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00:00I've never had anyone put Tabasco in their eyes on a date, or ever.
00:15Okay, that's a little bit better.
00:18You don't have like a little towel or something?
00:19Yeah, yeah, yeah, there's a tea towel here for you.
00:20There you go.
00:22When he put the hot sauce in his eye, I mean,
00:28I feel like I'm getting like cranked.
00:32I feel like his friends are gonna like come out the wall and be like,
00:34ha ha, we got you.
00:35Hearing him like scream in pain, I was like, okay, this definitely isn't a joke.
00:40And I mean, I don't, I'm just like, like in shock.
00:46Are you okay?
00:47How are you feeling now?
00:48What's going on, Victoria?
00:48Yeah, yeah.
00:49All good, yeah.
00:51Yeah, yeah.
00:51The left eye is still working.
00:52Okay, good.
00:53So yeah, that wasn't probably the brightest move.
00:55No, I don't think so.
00:56But the oysters were pretty good.
00:57Yeah, the oysters are good.
00:58So should we try a few more and just not put any Tabasco in the eye?
01:03You feel okay doing that?
01:04Yeah, yeah, I feel great.
01:05Okay.
01:05Right, let's go back.
01:07Okay.
01:07We'll just act like nothing ever happened there.
01:09Yeah, exactly, yeah, nothing happened.
01:10No, no, nothing happened, no.
01:15Hold my eye.
01:16Yeah, okay, yeah, no, I'm fine.
01:17I'm good.
01:18Yeah, I can, yeah.
01:18Let's, let's, let's crack another one.
01:20Okay.
01:20There we go, that is so good.
01:25That is really awesome.
01:26Mm-hmm.
01:27Yeah.
01:28My goodness.
01:31I decided to continue with the date because I'm trying to avoid an awkward confrontation with Dave.
01:36I just don't want to be mean.
01:39I just feel like it'd be easier to be the people pleaser.
01:42Just smile, nod, and I feel like that's what Katerina is for.
01:46I mean, I hired a matchmaker.
01:48Shouldn't she have to do all the dirty work?
01:50Oh my God.
01:51So.
01:52Woo.
01:55How are you feeling?
01:55So where's your favorite place in the States apart from where you live?
01:59Um, San Diego.
02:01San Diego is very cool.
02:03Yeah.
02:03Very cool.
02:04Um, I actually went over there in a camper van.
02:07We were traveling.
02:08Oh, cool.
02:09I crashed the RV.
02:10Oh.
02:11I impaled it into like some, uh, jeep behind me so my friends weren't too happy.
02:14Like, bro.
02:15Mm-hmm.
02:16Yeah, it's a happy date.
02:17Yeah.
02:20So why, uh, why did you come all the way to Ireland?
02:23I had dated an Irish guy in New York and I really liked him.
02:25Mm-hmm.
02:26And I liked how it, like, his personality, his vibe, his energy, his sense of humor.
02:30And so I just was like more curious.
02:32I'm like, okay, I can, you know.
02:33Yeah, yeah.
02:34All right.
02:34It was something.
02:35Sweet.
02:35Yeah.
02:36Yeah.
02:37I'd be open to, like, a serious relationship now.
02:40Mm-hmm.
02:41You know what I mean?
02:41Yeah?
02:46What do you think of the Guinness?
02:47I love it.
02:48Mm.
02:50Happy days.
02:51Oh, yeah.
02:51So, um, good first day out anyway.
02:54I've had fun.
02:54Yeah, I did too.
02:55Yeah.
02:56Mm-hmm.
02:57Definitely different.
02:58Yeah.
02:59So, uh, yeah, we'll have to meet again.
03:01Yeah.
03:01I'm sure we can make something work.
03:03Yeah.
03:03Sounds good.
03:04Yeah.
03:08I really was hopeful that I was gonna have a second day.
03:11I mean, I was trying to be positive, trying to have a good outlook, but David was just too
03:16much for me.
03:17I think that I need to have, like, another talk with Katerina and reevaluate what I'm looking
03:22for in a guy.
03:26Good day.
03:27Good day.
03:34Mm-hmm.
03:35Listen to me.
03:36Don't hate, cause you want it.
03:38Yeah.
03:39All my faults I woke up like this.
03:41Don't ask me to stop it.
03:43No.
03:44I'm a princess, I won't hide it.
03:46I'm Sarah, I'm 36 years old, and I live in Houston, Texas.
