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00:0012 virgins have travelled to a paradise island to take part in a unique experiment.
00:13The word virgin, people see it as a joke. It's quite obsessing.
00:20I'm 23, still a virgin. I feel like there's something wrong with me.
00:25In a world where sex is everywhere.
00:28Thank God.
00:28Terrified, absolutely terrified.
00:31The truth is surprising. There are more adult virgins than ever.
00:36Being a young adult in this day and age, it's difficult.
00:39Social media.
00:40Dating apps.
00:41Influencers.
00:41TV shows.
00:42Porn.
00:43Porn.
00:43Porn.
00:44Porn is everywhere.
00:45Are you self-conscious about our genitals touching each other?
00:48Now?
00:49Yeah.
00:51This radical retreat is offering a very hands-on solution.
00:55Oh, damn.
00:57She's a miracle worker.
00:59Oh, God, yes.
01:00Overseen by a group of experts.
01:02Yeah, like that?
01:04I like that.
01:05Ready to do anything to help Britain's virgins.
01:09There's the clitoris. Do you have any questions?
01:13Lose the one thing.
01:16Don't make me nervous.
01:17They feel is holding them back.
01:19I would love to have sex with you.
01:21I do feel like there's a barrier between me and sex.
01:23I want to lose my virginity. It's now or never.
01:28But when the moment arrives.
01:30Would you like to move to bed?
01:32Who will be ready?
01:35I just don't want anyone to touch me.
01:37To go all the way.
01:41You're so sexy.
01:43Oh, God.
01:50In the first phase of the course,
01:52the virgins tried to overcome the shame of sexual failure.
01:56I didn't handle the rejection too well.
01:58And started to express their sexual desires.
02:02She pushed me down and I'd probably do something and borrow sex.
02:05I don't know what I'm doing.
02:07Jason arrived on the island barely able to shake hands.
02:10Oh, hello.
02:11Welcome.
02:13He panicked when things got touchy-feely.
02:16Feels too intimate.
02:17A little overwhelming.
02:19Yeah.
02:21But Zach leapt ahead.
02:23I would like to go all the way.
02:25I would love to have sex with you.
02:27And there were early signs of attraction.
02:30I think you're really pretty.
02:32Do you think Ben likes me?
02:35Now things are set to escalate with the next phase of the course.
02:41Erotic touch.
02:44Nothing happens if you're not good at touching.
02:46That's what creates all of the pleasure and sensation in our body.
02:49And that's eventually what gets us to orgasm.
03:08Hello, hello.
03:09Hello.
03:11How's the sunburn?
03:13It's the morning of day three on Virgin Island.
03:17Have you guys read your letters?
03:18I'll open you up.
03:19No.
03:19OK, what is this?
03:21And time for the group to discover what's in store for them over the next two days.
03:27Oh, God.
03:29The next phase of the course is all about touch.
03:35Great.
03:37I mean, I'm fine with, like, friendly touch.
03:39But as soon as it becomes, like, an intimate touch,
03:42I think it'll be much more difficult for me.
03:47I feel sick.
03:49Biggest fear is touch.
03:50Sexual touching, I've never done it.
03:52Like, no, that's not me.
03:58God.
03:58Touch.
03:59Yeah, that's really hard for me.
04:03Yeah, nervous.
04:07God knows what they have planned.
04:09I have no idea.
04:11Probably just outright sex to start off with, won't it?
04:16For this group, the idea of intimate touch is terrifying.
04:20Oh, here we go.
04:21Here we go.
04:22But now it's time to face their fears.
04:25Hello.
04:26Welcome.
04:27Good morning.
04:28Oh, my God, what are we doing?
04:30Why is there a bed in this room?
04:32I imagine all of them will be quite anxious,
04:34but you can't learn how to give and receive pleasure by just talking about it.
04:38You have to practice.
04:42So this first exercise today is called touching for your own pleasure.
04:47One of the problems is if you touch being worried about the other person
04:50and thinking, oh, are they OK?
04:52Am I doing it right?
04:53Then you get all performance anxiety in your head.
04:56Until you actually feel the sensation of touching for your own pleasure,
05:00you can't get to that next level.
05:02It's like the first step.
05:04All right, who's ready to touch for your own pleasure?
05:19In my childhood, my family, we were never huggers.
05:22I hated being hugged.
05:23I just never liked it, never have.
05:25I'm not an intimate person at all.
05:27In my adult life, never kissed anyone.
05:28But I'd like to be the opposite.
05:32I'll pop on there.
05:33OK.
05:34The end goal is to actually try and lose my virginity
05:36and find a girlfriend, be more intimate.
05:39Can I pull it off?
05:40Can I do this?
05:42See if you can take a deep breath down into your belly
05:45and connect your body with your hands.
