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00:01Stalking is a growing crime we're hearing about more and more,
00:04but honestly, some of the stories in the news and online
00:07are truly terrifying.
00:09It's a complex crime of psychological terror,
00:13which leaves its victims feeling unsafe and in fear.
00:16I did get to a point where I was going to sleep
00:19with a kitchen knife.
00:20Everyone enables the behaviour
00:23and says it's not a big deal when it is.
00:26And can escalate to physical harm and even murder.
00:31I said, if you don't help me, he is going to kill me.
00:34He won't let her go without intervention. He'll kill her.
00:36I put out a post to my followers
00:38asking if anyone was experiencing being stalked.
00:41Some of the women who responded have agreed to let me into their lives
00:45and share how it's been affecting them.
00:48I am the guy you're looking for.
00:50Mort, you're so bad.
00:51How did you feel when you started getting these intense messages through?
00:55Violated.
00:57Live you're a fat slut.
00:59Live you're a whore.
01:00These are ongoing, active cases.
01:03I'd have to go off of my balcony.
01:06Sorry, I couldn't do that.
01:08So I can't reveal names or locations that could put them at risk.
01:12What's making you feel upset?
01:14I'm getting bombarded with phone calls.
01:16I want to try and understand what it's like to be stalked.
01:20Describe to me, though, that feeling of constantly being watched.
01:23Jump on high lip.
01:24My whole body's shaking.
01:26Whether enough is being done to support victims.
01:29His entire life revolves around harassing this victim.
01:33You've been stalking her again. I'm arresting you.
01:35And understand the long-term impact of stalking.
01:39What should I do if I see anything outside?
01:42You mean 999, my house is flagged.
01:45I can't exist while someone wants to hunt me down.
01:56There is nobody else who loves you.
01:58I am.
01:59I am the guy you're looking for.
02:01I'm suffering.
02:02I don't sleep.
02:04I'm thinking about you all the time.
02:06You're the only thing that I have in my brain.
02:09That's love, my dear.
02:10I'm meeting Jen, whose stalker is a complete stranger.
02:17He's been fixated on her for over three years
02:20after they crossed paths once through work.
02:25He's followed her to work and bombarded her
02:27with hundreds of unwanted, often explicit messages.
02:31He has been convicted of stalking
02:33and sent to prison three times now,
02:35and he's about to be released.
02:37I've woke up in the middle of the night,
02:39just panicked.
02:41I feel helpless.
02:43I just feel so terrified.
02:45What if he gets into my house
02:47and there's nothing between us?
02:53Hopefully we can make it into the property
02:55without anyone noticing or seeing us.
02:58Hi, Anne.
03:00Nice to meet you.
03:01Hi there.
03:02Nice to meet you.
03:03How are you doing?
03:04How are you feeling about today?
03:06I'm going to make sure I don't cry.
03:08No, it's not, honestly.
03:10It's not a problem to be emotional.
03:16So, I'll take a seat.
03:18So, I just want to say, first of all,
03:20thank you so much,
03:21because I know that sharing your story is hard for you.
03:25But how did this all begin, Jen?
03:28March 2022,
03:29I was a recruitment consultant
03:31and I just put an advert out.
03:33I gave him his application,
03:34just like everybody else.
03:35He got offered the role.
03:37From there,
03:38he started to get the texts of
03:41morning.
03:42I've just started my day.
03:44It's 5am.
03:45I'm heading here
03:46and I'm going to be stopping there.
03:49And then it started to be pictures
03:51as if he was texting his best friend.
03:53And I didn't respond to them.
03:56And then they started to get a little bit personal.
03:59Then the texts were coming through
04:01at 8, 9, 10 o'clock at night
04:04and I was not responding to anything.
04:06But then I'd get five or six more messages.
04:08Wow.
04:09And I was waking up to loads of messages
04:12in the middle of the night.
04:14Still in Leicester,
04:15hoping you will appear from somewhere.
04:18There is parking just behind the hotel.
04:20Come to me, honey.
04:21I am not leaving without seeing you tonight.
04:24I am here, full of love for you,
04:27hardly sleeping night by night.
04:29It was a Saturday.
04:33I got a text on my personal number.
04:39Oh my goodness.
04:40I want your hair falling through my face.
04:42I want to kiss you on your closed eyes.
04:44I want to gently touch your nose with mine,
04:47running my fingers gently over the curves of your body.
04:50I want to sink into your eyes,
04:52like into the well of life.
04:54How did you feel when you started getting these
04:57really quite intense messages through?
05:02Disgusting.
05:04Violated.
05:05He sent me a picture to my work phone, naked.
05:09It was one of the creepiest poses I've ever seen in my life
05:11in pictures, to be really honest.
05:13He was standing, erm, completely naked at the vanity
05:19and just leaning over and took a picture.
05:22And that was disgusting.
05:24That got sent straight to the police.
