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Virgins Season 1 Episode 5
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00:00Don't look so nervous.
00:01It's just cold water.
00:02Previously on Virgins.
00:04This is the first time that I'm feeling
00:06some type of excitement about a guy.
00:08I like that feeling.
00:10Are you guys ready to take the plunge?
00:12I guess so.
00:12But is he going to run away when he finds out
00:15that I don't have sexual experience?
00:17Look.
00:19Here we go.
00:20I have, like, two voices in my head.
00:21One saying, don't do it.
00:22The other one saying, do it.
00:24I so appreciate that you want to kiss me.
00:29Getting denied a kiss, it's just confusing.
00:32I'm not sure when we're going to be able to see each other.
00:36I don't know if I want to get married because I was before.
00:40I need my person to be dominant and, like, manhandle me.
00:44Spanking's my fetish.
00:45What?
00:46We both are into BDSM.
00:50Woo-hoo!
00:51But with Jeremy, it didn't feel as sexy as it looks in porn.
00:57If I hear the word masturbation, I cringe.
01:01I feel like it's so uncomfortable for you,
01:03the idea of touching yourself.
01:05I'm feeling annoyed by Wayne, the sex surrogate,
01:08because touching myself is just not something I want to do.
01:12I can't help it.
01:13This is who I am.
01:14We're just going back and forth.
01:15Like, there's no solution, right?
01:16I'm like, I've had enough.
01:17So, the Cold Pledge event, I met Alex and, you know, I was finally in the space where
01:40I was like, OK, this could go somewhere.
01:41And I was excited about it, but later on, I did look at his Instagram.
01:45He played volleyball.
01:46OK.
01:47Super tall.
01:48He's cute.
01:49Went to Pepperdine.
01:50Wait.
01:51Graduated in 24?
01:53Oh, gosh.
01:54Of course.
01:55Finally find one that I might want to go on a second date with and I think he's too young.
02:01As a 35-year-old woman, I do not want to tell a 24-year-old guy that I'm inexperienced
02:10in dating and sex.
02:11That, to me, is embarrassing.
02:14So, I am going to go see my matchmaker, Tammy, today.
02:18Hi.
02:19How are you?
02:20You look beautiful.
02:22You too.
02:23I love you in blue.
02:24I don't want to slide back into my comfort zone of not dating at all, and I think Tammy will
02:29help me with my next steps of how to move forward.
02:32What have you been up to?
02:34Oh, you know, going on some dates.
02:37There was one guy that was really cute, and we clicked, and then he asked me out on another
02:41date.
02:42Oh, good.
02:43And then...
02:44Oh, no, and then...
02:45I got home, and I looked at his Instagram.
02:49The most recent photos were college graduation.
02:52Oh, no.
02:53How old is he?
02:54And so I looked up a little bit more and found out he's 24.
02:57Oh.
02:58I think Deanne is realizing that it's hard out there.
03:06It's hard to meet somebody.
03:08I think it takes practice to get out there and put yourself out there, and you're doing
03:12all those things.
03:13As a matchmaker, I think it is a good approach to meet different people different ways.
03:21So I love that you are open-minded and doing these different ways of dating people.
03:25And it makes me think of something I heard about called Updating.
03:29And it's a live dating show on stage with some comedians, which I know is...
03:36Stage!
03:37I know, I know.
03:38I know it's a little weird, but I think it could be fun.
03:40And...
03:41Is there like an audience?
03:42There's an audience watching.
03:43This is sounding completely nightmarish to me.
03:47But you are blindfolded.
03:49That sounds like a freaking dream.
03:52Sounds like a dream.
03:54Some of Deanne's issues are just her not being open to the person and more going off looks.
04:02So I think being blindfolded, she doesn't see the person.
04:06She's really just kind of seeing the internal person and see if there's a chemistry or connection
04:11that way.
04:12The essence of me trying new things lately, I'm definitely open to it.
04:17I love it.
04:18I, you know, I'm trying to put myself out there in every which way.
04:21So Tammy is an expert.
04:22She's good at what she does.
04:24And I think she's good at reading people and finding out their differences.
04:29And I'm clearly a lot different than a lot of her clientele.
04:33So I think she's thinking outside the box a little bit for me.
04:35You live once.
04:36It'll be a good story to tell.
04:37So...
04:38Or you'll find the one.
04:39Probably not.
04:40But maybe.
04:41Think positive.
04:42You never know.
04:43Positive.
04:44You've been going back and forth for like two hours now.
04:56What does he want me to say?
04:57Like, just like...
04:58Trying to understand who you are and where you're coming from and maybe give you a different
05:02perspective.
05:03I understand that Wayne's intentions are good.
05:06He wants to help me, but it's challenging.
05:09I've been this way for so long.
