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00:00Don't look so nervous.
00:01It's just cold water.
00:02Previously on Virgins.
00:04This is the first time that I'm feeling
00:06some type of excitement about a guy.
00:08I like that feeling.
00:10Are you guys ready to take the plunge?
00:12I guess so.
00:12But is he going to run away when he finds out
00:15that I don't have sexual experience?
00:17Look.
00:19Here we go.
00:20I have like two voices in my head.
00:21One saying, don't do it.
00:22The other one saying, do it.
00:24I so appreciate that you want to kiss me.
00:29Getting denied a kiss, it's just confusing.
00:32I'm not sure when we're going to be able to see each other.
00:36I don't know if I want to get married because I was before.
00:40I need my person to be dominant and manhandle me.
00:44Spanking's my fetish.
00:45What?
00:46We both are into BDSM.
00:50Woo-hoo!
00:51But with Jeremy, it didn't feel as sexy as it looks in porn.
00:57If I hear the word masturbation, I cringe.
01:01I feel like it's so uncomfortable for you,
01:03the idea of touching yourself.
01:05I'm feeling annoyed by Wayne, the sex surrogate,
01:08because touching myself is just not something I want to do.
01:12I can't help it.
01:13This is who I am.
01:14We're just going back and forth.
01:15There's no solution, right?
01:16I've had enough.
01:33So the Cold Pledge event, I met Alex and, you know, I was finally in the space where I was like, okay, this could go somewhere. And I was excited about it.
01:38But later on, I did look at his Instagram.
01:40He played volleyball.
01:41Okay.
01:42Super tall.
01:43He's cute.
01:44Went to Pepperdine.
01:45Wait.
01:46Graduated in 24?
01:47Oh, gosh.
01:48Of course.
01:49Finally find one that I might want to go on a second date with and I think he's too young.
01:54As a 35-year-old woman, I do not want to tell a 24-year-old guy that I'm inexperienced in dating and sex. That, to me, is embarrassing.
02:10So, I am going to go see my matchmaker, Tammy, today.
02:14Hi.
02:15How are you?
02:16Good, good.
02:17You look beautiful.
02:18Thank you, you too.
02:19I love you in blue.
02:20I don't want to go see my matchmaker, Tammy, today.
02:23I don't want to slide back into my comfort zone of not dating at all and I think Tammy will help me with my next steps of how to move forward.
02:32What have you been up to?
02:34Oh, you know, going on some dates.
02:37There was one guy that was really cute and we clicked and then he asked me out on another date.
02:42Oh, good.
02:43And then...
02:44Oh, no, and then...
02:45I got home and I looked at his Instagram.
02:48The most recent photos were college graduation.
02:52Oh, no.
02:53How old is he?
02:54And so I looked up a little bit more and found out he's 24.
02:57Oh.
02:58I think Deanne is realizing that it's hard out there.
03:05It's hard to meet somebody.
03:07I think it takes practice to get out there and put yourself out there and you're doing all those things.
03:13As a matchmaker, I think it is a good approach to meet different people different ways.
03:20So I love that you are open-minded and doing these different ways of dating people and it makes me think of something I heard about called Updating.
03:28And it's a live dating show on stage with some comedians, which I know is...
03:35Stage!
03:36I know, I know.
03:37I know it's a little weird, but I think it could be fun and...
03:39Is there like an audience?
03:40Yeah, there's an audience watching.
03:43This is sounding completely nightmarish to me.
03:47But you are blindfolded.
03:49That sounds like a freaking dream.
03:54Some of Deanne's issues are just her not being open to the person and more going off looks.
04:02So I think being blindfolded, she doesn't see the person.
04:05She's really just kind of seeing the internal person and see if there's a chemistry or connection that way.
04:12The essence of me trying new things lately.
04:15I'm definitely open to it.
04:17I love it!
04:18I, you know, I'm trying to put myself out there in every which way.
04:21So Tammy is an expert.
04:22She's good at what she does.
04:24And I think she's good at reading people and finding out their differences.
04:28And I'm clearly a lot different than a lot of her clientele.
04:32So I think she's thinking outside the box a little bit for me.
04:34You live once.
04:35It'll be a good story to tell.
04:37So...
04:38Or you'll find the one!
04:39Probably not.
04:40But maybe!
04:41Think positive!
04:42You never know.
04:43Positive!
04:53We've been going back and forth for like two hours now.
04:55What does he want me to say?
04:56Like, just like...
04:57Trying to understand who you are and where you're coming from.
05:00And maybe give you a different perspective.
05:02I understand that Wayne's intentions are good.
05:05He wants to help me.
05:06But it's challenging.
05:08I've been this way for so long.
05:11It is hard to imagine myself in any other way.
05:17But at the same time, if I were to quit, I would wonder what could have happened.
05:24And I don't want to live in regret.
05:34So...
05:35I understand.
05:36And I want to acknowledge the frustration.
05:38I'm not trying to badger you or...