05:26It's a stranger.
05:27Yeah.
05:28Someone who you met once in passing through work.
05:33I think that's what makes it the most scary.
05:35Yeah.
05:36My love for you is in my brain, is not in my manhood.
05:40I am the guy you're looking for.
05:42Are you just not recognising it?
05:44Oh, you're so bad.
05:47Really bad.
05:49The whispering was so creepy.
05:51Like, it was scary.
05:53It was when I knew that he was making porn searches.
05:57For people that looked like me.
06:00Wow.
06:01I was scared of him attacking me.
06:04I mean, this is like...
06:06So, now we're only, you know, five days after those first messages
06:12and he's starting to get angry now.
06:14Yeah.
06:15Young, capable, intelligent guy who is in love with you
06:18and he threw me overboard.
06:20From who?
06:21Who are those people?
06:22None of them care for you.
06:24None of them.
06:25I love them.
06:26I'm going to get a tissue.
06:27Yeah, of course you can.
06:28Oh.
06:29It's the way that he says nobody will love you like me
06:33and it just makes me feel angry that somebody thinks they can say
06:38nobody else will love you like me and it's...
06:40Mm-hmm.
06:41You're a stranger.
06:42Mm.
06:43I'm just going to get a tissue.
06:44Yeah, go for it.
06:45I'm really shocked how quickly someone can become obsessive.
06:58You okay?
06:59Yeah.
07:00Yeah.
07:01How many times has he been arrested?
07:03I think it must have been about four and then been to prison three times.
07:08Oh, my goodness.
07:09On my route home, I saw him parked up at the travel lodge, which is on this video here.
07:15Behind this sign, I hid away and he's parked there.
07:18There's traffic lights there and everyone stops here.
07:20He was looking into every car as they stopped.
07:23Oh, my God.
07:24I can't believe he was actually, like, sitting in his car waiting for you to drive past.
07:29I saw him on that route twice looking for me.
07:32How long has he been in prison for?
07:34Eight months.
07:35He's pretty much served it now because he'd already served so much on remand.
07:40How has him being in prison made you feel?
07:43When he's in prison, I feel safer.
07:47Life really does relax.
07:50And if he's in there long enough, I really do feel a lot more confident.
07:55When he's coming out, it's really, really stressful.
07:58On one of the occasions when he came out of prison, he rang me within two hours of being released.
08:04So he came straight out of prison, went straight into a shop, bought the phone and rang me.
08:08He was like, hi, baby, it's me.
08:10When he's coming out, he's going to get in the car and he's going to come straight here.
08:15You'll get released from prison, you'll find yourself back at square one again.
08:18He wants to break me. He said that in his interviews to the police, so I'm broken.
08:23The only way it may end, if it was him or me, so it's either me that disappears or he disappears.
08:31And he's not going anywhere.
08:33Jen's story is probably one of the most shocking scenarios that I've ever heard.
08:45This is a man who is dedicated the last few years of his life to trying to find her and hunt her down.
08:53I don't know how she sleeps at night. I would be so scared.
08:56She's clock watching now. She's counting down the minutes until he comes out.
09:03And what's he going to do?
09:06Jen's stalker is a complete stranger who she only met once.
09:10In most stalking cases, victims are targeted by someone they know.
09:14The police in the UK define stalking as a criminal act recognised as behaviour that is fixated, unwanted, obsessive and repeated.
09:26Three quarters of stalking cases are from an ex-partner, often triggered by a breakup.
09:32I know what days you work. I've taken a photo of your hours. I can turn up to the shop whenever I want.
09:39I promise I'll be turning up every day. I promise you, you'll be happy to see me.
09:5020-year-old Isabel reported her ex to the police for following her to work on nights out and for making violent threats.
09:57After an initial arrest, the case has been dropped due to lack of evidence.
10:03She is being supported by a charity who helped her get a non-monestation order from the civil court.
10:09Isabel's moved away from friends and family to escape him, but believes he's found her location.
10:18She's been told by her ex-partner that he can see into her flat.
10:22Just the constant fear and anxiety of not knowing if you're being watched.
10:27To be followed around, to hear that he's stood in an alleyway that goes past my house and I still have to live here every day.
10:34Like, he could be there late at night, he could be there early in the morning.
10:38Like, I never thought it would happen to me.
10:40To avoid bringing any extra attention to the address, we're keeping our cameras hidden.
10:51Hiya. Hi, how are you? Lovely to meet you.
10:55You too. Is it ready to go through here?
10:57Yeah, it's fine.
10:59Why are you having to leave here then?
11:02It's just been marked as unsafe.
11:04It's first floor, but it's not hard to get up and get into a window if you wanted to.
11:10Paragon, the domestic abuse stalking and harassment team.
11:14They just want us in a house where we can have alarms, extra doors, extra locks on the doors, cameras.