05:12It is hard to imagine myself in any other way.
05:18But at the same time, if I were to quit, I would wonder what could have happened.
05:26And I don't want to live in regret.
05:31So, I understand and I want to acknowledge the frustration.
05:39I'm not trying to badger you or just trying to, honestly, just trying to get information.
05:45I don't think you understand, for an Indian woman, what a big deal any sort of physical
05:49intimacy is.
05:51When I look at Sonali's upbringing, I can understand how she ended up in this space
05:55to where she is resistant to the idea of what touch could be like for her.
06:00Ultimately, I'm trying to help her change the narrative that she's created around sex,
06:04sexuality, and unaffirm some of her beliefs.
06:07I get it.
06:08I know I got a little triggered and riled up, but I do feel safer on you because otherwise I
06:12wouldn't have let you into my home.
06:13You know, I wouldn't be sitting next to you on my couch, you know, conversing like this.
06:19You are a professional.
06:20Yes.
06:20I do trust you in that capacity.
06:22But if I may ask you, um, if you would, if you would just, if you wouldn't mind just
06:29massaging my back, just in a professional capacity, um, what do you see of that?
06:36So, um,
06:37Sonali is so in her head and so guarded.
06:43I'm trying to process what's going on right now.
06:48I need to know if this is organic. Is this something you really want to experience?
06:52Because it kind of feels abrupt.
06:55I want to make sure, like, I want to be able to give you an authentic organic touch.
07:00Of course.
07:01Because it doesn't feel good to me to touch you and you don't actually want me to touch you.
07:04No, no, I did ask you. No, you are a professional.
07:07And I know you're trying to help me.
07:09It's a sincere request.
07:10Okay.
07:10Yes.
07:11What Wayne and I have been discussing, it does make me uncomfortable.
07:14I'm a little less uncomfortable, but I'm still uncomfortable.
07:18But I came here to make progress and I do trust Wayne enough at this point to try this.
07:27So it seems like you carry a lot of tension up in this area right here.
07:29Mm-hmm.
07:30Well, you let me know if it's, if it's not enough or if it's too much, right?
07:33Mm-hmm.
07:37To become really present in this space right here where we are.
07:39Mm-hmm.
07:47You don't have to feel, like, unsafe. Like, you are okay here.
07:59Oh. Oh. Oh. Hey.
08:13Oh, my gosh, Ryan. If that hits that eight ball and that goes in.
08:15Go, go, go.
08:16Oh, hey. How's it going?
08:18Yeah. I was pretty close. I said about seven minutes.
08:20What am I? Am I late?
08:22Yeah. A little bit.
08:23Always out. No.
08:24You're late and my late is totally different.
08:27After Andrea friendzoned me, I'm trying to figure out how to get through this.
08:33You did put yourself out there. You made a connection with somebody and you're gonna
08:36make another connection. And you could do it again.
08:38Until you find, until you find that somebody.
08:41Now you've done that. You've already got out of your comfort zone.
08:43Keep pushing yourself.
08:45You can't get yourself down. Yeah.
08:48I feel like losing your virginity is supposed to be a connection. I want to experience that.
08:54I mean, it's not an easy thing to accomplish. So I decided to get in touch with the organizers
08:59from the Tantra Speed Dating events because I had more matches. There is one girl that is
09:04standing out to me above the rest and her name is Lauren.
09:07This could be like a five-person family.
09:09She has a very cute smile, nice blue eyes, and just her overall presence is nice.
09:27Like this is the first time that you're bringing any kind of woman around.
09:30How are you feeling?
09:31Nervous. Are you?
09:34Yeah. Okay.
09:35Tell us a little bit about her. She's the same age as me. She has a daughter.
09:39Okay. What's something that like kind of drew you to her?
09:41She was kind of like a woman version of me. I mean, we laughed a lot.
09:45A woman version of you. Oh.
09:48I'm really happy Alex is putting himself back out there, uh, and dating again.
09:53But I just think that he should have given himself a little bit of time to kind of
09:57re-evaluate. Yeah, re-evaluate like what went wrong with Andrea.
10:00And I don't want him to make those same mistakes with Lauren now.
10:03Have you had that conversation with her about you being a virgin or no?
10:06No. Okay.
10:07The timing wasn't right for that.
10:09Not today, obviously.
10:10No.
10:11Okay, so please don't like have that conversation with all of us present.
10:14No.
10:14I feel like that's more of a...
10:15No.
10:17Dating's hard, but being a virgin is 10 times harder because even if I connect with somebody,
10:24I have to find the right time to tell them.
10:26Oh.
10:27I'm just really...
10:27She just texted me.
10:28Oh, good.
10:29She's here.
10:31I don't want to be too vulnerable too quick.
