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LINDSEY is a teen mum, she had her first child at just 15 and a year later fell pregnant with her second, aged 16. She supports herself and her kids working as a carer having recently graduated from high school. Lindsey got together with her boyfriend Clyston when she was 16. They've now been together (on and off) for 2 years and have a one year old son - Clyston took on her elder child as his own. 4 months into the relationship Lindsey found out she was pregnant, they had been trying for a baby and were happy at first but when Lindsey was in the early stages of her pregnancy she ended the relationship, she said that Clyston wasn't acting right and soon after he got sent to jail. During this time the couple managed to rekindle their relationship whilst Clyston was in a jail cell. He told Lindsey he had learnt from his mistakes and wanted to be there for her and the baby. After 4 weeks inside Clyston was released hoping to be sent to rehab to overcome his demons but as he had outstanding warrants he was arrested again and sent back to jail. Lindsey was 3 months pregnant at this time. Lindsey says she has bought Clyston clothes, never missed a call, or a court date, she has always written to him and been there for him throughout his time in jail and now prison, all whilst caring for two young children and holding down a job at only age 18. Although Lindsey has faced judgement and criticism she wants to tell her story and represent the often ignored prison wife community.

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00:00I became a prison wife right after graduating high school. I'm a teen mom
00:03with a husband in prison. Dear Lindsay, happy Valentine's Day baby. You gave me
00:08the greatest blessing by having my son and I thank you for that. And...
00:16So how do you know that Clisten's going to stay out of prison once he gets out?
00:21He's shown me his growth. So you believe that? When I had my first kid I was
00:2915 and when me and Clisten had our son I was 16 and he was 19. They'll say you
00:38ruined your life, you ruined your body, kids shouldn't be having kids, which is
00:42not true because we're obviously not kids if we can have kids. In the older
00:47generation they act like they raised us so good but really they didn't like we
00:51shouldn't be having kids. Like y'all shouldn't have been having kids. That's my
00:55opinion about it. I go to work, I make my money, and I provide them with everything
01:01they need to live. I strive for them to have a better childhood than I had. I'm
01:0618 and Clisten is 21. When he was home everything was you know great but without
01:13him it's more difficult. When they sentenced him I cried because I knew that we were
01:21only in the beginning and had a long way to go. They sentenced him to three years a year
01:27and a half ago. I keep him up to date with our kids lives by sending him text
01:33messages and when he calls me I'll talk about them what they're doing just to
01:39like let him know that they're okay. I never imagined myself being with someone who
01:45was in prison but I did have a feeling like it could have happened because I've
01:51always been attracted to the mean ones. So how I met Clisten was um I was dating a
02:01guy he was friends with at the time and my ex-boyfriend I had caught him like
02:09cheating on me and then basically it took it back at him I got with his best
02:15friend and we didn't start dating until I turned 16.
02:21Clisten is really calm and very laid-back but when he's around me he's goofy he's
02:28not really like he's not a bad guy. He has been away for a year and a half he's got
02:34two months until he sees the parole board and he should be coming home. He
02:39says that when he comes home we are going to you get married. I've written
02:45him a letter every day since he's been gone. I always like put on here that like
02:50you know I can't wait for you to come home and I know you're not gonna be there
02:53very long like you got this. Some people will say like I would have just left him
02:59or like you should just leave him it's not worth it like why would you wait on
03:03someone he's mainly worried about me finding someone else while he's in
03:09prison and I tell him every day like that's not going to happen it didn't you
03:14know never did so he always at the end of when he's writing me a letter he'll
03:20always say like love you to the moon and back and this bear it was my first when
03:26we first got together the first Valentine's Day that we spent with each
03:29other he got me the spare it says love you to the moon and back. This one is
03:34one from the prison. Dear Lindsay happy Valentine's Day baby I want you to know
03:38you mean the world to me I love you with every bone in my body my world begins and
03:42ends with you you gave me the greatest blessing by having my son and I thank you
03:46for that. It's my fault you're going through the pain of this I'm really sorry
03:51about all this baby and I had to skip some but I love you Lindsay more than
04:02anything I want you to know you are more than enough for me and that you are all