05:48Think of your hands as like, I'm going to get pleasure out of her arms.
05:53You know what I mean?
05:53Yeah.
05:54For yourself.
05:54Wank off your...
05:55I'm sorry.
05:56I wank off your arm.
05:56Sorry, do you know what I mean?
05:59I'm sorry.
06:00See if you can breathe a little bit while you do it,
06:04so that you actually feel the sensations.
06:21For Jason, just a few seconds of touch is all he can handle.
06:26But Celeste isn't finished with him yet.
06:29When I'm touching you, I just want you to see, like, let yourself take it.
06:33Feel it.
06:33Yeah, just feel it.
06:47That's good.
06:47Yeah.
06:48Good work.
06:52Good on you, mate, honestly.
06:54Yeah, it's great.
06:55One cloud nine.
06:57OK, who's next?
06:59Me.
07:01Encouraged by Jason's example, the others get touchy too.
07:07Just explore the sensations in your hands.
07:16See if you can take a deep breath down into your belly
07:18and connect your body with your hands.
07:25Do you feel the difference there?
07:27Yes, that was amazing.
07:29Good work.
07:32The session seems to be going well,
07:35so Celeste and Danielle decide to turn up the heat.
07:38Something that helps touch get even better is sexual energy.
07:44I want to invite Ben and Holly to demonstrate.
07:47Oh, God.
07:4930-year-old Ben is the oldest in the group
07:51and has had more opportunities to get intimate than any of the others.
07:56Over the last 10 years, I've been on dates of about 40 different women,
08:00mostly women I've met on just dating apps.
08:02Some it's just been one date,
08:04up to and including an ex-girlfriend of mine
08:07who was probably about, you know, 15-plus dates.
08:09We did sort of try making out a couple of times,
08:12but I wasn't comfortable doing stuff, so we hit a brick wall.
08:15You know, what I really needed is someone to teach me this stuff.
08:18I'm not very good with the energy mumbo-jumbo,
08:21so you have to guide me through.
08:23I'll help you, OK?
08:24Just remember a moment that you felt kind of excited about someone
08:28or excited about an experience.
08:31Yeah?
08:32You're holding a lot of tension in your mouth.
08:35Can you, like, open your mouth a little bit and then relax it?
08:40Yeah.
08:42It's OK.
08:42Play with it.
08:43You need to play with it.
08:44It's OK.
08:45Let yourself feel it.
08:46Like, oh, here you go.
08:47Did you feel the squiver?
08:51No, OK.
08:51I think it's just lack of experience and lack of success at reading social signals.
08:56You know, there's probably been occasions where I probably could have got physical
08:59or just kissed, and that would have been absolutely fine with me.
09:01In fact, they may have even wanted it, but I didn't because I can't read the signs.
09:05I don't want a woman to think I'm a creep or that I'm handsy,
09:07because that's just not me.
09:09Just let yourself enjoy Holly.
09:14Fantastic.
09:16You have very sexy energy, right?
09:19Feels good?
09:21OK.
09:21You did it.
09:22See if you want to...
09:23Good work.
09:28So, Tom, Taylor.
09:32Last up is Taylor, who, after coming out as bisexual at university,
09:37has always found the idea of intimacy with anyone agonising.
09:42Any time I've had something new in a sexual experience,
09:44it's been so overwhelmingly negative that when it comes to it,
09:48I freak out and I really don't want to do it,
09:50and I get that feeling in the pit of my stomach that makes me stop.
09:53That's why I'm here, is to, like, try to work out what it is that's holding me back
09:58and how to move forward with it,
09:59because it would be really nice to just be able to have what everyone else has.
10:05OK, so I'm going to invite you to feel into your desire, Tom.
10:14This is really good. Keep it steady.
10:17Keep it steady. It's really good.
10:21Really good. You keep it steady.
10:22I'm going to check what's with her, OK, if she can receive it.
10:25Great, that's great.
10:28I'm going to touch your belly, OK, just to help you out, sweetie, OK?
10:31Good. Let it shake.
10:33Let it cry. You're safe now, OK?
10:36You know you're safe, but your body forgot.
10:39OK.
10:41Yeah, so I'm here.
10:43Despite Danielle's reassurance,
10:45the exercise still proves too much for Taylor.
10:50Yes, you're doing great, Taylor.
10:52Yeah, let it cry.
10:53I don't know, I think that's funny.
10:55OK, sweetie, can I hug you?
10:57Yes, you did great.
10:58I'm so proud of you.
10:59Sorry.
11:01It's not a you thing.
11:03I was, like, really proud of you.
11:05OK, thank you.
11:06Really proud of you.
11:07Good work.
11:08We love you, Taylor.
11:09I don't know what's wrong with me.
11:13Yeah.