11:20There's an alleyway and you can see directly into the flat.
11:25He has been down there and seen it through here.
11:28It's literally just up from that yellow box.
11:31Is it just behind the trees?
11:33Yeah.
11:35Every time I went out, he would appear.
11:37It's hard because obviously you're on social media.
11:40He was using one of my friends' accounts to see where we are.
11:45I've been out with one of my friends and I had a specific top and he was like,
11:49that was the top you were wearing on this date, at this time, at this place.
11:52He could like pinpoint specific items of clothing I was wearing,
11:55what times I was where, who I was with, where I was.
11:58It was actually quite scary.
12:01He was wearing a blue lingerie top, no.
12:03Love, I know things you would never think I know.
12:06What were the allegations that you made against him?
12:09It was a really toxic relationship.
12:11He would say that he could come through my front door and beat me up if he wanted to.
12:16But luckily for me, he doesn't want to.
12:18He was posting photos of me and him on social media months after we'd split up.
12:23Like, I think trying to keep up that we were still together.
12:27Really?
12:28Yeah.
12:29He'd gone out and bought my initial, which he then put on a necklace to wear around his neck.
12:34All the gifts that he would send to the house when we'd split up.
12:37Letters through the door.
12:38Like, I had a three-page letter sent through my door one time just saying that he missed me.
12:43He missed, like, the smell of me.
12:45This was the letter.
12:47I will fight for your love.
12:49I can't imagine life without you.
12:51It scares me to death.
12:52I miss everything about you.
12:53I miss your morning breath, your touch, your lips against mine.
12:57I miss holding you.
12:58I miss smelling you in the sheets.
13:00I cannot get you out of my head and wholeheartedly believe I will never fall out of love with you.
13:05It was a really strange letter.
13:06It made me really uncomfortable to read it.
13:08I quit my job, so I went and worked at a different place.
13:11He would show up there, sit in his car where I was waiting for my mum to pick me up,
13:15just to make sure that I wasn't meeting another man or that nobody else was picking me up.
13:20How much faith do you have in the police at this point?
13:24None. None at all.
13:26I wouldn't even want to call them if I'd seen him out in the alleyway,
13:31because they just wouldn't do anything.
13:33I had so much hope that they would help me.
13:35They were calling me all the time, like,
13:37we're investigating this now, we're investigating that now.
13:40And then one day, the main officer on the case went away,
13:43and then the next it was NFA'd.
13:45They just dropped it all like it was nothing.
13:50The first thing I said when I reported it over the phone to this officer,
13:53I said, if you don't help me, he is going to kill me.
13:55My family think it, my friends think it, everybody has told me,
13:58something is going to happen to you.
14:00Oh, wow.
14:08I've moved five times now.
14:09Five times?
14:11Yeah, trying to get away from him.
14:15In a lot of ways, you have to change your life.
14:18You want to be able to live like a normal girl in her 20s.
14:22It's not a nice way to live.
14:24I put myself in hospital a couple of days ago.
14:27I started getting chest pains,
14:29thinking that it was something serious,
14:32and it was a panic attack.
14:35And that is just solely living here.
14:38Yeah.
14:39He knows what he's done, and he knows he's gotten away with it.
14:44So I don't know what he's going to try to do next.
14:46But living in here still, it's just like waiting for something to happen.
14:50I want to stay for the evening to understand how she feels alone at night in her flat.
15:02In addition to alarms and privacy film for the windows,
15:05the charity have made a safety plan in case he turns up.
15:09Fun?
15:13I'll use the scissors, don't you worry.
15:16It's a good idea, to be fair.
15:18I think there's so much easier...
15:19I've cut loads of things with scissors.
15:20Bacon.
15:21Cutting.
15:22Cheese.
15:23Cheese?
15:24Yeah.
15:25Meteor grated.
15:26There you go.
15:27So you mentioned before you needed a safety plan.
15:30Can you talk me through what that is?
15:32I'd have to go off of my balcony onto the roof of the car park
15:37and then onto the floor, go either onto the road and flag down a car
15:41or come back into the building and get a neighbour or, like, flag down a person.
15:46I wouldn't be able to take my son with me.
15:49I can't jump off the roof of a car park with a one-year-old.
15:52Right, so I'm going to try this safety plan.
15:57Oh, situation.
15:58So you've got to get yourself down here.
16:01And then you'd have to...
16:03Sorry.
16:04I couldn't do that.
16:05I mean, maybe if I'm, like, in a lot of stress I could, but...
16:13Yeah.
16:14And then if you've got up here from down there,
16:16that window just at the edge of that is my son's window.
16:22So if you're not coming in here and breaking in here,
16:25you can go and get into his bedroom.
16:27Oh, my God.
16:29That is just...
16:32And how...
16:33If you had your little boy in your arms, I mean...
16:36I don't know how...
16:37It would hurt him a lot more than it would hurt me.
