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00:0012 virgins are heading towards a paradise island to take part in a unique experiment the word
00:14virgin people see it as a joke it's quite upsetting I'm 23 still a virgin I feel like
00:22there's something wrong with me in a world where sex is everywhere my god terrified
00:29absolutely terrified the truth is surprising there are more adult virgins than ever being a
00:36young adult in this day and age it's difficult social media dating apps influences TV shows
00:42porn porn porn porn porn is everywhere are you self-conscious about our genitals touching each
00:48other now yeah this radical retreat is offering a very hands-on solution oh yeah she's a miracle
00:57worker woohoo oh god yes overseen by a group of experts yeah like that I like that ready to do
01:06anything to help Britain's virgins there's the clitters do you have any questions lose the one
01:14thing don't make you nervous they feel is holding them back I would love to have sex with you I do
01:21feel like there's a barrier between me and sex I want to lose my virginity it's now or never but
01:28when the moment arrives would you like to move to bed who will be ready I just don't want anyone
01:36to touch me to go all the way here they come can you imagine I scared they are
01:57for the next two weeks welcome my friend this experimental retreat will be home to 12 young
02:06people from all over the UK who desperately want help so spiritual I could be a 40 year old virgin I
02:20feel like I'm on a really bad route right now and I need I need something to change I describe
02:31myself as nervous I feel I look like one the glasses perhaps not the best physique so if I can
02:37lose my virginity that's one less thing for people to ridicule me over they're here to learn
02:43from some of the world's most experienced experts on how to embrace intimacy oh hello welcome thank
02:56you I just can't do touch I don't know why I've never had a girlfriend my fear is that I'm always
03:03gonna be a virgin like what am I doing wrong I've never been abroad before so so anything I've popped
03:12my blind virginity yay my social life's non-existent I've got two cats I feed them I look after them
03:21but they attack me but I know they love me in the wrong way but yeah not very social
03:25this is where you'll be staying for the duration of their stay home sweetheart I mean it's not quite my
03:36usual color they'll wear a retreat outfit you know like prisoners who get out on good behavior to go
03:42pick up litter that's sort of the color palette we're working with so they can focus on themselves
03:47not their image basic but comfy I would like to walk away from the island with more self-confidence
03:56because when you see a lot of celebrities on Instagram they they just have everything so
04:02perfect comparing myself to people online disrupting my self-esteem and it's something that I've been
04:08struggling with for so long it's so easy to say don't worry about the way you look in the mirror but
04:15then it is so hard to put that into action I think once I'm more content with myself I will then be able
04:22to live life and losing my virginity would probably be my final goal
04:29this is going to be your hangout zone that looks fantastic it's beautiful
04:41I can't get over how clear the water is before the course begins the group have a chance to get to
04:48know each other at the hangout oh hello hey guys you okay I'm Taylor nice to meet you nice to meet you
04:58I am bisexual I do know what I'm interested in but with boys and girls the only experience I've had
05:05been negative you kind of feel like it's just you who's having this issue nobody else is is that
05:13quite isolating yeah it's very isolating yeah sorry oh hello all right I'm Tom I'm Zach Zach nice to
05:27me he's like how are you okay very good yeah I went to university for three years but I was depressed
05:35in many ways by the fact that I'm a virgin I didn't get the degree I should have got never since I've been
05:42stuck doing jobs that I never really wanted to do I'm tired of the person that I've become it can't go on
05:53the group sessions are where most of the touch stuff is going to be done the thing I'm dreading
06:01is hugging did you not hug at the the start nope are you handshake I shut the hands I don't do I don't
06:06do hugs yeah shut the hand oh and I would have been like no I'll jump in the water no I don't do the
06:11hugging it's the um therapy itself that scares me now I'm just getting more and more tense
06:17the virgins are clearly nervous about what lies ahead and that's understandable it's a course like
06:25no other okay good set up by groundbreaking sex therapists Celeste and Danielle eyes closed