05:40I'm just trying to...
05:41Honestly, just trying to get information.
05:43I don't think you understand for an Indian woman what a big deal any sort of physical intimacy is.
05:51When I look at Sonali's upbringing, I can understand how she ended up in this space to where she is resistant to the idea of what touch could be like for her.
05:59Ultimately, I'm trying to help her change the narrative that she's created around sex, sexuality, and unaffirm some of her beliefs.
06:06I get it. I know I got a little triggered and riled up.
06:09But I do feel safer on you because otherwise I wouldn't have let you into my home.
06:13You know, I wouldn't be sitting next to you on my couch, you know, conversing like this.
06:17Yes.
06:18You are a professional.
06:19Yes.
06:20I do trust you in that capacity.
06:22But if I may ask you, if you would...
06:27If you would just...
06:28If you wouldn't mind just massaging my back, just in a professional capacity.
06:31Yes.
06:32What do you see out of that?
06:34So, um...
06:40Sonali is so in her head and so guarded.
06:43I'm trying to process what's going on right now.
06:47I need to know if this is organic.
06:49Is this something you really want to experience?
06:52Because it kind of feels abrupt.
06:55I want to make sure, like, I want to be able to give you an authentic, organic touch.
07:00Of course.
07:01Because it doesn't feel good to me to touch you and you don't actually want me to touch you.
07:04No, I did ask you.
07:05No, you are a professional.
07:06And I know you're trying to help me.
07:08It's a sincere request.
07:09Okay.
07:10Yes.
07:11What Wayne and I have been discussing, it does make me uncomfortable.
07:14I'm a little less uncomfortable, but I'm still uncomfortable.
07:18But I came here to make progress.
07:20And I do trust Wayne enough at this point to try this.
07:26So, it seems like you carry a lot of tension up in this area right here.
07:29Yeah.
07:30Well, you let me know if it's not enough or if it's too much, right?
07:33Okay.
07:34Hmm.
07:36To become really present in this space right here where we are.
07:39Hmm.
07:40Hmm.
07:41Hmm.
07:46You don't have to feel, like, unsafe.
07:48Like, you are okay here.
07:50Oh.
07:51Oh.
07:52Oh.
07:53Oh.
07:54Oh.
07:55Oh.
07:56Hey.
07:57Oh, my gosh, Ryan.
07:58If that hits that eight ball and that goes in.
07:59Go, go, go.
08:00Oh, hey.
08:01How's it going?
08:02How's it going?
08:03Yeah.
08:04I was pretty close.
08:05I said about seven minutes.
08:06What, am I late?
08:07Yeah.
08:08A little bit.
08:09No.
08:10You're late and my late's totally different.
08:12After Andrea friendzoned me, I'm trying to figure out how to get through this.
08:15You did put yourself out there.
08:16You made a connection with the other people who are in the world.
08:18I was in the world.
08:19Oh, my God.
08:20Oh, my God.
08:21Oh, my God.
08:22Oh.
08:23Oh, my God.
08:24Oh, my God.
08:25Oh, my God.
08:26Oh, my God.
08:27Oh, my God.
08:28Oh, my God.
08:29Oh, my God.
08:30Oh, my God.
08:31Oh, my God.
08:32Oh, my God.
08:33Oh.
08:34Oh, my God.
08:35You're going to go to somebody and you're going to make another connection.
08:37And you can do it again.
08:38Until you find that somebody.
08:40Now you've done that, you've already got out of your comfort zone.
08:43Keep pushing yourself.
08:44You can't get yourself down.
08:45Yeah.
08:46I feel like losing your virginity is supposed to be a connection.
08:51I want to experience that.
08:53I mean, it's not an easy thing to accomplish.
08:56So I decided to get in touch with the organizers from the Tantra Speed Dating events.
09:00Because I had more matches.
09:02There is one girl that is standing out to me above the rest.
09:06And her name is Lauren.
09:07This could be, like, a five-person family.
09:09It's not like...
09:10I think you're probably the only thing you want to sit in with.
09:13You want to join me?
09:15No, I'm a member.
09:16I'm not, like, a gentleman here.
09:17She has a very cute smile.
09:20Nice blue eyes.
09:21And just her overall presence is nice.
09:26Like, this is the first time that you're bringing any kind of woman around.
09:30Yeah.
09:31How are you feeling?
09:32Nervous.
09:33Are you?
09:34Yeah.
09:35Okay.
09:36Tell us a little bit about her.
09:37She's the same age as me.
09:38She has a daughter.
09:39Okay.
09:40What's something that, like, kind of drew you to her?
09:42Like, a woman version of me.
09:44I mean, we laugh a lot.
09:45A woman version of you.
09:47Oh.
09:48I'm really happy Alex is putting himself back out there and dating again.
09:53But I just think that he should have given himself a little bit of time to kind of...
09:56Re-evaluate.
09:57Yeah, reevaluate, like, what went wrong with Andrea.