04:02So this is my original design.
04:05It is an angel.
04:07And the theme is pretty much always angels in love with all my stuff.
04:13I'm a business owner, and I own my own jewelry and accessory shop online.
04:17I have been crafting since I can remember, putting my little, I'll grab some little charms and stickers.
04:26I love helping women look and feel beautiful through my work.
04:30Self-confidence is really important to me, because for me personally, I'm so happy with who I am today,
04:36but that hasn't always been the case.
04:39Hey, Princey.
04:39I've worked very hard on myself, physically and internally, and with my business,
04:46and I am just finally happy where I am today.
04:49So I'm very excited to go find love in Singapore.
05:11You left me behind.
05:13I hope you brought enough luggage.
05:16I flew all the way across the world to Singapore to find love, and I'm bringing my mom with me,
05:23because she's my best friend.
05:24And if she's not there in person, I'm just going to be on the phone with her the whole time anyways,
05:27so might as well bring her.
05:29This place is insane.
05:31Oh, mom, look at the waterfall.
05:32So excited.
05:33Oh, my gosh.
05:34That's amazing.
05:35Amazing.
05:38It's always an adventure with you, baby girl.
05:40I know, right?
05:41I'm very excited to go find love in Singapore, because Singaporean men have it all going on.
05:51I just love the way that the men treat their women with the utmost respect and are very family-oriented.
05:57But I also love a man that is successful as an entrepreneur, who has strong work ethic.
06:04And Singaporean men are a triple threat.
06:06They're brainy and have good personalities.
06:09And of course, Singaporean men are very hot.
06:12They have a thick head of hair, they're masculine, and a lot of them are very fit.
06:17And I'm into that.
06:19Like, give me Nick Young from Crazy Rich Asians any day, and I'll be so happy.
06:24Ready to do this thing?
06:25Yeah, I'm so excited.
06:28I can put in my two cents.
06:31My request for a son-in-law.
06:34It's been challenging for me to find love in the United States.
06:38It's been exhausting, we'll put it that way.
06:42I don't have one relationship.
06:44We were going to get married, but he decided one day he didn't want to have children.
06:49He knew that that was a non-negotiable for me.
06:52And I hit a rock bottom, complete rock bottom.
06:56I remember I laid in my bathtub and I cried and I was like,
07:00maybe I'll just settle for that because I don't want to lose him.
07:04But I knew that I deserved more.
07:06And so we broke off our engagement.
07:10Hi.
07:10Hi.
07:11I'm your driver.
07:12Dolly sent me here.
07:13Yes.
07:14I've dated since then, but the problem is I haven't found any guys that
07:18are able to like truly commit to marriage and having children.
07:23My biological clock is ticking.
07:25And so I'm just over the guys that I've been meeting in America.
07:35Look at this, it's so pretty.
07:37Oh, that's a beautiful hotel.
07:37I know, the buildings here look so futuristic, right?
07:42Yeah.
07:43Yeah.
07:43So how long will you guys be here?
07:46It's two weeks.
07:48Nice.
07:49So what are your favorite things about Singapore?
07:51The security.
07:53The security.
07:54The security here is amazing.
07:56The only thing that we have to follow a lot of rules and regulations.
08:00Oh, right.
08:01You can't even have gum here, correct?
08:02Is that true?
08:03Yeah.
08:04No chewing gum?
08:04No chewing gum.
08:06I just can't wait, ma.
08:08I really hope that I find like the love of my life.
08:10I know.
08:11Really, really happy to be here.
08:14I wish dad was here.
08:15Mm-hmm.
08:16I have a feeling he's watching from somewhere.
08:19Yeah.
08:22My dad passed away two years ago, and he passed away from cancer.
08:27He went into the hospital thinking that he just maybe had the flu.
08:30And then within a week and a half, he died.
08:34If I would have known how long he had, I would have just literally spent every single second with him.
08:40I would give anything to have like a moment with him again.
08:44I would have loved for my dad to have watched me walk down the aisle.
08:50And I will never get to have that.
08:52But I just, I want to make him proud in who I choose.
08:57Yeah, here.
08:58Ah.
08:59This is gorgeous.
09:00Gorgeous.
09:02After my father passed away, I definitely realized like how short life truly is.
09:08And I want true love.
09:10I want a family.
09:11But I've been searching years.
09:13And so I'm putting in my trust into a matchmaker in hopes that she can find my perfect match.