06:32what's gonna happen on this island is mind-blowing breathe one in eight people at age 26 are still
06:41virgins in the UK this is happening all over the world even the French are having less sex with a
06:48team of international sex coaches trained in different touch therapies they'll help the group
06:56try to overcome their worries around virginity tucked away on the island a sexy therapy spaces and bedrooms
07:05where they can practice the art of intimacy you can't really learn how to play a guitar from a book
07:13and you can't learn how to give and receive pleasure by just talking about it sometimes the only way to
07:18help someone is to get physical they don't know it yet but each phase of the course will push them to
07:27their very limits as they take their first steps to sexual confidence it's a process that starts now
07:46they're waiting for us of course with the foundation of all sexual attraction desire we so excited to
08:04start our workshops today and the first phase of this course is desire and letting shame go shame is
08:11very much attached to desire and turn-on and so much of shame melts away when people come together
08:18and start to talk about sex each of you need to have a space and a pillow the first exercise will give
08:25Celeste and Danielle a clear idea of who in the group is open to desire wonderful start by closing your eyes and
08:33and who may be resistant just listening to my voice ah I'm gonna start by taking a nice deep breath
08:42ah I'm gonna make lots of noise too by the way this may not be most people's idea of sex
08:52but for virgins Celeste and Danielle's research shows it's a great way to tune into your body
08:59breathwork is very powerful we use breath to help people expand on sensations release emotions so breath is
09:10key I'm gonna up the speed of the breath okay who was willing to make sound with me
09:22some are throwing themselves in wonderful you're doing it I love it good job but others seem more
09:36skeptical and for touch-phobic Jason it's more than he can handle it's amazing how much rest we need to
09:49take warm up our body to feel more and experience more and get it in yeah take your feet yeah I love this dance
09:58wonderful it's great okay Celeste and Danielle move on to the next exercise start by pairing up to teach
10:17them that before saying yes it's okay to say no all right so this exercise is about saying no so one of
10:27you is going to ask the other person for three things and then the other person is going to say no
10:32we need people to feel safe if people don't feel safe they won't feel safe to open up and start and
10:50try new things can't go on your golf cart absolutely not no can I don't say when I'm around a member of
10:57opposite sex I'm very awkward can I punch you in the face no I tend to say things without thinking can I
11:06throw you in the seat no no I wish it was different love to be able to speak to a girl keep a conversation
11:13and go on a date that's what kind of dream can I feed you to a lion no one all violent take a seat
11:25yeah just sit and relax the level of inexperience is clear so Celeste and Danielle decide to test how
11:31the group reacts to intense intimacy I want to give you a little demo of what you might get to tease your
11:38appetite a whole bit Andre we call it up against the wall
12:03witnessing sexual desire for most of this group
12:06is clearly unsettling
12:08oh
12:09okay I actually want to get your first sort of like a visceral response it was like watching a sex scene
12:32your parents but times a hundred quite uncomfortable to be honest watching that
12:36yeah it's normal to have so let yourself have any feelings you want to laugh laugh if you want to cry cry
12:41it's all okay this big insecurity that I have when it comes to my looks means I can't imagine that
12:49someone would want to be with me in any way where you're so stuck in this mindset that someone would
12:55be ashamed to walk down the street with you it's like a never-ending cycle like a roundabout that
13:01doesn't stop when I was growing up I would always get labeled as the duff which is designated ugly fat
13:08friends so I would always believe that I was ugly so I think there's a lot that I need to work on
13:19all right we're gonna come in a circle big round of applause
13:25thank you all bye bye bye what I got myself into I feel like I'm in a cult
13:35I'd be lying if I said it wasn't weird it seemed cultish it just seems like they've got this
13:42island where they live in a completely different world the up against the wall was interesting by
13:48the end I'd love to be able to do that I could not look after he kicked our legs apart that was
13:54too aggressive I think that's actually the most intimate I've ever seen people in front of you
