This is What Toxic Isn’t (And Why We Get It Wrong)

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Is being triggered really toxic — or is silence the real issue? In this video, I unpack how trauma responses show up in our relationships and how you can break free from that cycle through powerful self-awareness and communication.  👂 Watch till the end if you’ve ever felt misunderstood in love 💬 Comment your #1 takeaway 📲 Follow for more content on conscious healing  #DailyMotionWellness #TriggersAndHealing #RelationshipGrowth #EmotionalWellness #HealingWithAwareness  ©️ All rights and credit reserved to the respective owner(s).

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00:00Being triggered is not necessarily a toxic trait, it's a human response to a pain, yeah?

00:06If I had a burn on my arm and you push past it and you're like, ah, there's a trigger,

00:10it's not really my fault, but you have to bear in mind that person didn't know I had the burn.

00:15They didn't do it on purpose. So we can all have triggers, but what's toxic is when we don't

00:20communicate what our triggers are and we don't communicate how to soothe the triggers.

00:25So a trigger might be, for me, long separation without speaking. That's a trigger for me.

00:30If I don't say anything and I pretend I'm cool about it and then explode when he finally does

00:34call me, that's toxic. But if I communicate and I say, babe, I really miss you and you go too long

00:39without me, I get anxious. Please just check in. Oh, sorry, babe, I'll do that. And more often,

00:43and I communicate my triggers and I give them the benefit of the doubt that they're not trying to

00:47trigger me, then it's not toxic. It's just a human response. So you just have to communicate it and

00:53give them the antidote. This is what to do to soothe me. Teach them how to soothe you.

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