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  • 4/8/2025
3 Sacred Rules for Women Who Want to Be Cherished:
1. Let Him Try (Even When You Know Better)
Why it works: A man’s love grows when he feels capable. Your patience when he fails silently says: "I believe in you."

Example: If he fixes the sink poorly, smile and say "You’re learning!" instead of taking over.

2. Never Humiliate His Effort
The science: Male brains process criticism as physical pain (Harvard study).

Alternative: "I admire how hard you worked on this" (Even if the result is flawed).

3. Celebrate His "Provider Instinct"
Islamic wisdom: When you let him feel like your qawwam, he’ll move mountains to deserve that role.

Magic phrase: "I feel so safe when you handle things."
Transcript
00:00So, if you do anything to diminish that ego,
00:03you have hurt male pride.
00:05You have hurt male pride.
00:07So, you let the man foster his ego.
00:10Let him.
00:11If you think he's self-deluded,
00:12let him be self-deluded.
00:14He'll love you back in return.
00:16And in the end of the day, that's what you want,
00:17doesn't it, right?
00:19You want to be loved and cherished and admired.
00:21Let him make a mistake.
00:22And I will tell you another thing, sisters.
00:24Frankly, if your husband does take on a challenge,
00:27you will be surprised when 9 times out of 10,
00:30he'll actually finish it in a decent manner.
00:32This is the fact of the matter.
00:34When men make mistakes,
00:35they'll go back and do it again,
00:36and do it again, and do it again,
00:37until they get it, right?
00:38Allah created us that way.
00:41For you to hover over him and always pinpoint him
00:44or find a fault or diminish his ego,
00:46honestly, this is very problematic.
00:49And frankly, it's humiliating and painful
00:52for the delicate male ego.
00:54The man feels he's the protector.
00:56If you will challenge him and say,
00:58how can you protect me from a leaky faucet?
01:00Then you have basically said,
01:02I don't trust your judgment.
01:03You have basically said,
01:04I don't feel you're qualified
01:06to take on protecting me
01:08and taking care of the household.
01:09The bottom line,
01:10let him take on his challenges.
01:12Suppose he wants to write a book,
01:13suppose he wants to do a project,
01:15let him do it.
01:16Let him find out his own way.
01:17Maybe he's not the best plumber, fine.
01:20But when you diminish his ego,
01:22this will cause problems in his heart for you.
01:24He's not going to love you
01:25the way you want him to love you.
01:27You need to allow him the impression of
01:30being the nourisher, the provider, the qawwam.
01:34He's the one who will protect you.
01:35So you take refuge in him,
01:37you seek shelter in him.

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