- 5/20/2025
Category
📺
TVTranscript
00:0012 virgins have travelled to a paradise island to take part in a unique experiment.
00:13The word virgin, people see it as a joke. It's quite obsessing.
00:20I'm 23, still a virgin. I feel like there's something wrong with me.
00:25In a world where sex is everywhere.
00:28Oh, my God. Terrified. Absolutely terrified.
00:31The truth is surprising. There are more adult virgins than ever.
00:35Being a young adult in this day and age, it's difficult.
00:39Social media. Dating apps. Influencers. TV shows.
00:42Porn. Porn. Porn. Porn. Porn is everywhere.
00:45Are you self-conscious about our genitals touching each other?
00:48Now? Yeah.
00:51This radical retreat is offering a very hands-on solution.
00:56Oh, hell. She's a miracle worker.
00:58Woo-hoo! Oh, God, yes.
01:00Overseen by a group of experts. Yeah.
01:03Like that? I like that.
01:05Ready to do anything to help Britain's virgins.
01:08There's the clitoris. Do you have any questions?
01:13Lose the one thing...
01:15Don't make me nervous.
01:17..they feel is holding them back.
01:19I would love to have sex with you.
01:21I do feel like there's a barrier between me and sex.
01:23I want to lose my virginity. It's now or never.
01:28But when the moment arrives...
01:30Would you like to move to the bed?
01:32..who will be ready...
01:35I just don't want anyone to touch me.
01:37..to go all the way?
01:40You're so sweet.
01:42I feel so good.
01:50The last few days on Virgin Island saw a focus on intimate touch.
01:56It was like watching a porno.
01:57We can explore the things that you came here to explore.
02:01It made Taylor, who identifies as bisexual...
02:04I'm scared. ..confused about her feelings.
02:07Sorry, can I just have one minute?
02:11And when Ben...
02:13What does it feel like to you?
02:14Bewitching.
02:15..fell under Charlotte's spell...
02:17Yeah, I'll do it.
02:18..he was rejected.
02:20This is my friend, but I'm not interested.
02:24Now, as they enter the next phase, things are hotting up.
02:28That felt good.
02:29Confidence is really key to this group of people,
02:32and I am ready to make them be able to look in someone's eyes
02:36and just go after what they want.
02:39Feels nice.
02:42Good morning.
02:43Morning.
02:44It's another day on Virgin Island.
02:47Oh, here we go.
02:48And the start of a new two-day phase of the course.
02:54The next phase of the course is all about confidence.
03:01Ah, I'm so nervous.
03:02I'm so nervous.
03:04I'm so nervous.
03:04I'm so nervous.
03:06I'm so nervous.
03:07I'm so nervous.
03:08I'm so nervous.
03:09I'm so nervous.
03:10I'm so nervous.
03:11HE SIGHS
03:13Everything here is making me nervous.
03:15So, yeah, just another one in a long line of,
03:18ah, what does this mean?
03:21God.
03:23I'm confident in my intelligence, I'm confident as a person,
03:26but I'm not confident about believing that people want me in that way.
03:30Especially after what happened with Charlotte.
03:32You know, just feel like I'm not good enough.
03:34So I think this is going to be tough for me.
03:38Confidence.
03:39I think I'm confident when I'm someone else most of the time.
03:42That's why I do drama and all that.
03:44There are times where I just don't want to chat to anyone
03:46because I just hate myself so much.
03:47But I wouldn't even get on the bus
03:49because I didn't want to talk to the bus driver.
03:51So I just walk everywhere.
03:52So I need confidence
03:54and hopefully this place will give it to me.
04:00Oh, they're all down there already.
04:01Look at that.
04:03Bunch of hippies.
04:04Good morning.
04:07Celeste and Danielle's first group workshop
04:09will test how ready the group are to banish embarrassment.
04:15We are moving into the next phase.
04:19Confidence.
04:20If you're walking in the world and you're feeling kind of shut down,
04:23you're not going to be attractive.
04:25But really accepting yourself for who you are,
04:28you're going to be more attractive.
04:30They've all prepared a dating or rejection story from their past,
04:34which has destroyed their confidence.
04:38So you're going to take turns to share your rejection story.
04:43Who wants to come first?
04:51I'll go.
04:52All right.
04:54First up, drama graduate, Tom.
04:57First up, drama graduate, Tom.
05:02Being a virgin has definitely affected my confidence.
05:06In school, I felt like socially I wasn't developing
05:10as well as all my other classmates.
05:12They were all going out, drinking in the park,
05:16having fun, all those sort of things.
05:18I was a bit of a goody two-shoes
05:20and I felt like I was trailing behind everyone else in the end.
05:24I always have a voice on my shoulder,
05:26always telling me that I'm not good enough.
05:30So my story takes place third year uni.
05:33I'd just received a message from a former friend
05:37and we started chatting more and more
05:39and it felt like it was getting a little bit flirty.
05:41So I invited her down to my place for my housemate's birthday,
05:45got to the club.