11:23For the group, the workshop has thrown up very mixed emotions.
11:28Taylor, why was the looking thing so hard for you?
11:30I think as soon as it becomes an intimate sexual thing, it's shut down.
11:36Sounds ridiculous because we're only looking at each other,
11:38but that's something I clearly need to work on.
11:41I usually run the opposite way if anyone looks at me like that.
11:43But if you're not crying, you're not doing it right.
11:45Louise, did you catch his wanking comment?
11:48Yeah.
11:50I just want to cram.
11:52I didn't, do you know what I mean?
11:54I didn't think, OK.
11:55I love that you haven't got a filter.
11:58I feel absolutely fantastic.
12:00I understand now why people like touch.
12:02I'm not just saying that, actually, it genuinely does.
12:05I can't really convey how good it feels now.
12:07How did you find the whole thing as a whole?
12:11Quite intense.
12:12Well, I had lots of fun.
12:14Yeah.
12:14When I was doing it, I did feel like,
12:16you could feel the connection, couldn't you, really?
12:18Yeah.
12:19Yeah, it's like new age mumbo-jumbo.
12:21It's a load of nonsense.
12:23I'm quite a logical person and it's just,
12:25a lot of some of that stuff, it just doesn't connect to me.
12:28Do you want me to try it and see if you can feel me?
12:30Yeah, all right.
12:32Despite his scepticism, there are some things Ben is open to trying.
12:36Hi, see you guys in a bit.
12:38Especially if it's with Charlotte.
12:41You open to receiving my energy?
12:46Yeah.
12:48See, you can feel it now.
12:50What does it feel like to you?
12:53The witching.
12:55Yeah.
12:57Many of the women here I find attractive, I mean, physically,
13:00but there's something about Charlotte.
13:01I really like her and it's just, I like how we connect.
13:05I mean, I don't know if it's mutual or not,
13:07but she's a very confident person
13:09and she's just got that thing about her.
13:12I feel like I'm doing voyeurism.
13:14Just watching.
13:15You enjoying that?
13:16No.
13:17I'm going to walk away, right?
13:23Sorry.
13:24Yeah.
13:33They're jumping in.
13:36Mirage, you don't have much respect to have for you right now.
13:39Woo!
13:40Mirage is in.
13:45It's day one of the touch phase of the course
13:47and after an intense morning, a chance for the group to unwind.
13:52Who's your celebrity crush?
13:54I have quite a lot of, like, female celebrities.
13:56I like Charlize Theron.
13:57She's just stunning.
13:59I like Henry Cavill, but not as Superman.
14:01I like him as The Witcher.
14:02I really like Henry Cavill because he's really nerdy as well.
14:05Mm-hmm.
14:08What do you think when you hear virgin?
14:12Because for me, shame, failure, undesirable, weird.
14:18Yes, definitely.
14:20Mostly negative connotations.
14:22Yeah.
14:24A lot of people call me a virgin and it does feel like an insult.
14:26I know it's not.
14:27It's a matter of fact,
14:30but it does feel like an insult when someone says it to you.
14:34It makes me feel weird.
14:35I'm like, a lot of people younger than me know more about sex than I do,
14:39but I'm hoping to change that.
14:45Jason's feelings about his lack of sexual experience
14:48haven't gone unnoticed by the experts.
14:51Any time there was an increase in intensity,
14:54he would resort to humour
14:56so that he could distract himself from what he was feeling.
14:59We're going to work on that today,
15:00actually staying with the breath
15:02as sensations rise.
15:03Yeah, receiving is a huge thing for him.
15:07Now, the experts want to build Jason's confidence
15:11and Joy has a plan to help him with his horror of hugging.
15:18Hello again.
15:18Hey, come on in.
15:21And have a seat.
15:23Excellent.
15:26Oh, what is it that happens when you're in a hug?
15:30Just feels weird, like alien to me.
15:33When I see people hugging, it just freaks me out.
15:36I don't know why.
15:37So we want to work towards a hug that feels really good.
15:40Yeah.
15:42So let's stand here because it's a little more even.
15:46I'm going to touch your arm first.
15:48OK.
15:50If you want it.
15:50Yeah, go ahead.
15:55And you feel me and you can put your hand on my arm.
15:59Yeah.
15:59If you'd like.
16:05I feel sick.
16:06No, no, no, bad way.
16:07I feel like a good way, like British slang.
16:11As usual, Jason tries to mask his awkwardness with humour.
16:15I'm quite a boy, I feel like.
16:18You're moving behind yourself, but I'm like, yeah.
16:20I just want you to receive.
16:22OK.
16:22So I can get a sense of what it feels like to be in this moment.
16:27But Joy perseveres.
16:29Yeah, it's really nice.
16:34Before escalating intimacy.