09:59And I don't want him to make those same mistakes with Lauren now.
10:03Have you had that conversation with her about you being a virgin or no?
10:06No.
10:07Okay.
10:08The timing wasn't right for that.
10:09Not today, obviously.
10:10No.
10:11Okay, so please don't, like, have that conversation with all of us present.
10:14No.
10:15Because I feel like that's more of a...
10:16No.
10:17Dating's hard, but being a virgin is ten times harder because even if I connect with somebody,
10:23I have to find the right time to tell them.
10:26Oh.
10:27I'm just really...
10:28She just texted me.
10:29Oh, good.
10:30She's here.
10:31I don't want to be too vulnerable too quick.
10:34Kind of realize that with Andrea.
10:36And I think maybe that's kind of why I got friend-zoned.
10:39I don't want to go too fast with it.
10:42All right.
10:43I'm going to go outside and meet her real quick.
10:45How are you feeling, Alex?
10:47Nervous.
10:48For him to bring, like, her here to meet us, I think it's a really big deal because he's
10:54never done that before, Ryan.
10:55Yeah, I know.
10:56He has to be nervous.
10:57Like, this is all real.
11:05The first thing that comes to my mind is your marriage.
11:10See, I'm going to cry now.
11:12My divorce left me embarrassed with no confidence.
11:17That person who is no longer in your life is holding you hostage.
11:22And you've coupled that with pornography.
11:42I am headed to Dr. Ty's office.
11:45Since my last session, I actually put myself out there.
11:49I went to a BDSM club.
11:53Oh!
11:54Oh!
11:55Oh!
11:56I got spanked.
11:57Good girl.
11:59Woo-hoo!
12:01And I had a couple dates.
12:04But a part of me is very disappointed because I am desperately trying to find my person.
12:11And it's seeming to be harder than I thought.
12:15And I just feel shame about that.
12:17Like, you know, it makes me feel like what's wrong with me.
12:22It is the story of my life.
12:24It really, really is.
12:25And I don't understand.
12:26I don't understand.
12:28Part of me is thinking that sex and love connection will not happen for me.
12:33Tell me how things have been since we last spoke.
12:37I've been on two dates.
12:39Very nice.
12:40Um, first one started off very well.
12:43Okay.
12:44Uh, later on, he showed his ass.
12:47And then I had to dismiss him because he was being very disrespectful.
12:50How did you communicate all of that to him?
12:52I just dismissed myself.
12:53Um, had to block.
12:54So you didn't communicate with him at all?
12:57No.
12:58Then I went on a date with another guy and he cooked dinner, which was nice.
13:04Jeremy is into spanking.
13:06So we tried it out and it was very fun.
13:09What is it, um, erotically charging for you at all?
13:12Most of it was curiosity and fun, but it wasn't all there.
13:17So what made it not that for you?
13:19I guess because I'm just not, like, sexually attracted to him.
13:23I think that's what threw it off.
13:24Like, what is he missing?
13:26I feel like, you know, I'm bigger than him.
13:29And how is he going to, like, manhandle me in the bedroom?
13:34Like, I don't think that he's, like, dominant enough for me.
13:37But, Rasha, you're doing a lot of judging.
13:39You don't know what that man got.
13:41You don't know.
13:43Let me say this in this moment.
13:45You have created this unrealistic person that you feel would be the perfect person for you.
13:54Yeah.
13:55And you've coupled that with pornography.
14:00And now you're looking for that to manifest to the point that you've found a way to disqualify for Jeremy.
14:06You say he's not dominant.
14:10Rasha is looking for this person that checks all the boxes.
14:15In that, there is an unrealistic view and expectation.
14:19Both of those dates that she went on, it wasn't so much what they did or didn't do.
14:25When she's not able to check off those boxes, automatically there is the thought that they would not be able to give her what she needs.
14:35The first thing that comes to my mind is your marriage.
14:40You're holding what he did to you against people you have met and haven't even met yet.
14:46But it's not okay because someone used you to hold everybody responsible for what that person did to you.
14:54See, I'm gonna cry now.
14:57That person who is no longer in your life is holding you hostage.
15:12It was emotional.
15:15My divorce left me embarrassed.
15:19It left me with no confidence.
15:22It left me feeling ugly, unworthy, unwanted.
15:28My ex-husband still has a hold on me as far as the trauma.
15:34And I have been dismissing people too soon.
15:40Just trying to protect myself, I guess.
15:43I want you to practice increasing your intimacy, not just with partners, but also just the people that are around us.
15:53That will better help you to have intimate connection, communication with people that you're going to meet and that you're going to bring into your life.
16:02Yeah.
16:03I need to actually own my demons and take responsibility on some things I don't think correctly about.
16:11I actually have been talking to a new guy.
16:15I was definitely thinking about dismissing him because he canceled twice on me.
16:20But after talking to Dr. Ty, I am thinking about giving him another chance and just try to do better.
16:27I want you to really think about what it is you're looking for.
