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00:00Hi smart parenting fam! This is a brand new episode of Usap Tayo and we are

00:10currently on the set of our first ever photoshoot as a family of seven. I know

00:16right we're not from this generation. Let's go!

00:30I don't know it's really I think every day is just something to enjoy with the kids. I feel like

00:37every day is like I wouldn't say every day is like Mother's Day but in a way then it is because

00:43it's really something that I'm in the thick of surrounded by five kids. But I guess it's just a

00:53beautiful day to not feel like a mother but to honor our mothers. So it's more like for me you

01:01know being thankful and grateful for my mom. Of course it's nice because I have children who

01:07well right now I don't know if they really appreciate me but I know one day they will.

01:13But yeah it's it's always a beautiful day to celebrate.

01:15Okay so Antonio Primo. Antonio because that's Primo's Lolo's name. That's Drew's dad's name.

01:27Antonio. Primo because actually it was a joke. Drew and his younger brother loved Transformers. So

01:37Optimus Prime. He became Antonio Primo. At first I thought it was a joke but then eventually it

01:43started growing on me and then I was like you know what I like the name. Sige Antonio Primo.

01:46Alonzo Leon. The funny thing is we just liked the name because it sounded nice but little did

01:53we know that he would be a Leo and he's Leon. And pagdalit siya para siyang Leon. So that was Leon.

02:03Alana Loren. Alana because I liked it. I liked Alana because it's close to my mom's name Elena.

02:11Alana Elena. So that was like a to honor my mom. So Alana and then Loren just sounded nice so

02:19Alana Loren. Astro Phoenix because it was just amongst the list of names that I had

02:26when I was pregnant with Alana. Kasi nga akala kong lalake so I had more I had Astro's name in that

02:33list. And then I only had one name for a girl which was Alana Loren. So funny nagamit na si Alana Loren.

02:39And so when I had a boy we went with Astro Phoenix. There's no meaning behind it. It's just because

02:46it sounds nice. And then Anya because Anya also means grace. So I wanted to go with Anya but it's

02:59initially I wanted Anya's second name to be Ray because I'm Raylene and my dad's Ray.

03:08But I don't know who it was but someone gave me the idea that if you put Anya and Ray together

03:14it's going to be. So it turned out to be a joke. So I actually prayed about it.

03:25And then I was coming across all these names and then because I've been growing so much in faith

03:30it made me realize that God made an impression in my heart that love would be a beautiful name

03:36because God is love. And all that it's about in the Bible is about loving each other. And our family

03:47is built on a chunk of it. A chunk of love. So I thought love would be a beautiful second name for Anya.

03:53I know that I've always mentioned that but I'm I am terrified of delivery. I'm terrified. I know that

04:04people think you're scared, you're five. But I really am if you only knew I am really so terrified

04:14with delivery because you just don't know what can happen. Like for this for this delivery my my doctor

04:23had to ask me to reserve two bags of blood just in case he didn't contract my uterus because

04:29he didn't contract my uterus because he was five years old. He might say to my uterus

04:33he's tired. He won't contract and then I might end up bleeding profusely and she was telling me

04:40in just a matter of minutes I need to get you into an operating room and take out and have give you

04:46a hysterectomy take out the uterus. So Drew and I looked at each other and we're like

04:50okay that's kind of scary. So and that's just one of the things that can happen, right? So

04:59I am always so so scared. There was that one Sunday that I thought I was in labor. We went there.

05:04They checked me. I was just 1 to 2 cm. So they sent me home and then there was one then there were

05:11like probably two nights that at 2 a.m. I was feeling contractions.

05:18There were two or three nights. Which is why I had to have Astro's sleep somewhere else because

05:23I couldn't monitor my contractions. Eventually one morning I could feel it again. So I said,

05:29I'm a false laborer. What is this? Why am I still feeling here?

05:33It's not the real thing. It's not the real thing. I don't have any blood yet. My water hasn't broken

05:44yet. It's not. He said, sure. Can you please ask the doctor? I said, yes, love. Okay, okay. I'll ask the

05:50doctor. So he said, can I go to golf? I said, yeah, you're safe. Go to golf.