16:37Can I come even closer?
16:38If you want to.
16:39Yeah.
16:40Like that.
16:42Yeah, you can move like that by just staying connected with your breath.
16:47So you don't lose that sense of the moment.
16:51Yeah, can I come even closer still?
17:01OK.
17:02I can get closer.
17:02Yeah.
17:04OK.
17:06I can touch your neck.
17:16Feels good.
17:22Would you like to do a hug?
17:25Why not?
17:26Let's do it.
17:26Yeah, let's do it.
17:36How is this?
17:38Yeah, awesome.
17:40Yeah, cool, yeah.
17:49See ya.
17:52Oh, that was great.
17:55After the session, Jason's confidence is sky high.
18:00And that's not the only thing that's up.
18:02What happened?
18:03So I was standing like this, because as much as I was like that, I had a boner.
18:10That's really good, dude.
18:11I'm getting there.
18:12I'm getting there.
18:15I'm in a really great mood.
18:16I feel like I'm glowing.
18:17I didn't think I'd do this.
18:19I'm really proud of myself.
18:20On this page, I'll be a sex god.
18:23Yeah, we're going to leave here.
18:24Absolutely.
18:25Professionally trained sex demon.
18:30While Jason's conquering new heights.
18:32I haven't really gotten much out of mine yet.
18:34I just feel like I'm letting the team down.
18:36Taylor's still struggling.
18:39After crying in this morning's workshop,
18:41the experts feel there may be more to Taylor's tears than meets the eye.
18:46Even though she was being emotional,
18:48she wasn't actually letting go and going into her emotion.
18:52I feel like she's hiding, and that's probably been
18:54a survival tactic that has worked really well for her.
18:58Yeah, she is so scared.
19:03Danielle wants to discover what makes Taylor so anxious about intimacy.
19:12So how do you feel with guys as opposed to women or girls?
19:17They're a lot scarier.
19:18Do you ever see someone very chiseled and you're like,
19:21I just want to touch their muscle?
19:22I don't know.
19:23I don't know.
19:24I don't think so.
19:25I like hair.
19:26Like, I'm always like, I want to touch people's hair.
19:28Like, that interests me because it's soft.
19:30But I'm not like, I don't want to touch muscle.
19:32I don't prefer it.
19:35When I was in secondary school,
19:37I felt the shift into realising that maybe
19:40I wasn't exactly the same as all the girls.
19:43But being gay was like the worst thing.
19:46So while I'm still in the process of, like,
19:48working out what I want,
19:49all of these opportunities are passing me by.
19:52It just makes me feel a bit rubbish.
19:58Do you have women lovers or...?
20:01I had one really negative experience.
20:03She got annoyed at me that I wasn't enjoying myself.
20:06She did stop, but she seemed really disappointed
20:07and she was, like, upset with me.
20:09And it kind of ruined that friendship.
20:12Yeah.
20:13I don't see myself as desirable.
20:16Right.
20:17Because I am a lot.
20:19What are you...? Oh, OK.
20:21Now we're getting there, my love.
20:23OK.
20:24So there's a part of you that feels
20:27that people wouldn't want to be with you.
20:30Yeah. Yeah.
20:33I get told a lot of the time that I'm loud.
20:37And I'm tall and I take up a lot of space and...
20:40Yeah.
20:42Yeah.
20:44And that's what makes you so special and beautiful.
20:50Oh, baby.
20:52Oh, sweetie pie.
20:55Yeah.
20:57Your feelings are so great, sweetheart.
21:04Just talking about my experiences always makes me upset.
21:08But I've had quite a few negative experiences
21:11and the ones that I need to talk about for this to work.
21:16But I've had a breakthrough, I think.
21:19Thank you very much. Bye.
21:21I left happier than I went in.
21:25And forward is always good, isn't it?
21:27So as long as I'm going forward, I'm happy.
21:35Are you nervous?
21:36No.
21:37I mean, other than falling off the cliff, yes.
21:41It's late afternoon on Virgin Island.
21:45Jesus.
21:46Yeah, this is quite steep.
21:48And Celeste and Danielle have hatched a plan to push the group further.
21:51All right, let's get a mat down.
21:53We want them to start just getting comfortable with any kind of touch.
21:57Massage is something that a lot of people have experienced.
21:59I'm hoping maybe they'll take off a piece of clothing
22:02to start to feel more relaxed around touch and maybe, you know, eventually nudity.
22:08Are you taking your top off or...?
22:09Go on, I'll, like, lift it up for you.
22:11Through massage, the experts can assess
22:13how comfortable the group are with exposing their bodies.
22:18Is that cool?
22:19A little bit, yeah.
22:20And touching each other for pleasure.
22:24You're very good at this.
22:27I have my skills.