09:19Hi, Dolly.
09:20Hi, Sarah.
09:21It's so nice to meet you in person.
09:24Oh, I'm sorry.
09:26Hi, Kitty.
09:26How are you?
09:27Nice to meet you.
09:28Nice to meet you.
09:29Welcome to Singapore.
09:31We're so happy to be here.
09:32Yes.
09:32Have a seat.
09:34So how was the flight?
09:35It was good.
09:37It was long.
09:37And long?
09:38Yes, very long.
09:39Yes, but you guys still look amazing.
09:41Oh, thank you.
09:42You're very kind.
09:44And looking at you right now, you look like a celebrity.
09:47Yeah.
09:49Sarah is beautiful.
09:51But at the same time, Sarah as a client is going to be a very tricky one.
09:56Because the men here are just used to a more natural-looking girl.
10:01And of course, I know of Asian versions of her.
10:03But they're all sugar babes.
10:05So the kind of men that would typically be attracted to her would just be a man that would go for looks.
10:11So I want to help Sarah discover her true identity.
10:14Beyond all the glitz and glamour, what does her inner voice say?
10:18Is it a positive one?
10:20Or is she insecure about something?
10:24And I believe that there's a part of her in there that can really shine.
10:28So tomorrow, I do want to meet with you in my office so that I can help you achieve success.
10:39Awesome.
10:39Right?
10:40I'm really excited.
10:41I can't wait.
10:44I am so proud of myself for taking this huge leap of faith.
10:48But honestly, I will be extremely disappointed if I don't find true love.
10:54I only want to get married one time.
10:56I only want to do this one time.
10:59Because I have been so heartbroken in the past.
11:02And I'm going to get emotional.
11:06I only have, like, one more early heartbreak in me, potentially.
11:09Like, I only, like, I'm only going to, like,
11:11give my heart to, like, probably one more person for the rest of my life.
11:14I would never want to start something with anybody that would stop what they want in life.
11:28I really hope kids aren't a huge issue for him.
11:31Because even in this one date, I can really feel myself falling for him.
11:34This is, uh, this is a thing that I planned in the future that I could do.
11:44What?
11:45What?
11:46Hello?
11:47I thought it was going to be, like, a lavish estate.
11:50But it was, like, this shed area.
11:53I don't want the first place that we go to be your backyard shed.
11:56So, um, I, you know, I hate to ask such forward questions.
12:10I don't even know if that's part of your Brazilian culture.
12:13But I would never want to start something with anybody that would stop what they want in life.
12:21I don't want any more children.
12:22And I just need you to, you know, to know that.
12:27Yeah.
12:28And so you go into whatever we do with your eyes wide open.
12:34Yes, of course.
12:34Um, you know.
12:35Yeah, but, uh, this is, uh, this is a thing that I planned in the future that I could do.
12:43I would like to be a father, but I don't know.
12:45Yeah.
12:46I guess you never know.
12:47Yeah.
12:47I mean, I just, at this age where I'm at now and in my life, I'm really interested in, like,
12:52meeting somebody that we can travel and do fun things.
12:56And I know that when you have a kid, you have a, you have your life changed.
13:01Entirely.
13:02And they're so expensive.
13:05I appreciate you talking to me about children in the United States.
13:10I don't think I've shared what I'm looking for with anybody on the first date.
13:13Because it would feel rushed or someone would get scared.
13:17Like, oh, this girl's crazy.
13:19I, I, I don't know.
13:20I, I, for me, it's, um, no problem.
13:24Um, I don't know about your, what your plans for the weekend, for the next week.
13:32Uh, I really would like to, to stay with you more time.
13:38Me too.
13:38And, uh, it was a great night.
13:42Can I walk with her home?
13:45Yeah, let's go.
13:46Let's go.
13:47Absolutely.
13:47Bye-bye.
13:48Thank you very much.
13:49Obrigado.
13:50Ciao.
13:51Let's go.
13:53I really hope Bernardo is being sincere and that kids aren't a huge issue for him.
13:58Because even in this one date, I can really feel myself falling for him.
14:02He smells good.
14:03He looks good.
14:04He feels good.
14:05I love that warm, mushy feeling I feel inside.
14:09This way.
14:10This way.
14:11But I'm a little bit nervous that he asked me to walk me up to my room.
14:15You know, like, is he expecting to go inside?
14:18Is this what they do in Brazil?
