- 5/20/2025
Virgin Island - Season 1 Episode 4
#ShowMovies
#ShowMovies
Category
😹
FunTranscript
00:00The word virgin, people see it as a joke, it's quite obsessing.
00:13In a world where sex is everywhere, the truth is surprising, there are more adult virgins
00:20than ever.
00:21Being a young adult in this day and age, it's difficult.
00:25Social media.
00:26Dating apps.
00:27TV shows.
00:28Porn.
00:29It's everywhere.
00:30Are you self-conscious about our genitals touching each other?
00:33Now?
00:34Yeah.
00:35At this radical retreat, intimacy experts are offering a very hands-on solution.
00:42She's a miracle worker.
00:43Woohoo!
00:44Like that?
00:45I like that.
00:46To help Britain's virgins lose the one thing they feel is holding them back.
00:54I want to lose my virginity.
00:56It's now or never.
00:59But when the moment arrives...
01:01Would you like to move to bed?
01:04Who will be ready...
01:05I just don't want anyone to touch me.
01:08To go all... the way.
01:15Yes.
01:18Yes.
01:21Over the last few days on Virgin Island...
01:25I'm definitely gay.
01:27No, thank you.
01:29That felt really good.
01:30Yeah!
01:31Revelations...
01:32This is my pussy.
01:33..led to breakthroughs.
01:34Right now, I feel on top of the world.
01:35Charlotte's bravado...
01:36Why do you have these horrible stretch marks?
01:37I can't say horrible, did you?
01:38..has caused issues for some.
01:39I've always hated my body.
01:40I know it's a little thing, but for me, it's quite big.
01:41And Dave...
01:42How are you feeling?
01:43Good.
01:44..statistically...
01:45I'm not feeling well.
01:46I'm not feeling well.
01:47..has caused issues for some.
01:48I've always hated my body.
01:49I know it's a little thing, but for me, it's quite big.
01:50And Dave...
01:51How are you feeling?
01:52Good.
01:53..statistically...
01:55..has created work with surrogate partner Kat.
01:57It's given me a massive confidence boost.
01:59Now, halfway through the course,
02:01the group will be challenged like never before.
02:05The relationship with the body is very crucial
02:07to dating, intimacy and sex.
02:10How are you feeling about genital touching?
02:13What we bring to sex is our bodies.
02:15If we feel shame about our bodies,
02:17we won't be able to engage in sex.
02:25It's day seven of the retreat,
02:27and this morning, there's an extra surprise in store.
02:31Oh, fuck's sake.
02:33Well, that's not scary.
02:36It doesn't bode well that there's a robe.
02:39It's the stage of the course they've all been dreading.
02:42This phase of the course is the body.
02:44Please come to this workshop in as few clothes as you can.
02:47It's the stage of the course they've all been dreading.
02:49This phase of the course is the body.
02:51Please come to this workshop in as few clothes as you can.
02:54As few clothes as you feel comfortable wearing
02:56underneath a bathrobe.
02:58Suddenly need the loo.
03:00For about four hours,
03:02just until after the workshop's over.
03:05I think this may be one of the scariest workshops
03:08for a lot of people,
03:09because it's so intense to expose your body.
03:14I'm not a bathrobe person.
03:15I like clothes.
03:16Clothes are a mark of civilization.
03:20Morning.
03:22Is that what you're going in?
03:23Yes.
03:27I've never really looked at my body
03:29and not felt sick.
03:31In school, my friendship group,
03:33I was the uglier, fatter friend.
03:36So even though, like, I'm not as fat now,
03:40I feel like I just still feel it.
03:43You nervous?
03:44Yeah.
03:45I want you guys to know I'm really small and skinny,
03:47so don't be surprised.
03:48Mm-hm.
03:50What's your... Is your back cocked?
03:51I don't know.
03:52I've just nodded my head.
03:57Oh!
03:58Oh!
03:59Am I the only one
04:00that's not going to fully take my robe off?
04:02In this morning's workshop,
04:04the experts are keen to see
04:06if anyone has the confidence to bear all.
04:09We get horrible messages about our bodies.
04:12There's so many ways in which we think,
04:14my body isn't right, my body isn't enough.
04:16And then we're supposed to go out
04:18and, like, enjoy pleasure in our body.
04:20It's quite impossible, actually.
04:22Hello, hello!
04:23Welcome, welcome!
04:31Our relationship with our body
04:33makes such a huge difference
04:35to how we feel about ourselves.
04:37And social media, where it's, like,
04:39constant images of the Kardashians
04:41with all of their augmentations
04:43and all the influencers,
04:45it just creates these crazy expectations,
04:47which is why it's so important
04:49for us to reclaim our bodies.
