In this video, Jordan Peterson discusses various aspects of relationships. From choosing a mate to keeping a long-term relationship fresh, it comes down to communication, conscious effort and choices. Dr. Oz expresses that in terms of finding a partner, women may reject several suitors before she finds one to have children with. In fact, Dr. Oz wonders if how that choice is made can change. Jordan Peterson doesn’t think it can because women make choices rationally, emotionally, and instinctively. They are viewing it from a mating standpoint and the problems that could arise from choosing the improper mate. Jordan Peterson describes it as a profound rejection.

Dr. Oz then asks if there’s a way for men to reduce the pitfalls that are making them undesirable. Whether it’s being a little more fit, a little more educated, or even a little more compassionate, Jordan Peterson shares that one way could be to look at examples of others who are successful in those areas and see how incrementally they could work to be more like that. He explains that the best way is to take it as a lesson and not to hide.

Later, Jordan Peterson also says it’s important to know what you want in a relationship and to make sure to keep it interesting. He’s been with his wife for over 30 years and he feels like he doesn’t know all aspects of her. To him, this is a good to have in a relationship because you don’t get bored. And if you do, you’re bored of the image of your partner. Jordan Peterson suggests to learn ways to discover new things about your partner and to make room for the mystery of your partner to be revealed.