If we’ve experienced a series of negative events in our past, we often form negative beliefs about women or sex.
This leads to a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Negative beliefs about women, through a process of self-selection, end up attracting those very women into our lives. In psychology, this is referred to as “Assortment Theory,” and it particularly holds true with self-esteem and gender beliefs.
What this also means is that your insecurities about yourself are likely to inadvertently screen for women with similar insecurities.
It’s important to single out your beliefs about women and sex and figure out why you have them and if they possibly may not be true.
Common examples: - Stereotypes about women, their behavior, and what they like. - Manipulation and inability to trust. - Self image issues and the women you attract. Exercise
Evaluate beliefs you have about yourself, sex and women that you think might be hurting you. Write what drives those beliefs and why you believe them to be true. Consider what would happen if they weren’t true.
