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00:00How are you feeling?
00:05Anxious. It's just the unknown, isn't it?
00:08It is.
00:10En route to the unique retreat today are married couple Jamie and Charmaine from Essex.
00:16I do put you in some situations, don't I?
00:21Jamie is very laid back. That's like the first thing that comes to mind when I think of Jamie.
00:27I would describe myself as quiet, private.
00:31In the past I've spoke for you a lot, haven't I?
00:34Yeah.
00:35I'm very chaotic.
00:37The couple have been together for eight years and have three children.
00:42Two from Charmaine's previous relationship and one together.
00:46Our lives are very mundane.
00:48Just a normal family, just trying to get by.
00:51Very unsuspecting to do something like this.
00:54Charmaine believes that opening up their relationship will make up for lost time.
01:01When I was 18 I was raising children so I never had that sort of rebellious teenage stage.
01:09You know, drinking, partying and neither of us have been with lots of previous sexual partners even now.
01:17Me and Jamie, we don't go out socialising loads.
01:21So, the social aspect of opening up is just as appealing for us as like the sexual aspect.
01:27No going back now.
01:29If you're secure in your relationship, that opening up can be a great thing.
01:36It has an element of honesty about what it is you desire.
01:39I just feel like we're not meant to be with one person our whole lives.
01:42I feel like we're, why would we limit ourselves to one person if we can experience all of these different things together?
01:49How are you feeling?
01:51I'm nervous to meet new people but I think it will be a good thing for us.
01:57Just got to go with it.
02:00I am a little bit worried that this experience might cause a lot of conflict if it was to go wrong.
02:06You know, it's not just us to think about, it's all of the children.
02:11You're not riding on this then?
02:12Yeah, there is a lot.
02:14There's a lot at stake.
02:16It's not something we've taken lightly.
02:18I feel like we're walking into a lion's den to be honest.
02:22I'm anxious of the unknown and the fact that if we do end up opening up, I don't know how I'm going to feel in that moment.
02:30Sort of doing this is very out of character for me.
02:35This is it.
02:36What are we doing?
02:41Oh my God, they're so cute.
02:43Welcome.
02:44Hiya.
02:45I know couples coming to the retreat are going to be extremely nervous.
02:50What are we getting ourselves into?
02:52Okay.
02:53My advice is to rip that bandaid off and just do it.
02:56Hi.
02:57Hello, guys.
02:58Hi, I'm Gem.
02:59Welcome to the house.
03:00Can't wait to get to know them.
03:02Yeah, I think there's definitely an initial sexual attraction there for us.
03:06Yeah, for sure.
03:07Hello, gorgeous.
03:08Welcome.
03:09So we're looking forward to seeing where we can take things.
03:12Lily.
03:13I'm Charmaine.
03:14Charmaine, nice to meet you.
03:15Charmaine and Jamie are super hot.
03:17They seem really friendly and nice.
03:18Excited to be here.
03:19I'm a bit nervous.
03:20We're nervous.
03:21We're definitely nervous, but we are excited.
03:23Everyone here is super lovely, so.
03:25Jamie did seem a little bit apprehensive, maybe a little bit of nerves there.
03:29What do you think?
03:30Yeah.
03:31It seems a bit of you, isn't it?
03:32Yeah, they're both really fit.
03:33Everyone's like, oh.
03:34Book the order room for tonight, please.
03:39I don't think we expected to be greeted by so many people, but I think it was very daunting
03:43sort of walking into that situation, because it's the unknown and everybody's so confident.
03:52God.
03:53I love you.
03:54I love you, too.
03:59Are you okay?
04:00I can feel you.
04:07On hand, to help Charmaine and Jamie navigate opening up their relationship, is non-monogamy
04:13coach Effie Blue.
04:14Hello.
04:15Welcome.
04:16Welcome.
04:17I'm Effie.
04:18Nice to meet you.
04:19You, too.
04:20Come in, come in.
04:25Take a seat on the couch.
04:26Make yourselves comfortable.
04:30What brings you here today?
04:32I think opening up has been something that we've spoken about for about five years, maybe
04:37now.
04:38Four or five years, at least.
04:40So is variety something that kind of excites you?
04:45Neither of us have had much, like many sexual partners in the past. I've only slept with
04:51three people.
04:52Okay.
04:53Whose idea was opening up?
04:55It was mine.
04:56Okay.
04:57It was mine.
04:58I'm just the bad influence.
04:59Okay.
05:00How did you throw it on?
05:01I think that I said, like, I'd like to see him with another woman.
05:04Okay.
05:05At first I was a bit like, okay, I wasn't expecting this.
05:12And the more I thought about it, I sort of thought, perhaps if we are going to open up,
05:16the safest route would be to do it together.
05:18Okay.
05:19Another couple.
05:20Okay.
05:21What do you think is going to be the biggest hurdle for you?
05:24I think for me, maybe the fear of rejection a little bit.
05:30I have quite a few insecurities. I've had my children very young, so obviously, you know,
05:36my body has changed a lot. So, like, the idea of approaching people and being rejected,
05:43that makes me nervous.
05:45Everybody is afraid of being rejected, especially in the non-monogamy world.
05:49And more often than not, no one's really rejecting the person.
05:53It's just about what they want and what they're looking for doesn't align with what you're
05:58looking for.
05:59Does that make sense?
06:00Yeah, that makes sense.
06:02For you, Jamie?
06:03What do you think is going to be the biggest hurdle for you?