16:39I mean, well...
16:41It's not really much...
16:43It feels a bit more like an unsafety plan than anything.
16:46Yeah.
16:47This house is a stalker's dream.
16:56I can't even imagine being Isabel.
16:59I'd be so unsettled every single day.
17:01Isabel's situation isn't unusual.
17:07Due to high evidence thresholds required by the CPS,
17:11only 6% of stalking reported to the police ends up in a charge.
17:16Only 1.4% results in a conviction.
17:19But even when victims do secure a conviction,
17:23this isn't always the end of the story.
17:30I'm going back to see Jen.
17:32She's been on edge since she got the news
17:34that her stalker is due to be released.
17:37The police officer assigned to her case
17:39is here to prepare her
17:40in case her worst fear comes true
17:43and he finds her.
17:48She's allowed us to sit in.
17:50OK, we're at the door now.
17:53Hi, Jen.
17:54Hey, Zora, how are you?
17:55We've just got the camera inside the bag.
17:57Do you mind if we take it out?
17:58No, that's fine.
18:00Hey, Josh.
18:02So, this is Zora.
18:03Hi, lovely to meet you.
18:04Nice to meet you. How are you?
18:05Good, how are you?
18:06Yeah, really good, thank you.
18:08You're here now,
18:09which means there's something about to happen.
18:11And it's always the case
18:12a couple of weeks before it does.
18:13Yeah.
18:14So, the reason that we're here today,
18:16the general term that you use for it
18:18is safeguarding.
18:19Yeah.
18:20There are some kind of
18:22quite heavy things that we need to talk about.
18:24Oh, why am I going to start crying now?
18:25Is he coming in the next week or two
18:28or are we looking further in the future?
18:30It's due to end at the end of July.
18:32So, he'll be released with conditions
18:34during that period,
18:36he'll be monitored very closely.
18:38So, there'd be things like tagging
18:40so you could see his location.
18:42Because he was a truck driver,
18:44there was a stipulation to say
18:46that if he was travelling through Leicestershire for work,
18:49he was able to do that.
18:50So...
18:51Is he still allowed?
18:52It was very clear in the stipulation
18:54that, albeit he could travel through and make deliveries,
18:57he cannot get out of his cab.
18:59Is this man not dangerous enough
19:02to be able to say,
19:03you cannot go anywhere near her?
19:06What I would want to try and avoid is,
19:09I can't drive now because of Jennifer.
19:11Now I've got to do something about that.
19:13Mm-hmm.
19:14The next thing we need to talk about
19:16is an exit strategy about the worst-case scenario.
19:20It'd be really, really tough to talk about,
19:23but there's a reason why we do it.
19:26If there's ever the time
19:28where he does manage to come to the house,
19:31the best option there then
19:33is getting yourself to another part of the house,
19:36the way,
19:37barricade yourself in there and calling 999.
19:40What if I got out the bathroom window?
19:42Is that a safe thing for you to do?
19:45It feels scarier because,
19:47if he was at the door,
19:49then I'm going to walk in straight out to where he is.
19:51So, yeah, I would have locked myself in the bathroom.
19:53I'm shaking.
19:54The other thing we can have inside of the house
19:58are your personal alarms.
20:00So, you'd have one that stays here
20:03and also one that is with you at all times.
20:06So...
20:07I sleep with it under my pillow.
20:09Yeah.
20:10I have it in my hand
20:11because I'm kind of on high alert.
20:13My head is totally fuzzy
20:15and I'm just, like, panicking.
20:16I'm like, my whole body is shaking.
20:18Can I definitely have these alarms fitted on my bathroom, please?
20:21Yeah.
20:22On all windows, please?
20:23Yeah.
20:24I don't know if I'm allowed to say this,
20:25but as a female living alone,
20:27with that fear in my head,
20:29I did get to a point where I was going to sleep,
20:32not only with the alarm,
20:33but I had something there
20:35that I felt would make me feel safer,
20:37which was a kitchen knife.
20:39I would never be able to use a kitchen knife on anybody
20:42because my temperament is not there.
20:44But...
20:45Is that silly of me to do that?
20:47How can I say
20:48that something that you genuinely fear
20:50or genuinely worry about is silly,
20:52if that's the level of fear that you've got?
20:55Is there a feeling that
20:57the system isn't quite matching up
21:00to what you guys, as detectives,
21:02kind of, like, on the front line,
21:03want and need from it?
21:06It's really tough because
21:08is prison the correct place for him?
21:11Well, yes, from a safeguarding perspective,
21:14because it keeps you safe.
21:15But what does it do to tackle the behaviour
21:18and stop it being the circle that we're getting?
21:22So we've got offending prison out,
21:25offending prison out.
21:27It just doesn't feel fair.
21:29The victim lives with it forever.