13:59I don't think I was fully ready for that because I'm so shut off to that sort of world I've never
14:09felt that sort of emotion I've walked away feeling really overwhelmed I'm a bit like brain boggled at
14:15the minute the course has just begun and so far they've only had a taste of the unconventional
14:21methods ahead the next workshop may be tougher and I may actually not be ready for that
14:29it's halfway through day one on Virgin Island coming out as a version is very difficult because I
14:49think in this day and age people see it as such like a negative for men we we hide it if you're a
14:57virgin because mostly because how other men will see them 100% yeah so I told someone in our office
15:03that I'm a virgin and everyone who comes in they tell everyone I wish I was like smart to just say
15:09yeah I've had lots of the sex people have so much shame about being a virgin I think between rom-coms
15:19and porn there's so much perfectionism that's put out there like it's so much pressure that they're
15:26just terrified to try anything at all that's where we come in each step of the way the experts will
15:34share notes with each other about the group when you did the up against the wall exercise she started
15:40crying and after an emotional reaction during this morning's workshop their first concern is Emma I
15:48could see her face she was like really feeling it really intense it was too much for her to see it
15:52really she was like picturing herself in the situation and she got very overwhelmed like that
15:58was my sense every afternoon there are one-on-one sessions across the island and first the experts
16:07want Emma to explore her boundaries around intimacy with Thomas during 23 years being single I've never
16:16had the experience of someone romantically touching me if I ever got presented with the
16:21situation of sex I would worry that I could have a panic attack
16:27hello you okay I've never masturbated and I've never experienced an orgasm
16:33there's no way I could experience one other thing I want to propose you a little game around touch
16:44okay you just ask for the kind of touch you really like yeah what would make you happy to receive it's
16:56it's not something that I'm like ah I really wish someone would touch me John I don't think yeah
17:01yeah okay um maybe yeah maybe you could touch my name okay
17:10the idea is to test how Emma reacts to escalating touch yeah thank you do you want to try somewhere
17:18else where you feel that might be more like uh involved maybe if you try upper thigh
17:32when it gets to up this bit it gets a little bit like oh god like what's gonna happen sort of thing
17:38you it feels like you mean you have some fear i feel like if you went around here i probably would have
17:47maybe had a panic attack i did as much as i could and i pushed myself to my limits for the level that
17:56i'm currently at but i don't think i was really ready for it i i feel quite drained i feel a bit upset
18:05well thank you so much and yeah we'll just come with you i feel she's kind of a bit stuck
18:13okay thank you see you again take care see you later goodbye she was going through it but really
18:19one toe at a time one step at a time Emma's struggling hello charlotte do you want a hug no i'm all right
18:29thank you and as some of the others experience their first taste of touch therapy what's coming up for
18:35i know it's a simple thing but like i feel like i'm doing a bad job it's clear emma's not the only
18:43one finding it difficult if we get right or close yeah yeah i love 100 how intimate would you describe
18:50it yeah probably like 90 i think that's where we call it don't step backwards please
18:55but booking the trend is zach oh come on in i'm so excited as well after throwing himself into the
19:08first workshop the experts want to test how far zach is ready to go i've always wanted to be accepted
19:15i've always wanted to be liked by others it's something i felt i haven't had at many points in
19:20my life i know you feel also like a failure around sexuality right time yeah yeah it's just it's so
19:27hard to let go of that of course i don't know if i can just have a tissue please wipe these away
19:37sex was a taboo my family never even to this day talks about it i grew up seeing my dad only once a
19:47week and he never talked about it so i can't get tips or ask someone hey how do i attract a woman it
19:56feels like i should have figured that all that out a long time ago also i don't feel attractive or
20:04handsome um i assume the way that other people see me it's negative i think generally
20:12i want to play a fantasy with you really danielle believes her methods can give zach the confidence
20:22he needs how close that's all right yeah but it's not like any therapy he may have seen before