10:34Kind of realized that with Andrea, and I think maybe that's kind of why I got friend-zoned.
10:40I don't...
10:40I don't want to go too fast with it.
10:43All right, I'm going to go outside and meet her real quick.
10:46How are you feeling, Alex?
10:48Nervous.
10:51For him to bring, like, her here to meet us, I think it's a really big deal because he's
10:55never done that before, Ryan.
10:56Yeah, I know.
10:57He has to be nervous.
10:57Like, this is all real.
11:06The first thing that comes to my mind is your marriage.
11:11See, I'm going to cry now.
11:13My divorce left me embarrassed with no confidence.
11:18That person who is no longer in your life is holding you hostage.
11:23And you've coupled that with pornography.
11:43I am headed to Dr. Tai's office.
11:46Since my last session, I actually put myself out there.
11:49I went to a, um, BDSM club.
11:53Oh!
11:54Oh!
11:55Oh!
11:56I got spanked.
11:58Good girl.
11:59Woo-hoo!
12:01And I had a couple dates, but...
12:05A part of me is very disappointed because I am desperately trying to find my person.
12:11And it's seeming to be harder than I thought.
12:15And I just feel shame about that.
12:17Like, you know, it makes me feel like what's wrong with me.
12:23It is the story of my life.
12:24It really, really is.
12:26And I don't understand.
12:27I don't understand.
12:28Part of me is thinking that sex and love connection will not happen for me.
12:34Tell me how things have been since we last spoke.
12:37I've been on two dates.
12:39Very nice.
12:40Um, first one started off very well.
12:44Okay.
12:44Uh, later on, he showed his ass.
12:47And then I had to dismiss him because he was being very disrespectful.
12:50How did you communicate all of that to him?
12:52I just dismissed myself.
12:53Um, had to block.
12:55So you didn't communicate with him at all?
12:58No.
12:59Then I went on a date with another guy and he cooked dinner, which was nice.
13:04Jeremy is into spanking.
13:06So we tried it out and it was very fun.
13:10What is it, um, erotically charging for you at all?
13:13Most of it was curiosity and fun, but it wasn't all there.
13:18So what made it not that for you?
13:20I guess because I'm just not, like, sexually attracted to him.
13:23I think that's what threw it off.
13:25Like, what is he missing?
13:27I feel like, you know, I'm bigger than him.
13:30And how is he going to, like, manhandle me in the bedroom?
13:35Like, I don't think that he's, like, dominant enough for me.
13:37But Rasha, you're doing a lot of judging.
13:40You don't know what that man got.
13:42You don't know.
13:44Let me, let me say this in this moment.
13:46You have created this unrealistic person that you feel would be the perfect person for you.
13:54Yeah.
13:55And you've coupled that with pornography.
14:00And now you're looking for that to manifest.
14:03To the point that you've found a way to disqualify for Jeremy.
14:07You say he's not dominant.
14:08Rasha is looking for this person that checks all the boxes.
14:15In that, there is an unrealistic view and expectation.
14:20Both of those dates that she went on, it wasn't so much what they did or didn't do.
14:26When she's not able to check off those boxes, automatically there is the thought that they
14:31would not be able to give her what she needs.
14:35The first thing that comes to my mind is your marriage.
14:40You're holding what he did to you against people you have met and haven't even met yet.
14:46But it's not okay because someone used you to hold everybody responsible for what that person did to you.
14:56See, I'm gonna cry now.
15:01That person who is no longer in your life is holding you hostage.
15:13It was emotional.
15:16My divorce left me embarrassed.
15:19It left me with no confidence.
15:23It left me feeling ugly, unworthy, unwanted.
15:28My ex-husband still has a hold on me as far as the trauma.
15:34And I have been dismissing people too soon.
15:40Just trying to protect myself, I guess.
15:42I want you to practice increasing your intimacy.
15:49Not just with partners, but also just the people that are around us.
15:54That will better help you to have intimate connection, communication with people that
15:59you're going to meet and that you're going to bring into your life.
16:02Yeah.
16:03I need to actually own my demons and take responsibility on some things I don't think
16:10correctly about.
16:12I actually have been talking to a new guy.
16:15I was definitely thinking about dismissing him because he canceled twice on me.
16:20But after talking to Dr. Ty, I am thinking about giving him another chance and just try to do better.
16:27I want you to really think about what it is you're looking for.
16:32Yeah.
16:33Because I think if you don't, you're not going to find it.
16:37L.A., welcome to Updating.
16:53Who wants to see a makeout tonight?
16:57And who wants to see love?
17:00You're at the wrong show if you want that.
17:02The matchmaker signed me up for this Updating show.
17:09It's way outside of my comfort zone.
17:11It's not something I would ever sign myself up for.