05:47I thought I was going to make my move there.
05:49I introduced her to my housemate.
05:51So I went to the bar and when I turned around,
05:54bringing drinks for making out with each other.
05:59Revealing their most vulnerable moments to the group
06:02is only half of the process.
06:04So each person is going to say their biggest rejection
06:08and then immediately getting feedback that you are lovable,
06:12that you are attractive.
06:14There's something that shifts in your brain
06:16when you do all of that at the same time.
06:20Standing up for Tom is Taylor.
06:23I think in that story, she was in the wrong
06:25for playing with your emotions like that.
06:26You're a really lovely person, you need to remember that
06:28and she sucks, she sucks.
06:39As well as rejection.
06:42I stayed over at her house and there was almost
06:44this unspoken expectation that, oh, well, there would be sex.
06:47Not being ready for sex.
06:49I was so nervous about doing something wrong.
06:52I just shut down.
06:54I just wasn't ready.
06:56And running away.
06:58He says to me, so are we going to go all the way?
07:01And I just, yeah, I think I just got the fear.
07:05Are we carrying themes?
07:06We're in bed.
07:07He started saying he didn't believe that I was a virgin.
07:11He was quite persistent, like I was lying.
07:14I haven't seen anyone since that, just because now I feel like
07:16I don't want to put myself in that position.
07:18Ben, you should be proud of yourself that you didn't feel
07:22like you had to go all the way and the right person will come
07:24to you when it's right for you.
07:26Thanks.
07:28Celeste and Danielle believe that together.
07:31You're just so smiling, you make everybody else smile
07:34and also he's a dick as well.
07:38They can change.
07:41Being able to get the antidote, like get the medicine
07:44is so crucial.
07:46Each story also gives the experts clues on individual needs
07:50to resolve their issue with intimacy.
07:56Last is Taylor, who since coming out as bisexual at university
08:00has never had a positive encounter with women or men.
08:04I was dancing with some friends and one of my friends was like,
08:06that boy's making eyes at you.
08:08And pointed out a quite good looking lad on the dance floor
08:11and I was like, oh, that's him.
08:12And he was like, no, that's not him.
08:14A quite good looking lad on the dance floor.
08:16And I was like, okay.
08:18And then one of them went, he's coming over.
08:19And I hid behind her and said, dance me to the stairs
08:23so I can get out.
08:24And I just remembered I was almost at the stairs
08:26and I'm crouched over and the crowds parted
08:30and the lights flashed for a second.
08:31I looked straight into this guy's eyes like,
08:35and my heart just dropped.
08:36And I saw his face like, so it was one of those moments
08:40where like I was always expecting to be rejected.
08:45You're really nice, fantastic, pretty.
08:48And it's really nice seeing how you're coming out of your shell.
08:50But you're always out of your shell, out more.
08:53Yeah, you're amazing.
08:58I just really want to applaud your bravery
09:01and your vulnerability to every one of you here.
09:05I felt really awkward.
09:06I didn't mind sharing my story.
09:07I didn't like being told I was nice.
09:09Yeah, I know.
09:10I suffer from quite a lot of like self-doubt and paranoia.
09:14I think self-confidence is different for everyone.
09:16And for me, I usually just try and fake it till I make it.
09:26You're so beautiful.
09:34You're OK.
09:36I just feel a bit like...
09:41I still feel like they're trying to get to grips with me.
09:46I thought with Taylor, it was such like a running away story.
09:49You kind of picture her hiding behind someone else.
09:51She's backing away.
09:52And I was like, what is happening here?
09:54It's happening.
09:54Yeah, it seemed like she was so afraid of connection
09:57that she just couldn't even bear the thought of it.
09:59Yeah.
09:59I do feel like there's a barrier between me and sex.
10:03Like, I've been on nights out where you're like, I'm going to do it.
10:06I'm going to have that one night stand.
10:07And you meet someone, and they want to take you back to their place.
10:10And then you hit this wall.
10:12And you just think, I can't.
10:15When you see people in love, it is a lot that you're missing out on.
10:19And I can't have what everyone else gets to have.
10:25After a string of failed encounters with men and an unlawful
10:28session with male surrogate Andre, could a different approach help?
10:35So I just want to say I'm kind of taking over for Andre.
10:38OK.
10:38How does it feel?
10:39A lot calmer, weirdly.
10:41Because when Andre, really lovely, wanted to be his best friend,
10:44but like just didn't want to like have any kind of sexual contact.
10:50Do you want to move into some body work?
10:52Yeah.
10:53Yeah.
10:53So I just want you to bring awareness into your feet.
10:59Noticing any tension that you feel.
11:04Kat wants Taylor to concentrate on how it feels to be touched by a woman.
11:09And we'll move to the ankles and the lower legs.
11:18It's all right.
11:19It's all right.
11:19It's all right.
11:20It's all right.
11:20It's all right.
11:21It's all right.
11:21It's all right.
11:22It's all right.