22:28All of them end with a zed.
22:31Where'd you learn it?
22:32My family does them.
22:34We grew up giving each other massages.
22:37You're shaking a bit.
22:37You sure it's all right?
22:38No, no, I'm fine.
22:39No, I'm fine.
22:40I think I'm actually shaking.
22:41You're like this.
22:42Relax, relax.
22:43Yeah, I need to be more loosey-goosey.
22:46While uptight Ben struggles to relax...
22:48I'll whack this off.
22:50...the experts are keen for Jason to build on his growing confidence around touch
22:54with the island's most outspoken virgin, Charlotte.
22:59How's this?
23:00It's fine.
23:01Yeah?
23:01It just feels, I don't know, weird, but in a nice way.
23:05Why do you have these horrible stretch marks?
23:07I don't know, right?
23:09It's just a hole, did you?
23:10Well, it's just, it looks painful.
23:12It looks like you got scratched.
23:12You just see my arse?
23:13There's more on my arse.
23:15Okay.
23:18I'm bored now.
23:19Yeah, don't hold my finger.
23:19Yeah, I'm bored now.
23:22Right, which arm first?
23:24This one.
23:25This one?
23:25Yes.
23:27Okay.
23:28Okay, why are you focused in one area?
23:30You need to go up.
23:31See, okay, do you want me to show you on you?
23:34No, let's go.
23:35I'll put more oil on, whack it on.
23:37For Jason, intimacy with another member of the group
23:41is proving tougher than with an expert.
23:44More thumb, more movement.
23:47You need to be doing the whole arm.
23:49Like that, how about that?
23:50Like that, like it's all of it.
23:52Jesus Christ, what are you doing?
23:53It's like wanking off your arm, like that.
23:56That's how you do it, but slower.
23:58Okay, now I definitely want you to stop.
24:00Hello, hello.
24:01How was the monsieur?
24:05Oh.
24:10So did you not like it?
24:11That was a disaster.
24:12I wiped off my shirt and everything.
24:15Eww, gross stretch mark, eww.
24:16I was like, oh, all right.
24:18Fucking nightmare.
24:22Maybe not being berated a lot would have felt nice.
24:26I don't know, I don't know.
24:27I don't know.
24:28Maybe not being berated a lot would have felt nice.
24:32I've always hated my body,
24:33especially my back and the stretch marks.
24:36I know it's a little thing, but for me, it's quite big.
24:42Although Jason's suffering from overexposure to Charlotte...
24:45These yours?
24:46Yes.
24:48You've already tried them on.
24:50...Ben can't get enough of her.
24:55I always find I end up getting very sleepy in the summer
24:57because of the tablets I take.
24:59I'm sorry to mention, I always get very sleepy in the summer
25:01because of all the hay fever tablets.
25:03They're drowsy ones.
25:05The big question now is, is the feeling mutual?
25:10How many stumps you can get on there, anyway?
25:11Oh, like, I have 1,070.
25:15Pretty good.
25:15Yeah.
25:19I mean, it's so great that we've gotten to know each other
25:23and that we can, you know, we feel comfortable around each other,
25:26but I'm not interested.
25:31And so it's going to be tricky.
25:33You know, this is my friend.
25:35This is someone I'm going to have breakfast with tomorrow
25:38and I'm going to have to be cruel to be kind
25:41and tell him that I'm not interested.
25:56Breakfast, breakfast, breakfast.
25:59Morning.
26:00Morning, guys.
26:01You all right? Hello.
26:01I'm good.
26:02Hey, hey.
26:02You all right?
26:03Yeah, I'm good, thank you.
26:04You going to sleep?
26:05So-so.
26:07It's day two of the touch phase
26:09and the sessions are about to intensify.
26:12Really, in order to have amazing sex, you need to touch.
26:16You won't be able to make any moves,
26:18you won't be able to seduce someone.
26:19If you're feeling anxious and worried
26:21that everything that you're doing is wrong,
26:23a lot of it is going to come from the touch.
26:26A lot of people, they're holding back
26:27all of those animal instincts.
26:29They just need to open up.
26:33I think it's one of those things
26:34where you've got to just keep on going
26:37and try and get yourself to the next step,
26:39ideally without crying.
26:41But we'll see.
26:43I'm dreading the group activity.
26:45It's just getting more intimate with touch.
26:48I feel nervous.
26:49After yesterday's massage catastrophe.
26:53I'm not sure what's going to happen next for me.
26:54Just being desired, that's the key thing for me.
26:56That's one of my sort of issues,
26:57is being wanted and desired,
26:59and I don't think I've had that a lot.
27:01But just, you know, see what happens
27:02and go with it, I guess.
27:08Let's get in first on the back row.
27:09Yes.
27:10My plan, exactly.
27:13Hello.