04:53And what better way to get comfortable with bodies
04:56than by seeing some first-hand?
05:03Dave, what if you feel ready?
05:14So this is my body, everyone.
05:16And though I love my body now,
05:19I struggle with something
05:21called body dysmorphia,
05:23which means when I look in the mirror,
05:25I don't see the same thing
05:27that everybody else sees.
05:39This is my body.
05:41And I also love my body now,
05:43but it has spent years
05:45with poor self-image.
05:47So, yeah, it's a process.
05:49It's a process, yeah.
05:52How do you feel
05:54when you look at Joy and Deva?
05:56Sort of feel like I'm crossing a boundary.
05:58Feels a lot of discomfort
06:00and a lot of feelings of, like,
06:02oh, that's private,
06:04but if you're gonna have sex,
06:06it's not private anymore.
06:08I feel like I actively avoid mirrors
06:10and I feel like it can bring me down.
06:12So I don't really have mirrors
06:14in my room or in my house.
06:18Thank you so much.
06:20If being exposed to two naked bodies
06:22wasn't awkward enough,
06:24what's coming next
06:26is the group's worst nightmare.
06:28The biggest thing that we can change
06:30is how we relate to our body.
06:32We're gonna invite you
06:34one by one
06:36to claim your body.
06:40We're asking the group
06:42to take off their robes
06:44and look in the mirror
06:46and look at their body.
06:48It's such a way to shift
06:50their body confidence.
06:52Who's ready?
06:56Do you know what? YOLO.
06:58First to volunteer
07:00is 25-year-old Jason
07:02who has always had a problem
07:04with his self-image.
07:06OK, right, so...
07:08The front I'm fine with
07:10is the butt,
07:12which is really red.
07:14Looking in the mirror feels strange
07:16because I don't see myself
07:18as attractive at all.
07:20I don't like my hair,
07:22don't like my face.
07:24I've always been like a stick man.
07:26Like you had a cartoon stick man.
07:28That's me.
07:30OK.
07:34CHEERING
07:36Can you come to the mirror with me?
07:38Yeah, yeah, I'll do that.
07:40This is your mirror here.
07:42You can check yourself out.
07:44I've seen this every day for 25 years.
07:46I'm used to it.
07:48And then when you feel ready,
07:50I want you to just say,
07:52this is my body.
07:54One more time.
07:56This is my body.
07:58Yes!
08:00CHEERING
08:02Who's ready next?
08:04OK.
08:06Oh, my God.
08:08Next to face the mirror
08:10is 29-year-old Charlotte,
08:12whose relationship with her body
08:14has always been a struggle.
08:16I had a
08:18massive weight loss.
08:20My highest weight
08:22was 120 kilos.
08:24Since losing the weight,
08:26I have scars,
08:28I have loose skin.
08:30When I was larger,
08:32my self-esteem, I would definitely say,
08:34was lower,
08:36but I act a lot more confident than I am.
08:46APPLAUSE
08:52SIGHS
08:56I have scars.
08:58Yeah, I have them too.
09:02You're going on an intense journey
09:04around your body.
09:06Remember the queen that you are.
09:10This is my body.
09:12Yes.
09:14Try one more time
09:16to really feel it.
09:18It's yours. You earned it.
09:22This is my
09:24body.
09:26APPLAUSE
09:28Good job.
09:32SIGHS
09:36As they each get up...
09:38This is my body.
09:40..to face their reflections...
09:42I'm basically, like, pretty dressable
09:44and all of you put together.
09:46..how much they're willing to reveal varies.
09:48This is my body.
09:50There we go. Beautiful.
09:52Looking at their bodies,
09:54loving their bodies holistically
09:56can be hugely empowering.
09:58This is my body.
10:04Who's ready?
10:06Yeah, fuck it.
10:08So far,
10:1024-year-old Dave has kept a relatively
10:12low profile at the retreat.
10:22CHEERING
10:26When I look at you,
10:28I'm going to embarrass you a little bit.
10:30He's a sexy,
10:32handsome
10:34man.
10:36Yeah, that doesn't embarrass me.
10:38I know. It's OK.
10:40This is my body.
10:42APPLAUSE
10:46Who else?
10:48So, I think everyone in this room
10:50knew I was going to do this today.
10:52Um...
10:54I don't actually want to.
10:56CHEERING
10:58APPLAUSE
11:02This is my body.
11:04APPLAUSE
11:08I want to go next.
11:22Hey, love.
11:24How are you feeling?
11:26I just feel like I could be sick, OK?
11:28What thoughts are coming up?
11:30Does that hurt the way I walk?
11:32What emotions are there?
11:34Like, what emotion are you feeling?
11:36Anxious, sick.
11:38And disgusted.