11:22It's all right.
11:23No, no, don't apologize.
11:25It's OK.
11:28Is it like, does it feel like a release?
11:30Does it feel?
11:31Yeah.
11:31OK.
11:34It's just such a relief to not feel scared at all.
11:37That's amazing.
11:49I feel so silly.
11:51No, why?
11:52This whole, like, wasting my own time and everyone else's for so long.
11:57No.
11:59By feeling uncertain?
12:02Yeah.
12:18Yeah, it's OK.
12:21I think that's enough for today.
12:26After years of confusion, it's the breakthrough Taylor's been looking for.
12:30I always thought I was bi, but being here and having to, like, kind of confront it.
12:35Yeah.
12:35I think I might not like men, like, at all.
12:39OK.
12:40And how does it feel to, like, sit with it and own it?
12:43It feels good to own it, but it's also really scary.
12:46It is really scary.
12:47Yeah.
12:51Oh, God, finally.
12:56Yay.
12:57I'm so excited.
12:58This feels so good.
13:00It feels so good.
13:01Good cry.
13:02Yay.
13:04Thank you so much.
13:05I really appreciate it.
13:09I'm just gay, and I think I've been deluding myself into, like,
13:13no, I like men as well because that's normal and good.
13:16But, like, I didn't feel scared.
13:19That felt really good.
13:22Yes.
13:25Hello.
13:26So how was your, um, what was that one-on-one session you did?
13:28I went to my one-to-one session.
13:30It was good?
13:30Good.
13:31It was with Kat, and it was the best one I've had.
13:34Oh, really?
13:34And I'm definitely gay.
13:37Oh, no, thank you.
13:40What a breakthrough.
13:41I know.
13:42Missed it all fucking week.
13:44Oh, we love you.
13:44Happy to.
13:45We love you, Taylor.
13:47I feel like now I can get more out of the retreat
13:50because I know kind of what I want,
13:52and I'm not pretending that I want other things just to fit in.
14:08Would you sell your virginity?
14:09I would.
14:10I've considered it before.
14:12Well, what would you sell your virginity for?
14:14I'd say a couple hundred plus.
14:17I'd do it for £10 and a packet of donuts.
14:19Different for boys.
14:20What about your anal virginity?
14:22No.
14:24No, that's the same.
14:25That's his boundary.
14:26Yeah, that's my boundary.
14:27At least £1 million.
14:31It's the first afternoon of the confidence phase at the retreat.
14:35What language do lesbians speak?
14:37What?
14:38Gaelic.
14:41What do you call a lesbian dinosaur?
14:43Don't know.
14:44Like a lot of us.
14:45Ah.
14:49After helping Taylor find her true self,
14:51Celeste and Danielle have left something for the boys
14:54to see if any of them have the confidence to explore their identities too.
14:58Do you want a pamper, Tom?
14:59I would love a pamper, to be fair.
15:01What, do you want a first mass?
15:02Um, I'd be up for any of it.
15:04Mascara, lipstick.
15:06Tough.
15:11This is an exercise that helps people lower their inhibitions.
15:15Welcome to Emma's salon.
15:17Society can give young men such a narrow view of masculinity,
15:20so we really wanted to help them start to get past some of those myths.
15:25How do you feel now?
15:26Relaxed.
15:27Like I'm being operated on.
15:30Although Ben isn't made up with the makeup.
15:33I wanted it to look like good and natural, not drag queen.
15:36That's right, I can be a drag queen.
15:39Tom is in the pink.
15:41He looks like a nice young German boy.
15:45I've never had a girlfriend in my life, no.
15:48Sometimes I come across quite camp.
15:51I'll go out to the club and I'll start slut dropping.
15:54I'll start singing along to Taylor Swift, Katy Perry, Bit Abba.
15:59Um, but a lot of people didn't quite know
16:01how to differentiate between camp and being gay,
16:04so they kind of saw them as one as the same.
16:06You trust me, yeah?
16:07Why are you holding it like that?
16:10Oh my God.
16:12I want to lose from my virginity,
16:14but people just aren't interested in someone
16:17who doesn't have confidence in themselves.
16:20That ain't bad.
16:21That's not bad, come on.
16:22It feels so wrong yet so right.
16:25Made up, the boys have engaged with their soft side,
16:28but now the experts want them to reinforce their strengths too
16:32and try to get good with wood.
16:36Has anyone felt an emotion and they were afraid to show it
16:39because of what someone else might think?
16:43Yeah.
16:46But today, we're going to get to let those emotions out.
16:50So we're letting go of the emotion
16:51as the axe splits the wood.
16:53Just tune into some primal emotion in your body.
16:57All right, it feels like they'd like to go first.
17:00Go Dave.
17:01Dave, that's right.
17:02That's right, that's right.
17:04There you go.
17:05Nice.
17:11Yes, good job, Dave.
17:15Yeah.
17:16Yeah.
17:17Yeah.
17:19Yeah.
17:20Yeah.
17:26Yeah.