17:14Now that I'm actually here in the green room, I'm hearing the audience.
17:17It's really loud and I'm terrified.
17:21Hello, hello.
17:22What's going on?
17:23Hi, Deanne. Nice to meet you.
17:25Brandon.
17:25Nice to meet you.
17:26Brandon.
17:29We're the hosts and creators of Updating.
17:31It's a comedy show that puts on blind dates in front of audiences.
17:35And we've been bringing love all over the world the past few years.
17:38We specialize in getting a lot of second dates happen from Updating, which is really cool.
17:43So no matter what happens on stage, there's a good chance you'll get a date after the show.
17:47I will actually bet all my money that you're going to end up with the guy tonight.
17:50You guys be nice to her, though.
17:51No, we're going to be very, very nice.
17:53Yeah.
17:53I know that the comedians are going to push the limit on the questions that they ask me.
18:02Here's your blindfold, so you can put it on, just put it on, and then you'll take my hand.
18:07Okay.
18:08They're there to get some type of spicy content for themselves.
18:12This is something you'll never forget the rest of your life.
18:15Welcome, welcome.
18:17Ladies and gentlemen of Los Angeles, give it up for Deanne.
18:26This is so scary.
18:27Oh, really?
18:28Um, well, it's going to get scarier.
18:30Um, she really looks nervous.
18:34I hate to see her uncomfortable, but at the same time,
18:37maybe this is what Deanne needs to just get out of that comfort zone and start having a sex life
18:43like the rest of the world.
18:46What brings you here?
18:47Why are you single?
18:48Okay, well, I don't know.
18:50I've just been single my whole life.
18:51I've never had a boyfriend.
18:53Oh, whoa.
18:54Whoa, that just got very depressing.
18:57Oh, you, I appreciate that.
19:00I am not excited in the slightest.
19:03Being blindfolded in front of an audience gives me so much anxiety.
19:08So I'm really hopeful that they bring in a really nice,
19:12hot, attractive guy that would be a good fit for me and make it worth it.
19:17Why do you think that is?
19:18Why do you think it hasn't happened?
19:19And then, like, what are you looking for?
19:22Someone that I actually am attracted to and feel chemistry with,
19:25and I don't really want to settle.
19:28I like that.
19:29Thanks, guys.
19:29Yeah, Brandon, I was going to ask Dan something.
19:33When was the last time you had a hookup?
19:37Yeah.
19:40Probably, like, 2017.
19:44I know, guys.
19:45I know.
19:46What happened the last time you were with someone?
19:49Like, was...
19:49Uh, really just kissing that last time.
19:53Oh, so it wasn't even, uh...
19:55No, it wasn't sex.
19:56It was just kissing.
19:57So I don't really tell people about my lack of sexual experience.
20:02Now I'm up on this stage in front of hundreds of people,
20:06and I'm instantly feeling like the situation's my worst nightmare.
20:09Oh, so have you ever...
20:12Uh, I need to leave this stage right now.
20:17No.
20:17How old are you?
20:2135.
20:25Would you like a drink?
20:26Wine.
20:26Wine.
20:27Please.
20:27I'm really a laker, and I am getting nervous that I might mess it up.
20:32Red, white, like, you gotta ask.
20:34Wait, what type of wine?
20:36I mean, I mean, there's a question to answer.
20:38Alex has zero gain.
20:39Yeah.
20:40Uh, let's be real.
20:47Oh.
20:47I'm just really...
20:48She just texted me.
20:49Oh, good.
20:52Hey.
20:53Hi.
20:55How's it going?
20:55How are you?
20:56Good, how are you?
20:57It's good to see you.
20:57Oh, good to see you too.
20:59All right.
20:59I'm gonna walk inside, right?
21:00Yeah.
21:01It's freezing.
21:01Yeah.
21:05Hello.
21:05Hi.
21:06Hi.
21:06This is Lauren.
21:07Hi, Lauren.
21:08Hi.
21:08This is Ryan.
21:09Hi, Lauren.
21:10Nice to meet you.
21:10Nice to meet you.
21:11This is your Courtney.
21:12Hi, Courtney.
21:12Nice to meet you.
21:13Nice to meet you.
21:14Hi.
21:14Hi.
21:15Samantha, nice to meet you.
21:16Nice to meet you.
21:17Nice to meet you, yes.
21:17Do you want me to take your bag and...
21:19Yeah, thank you.
21:21I think Lauren's beautiful.
21:22Um, to be honest, I don't know that she's somebody that I would have seen Alex go for,
21:26but I'm really glad to see Alex step out of his comfort zone a little bit.
21:30Do you, uh, would you like a drink?
21:31Yes.
21:32This one's yours.
21:32Oh, what would you like?
21:34Wine.