05:55Ako naman, nag-ayos na ako para pumunta sa gym. Kasi ayoko nang isipin yung contractions ko kasi

06:02feeling ko nga, it's a prank. So I got ready, went down, got down, got into the car. I was about to

06:09drive off. And then I messaged my doctor. I said, doc, ganito, ganyan. I'm feeling but wala

06:14kong blood, wala kong water. So I feel like it's not doing anything. Sabi ni basta iya. Monitor your

06:18contractions. If it's every five minutes, please go to the hospital na. And then I monitored. Medyo lumalakas. Medyo

06:25dumidikit na. Hanggang sa there was one contraction na talagang napahinto na ako. Tapos yung

06:30ginagawa. Yung ano, iniikot-ikot ko na yung hips. Sabi, oh, okay. Medyo ano na to, ah. And then

06:36when I noticed na medyo the intervals were getting closer together, I messaged and

06:40addressed. I said, love, I think I'm gonna get ready now to go to the hospital. And then

06:43I told my doctors na rin. Got to the hospital at 10. They checked me and I was surprisingly

06:49at 6 c.m. So I was so happy. Sabi ko, oh, is it safe to say I'm gonna deliver

06:53today? Tapos sabi ni, yes, ma'am. You're gonna deliver today. You're gonna give birth

06:56today. Drew arrived 10.15. So siguro mga 10.13 na sa birthing suite na ako. My doctor

07:01said, okay, iya, um, just walk around because medyo mataas pa yung ulo. So just walk around.

07:07So I was walking around, listening to my, to my gospel music. And then 10.45, my water

07:12broke. In that instant, I, I felt the pain. I ran to the bathroom and then the nurse

07:19came after me, said me, mom, huwag po kayo diyan. Yes. And then so, I had to wait

07:25out. Okay, it's either, I had to think of the two worst scenarios. Manganganak ako sa

07:29toilet or jejebs ako sa, sa kama. So that explains why, kung bakit ako nakalukod sa kama

07:38when I gave birth. Cause I was just kneeling. And then, you know, I could, I could

07:42really feel that those were the, those were the painful contractions. And then eventually,

07:47I just, parang, everything went zen. And I, parang, all the fear that I had leading

07:55up to the days, the days leading up to delivery, all of the anxiety, all of the fear, all of

08:02that was gone. And I was just calm. I was so calm and collected that I feel that even as

08:11the baby was coming out, dahil nga siguro hindi ako sumisigaw, my hospital gown

08:15was down eh. They didn't know where, if the baby was coming out. But I was just

08:19saying, okay, I feel her. Okay, I feel her head. Okay, the baby, okay, she's coming. I guess

08:24they didn't realize that she really was coming. So nagulat na lang sila. Pag angat ko

08:29ng hospital gown ko, nandiyan na nga siya.

08:33It was amazing for me because I've always wanted to know the feeling of catching your

08:45own baby. And so when I did, it was just, oh my goodness, it was the most beautiful thing.

08:52Oh, wow. It's, I would, I would wish for every mom to be able to experience that.

08:59Yung K-Primo, it was the relief after doing something so hard. Like, I didn't know what to

09:12expect with that delivery. And parakong nabinyagan na, ay gulay, ano yun? What the, what on earth

09:20was that? So that was the relief there. And of course, the relief na, okay, I'm okay, I'm alive,

09:28he's okay, he's alive. With Leon, there was a different kind of relief because nga, nag-poop na siya

09:34sa loob. So the relief that na-irik ko siya, I didn't, they didn't have to cut me and that he

09:39was okay and he didn't ingest any of it. With Alana, it was the relief na may babae na ako, hindi

09:46ko na kailangan ulitin. That was the relief. It was different levels of relief. Kay Astro,

09:52it was, yung kay Astro parang kay Primo. Because kay Astro yung walang epidural. So yung kay Astro,

10:00I was, that was the relief na parang yun pala yun na walang drugs. Tapos yung kay Anya, parang with

10:07Anya, it was just, there was so much joy, especially with how everything unfolded. And then of course,

10:16at the end of it, gratitude. I was just so grateful that I had given birth to the fifth,

10:22that I got through that pregnancy, that I got through the delivery, that she came out healthy,

10:27that I survived it. It was, it was all of that. And in just knowing that, that's the end of that chapter.

10:36Bye-bye birthing suite. Forever.

10:38Forever.

10:48Done with, uh, actually, I don't know where we are in the shoot right now.

10:53At this point, hindi ko na alam. Basta alam ko buhay pa naman kaming lahat.

10:57Of course, there are challenges here and there, because you know, one's in the mood,

11:00the other's not, the other one's hungry, the other one's game. But you know what,

11:04that's all part of the fun. Nothing that we're not used to. Siyempre, ito tulog na tulog.