17:29Not only are they letting out some raw emotion.
17:33Yeah, good job, bro.
17:39That was bad.
17:41For 25-year-old Viraj, it's a lesson in resilience.
17:45Oh my God.
17:46Come on, you got this.
17:50Yeah.
18:00How was the chopping?
18:01Oh, I sucked.
18:02That was the worst.
18:03Man chop wood.
18:04Man chop wood.
18:05Man use axe.
18:07Getting manly has left many of the boys on a high.
18:10Man talk to girls.
18:12Man break wind.
18:16Are you desperately trying to get your nail varnish off?
18:17Yes.
18:19Have you taken yours off?
18:20No.
18:21I might just stick it out.
18:23I think it's about trying to be in touch with your emotions
18:25rather than letting it all boil up inside of you.
18:27Do you think it worked?
18:30I'm still a virgin, so not yet.
18:36To try and change that.
18:38So I'll just be touching all over your body but not your genitals.
18:42The experts believe Dave's ready to start the island's most advanced treatment,
18:46surrogate partner therapy.
18:49How are you feeling?
18:51Good.
18:52Yeah?
18:52Yeah.
18:53Okay.
18:55It was really nice.
18:57Felt natural and enjoyable.
19:01It's given me a massive confidence boost.
19:04Meanwhile...
19:05I'd like to just go into an experience of connecting with your body.
19:12Yeah, just do it.
19:13Okay, I'll try that.
19:14Yeah.
19:15Jason's lessons on how to hug are moving up a step.
19:19You can touch me in a way that feels good to you.
19:22It's amazing.
19:25I'm so glad you noticed.
19:27Yeah.
19:30Isn't it enjoyable?
19:31It is.
19:36Across the island, the makeup session has raised more questions than answers for Tom.
19:40Doing the wood shopping, doing the whole makeup thing, really enjoyed that but...
19:45I don't know, it just felt like a lot of things about like gender coming into it.
19:51I just feel a bit weird, I think.
19:57The experts have noticed a change in Tom too.
20:00So they're sending him for a session with Kat to see if she can find out what's really going on.
20:06Because so many people over the years have called me gay,
20:10I've kind of started to question my own sexuality sometimes.
20:13For a while, I saw myself as a closeted bisexual.
20:17But one of the prerequisites of being like bisexual is like you have to like men.
20:21I didn't like men that way.
20:24But I want to learn more about myself and my own battles with identity.
20:28There's just so many things which made me question that.
20:31How are you doing?
20:34Not so great today, I'd say.
20:36Yeah?
20:36Just struggling a little bit, I think.
20:38Yeah?
20:39Yeah.
20:40I think just working out in my place, like how I fit into things, dynamic,
20:44whether I'm part of the men or the women or the whatever, long and that sort of stuff, yeah.
20:51I think I really enjoyed like putting makeup on and it feels like...
20:55Yeah, it's OK.
20:58It's all right.
20:59No, I don't know how long it is. It's OK.
21:01It's like tissue.
21:03Yeah.
21:07Thanks.
21:08Yeah.
21:17I don't think I'm quite the full bisexual yet.
21:22And I don't think I'm quite the full masculine side of things, I do think.
21:29I am slightly more masculine leaning, but I don't think I'm fully man, but I'm not too sure.
21:37Yeah.
21:38And does it feel scary to step into the feminine?
21:43It's scary because I don't know what to label myself as.
21:46Non-binary is quite, I don't know, it feels quite scary.
21:50I'm not sure it is a total fit for me either.
21:53I want you to try as much as you can to like pause from naming things.
22:01Ground it in the body a little bit and just pay attention to how you feel.
22:05Yeah.
22:07OK.
22:10See you soon.
22:10Yeah, see you soon.
22:12I'm not sure I'm totally happy with it at the moment, but that's because
22:16we brought up a lot of stuff that I'm going to work through,
22:19but I'm definitely in a happier mindset, let's say.
22:33Yeah, Holly, guess what?
22:35What?
22:35I'm a lesbian.
22:39What's up?
22:39Morning.
22:40Ready to go today, guys?
22:42Away.
22:46It's day two of the confidence phase of the course.
22:50Morning, Dave, you all right?
22:51Yeah, morning.
22:52This is all I want in life, a good cup of tea.
22:56I'm struggling a little bit with confidence,
22:58but I think it's just taking those little steps for me,
23:02and I'm really hoping that I can build up myself and build up my confidence.
23:07That's exactly what Celeste and Danielle plan to do next,
23:11with a lesson on the foundation of all romance, dating.
23:14Oh, chairs.
23:16Oh, we're going on a date.
23:19Oh, my God.
23:19Oh, my God.
23:20I've been on so many dates, this'll be easy, right?
23:22Yeah, it should be.
23:33So we're going to talk about the skills of a great date.
23:36All the skills that we need to have in order to have great relationships are just skills.
23:43You want to learn them and practice them.
23:47Celeste and Danielle have a rule of three dating skills.