06:05I feel like the social aspect of it will be the biggest barrier.
06:09I feel like I can, you can probably see it now, I talk over Jamie a lot.
06:13I feel like I lead the conversations.
06:15Do you feel that?
06:16Do you have awareness of that?
06:18Yes, sometimes I'm grateful for it as well.
06:21Sometimes I think it takes the pressure off.
06:26I can sort of hide behind her, I guess.
06:29Yeah, yeah, for sure, yeah.
06:30Do you feel seen?
06:32I try and hide, I try to be unseen.
06:34Tell me why you want to be unseen.
06:36Erm, I'm guessing, erm, it feels, erm, safer.
06:45Yeah.
06:46OK.
06:47I, erm, I spend a lot of time questioning what people's intentions actually are.
07:00You can imagine that makes connecting really hard.
07:03It can do, yeah.
07:04Yeah.
07:05Yeah.
07:08Why do you want to take this, like, massive leap into non-monogamy, which is going to challenge
07:15all these things that you're struggling with?
07:17We go backwards and forwards, don't we?
07:19Like, is it something we really, really want?
07:21Sure.
07:22It's a big decision.
07:23Or is it something that is just a fantasy?
07:25Mm.
07:26Tonight, there's going to be a social, because we like to party around here.
07:32I want to challenge you, because this is what this is about.
07:35When you meet somebody, when you're a social circle, the whisper in the back of your head
07:39is saying, this person has the potential to hurt me.
07:42Can we change that whisper to you?
07:44I want to get to know this person.
07:46What are they passionate about?
07:48Does that make sense?
07:49I feel like that's given me a lot to work with.
07:52Right.
07:53Right.
07:54And then, hopefully, you would have connected with a couple that might join you this evening.
08:01No pressure.
08:02Okay.
08:04Thank you for sharing.
08:11Oh, wow.
08:13Oh, my goodness.
08:14Oh, my goodness.
08:16Yes, I pray.
08:17Jamie has deep shyness and mistrust.
08:20And I am worried that that might get in the way of him making the connections.
08:24I'm hoping that he won't shut down.
08:26I thought you just needed on a lot more.
08:28You know me.
08:29I don't get emotional in front of people.
08:32Apart from you, who gets the absolute brunt of it.
08:35I do feel that because I was the one that sort of instigated the conversation about opening
08:42up with Jamie, I feel like I'm the more eager of the two.
08:47And I think I'm a little bit worried that Jamie's sort of confidence or insecurities,
08:55if you will, will sort of hold me back.
08:59I think the biggest hurdle for us will be...
09:02Me trusting people.
09:04Try not to analyse into how you're feeling too much.
09:09Obviously, I'm going to try and do that.
09:10Yeah.
09:11But this is a lifelong habit.
09:13I don't think it's going to come that easily.
09:14No.
09:15I don't think anything worth having comes easy.
09:17Previously on Open House...
09:24It's two guys!
09:25Woo!
09:26Back in the there!
09:28I have identified as gay since I came out when I was 18.
09:33Today, I don't know.
09:35Woo!
09:36I'm interested in being with a woman sexually.
09:40The worst case scenario would be reacting in a way which I'm not expecting.
09:45You've not explored a female body.
09:47Hmm.
09:48Do you know what you're doing?
09:49I do not know what I'm doing.
09:51No, no, no.
09:52We don't know what we're doing.
09:54Maybe go and have a chat with Naomi and Jen.
09:58Yeah.
09:59Let's fucking do it.
10:00Ooh.
10:01A bit concerning the girls.
10:03This is definitely a very big moment in our relationship because this is a doorway towards
10:09something which could be like a huge change for us.
10:12Engaged couple Chris and Simon are at the retreat to discover if they have any attraction to women.
10:26Aw, you guys are so fun.
10:29To help find the answers, they have invited residents Jen and Naomi to the hot tub.
10:34I just didn't stop laughing with you.
10:37We just had such a fun interaction.
10:40Yeah, that's nice.
10:41Sorry, I was just playing with your feet.
10:43Sorry about that.
10:44That's okay.
10:45Is that okay?
10:46That is actually very okay.
10:47I'm actually very into that.
10:49My biggest turn on is someone playing with my feet or sucking my toes.
10:52No way.
10:53Go on.
10:54Nick it.
10:55Come on.
10:56They're there when you want them.
10:57Oh my goodness.
10:58We're only two minutes in and we've got the foot set.
10:59Yeah.
11:00Okay.
11:01I think I'd been in the hot tub for approximately 30 seconds before there was Simon sucked my
11:12toe.
11:13I love that though.
11:14I think that's amazing.
11:15Love a foot mile.
11:16I am very attracted to both of you girls and I would be definitely up for at least having
11:24a kiss.
11:25I'm down for that.
11:26So yeah.
11:27So would you like a kiss?
11:41Seeing Simon kiss a woman in front of me was jaw-dropping.
11:45He really went in for it.
11:49Simon matched my kissing like straight away and that's rare.
11:52Like if someone can do that.
11:54I don't want you to be left out.
11:55Go on.
12:15That was a great kiss.
12:16I enjoyed that.
12:17Are you ready for a kiss?
12:18Um.
12:19I don't know.
12:20I think I might be more attracted to Naomi.
12:21Okay.
12:22Um.
12:23Than to you Jenna.
12:24No problem.
12:25No problem.
12:26Come on.
12:27Get this.