16:31Yeah.
16:33Because I think if you don't, you're not going to find it.
16:46L.A.
16:47Welcome to Updating.
16:50Who wants to see a makeout tonight?
16:55Okay.
16:56And who wants to see love?
16:59You're at the wrong show if you want that.
17:03The matchmaker signed me up for this Updating show.
17:08It's way outside of my comfort zone.
17:11It's not something I would ever sign myself up for.
17:13Now that I'm actually here in the green room, I'm hearing the audience.
17:17It's really loud and I'm terrified.
17:21Hello, hello.
17:22What's going on?
17:23Hi, Deanne.
17:24Nice to meet you.
17:25Brandon.
17:26Nice to meet you.
17:27Brandon.
17:28We're the hosts and creators of Updating.
17:31It's a comedy show that puts on blind dates in front of audiences.
17:34And we've been bringing love all over the world the past few years.
17:38We specialize in getting a lot of second dates happen from Updating, which is really cool.
17:42So no matter what happens on stage, there's a good chance you'll get a date after the show.
17:46I will actually bet all my money that you're going to end up with the guy tonight.
17:49You guys be nice to her though.
17:51No, we're going to be very, very nice.
17:52Yeah.
17:53I know that the comedians are going to push the limit on the questions that they ask me.
18:02Here's your blindfold.
18:03Okay.
18:04Put it on.
18:05Just put it on.
18:06And then you'll take my hand.
18:07Okay.
18:08They're there to get some type of spicy content for themselves.
18:11This is something you'll never forget the rest of your life.
18:14This is scary.
18:15Welcome.
18:16Ladies and gentlemen of Los Angeles, give it up for Deanne.
18:26This is so scary.
18:27Oh, really?
18:28Well, it's going to get scarier.
18:30She really looks nervous.
18:33I hate to see her uncomfortable, but at the same time, maybe this is what Deanne needs
18:38to just get out of that comfort zone and start having a sex life like the rest of the world.
18:44What brings you here?
18:46Why are you single?
18:47Okay.
18:48Well, I don't know.
18:49I've just been single my whole life.
18:51I've never had a boyfriend.
18:52Oh.
18:53Whoa.
18:54That just got very depressing.
18:56Oh, you.
18:57I appreciate that.
18:59I am not excited in the slightest.
19:02Being blindfolded in front of an audience gives me so much anxiety.
19:07So I'm really hopeful that they bring in a really nice, hot, attractive guy that would
19:13be a good fit for me and make it worth it.
19:16Why do you think that is?
19:17Why do you think it hasn't happened?
19:18And then, like, what are you looking for?
19:20Someone that I actually am attracted to and feel chemistry with, and I don't really
19:25want to settle.
19:26I like that.
19:27Thanks, guys.
19:28Yeah, Brandon, I was going to ask Dan something.
19:32When was the last time you had a hookup?
19:35Yeah.
19:36Probably, like, 2017.
19:42I know, guys.
19:45I know.
19:46What happened the last time you were with someone?
19:48Like, was...
19:49I'm really just kissing that last time.
19:52Oh, so it wasn't even, uh...
19:54No, it wasn't sex.
19:55It was just kissing.
19:57So I don't really tell people about my lack of sexual experience.
20:01Now I'm up on this stage in front of hundreds of people, and I'm instantly feeling like the
20:07situation's my worst nightmare.
20:09Oh, so have you ever...
20:11Uh, I need to leave this stage right now.
20:16No.
20:17How old are you?
20:2035.
20:21Would you like a drink?
20:23Wine.
20:24Wine.
20:25Please.
20:26I'm really a laker, and I am getting nervous that I might mess it up.
20:31Red, white, like, you gotta ask.
20:33Wait, what type of wine?
20:35I mean, there's question to answer.
20:37Alex has zero gain.
20:38Yeah.
20:39Uh, let's be real.
20:46Oh.
20:47I'm just really...
20:48She just texted me.
20:49Oh, good.
20:50Hey.
20:51Hi.
20:52How's it going?
20:53How are you?
20:54Good, how are you?
20:55It's good to see you.
20:56Oh, good to see you too.
20:57All right.
20:58You're gonna walk inside, right?
20:59Yeah.
21:00It's freezing.
21:01Yeah.
21:02Hello.
21:03Hi.
21:04This is Lauren.
21:05Hi, Lauren.
21:06Hi.
21:07This is Ryan.
21:08Hi, Lauren.
21:09Nice to meet you.
21:10Hi, Lauren.
21:11Nice to meet you.
21:12Hi, I'm Courtney.
21:13Nice to meet you.
21:14Hi.
21:15Hi, Samantha.
21:16Nice to meet you.
21:17Nice to meet you.
21:18Take your bag and...
21:19Yeah.
21:21I think Lauren's beautiful.
21:22Um, to be honest, I don't know that she's somebody that I would have seen Alex go for,
21:25but I'm really glad to see Alex step out of his comfort zone a little bit.