23:51The first one is giving an in-the-moment compliment,
23:54like, I really love the way your eyes twinkle when you smile,
23:58you know, something that really feels like you're connecting with a person.
24:01The second one is to be able to both give and recognize the look.
24:06And the look means, I'm ready now, I'm ready to be kissed.
24:09And then finally, the third skill is the lean-in for the kiss.
24:15So we're going to do a little demo,
24:16and then you're going to have opportunities to practice.
24:19And in this case, practice means role play.
24:23So glad we finally got here.
24:24It's been a lot of planning.
24:25I know, right?
24:26Yeah.
24:28So, do you like to travel?
24:31Oh, my God, I love travelling.
24:32Travelling is really my passion.
24:34Where's your favourite place?
24:37Wow, I can't think about anything now.
24:41I can just listen to that laugh all day long.
24:45You're embarrassing me a little bit.
24:48But I like it too.
24:49So that's an in-the-moment?
24:51Uh-huh.
24:51Do you see flirting was going on all the time?
24:54Yeah.
24:57You are giving me the look.
25:00I was also getting it from you, I think.
25:07Mmm.
25:13Such a good kisser.
25:16OK.
25:18You are each other's practice buddies,
25:20and that's really going to help you.
25:21The more you practice, the more it's just going to be like,
25:23oh, this is normal.
25:24This is just what I do.
25:25That's confidence, right?
25:28Who wants to...
25:30Yay, come on up, Emma.
25:32I wouldn't really say I've actually ever been on a date in my life.
25:35Who else?
25:38I'll do it.
25:39Yay.
25:41It's hard to kind of open myself up to that world
25:43where I've had such a block on it for so long.
25:47Hello.
25:48Hello.
25:49How are you, OK?
25:50Very good.
25:51Did you enjoy the show?
25:53Yeah, I did, yeah.
25:54What did you like the best?
25:57That you put me on the spot.
26:00I like how you get lost in your thoughts there.
26:04Always, always get lost.
26:05Somewhere else.
26:06Yeah.
26:07Yeah, in my own words.
26:10I like that you noticed that.
26:12Very observant.
26:27That was phenomenal.
26:29Any tips for Zach on how he could even give it...
26:33I need the tips.
26:34Maybe if you just took care of the hand a little bit more
26:38and just pay attention to how it feels on your skin.
26:41Yeah, OK.
26:42Just slow down and...
26:43Slow down.
26:44Make sure that it's the right level.
26:48Great job, Zach.
26:49That was beautiful.
26:50Good job.
26:53After Zach and Emma's masterclass...
26:56A fully nude cafe, bold choice for our first date.
27:01The others step up to the dating plate.
27:04I'm a bush driver.
27:05Do you enjoy it?
27:06No.
27:09Do you want to just try giving her the look?
27:11That was it, that was the eyebrows.
27:16Just want to see if you're catching it.
27:18No, I didn't catch it.
27:19You didn't catch it.
27:20OK, I want you to start paying attention to those things.
27:22I thought I was talking to you.
27:38Wow.
27:43Last to take the plunge is serial dater Ben,
27:45who despite having over 40 dates has always been unlucky in love.
27:53What stopped me from taking it to the next level with a lot of these dates I've been on,
27:56I think it's just lack of experience and lack of success at reading social signals.
28:01I tend to play it safe.
28:02And I think for guys like me who just struggle with that,
28:05making the move and reading the signs, it's very hard.
28:10Who want to try it with Ben?
28:23Do I get to do it?
28:25Good, because this will be our second date.
28:28Yeah.
28:30Well, it's good to see you again, Celeste.
28:33It's good to see you too.
28:35What job do you do?
28:36I coach people to have more intimacy and connection with each other.
28:49I like your glasses.
28:51They suit you.
29:00When you get all into the experience, you're really beautiful.
29:05So are you.
29:14Despite Celeste's flirting,
29:19being rejected by the group has hurt Ben.
29:22So tonight, you're going to have another opportunity to just practice skills building.
29:28As you'll all be going on practice dates with each other,
29:31you'll learn so much and give each other so much from that experience.
29:39Holly, how was my kissing skills out of 10?
29:41A solid 9.5.
29:43Yes.
29:47What did everyone think of that session?
29:48It was fine.
29:50I enjoyed it.
29:52Tell me how you found the workshop.
29:56Crap.
29:59Awful. I didn't like it.
30:02You know, I got up and no one wanted to do it with me.
30:04That was really hard.
30:05The ironic thing is the confidence section, which I knew would be hard,
30:09has probably wrecked my confidence.
30:12Hello.
30:14Hello.
30:16For Ben, it's yet another setback.
30:20You OK?
30:21My confidence founders basically shattered my confidence.
30:24And he's not the only one struggling.
30:26I've walked out the workshop feeling worse.
30:29Oh, really? What's wrong with you today?
30:34I don't know.
30:37The experts feel something is holding Emma back,
30:41and now they want to find out what it is.