12:28I'm sorry.
12:29I'm going to jump.
12:30Watch.
12:32Watch.
12:33Seeing Chris kiss Naomi was very hot.
12:34Absolutely loved it.
12:35That's nervous now.
12:36Oh no.
12:37Is that nervous?
12:38Oh no.
12:39Is that nervous?
12:40Oh no.
12:41Is that nervous?
12:42Oh no.
12:43I don't know what you said.
12:44Just asking if he's less nervous.
12:45I thought he said less something now and I was like what?
12:49Oh no.
12:50Oh no.
12:51Oh no.
12:52Oh no.
12:53Oh no.
12:54Oh no.
12:55Oh no.
12:56Oh no.
12:57Oh no.
12:58Oh no.
12:59Oh no.
13:00Oh no.
13:01Oh no.
13:02Oh no.
13:03Oh no.
13:04Oh no.
13:05Oh no.
13:06I don't know what you said.
13:07Just asking if he's less nervous.
13:09I thought he said less something now and I was like what?
13:17How are you feeling?
13:20It's way past my bedtime.
13:25Right.
13:26Um.
13:27I think probably going to call it a night.
13:31Um.
13:32Just take your time to like go through.
13:35Because this is a huge thing for you guys to do.
13:37I thought Simon seemed really keen and playful.
13:40Yeah.
13:41But I think maybe there was a difference of where they wanted it to go.
13:45Nice.
13:47I feel like ending the night where we did was probably the right call.
13:51Because I wanted to progress.
13:55Yes.
13:56But the fact that Chris rejected Jen did make me feel as though the night itself wasn't going
14:03to probably progress any further.
14:07Are you okay?
14:08Yeah.
14:09Good.
14:11I'm going to the detail tomorrow.
14:12Well I do want to talk to you about it.
14:14Yeah.
14:15How did you sleep?
14:16I woke up a few times I think.
14:18Engaged couple Chris and Simon have woken up to their second day at the retreat.
14:36My brain looks like so much had happened yesterday.
14:37I just couldn't stop thinking about everything.
14:38Yeah.
14:39You think maybe Chris was a little more reserved?
14:40He was a bit more nervous.
14:41Yeah.
14:42I think if Simon was on his own with us, he would have taken it further last night.
14:45Yeah, no I completely agree.
14:46Do you agree?
14:47Yeah.
14:48How do you think they feel today?
14:49Hopefully they're both on the same page because it'd be really awkward if they weren't.
14:58Yeah.
14:59Are you ready for a round of golf?
15:00Never have.
15:01Ready for a hole or two?
15:02Why can't I be that funny in front of girls?
15:03Terrible.
15:04You are funny.
15:05I'm not.
15:06You were making a lot of loads last night.
15:07I'm feeling mixed emotions about last night.
15:09Chris didn't feel comfortable kissing Jen.
15:10That was a bit like, okay, how are we going to nabble?
15:11How are we going to nabble?
15:12Do you agree?
15:13Do you agree?
15:14Yeah.
15:15How do you think they feel today?
15:16Hopefully they're both on the same page because it'd be really awkward if they weren't.
15:17Yeah.
15:18Are you ready for a round of golf?
15:19Ready for a hole or two?
15:20Why can't I be that funny in front of girls?
15:21Terrible.
15:22You are funny.
15:23I know.
15:24You were making a lot of loads last night.
15:25I'm feeling mixed emotions about last night.
15:28Chris didn't feel comfortable kissing Jen.
15:30That was a bit like, okay, how are we going to navigate this then moving forward?
15:33How are we feeling?
15:35A bit deflated.
15:40Yeah.
15:41What happened last night with the girls was really fun, really exciting, really enjoyed it.
15:47But while I've been saying that there are like no expectations, I probably did have expectations.
15:52To be honest, it felt like even though it was just a kiss, like that still felt rushed for me.
15:58Yeah.
15:59Like, I'm a real slow burner.
16:01Given that we had, like, the social mixer, and then we had the hot tub experience, and
16:10you still feel like that was rushed.
16:11Yeah, agree.
16:12Yeah.
16:13I don't think pushing that any further I think would have been a mistake.
16:15I'm conscious that we're both here to do things together, but maybe would need to go
16:21about it in slightly different ways.
16:23Right.
16:24I guess that's part of the whole thing with exploring non-monogamy is you do always in
16:29the back of your mind think about your partner.
16:31But I think it's really important to understand my sexuality better because it's an integral
16:36part of who I am.
16:39Yeah.
16:40On hand to help Chris and Simon process the night before.
16:43Welcome, welcome.
16:44Good morning.
16:45Hello.
16:46Is non-monogamy coach Effie Blue.
16:48How are we feeling?
16:51I'm feeling a little bit disappointed, I think.
16:56Okay.
16:57That's probably how I'd put it.
16:58Okay.
16:59Do tell.
17:00So yeah, last night things got quite playful.
17:02Jen, Naomi, and I started kissing.
17:06Okay.
17:07Which was really good fun.
17:10Really enjoyed it.
17:11I was, like, ready to go, like, oh yeah, like, this is, let's take this further to the
17:15next step.
17:16Mm-hmm.
17:17What was it like for you, Chris?
17:18So I only had a kiss with Naomi.
17:20Okay.
17:21And I was expecting there to be, like, a spark or something like that.
17:24And I didn't particularly feel that.
17:27Okay.
17:28What do you think got in the way for you?