27:13Hello.
27:14Welcome back.
27:15Welcome back.
27:16Hello.
27:17Hi, hi.
27:17Oh, God, here's our therapist.
27:24So today, we're going to go much deeper into touch
27:27and work on disinhibition.
27:30And that means letting out a little bit more
27:32of your wildness, a little bit more of your inner animal.
27:35Oh, God.
27:37We are wired for sex, right?
27:39We're wired to go after it.
27:41And yet society says, shame, shame, shame.
27:43And we just, you know, and we shut down.
27:45And the animal game helps people feel the passion
27:48and desire in their body.
27:54So I know, Tom, that you've taken some acting classes.
27:58So I'm wondering if you would be willing to demo with me.
28:01Yeah, sure.
28:05So let's get on our hands and knees.
28:07Why don't you just start to feel your senses?
28:11We close our eyes, and we start to feel
28:13this animal inside of us.
28:15And we let that animal go after the other person,
28:18actually letting it move, letting it out in our body.
28:24So
28:39Tom may be finding his wild side.
28:44But for the rest of the group, it's too much to bear.
28:54So
29:12that was so fun.
29:13That was a lot of fun to be fair.
29:16I enjoyed that.
29:19I felt like a pervert.
29:20It was very Jungle Book, and I was feeling very Downton Abbey.
29:25And I was like, it's lovely, like they're really enjoying it,
29:27but also...
29:31So someone want to try it?
29:39Someone wants maybe 80% to try it.
29:43The whole role play animal thing just really, like, freaks me out.
29:46Yeah, yeah.
29:49Yeah.
29:51Yay!
29:55Okay, does someone want to try it with Charlotte?
30:03Yeah, I'll do it.
30:05Amazing.
30:11You can change your mind.
30:12Yeah, I wouldn't do it, it's fine.
30:14Yeah, okay.
30:15Do you want to do it with Charlotte?
30:16Do you want me to do it with you?
30:17Okay.
30:19Is that good?
30:20Yeah.
30:24I've just always felt like I'm ugly and repulsive in some way.
30:27And I know that objectively I'm not, but I was bullied in school,
30:30and I think the dating experience sort of just reinforced that.
30:34I'm just not that good looking.
30:35Why would any girl be interested in me?
30:38So I struggled to sort of initiate, you know, contact or intimacy.
30:45And find a place on the rug.
30:48Real life is awkward, unfortunately.
30:51And you simply, you know, you just move on.
30:52You know, that's how it goes.
30:54And I'm just not very good at that.
30:57Start to notice that there's another animal here with you.
31:18Oh.
31:26Men are expected to make that first move.
31:29And I think for guys like me who just struggle with that,
31:31making the move and reading the signs, it's very hard.
31:45Oh.
31:48That's my happy hour.
31:50This is so hot.
31:55Did you feel any arousal? I'm curious.
31:57Yeah, I think so, yeah.
31:58Yes.
32:07Actually, like a zoo animal.
32:08That was not for me.
32:09Oh god, that was just...
32:11It was a bit rough.
32:12That was cringe.
32:13I find it interesting that it's bringing up saying,
32:15oh, you've done drama, so you've done this sort of stuff.
32:17Like, I'm not sure I've gone quite that far in drama, to be fair.
32:22How did you feel a bit at all?
32:24I flipped on an instructor.
32:27I noticed, like I could hear people like talking and giggling.
32:30I was like, oh, you know.
32:31And I had to kind of try to block that out.
32:34It was like watching a porno.
32:35I felt like a proper pervert.
32:37Were you getting turned on?
32:38No.
32:40I thought you'd be one of the first ones up, Jason.
32:41No, absolutely hated that.
32:44In the back of my head, I had a bit of trepidation about,
32:47a bit of fear about it.
32:48So I didn't want to do that.
32:50Jason's massage experience has set him back,
32:53and the experts have sensed that something's changed.
32:57Jason, he's been so gung-ho,
32:58and I thought he would be gung-ho today,
33:00but he was way more reserved.
33:03We did, in our session, have very close body-on-body,
33:07but he wasn't able to then move the energy
33:10into something more sexual.
33:12Sexual, OK, so maybe I can build on that, yeah.
33:17Celeste decides Jason needs to put his massage fiasco behind him
33:21in a one-on-one session to boost his sexual self-belief.
33:25The only person I've had sexual experience with
33:27is my right hand.
33:29I'd love to have more confidence.
33:30I'd love to be able to be intimate.
33:32Yeah, that's my goal.
33:34To reach his goal,
33:35Celeste wants to try a different approach
33:38to unleash his inner animal.
33:41So we had the animal game and the touching.
33:43We did.
33:45Seemed like the animal game was not doing it.
33:47Not my cup of tea, no.