20:33i'm just gonna kiss you gently and i wanted to like see if you can really take it in okay
20:42how does that feel
21:02oh now i start to feel your arousal oh my god this is so sexy her hands-on technique works by giving
21:19zach a physical experience i just love how you bite your lip you're doing a form of somatic or touch
21:25therapy
21:33somatic therapy believes that just talking with someone is not going to be sufficient
21:38and we really need to help people through the body in order to really create some sort of change
21:44thank you thank you
21:51no one's ever said that i'm sexy no one i'm feeling fuzzy all over in that session alone i've done things
22:01that i've been craving for a long time you're going to conquer the world i'm making tons of progress
22:07back in the hangout the others are keen to find out more
22:15where have you been the one-to-one session was it good it's pretty intense oh neck kissing
22:21do you need a minute the first day at the retreat has shown just how many issues the group has
22:32around sex shame and intimacy and as the sun sets on the island
22:38have a very nice ceiling staring at us oh i can just sense dread celeste and danielle have one last
22:46exercise hello so you each brought an item that is about letting go of some piece of shame that
22:56you're ready to be done with and we can't wait to hear your stories they'll each share a story that
23:03represents a past failure in the hope that they can move on okay my items about my first year uni um
23:16event event feelings for my fat mate um so i decided to get her a necklace um but before i could give it
23:23to her she made it very clear we were never going to be anything um i didn't handle the rejection too
23:30well and i just beat myself up every day about it in terms of how i ended things with her
23:40it's my first ever rubik's cube and the way i treat a lot of relationships as a puzzle i think
23:47that gets in the way this is a gift that one of my well my only ex got me i didn't really think it
23:56meant that much and i should have thrown it out a while ago this is a hoodie from a time in my life
24:06when i i just felt like really worthless and i didn't see a future for myself
24:16this is actually a diary from one of my only kind of dating relationships
24:21that i felt was too much for me at the time and um it's something that we need to let go of
24:33my one's a bit more literal i have expired condoms
24:40my mate gave these to me before a house party and he said you're definitely going to need these
24:44um i didn't i think if anything signifies sexual failure it's having condoms go out of date
24:54so mine is a childhood photo i felt quite difficult to express emotions while i was this age
25:01i was more of a people pleaser into the point where i'd end up really damaging myself because i was more
25:07worried about their feelings rather than my own but i want to let go of the people pleasing aspects
25:14if you don't love yourself how the hell are you going to love anyone else
25:21you're amazing okay well you made us cry this was really deep and really meaningful
25:28and we're just so proud of you amazed actually amazed
25:32how did you feel i wanted to you know say goodbye to it it's like pulling a band-aid off
25:46i walked into it a bit skeptical on how i was gonna feel
25:49i'm trying to open myself up to learning new things but i don't know whether i've achieved a lot
25:58and i'm not looking forward to what tomorrow may hold
26:01jeez louise
26:02it is an intense day a long day tensions are only going to get higher
26:08so
26:18stormy night last night stormy weather i think means upheaval change
26:24morning morning guys it's day two at the retreat smoothie it's strawberry milk
26:35the morning after last night's shame exercise how are you guys feeling about the presentation last
26:40night i wasn't expecting to be quite as emotional yeah i didn't really enjoy it
26:48now the experts hope the next exercise will move from shame back to desire
26:54we want to see what motivates them around sex and there's nothing more explicit than writing your erotic story
27:04the storm clouds are circling but it's not just the weather the group are bracing themselves for
27:11hello hello are you all right okay your next exercise
27:18write your hottest sexual fantasy okay oh my it's a fantasy so let yourself go with it don't hold back
27:30okay ciao ciao wonderful to see you oh my god did she say hottest or hardest hottest oh blind cross i want to
27:41go inside is anyone feeling a bit sick about writing this
27:45i certainly expect 12 virgins to struggle with writing an erotic story i don't think they will
27:52have much of a clue about what they want in terms of sexuality but you know we shall see