30:45How are you feeling?
30:46I'm feeling all right, but I just really feel for Ben.
30:50It's hard, isn't it, when I care for other people.
30:54It's hard to think about myself.
30:57You actually have to not so much worry and take care of everybody else.
31:00What does it feel like to just say, what about me?
31:04That doesn't feel natural.
31:05Of course, it's the opposite of the habit.
31:07The habit is, what about, you OK? Everybody OK? You OK?
31:10What about me?
31:11Yeah.
31:11See if you can say it with them.
31:13OK.
31:15What about me?
31:16Let me do it a little bit stronger now.
31:19What about me?
31:20Yeah.
31:22You deserve to be angry, like, what about you?
31:24You know what I mean?
31:26It's your turn.
31:27Yeah.
31:28Yeah.
31:28OK.
31:30Ah.
31:32You need to go, ah, a little bit.
31:38What about me?
31:39Yes, what about me?
31:41What about me?
31:42Yeah, what about me?
31:44What about me?
31:45That's right.
31:46I feel like I'm going to need to punch him back in a minute.
31:49No, no.
31:50Oh my god, yes.
31:53That's all I've ever wanted you to say.
31:57OK, right, let me strip off.
32:00Oh god, OK.
32:01I'm going to push it out.
32:02What about me?
32:03And then punch it.
32:04Yeah, yes.
32:06What about me?
32:06What about me?
32:07Yeah, more.
32:08This is my body.
32:09Yes, yes, yes, my turn.
32:12What about me?
32:13Fuck you, if you've ever made me think shit.
32:17And fuck everyone who's taken my kindness for weakness.
32:20Yes.
32:21It's all about me.
32:22It's all about you.
32:23Fuck you, fuck you.
32:25Sorry, she's sick.
32:26Yeah.
32:32The exercise stirs up old emotion.
32:36When I was seven, I did have a really horrific incident with another child of them
32:43touching me inappropriately.
32:45It kind of shut me off and brought up this fear of sex.
32:51And that was so horrible.
32:54So I want to move past that horrific experience.
32:59But it is so difficult.
33:02It's like a piece of glass.
33:03You can shatter some glass.
33:05But even if you put it back together, it will never be the same again.
33:08Just imagine little Emma looking up at you and saying, thank you so much.
33:14Thank you for looking out for me and being the strong, independent woman that I always wanted to be.
33:25You should be proud of yourself because you're so stronger than you think and wiser than you know.
33:38How'd it go?
33:44A really good session.
33:45I feel like Celeste released a new energy inside me that I didn't realise I had.
33:50Right now, I feel on top of the world.
33:51I feel like a brand new, complete version of Emma.
33:58And I'm not going to let people's negative input impact me.
34:02I feel like now I'm more open to forming new connections, which I haven't taken before.
34:09It's not just Emma who's feeling like a new person.
34:12After his session with Kat yesterday, Tom has been reflecting on gender identity.
34:17I think my next step is I probably will tell some more people about my gender fluidity.
34:22So I don't constantly have a sort of barrier up all the time.
34:25Or like, I'm not hiding a part of myself anymore, which I'm constantly having to do here at the moment.
34:31After her own issues around identity, Tom decides to confide in Tayla.
34:40Coming here, I've been learning a lot more about my own identity.
34:42Aha, I found that as well.
34:44Yeah.
34:46Really puts it into perspective.
34:47It does, 100%.
34:49When I had my makeup put on me.
34:51Yes.
34:51And then I had to take it off and I felt a bit, oh no, I really wanted to keep that on.
34:56You did say that.
34:57It got me thinking a lot about my own sort of identity.
35:00I'm not sure, I think if gender is like on the spectrum.
35:03Yes.
35:03I'd say I'm exactly between he, him and they, them.
35:08Yes, so masculine, but not real.
35:11Yeah.
35:11Do you still identify as straight, like you like girls?
35:14Yes, I still very much like women.
35:16There's no matter like who I go to bed with, it's like who I go to bed as.
35:20Yeah, of course, who do I go to bed as?
35:23Yeah.
35:24Oh, how exciting.
35:25How exciting.
35:26Yay.
35:26So exciting.
35:32It's late afternoon on Virgin Island.
35:34You all right?
35:36Sup?
35:36And this evening, the group will pair up for date night.
35:40So how are we going to do this today?
35:42Is this my first proper date?
35:43Do I class this as a date?
35:45We can make it a date.
35:46We'll see how, we'll see what happens.
35:48One thing I don't want it to be is, I don't want it to be awkward.
35:51Why would it be awkward?
35:52I don't know, I feel like I'm just an awkward person.
35:53No, you might fall in love after this.
35:55Really?
35:57Maybe.
35:58Maybe, sometimes when you look at me, I do feel like,
36:00are you just looking at me like randomly or are you looking at me?
36:03Maybe I'm overthinking it.
36:06Why do you just look at me like that?
36:09Oh, Emma.
36:11After her session with Celeste, Emma's newfound positivity is taking effect.