21:34Wine.
21:35Please.
21:36I'll get you a wine.
21:39Oh, uh, wait.
21:41What type of wine?
21:43That's...
21:43I mean, that's question to answer.
21:45You just go...
21:46I know, like, Ryan Whitey.
21:47Like, you gotta ask.
21:48Chardonnay.
21:49Chardonnay.
21:49All right.
21:50Yeah.
21:51Alex has zero game.
21:52Yeah.
21:53Um, let's be real.
21:55Watching it is kind of entertaining.
21:57It's kind of cringy, too, though, because I just want...
21:59I feel bad for him.
22:01I think he's a little nervous.
22:02Okay.
22:03I think he's a little nervous.
22:04So much.
22:04Are you?
22:04Oh, don't be nervous.
22:05Don't be nervous.
22:06All right?
22:06Don't be nervous.
22:07Yeah, he's good.
22:08My first date with Alex went really well.
22:11I think that he's really funny.
22:12We have a good banter back and forth, and humor is something that I look for in a partner.
22:16I am surprised that he's having me meet his sisters on our second date.
22:21I know that family means a lot to him.
22:23Family means a lot to me, as well.
22:25I think his sisters are, like, his best friends.
22:27But it's still nerve-wracking to walk into all of that and try to be myself, I guess.
22:33What is your title again?
22:35IT Compliance Analyst.
22:38Huh.
22:38It's weird going from never dating to kind of starting to.
22:52And knowing that I'm one step closer to me losing my virginity, it's surreal to me.
22:58Bottom right.
22:59Bottom right.
22:59Right next to where he was.
23:00Yeah, I see now.
23:01Oh!
23:03All right.
23:06Way to come back.
23:06Way to come back.
23:07Oh, yeah.
23:08I don't want to get ahead of myself.
23:10But in this moment, I feel like things are going good.
23:14Lauren, it was so nice to meet you.
23:15Yes, you were so nice to meet you.
23:17I'm a hugger.
23:17I'm a hugger.
23:18I am, too.
23:19Lauren seems to be a good fit for Alex.
23:21Um, they seem like they have some things in common, which is nice.
23:24Alex needs to just pump the brakes a little bit and not put so much pressure on it because
23:28he is a good catch.
23:29Yep.
23:31I am feeling excited.
23:33I'm feeling happy.
23:34I'm feeling nervous.
23:35Your sisters were really nice.
23:36You have to tell them that.
23:37I will.
23:38They were very welcoming.
23:40I'm just really shocked that she's into me because I didn't think I was going to get this far.
23:46Okay.
23:46All right.
23:47Thank you so much.
23:48No problem.
23:48All right.
23:49We'll do it again.
23:49Yeah.
23:50All right.
23:50All right, I'll let you in.
23:51Oh, thank you.
23:52Yeah, no problem.
23:53Lauren is the complete package.
23:55She is perfect.
23:57And I want to show her that I'm serious about taking things to the next level.
24:01In my perfect scenario, I can ultimately see myself losing my virginity to her.
24:16Definitely going to bring this one.
24:18That's cute.
24:19Looks amazing.
24:21When Dr. Tye told me I need to work on intimacy, I think it's beyond sexual.
24:27I think it's about just opening up to being my real authentic self with anybody around me.
24:33Yeah, this is going to be cute.
24:35I love it.
24:36Really cute.
24:37I've been talking to my friend Jessica about my sexual situation, and she knows I'm a virgin.
24:43She's my spicy friend.
24:44She's very knowledgeable about sex.
24:46She's been asking me to go to this adult resort, and I said, yes.
24:58It may be a little bit advanced for me, but I'm open to learning and seeing things.
25:04Just being intimate with people in general and letting people in.
25:07I'm going to bring this as well, because why not?
25:11I'm going to be in this pool heavy.
25:14I also did decide to contact this new guy, William, and we went out a couple times already.
25:21I just got finished my date, and it was really, really good.
25:32It was really, really good.
25:35Even though you and William are talking, you're still going to the resort.
25:38It's really new, so it's no label on it yet.
25:42He hasn't asked me anything about being exclusive.
25:46Does he know you're a virgin?
25:47And what do you think?
25:49He's cool with it.
25:50On your date, did you think about kissing him?
25:52I kissed him on the cheek.
25:54We gave each other a hug when we were leaving, and I kissed him on the cheek.
25:58Yeah.
26:03What's that?
26:04Jessica.
26:05I mean, this looks cool.
26:07Don't worry about it.
26:07Listen, listen, listen, listen, listen.
26:10Mom.
26:10Jessica.
26:11Yeah.
26:12Can you come in and listen to what your child is talking about?
26:15Okay.
26:17So I told my mom and sister that I'm going to a resort,
26:19but I didn't tell him what kind of resort I'm going to.