27:57this needs to have backing music over and it's like
28:04celeste and danielle want to test how in touch they are with their desires
28:08so far i've got a couple of uh openings it was a dark and stormy night obviously a classic
28:17confident after his one-on-one session with danielle yesterday zach is quick off the mark never before
28:24has he been so surprised is my other one i think i'll try that yeah
28:29but for others revealing their innermost desires doesn't come easy 50 shades of grain stuff i've
28:39never never read that i'm not erotic i have no idea how to write like right now i'm writing i've bought
28:44a lottery ticket it's hard to say what my dream would be in a sexual manner when i haven't really been
28:52open to having a sexual manner that makes sense i'm trying to open myself up to learning new things
29:01but it's difficult to do that when you're not happy with yourself
29:08i haven't read anything i am a senior parliamentary researcher for an mp in parliament i i deal with
29:16the public and i'm actually in a public speakers club i'm perfectly comfortable doing that but i thought
29:21having sex with just one person for whatever reason that just really is is quite frightening
29:26god you've written a novel once you get started it's a lot easier right once you've got an idea
29:30i don't even know how i'd write more on the page like john stewie just pick a subject and just start
29:36from there honestly and then just make it real sexy right well that's not me whatever floats your
29:42boat you know you're way more confident than i am yeah i just this yeah it's quite scary
29:51oh god we're in the amphitheater stories written the experts will watch to see who's embracing
30:00welcome back everyone morning and who's hiding their true desires
30:09so we're gonna invite you to share your fantasy with us i'm not ready for this anyone want to
30:17volunteer to go first take the leap it can be so empowering
30:27i'll go first yeah
30:32so my fantasy it starts with me walking toward my castle
30:37as i entered i'm greeted by sofia vergara the latino lady from modern family
30:42she would say how great my castle is and how my wife is a lucky lady i would then proceed to my
30:47master bedroom due to hearing my name being called by an almost angelic voice my wife brackets not
30:53married as i don't want to lose the castle in a divorce the sex is unbelievable and the best way to
30:59describe it is for you to imagine your very own fantasy and multiply the pleasure by 10.
31:03as more of the group step up we've reached a bit of land covered in rocks
31:12fuck there's our luggage hope she doesn't find my cum socks
31:17some are struggling to reveal their desires instead they're hiding behind humor
31:23i didn't even get a chance to write anything because i'd write this block but you know i thought about
31:27it and i'd say i'd be with either angelia jolie or anne hathaway watching villa in the champions league
31:31you know she'd be just wearing a villa top and that'd be that
31:36others a sigh a kiss hot air against skin fingers dancing across one another
31:41the both of us would enjoy the experience fully
31:44seem happier to share their real fantasies and feelings
31:48aphrodite requires tributes made to her an act of physical love by a devoted and naive nymph
31:57head back to my house and she'd sort of lead me upstairs you know i'd pick her up take her down
32:03on the bed and i'd probably do something with all her sex i don't know what i'm doing
32:09we just naturally start kissing and she'd bite my lip pull down on it um yeah that's that's what it would be
32:17like
32:21let's go
32:23but it's zach who has the most explicit story of all the shadow descended from the top of the hill
32:30upon which stood a towering warrior he removed his helmet to expose his fiery hair a maiden stood
32:37forth remove your sandals she commanded obligingly he knelt down in that moment she
32:43lifted her skirt and forced his head between her knees she let out a moan of pure ecstasy she
32:48removed her dress exposing her breasts and naked body the warrior entered her many times the body's
32:53becoming one
32:58that's just the first chapter anyone else feeling brave
33:03okay yesterday's session with thomas reveal the extent of emma's issues around intimacy
33:09but her erotic story could offer more insight
33:20my ideal fantasy would be a person coming into my life unexpected
33:30a genuine honest supportive and kind male with no expectation of me who has a genuine
33:37big heart a love for the world to treat others how we wish to be treated
33:42and to be happy i have the opportunities to grow together
33:49you're fantastic really amazing right that was phenomenal
33:56gather your stuff thank you so much thank you thank you thank you