36:16Did you realise like my dream woman will have to be someone who like
36:19goes to India with me and has that dream wedding?
36:21Oh my God, yeah.
36:22You would look really good in a sari.
36:23No, I actually would love that.
36:25What colour would my dress be?
36:28Like red?
36:29Yeah, I picture a red.
36:31Really?
36:32Yeah, I picture a red.
36:33I don't know if a red would suit me.
36:35I think it would.
36:36I think any colour would suit you, why not?
36:50Now she's opened the floodgates.
36:54Yay!
36:55Emma's letting herself go.
36:56Even went through to the second layer.
36:59Later, we'll all pose for a calendar.
37:04And so are the boys.
37:06What do you guys like?
37:08What do you mean?
37:09What do you like?
37:10But that's such a weird question.
37:11How do you want to have sex?
37:12I know what I want.
37:13I want to feel powerful.
37:14I mean, yeah, I'd like it if a girl rides on top of me, sure.
37:18I would like to be dominated.
37:19I think that's what I like.
37:20You like that?
37:20Yeah.
37:21That's interesting.
37:22But that's because I'm like a shy virgin.
37:24I think I want something really boring like Michelin.
37:27That's me.
37:29After being rejected earlier,
37:30the confidence phase of the course has yet to help Ben.
37:34I think what's scary about the whole approaching somebody in real life
37:37is the prospect of rejection.
37:39It's just awkward.
37:40Ben struggles to turn dates from the vertical to the horizontal,
37:45so the experts want to see if they can teach him how.
37:49Coming out of this and feeling more confident is why I'm doing it.
37:53And let's get a little closer.
37:56And just so our hands are touching.
38:00Your job is to stay present with the touch.
38:03How do I make the first move, the first physical move?
38:05Because that's quite a big step and something you always worry about.
38:07If there is a moment that you feel a connection,
38:10but you might just look at her and be like,
38:13you're so cute.
38:16You know?
38:19That?
38:20Yeah.
38:21Yeah, it has to feel like it's time though.
38:24Naturally.
38:25Yeah.
38:25When you're confident, that's one of the most important things.
38:31With the basics covered, Ben takes the giant leap to the bed.
38:39That's nice.
38:46That's really nice, Ben.
38:51Yeah.
38:53Slowly, Ben's confidence seems to be rising.
39:05And whatever you do, don't try to get it right.
39:08There's no getting it right.
39:09There's only exploring.
39:15Squeeze me if that helps you to feel more of me.
39:21Yeah.
39:28See you soon.
39:29What I found most helpful is that she can help me get out of my head
39:33and get more in the moment.
39:35Yeah, I just feel like I'm a lot more confident going into these sort of situations now.
39:41After Ben's confidence boost,
39:47the whole group get themselves ready for date night.
39:51This feels a bigger deal than I thought it was going to be.
39:54Ooh, a tie.
39:55You're looking good, baby.
39:56Yeah.
39:57You all look good.
39:58Yeah, who knew virgins could be so sexy?
40:05Ooh, lovely.
40:07The experts have paired them up ready to test their date skills.
40:10This is nice.
40:11This is nice.
40:12Ladies first.
40:14So kind.
40:16And they've hit the island's most romantic spot.
40:19There you go, my lady.
40:20Thank you very much.
40:22You look lovely.
40:23Oh, thank you.
40:24I was worried I'd be overdressed and I was like...
40:26I was worried about the same thing.
40:28Having come out as gay, Taylor's dating expert, Aisha,
40:32giving Ben the chance to carry on where he left off with Joy.
40:36How have you been since we last met?
40:39Yeah, fine.
40:40Waiting for you.
40:41You're late.
40:43I hope this is water.
40:45So do I, actually.
40:46Cheers.
40:47As they sit down to chat up...
40:50Nice to meet you.
40:51Nice to meet you.
40:52...they must remember Celeste and Danielle's three steps of dating.
40:57I wanted to know, actually, what's it like in Glasgow?
41:00Is it just full of, like, Frankie Boyle posters?
41:03Yeah.
41:03He's, like, actually, like, our mascot.
41:09What state did you grow up in?
41:10Florida.
41:11Oh, Florida.
41:12I would never have guessed.
41:13Really?
41:14Apparently, Florida people are crazy.
41:15Does that mean you're crazy?
41:18I think I am a little.
41:20We may be about to get rained on.
41:22You don't like getting wet?
41:24I thought that was your whole thing.
41:29I appreciate that.
41:30I appreciate you taking it sexual.
41:34Step one, giving an in-the-moment compliment.
41:38You look nice.
41:39Thanks.
41:39You look very nice.
41:40How nice?
41:40Out of 10?
41:4210.
41:44Not to say.
41:45I've seen it all, really.
41:47Short of some dolphins.
41:49I like how rosy your cheeks are.
41:52It's the one thing I hate about myself.
41:54Is it?
41:54Yeah.
41:55Oh, well, I'm glad I brought it up, then.