14:20I don't know.
14:21But I'm not ready for that.
14:22Because I really just want time to get to know him more.
14:25So, my, my, my palms are sweaty.
14:28Well, I had a really nice time.
14:32Yes.
14:32Thank you for everything.
14:34I need...
14:35My phone number?
14:35Yes.
14:36I do know that.
14:36Yeah.
14:37This is important.
14:38This is one thing I do know.
14:39Yes, God, you know.
14:41It would have been scary if I didn't.
14:42I'll put it in here.
14:44I will think if I will accept you.
14:45Oh, stupid.
14:49It's done.
14:50Yeah, okay, good.
14:50It's done.
14:52Yeah.
14:52Now we're connected.
14:54Okay.
14:54Okay.
14:55Good night.
14:56Thank you very much.
14:57That was a wonderful evening.
14:58I'll see you again.
14:59I promise.
15:00Really?
15:01Mm-hmm.
15:14Want some room?
15:18You're great, too.
15:23I'll mess with you, like, right now.
15:24Yeah.
15:26To be honest, I feel giddy.
15:27That kiss took me from worrying about kids and all these heavy questions to just, like...
15:35It's like being a teenager again and, like, falling head over heels pretty quick on a first date.
15:41Am I falling in love or am I living in a moment?
15:44I don't know.
15:45All I know is that right now, my heart is opening up.
15:50My heart is opening up.
15:52Okay.
15:52Okay.
15:53Thank you very much.
15:54All right.
15:54Good night.
15:55Good night.
15:55Bye-bye.
15:56Bye-bye.
15:56Bye-bye.
16:02We talked about, like, future-type stuff, and he said he wanted two to three children.
16:07I don't want any.
16:08Would you change your mind for the right guy?
16:11No.
16:12Definitely not.
16:13I feel that this has not been mentioned before.
16:17So you're from here, single.
16:19Yeah, I am single.
16:21That is crazy.
16:22I guess you are, too, if you're coming this far, yeah.
16:24In the shed with a man with knives and wood tools.
16:27The whole axe mortar thing is, yeah.
16:38Oh, hey, look who's here.
16:52So, girl, how did it go with Dave?
16:56Oh, he was so excited.
16:57He's crazy about you.
16:58He definitely wants to see you again.
17:01Yeah, I believe that.
17:02I believe it.
17:03All right.
17:03We had fun.
17:04It was a fun time, for sure.
17:06Okay, did you have fun?
17:08Um, yes, but no.
17:13He was a little tutu out there, like, spontaneous for me.
17:19Well, we did agree that you wanted a bad boy.
17:21Yeah, you gave me exactly what I asked for, yes.
17:24Uh-huh.
17:25But while we're sitting there eating, he grabs a ball of hot sauce from the table and then turns it and shakes
17:33it and puts it in his eye.
17:35Why did he do that kind of thing?
17:36I don't know.
17:38It sounds like he needs to have all of the attention rather than using the opportunity to really get to know you.
17:46Yeah, he just wanted to see if I can handle that kind of craziness.
17:50Feels quite immature to me.
17:51If this episode with him hadn't happened, would you be interested in dating him further?
18:00No.
18:00We talked about, like, future type stuff and that's where our divide was.
18:06My sister's married three kids.
18:09Married three kids, really, yeah?
18:10Mm-hmm.
18:11Yeah.
18:11No way.
18:12Mm-hmm.
18:12I don't have kids one day, yeah?
18:13He said he wanted two to three children.
18:20I don't want any.
18:21Would you change your mind for the right guy?
18:24No, definitely not.
18:25That's a deal breaker.
18:27Mm-hmm.
18:28Yeah, that's definitely a deal breaker.
18:29I feel that this has not been mentioned before.
18:32Yeah, right.
18:34I don't think I, like, went that deep into my firmness on not wanting children.
18:40Only dog children.
18:42Only dog children.
18:43Yes, exactly.
18:43I understand.
18:44Mm-hmm.
18:45I respect.
18:46Yeah.
18:48I don't want kids because of all the things I've been through.
18:52Just to, like, the addiction thing with my dad.
18:54That's, like, hereditary.
18:56I've thought about this through and through.
18:58Not gonna change my mind.
18:59I feel like the right Irish guy for me won't want, like, a big family.
19:03He has to be out there somewhere.
19:06So there were obviously many moments that you did not enjoy during the date.