21:29Do you, uh, would you like a drink?
21:31Yes.
21:32This one's yours.
21:33Oh.
21:34What would you like?
21:35Wine.
21:36Wine.
21:37Please.
21:38I'll get you a wine.
21:40Oh, uh, wait.
21:41What type of wine?
21:42That's...
21:43I mean, that's question to answer.
21:45You're just going...
21:46I know, like, Ryan Whitey.
21:47Like, you gotta ask.
21:48Chardonnay.
21:49Chardonnay.
21:50All right.
21:52Yeah.
21:53Let's be real.
21:54Watching it is kind of entertaining.
21:56It's kind of cringy, too, though, because I just want...
21:59I feel bad for him.
22:00I think he's a little nervous.
22:02Okay.
22:03I think he's a little nervous.
22:04Are you?
22:05Oh, don't be nervous.
22:06Don't be nervous.
22:07Sorry.
22:08My first date with Alex went really well.
22:10I think that he's really funny.
22:12We have a good banter back and forth, and humor is something that I look for in a partner.
22:16I am surprised that he's having me meet his sisters on our second date.
22:21I know that family means a lot to him.
22:23Family means a lot to me, as well.
22:25I think his sisters are, like, his best friends.
22:27But, um, it's still nerve-wracking to walk into all of that and just...
22:31And try to be myself, I guess.
22:32What is your title again?
22:34IT Compliance Analyst.
22:37Huh.
22:38Thanks.
22:39You smart.
22:40S-M-R-P.
22:42Smirt.
22:43It's weird going from never dating to kind of starting to.
22:52And knowing that I'm one step closer to me losing my virginity, it's surreal to me.
22:58Bottom right.
22:59Bottom right.
23:00Right next to where he was.
23:01Yeah, I see now.
23:02Oh!
23:03All right.
23:04Way to come back.
23:06Way to come back.
23:07Oh, yeah.
23:08I don't want to get ahead of myself.
23:10But in this moment, I feel like things are going good.
23:14Lauren, it was so nice for me.
23:15Yes.
23:16I'm a hugger.
23:17I'm a hugger.
23:18So...
23:19Lauren seems to be a good fit for Alex.
23:21Um, they seem like they have some things in common, which is nice.
23:24Alex needs to just pump the brakes a little bit and not put so much pressure on it because
23:27he is a good catch.
23:30Yep.
23:31I am feeling excited.
23:33I'm feeling happy.
23:34I'm feeling nervous.
23:35Your sisters were really nice.
23:36You have to tell them that.
23:37I will.
23:38They were very welcoming.
23:39I will.
23:40I'm just really shocked that she's into me because I didn't think I was going to get
23:45this far.
23:46Okay.
23:47Thank you so much.
23:48No problem.
23:49All right.
23:50We'll do it again.
23:51All right.
23:52All right.
23:53I'll let you in.
23:54Oh, thank you.
23:55Yeah, no problem.
23:56Lauren is the complete package.
23:57She is perfect.
23:58And I want to show her that I'm serious about taking things to the next level.
24:01And in my perfect scenario, I can ultimately see myself losing my virginity to her.
24:16Definitely going to bring this one.
24:18That's cute.
24:19Looks amazing.
24:20When Dr. Tai told me I need to work on intimacy, I think it's beyond sexual.
24:27I think it's about just opening up to being my real authentic self with anybody around
24:32me.
24:33Yeah.
24:34This is going to be cute.
24:35I love it.
24:36Really cute.
24:37I've been talking to my friend Jessica about my sexual situation and she knows I'm a virgin.
24:42She's my spicy friend.
24:44She's very knowledgeable about sex.
24:46Hey.
24:47Let me bring that.
24:50She's been asking me to go to this adult resort.
24:55And I said, yes.
24:57It may be a little bit advanced for me, but I'm open to learning and seeing things.
25:04Just being intimate with people in general and letting people in.
25:07I'm going to bring this as well because why not?
25:11I'm going to be in this pool heavy.
25:13I also did decide to contact this new guy, William, and we went out a couple times already.
25:22I just got finished my date and it was really, really good.
25:32It was really, really good.
25:34Even though you and William were talking, you're still going to the resort.
25:38It's really new, so it's no label on it yet.
25:42He hasn't asked me anything about being exclusive.
25:45Does he know you're a virgin?
25:47And what do you think?
25:48He's cool with it.
25:49On your date, did you think about kissing him?
25:51I kissed him on the cheek.
25:53We gave each other a hug when we were leaving and I kissed him on the cheek.
25:57Yeah.
26:02What's that?
26:03Jessica.
26:04I mean, this looks cool.
26:06Don't worry about it.
26:07Listen, listen, listen, listen, listen.
26:09Mom.
26:10Jessica.
26:11Can you come here and listen to what your child is talking about?
26:15Okay.
26:16So I told my mom and sister that I'm going to a resort, but I didn't tell them what kind
26:20of resort I'm going to.