26:23I am just preparing myself for the shenanigans that come with telling Iris and Jessica.
26:29I'm going to show you all these outfits.
26:30Okay.
26:31This is one of my favorite ones.
26:33This is my...
26:33Lord, you're going to have something over that.
26:35Lingerie?
26:35No, this is like lingerie pajamas.
26:37Like, you know what I'm saying?
26:38Sleepwear.
26:38Like, sleepwear?
26:39There ain't nothing.
26:40Where would you wear the lingerie, though?
26:42It might...
26:42It could be by myself in my room.
26:45You might as well not wear nothing.
26:46It's about seduction.
26:49Who are you seducting?
26:50I mean, just...
26:50I mean, even yourself.
26:52You know, just feeling sexy.
26:54The resort I'm going to has a pool, so I got my bathing suit.
26:57What?
26:57Rasha, what is that?
26:59That little tennis .
27:01Listen, I'm grown.
27:03Yeah, yeah, you're grown.
27:04This is stuff that you would not normally wear.
27:06You don't have anything, like, in no jeans or anything like that.
27:13It's an adult resort.
27:17Where you can be free.
27:19You can be free.
27:20And explore yourself.
27:23Is it just, like, maybe a nudist?
27:26It's not nudist, but you can be.
27:29What I think happens at adult resorts is everybody's just, like, screwing everybody.
27:33Like, every turn you take, and they're, like, all meshed into one big monster.
27:37And, like, you got arms and legs hanging out, like, and eyeballs everywhere.
27:40Like, all kinds of body anatomy, like, everywhere.
27:44I could be wrong, but that's what I feel that I may see and experience.
27:51You're not going to do that.
27:55I mean, well, well, I mean, she's grown, mom.
27:57Yeah, I know she is.
27:58I know she is, but dang.
27:59You know.
28:00Why he had to do this experience?
28:03Well, she's a grown woman and hasn't experienced anything as far as, like, sexual.
28:07You know, you can't.
28:08Well, I haven't either.
28:09OK, but you still married and you got kids.
28:11So you've had that experience.
28:13OK?
28:14Rasha going to see a bunch of ass and titties.
28:17That's on her.
28:18Because I, mm-mm.
28:20That's what she want to see, you know?
28:24Jess.
28:25I just hope she got her shots.
28:28I mean, I'm going to boost you.
28:30Because you, you, you grown.
28:32Right.
28:32You do whatever you want to do.
28:34I understand the concerns, but I need to be open in the moment.
28:40And I'm still going to do what I do because I'm grown.
28:44I got gray hairs on my vagina.
28:46I'm grown.
28:48I'm grown.
28:49I'm just going to explore and have a good time and see, like,
28:52there's no expectations at all.
28:54I'm just going there and experience my sexuality.
28:56Well, that's true.
28:57What sexual?
28:58What sexuality?
29:00Jessica, I have sexuality, OK?
29:17What does it feel like for you?
29:19It is pleasurable.
29:20And it doesn't, it has nothing to do with the physical act of sex.
29:26This is a pleasurable act, right?
29:27Right, yeah.
29:28And it's intimate, right?
29:29This is very, this is pretty intimate, right?
29:31Right.
29:36Getting touched by a man who I don't know very well,
29:39that is not something I'm comfortable with at all.
29:41Even when I go for a massage, I request a female masseuse.
29:45So for me to allow him to do this to me is a huge deal.
29:48Is this what this reaction?
29:49That feels nice.
29:54I'm going to apply a little bit more pressure.
29:55So stay right here.
29:56I'm just standing up to get more leverage.
29:59Oh.
30:03What does that feel like?
30:03Amazing.
30:05Oh.
30:05I am in an absolute daze.
30:09I feel very comfortable and safe.
30:10The pleasurable sensations that I'm feeling, it gives me some hope that maybe one day, hopefully soon,
30:17I'd be able to enjoy sexual pleasure.
30:20And I think broadening our perspective and understanding of what intimacy is, is helpful.
30:27Right.
30:28You know, because we just associate sex with intimacy.
30:31Intimacy is so many other things.
30:33I feel I have experienced a breakthrough with Wayne.
30:38I do feel closer to him.
30:39I wish I could have that done to me every hour.
30:41Can I do something really quick?
30:43Can I hold your hands real quick?
30:44So I want to say something to you.
30:45Since we've been working together, it's my first time seeing you, like, your guard down and just being able to receive.
30:51I hope for you that you are able to allow yourself to be open to trying new things.
30:59I feel positive for you.
31:00You feel optimistic?
31:01Yes.
31:01Optimistic for sure.
31:03I must say, I am really proud of myself right now.
