- 03/07/2025
GERALD and Arizona met six years ago on a dating app. Gerald had just come out of a 10-year relationship and was looking for someone to hook up with. After receiving a like from Arizona, he decided to check out her profile. Her profile stated that she was married and looking for a boyfriend, for her and her husband. Gerald was not openly bi sexual at this point, but he had always been attracted to men as well as women. When he joined Arizona’s marriage, things started off great, but then began to get rocky. Gerald decided to excuse himself from their situation so that they could work things out. Not long after his exit, Arizona reached back out to Gerald to let him know she has left her marriage and would love to pursue an open relationship with him. During this time Arizona was making spicy content, but only on a small scale. Gerald suggested that Arizona should put her all into spicy content and he will do all the admin side of things, he would even sometimes speak to the men on her behalf. After some deliberation he decided to make an OF page. They don’t have many rules when it comes to their relationship, but due to Arizona’s past relationship with her ex, she doesn’t really like Gerald seeing other women unless she is involved... But she is working on being more secure when it comes to Gerald dating other women - adding that she is fine for him to date other men.
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00:00I fell in love with my husband's boyfriend.
00:02We are in an ethically non-monogamous relationship.
00:05People don't take me seriously as a bisexual man.
00:07How do you guys feel about the ethical non-monogamy kind of side of our relationship?
00:14It's wild.
00:18My name is Gerald.
00:19I make spicy content for a living.
00:22And I am Arizona.
00:24I also make spicy content for a living.
00:27We are in an ethically non-monogamous relationship.
00:29My partner is also into men.
00:32So I was leaving a 10-year marriage and was ready to get out on the dating scene.
00:37I had one match and it was from Arizona.
00:40She was married at the time and she was looking for a bisexual boyfriend to date on her own
00:46and occasionally share with her husband.
00:49I was married to my high school sweetheart.
00:52I had been with that guy at that time.
00:54It was like nine years.
00:56I was hot wifing around.
00:57I want something more regular, maybe a little bit more emotionally connected.
01:02You were the first person that I intentionally dated.
01:05It was definitely a surreal moment when I first laid eyes on her.
01:09She got out of her car in her sundress and was standing in the parking lot waiting for
01:12me.
01:12And I knew right then and there I was like, I'm in trouble.
01:15And you showed up with a book and a rose and it was a book that you had been reading that
01:23I like was interested in.
01:25You wanted to share that with me.
01:26Yeah.
01:27We were living as a throuple.
01:28It started to become more and more obvious to me how poorly I had been treated when I
01:33now had somebody that was treating me so incredibly.
01:35We had kind of a bad trip altogether.
01:38I moved out like two days later.
01:40He moved out.
01:41A few months go by.
01:43I'm simultaneously getting messages from him being like, hey, I really hate to break this
01:48to you, but I found your man online again.
01:52Cheating on you at that point.
01:54It was like it.
01:55That was it for me.
01:56We had never lost contact with each other.
01:58We were still very much best friends in a lot of ways.
02:01As soon as that relationship was signed, sealed, and delivered and done, we just embraced being
02:06together.
02:08Okay, I got a handful of things for today.
02:12We are going to shoot some funny promo content for social media.
02:18Just kind of seeing what works for us today.
02:22If any of these are...
02:24Too many straps for me.
02:25Too many straps.
02:25I don't have capacity for all those straps.
02:27Something stroppy, something lacy, something, you know, more...
02:33Harness-y.
02:34Harness-y, cosplay-y.
02:37I started shooting spicy content like as soon as I turned 18, but I didn't take it seriously
02:44and have like all of my dedicated pages until 2022.
02:49I volunteered to get the pages started and get everything off the ground and be sort of that
02:54administrative assistant.
02:55And then by April of 2023, she had enough requests in her inbox for the tattooed gentleman
03:03that appears.
03:04Yeah, but your husband, what about him?
03:06Does he have his own page and is he making his own spicy content?
03:09The day I started my account, I was doxed and fired from my career of 15 years.
03:14Yeah, so we've been doing it full-time for over two years now.
03:17I think the harness could be nice.
03:19Harnesses are usually a good choice, yeah.
03:21I encourage independence, so I refuse to dress him.
03:23I want to see what his own ideas are.
03:25But I definitely love to help him get dressed.
03:29We bounce ideas off of each other.
03:31I think I've got the perfect thing.
03:33We're matching.
03:34A couple real ideas.
03:35We've got some good ideas for content to do with these, um, and of course.
03:40I love hot dads.
03:42I have not always been openly bisexual.
03:46My entire life, I was closeted until we started making spicy content two years ago.
03:51And that's when I fully came out of the closet and kind of owned who I am and what I believe
03:57in.
03:58I was married for 10 years before I met Arizona and it was a very closeted marriage.
04:04Um, it was very sexually frustrating and, uh, vanilla as it's called, definitely wasn't
04:11not what I believed in at all to who I am.
04:14Some of the judgment that I have received from being a bisexual man, it's been a lot.
04:21I get told often that from straight people and from gay people that I'm not one or the
04:26other, that I'm not actually into men or that I'm not actually into women or that my wife
04:30is just my beard.
04:31I'm a cover up.
04:32He's actually just gay.
04:33Yeah.
04:34I'm just actually gay and that's why I allow her to date outside.
04:37It's almost like I'm lesser of a man because I'm into both genders.
04:41It's like you're not considered gay enough because you're married to a woman.
04:45Yes.
04:46I'll have gay people subscribe to my page and be like, I love your gay content and
04:50be like, but I can't see you with a woman.