34:00i really like jobs when i'm awkward i'm trying my jokes my story wasn't very sexual it's how i deal
34:09with awkward situations and things that i don't really know what to do just a defense mechanism for
34:14me everyone seemed to laugh at it unlikely so it went better than i thought i felt really good
34:20actually the story i was telling showed a lot about myself and you know i could see what experiences
34:26i want to have now it was actually a little bit of a confidence boost pushing myself and having the
34:33courage to go up there and do that sort of thing it made me feel a lot better afterwards
34:39a lot of people say to me oh you look young i think i'm like 18 19 20 but then i always say oh
34:48it's because i never had a boyfriend so i haven't been stressed out you've never had a boyfriend no no
34:55after a successful workshop the dynamics between the girls and boys seem to be shifting
35:02you definitely seem like one of the most confident of all of us i'd say thank you i've worked very
35:07hard to be this confident i uh i think you're really pretty thank you
35:16so i don't i don't want to be in the in the sun for too long okay it was nice having that chat with you
35:23do you think ben likes me i don't i've not noticed it'd be enough of you or anyone else no it's just i
35:28think he likes me likes me oh like that way oh okay i don't know while sparks fly between ben and
35:36charlotte not everyone is finding island life quite so easy i think jason needs a lot of like basic this
35:48is how you do this this is how you do this it just it's going to take time for him to to feel the
35:53empowerment around touching other people i think weirdly enough my sex education because i'd move
36:00to school i'd miss the sex ed week so basically safe parks my sex education i've never touched a
36:06condom the only thing i could know about a woman's and that i mean stuff would be on from tv and the
36:11internet that kind of thing if it was a game i'm level one that's interesting i'd love to be able to
36:17level up in a way sound like a virgin explaining that oh god come on in so the experts have planned
36:25a session on the basics of touch with celeste i've never really been able to be a touchy-feely
36:31person yeah my family's like that though like my mom she's never been a touchy huggy person but i know
36:36she loves me i love her but we can't do hugs it's just not in our nature i want to try putting my hand
36:43on top of your hand and see how that feels more more intimate exactly so i could scooch to you
36:50after this morning's workshop celeste wants to learn more about the real jason behind the humor
36:55let's take some steps you know yeah and we can see like do you like putting your hand on mine do you
37:00like me putting my hand on yours for example so you want to start with like just yeah just put it
37:05like that yeah is it okay like is the sensation feel good it's okay yeah yeah all right okay so
37:14can we try it where i put my hand on your hand okay yeah okay i feel like because it's happening to
37:23me it's like a little overwhelming yeah yeah feeling uncomfortable receiving touch when i work
37:32in like offices and so i'm a bit worried a little bit too firm with handshakes jason takes matters into
37:38his own hands all right about that that feels good is that okay i would even like let our palms touch
37:48a little bit more okay like that do you feel like yeah yeah on safer territory i feel so limp you can
37:59give a little bit more pressure one more yeah let's do it jason's flying like that that was
38:04beautiful success i was shooting myself because i had no idea what i was in for all right all right
38:12but i think it's just getting more intimate with touch i want to be improved i want to be cured
38:18who wants a butt plug i don't want to touch it i don't think this has been inside i don't know if
38:32it's been inside anyone to encourage the group to broaden their sexual horizons come more butt plugs i
38:38could be like wolverine just like the experts have handed over a box of sex toys oh these are fun
38:45if i took your butt and you fart enough hair out could you actually like blow it out
38:51and left them to explore who wants to be tired up go on then you know you'd be in a bed and this
38:57would be tight to like a thingy it just helped reinforce for me when i have sex it's gonna be vanilla
39:03just vanilla sex for me i'm gonna leave you like that now charlotte
39:07who wants the feather yeah how does it feel this makes me feel like me struck by chicken chicken
39:21i want to lose my virginity on the retreat absolutely all of the shame and the self-criticisms
39:28that come being a virgin my hope would be that afterwards they that would be gone because you're