19:12Did you actually express clearly, directly, how you were feeling?
19:17Or did you play it all cool?
19:19I played it cool.
19:19I wouldn't want to say something just to upset him to upset him.
19:23So it's like, eh, it's fine.
19:25Sounds like you're overthinking too much.
19:27Probably.
19:28About what to do to make another person feel well.
19:32Yeah.
19:32And forgetting about what you need.
19:34Mm-hmm.
19:35And this is what we were talking in the very beginning.
19:37It's about your desires.
19:39So, Victoria, for your next date.
19:42You're gonna show your emotions.
19:43Okay.
19:44Because you are shielded.
19:45You are armored right now.
19:46And I need you to show what is happening down there.
19:50Okay.
19:51And I'm gonna go with you to make sure you're gonna show yourself in your full power to this guy.
19:56Okay, okay.
19:58It could be a little nerve-wracking having Katerina on my date.
20:01Because I 100% feel like Katerina will call me out, like, on the spot as she sees it.
20:08She's, like, so blunt.
20:10And, like, that's, like, my worst nightmare.
20:12I hate confrontation because it's just so awkward and uncomfortable.
20:17So I'm super nervous.
20:18I don't want you to skip on this opportunity.
20:22Deal.
20:32See, all these are, like, charming.
20:34Charming little, like, almost cottages.
20:36There are still leprechauns this side of the world.
20:40They chase the sheep at nighttime.
20:41Nuh-uh, that's a real thing or that's, like, an urban legend?
20:46No, they're real.
20:48Yeah.
20:58So are leprechauns mean?
21:00Aw, I thought they were supposed to be nice.
21:02You don't want to cross those guys.
21:02Yeah.
21:02Today, I have a date with Paul out in the Irish countryside.
21:11I'm interested in Keevan.
21:12But I love the fact that Katerina is challenging me to date other guys
21:16and to get out of my comfort zone of rushing into a situation
21:19and giving myself options.
21:21So I'm up for it.
21:24Oh, cows.
21:25A typical Irish man lives with his parents until marriage.
21:34But Amber wants someone more independent.
21:37So the next guy I have for Amber is 43-year-old Paul.
21:42He lives in the countryside in a beautiful house that he built by himself.
21:47He's fully sustainable and he wants his partner to embrace his lifestyle.
21:52But he's very sensitive, very perceptive, and it's also what Amber needs.
22:00There you go.
22:02Wow.
22:05What?
22:06What?
22:07Hello?
22:11I thought it was going to be, like, a lavish estate.
22:14But it's, like, this shed area.
22:19Hello?
22:20I don't want the first place that we go to be your backyard shed.
22:23So it is...
22:25It makes me kind of nervous.
22:29Hey.
22:30Hi.
22:30How are you?
22:30I'm wonderful.
22:31I'm Amber.
22:32Nice to meet you.
22:32Amber, nice to meet you.
22:33I'm Paul.
22:34I'm just playing around.
22:35I was about to say, what are you doing?
22:36I'm always making something.
22:37What are you creating?
22:38So I was carving a spoon.
22:40A spoon?
22:41Yeah.
22:43Wait a minute.
22:43Is this what you normally do?
22:44Is this what you do for a living?
22:45No, this is a hobby.
22:46No, this is a hobby.
22:47Go and hop on.
22:48Oh, I sit there.
22:49I straddle it?
22:50Yeah.
22:54Okay.
22:55So everyone tells you not to pull a knife or a blade towards yourself.
22:59Yes.
22:59But I'm going to tell you to do that.
23:00No way.
23:01Yeah.
23:05My first impression of Paul, he actually is very handsome.
23:09But total opposite of Keevan.
23:11I met Keevan with a suit jacket and a, you know, dress to the nines.
23:14Paul has on a shirt that says, hi, my name is Paul and Crocs.
23:18I can't even believe I'm going on a date with a dude with Crocs.
23:20But he's, he's very handsome.
23:23He needs to throw the Crocs away.
23:24So tell me more about yourself, Paul.
23:27So you're from here.
23:28I'm from very close.
23:30Single.
23:30Yeah, I am single.
23:31Okay.
23:33I guess you are too if you're, if you're coming this far.
23:35Yeah.
23:35Right.
23:36And in the shed with a man with knives and wood tools.
23:39That is crazy.
23:40Yes.
23:40The whole axe murderer thing is, yeah.
23:46Hopefully my location is on my phone so that I will be easily found.