33:48So I was thinking,
33:49maybe trying some different connection positions
33:52to build confidence.
33:54Yeah.
33:54Maybe you, like, lying down and us, like, touching each other.
33:58I'm here to try new things, so yeah.
34:00Well, let's try it.
34:01So you can lie down, like, here.
34:02On my back or...
34:03Yeah, lie down on your back,
34:04like, with your head down there.
34:06I'm going to, like, move in here.
34:08Maybe I'll take off my glasses.
34:12See if you can, like, just connect with your sexy energy.
34:16If you feel an urge to touch back,
34:19feel free, okay?
34:21And there's, like, a little bit of intensity
34:23that we're going to kind of try to build between us.
34:39Yeah.
34:49And you can touch my breath.
34:51I can touch your breath.
34:52You can.
34:58Yeah.
35:01As his confidence builds...
35:03I'm so cringed, it was good.
35:05Celeste makes things harder.
35:07Now I want you to see if you can take your energy seriously now
35:10and look at me, like, I want to fuck you, kind of.
35:13All right, I'm good.
35:15Okay, I'm sorry.
35:30So good.
35:30It's so good.
35:34Yes.
35:50You're doing so good.
35:56Do you need a little break for you, dude?
35:57I feel a bit hot right now.
35:58Do you need a little break?
35:59Okay.
36:01It's a lot.
36:03It's amazing.
36:05It's a lot different than hugging.
36:10A lot different than hugging.
36:17That is your inner animal.
36:19When you take your desire seriously, it's very compelling.
36:26Whoa.
36:27Whoa.
36:28Okay, I'll see you soon.
36:30Yeah, see you soon.
36:31Have a lovely day.
36:31You too.
36:32Bye.
36:39I'm feeling incredible.
36:41Absolutely incredible.
36:42She's a miracle worker.
36:43I was a virgin.
36:44Well, I am a virgin still, but I'm like a different virgin now.
36:47I'm closer to losing it.
36:51Ben.
36:52How did it go?
36:53I kissed her on the cheeks.
36:55You're a cloud nine, are you?
36:57I'm lying down, yeah, and I'm there cupping her breasts, squeezing her.
37:02How did that feel?
37:03Great.
37:04Felt all glowy, like woohoo.
37:06I feel like Jason is a superstar.
37:10I cannot believe how much he has blossomed today.
37:13It is insane.
37:16He brought his sexual energy, eye contact.
37:19He really got what sex is all about.
37:23Can you dance him?
37:28We're like the Tupacs, I think.
37:30Oh, yeah.
37:34Oh, I smell a banana.
37:39The touch phase of the course is drawing to a close.
37:42Ooh, whipped cream, chocolate.
37:44Oh, there's strawberry laces.
37:45Do you like strawberry laces?
37:46I do like strawberry laces, yeah.
37:48And the group have been served up a tasty exercise.
37:51Smallish bite, I'm not going to put it in too much.
37:53There's something very sensual about feeding each other.
37:57You know, the experience of putting food into someone's mouth,
38:00especially if you deal with like a little bit of lurtatiousness.
38:04When you laugh, I know where your face is and I can slap it.
38:09Technically, this will be the first act of penetration,
38:12so I'm very curious how they put objects inside one another.
38:18Put the whole strawberry in.
38:21Open wide.
38:22I'm not opening my mouth wide.
38:24You can trust me, you can trust me.
38:26Many of the group are throwing themselves in.
38:29You dropped it, man.
38:31Have you ever fed someone before?
38:33No.
38:34No.
38:34You're the first person.
38:35But not everyone is feeling fruity.
38:40I feel like this is probably not the most romantic.
38:43No.
38:44No.
38:48So far on the course, it's Ben and Taylor who are holding back the most.
38:52So the experts want to see if they can help, starting with Ben.
38:56The animal game was really hard for Ben.
38:59When he volunteered to help out Charlotte and she said no, that she didn't want that,
39:05he was very sad.
39:06Yeah, he needs to understand rejection and like how you survive that as a man dating women.
39:12After Celeste's breakthrough with Jason, she wants to help Ben find his sexy side.
39:18But spontaneity is not his strong point.
39:21I'm quite a logical person.
39:22I like to think things, like to plan for things.
39:24Probably the best example, and this is going to sound quite sad, but it's true.
39:28I've got a spreadsheet on my PC at home of just like every date I've been on.
39:31I see dating in the same way a football manager would see their team.
39:35I like to analyse things and see what I can do better.
39:40So can Ben Dietschy's spreadsheet approach to sex with some hands-on practice?
39:46I think if you learn how to hold a little bit more flirtatious energy, like...
39:53Yeah.
39:54I'm going to do it now with you for a second, okay, and show you what I mean.