11:40You can get up there
11:42in front of everybody else
11:44and be with your body
11:46and see what comes next.
11:48You're not going to let a fear
11:50or a lack of self-worth
11:52stop you from living your life.
11:58This is my body.
12:00APPLAUSE
12:04Who else is ready?
12:12This is amazing.
12:14APPLAUSE
12:22I don't want to look.
12:24You don't want to look?
12:26Then look at me for a minute.
12:28This is my body.
12:30This is my body.
12:34I'm so proud of you.
12:38APPLAUSE
12:44Go, be proud of yourself.
12:46Flaunt your bodies around.
12:48Shake them.
12:51Well done, Dave.
12:53Thanks, man.
12:55I commend you both for what you did.
12:57You get a little bit of a high after a day.
12:59You do, right?
13:01That's the first time I've been naked
13:03in front of anyone, let alone a room full of people.
13:05I think today was
13:07the biggest thing I've done so far.
13:09Did you film this?
13:11Yeah, mixed.
13:13I thought I had this confidence
13:15and then it's different when you stare at yourself
13:17while other people are staring at you.
13:19I feel like maybe I've hit a bit of a wall.
13:25The exercise was particularly difficult for Louise.
13:27When you look in the mirror,
13:29I feel like you just instantly look at the things
13:31that you hate the most.
13:33Jiggly legs and stretch marks on my hips.
13:35That's just where your eyes go to.
13:37I just want to feel good in my skin.
13:43I don't know.
13:45I still feel a bit sick, to be honest.
13:47I still feel a bit sick, to be honest.
14:01I thought you were wearing boxers.
14:03Yeah, but no, we saw everything.
14:05Yeah, I bared all.
14:07I realised when I was looking in the mirror
14:09one bollock was so much lower than the other.
14:11I didn't notice.
14:13I feel like it's easier for a girl to be naked.
14:15Really?
14:17If you've got a small dick, it's more embarrassing.
14:19I'd be very happy if we had sausages today.
14:21Of course.
14:25Hi.
14:27It's the afternoon on Virgin Island.
14:29Can you have an Indian wedding if you're white?
14:31Of course you can.
14:33Of course you can.
14:35I just want to wear that dress.
14:37While the cast seems to be building confidence for some...
14:41Oh, that's so sweet.
14:43It's turning me on a little bit.
14:45Really?
14:47..the body phase is a huge challenge for others.
14:49I was so confident
14:51and then I stood in front of the mirror
14:53and I was like, don't like that, don't like that.
14:55I hate my hands.
14:57At least you've not got man hands.
14:59You've got man hands.
15:01Where is your man hand?
15:03I totally don't like my face.
15:07Let's talk about Louise.
15:09Yeah, she was just terrified of being judged
15:11and she felt that her body was disgusting.
15:13So I was wondering, like,
15:15what you feel like the next steps were.
15:17To maybe disrobe the whole way
15:19to find new words to describe her body.
15:23I hurt the way I look.
15:25I wouldn't say I've ever felt, like, confident.
15:27I started going to the gym.
15:29That helped a lot.
15:31But, yeah, it's a work in progress.
15:33Come and have a seat.
15:35Ayesha hopes that a repeat
15:37of this morning's exercise in private
15:39could help improve Louise's confidence.
15:43So, mirror work, you did that this morning
15:45and I wonder if you'd like to continue
15:47doing a guided tour of your body.
15:49Yeah.
15:59OK.
16:03I don't want to put it down.
16:05If this was a friend's body
16:07and they were like,
16:09hey, look, isn't my body disgusting?
16:11How might you show up differently?
16:13So if it was a friend, I'd just be like,
16:15there's nothing wrong with you, shut up.
16:19But I just feel like I can't say that and mean it
16:21about myself.
16:23Say it like you were to your friend convincing.
16:25There's nothing even wrong with you.
16:27There's nothing even wrong with you.
16:31Next step
16:33is to remove the sheet.
16:37OK.
16:41My boobs, I just hurt my boobs.
16:43One second, lady.
16:45Have you ever had compliments about your boobs?
16:47Yeah.
16:49Tell me about that.
16:51People wish they had these.
16:53It's like the perfect.
16:55I want to invite you to receive
16:57the compliment.
16:59They're perfect.
17:03OK.
17:05Louise is making
17:07progress, but Aisha has
17:09one final challenge.
17:11So noticing what your body wants
17:13to take off next.
17:15And I'm thinking
17:17bra.
17:19Great.
17:21When you're ready.
17:23Couldn't say that myself.
17:31What's changed now that your bra's off?
17:33It's always nice
17:35to take your bra off.
17:37What's the feeling in your body?
17:39The sensation of it?
17:41I do feel more free.
17:43Yeah.
17:45You feel more free?