04:51That's absolutely disgusting.
04:52And like, I have to go.
04:53Like, my page literally says pansexual dilf living in the desert.
04:56You get all of the things.
04:57Happy Father's Day, I guess.
04:58You have to change.
04:59Absolutely not.
05:00It looks better on me.
05:01Can we bring them home together?
05:02Yeah.
05:03Let's do it.
05:04I love hot dads.
05:05You like get really like questioned.
05:06Your like character and your being and your like.
05:07My existence in general.
05:08Existence in life.
05:09How can I let my wife be active with other people?
05:12I heard oversharing, but this is ridiculous.
05:14These people are real.
05:15This is sad as ****.
05:16You have lost your man card.
05:17You're just being mean to be mean.
05:18For what?
05:19I like to poke a little bit.
05:20Yeah, we poke a little bit.
05:21At comments.
05:22A little bit.
05:23And I like to try to make them feel dumb for the things that they're saying.
05:39So why?
05:40Really?
05:41But why?
05:42Today we're going to go see your parents and find out what they really think about me.
05:47They're going to have some strong opinions, especially about first meeting you.
05:52When Arizona first told me about Gerald, I was worried.
05:55I was a little concerned about the dynamic of the situation.
05:59It was a different way to meet, you know, a boyfriend or something like that.
06:03We kind of don't really want to meet him.
06:05I asked a lot of questions.
06:06What if you catch feelings one for the other?
06:08What if it gets confusing?
06:10What did you guys think whenever I first told you that me and my now ex-husband had a boyfriend?
06:19I thought y'all were crazy.
06:20I was worried.
06:21I couldn't see a world where somebody wasn't going to get hurt.
06:23I thought it would be you.
06:25For me it was, you know, I had questions because that's a little unconventional.
06:29We talked about it and we looked at, not looked at, you gotta be careful what you search up.
06:34I appreciated that you handled it with such grace.
06:38You could tell that there was more thought going into like, how do I want to handle it?
06:42You didn't walk away grounded.
06:44That's what I'm saying.
06:45And like, you know, it was obviously a different position to be in being like, yeah, ground me.
06:49I dare you.
06:50I live on my own.
06:51Like, you know, like, what are you going to do?
06:52Be mad?
06:53Yeah.
06:54But like, also like, I don't want you to be mad at me.
06:56I think that you talking to me about it and the way that you did and being so upfront
07:00and honest and saying, I know you're not going to get this, but here's what's going on.
07:04I took away that like, babe, this is our responsibility to get right with this.
07:09Right.
07:10Yeah.
07:11You know, this is what's making you happy and whatever.
07:13And this is like our responsibility type thing.
07:15Yeah.
07:16We're like, do we understand it?
07:17Yeah.
07:18Because what else are you going to do?
07:19You know, you find yourself wanting to go, why?
07:21You want a definitive explanation of why you're choosing to do this.
07:24But again, we never asked the why because I don't believe it's something for us to understand.
07:30Yeah.
07:31You don't need to understand.
07:32It doesn't require a, you know, a why or yes or no.
07:35We kept saying, you know, what, why, what are we afraid of?
07:38And, and it was like your happiness and your well-being, like your emotional happiness,
07:42your emotional, mental happiness and healthiness and all of that too.
07:46How do you guys feel like about the, the ethical non-monogamy kind of side of our relationship
07:55and that like dynamic?
07:57It's wild because it's kind of the same.
07:59It's something that I don't understand.
08:00Could I go do it?
08:01No.
08:02Like, you know, it's not something that I can picture in my life where it would just be okay.
08:06Or there's, I have a lot of questions, but you guys are, you're, you're doing your thing.
08:11Yeah.
08:12I think that your heart's taken care of and I think that you're in a pretty good place.
08:15For me personally, it's, it's an avenue I wouldn't take, but again, that was-
08:18Yeah, you're trying to picture yourself in those shoes.
08:20Yeah.
08:21I think that's the natural way.
08:22Would I do that?
08:23Would I do that?
08:24In what scenario would I do it?
08:25Yeah.
08:26Like when you go through those-
08:27That we all have just inherently just through social-
08:30He's always like, I can't imagine just you're leaving for the weekend.
08:33You're going to, you're going where for who with what?
08:36Yeah.
08:37It took some time for me to understand the whole dynamic of, you know, what you guys do.
08:41To grasp the concept.
08:42Yeah.
08:43But I understand that it's more common than we know.
08:46And it's a way that you guys are making a great living for yourself.
08:49I think the conversation with your parents went really well.
08:51I'm not surprised by some of the things that they said.
08:53Um, it was good to be a little bit more candid with them.
08:55That was the first time that we've ever actually sat down and talked to them about-
08:59And like, yeah, so what was your perception?
09:01Yeah, yeah.
09:02Do you like me?
09:03The rules for dating outside of our relationship, it's just more communication.
09:07It's talking through needs and wants and expectations.
09:11We do like to know what's going on.
09:14Respectful check-ins.
09:15Respectful check-ins and stuff.
09:17It's really hard to pick one thing that I like about you.
09:20It's literally everything.
09:21I've been obsessed with your whole person since the day I met you.
09:25You know, you're just so raw and authentically yourself that it's hard to not fall in love with you and be obsessed with you.
09:32It's really hard to pick one thing that you love most about someone who is like your bestest friend in the whole world.
09:38I think it's the way that you show up for me and for the people that you love.
09:44And I love you for showing up for us all the time.
09:47Always.
09:48Anyone who judges our relationship, haters gonna hate.
09:50Your hate can't touch me.
10:02You let me—
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