39:59I'm really enjoying being here with you.
40:01So that's what I would do to them.
40:03Yeah.
40:04So as you talk to me, just at some point when you're talking, give me a touch while you're
40:09talking.
40:10I mean, this is quite crude, but you are sort of my type, so it's sort of like, yeah.
40:14That's not crude, that's a compliment.
40:15Yeah.
40:16I mean, you're quite attractive, so I mean, you know.
40:18I usually go for the hair actually sometimes.
40:20Yeah?
40:21Yeah, so it's sort of, I do that and yeah, it's...
40:24That's actually my total weakness.
40:27Really?
40:27Yeah, but I like it really, really slow, like...
40:38And I feel like very precious.
40:39Yeah.
40:40Yeah.
40:41So like...
40:49And I think even if you go a little bit slower, so then it feels more like sensual.
40:57Hmm.
40:59I do feel tingly when you do that.
41:03Yeah, well, maybe I'm better than I thought I was, but...
41:07You know, it's not something I have sort of conscious control over, just sort of, you
41:11know.
41:11That's what's good about it is I feel like you're touching me just because you desire
41:15me and you want to touch me, not like you're thinking about it and that's hot.
41:20Yeah.
41:22By losing himself in the moment, Ben's gaining a flair for the physical.
41:27If you just want to like come in and like kiss me on the cheek, you don't have to, but
41:31you can.
41:34Yeah.
41:38Oh my goodness, what?
41:41Look at you.
41:45Makes me want to touch you back.
41:57Wow.
42:00You don't realise how much of a confidence booster this is.
42:03So now I'm doing it good.
42:05It's really great.
42:07You're getting better every time.
42:17It's baby steps, but Ben's session has been a success.
42:20Now the experts want to get to the bottom of what's troubling Taylor.
42:25Furthest I've ever gone with a boy is I met a nice guy, he was very attractive and very
42:32lovely.
42:33Invited him back and I was like, right, you can do this.
42:36I'd convinced myself I was going to lose my virginity, but I freaked out, I hit that
42:42invisible barrier and I was just like, nope, I can't do it, that's it, I can't, and he
42:47left.
42:47And then I just felt so bad and disappointed in myself and like I'd let him down because
42:53I couldn't follow through.
42:55To clarify her thinking, the experts want to pair her with male surrogate partner therapist
43:01Andre.
43:04So my role in this is to basically stand in as what could be a potential partner or a
43:12potential lover.
43:14And I'm here to support you through the emotion, the communication, transparency.
43:19Surrogate partners help by forming a therapeutic relationship, supported by a clinical therapist.
43:25I will leave the two of you to enjoy your time together.
43:29Thank you very much.
43:30I'll see you soon.
43:31Take care.
43:41I'm scared.
43:44Are you sorry?
43:46It's okay.
43:47I've got a lot of emotions about this whole thing and they're kind of trickling into
43:51everything.
43:51There's nothing to be sorry about in displaying emotion.
43:57So what could potentially be like a desired like goal or outcome?
44:03Less of this.
44:04Okay, then we're on the right track.
44:07Step on less of this and just feel more comfortable like in a situation where I feel like I need
44:13time.
44:14It comes to a situation, sorry, where like sex is on the table.
44:19I freeze up and I panic.
44:21I just don't want anyone to touch me or anything like that because I just feel wrong.
44:27Okay.
44:29Well, that is exactly why I'm here and we can practice with one another.
44:35We can explore the things that you came here to explore.
44:41Oh, God.
44:48Just want to see how you're feeling.
44:51It feels like there's like a knot in my throat.
44:55So it's generally like uncomfortable kind of a feeling.
44:58Okay.
45:01Is there anything I can brag about?
45:02Is there anything I can provide for you?
45:04Do you like a hug?
45:05No, thank you.
45:06Okay.
45:12The therapy that was explained to me terrifies me down to the very depths of my core.
45:17Well, if you'd like, you're welcome to head on out whenever you're ready.
45:21Okay, thank you very much.
45:22You're very welcome.
45:25I don't know if I've made any actual progress because I just kind of get a bit weepy.
45:29I really liked Andre and he was really lovely and I'd love to be his friend,
45:33but I'm trying to work out why I'm so panicked.
45:37I think it scares me, the fact that he's a man.
45:45Sorry.
45:47Can I just have one minute?
45:52I think I'm upset about more things than I let on.
46:00Next time...
46:02Jason gets back in the groove.
46:04Just feel the pleasure.
46:08Taylor tries a fresh approach.
46:10I just feel such a relief to not feel scared at all.
46:13This is my body.
46:15And Emma reveals a secret.
46:17Because you're so stronger than you think and wiser than you know.
46:21As Island dates.
46:24Does that make you nervous?
46:25A little bit.
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