26:22I am just preparing myself for the shenanigans that come with telling Iris and Jessica.
26:28I'm going to show you all these outfits.
26:29Okay.
26:30This is one of my favorite ones.
26:32This is my...
26:33Lord, you're going to have something over that.
26:34Lingerie.
26:35No, this is like lingerie pajamas.
26:36Like, you know what I'm saying?
26:37Sleepwear.
26:38Like...
26:39Sleepwear?
26:40There ain't nothing.
26:41Where would you wear the lingerie at though?
26:42It might...
26:43It could be by myself in my room.
26:44You might as well not wear nothing.
26:46It's about seduction.
26:47It's about seduction.
26:48Who are you seducting?
26:49I mean, just...
26:50I mean, even yourself.
26:51You know, just feeling sexy.
26:53The resort I'm going to, it has a pool, so I got my bathing suit.
26:57What?
26:58What is that?
26:59What is that?
27:00What is that?
27:01Listen.
27:02I'm grown.
27:03Yeah, you're grown.
27:04This is stuff that you would not normally wear.
27:06You don't have anything like in no jeans or anything like that.
27:12It's an adult resort.
27:17Where you can be free.
27:19You can be free.
27:20And explore yourself.
27:22Is it just like maybe a nudist?
27:25It's not nudist, but you can be.
27:28What I think happens at adult resorts is everybody's just like screwing everybody.
27:33Like every turn you take and they're like all meshed into one big monster.
27:37And like you got arms and legs hanging out like and eyeballs everywhere.
27:40Like all kinds of body anatomy like everywhere.
27:43I could be wrong, but that's what I feel that I may see and experience.
27:50You're not going to do that.
27:54I mean, well, I mean, she grown.
27:56Yeah, I know she is.
27:57I know she is.
27:58I mean, she grown.
27:59But dang.
28:00You know.
28:01Why have you got to do this experience?
28:03Well, she's a grown woman and hasn't experienced anything as far as like sexual.
28:07You know, you can't...
28:08Well, I haven't either.
28:09Okay, but you still married and you got kids.
28:11So you've had that experience.
28:13Okay.
28:14Rasha going to say a bunch of ass and titties.
28:17That's on her.
28:18Because I...
28:19That's what she want to say, you know.
28:24Jazz.
28:25I just hope she got her shots.
28:28I mean, I'm a boost you.
28:30Because you grown.
28:31Right.
28:32You do whatever you want to do.
28:33I understand the concerns, but I need to be open in the moment.
28:39And I'm still going to do what I do because I'm grown.
28:44I got gray hairs on my vagina.
28:45I'm grown.
28:47I'm grown.
28:48I'm grown.
28:49I'm just going to explore and have a good time and see that there's no expectations at all.
28:53I'm just going there and experience my sexuality.
28:56What is you?
28:57What sexuality?
28:58What sexuality?
29:00Jessica, I have sexuality, okay?
29:14Oh.
29:17What does it feel like for you?
29:19It is pleasurable.
29:21And it doesn't...
29:22It has nothing to do with the physical act of sex.
29:25This is a pleasurable act, right?
29:26Right, yeah.
29:27And it's intimate, right?
29:29This is very...
29:30This is pretty intimate, right?
29:31Right.
29:36Getting touched by a man who I don't know very well, that is not something I'm comfortable with at all.
29:41Even when I go for a massage, I request a female masseuse.
29:44So for me to allow him to do this to me is a huge deal.
29:48Is this...
29:49That feels nice.
29:54I'm going to apply a little bit more pressure, so stay right here.
29:56I'm just standing up to get more leverage.
29:58Oh.
30:02What does that feel like?
30:03Amazing.
30:04Oh.
30:06I am in an absolute daze.
30:08I feel very comfortable and safe.
30:10The pleasurable sensations that I'm feeling, it gives me some hope that maybe one day, hopefully soon, I'd be able to enjoy sexual pleasure.
30:19And I think broadening our perspective and understanding of what intimacy is, is helpful.
30:26Right.
30:27You know, because we just associate sex with intimacy. Intimacy is so many other things.
30:33I feel I have experienced a breakthrough with Wayne.
30:37I do feel closer to him.
30:39I wish I could have that done to me every hour.
30:42Can I do something really quick? Can I hold your hands real quick?
30:44Because I want to say something to you.
30:45Since we've been working together, it's my first time seeing you, like, your guard down and just being able to receive.
30:50I hope for you that you are able to allow yourself to be open to trying new things.
30:59I feel positive for you.
31:00You feel optimistic?
31:01Yes. Optimistic for sure.
31:03I must say, I am really proud of myself right now.
31:06I feel stronger, more brave when it comes to pleasure and touch.
31:11And I think that having a more open mind will allow me to overcome my physical barrier and experience physical intimacy with a man.
31:21I know this may be a big thanks for you, but can I have a hug?
31:24Sure.
31:25Yes.
31:26Thank you, Wayne.