23:50Because this is a horror movie, like chains, axes.
23:55But at the same time, I'm intrigued.
23:57I love a man that can teach me different things and show me different angles of life.
24:04My mind is open.
24:07So do you ever get scared out here all by yourself?
24:12No.
24:12I live off the grid.
24:15So what is this?
24:16So this is an outdoor bathtub.
24:18You can use it as a, as a hot tub.
24:21Get out of here.
24:21So it's filled with rainwater from a, from a roof.
24:24And you put the wood down there instead of fire?
24:26Yeah, you can, you can light a fire because it's a cast iron tub.
24:28Okay.
24:29And you literally come out here and continue and, and have a bath by yourself.
24:33Under, under the stars.
24:33Never dated an American moment.
24:37But first thoughts of Amber would be not my typical, what I would think I would like.
24:44My hands are, are a little chilly.
24:47Are they?
24:47Yes.
24:48Well, we can go inside if you want.
24:49But she's beautiful.
24:51She's, um, she's fun.
24:53She's a nice bubbly personality.
24:55I'm just curious to see the experience and, uh, take the opportunity as it comes.
25:00Do you want a cup of tea?
25:03Yeah, that sounds awesome.
25:07I'd probably have a herbal if you want.
25:10There's mint there from the garden.
25:12Okay.
25:13I need a good herbal tea in my life right now.
25:15So most of my food is in the, it's either in the garden.
25:19Yeah, and you just go out there and get it immediately.
25:21Or it's, it's dried good so it doesn't go off.
25:23How long does it take normally for your food to go bad?
25:27Well, I don't even have a fridge, so I don't let it go bad.
25:32Oh my God, you really don't.
25:33No, we don't have a fridge.
25:38I'm getting the tea.
25:43What a pleasure.
25:44Thank you so much for making me a tea.
25:46You're welcome.
25:46Rice.
25:47Okay, you don't have a refrigerator.
25:50No, no fridge.
25:51What else is, um, something that I would normally have at home that you don't have?
25:55Don't have a dishwasher.
25:56Don't have, yeah, I have a, I have a compost toilet.
26:03What's a compost toilet?
26:04Okay, I'll show you.
26:08Get that out of the way.
26:11So, yeah, this is my compost toilet.
26:14Get out of here.
26:14Basically, you make your deposit and then you cover it with soda and then move it into the garden.
26:20Okay, but it shouldn't smell.
26:22It should be a nice, it should be a nice, um, piney smell.
26:26Oh yeah, it does smell good.
26:28Okay, that's not what I was expecting at all.
26:30Okay, okay.
26:33Did you make the toilet too?
26:34Yeah, I made the toilet.
26:35I love that you make everything.
26:38And this tea is phenomenal.
26:42From the garden.
26:42Ah, I take a sip of the tea and it is delicious.
26:52So good.
26:54And then immediately, I think, Paul's duty fertilized this.
26:58And I am disgusted.
27:00He had other teas there.
27:02Why would you give me the pool tea?
27:05I hate to cut my visit short, but it's starting to get dark.
27:07We got to go down East Country Road.
27:09Okay, okay.
27:09It was lovely to have you here.
27:11It was lovely to be here.
27:13You've shown me so much.
27:14You know where I am now.
27:15You can come back anytime.
27:18I think it's time to wrap this date up.
27:19He even looks like a prince charming now.
27:21Like, I can't wait for our next date.
27:23Thank you again.
27:24I had a fabulous time.
27:26Okay, lovely to see you.
27:27Paul is a nice guy.
27:28He's just not my cup of tea, literally.
27:31Bye.
27:32Okay, bye-bye.
27:33Bye.
27:36As we were saying goodbye, he kissed me.
27:40When I'm working with people, I want them not focusing
27:44on chemistry.
27:45Look out!
28:01Hi, Monica.
28:02Hi.
28:03Good to see you.
28:04How are you?
28:05I'm really good.
28:06I'm really good.
28:06Really good.
28:07Good to do it.
28:19We're kind of matching today.
28:20Oh, my God.
28:21I love your dress.
28:22I got the memo.
28:23Yes.
28:24So tell me everything.
28:26Oh, my gosh.
28:27How did it go with Bernardo?
28:29It was honestly the best date I've ever had.
28:32Yes.
28:33Really?
28:33Yes.
28:34Wow.
28:34Yes.
28:35How good.