31:06I feel stronger, more brave when it comes to pleasure and touch.
31:12And I think that having a more open mind will allow me to overcome my physical barrier and experience
31:20physical intimacy with a man.
31:22I know this may be a big thanks for you, but can I have a hug?
31:24Sure.
31:27Thank you, Wayne.
31:34Oh, so have you ever...
31:39No.
31:42Uh, I mean, look, Deanne, you came to a show, uh, we, a lot of people have come out of this with their partner.
31:47Uh, so you came from...
31:48How many?
31:49Uh, uh, uh, uh, more times than you've had sex.
31:55I think Deanne being a 35-year-old virgin is definitely, like, not a lifestyle I recommend to most people.
32:01What did I get myself into?
32:04This is someone who could be sexually active, and I'm sure a lot of guys pursue her, but she's choosing not to.
32:09It's very interesting.
32:09Do I think she's gonna leave the show tonight and be humping someone?
32:14Probably not, but I do think that we're gonna bring her closer to losing her virginity than anything else.
32:18So, Deanne, you're about to meet your boyfriend.
32:22Guys, give it up for Conrad!
32:26What is going on?
32:27Uh, Deanne, this is Conrad, um, and Conrad, um...
32:32Hi, Deanne.
32:33Hi, Conrad.
32:34Hi.
32:34So, Conrad, right off the bat, try to just win Deanne over right now.
32:39One, two, three.
32:40Hi, Deanne.
32:41I'm emotionally available.
32:42Oh, yeah.
32:43Oh, my God!
32:47Who is he?
32:49I just moved to LA from New York, and, uh, I'm pretty independent and happy, and I'm just looking for
32:55someone to kind of share life with, and, uh, just want to find someone who helps, you know, make my
33:00life better, and I can make their life better.
33:02Oh, I like that.
33:03Yeah.
33:04So, Deanne, what question do you have?
33:05Okay, this is a question the crowd's not gonna like, but I want kids in my future.
33:11The police are here.
33:12We don't give a .
33:15A guy that I seriously date has to want kids.
33:17Well, I do want kids, um, would love to have four.
33:20One of my brothers is adopted, so would love to have three biological and one adopted kids someday.
33:25Yo, this guy is literally gone.
33:27These comedians have ridiculous questions.
33:32They have a ridiculous method, but I do think that they found a good one in Conrad.
33:37What do you, what do you look for in a partner?
33:39But then a more fun question, what's your ick that you, late in guys, it just turns you off?
33:43Um, everything.
33:48I think his personality is great, and I'm really liking it right now.
33:51I'm just really hoping that I find him physically attractive as well.
33:54You guys are gonna take your blindfolds off in five, four, three, two, one.
34:05Hi, nice to meet you.
34:07Nice to meet you too.
34:10She's cute.
34:11Deanne has beautiful eyes.
34:13I loved seeing them when she took off the blindfolds, and I feel like her physical appearance definitely
34:18matches her personality.
34:19She seems super fun and outgoing, and she's beautiful, and I'm excited to get to know her more.
34:25Deanne, do you want to tell them, like, you know, what you haven't been doing?
34:30I haven't been hooking up with people a lot.
34:33Okay.
34:35Yeah, that's cool.
34:35I don't think it's bad to not be hooking up all the time.
34:38Yeah, Conrad, how long would you be willing to wait for a person to go all the way?
34:42Ah, um, if it's the right person, I don't think you can put a timeline on it.
34:47Aw.
34:49I definitely don't think Deanne will have sex with anyone if she's not dating them seriously,
34:54but what I'll say is if someone could take Deanne's V card, Conrad is the guy that could get it done.
35:00Eyes closed, look straight.
35:03Thumb up if you are interested in the person next to you.
35:07Thumb down if you are not in three, two, one.
35:18Like, this was, like, wild.
35:21Conrad has that thing that some guys have that makes you really attracted to them,
35:25makes you really want them.
35:27Give it up for Conrad.
35:29Wow.
35:31All right.
35:33I would want to, you know, end up hooking up with him.
35:37I think it would be easier to start a sexual relationship with someone like Conrad,
35:40who is so nice.
35:41I think someone like him would probably be a great start to that.
35:51Oh, my goodness.
35:53Walking through those doors is a whole new world.
35:55Naked people, people making out.
35:58Oh, my gosh, look at that.
35:59Candyland?
36:00Candyland for adults, honey.
36:02Oh, my goodness.
36:03I am about to live my life, my best life.
36:14Girl, what's up?
36:15Are you excited?
36:16I'm excited.
36:17I am.
36:17I'm getting on this road.
36:19Jessica and I are headed out to the adults-only resort for a fun and sexy weekend,
36:25and we are ready to get the party started.
36:27I got stuff to update you on.