17:47Louise.
17:49Everyone feels better when they're naked.
17:51Just on their own.
17:53Yeah, OK.
17:55So feeling better when you're naked.
17:57I'm going to bring the robe.
17:59Don't be ashamed.
18:01Don't be ashamed.
18:03Just love yourself.
18:05Just love yourself.
18:07Body image is definitely
18:09a place where Louise struggles.
18:11That strength of feeling
18:13that she has, it feels like
18:15it comes from way, way down
18:17inside of her.
18:19From way, way back in her life.
18:21Louise, look how much you've done.
18:23Thank you for sharing your body
18:25with me.
18:27Thank you for listening.
18:29It felt good to
18:31replace my negative thoughts.
18:33I try to.
18:35I feel like once I change the view
18:37that I have on myself, then it will be easier
18:39to accept it from other people.
18:46How was your one-to-one?
18:48Basically, just
18:50re-did this morning, but properly.
18:52Do you feel better now, having done it?
18:54Yeah, cos, like, we've properly
18:57stood in the mirror and, like...
18:59Possessed.
19:01Yeah, talked for everything.
19:03I think you're gorgeous.
19:05Talked.
19:07Although Louise struggled with this morning's workshop...
19:09Tuck in the bicep.
19:11Bring them out like this.
19:13There. And pull.
19:15Dave shocked everybody by going the full Monty.
19:17Look at your veins.
19:19These popping veins.
19:21I was so impressed.
19:23Three of them got naked.
19:25Dave was a huge surprise.
19:27Yeah, I feel like
19:29today he was definitely sending a message
19:31and being like, OK, I'm ready.
19:33We'll just kind of get in and see, like,
19:35if that energy is there and where he wants to go with it.
19:40There you go. There.
19:42Two more, two more.
19:44I'm an accountant, so
19:46pretty boring.
19:48All of my friends know I'm a virgin.
19:50And actually, pretty embarrassingly,
19:52I think all my co-workers know as well.
19:54Cos you tell one person at work
19:56and then everyone knows.
20:00I don't have the confidence to properly get to know someone.
20:02In an intimate moment,
20:04I'm scared about what they're going to think of my body
20:06and what they're going to think of what I'm like.
20:08And I've got to, like,
20:10start living my life properly.
20:14Getting naked in the workshop
20:16was a huge step for Dave.
20:18Hello. Hey.
20:20But does it mean he's ready
20:22to take his therapy to the next level?
20:26My suggestion would be
20:28to practise, like, touch and giving feedback.
20:30OK. Yeah, sure.
20:32OK. I'll have you start with my arm.
20:38I'll try long and stuff.
20:42And can you look at me while you do it?
20:44Yeah.
20:46Building up to sex
20:48with surrogate partner Kat
20:50is a possibility
20:52if Dave can master the basics
20:54and form a connection.
20:56Am I OK to try
20:58sort of going on top?
21:00Yeah.
21:02Is that what you mean?
21:04Yeah. Yeah.
21:06And you can kiss
21:08to my mouth if you want.
21:10OK.
21:12I feel like this definitely isn't the best position.
21:14I don't like the way my arm is.
21:16Are you self-conscious about our genitals
21:18touching each other?
21:20Cos that's why you're in that position.
21:22It's so obvious now.
21:24Yeah. OK.
21:26But does that make you uncomfortable?
21:28Subconsciously, yeah.
21:30OK. Do you want to try again with you on top
21:32or do you want to try with me on top?
21:34Can you go on top?
21:36Absolutely.
21:38Yeah.
21:44And can you practice
21:46coming alive a little?
21:48Yeah.
21:50Yeah, I'm staying still, aren't I?
21:52Yeah.
21:54Try again?
21:56Yeah.
22:04That feels good.
22:08As Dave slowly opens up
22:10he can feel
22:12Go.
22:14Mine won!
22:16Oh, it came back.
22:18The course is encouraging Charlotte
22:20to address her buried emotions.
22:22I was so large
22:24for such a long time.
22:26You think everyone is judging you all the time
22:28because you're so used to being on the defensive
22:30because you feel like you have to protect yourself.
22:36Today, I saw so many people
22:38and I thought,
22:40Today, I saw a softer side
22:42of Charlotte.
22:44I saw the quivering of the lip
22:46and that was very
22:48challenging for her to look
22:50at herself.
22:52It was really hard for her to keep the inner image
22:54that she has of herself
22:56in front of the mirror and that's something
22:58that so many people are struggling with.
23:00At boarding school
23:02I just wasn't fitting in
23:04and that's been a big
23:06thing for me my whole life
23:08and then everyone says,
23:10Oh, don't worry, when you go to uni
23:12you'll find your people.