17:31I don't think I've ever met anyone and on the same night kissed them.
17:35Okay.
17:36Tell me about the disappointment and the deflation.
17:40The hope was that I was going to come into this and leave feeling as though I did have
17:46that spark and arousal towards women.
17:49And I feel like the experience that I had last night didn't prove that.
17:51Okay.
17:52Okay.
17:53I understand that.
17:54Yeah.
17:55Do you think Chris being there had any impact on your experience at all?
17:59I think I have found myself a bit worried about you.
18:02Not worried about you, really.
18:05I have had a bit of, like, in the back of my head, like, is he okay?
18:08Are you doing okay?
18:11So is there anything that we need to talk about here?
18:17I just like having Simon around.
18:19What sometimes happens is when the other person's been there for a while
18:22and you kind of both lean on each other, we lose sight of our individual confidence
18:27and inner strength.
18:29Does that make sense?
18:30Absolutely.
18:31Okay. Beautiful.
18:32I think I have a plan.
18:33Hard to explore.
18:34Ooh.
18:35So would you be willing to have two separate experiences today?
18:43Yes.
18:44Okay.
18:45We can certainly give it a try.
18:46Give it a try.
18:47Yeah.
18:48I am feeling nervous about having to go into another social situation.
18:52You'll be fine.
18:53There were definitely points last night where I think I was looking for Chris.
18:57So while I love you, it would be quite nice to maybe not have Chris around tonight.
19:03Go forth and have fun.
19:04Ahh!
19:06Because I really don't feel like I can progress in my sexual relationships
19:14as long as I am still unsure in exactly what it is that I am attracted to.
19:22Let's split this up.
19:28I'm not sure whether to wear these together or these together.
19:33Those look very compatible.
19:35Does this look sexy though?
19:37Listen, I don't know if speedos are very sexy.
19:42Right.
19:43Chris and Simon are getting ready for their separate socials.
19:46There's always a risk that exploring non-monogamy might jeopardize our relationship,
19:50but I think it's important to know exactly who I am as a person.
19:56So that's why I'm here and that's why I'm doing it,
19:58is because I feel like this is important for me to get more clarity
20:03on the question marks that I have in my head.
20:06I think that's going to be fine.
20:07Good.
20:08Simon will be attending an all-girls pool party with residents Jen, Georgie, Holly and Gracie.
20:21In the bedroom, I pretty much love anything.
20:24Like, I'm happy to explore anything.
20:27Like, I'm always like a don't knock it till you try it type person.
20:30Scream if you want to go to an orgy.
20:33I love exploring.
20:35I love trying new tricks.
20:37A gay couple.
20:38It's like every woman's dream though, I'm not going to lie.
20:40Is it?
20:41Yeah.
20:44Oh, Lord.
20:46But up in the bedroom, Simon is starting to have some doubts.
20:51I just feel pressure to take it to the bedroom and do something.
20:56There's no, there's no need to do that.
20:59I'm anxious because I feel like I'm in the perfect scenario to explore.
21:06Oh, fucking hell.
21:08And that's essentially why I'm here, is to discover my sexuality.
21:15So there is pressure with that, obviously.
21:18I don't know.
21:19Yeah.
21:20I don't know.
21:21I think I'm definitely in my head at the minute.
21:26Oh, they're coming over.
21:28He's coming over.
21:29Hello.
21:30Hello.
21:31Oh, hi, man.
21:32How are we?
21:33How are you?
21:34I know.
21:35Oh, yeah.
21:36I love that area.
21:37Hello.
21:38Hello.
21:39Hello.
21:40Oh, you cold hands.
21:41Nice to see you again.
21:42Hello.
21:44I think just being alone with women pushes me outside my comfort zone.
21:48I just don't think I'd be able to relax and be me in that moment.
21:54Meanwhile, Chris is waiting to be collected for his afternoon social.
21:58An all girls pyjama party with residents Emily, Kirsty and Mandy.
22:04I'm feeling dreadfully nervous.
22:06Because I don't know who's going to be there.
22:09But I do know that Simon isn't going to be there.
22:11It's like Simon is sort of like a comfort blanket.
22:15Naomi, who he kissed last night in the hot tub, is picking him up.
22:20Hello.
22:21Do you want to come and join a party?
22:22Yeah, let's do it.
22:23Are you nervous?
22:24Oh, yeah.
22:25Oh, yeah.
22:26Oh, yeah.
22:27Don't be nervous.
22:28It's going to be so good.
22:29There you go.
22:30Hello.
22:31Hello.
22:32Hello.
22:33Hello.
22:34I feel so overdressed in my pink dressing gown.
22:37Oh, dashing.
22:38Just step into the room and see three other girls in there as well was quite intimidating.
22:45You'd come into the pink room and take it straight off.
22:48I know.
22:49That's all weird because so.
22:54Wait.
22:55What's your plan for me then, ladies?
22:57What's going on?
22:58We wanted to pamper you.
23:00Please.
23:01Do you like having a bath?
23:03A bath?
23:05Is that a statue thought?
23:06I don't know.
23:07I might go in in my pants.
23:09I don't know if I'm brave enough.
23:11Why don't we run above a bath and then if you want to dip your feet in, you can?
23:14Yeah.
23:15And we can pamper you.
23:16All right.
23:17All right.
23:18We'll do a bath.
23:19Bloody hell.
23:20Oh, my God.
23:21I think for me personally with him, he's just a little bit too nervous for me.