41:59You've got very nice earrings.
42:01You like them?
42:02Yeah.
42:02My friend made them.
42:03You've definitely got a good fashion sense.
42:05Yeah.
42:06Better than I've got.
42:07Thank you so much.
42:08All these compliments, I don't know what to do with them all.
42:12Step two is the look.
42:14I've practised the look.
42:15I've practised the look.
42:16Oh, yes.
42:17I'm going to feel my energy and I'm going to feel my energy.
42:19I'm going to turn away and look back at you.
42:20OK, we're going to turn away.
42:21OK.
42:27God damn it.
42:28Finally followed by the kiss.
42:31You're a beautiful girl.
42:32Oh, stop it.
42:33You really are.
42:34You're a beautiful guy, inside and out.
42:39But for one couple...
42:40My niece is like weight loss.
42:41I like your motivation to want to do passion training and want to help other people.
42:46I like that about you.
42:47Thanks.
42:48Their practice is perfect.
42:51You OK?
42:52I'm good.
42:53You sure?
42:54Yeah, I'm all right.
42:56Don't make you nervous?
42:57A little bit.
42:58You don't need to be nervous.
43:01I need to try and be a bit more confident with women.
43:03My family and our Hindu culture still believe in arranged marriages.
43:08I don't see that as a bad thing,
43:10but I just don't think I'd ever put myself in that position.
43:13Once I'm a lot more confident in myself,
43:15I think the type of path that I want to go down will be love marriage.
43:18But if I don't put myself out there, it definitely won't happen.
43:23Do you want to shake hands?
43:24Sure, let's do it.
43:26I'm just going to...
43:26I have cold hands, though.
43:28No, it's OK.
43:28They're OK.
43:30You have nice hands, though.
43:33You've got nice skin.
43:34I feel like I've gotten darker by being here more.
43:36To be honest, you actually have.
43:37But you're a nice colour.
43:43You OK?
43:43Yeah, I'm all right. You OK?
43:45Yeah, I'm good. I'm all good.
43:46Yeah?
43:52Look, you can tell how cold I am because I was going a bit purple.
43:54Yeah, you are going a bit purple, aren't you?
43:56Maybe you can warm them up for me.
43:58You want me to warm them up for you?
43:59Yeah.
44:00I'll give you a little peg.
44:01Yeah, go on.
44:04Beautiful.
44:05How was that?
44:06Yeah, lovely.
44:06Yeah?
44:07Good for you?
44:08Of course.
44:08Good.
44:10We got on quite well.
44:11We got on quite well.
44:12And I'm just looking forward to getting to know him more.
44:15I don't know whether it could be a bit romantic
44:18that I've never had a connection with anyone like I do with Viraj.
44:23You enjoy that?
44:24Yeah.
44:26I'm probably running for it.
44:26Oh, shh.
44:28That was awkward.
44:30I feel really great.
44:31I feel confident.
44:32And I feel like I've pushed outside a massive barrier with me with going on dates.
44:36She's just an amazing girl.
44:38And I'm really glad that I was with her for that date.
44:41You want to hold my hand?
44:42We'll make it like an official date.
44:48And with that, it's time to celebrate the end of another phase of the cast.
44:56Are you feeling confident?
44:57Yes.
45:00My confidence has definitely grown over the last few days.
45:02I've kind of been on a journey in terms of my gender.
45:06I'm not quite sure who I am, but I know at least I'm Tom.
45:11Cheers!
45:14Over the last few days, my confidence has skyrocketed so much more than I thought it ever would.
45:20And I'm really looking forward to where the journey may take me next.
45:25It's so exciting and it's so nice to feel like these new feelings that I'm feeling.
45:29Now that I'm kind of, I know myself a bit better,
45:32the fear is gone.
45:33So I'm hoping I can progress faster now that I'm not being held back by my own fear.
45:38Tomorrow, we are taking you to the next level.
45:42Oh my god.
45:43Are you ready?
45:47We've come a long journey together and you never know what's coming next.
45:51I just hope we don't go in tomorrow and they're all naked or something.
45:53That'd be quite scary.
45:57Next time...
45:57So this is my buddy.
45:59For fuck's sake.
46:00The call centre's its toughest phase yet.
46:03We're going to invite you one by one to show yourself out.
46:08Do you know what? YOLO.
46:14And the one-on-ones.
46:15What's the feeling in your body, the sensation of it?
46:18Disgusting.
46:19Push the virgins further than ever before.
46:22Just like explore.
46:28So altogether different explorations here tomorrow 9pm as New Virgin Island continues.
46:32But if you just can't wait, the next episode's laid bare and ready to stream right now.
46:36Over on E4 next, it's peck-and-tell season in south-west London.
46:40But when Sam Prince and Arman lock eyes,
46:42it's going to get very icy and fresh drama that's made in Chelsea.
Recommended
47:00
47:10
47:01
21:58
47:00
23:11
1:59:59
1:02:49
46:57