04:05I will ever need from this life to the next good night I love you and I miss you
04:09so much I love you to the moon and back baby girl PS I can't wait to get home and
04:15we can't read that one I posted this video to share like our last moment
04:21together before he left it just like went big like overnight and then I
04:27started getting like people hating and I'm like what is the reason for this
04:31someone said your boyfriend has been playing you stay faithful I have been
04:37faithful I have stayed faithful like even though we may have had our ups and
04:41downs we've always been loyal to each other and we can always count on each
04:44other like most of the judgment comes from social media like you're too pretty
04:48to be in a relationship like that like he can't be a good dad from prison I
04:54basically just tell him the off like most of the people who hate on people who are
05:01doing so much better than them are just jealous who's gonna say something like
05:04that to your face and get away with it no one so we have asked the audience to
05:10send in some questions and can you please answer some yes are you sure
05:14you're the only one keeping him happy entertained from the outside yes I'm
05:18positive he doesn't put up with cheating I don't put up with cheating how do you
05:23make the relationship work well it's not that hard when you love someone to make it
05:29work you just be loyal to each other communicate with each other and let each
05:35other know that you're there for them and you're gonna be there when they come
05:39out how do you feel when it's late at night and there's no one to cuddle with I
05:44don't focus everything on just like physical connection it's all about what
05:49you have emotionally I've gotten so much worse comments than this like if this
05:54was my comment section I'd be happy my brother Dallas and Anna are coming over
05:59today and I'm interested to hear what they have to say about my relationship I'm
06:06pretty positive they're going to have nothing but kindness to say about him
06:12when Lindsay first told me that Klisten was going to prison I was pretty sad
06:18actually I was disappointed I lost hope for her moving forward going into
06:24motherhood again alone I like was worried for her I feel like Lindsay is giving a
06:30lot I know how hard it can be I thought that without him being present that she
06:35would go down a completely different path that I didn't want to see for my
06:38little sister so how do you know that Klisten's going to stay out of prison once
06:43he gets out he's shown me his growth yeah and he means what he says like he
06:52really means it so you believe that yes how are you doing it like being like a
06:59single mom with two kids and like you're all alone I just do it I mean I've coped
07:06with so many more things that are so much worse than this it's not hard to stay
07:13loyal and do what you're supposed to do until he comes back home mm-hmm well I
07:19know you know while he's been in there like a lot of people tell him like
07:23infidelity is like a big issue with a lot of the inmates that they deal with and
07:28like their relationships and like how have y'all kind of like dealt with that
07:34like fear that you know something could happen I tell him you've just got to have
07:42faith in me like you've just got to like trust me so that when you get out like
07:48you can see like you can see how everything is and you can be aware that I
07:55did not cross a line or boundary yeah so like one thing I'm curious about is
08:01with you doing all of this for him how are you not going to be resentful because
08:07you have given and given and given and forgiven I did all of this because I
08:11loved him not because I wanted to hang it over his head and it's like even if
08:17things did go south like I'm never gonna be able to change him so there's no point
08:23in being resentful because it's not going to get you anywhere you think it
08:27also helps to like y'all are together he's the father for a child like you
08:31want to see him do good yeah like even if even if we weren't on good terms or
08:36whatever I'm doing all of this for my family I want him to be in my family like I
08:43want it to be us I'm ready like this is the person I love you love you good luck
08:49thank you all right so it's good to see you you too love you love you there's
08:55nothing that Dallas and Anna could say that would ever change my mind it's me
08:59and Coliston against the world against family against friends I want to stand
09:05by him because we've been together we've been in love for so long we have a son
09:11together working things out with him is so much more worth it than starting over
09:16with someone I don't even know or never even met if I wanted to say something
09:21to Coliston right now I would tell him that I love him and that everything is
09:28going to be okay and I hope he is okay because I don't know what's going on in
09:33there right now I hope he's safe and I hope he knows that I'm here every step of
09:39the way and like I'm not going anywhere and no one can change that
09:46you

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