21:36As Jen Stalker could be released in a matter of weeks,
21:44she's meeting up with her sister Sam,
21:47who's been a big support
21:48during some of her darkest times.
21:50Hello!
21:51Hi!
21:52Are you all right?
21:53Yeah, nice to meet you.
21:54Nice to meet you.
21:55Lovely to meet you.
21:56I'm OK, thank you.
21:57How are you?
21:58Are you good?
21:59Yeah, good.
22:00Shall we sit down?
22:05Yeah.
22:06This is actually a really cute little spot.
22:10I've got to know Jen a bit
22:12and heard about what's been happening,
22:15but where do you see all of this going
22:18once he gets released from prison?
22:20If he's out and he's free to roam,
22:24it doesn't matter to him.
22:25The restraining orders,
22:27none of it means anything.
22:28It doesn't register.
22:29I do think that she's in massive danger.
22:31Massive amounts of danger.
22:36How have the rest of the family responded to all of this?
22:41It's broken us all in a way
22:43and everyone's so concerned about her,
22:45but what can you do?
22:47You can't wrap someone in cotton wool
22:48and why should you?
22:49Like, what life is that for anyone?
22:52Mm-hmm.
22:54It's OK.
22:56It's OK.
22:57It's an emotional thing
22:58because, you know, seeing your sister
23:01go through that everyday fear
23:02and it's a lot for everyone to take on.
23:04It exhausted you though.
23:05You weren't sleeping,
23:06she wasn't eating
23:07and then the doctors were trying to give her
23:09like anti-anxiety medication or sleeping tablets
23:12and then she said,
23:13I can't take them
23:14because what if I'm in a state of being
23:16a little bit woozy or dozy
23:18and he does turn up?
23:19I can't fight him then.
23:21This is what it's done.
23:22This is the effects of stalking.
23:24You're going in circles of what if this?
23:25What if that?
23:26If I'll never hear from him again,
23:27I'll live in torture doing that to myself now
23:30because he's made me feel
23:31that he's so obsessed with me
23:33that he'll never leave me alone.
23:35Talk to me about Jen
23:38before all of this happened.
23:40She's just fun.
23:41We were always out and about socially.
23:44The most we do is walk now quietly
23:47or sit inside and watch TV.
23:49It's a struggle
23:50and it's the fear of not knowing who you're going to meet
23:53and that's what breaks my heart
23:54and seeing you now, it's hard.
24:01What do you think could happen
24:03when he gets released?
24:05Are you worried about that?
24:06More than anything in the world.
24:09It terrifies me.
24:10I'm really sorry.
24:11It's a horrible sentence to say, Jen.
24:13But I honestly think without intervention,
24:16he'll kill her.
24:17He won't let her go.
24:19If he gets her, he'll never let her go.
24:21That's a horrible sentence to say out loud.
24:23I'm sorry. I'm really sorry.
24:25I'm sorry.
24:32Sam's scared.
24:33You know, Sam was describing her as the life and soul of the party,
24:38but now Jen has almost become reclusive
24:41and she doesn't want to leave the house.
24:43she's completely transformed and I can't even imagine the pain
24:48of having to watch your family member gradually change
24:52into a completely different person.
24:54I am just so overwhelmed by the thought that a stranger,
25:00someone you met through a really brief encounter,
25:03and how they can completely shatter your whole life,
25:08change the person that you are
25:10and damage the lives of those around you.
25:14I'm back to see Isabel, who's taking me to the alleyway
25:23where her ex-partner said he could see into her flat.
25:28According to Isabel's non-molestation order,
25:31he isn't breaking any rules by standing here.
25:35He will only be arrested if he stands on the street outside her flat.
25:40I couldn't really get a full idea of exactly where that alleyway was.
25:43because there's obviously so many trees.
25:46Do you feel OK going down there with us?
25:48Yeah, with you guys, yeah.
25:57If you were slightly taller, through here.
26:02Oh, wow.
26:04That is just directly into my living room.
26:09It's quite scary.
26:10I don't really want to go back in there.
26:12Does it feel strange, almost, putting ourselves...
26:16Are you OK? Yeah.
26:19Are you sure?
26:21What's making you feel upset?
26:23Like, actually seeing it and knowing that he's, like, been down here.
26:28It's just weird.
26:32I know.
26:33It's just, I can't wrap my head around it.
26:36I don't understand it at all.
26:37Or what he gets from it.
26:38Just standing here and watching.
26:40Yeah.
26:42I spoke to you at length.
26:43This is the first time I've kind of seen the real emotions that are coming out of you.
26:50What about this scenario has made you feel that way?
26:54There's no nothing to catch him.
26:56No cameras, no nothing.
26:57No there isn't, is there?
26:58It's just an alleyway.
27:01And it's just the not knowing.
27:04It makes me feel sick.
27:06What do you think he needs to do for you to get this taken seriously?
27:12Seriously hurt me on my son.
