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Empowering children in the age of social media: Parents must 'be involved in their kids lives'
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We live in a world that's more and more connected than ever, thanks to the internet and social
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media, but these things that help us connect can also turn into a place of hurt and horror
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for some. Children and young people are especially at risk. The Archwell Foundation, launched
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by Prince Harry and his wife Meghan, are behind a special project to try to stop online bullying.
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Just look at the hashtag, no child lost to social media. This will give you more if you
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need help or information. We'll be speaking with a parent whose daughter took her own
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life. She blames it on social media, and she started a legal case against the social
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media giant, Meta, owner of Facebook and Instagram. Well, let's talk about Meta for a little now.
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Facing many cases at this present moment, and on another one of those, a Meta spokesperson
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said, the company has fixed many of the problems identified in one month alone. Meta said it
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disabled more than half a million accounts for violating child safety policies. Let's
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bring in Tami Rodriguez from the Parents Network. Tami, thank you for being with us.
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This is a difficult interview for you to do, I know, because of what happened to your daughter.
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Can we start by perhaps you introducing her to us? Tell us her name, tell us what she
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was like. Of course. My daughter Selina, she was a bright
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ray of sunshine. Anybody that knew her, that's what they think of when they think of her.
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From when she was little, right on until the end, she was the one who always stuck
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up for the underdog. She always wanted to be the one helping people. And then she met
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social media. Tami, as you're talking to us, we're showing
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images of Selina. She looks like a beautiful little girl. It's incredibly sad what has
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happened. When did you notice the change in her?
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Well, she was just about eight years old when I had gotten her the phone. In the beginning,
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it was just to go on YouTube Kids or some of the other games, and things were fine.
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It was about a year, a year and a half into it when she found the social media apps and
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she started going on them. I had parental controls in place, I would check the phone,
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and they all start to work together. The kids all teach each other how to hide things, how
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to hide apps inside of apps, or just how to hide anything that they know they shouldn't
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be doing. I hear where you're coming from. I've got
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children myself, and I know a little bit about having to try to protect them from these kinds
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of things. What you've been through is far more extreme than anything I've ever experienced,
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and I can't imagine how you feel right now, how you feel about what has happened.
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I imagine there's a lot of anger there. Do you ever blame yourself?
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I do. At times I blame myself for buying her a phone so young, but just so many kids her age
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at that time, that's what was happening. We actually did start with a tablet. I should
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say that. I apologize. Then it went up to the iPhone and went on from there.
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What kind of things were happening to Selena?
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As her addiction got worse, which at the time I didn't realize was an addiction,
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her mood changes were terrible. She became very aggressive. She would attack myself and my
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daughter, my older daughter, physically. The words that she would use, it just changed her into an
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entirely different child than who she was.
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Was this a question of bullying or a question of
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behavior from her friends? What was the actual story behind that?
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So I, at the time, believed that it was only bullying from kids that she knew, maybe some
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other people online. But it was after the fact was when we found out that she was being exploited
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online, and I had no idea.
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This is incredibly sad, tragic, what you're telling us, Tammy, and it's clearly important
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for other parents to get help. I'm wondering at this stage, what META has said to you,
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because you've brought a legal case against META to press forward to try to make sure no other
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child suffers what your daughter went through. What has META said to you?
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Our family is actually the first family that filed, one of the first families that filed in the U.S.
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And I've heard nothing from META myself. I was there in Washington for the Congressional hearing
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when the CEOs were there, and Mark Zuckerberg gave, as I want to say, a apology.
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But that wasn't an apology. It was just something for him to try and feel a little better that day.
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Your daughter, Selena, as we saw the image of a very small, bright, beautiful,
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you described as a ray of sunshine, led into this horrible spiral through social media,
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the use of social media, as you've just described, a horrible situation.
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What's your advice to parents who may be seeing the same signs of things that you saw?
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What would you advise those parents to do? Tammy?
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Well, first off, people need to understand that it can be their child.
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So many people are very quick to say, not my child, not my daughter,
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to say, not my child, or my child is too smart to do that.
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Well, my child was very smart also, and she still fell into that trap.
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People really need to pay attention to what their kids are doing.
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They really need to be involved in their kids' lives in general,
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not just when it comes to social media or the phones.
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Hear what you're saying, Tammy. Thank you so much for sharing this
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terrible experience that you've had and you are still living with us.
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You can hear the pain in your voice and see it etched across your face,
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but I hope in some way the work you're doing now will begin to give you some kind of
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perspective on what has happened and help you to build some kind of legacy
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out of the loss that you have suffered.
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Thank you for joining us here, Tammy Rodriguez from the Parents Network.
06:06
Thank you once again.
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Very difficult destiny to give us, but we do appreciate it,
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and I'm sure this will help parents maybe who are watching this who have concerns.
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Tammy, thank you once again.
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Thank you very much.
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That's what we're here for.
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It's a group of incredible parents that are just here to support each other.
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Tammy, thank you.
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I will give the address out now before we leave this bulletin.
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Tammy Rodriguez, thank you very much indeed.
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So if you or a loved one, a child is affected by the issues that we've been discussing here,
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you can find advice and support, as Tammy was just saying,
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on archwell.org forward slash the parents network forward slash forward slash.
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We've got that on the screen for you just there.
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I'll talk a little bit longer whilst you maybe note that down.
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archwell.org slash the parents network slash.
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Take that, Google that, put it into the search engine.
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You'll find the help that you need, we hope.
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Let's hope that some progress is made towards making the online world,
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the virtual world, a safer place for everybody concerned.
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