23:25You know what?
23:26Sometimes people can grow on me.
23:28So you never know.
23:34Truth.
23:35Down by the pool, Simon and the ladies are playing a game of truth or dare.
23:40What do you want to do right now?
23:43Maybe all five of us stand up and all kiss each other at the same time.
23:48Oh, my God.
23:49OK.
23:50Hmm.
23:51Hmm.
23:52Hmm.
23:53Hmm.
23:54Hmm.
23:55Hmm.
23:56Hmm.
23:57Hmm.
23:58Hmm.
23:59Hmm.
24:00My hands are wandering.
24:01Sorry, guys.
24:02Hmm.
24:03Hmm.
24:04Hmm.
24:05Hmm.
24:06Yeah, but you're not.
24:08I mean, tingle, don't you think I'm wet?
24:11Good.
24:12Your lips are so soft and like plump.
24:15You're such a writer, you're just...
24:18I know! I know!
24:20You put the right in there.
24:23Does anyone want to move this upstairs so we can keep playing the game?
24:31I think let's go for it and just give it a go, yeah.
24:36Let's go!
24:38I'm not loving this.
24:45Retreat newcomers Charmaine and Jamie are getting ready for tonight's Under the Sea themed social.
24:51Do you think that's okay like that?
24:53Yeah, it's fine.
24:55Charmaine is hoping to meet a couple to open up their relationship with,
24:59but Jamie will have to overcome his confidence issues.
25:04How are you feeling?
25:06I'm excited.
25:08I'm a little bit apprehensive of the social part and how you're going to be, how you're going to do.
25:14Right now I'm anxious.
25:17You are pacing.
25:19Are you nervous?
25:21Extremely.
25:22I'm hoping that we go into this evening together
25:25and that Jamie will feel confident enough to sort of go off separately
25:29and I really hope that it brings him out of himself a little bit more.
25:33I think it's going to do both of us the world of good, but I think especially it's going to do you good.
25:41I'm a bit worried because I feel like my self-confidence can sort of hold Charmaine back.
25:47It puts a bit of a burden on her in social situations.
25:50You ready for this?
25:52Love you.
25:53Love you.
25:58Down at the social, the residents are already turning up the heat.
26:04This whole experience is obviously completely new to us, alien to us.
26:14And I think it's a very vulnerable situation to put yourself in.
26:20This is a big step.
26:21I don't feel like your relationship is ever going to be the same once you've opened up.
26:25Potentially that could damage our marriage.
26:31Of course I have worries about how it might affect me in Charmaine
26:34because it's not something you can undo.
26:37Once it's done, it's done.
26:39How are you feeling? Are you okay?
26:54I'm like, I've got butterflies, I'm feeling a bit like giddy.
26:57It's just excitement.
26:58Oh my goodness, the green is gorgeous.
27:01Simon and the girls have moved the party up to the bedroom
27:05in the hope that it may lead to Simon having his first sexual experience with a woman.
27:11How do you feel when you're making the lighting a little bit more?
27:14Whatever you feel.
27:16I have never had sex with a woman.
27:19I don't know what I'm doing.
27:24What's your buttons?
27:25I think I tend to feel most comfortable probably like laying back and letting stuff happen.
27:32Can I request for you to like lie down then?
27:55Right now I'm feeling terrified because I don't know what I'm doing.
28:08I know that I want to have fun and I know that I want it to be a positive experience.
28:15But I am anxious.
28:18Just want a little drink of water?
28:31Yeah, just a minute.
28:33But things aren't going quite as planned.
28:37What I'm going to think, I'm just going to say like I'm conscious that I'm not hard.
28:43I should be a bit of stage fright part of it's also like...
28:46We are.
28:47There's a lot going on.
28:48I'm just like processing like everything at once.
28:50I'm just like, this is something very new for me.
28:59When am I going to get my nails, sir?
29:00This is good nail polish. It's drying really quick.
29:03Just down the hall, Chris is fully immersed in his all-girl experience.
29:08Yeah, I think you're good.
29:09But his cautious approach is hindering things from progressing to the physical.
29:13Best case scenario would be to just like, maybe have some fun in the bedroom.
29:18Are you going to get in your bubble bath?
29:19I am going to have to pluck up the courage at some point.
29:21But like, Simon's always been more sexually confident.
29:25When are my nails and my face mask? How about that? What do we do with that?
29:29Oh, you look like a new man.
29:32Blimey. Right.
29:34Don't worry, we're going to be there to help you.
29:38Are you hanging up your clothes?
29:39No.
29:42It's a new shirt.
29:44Oh, how's that?
29:46I have these toys.
29:48Is it nice?
29:49Oh, it's lovely.
29:50This is a lovely temperature.
29:51It felt nice being in the bath with Naomi.
29:53It was more intimate, certainly, than the hot tub.
29:55So, we are going to have an early night.
30:01Chris is definitely very cute, but just wasn't really giving me the energy.
30:07I know he's nervous, obviously, that's a given.
30:10We'll miss you.
30:12So, me and the girls thought it would be a nice idea to leave Naomi and Chris.
30:18I mean, I think there's definitely some sort of spark between them.
30:23It was nice having the other girls here, but I feel like I was constantly looking around the room,
30:28trying to make sure I'm giving everyone equal attention.
30:31It's a lot to manage, yeah.
30:33I think Chris is a wonderful, wonderful man.
30:36And he's just someone that really intrigues me to get to know him a bit deeper.
