yes lauren and tom have invited a small group back for an
39:07intimate party in the residence playroom even though they've said yes and all that kind of stuff
39:14it doesn't mean like you know they see me and go actually no what the is that it's what goes to my
39:19head i know so that's why we're gonna go take it one step at a time okay yeah no pressure they hope
39:30that by focusing on touch and foreplay tom will manage to get an erection a stumbling block that's
39:37stopping the couple from opening up
39:39i'm hoping to leave here knowing the fact that i don't have to worry about um for for my dick not to
39:49i don't quite know how i'm feeling right now uh i'm feeling shocked to be fair
40:16shock to be fair my biggest concern is obviously making sure tom is comfortable because i will
40:22get naked and run around like i am the opposite of tom
40:26i know i want to be open and i'm not planning on changing that i'm not the person that struggles
40:36with this lifestyle and it's tom that is should we make the lighting a little bit more sexy guys
40:41oh yeah let's do it yeah put a blindfold on and nice nice nice is there any areas that you genuinely
40:51want us to avoid it's basically just taking the top off i can't see you i definitely want to make
41:02lauren happy and we'll try anything like jump this hurdle basically but once it's in my head i can't
41:10before i freeze once i'm in that rut i can't get out of the rut how are you doing mate it's weird but
41:19you're getting worshiped you're getting all the attention this is my favorite thing
41:23despite effie's advice to actively engage in foreplay tom lets the ladies lead just let us know
41:33that it gets a bit too overwhelming
41:37i feel absolutely petrified and sick
42:07next time on open house are you ready for the next level
42:16i feel absolutely petrified
42:21is it okay to kiss it's two guys back in the dirt
42:26i have identified as gay today i don't know i've been feeling very naughty never had any experience
42:37with gaming before the worst case now would be reacting in a way which i'm not expecting
42:43is it okay this is out of my comfort area for sure