28:35Tell me everything.
28:36Oh, my gosh.
28:37Details.
28:37So from the moment I laid eyes on him, he's got a very good demeanor about himself.
28:44You could tell just by the way he turned and greeted me.
28:47This person is so grounded.
28:49I could feel it.
28:50So we meet, then we played.
28:53We had so much fun.
28:54And after that, he didn't really have plans and I didn't really have plans.
28:58So we're like, well, let's continue this because we really liked each other.
29:02And what we did, we talked.
29:04And I started to ask the deeper questions that you wanted me to ask.
29:07Oh, good.
29:08So good.
29:09And he was not uncomfortable.
29:11He, like, he even dove deeper and wanted to know more.
29:14This is so good.
29:16As we were saying goodbye, he kissed me.
29:21And I kissed him back.
29:22Like, really?
29:23Like a, like a passionate.
29:26Yes.
29:28I came in this door.
29:29I shut it, right?
29:31And I was like, by myself.
29:37You know, what was I supposed to do?
29:40I wanted to kiss him, too.
29:41Did a man try kissing first on the first day?
29:44Oh, they do?
29:45Yeah.
29:46Oh, my gosh.
29:47I didn't not want it.
29:48Like, I, I wanted to kiss him.
29:50I leaned in myself.
29:51I want to kiss him again.
29:54I have this philosophy when I'm working with people to wait a little bit to have
30:00their first kiss, like I told Monica, because I want them to go through the important questions.
30:08First, to learn information about their values, to choose a better partner for them,
30:14and not focusing on chemistry.
30:16So, now I have to figure out if Bernardo is really the best match for Monica, or there
30:25are just chemistry between them.
30:28So, you want a second date also?
30:32I do.
30:32But how about Bruno in this situation?
30:37When I think about finding love, I think about a partner who wants to grow together with me,
30:45and I'm ready to love.
30:48That was cute.
30:49It's funny you ask me that Bruno became less important when I met Bernardo.
30:56Really?
30:56Yeah.
30:57Because I have not met him yet, and I really enjoyed Bernardo.
31:01So, in a way, Bernardo really took first place, I think, over Bruno.
31:07Because now you have more information about Bernardo than you have from Bruno.
31:12You should go slow.
31:14I know.
31:14I want you to try a little bit more dating resident guys, and see how things go with Bruno.
31:24Yeah, yeah, yeah.
31:25I've never had this situation in my life where, like, I have one that I like, and then another one that I
31:29might like, and then, you know, having to find those differences that are going to be probably the
31:35longer-lasting thing.
31:37Be open to this.
31:38I know you were attached to Bernardo, but it's a good thing also, because then you will be,
31:44you're going to be more rational.
31:47And don't kiss.
31:48Please, don't kiss.
31:49I'm going to try real hard.
31:50I'm not going to kiss.
31:52Please, please.
31:53You're going to be good.
31:54These Brazilian men.
31:58As much as I feel that I've found a guy that I kind of really like, I know Luisa's right.
32:03I came here thinking about Bruno, excited to see Bruno.
32:08So what if, just what if, what if he's just as great, right?
32:12Like, I, there's so many what ifs that would never be answered if I cheat myself out of this,
32:17and not see him.
32:19So I need to give it a fair shot, because I am not here just to hook up.
32:24I am not here just to mess around and play with these guys.
32:27I'm actually here to find love.
32:29I want to hear everything from this date, okay?
32:32So you tell me everything, okay?
32:34I will tell you everything.
32:38If you don't tone down your look, a Singaporean man might judge the book by its cover.
32:43Are you ready to un-glam for the dates?
32:48No.
32:49Sarah is very glamorous, just va-va-voom.
33:04I think she needs a guy who is not going to look like super high-end and not so absorbed with himself.
33:11Okay.
33:12And I think the first date should be someone that is totally not, on paper, her type.
33:30Hi, Dolly.
33:30Hey.
33:31So good to see you.
33:32Welcome to you.
33:33Welcome to my office.
33:35Hi.
33:36Hi.
33:36Hi, Kitty.
33:38I arrived in Singapore a few days ago, and today I'm going on my first date.
33:42Yay.
33:43I'm so ready to find my husband.
33:45Like, where you at, baby?
33:48I'm waiting.
33:49Been waiting for years.
33:52Wow, do you ever leave Versailles?
33:55I do.
33:55I do.
33:57She's actually, like, extremely independent.