30:41How are you finding this? Are you more relaxed now? You look very relaxed.
30:45I feel, I mean, I'm in a lovely bath with a lovely lady.
30:49She's a really interesting person and she's very attractive as well.
30:53Yeah, I'd like to kiss Naomi.
30:55So, it's nice having just one person to focus on.
30:59Is it? That's good.
31:08Meanwhile, Simon and the girls afternoon is progressing, despite his slight technical glitch.
31:15I think anything on my face would be great.
31:16Having fun with a woman's vagina is very different to anything that I've experienced before.
31:27I don't exactly know what I'm doing.
31:30And that terrifies me.
31:33Oh, my God.
31:38I didn't really focus too much on...
31:42I was having issues with, like, getting an erection.
31:44Oh, fuck, yes.
31:46I think I got a lot more pleasure out of making the other girls feel pleasure.
31:52Oh, my God. Fuck.
31:55I was actually very surprised that when Simon gave me oral, he was exceptional.
32:01Cheers.
32:03He was exceptional.
32:05Yeah.
32:06Oh, my God.
32:10Apparently, I can pleasure a woman.
32:12Jen gave me all of the signs that I definitely made her feel a certain kind of way.
32:17Fuck, I just came so hard in your tongue.
32:20That's impressive.
32:22Wow!
32:23I was having so much fun, and the connection was so good.
32:26So, I hadn't thought about what Chris might be up to.
32:30You're so funny.
32:31Oh, my God.
32:32Oh, my God.
32:34Grab this.
32:35Yeah.
32:36Your rabbit's going to go up the hole.
32:38Yes, yes, yes.
32:40I love that.
32:41You're in.
32:42You've got it!
32:43I'm so proud of you.
32:44Yeah, it's a safe one.
32:45The handcuff knot.
32:46That's fantastic.
32:47That's your introduction to knots and bondage.
32:50I'm sure your old start leader will be very good.
32:54My relationship with Chris is definitely somewhere between romantic and friendship.
32:59Because we've shared a kiss, I think, naturally, it had more of that romantic element to it.
33:05Despite not going there today, this has been wonderful.
33:08This has been so nice.
33:09I think I would have kissed Naomi, but I think what I've found is that I just do need a bit more time
33:13to do those sorts of things.
33:15I hope you have a lovely, lovely evening, and I'll see you at Summer Point.
33:18Thank you so much.
33:19All right.
33:20It's all right.
33:21Like, I don't feel like I made much more significant progress in my own story.
33:29He's not here.
33:33Once I came out to the room and found he wasn't there, I was thinking about where he may be.
33:38I feel jealous that he's probably doing something sexual and I would like to be there to see it.
33:53Charmaine and Jamie have just arrived at their first social in the hope that they will find a couple to join them in the bedroom.
33:59Hello.
34:00How are you doing?
34:02To kickstart their evening, they make a beeline for engaged couple Lily and Joe.
34:09How's it been settling in?
34:11I imagine it's been quite intense.
34:12It's been intense.
34:13Yeah.
34:14It's very fun.
34:15Yeah, you both look great.
34:16Your dress as well is stunning.
34:18The velvet suit.
34:19I've got velvet trousers on.
34:21Oh, yeah.
34:22I'm feeling a little bit overdressed.
34:23Oh, no.
34:24Oh, no.
34:25It was very clear that they were nervous.
34:27The nerves really shone through.
34:30And what do you do for work?
34:31I'm in it.
34:32I'm just at home with the kids and we've got three boys.
34:35Have you?
34:36Oh, really?
34:37A handful.
34:38So what do you do for work, Jamie?
34:39I do scaffolding.
34:40I don't know if it's better to tell you, though.
34:41No way.
34:42I also scaffold.
34:43Oh, really?
34:44Scaffolding in Cambridge, yeah.
34:45Oh, OK.
34:46Are you enjoying it?
34:47Yeah, I love it.
34:48Yeah.
34:49Give it ten years, you'll hate it.
34:50Yeah, that's what everyone says, but...
34:52We're both scaffolders, so we're both in the same industry.
34:54Yeah.
34:55So we definitely have some things in common, which is nice.
34:58It'd be good to spend some more time, I think.
35:00Yeah, we'd definitely see them again if they wanted to see us.
35:02Enjoy the rest of the evening.
35:06How are you feeling?
35:07Yeah, I feel good.
35:10Do you feel ready to separate and speak to people, yeah?
35:14Yeah, I think so.
35:15Yeah, I think I'm more nervous than you now.
35:17OK, I'll be...
35:21Yeah, I think I'm just gonna jump in and allow myself to be surprised.
35:25Hiya.
35:26Good morning.
35:27I'm Jen.
35:28Hiya, I'm Char.
35:29Nice to meet you.
35:30Char?
35:31Yeah, Charmaine.
35:32Oh, OK, Char.
35:33How are you feeling?
35:34I'm nervous.
35:35I think, for both of us, it's a big thing to sort of separate from each other.
35:39I think we sort of lean on each other quite a lot for confidence.
35:42It's, yeah, gonna be a bit of a challenge for us.
35:45Yeah.
35:46Hi!
35:47Come on, Jamie.
35:48How are you feeling, my darling?
35:49I'm good, thanks.
35:50We're not as scary as we look, I promise.
35:52I'm loving this velvet jacket, by the way.
35:54It's fabulous.
35:55Bit of an inspired pic thing.