11:10Um, yeah, it's always so nice to be with all of the kids. And for me, it's special because

11:17we are not the type of family that often arranges for pictorials, like for family pictorials. So,

11:23it's just nice because, you know, this is actually for smart parenting and we're all together. So,

11:29it's hitting two birds with one. We get to be part of smart parenting and we get to have material

11:35that we get to keep forever. So, yeah.

11:44You know what has really helped me with postpartum recovery? Having a night nurse. And I know it's a

11:51luxury, but you know what? We live in the Philippines where we're lucky to even have

11:58that option because I have family in Australia, family in the States. I have, you know, followers

12:03from all over the world and how they wish that they even had that option to have a night nurse.

12:08So, you know, we have that option here in the Philippines. So, Padang, make the most out of it.

12:12Honestly, yes, it's extra money, but it's your sanity. It's your health. And I feel that it's part of my

12:22postpartum recovery package. It's not like you're going to get a night nurse for, you know,

12:30for 10 more years. You're just getting a night nurse just for that fourth trimester,

12:34the fourth trimester that they say, right? Which is the hardest part, especially when you're settling

12:39into, you know, being a mom or settling into just having a new, a newborn. Though that, that time is

12:46so crucial because you're still recovering. It's hard to move around. Your body is still adjusting.

12:53Your, your hormones are still all over the place. You lack sleep. And then eventually, what do you call

12:59it? It's like compounded sleep deprivation. So it really adds up. And so to have a nurse that can help

13:06you, um, or a caregiver that can help you during those times, it does wonders to a mama's recovery.

13:18Well, yung big role kaseni drew is that he has to make the big adjustment with the older kids. As a dad,

13:25it's adjusting, helping the kids adjust, um, with bedtime when the new one arrives. And

13:32well, I think he's, he's just been really supportive with letting me get my me time, letting me, uh,

13:39get my workout in, let, letting me get movement in. Um, and he doesn't take it to heart

13:47kapag kilingi pa yung mga bata sa akin. He just knows that, okay, it's a phase right now where they just need

13:53mama more, but palang araw akin ka, boy. Ganun siya. And that, eventually, ganun na nga. So yeah, that's how,

14:00that's how he supports me. Of course, he'll support me with, if I'm craving for something,

14:04if there's something that I want to eat, he'll, he'll cook for me or prepare my food. So that's how

14:09he has helped. And of course, he has helped with just being supportive of the things

14:14that I tell him that I need. So like with the nightdars.

14:18I hope that they will remember how loving I was. I hope they'll remember how fun I was. I hope

14:31they'll remember all of the fun opportunities that I gave them. That's how I would like for them to

14:39remember me.

14:44Siguro, si Leon. Leon says the funniest things. And minsan, mayroong siyang sinabi na,

14:51mama, you're my favorite mama. And I'm like, of course, you might have like,

14:56mayroong ka pa bang mama na pwede maging favorite? Yeah, just little things like that.

15:01Ano pa nga ba? Yung mga biglaang ikikiss ako ni Astro, you know, he might not say it, but

15:08through his actions, I can see how much he loves me, just the way he hugs me. You know,

15:12these actions, you know, say so much more. And even Alana, just when she wants to be with me,

15:19not necessarily the things that they say, but really the things that they do to show me how much they love me.

15:31What excites me the most is being able to travel with them. I can't wait to go on girly trips with

15:36them. Yeah, that's, that's really what excites me the most.

15:45Motherhood has been the most humbling teacher for me. And it's true that it really exposes a lot

15:53about yourself. And it exposes a lot of the things that we need to fix within ourselves. So that for

16:02me is what motherhood has been. And it can get very overwhelming. It can get overstimulating.

16:12It can get challenging. But you know, if you take the time to just be still and talk to God,

16:20there's a lot that he can expose and help you through. I guess the reason why I've grown so much

16:26in faith is because I know how much of God's grace has gotten me this far. And when you know

16:35how little strength you actually have, you'll find the strength that you do have, that God can provide,

16:43that only he can provide. The most beautiful thing that's come out of motherhood is not just,

16:47of course, of course, my children. But for me, it's the faith that it has given me. Because it's

16:54true, I see God's grace in every little face. And I would not have made it this far if it weren't for

17:01that same grace, because man, it is hard. And I wouldn't have been able to do it without the faith

17:10that I have now. So that's it for today's episode. But for more videos like this, do like and subscribe

17:20to Smart Parenting's YouTube channel.

17:32See you next time.

17:34The next time.

17:42Thank you for having fun.

17:43I haven't.

17:44I have a très good idea for everyone.

17:48Look at me.

17:52The next 10 months I've been able to do one of my riches.

17:55I know a lot of truth.

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