34:00Maybe you're not getting that vibe since I'm here.
34:02I'm not seeing that.
34:05She has always been very, very...
34:06She's also my best friend.
34:07Independent.
34:08But at some point, I do want some alone time with you, just so that I can really get to know Sarah.
34:14Yeah.
34:16With Kitty, I know she's flown a long way to do this with her daughter.
34:21But I was a little surprised when Sarah came to the office and she brought her mom along.
34:27So I am worried if Kitty is going to be a helicopter parent.
34:31Um, what do you feel was your mistakes that you've made along the way in your dating journey?
34:41Um, every single thing that I watched growing up was these fairytale princess movies and these
34:48extravagant love stories.
34:50And I think, um, it makes it really hard because we have an unrealistic expectation of what love should
34:57look like and what relationships should look like.
34:59What's perfect for you then?
35:01Um, well, so I do want someone who does want to have children with me and start a family in the near
35:07future. And that's a non-negotiable for me. And someone that I just genuinely have so much fun with,
35:13that feels like my best friend.
35:15Yes.
35:16I'm just dying to know who's my first match. Can you give me any more information?
35:20Um, he's Freddie. He is 37. So he is also ready to have a family.
35:26Okay.
35:27Okay. And he is an artist in Singapore.
35:30Cool.
35:32And he has planned a very exciting date for you.
35:36He's going to take you on this exploration of, uh, different sides of Singapore.
35:40Okay.
35:41That sounds amazing.
35:42Yeah. I can't wait. Thank you, Zali.
35:44Okay. So let's just get into what you need to have a successful matches and to see if you're able to
35:50fit culturally. Right? So I know you share a lot with me on what your values are. And from that,
35:57I've found these matches for you because values is everlasting. Looks will fade.
36:03Right. Of course.
36:04And I just wonder, are you ready to kind of un-glam for the dates? Are you comfortable with that?
36:14No.
36:14Okay. Well, if we do something outdoorsy, will you be wearing makeup to say a sporty activity?
36:25Oh, yeah. I always pretty much do my makeup the same. Unless it's nighttime, then I
36:29do a full glam.
36:31Okay. Um, so also my concern is that if you don't tone down your look, a Singaporean
36:39man might judge the book by its cover because the men here are just not used to it.
36:43Mm-hmm.
36:44Right? Be real. Right? It's not all...
36:47You don't have to paint a perfect picture.
36:49Mm-hmm.
36:50Right? Which is so true. I've always been concerned that Sarah could possibly attract
36:54the wrong kind of men. You really have to have an open heart, right? You have to be vulnerable
37:03to enter into a real relationship.
37:05Yes.
37:08I have always told Sarah toning down maybe the makeup and the attire a little bit is gonna help
37:14her find someone that will love her for everything that she is. But I think, um, having an expert come
37:21in and give her some advice and opinion really will help Sarah, um, move in a maybe slightly different
37:28new direction. And hopefully just, you know, give her a new perspective.
37:33Um, I'm still gonna stay true to myself. That's important to me. And I think that, um, yeah,
37:39whoever ends up with me, they need to know the real me. So therefore, on a date, I want to look my last.
37:45Okay.
37:47I have spent many years working on my outward appearance and I love the way that I look. So
37:53Dolly wanted me to tone down my look, honestly, girl. If I actually thought that would help to turn
38:01my love life around, I think I would have done it by now.
38:04So I don't normally work with the parent of my client. Right. But you're an extra pair of eyes and
38:12ears, you know. So let's work together on this in this journey of finding a match completely
38:18far away from what she's used to.
38:26Next time on Match Me Abroad.
38:28Hi, Amber. Hello.
38:30Hi, Amber.
38:30Happy to see you again. This is Carol.
38:32Hi, nice to see you.
38:33Hi. Carol is not what I expected. Much chubbier, shorter. I am not so sexually attracted to him.
38:42What do you normally do for Asia? I guess I'm here on vacation to meet you. Right.
38:53Okay. Woo. My expectations for a woman are very high because I hold myself at a very high standard.
38:59So I really think going Brazil is my best viable option.
39:04I will be driving in Sao Paulo. Do you think you were a picky man?
39:10Absolutely. No short hair. The longer the hair, the more effort she puts into her daily routine.
39:19Do you know where this is? What this is? Where?
39:22This is the red light district. Oh, really? Yeah.
39:24Yeah. I am.
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