23:14Then I went to uni and then I didn't find my people
23:16so now at almost 30
23:18it makes you doubt yourself.
23:22The mirror workshop revealed that
23:24Charlotte's issues are more than skin deep.
23:26Hi.
23:28How are you?
23:30I'm good, thank you.
23:32So the experts suggest clinical therapist Abby
23:34tries to find out what's really going on.
23:36They kind of want to check in
23:38with the reason that brought
23:40you here.
23:42Sometimes I do still feel
23:44like I'm still this sort of young
23:46teenage girl
23:48because I wasn't really friends with any of the girls
23:50at the boarding school and also
23:52because of my size I was quite
23:54isolated.
23:56Here's this part of you that feels
23:58emotionally trapped in your
24:00adolescence. Do you feel like
24:02no one sees you for you?
24:04My perception
24:06of myself can be
24:08vastly different to how other people
24:10see me. I feel like I'm
24:12trying to really just be as
24:14fearless as possible
24:16putting on what I call the Charlotte show.
24:18And it's like I think
24:20I'm giving off this image of me
24:22like sometimes I have to do it at work
24:24Then you're
24:26just working here.
24:34You don't have
24:36to work for people's
24:38love and care.
24:40People will love and care
24:42for you without performing.
24:44I don't know if you believe
24:46that though.
24:48What if you show up as vulnerable?
24:50I don't know how to
24:52kind of do that.
24:54We're gonna get there.
24:56We're gonna get there.
24:58Yeah.
25:00You can't really hurt
25:02something that isn't
25:04real. But I've
25:06maybe been putting
25:08on the Charlotte show
25:10too much.
25:12I think the whole thing is all about
25:14being seen
25:16and I guess we're gonna
25:18see who sees me.
25:22Yeah.
25:32It's day two
25:34of the body phase at the retreat
25:36and there are promising signs of change.
25:38I feel like every
25:40session I have, I come out
25:42feeling a bit better in some way.
25:44Getting undressed, that is a massive
25:46thing for me.
25:48I think I've achieved a lot and I know
25:50there's things that I'm more
25:52confident about but I think there's still further
25:54for me to go.
25:56I'm definitely seeing the confidence
25:58level rise. They're much
26:00more likely to try different tools.
26:02They're really
26:04growing.
26:06But progress for Zach can't come quick enough.
26:08I'm feeling a little bit
26:10of frustration. I'm hoping to make
26:12some more progress
26:14and eventually, Zach's.
26:16It is the next step and
26:18it's something I want to do
26:20and
26:22you know, I'm not afraid to say that.
26:25You can definitely tell that they're definitely
26:27amping things up. Absolutely.
26:29Again, we've got to halfway.
26:31I just want to be able to
26:33be able to give people compliments
26:35because I struggle with that. Let's try that now.
26:37Yeah. Okay.
26:39I like your little nose. It's kind of cute.
26:41Oh, thank you. I love your beard.
26:43I wish I could grow a beard like that.
26:45It's phenomenal. Brilliant, isn't it?
26:47It is.
26:49Let's think of one for the girls.
26:51Let's think of one for the girls.
26:53In a bid
26:55to improve how he interacts with women,
26:57Zach challenges himself
26:59with his own exercise.
27:05One thing
27:07I am not very good at is giving sincere
27:09compliments. So, every day
27:11I'm going to come up with a new one
27:13for everyone. Aww, sweet.
27:15Emma,
27:17you have some incredible
27:19eyes. Thank you very much.
27:21It's amazing to stare into them. Thank you, Zach.
27:23I really appreciate that.
27:25Louise,
27:27you have a banging body, mate.
27:29You're fucking sexy as hell.
27:31Thanks.
27:33Holly,
27:35you can be so fucking funny sometimes
27:37and you have the greatest expressions
27:39and it's hilarious.
27:41Pia, you have the greatest smile, honestly.
27:43When you're happy, it's wonderful.
27:45I love it.
27:47Taylor, you have a brilliant singing voice
27:49and you know the words to all the songs. It's fucking amazing.
27:51Charlotte, you're always flirting with me
27:53but I know you'll say you're not but you're a liar.
27:55That's not a compliment.
27:57Well, it is and you're actually pretty good at it.
27:59OK. There we go.
28:01Zach may be pleased
28:03with his compliment session.
28:05Thanks, Zach. I feel like mine needed
28:07to be reworded a bit but OK.
28:09But not everyone is feeling the love.
28:11I don't take this personally
28:13but can you take me out of tomorrow's compliment
28:15book for the day? I don't want to be in it.
28:17Thank you, though. I appreciate it but thank you.
28:19Don't worry about it. It's OK.
28:21I hope you like the one I gave you.