36:30I met a guy.
36:34Dang.
36:34Yes, and his name is William.
36:37Okay.
36:38He's handsome.
36:39Uh-huh.
36:40He's sweet and caring, and he makes me feel safe.
36:46Perfect.
36:47I really like him.
36:49Girl, I love that for you.
36:50Do you think that you could have sex with him?
36:52Um, I think, I think we're going in the right direction.
36:55Absolutely.
36:56I, absolutely.
36:57Have you talked with him about DDSM?
36:59I haven't yet, because I am more trying to build a honest connection with him.
37:06And once that connection and trust is built, I think that I will let him know my curiosity
37:13about it and see if he's, he's cool with it.
37:15Okay, so now let's, let's talk about this now.
37:18So we're on our way to this resort, right?
37:19Mm-hmm.
37:20Have you thought about inviting him?
37:23Um, I thought about it, but I'm kind of nervous.
37:25Why?
37:26Because like, we're still kind of new, and like, I don't last minute, and you know,
37:30so I don't, I wasn't sure.
37:32Okay, but wait, listen, this is the perfect opportunity.
37:35All you can do is just ask, you know?
37:38So think about it.
37:40I am feeling like, is he going to enjoy coming to see me even though we're new?
37:45And it's an adult resort, so I'm worried about if he thinks that, you know, I'm moving too fast.
37:53This weekend, I want you to literally give yourself permission to explore new things.
38:02I'm going to give myself permission to explore new things.
38:04Say it again.
38:06I'm going to give myself permission to explore new things.
38:11That's what I want for you.
38:12Yes, and we're up here, baby.
38:14I'm ready.
38:15I'm ready.
38:17I like it a lot, honey.
38:18They are not ready for us.
38:19They ain't ready, they ain't ready.
38:21Oh my goodness.
38:22We're here to have all fun and see all the things.
38:26So if you're ready to party, this is the place to be for sure.
38:28Let's go.
38:29Let's go.
38:30Ooh.
38:31Yes.
38:32Oh my gosh.
38:34We have arrived.
38:35Oh my goodness.
38:36Walking through those doors is a whole new world.
38:39A whole new world.
38:41I'm seeing people in the hot tub, naked people, people making out.
38:47Oh my gosh, look at that.
38:48Candyland.
38:49Candyland.
38:51Jesus.
38:52Oh my goodness.
38:54Candyland, a game for adults, honey.
38:56Oh my goodness.
38:58I am a 42-year-old virgin at an adult resort.
39:05And I am about to live my life, my best life.
39:08I just like, would like William to see this.
39:11You know, I too would like William to see this.
39:13So why don't you text your boo thing?
39:16Really?
39:17Yes, why not?
39:20Okay, I'll be like.
39:21Text him and just say, you know what?
39:24This is a sweet room.
39:25It'll be so much sweeter with you here.
39:27Well, is it too short notice?
39:29You think he's going to tell you?
39:30No, I don't.
39:31William coming to the resort, like, I'm nervous that he's going to think that I am
39:37really wild and crazy.
39:40But the more I'm here, the more I'm missing him.
39:44This is it.
39:44This is what you got to do.
39:46Okay.
39:47I have this sweet room and would like for you to join me.
39:56I don't know if he's going to say yes and what if he says no and I'm like, oh my God,
40:05is this really going to happen?
40:07Oh my God, he's texting back.
40:09I love it.
40:11This is sexy.
40:15I hope you like red wine.
40:16I do.
40:17I love red.
40:18Conrad is super cute.
40:20He's super nice.
40:21It's Deanne's world.
40:22I'm just living in it.
40:23I can tell Conrad does want to kiss me.
40:25Who knows?
40:25I could just have a sex life without it meaning so much more.
40:32This is going to be fun.
40:33I haven't seen a round bed before.
40:34Me neither.
40:35Look at the ceiling.
40:36Oh my, lots of mirrors.
40:39I am fantasizing what will happen, but I don't feel like I'll enjoy the weekend.
40:43If I don't tell Lauren that I'm a virgin, I have something I need to tell.
40:48The last time I told someone that I was a virgin, that didn't go well.
40:52So I'm very nervous.
40:57I'm kind of talking to someone.
41:00I like William a lot.
41:01Wait, you want to see my room?
41:03Yeah.
41:03Okay, come on.
41:04It just feels natural.
41:05Kiss me, William.
41:07It's real life.
41:09It's happening and I'm excited and scared at the same time.
41:13Oh my goodness.
41:14Welcome to the temple.
41:16I'm going to meet with a priestess healer.
41:18It's an honor to have you here.
41:20I'll try anything to be able to have sex.
41:23What we're going to do is just place this tool at the door.
41:27Oh my gosh, I didn't expect this to happen.