27:13It will be that extent, I genuinely think, before they actually start taking it serious.
27:20It feels like when you talk about it, that you've almost accepted the fact that that's just going to have to be something that happens one day.
27:26Yeah.
27:27I tried going to the police, I tried telling them that if you don't help me, he's going to kill me or he's going to take me and you're not going to find me again.
27:34And it's just been dropped.
27:37So now it's like it has to get to that extent for them to do something.
27:40I hope it doesn't, but I do think one day that it might happen.
27:50You're feeling okay, yeah.
28:02After spending time with Jen and Isabel, I can see how hard it is for them to get the protection they need to feel safe.
28:11Now, I want to understand what the challenges are to getting a conviction by spending time with the Metropolitan Police's Public Protection Unit.
28:19I am going to give this to Rena, to give her a little bit of a snapshot of it, and then she'll do the work on it.
28:29So I have a stalking with fear of violence.
28:32She's also heard him shout that if she doesn't open the door, he's going to kill her.
28:38So can you tell me a bit about what's going on with this case?
28:41The suspect has, on a number of occasions, come to her home address.
28:44There are numerous threats of violence, like, I am going to kill you and I'm going to kill the children.
28:51We are going to attempt an arrest today.
28:54Ready for the drive of your life.
29:02OK.
29:04Can you tell me a bit more about, kind of, what you do on a day-to-day basis and what the overall goal is for the operation?
29:11What we're finding is that when we work on a job or a case and we support the officer in charge, with all the evidence, we are able to get the charges more often than not, but we're also getting more guilty pleas.
29:24I know we're going to arrest the suspect today, but is a part of this trying to collect the device so you guys can download the data from it?
29:38Yeah, so it's important that we arrest the suspect as early as possible.
29:41Mm-hm.
29:42We don't know the extent of the stalking.
29:44So we've identified the property.
29:46I'm on the standpoint out here just to make sure we don't know if there's any access to any of the shops down below.
29:51What we'll do is we'll get yourself to follow up behind but at a safe distance.
29:55OK.
29:56I'll take Zora back out if it's anything.
29:58Yeah.
30:03Stay back here.
30:10He's moved on.
30:11Got an answer at the door.
30:13There's several people living at this address.
30:15So the officers, I think, are just trying to locate the suspect.
30:18He doesn't live there anymore.
30:20He's moved on.
30:21This is life or death stuff.
30:23Mm, absolutely.
30:24This could be the one chance we get to save this victim.
30:27Unfortunately, today, we've not got the result we wanted.
30:30But we just have to get back and try and locate this gentleman there.
30:33Yeah.
30:34Back at the station, Detective Billy has had an update from a 20-year-old victim on another stalking investigation.
30:50Hi, Billy.
30:51Hello.
30:52So it's not long till the victim comes in, is it?
30:56Yeah.
30:57The victim has kind of lost the courage to go forward now with this investigation.
31:01Mm.
31:02Is this something that happens a lot?
31:03Yes.
31:04Is there external pressures?
31:06Is there pressures from the family?
31:07Is there pressures from the community?
31:09We've had a harassment order put in place.
31:11He's still continued harassing her because we were then called again.
31:15Being charged, it's not putting him off.
31:17It's not slowing him down.
31:18Someone not wanting to let go of a relationship.
31:22In some eyes, that might be romantic.
31:25In someone else's eyes, that might be scary.
31:27A couple of times a week, I'd give her a call and see if she'd engage with me.
31:31But she finally did pick up.
31:36How is she feeling, do you think?
31:39I think she's a bit apprehensive.
31:41She's at a bit of a fork in the road where she either goes ahead now with this all
31:47or she doesn't.
31:48Mm-hm.
31:49Just for transparency, I'm going to be in the next room typing what you're saying.
31:54So we're here today because you've said to me in regards to the ongoing stalking case
32:01that there's something you need to tell me.
32:04I just, I don't know what to do.
32:07That's why I need to talk to you today because I'm lost.
32:11Every day, I get about 50 missed calls.
32:14And then the one phone call I do answer is him calling me a hoe.
32:18It's just getting too much.
32:20I just need it to stop.
32:21I need to tag put on.
32:23My last resort was call the police.
32:25And ever since I've called the police, I feel like it was the wrong thing to do.
32:29Yeah.
32:30Because I don't feel like I'm getting the justice that I need.
32:33In terms of threats, what's he said to you?
32:35He's telling me he knows where I live still, who my friends are, what I do.
32:39He knows my routine.
32:40I'm getting bombarded with phone calls, getting called a hoe, a slag.
32:45Him calling me worthless, telling me no one wants me, telling me my family's trash.
32:50This year, I'm getting very short.
32:53What's making you feel upset?
32:58The fact that I can't live my life in peace.
33:03I'm just getting, yeah, I'm getting tired.