28:23I compare myself enough to girls I see
28:25on social media. I don't want him
28:27to be feeling different qualities about us
28:29all individually
28:31into my ear on a daily basis,
28:33him thinking it's helping me.
28:35Thankfully for Emma,
28:37the boys and the girls are splitting up
28:39for today's workshop.
28:41I'm confused
28:43This is why we're taking the book.
28:45I hope it's just, like,
28:47drawing a life model.
28:49As it's become clear to the experts,
28:51when it comes to the body,
28:53they need all the help they can get.
28:55I've never had any contact with anything
28:57below a woman's waist.
28:59My ex I've, you know, we've touched up there
29:01but I've never been, I've never got that far.
29:03I believe the clitoris
29:05is quite out of the top
29:07though, admittedly,
29:09I wasn't the best at biology in school either.
29:11Someone asked me, where's the clit?
29:13I'm like, I don't know. No, I need to use
29:15Google.
29:17Today, we'll
29:19start with a little bit of anatomy.
29:21I know a lot of you really, really
29:23wanted to learn how to
29:25touch a pussy.
29:27Are you ready?
29:31Okay.
29:33This is the vaginal
29:35opening. We have
29:37the outer lips
29:39or labia majora.
29:41I think the biggest mistake
29:43that I see men make is they just think,
29:45oh, it's all about the clitoris.
29:47And so they just, you know, like do a lot of this.
29:49Do a lot of this.
29:51And it's quite painful actually.
29:53When you think of a vulva,
29:55think like, oh, you know,
29:57I want to like pet
29:59the whole vulva.
30:01But there's only so much you can learn
30:03from a diagram.
30:05Kat is
30:07generously willing to take her
30:09panties off and show you how a real
30:11vulva looks like.
30:17I think the show and tell is really important because
30:19when you look at an actual vulva,
30:21you're going to see it does look quite different
30:23than those quite sterile pictures.
30:27Okay, so here you see
30:29the outer lips, the outer labia,
30:31right here and here.
30:33And then here
30:35and here are the inner.
30:39And there's the clitoris.
30:41And then down here
30:43is the vaginal opening.
30:45Do you have any questions?
30:51I have to say, Kat, I really
30:53admire your courage for doing this
30:55because you're basically doing this so we can learn.
30:57So thank you a lot for doing that.
30:59Yeah, thanks for saying that.
31:01Okay.
31:03That's a lot for one day.
31:05I think you deserve some rest.
31:13Anyone take notes?
31:15No, I'm not paying attention.
31:17I thought I got time for notes.
31:19I don't want to whip out a pen.
31:21It's good to hear from women who have had a lot of men
31:23make a lot of mistakes and to hear from that experience
31:25and to hear how to not fuck up like that.
31:27Across the island,
31:29the girls are also talking privates.
31:33What do you think of pubic hair?
31:35I don't really have an opinion on it, yeah.
31:37Joy, for instance, had pubic hair.
31:39It looked really nice.
31:41It wasn't a lot, though.
31:43She had what was called the landing strip.
31:45It was shaped and I really like that.
31:47That's called a landing strip.
31:49I might go and get one of them.
31:51I think that looked very stylish.
31:53Embrace a girl, yeah.
31:55But it's not the female body most of the girls
31:58are acquainted with.
32:00Obviously, you have lessons in school
32:02about the way the body works
32:04but it's not really something
32:06that I've dived into.
32:08Obviously, I've kissed a couple of boys
32:10but that's about it.
32:12I've had as much contact
32:14with the penis as I would like
32:16which is very, very little.
32:18Hello.
32:20OK, welcome.
32:22Now we're going to invite up Doma and Deva
32:24to give you a little bit of an anatomy lesson
32:26on penises.
32:34So, we've got
32:36the shaft of the penis.
32:38Sometimes a penis, when it's erected,
32:40is not super straight.
32:42It can be a bit like this, like this.
32:44After yesterday's penis preview...
32:46Getting used to doing this now.
32:50...Deva can now give the girls
32:52a proper guided tour.
32:54Girls might think that the penis is really sensitive
32:56and, like, delicate or something
32:58but it's not.
33:00You can really apply a lot of pressure.
33:02It doesn't hurt, you know.
33:04This is obviously the shaft.
33:06This is the glands.
33:08And this part back here,
33:10the frenulum.
33:12But on me, anyway, it's the most sensitive part.
33:14And this is the scrum, obviously.
33:16Now that is like Play-Doh.
33:18That's why Jason always talks about Play-Doh skin.
33:20Yeah.
33:22Do you think you prefer
33:24a touch of, like, hands
33:26or, like, someone's tongue?
33:28The best combination that I enjoy
33:30is when someone's using their hands
33:32but also their mouth.
33:34Right.
33:38We'll see you later.