39:33not anymore you don't have to put this label on yourself anymore hello hello so far zach is adapting
39:44quickly to the course comfortable with hugs absolutely yeah yeah yeah zach is starting to
39:51stand taller he's more confident please have a seat and after our last session i think he's ready for
39:59most advanced therapy working with a surrogate partner a highly trained therapist able to have
40:06sex with a client today i'm here to give you the introduction into surrogate partner therapy what my
40:14role is what cat's role is and you know a little bit about how this process works surrogate partner
40:21therapy has been around for quite a while and it involved a therapist a client and a surrogate
40:28partner it starts pretty slow with clothes on embodiment exercises just while we're kind of like
40:33getting used to each other and i can learn what you like and vice versa the surrogate is helping them
40:39explore what it feels like to take your clothes off with someone what it feels like to touch someone
40:45in an erotic way and can go all the way to a full sexual experience as you're comfortable with we'll
40:53move to more organic encounters kissing oral intercourse it will eventually feel like just
41:00practicing different sexual skills that's the gist yeah cool yeah got it this is a container for you to
41:07practice a relationship and so i am a licensed mental health clinician you will be working with me with
41:16regards to like any emotions that come up and that's like my side of the street got it i'm gonna let the
41:21two of you have the remainder of the session all right i will see you guys soon take care bye
41:28is there anything you want to talk about before we move to some body work
41:34i don't think so no okay i'm gonna have you lie down
41:39so i'm gonna touch you first and i'm only gonna touch your arm and i'm gonna use my hands
41:45my arms my face and my hair if that's okay yeah
41:55i think it's really important to teach people how to have sex teaching like really basic
42:00relationship skills when clothes come off things get more erotic helping people be human again it makes
42:09me want to do my job while sex is the ultimate aim zach must build a connection with cat before getting to that level
42:23how was that it was good i was tingly in a good way yeah are you ready to switch mm-hmm yeah let's go
42:37a surrogate partner bond and really make sure you're feeling what feels good
42:52i think you know touching your arm is great it feels amazing it's just obviously i want more
43:22oh okay but it's a process you know like that i wouldn't do more than that on a first session
43:26with anybody yeah the speed of the surrogate program doesn't seem to be moving fast enough for zach
43:32so how far are you wanting to go with surrogate partner therapy i would like to go all the way i
43:37would love to have sex with you you know that's why i came here really yeah it's hard to connect with
43:43someone you just met telling you hey i'm your surrogate you will be eventually maybe if you want having
43:48sex with me so let's stand up let's just shake it off but i do think i'll be able to lose my virginity
43:58you know have sex with cat eventually i would like to
44:08how was it yeah so we were doing arm touching like it was intense like i didn't realize like i
44:12would have that strong of reaction to be honest you know maybe i'll lose my virginity very soon
44:18but yeah very positive experience i think
44:25pretty guys oh down here with a big fire after two days at the retreat the first phase of the
44:32course is drawing to a close shame bonfire is a culmination of everything that we've done
44:39in the first phase it's a chance for them to get rid of their shame items from yesterday and move on
44:51we're going to call you up one at a time to let these old stories about yourself
44:55and these old ways of being and thinking go and i am so delighted for you okay
45:01okay are you ready to let it go yes the act of burning something is the act of letting go and
45:17saying i can change now ready if i really get to be able to release all my feelings into the fire
45:27i feel a lot more confident it's like a whole refresh of emotions
45:38i'm stuck in a rut i was stuck in the way of thinking and i think this is my opportunity now
45:43to really change that but i'm keen to fill in more of the gaps
45:49next time you're quite attractive so i mean you know things heat up on the touch phase of the cars
46:01there's another animal here with you on this rug
46:07it was like watching a corner as emotions bubble over i just don't want anyone to touch me
46:13you let's just have one minute when things turn physical i can't touch you bro you care
46:34you
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