31:34Oh, so have you ever...
31:36Uh...
31:39No.
31:40I mean, look, Deanne, you came to a show.
31:44Uh, we, a lot of people have come out of this with their partner.
31:47Uh, so...
31:48How many?
31:49Uh, uh, uh...
31:50More times than you've had sex.
31:55I think Deanne being a 35-year-old virgin is definitely, like, not a lifestyle I recommend to most people.
32:01What did I get myself into?
32:03This is someone who could be sexually active, and I'm sure a lot of guys pursue her, but she's choosing not to.
32:08It's very interesting.
32:09Do I think she's gonna leave the show tonight and be humping someone?
32:13Probably not, but I do think that we're gonna bring her closer to losing her virginity than anything else.
32:18So, Deanne, you're about to meet your boyfriend.
32:22Guys, give it up for Conrad!
32:25What is going on?
32:28Uh, Deanne, this is Conrad. Um, and Conrad, um...
32:32Hi, Deanne.
32:33Hi, Conrad.
32:34Hi.
32:35Right off the bat, try to just win Deanne over right now.
32:39One, two, three.
32:40Hi, Deanne.
32:41I'm emotionally available.
32:42Oh, yeah.
32:44Oh, my...
32:46God!
32:47Who is he?
32:48I just moved to LA from New York, and, uh, I'm pretty independent and happy, and I'm just looking for someone to kind of share life with, and, uh, just want to find someone who helps, you know, make my life better, and I can make their life better.
33:02Oh, I like that.
33:03Yeah.
33:04So, Deanne, what question do you have?
33:05Okay, this is a question the crowd's not gonna like, but I want kids in my future.
33:11The police are here. We don't give a .
33:15A guy that I seriously date has to want kids.
33:17Well, I do want kids. Um, would love to have four. One of my brothers is adopted, so would love to have three biological and one adopted kids someday.
33:24Oh.
33:25Yo, this guy is literally God.
33:27These comedians have ridiculous questions, they have a ridiculous method, but I do think that they found a good one in Conrad.
33:36What do you, what do you look for in a partner, but then a more fun question, what's your ick that you, late in guys, that just turns you off?
33:42Um, everything.
33:47I think his personality is great, and I'm really liking it right now. I'm just really hoping that I find him physically attractive as well.
33:54You guys are gonna take your blindfolds off in five, four, three, two, one.
34:05Hi.
34:06Nice to meet you.
34:07Nice to meet you, too.
34:09She's cute.
34:10Deanne has beautiful eyes. I loved seeing them when she took off the blindfold, and I feel like her physical appearance definitely matches her personality. She seems super fun and outgoing, and she's beautiful, and I'm excited to get to know her more.
34:24Deanne, do you want to tell them, like, you know, what you haven't been doing?
34:29I haven't been hooking up with people a lot.
34:33Okay.
34:35I don't think it's bad to not be hooking up all the time.
34:37Yeah, Conrad, how long would you be willing to wait for a person to go all the way?
34:42If it's the right person, I don't think you can put a timeline on it.
34:47Aww.
34:49I definitely don't think Deanne will have sex with anyone if she's not dating them seriously, but what I'll say is, if someone could take Deanne's V card, Conrad is the guy that could get it done.
34:59Eyes closed, look straight.
35:03Thumb up if you are interested in the person next to you. Thumb down if you are not. In, three, two, one.
35:14Oh!
35:18Like, this was, like, wild.
35:21Conrad has that thing that some guys have that makes you really attracted to them, that makes you really want them.
35:26Give it up for Conrad.
35:29Wow!
35:31All right.
35:33I would want to, you know, end up hooking up with him.
35:37I think it would be easier to start a sexual relationship with someone like Conrad, who is so nice.
35:41I think someone like him would probably be a great start to that.
35:47Oh, yeah!
35:50Oh, my goodness!
35:52Walking through those doors is a whole new world.
35:54Naked people, people making out.
35:57Oh, my gosh! Look at that!
35:59Candyland!
36:00Candyland!
36:01For adults, honey!
36:02Oh, my goodness!
36:03I am about to live my life.
36:04My best life.
36:13Girl, what's up? Are you excited?
36:15I'm excited!
36:16Oh, oh!
36:17Let's get on this road!
36:18Jessica and I are headed out to the adults-only resort for a fun and sexy weekend, and we are ready to get the party started.
36:27I got stuff to, uh, update you on.
36:30I met a guy.
36:32Oh!
36:34Dang!
36:35Yes.
36:36And his name is William.
36:37Okay.
36:38He's handsome.
36:39Uh-huh.
36:40He's sweet and caring.
36:43Okay.
36:44And he makes me feel safe.
36:46Perfect.
36:47I really like him.
36:48Girl, I love that for you.
36:50Do you think that you could have sex with him?
36:52Um, I think- I think we're going in the right direction.
36:55Absolutely.
36:56I- absolutely.
36:57Have you talked with him about DDSM?