33:40You all right? Hello.
33:42How's your morning been?
33:44It's been all right.
33:46We saw a vagina.
33:48Really?
33:50Did you see a penis?
33:52Yeah.
33:54Yeah.
33:56Speechless.
33:58He's up a raffle.
34:00What can I say?
34:02Louise may be learning more
34:04about the body
34:06but the exercise
34:08now want a window into her mind.
34:10Louise is not an easy person to read
34:12in terms of how she feels
34:14or what she wants
34:16but you can tell there's something big
34:18going on underneath the surface
34:20and that that needs to be dealt with.
34:22To do that, they've asked Louise
34:24to keep a journal
34:26to help understand herself better.
34:28How's the writing going?
34:30Good.
34:32I feel like I've got quite a bit out.
34:34So my homework from Aisha
34:36was write my emotions down
34:38and things I've felt in the past
34:40and repressed.
34:42I started with what I thought
34:44was maybe the biggest factor.
34:46I know what it is
34:48but I just can't express it.
34:50Louise has formed a bond
34:52with Aisha
34:54but whether she's ready to open up
34:56remains to be seen.
34:58How are you feeling today?
35:00I kind of want to feel what I've wrote.
35:02Yum!
35:04I don't know, I felt like maybe reading it to you.
35:06Yeah!
35:08I feel like I'd just be able to let it all go.
35:10I can move on.
35:12So take a breath.
35:16And when you're ready...
35:18I honestly don't even know
35:20where I should start
35:22because I almost feel like
35:24there's just too much
35:26that could be playing a part
35:28in why I am the way that I am.
35:30Pause.
35:32Take a breath.
35:34I know I don't like being
35:36or feeling vulnerable
35:38and maybe that stems from repressing
35:40my emotions from quite early on in life.
35:42All thanks
35:44to my dad
35:46who was never really
35:48a big part of my life.
35:50He just left us for his next wife
35:52and their kids.
35:54So we'll see.
35:56Pause.
36:00I always used to think
36:02what's so bad about me
36:04that even my biological father
36:06just doesn't want to know me.
36:14If I wasn't even
36:16good enough for my dad
36:18then why would I be good enough for anybody else?
36:27My mum used to say
36:29you're not bothered about your dad, are you?
36:31And stuff like that.
36:33I'd say no to her
36:35but a little part of me would be like
36:37but I don't.
36:39You were taking care of her
36:41and now what are you doing?
36:43Now you're taking care of you.
36:47It just made me feel
36:49better.
36:51Kind of courageous.
36:53You're starting to build up again
36:55a sense of
36:57I'm important.
36:59I'm worthy of love and respect.
37:03Would you like a hug?
37:05Please.
37:11I feel a lot better, a lot lighter.
37:13Slightly happier.
37:15See you later.
37:17Even though it seems like little steps
37:19they're making a big difference.
37:25Keen for progress of his own
37:27Zach's attention is still on his compliments list.
37:29Are you sure you don't want a compliment every day?
37:31Yeah, no, just because
37:33I've come here to try and steer
37:35myself away from comparing myself to other girls
37:37but I do that enough at home on Instagram.
37:39I think you and Louise are the two best looking girls here.
37:41You don't want to be saying
37:43like, oh, Louise, you've got a bang on the body
37:45and you've got nice eyes and then you say,
37:47Pierre, you've got a nice smile.
37:49I'm not attracted to Pierre.
37:51That's what I'm trying to like.
37:53Just put yourself in the position.
37:55But I'm also not going to lie.
37:57I don't like being compared to other people.
37:59Do you know what I mean?
38:13It's late afternoon on Virgin Island.
38:17Hi, hi, hi.
38:19And Charlotte still has some body issues to conquer.
38:21So why didn't you go
38:23naked in front of the mirror?
38:25Charlotte, Charlotte.
38:27I'm noticing more and more
38:29my issue is being vulnerable.
38:31You can't do it. It's hard.
38:33You can't do it.
38:37How about Charlotte?
38:39When she feels in control
38:41then she feels powerful.
38:43Yeah. I think like the next step
38:45for her is she needs to work on
38:47her body confidence and really kind of
38:49like feeling at home
38:51in her new body.
38:55Hi. Hi.
38:57Over a few sessions, Charlotte has built
38:59a bond with surrogate partner Andre.
39:01But is she ready for the radical
39:03next step?
39:05This is an opportunity
39:07to see
39:09my body naked
39:11and for me
39:13to also see your body
39:15naked.
39:17I've never been naked in front of another
39:19person.
39:21The intimacy scares me.
39:23It's a lot
39:25if everything that I use
39:27such as like clothes and humor
39:29has been sort of stripped away.