33:07I'm just a hoe in his eyes because I don't want to be his property no more.
33:10Yeah.
33:11How long from when you've been charged did you start receiving calls from him again?
33:17He was quiet for three weeks.
33:19Have you responded to him?
33:22I've answered a couple of phone calls because I thought it would be the police calling me.
33:25But every time I've answered, it's always heavy breathing.
33:28And that's, to me, that's very, very creepy.
33:32This is the Snapchat.
33:34I got missed calls there and four missed calls on Snapchat.
33:38Is this all today?
33:39This is all today.
33:42All of this is today.
33:44Up until here, it's from yesterday.
33:46Like I have explained to you that he has put forward a notion to dismiss this in cult.
33:52I've got a very short timeframe for me to get some of what they want.
33:57I'm here to support you, to try and give you the safeguarding that you need.
34:01But I need you to support me too in helping us achieve that best evidence.
34:06Yeah.
34:07Are you happy for us to exhibit and evidence your phone?
34:10Yeah.
34:11Yeah?
34:12If you're happy, I'd like to go and get a camera and just so I can record your whole call log.
34:17So we'll take a statement from you today, okay?
34:20Mm-hmm.
34:21Are you willing to attend cult?
34:22You know what?
34:23I have no choice now.
34:24Why should I have to live my life like this?
34:26Isabel's preparing to move for the sixth time to try to get away from her ex-partner, who she reported for stalking her for a year after they split up.
34:45So I just found some notes that I'd wrote down about him.
34:52I've got two other books with probably about six or seven different pages of stuff written in because I knew that one day it would get to the point where I would have to call the police.
35:04It's really hard to prove.
35:08I think so much happened that if somebody was to ask me everything that happened now, there would still be things that I would miss out.
35:16I kind of, like, block out most of it.
35:20It's like you're in, like, a prison.
35:22It's not like I'm still in that relationship because, like, you can't get away from him.
35:27He's used the excuse so much that he loved me and that that was why he's done absolutely everything.
35:33Like, following somebody around like that and just inflicting pure fear onto a girl, how is that love?
35:46A week later, Isabel has managed to relocate to a house in a new area.
36:01Oh, thank you.
36:02CJ?
36:06Hi, Mum.
36:07CJ?
36:09Yeah, I'm good, thank you. How are you?
36:11I've got a woman, she's from a charity, she's Target Hardening, going to come and look at putting alarms on windows and extra locks on doors and cameras, just to make the house a bit safer.
36:29Yeah, OK, I'll see you soon.
36:31Right, bye.
36:34Good boy.
36:41Hello.
36:46Hiya.
36:48Although the police are no longer investigating her allegations, she still has support from a local charity.
36:55The support worker can't reveal her identity as she works in the community supporting victims of stalking and domestic violence.
37:01So, out the back, the main issue that I've got is the shed, because if he puts a wheelie bin at the back, jumps over the garden, you can sit in there and wait all night.
37:12OK.
37:13This is worst case scenario, I don't want to frighten you or anything, so that's where you need to get a bolt.
37:18Mm-hm.
37:19How big is he?
37:23As in, would he be able to fit through that kitchen window, because they're quite narrow?
37:27I imagine if he wanted to.
37:28Yeah.
37:29Probably.
37:30OK.
37:31Right.
37:32Alarms.
37:33So, as soon as you switch it to on, that red light will flash.
37:35Mm-hm.
37:36It'll beep.
37:37And that's to let you know that it's active.
37:39Mm-hm.
37:40And then all I've got to do is pop it up at the top.
37:48This is louder than the window alarms.
37:51OK.
37:52The aim is, is that we want to draw attention to yourself, so you can just pull this bit out the bottom.
37:57Unless he's coming into the property, don't try to leave.
38:01999 it.
38:02We usually say a sanctuary room is somewhere where you can block yourself in to try and make your escape.
38:08So, for example, this room would be perfect.
38:10She's been amazing in the house.
38:17She thinks of stuff that I wouldn't have even thought about.
38:21It is good having her come here.
38:23I think I would be a lot more anxious if I didn't have somebody like that coming here.
38:27I will feel OK with, like, day-to-day living here when I have the camera on the back and the doorbell on the front, just so if I'm out, I can still see who's coming past.
38:41I feel a lot more safe than I did.
38:44It's just going to take some getting used to.
38:55Detective Billy's stalking case is moving forward.
38:58He's been able to use the evidence from the victim's phone.
39:01Now, the Operation Atlas team is attempting an arrest of her ex-partner for breaking a domestic violence protection order.
39:09We think he's going to run away from us because of his history.
39:17He's previously escaped from officers whilst he was in handcuffs.
39:22All right, so keep your eyes peeled.
39:24Just keep an eye out, ear out for...
39:26I'm trying to call you.
39:27...south space.
39:32Think now.
39:39All right, bud, how are you doing? You all right?