37:00I haven't yet because I am more trying to build a honest connection with him.
37:06And once that connection, um, and trust is built, I think that I will let him know my curiosity about it and see if he's- he's cool with it.
37:16Okay, so now let's- let's talk about this now. So we're on our way to this resort, right?
37:19Mm-hmm.
37:20Have you thought about inviting him?
37:22Um, I thought about it, but I'm kind of nervous.
37:25Why?
37:26Because, like, we're still kind of new and, like, I don't last minute and, you know, so I don't- I wasn't sure.
37:31Okay, but wait. Listen. This is the perfect opportunity. All you can do is just ask. You know? So think about it.
37:40I am feeling like, is he gonna enjoy coming to see me even though we're new?
37:45And it's an adult resort. So I'm worried about if he thinks that, you know, I'm moving too fast.
37:53This weekend, I want you to literally give yourself permission to explore new things.
38:01New things.
38:02I'm gonna give myself permission to explore new things.
38:05Say it again.
38:06I'm gonna give myself permission to explore new things.
38:10Thanks. That's what I want for you.
38:11Yes.
38:12Yes.
38:13And we're up here.
38:14Baby.
38:15I'm ready.
38:16I'm ready.
38:17I like it a lot, honey. They are not ready for us.
38:20They ain't ready. They ain't ready.
38:21Oh, my goodness.
38:22We're here to have all fun and see all the things.
38:25So if you're ready to party, this is the place to be for sure.
38:28Let's go.
38:29Let's go.
38:30Ooh.
38:31Yes.
38:32Oh, my gosh.
38:33Oh, my goodness.
38:34We have arrived.
38:35Oh, my goodness.
38:36Walking through those doors is a whole new world.
38:39A whole new world.
38:41I'm seeing people in the hot tub, naked people, people making out.
38:46Oh, my gosh. Look at that.
38:48Candyland.
38:49Candyland.
38:50Jesus.
38:51Oh, my goodness.
38:53Candyland, a game for adults, honey.
38:56Oh, my goodness.
38:57I am a 42-year-old virgin at an adult resort.
39:01Ooh.
39:02And I am about to live my life, my best life.
39:07I just would like William to see this.
39:10You know, I, too, would like William to see this.
39:13So why don't you text your boo thing?
39:16Really?
39:17Yes.
39:18Why not?
39:19Okay.
39:20I mean, like...
39:21Yeah, you just text him and just say, you know what?
39:23This is a sweet room.
39:25It'll be so much sweeter with you here.
39:27Well, is it too short notice?
39:29You think he's gonna tell you?
39:30No, I don't.
39:31William coming to the resort, like, I'm nervous that he's going to think that I am really wild and crazy.
39:39But the more I'm here, the more I'm missing him.
39:43This is it.
39:44This is what you gotta do.
39:46Okay.
39:47I have this sweet room and would like for you to join me.
39:56Yes.
39:57Yes.
39:58Since?
39:59I don't know if he's gonna say yes and what if he says no and I'm like, oh my God, is this really gonna happen?
40:07Oh my God, he's texting back.
40:09I love it.
40:10This is sexy.
40:12I hope you like red wine.
40:15I do.
40:16I love red.
40:17Conrad is super cute.
40:19He's super nice.
40:20It's Deanne's world.
40:21I'm just living in it.
40:22I can tell Conrad does want to kiss me.
40:24Who knows?
40:25I could just have a sex life without it needing so much more.
40:31This is gonna be fun.
40:32I haven't seen a round bed before.
40:34Me neither.
40:35Look at the ceiling.
40:36Oh my.
40:37Lots of mirrors.
40:38I am fantasizing what will happen, but I don't feel like I'll enjoy the weekend.
40:43If I don't tell Lauren that I'm a virgin, I have something I need to tell you.
40:47The last time I told someone that I was a virgin, that didn't go well.
40:51So I'm very nervous.
40:56I'm kind of talking to someone.
40:58Oh.
40:59Okay.
41:00I like William a lot.
41:01But you wanna see my room?
41:02Yeah.
41:03Okay, come on.
41:04It just feels natural.
41:05Kiss me, William.
41:06It's real life.
41:08It's happening.
41:09And I'm excited and scared at the same time.
41:12Oh my goodness.
41:14Welcome to the temple.
41:15I'm going to meet with a priestess healer.
41:18It's an honor to have you here.
41:20I'll try anything to be able to have sex.
41:23What we're gonna do is just place this tool at the door.
41:26Oh my gosh.
41:27I didn't expect this to happen.
41:29I'll try anything.
41:30Yeah.
41:31See ya.
41:32Bye for now.
41:33Bye for now.
41:34Bye.
41:35Uh-bye.
41:36Bye, conan.
41:38Bye bye.
41:39Bye.
41:40Bye bye.
41:42Bye bye.
41:43Bye bye.
41:45Vاء man.
41:46Bye bye.
41:48Bye bye.
41:49Bye bye.
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