39:31I guess I could try
39:33going topless
39:35first and then I could
39:37kind of see how I felt
39:39continuing on from there.
39:41That sounds great. Let's go ahead and do that.
39:47Hmm.
39:53Your body is your body.
39:55If there is ever a desire
39:57to be in an intimate connection
39:59with someone,
40:01there's a good chance that
40:03they're going to want to see
40:05your body.
40:07Yes.
40:09I think I feel comfortable
40:11taking off my top in this
40:13space.
40:25How does it feel?
40:27It's refreshing.
40:29You have beautiful breasts.
40:33How is your energy
40:35if we were to remove
40:37our bottoms?
40:39I think I'm feeling okay
40:41to do it.
40:43Yes, please.
40:59Just keep
41:01breathing.
41:03Know that you are safe here.
41:05Okay.
41:07Okay.
41:13We did it.
41:17We're naked.
41:23The change in Charlotte
41:25is beyond words
41:27and there's still room
41:29for her to feel
41:31comfort and safety in her body
41:33knowing that she is worthy of pleasure.
41:35So proud of you.
41:37Aw, thank you so much.
41:39I built that level of
41:41trust with Andre that I felt
41:43that I could be vulnerable, that I could be
41:45naked with him.
41:47He was going to sort of embrace all the little parts
41:49of myself that I don't
41:51fully love all the time.
41:55How was that?
41:57So we stripped down naked and it was this moment of like
41:59we did it and I was like we're naked!
42:01Yay!
42:03And I just felt like, you know, Dora the Explorer
42:05when you've conquered whatever you need to do
42:07with Dora and she goes, you did it!
42:09You did it!
42:11I've seen that episode before where the two get naked in a teepee.
42:17While Charlotte is moving on
42:19some of the boys can't stop thinking about this
42:21morning's workshop.
42:23You know what, I wanted to know how to properly
42:25touch a vagina and
42:27I feel there were some good tips there.
42:29Like I say, that's important information.
42:31The thing is if we gain
42:33anything, it's a plus.
42:35It's a plus.
42:37Dave was very interesting.
42:39I did think he took a lot out of it.
42:41I think so too. He's really interested in technique.
42:43It was super educational for him.
42:45He really wants to know more.
42:47He's thirsty for that knowledge.
42:51Dave may be interested in the theory
42:53but expert Pat needs to find out
42:55if he's ready for a practical.
42:57How are you feeling about genital touching?
43:03OK-ish.
43:05Say more.
43:07I know I need to do things
43:09I'm not 100% comfortable with
43:11but everything that I've done
43:13that I haven't been comfortable with
43:15I've ended up being comfortable with.
43:17If that makes sense.
43:21To get Dave relaxed
43:23Kat starts with some kissing.
43:29But before progressing to the next stage
43:35he's got to learn one crucial detail.
43:37But you have to get naked too.
43:39OK, sorry.
43:41If you want to.
43:45Do you have a preference for who does what first?
43:49Maybe the one to be touched first.
43:51Go ahead and lie down.
43:55I think touching someone in an intimate way
43:57is probably more nerve-wracking than me
43:59being touched because I don't know
44:01if I'm going to be doing it right
44:03or if they're going to be enjoying it.
44:11Try to just close your eyes.
44:13Feel into it.
44:25If Dave is to eventually lose his virginity
44:27on the island
44:29Yeah.
44:31He needs to learn to give as well as receive.
44:33It's always weird the first time
44:35so I feel like you just kind of try
44:39get used to
44:41what it feels like.
44:51How did you expect it to feel?
44:53I don't know, not that.
44:59Can you find it?
45:01Can you find it?
45:03Is that it?
45:05Yeah.
45:07And then down at the bottom.
45:09Yeah, that's like the vaginal opening.
45:13Yeah, that feels good.
45:21I feel more mature now.
45:23Good.
45:29Dave's been gone for an hour.
45:31Hi.
45:33Do you want one?
45:35Was it good?
45:37It was quite good actually.
45:39Everyone's curious about his session.
45:41Who?
45:43A cat.
45:45But a gentleman never tells.
45:47Just educational.
45:49What way?
45:51He doesn't want to say.
45:53I think it was good.
45:55We got through a lot.
45:57There was so much I didn't know
45:59so I feel like I made a big step.
46:05Next time.
46:07Lessons take to the bed.
46:09I like that.
46:11And one-on-ones
46:15build up a head of steam.
46:21I don't know if you find that intimidating.
46:23But sex isn't always simple.
46:25I think we'll get dressed
46:27and that's enough for today.
46:55you
Recommended
47:00
|
Up next
47:00
47:10
46:57
40:53
6:51
1:37:22
22:05
46:50
21:58
46:43
1:29:25
1:40:11
48:15
1:14:46
45:46