39:43Yeah, unfortunately, yeah, what's happened is there's an allegation that you've been stalking her again, making a number of unwanted phone calls.
39:51And you've also breached harassment order, OK?
39:54The time now is 14.57. I'm arresting you. Come on, mate.
40:01Yeah, on the body once.
40:04You all right? You're shaking?
40:06Yeah.
40:07We've arrested the suspect, and we've managed to seize the telephone that belongs to him.
40:12And we're going to go to custody now and book him in.
40:15So the physical phone will potentially go for a download.
40:19At this stage, it's an allegation.
40:21He seems shocked and surprised.
40:24The victim's given her account, and now it's important that we get the suspect's account.
40:28So he'll need to be interviewed and the allegations put to him,
40:31because there might be other lines of inquiries that are identified.
40:45I'm catching up with Detective Sergeant Kez to find out if they found any useful evidence on the suspect's phone after the arrest.
40:52So do you have an update on the case where that arrest was made?
40:56We was able to request communication data, specific dates,
41:00which the victim alleges she was being contacted and harassed, and he had attended her address.
41:06Mm-hm.
41:07You can see contact exceeding, like, hundreds of times in one particular day.
41:12Wow.
41:13Red being the colour used to show the outgoing calls from the suspect to the victim.
41:18When I sat in the room with her, I could see her phone lighting up, and it looked incessant.
41:24But when you actually see it in black and white in front of you, 500 calls, 600 calls a day.
41:30Let's read some of these out.
41:3112.05, 12.05, 12.06, 12.08, 12.08, 12.10, 12.11, 12.16.
41:38Like, this is constant.
41:40Like, it almost feels like his entire life revolves around harassing this victim.
41:47And this is one particular day.
41:49Some people might say, oh, just block the number, they're just calling you, just get rid of it.
41:54But when someone's this obsessive, they will find a way to contact you,
41:58whether it's social media, whether it's texting, whether it's calling on withheld numbers.
42:02Like, he seems desperate to find a way.
42:04That's another additional thing.
42:06Does the risk increase by changing your number because he now can't make contact?
42:12What are some of his bail conditions that he needs to follow now he's been released?
42:16He's not to possess a mobile phone.
42:18He obviously can't make any contact with her directly or indirectly.
42:21He can't enter the area in which she lives.
42:24If he breaches any of that, then he'll be arrested and remanded again.
42:28I think this is a perfect example of it's almost impossible to argue with the communication data
42:34because the calls have been made to her as she says are being made,
42:38and it's a clear breach of the restraining order, which he knows is in place.
42:42The ex-partner is charged with stalking.
42:46His case is not due to be heard for another 12 months.
42:50So I've been here for around about six months now, and he's not found out where we're living yet.
43:02I have to be a lot more careful with where I'm going.
43:06I still struggle with leaving the house some days.
43:09When I go out, I'm constantly, like, on the scan for if I see his face,
43:15which is probably one of the reasons I don't really put myself in public situations.
43:20What happened to me has stolen part, if not a lot, of my life,
43:26and that is still quite hard to deal with.
43:35I hope that he has lost that fixation for me.
43:40I don't want to feel like a victim, and I don't want to be a victim of him, of all people.
43:46So I just do my best to not be sad about it.
43:53We contacted Dorset Police for a statement
43:56regarding their decision not to charge Isabel's ex.
43:59They responded,
44:01Inquiries were carried out and a man was arrested on suspicion of stalking and false imprisonment.
44:06After careful consideration of the available evidence and liaison with the parties involved,
44:10the man arrested was subsequently released without charge.
44:13They're gonna put him too close to me.
44:17I'm terrified.
44:18What do you think could happen?
44:20Something bad is more likely to happen.
44:23I think he's probably gonna attack me.
44:25It was just a pattern of sending me explicit images,
44:29saying some pretty disgusting things.
44:31Liv, you're a slut.
44:32And then it moves on to Liv, you're a whore.
44:34I'm supposed to just barricade my house with cameras,
44:36change my route every time I go somewhere.
44:39Everyone enables the behaviour.
44:41Like, this is the reality of stalking.
44:45This is how some women live every single day.
44:49It looks like this is a coronavirus day.
44:51I'm supposed to be a nightdose.
44:53I'm supposed to die.
44:54It looks very nice.
44:55But you're a bullberry,
44:56it looks like a deer hopper.
44:57So what can I do?
44:59Here we go.
45:00It's a crap minute.
45:01You don't have to come here.
45:02You can do it.
45:03I'm supposed to be a politic.
45:04You can do it.
45:05To you.
45:06You can do it.
45:07Want me to be a mess.
45:08You can do it.
45:09We'll be a miss.
45:10I'm supposed to be a Unless a soldier.
45:12We'll be a cat.
45:14You can do it.
45:15You can do it.
45:16You can do it.
45:17You
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