35:56It's like, I'll order that.
35:57Yeah?
35:58Yeah.
35:59Jamie's nerves didn't necessarily put me off, to be honest.
36:02It's gonna be a nerve-wracking situation for anybody to walk into,
36:05so I can completely understand that.
36:07Your partner looks absolutely beautiful tonight.
36:09I love the fact that you're marching in green.
36:11Yeah.
36:12You just look really good.
36:13Um...
36:14Monsieur, s'il vous plaît.
36:20I've definitely got a jealous streak to me,
36:23seeing Jamie flirting with somebody else.
36:26It's not something I've ever seen before.
36:28Personally, I think if it wasn't for Jen, I would be lost.
36:33Yeah.
36:34In the social aspect.
36:35I'm the mouth.
36:36She's the mouth.
36:37I think Jamie said the exact same.
36:38Are you the mouth?
36:39Yeah, you wouldn't think that now.
36:40I'd just like to finish your sentences, what can I say?
36:42She's too impatient.
36:43I am impatient.
36:44I'll start saying something.
36:45She's like...
36:46I think I can put on a confident act, but deep down I'm quite nervous in a social situation.
36:57Right now I'm feeling quite apprehensive.
37:00I'm also very aware of how Jamie might be feeling.
37:04It's lovely to speak to you.
37:06I'm going to go and see how Jamie's doing.
37:09Speak to you soon.
37:12So we've been trying to open up for about five years now.
37:16Okay.
37:17It's probably my confidence has held us back.
37:19Yeah.
37:20You seem pretty confident.
37:21Yeah, I was going to say.
37:23I think I needed to hear that.
37:24You're holding your own?
37:25Yeah, you're doing fine.
37:26You okay?
37:27Hiya.
37:28Jamie, do you want to go through?
37:35I want to step out.
37:37Sorry?
37:38I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed.
37:39It's like a little break.
37:40There's a situation here.
37:42I just feel overwhelmed.
37:51It's just a bit much for me.
37:53Like, the whole situation.
37:55We're not obligated to anything.
37:56This is our journey.
37:59I'm just uncomfortable.
38:01Where do we go from here?
38:02I don't know.
38:05The decision's yours from now.
38:06I don't know if I'm going to be able to hold myself together now.
38:10I really don't want to do it.
38:12I just want to buy him.
38:13After having very different sexual experiences, Simon is waiting for Chris in the cocktail bar.
38:30I'm feeling a little bit apprehensive about telling Chris about what's happened because I didn't expect it to go this far.
38:37And it's such a big step in our relationship opening up with women as well.
38:45Let's do it.
38:46There he is.
38:47As soon as he walked in, I was like, we've had very different days.
38:56You okay?
38:57You look so cute.
38:58Oh, it's really good to see you.
38:59You okay?
39:00Yeah, good.
39:01You've been gone for so long.
39:02He went before me.
39:03What have you been doing?
39:04So, go on.
39:05I went down to the red room.
39:06It was really hot.
39:07I was very much enjoying myself.
39:10Jen was like, do you want to eat my pussy?
39:11Wow.
39:12Just right out there.
39:13It was getting you going?
39:14Well, so this is the thing is, I don't know if it was because of a bit of stage fright, but I didn't get hard and I didn't come. But in the moment, I was like, I loved that.
39:27Like, you can feel you enjoy that up here. It doesn't matter how you feel.
39:30You can feel you enjoy that up here.
39:31It doesn't matter how you feel.
39:32Yeah.
39:33Yeah.
39:34Yeah.
39:35Yeah.
39:36Yeah.
39:37Yeah.
39:38Yeah.
39:39Yeah.
39:40Yeah.
39:41Yeah.
39:42Yeah.
39:43Yeah.
39:44The exploration is why I came here and like the sexual exploration I had today is exactly what I was looking for.
39:51I just don't care that I struggled with getting an erection.
39:56So how are you feeling?
39:58Um, I am jealous that I wasn't there to see it.
40:02The way I frame the jealous, like, part of me wants to have been there to like, to have seen it happen.
40:08It's like missing a big event. That's the only sort of jealousy I feel.
40:12Are you doing okay?
40:14Yeah.
40:15You've overcome some pretty big, like, steps today.
40:19Yeah.
40:20So nice to like, hear you gushing about it.
40:23And...
40:24Oh!
40:25That's disgusting!
40:27It would have been nice for me to be able to have my own sexual experience, but I know that I'm not the type of person who would have been able to do what Simon did.
40:35So, how on earth are you?
40:40So, I've had a little pamper day.
40:42You had a little pamper day!
40:43So, they gave me a face mask.
40:45Your skin is glowing.
40:47I am.
40:48I'm radiant.
40:49You are.
40:50And then I hopped in the bath.
40:51Oh!
40:52And then Naomi jumped in the bath with me as well.
40:54And that was, that was basically it.
40:56Nothing, nothing really progressed from there.
40:58I'm just, obviously happy that like, at the end of the day, still you and me.
41:03Yeah.
41:04Shall we go to the room?
41:05Come on, let's do it.
41:09I feel fantastic after telling Chris about my day, because it just reaffirms everything that I already feel fantastic about in my relationship with Chris.
41:17Oh.
41:18Well, well.
41:20We have amazing communication, we're super honest with each other, and that's the foundation of our relationship and it will always be that way.
41:27Do you think you feel like, more sure in your mind about how you feel about women?
41:31I feel more sure.
41:33Mm-hmm.
41:34I feel absolutely sure that I can have sexual experiences with women and for it to be fun and pleasurable and enjoyable.
41:42Excellent.
41:43I feel absolutely great.
41:45Yeah.
41:46Yeah.
41:48I would love to come.
41:52Oh my God.
41:53Oh my God.
41:54Oh my God.
41:55Oh my God.
41:56Oh!
42:01I just don't want to do it.
42:02Charmaine may have been the one who wanted to open up, but now she's struggling, leaving husband Jamie unsure of what to do next.
42:16What are you going to do?
42:18I don't want to do it.
42:19I don't want to do it.
42:20I feel uncomfortable with it.
42:22I just felt awkward looking back on it.
42:24It's fine.
42:25I'll support what I need to do, you know.
42:30I think that was a lot harder than I sort of anticipated.
42:34Yeah, I think I just felt a little bit overwhelmed.
42:41I noticed that Char and Jamie had gone outside and they were gone for quite a while.
42:46So I popped out to check out who they were.
42:48I'm going to cry again.
42:49Don't cry, don't cry.
42:50Sorry.
42:51Deep breaths.
42:52You're doing great.
42:53You're doing great.
42:54Everyone thinks you're amazing.
42:55Deep breaths.
42:56Oh, it's just overwhelming.
43:01You okay now?
43:02We would love to chat to you though, so if you feel like you can come back in.
43:05Just remember why you came here and what you wanted to achieve out of tonight.
43:09I think we will come back here and I just need to get myself together.
43:12Yeah?
43:13Jen came out and sort of had a word with us and reassured us.
43:16And yeah, I think that was a big help for me to sort of snap out of it a little bit and get out of my head.
43:23Should we go with him?
43:24Yeah.
43:25Come on then.
43:26Come with me.
43:28Oh my God, it's so warm in here now.
43:29So warm.
43:30Lovely.
43:31This is Jen's Don't Tell.
43:32This is Jamie.
43:33Hi, Jamie.
43:34This is my partner, Mark.
43:35Yeah.
43:36Well, thank you for putting us at ease a little bit.
43:38Oh, good.
43:39I'm glad you feel a little more at ease now.
43:41I think at one point I was ready to do a run.
43:43Yeah.
43:44But I feel like you're here for a reason.
43:45You're here for a reason.
43:46I would have been disappointed.
43:47Yeah.
43:48You'd regret it for sure.
43:51I don't know if there is any vibes from them because I'm not feeling it.
43:56I'm not feeling them being flirty with me.
43:58But I think they're gorgeous.
43:59And you're both hot as fuck as well.
44:01Like, you have nothing.
44:02You have nothing to be, like, conscious about.
44:04Own it.
44:05What do you like to talk about them?
44:08Is there anything you're really passionate about?
44:10We just like them with our books.
44:11That's how boring we feel.
44:12Oh, I love that you both read.
44:14That's what I'm a married couple.
44:16Are you not like me, though?
44:18When I'm reading, like, a spicy book, I text him and I'm like,
44:20listen, you're going to have to get home because...
44:22I am suffering it.
44:24Yeah, I'm like, you need to re-enact the scene right now.
44:26Yes!
44:27Oh, my God, that is super hard.
44:29I think the vibe we got of them was very chilled out and relaxed
44:33and I think that's what we need this evening.
44:35Yeah, hopefully we've read that right.
44:37We really appreciate you putting us at ease.
44:39And I was wondering if you'd like to spend a bit more time in the hot tub.
44:42No pressure whatsoever.
44:45Would you like to spend some time in the hot tub?
44:47I definitely would, yeah, would you?
44:48I would like to spend some time in the hot tub.
44:50We both definitely fancy Jamie and Charmaine, yeah.
44:53I don't think they realise they're a hot couple.
44:56Let's go get in the hot tub and get these bloody heels off, shall we?
44:58Can't wait, let's go.
45:02I think Jamie and Charm might be potentially the most nervous couple
45:08we've connected with in this way.
45:10I want them to have a really good experience,
45:12but I wish they weren't so nervous.
45:14Yeah.
45:15Next time on Open House...
45:29My main concern is, is it something that should have stayed a fantasy?
45:33What are you feeling this evening then? Do we wanna...?
45:36How are your feelings for what, tonight?
45:39Yeah.
45:40With us.
45:41No pressure.
45:43I don't feel like your relationship is ever going to be the same once you've opened up.
45:48So we're coming in to have sex separately from each other.
45:51I'm scared.
45:52I'm interested.
45:53I'm definitely interested.
45:54Yeah, I'm interested, yeah.
45:55See you soon.
45:56If it goes wrong, it might put us off forever.
45:59Yeah, just a bit scary what might happen next.
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46:56Yeah.
46:57I'm sure you're dead.
46:58I think it's better.
46:59I think it's better.
47:00I think it's better if you have any questions about it.
47:01We're looking for the fans.
47:02I think it's better.
47:03I think it's better.
47:04See you next time.
47:05We've got a box.
47:06Last time ago.
47:07We've got a box.
47:08I think the box is better off.
47:09We've got a box.
47:10We're doing what you're driving.
47:11You're driving, you're driving, and it's better off the street.
47:13I think it's better off.
47:14You're not even better off the street.
47:15But there's going to be a box with a człowie and a human.
47:17I'm not on this one, and I'll be like this.
47:19But then I think we always want to be a better.
47:20That's better.
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