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00:00Lepas lelaki ni, dia bukan sahaja-sahaja nak ignore.
00:03Tapi sometimes,
00:05I nak ambil sikit DNA yang memang ada kat perempuan eh.
00:08Diorang suka benda-benda kecil, suka dibesar-besarkan.
00:11The only reason why we make it big
00:13is because things happen,
00:16the same things happen again,
00:17and again,
00:19and again.
00:19Sebab first, kita dah cakap elok-elok,
00:22tak mahu dengar.
00:22Second, cakap elok-elok lagi,
00:25tak mahu dengar.
00:26Tiga, cakap elok-elok lagi.
00:29tapi just a little bit of attitude.
00:31Tak mahu dengar juga.
00:33Fourth time.
00:34We're gonna burst up.
00:36You guys dah kahwin.
00:38You leave dirty socks on the floor
00:39every time you come back home from work.
00:42And every time I have to pick it up.
00:44Padahal besin kat sebelah.
00:46You know?
00:46Why can't you just put your socks
00:49in the basin?
00:56This is serious love, look guys.
00:59Serious love.
01:10Hello guys, welcome back to
01:12Serious Love Podcast.
01:14Yes, macam biasa,
01:15setiap minggu,
01:16kita akan bawakan
01:17guest yang berbeza-beza.
01:18Dengan cerita yang berbeza-beza.
01:21Kita nak tahu
01:22semua cerita diorang
01:23yang diorang tak pernah cerita
01:24dekat diorang punya social media
01:25ataupun kat mana-mana platform.
01:27Betul lah ya?
01:27Macam biasa bersama saya
01:28Haida Rasanuddin
01:30dan juga
01:31Dan saya Alia Haslin
01:32Dan minggu ni kita ada siapa Alia?
01:34Kita ada
01:34Sharifah Ariqa
01:36Wooo!
01:38Hai, how are you?
01:39Cantiknya, tak boleh lah.
01:41Hello, Harika.
01:41I'm alu kat sini.
01:43Alhamdulillah.
01:44Hah?
01:44I'm alu.
01:45No, Alia nampak serikas-serikas.
01:47Oh.
01:48Takut.
01:48Jangan.
01:50Ibu pula wajah kat Pep.
01:52Jangan puji sangat.
01:53Jangan puji sangat.
01:54Takut nanti kan dah
01:55pendek je podcast ni.
01:56Oh, lain.
01:56Oh, okay.
01:57Sorry, sorry, sorry.
01:58Okay.
01:59Hari ni kita kat mana?
02:00Okay, hari ni kita nak
02:01kita nak berterima kasih
02:02dekat
02:03Hetam.
02:04Hetam Cafe
02:06Damansara Perdana
02:06sebab telah menyediakan
02:08ruang yang sangat best.
02:10Selesa dengan
02:11kopi yang sangat
02:12mantap.
02:13Dengan matcha.
02:29Yes.
02:31Dia punya cafe lati pun best.
02:33Alia punya on the way.
02:34Yep.
02:34Tapi air
02:35air macam
02:36nice gila.
02:37Very good.
02:37Hojicha.
02:38What's this?
02:38Hojicha.
02:39Hojicha.
02:40Yeah.
02:40Try lah, Alia.
02:41I dah try tadi.
02:42Oh, dah try dah?
02:43Sedap, sedap.
02:44Dia dah dapat sneak peek tadi.
02:46It's roasted matcha.
02:48Roasted matcha, guys.
02:49Try.
02:49So, like the leaf,
02:50dia orang burn.
02:52Oh.
02:53So, like more benefits gitu.
02:55Oh, ya.
02:56Oh, sebab
02:57dia sebab dah terbakar kan?
02:58Ha, itulah.
03:00Tapi nice gila
03:01ingatkan
03:01Maricano dia tadi.
03:02Ha, sebab
03:03jelas selalu
03:04kalah-kalah macam ni kan
03:05Maricano je kan
03:05Black Coffee.
03:06It's the podcast about the coffee.
03:07Oh, tak.
03:08Itu just kita nak intro
03:09kita nak beritulah
03:09sikit lah
03:10dekat apa yang best
03:11dekat Hetam ni kan?
03:12Yep, yep, yep, yep, yep, yep.
03:14Arika.
03:15Yes.
03:15So, sekarang ni
03:16tengah
03:17maybe tengah fokus
03:18apa-apakah?
03:19Any
03:19I'm currently focusing
03:21on my campaign works.
03:23Okay.
03:24I'm an influencer
03:24and I do content creating
03:26and I model also
03:28from time to time.
03:29Hmm.
03:29For baju kurung ni brand.
03:31Oh, macam-macam buat eh.
03:33Selain tu ada tak
03:34any
03:36plan ke
03:37in future
03:38plan ke
03:38untuk buat
03:39benda yang
03:39lain lagi ke?
03:41Ada plan dia
03:42tapi
03:42dia punya
03:44hala tuju tu
03:45macam slow sikit.
03:46So, now I'm just
03:47going with the flow.
03:48I'm trying
03:49things that are
03:50different.
03:52Polis.
03:53Polis.
03:54Tempat ni memang
03:54panas sikit
03:55selalu kena raid.
03:57Jangan cakap macam tu.
03:59No, I'm just
04:00trying something
04:01different lah
04:01now.
04:02I'm just, you know,
04:03going about
04:04widening my horizon
04:05in different-different
04:06campaign works
04:08macam, you know,
04:09TVC, I get to act a bit.
04:12Drama ke
04:12apa ke.
04:13I'm just putting myself
04:14up there.
04:14Oh, dahsyat lah.
04:16Eh, tapi saya suka lah
04:16rambut you.
04:17Original kan?
04:17Yes, original kan?
04:19Susah tau nak dapat
04:19rambut macam ni Alia.
04:21Rambut saya tengah
04:21kembang tu sekarang.
04:23Tak apa, thank you.
04:24Sebab dia original.
04:25Alia pernah try buat dulu.
04:27Tak jadi.
04:27Tak jadi.
04:28Dia jadi apa Alia?
04:30Tak apalah, tak apalah.
04:32Dia tak jadi.
04:33Tak jadi?
04:34Pem tak jadi?
04:35Tak jadi.
04:35So, dia jadi macam
04:36anti-anti-anti-anti-anti-anti-anti.
04:39Faham, faham?
04:40Oh, panas lah.
04:41Panas sikit lah.
04:42Panas, kita tak masuk
04:43topik kita.
04:44Kita cakap pasal panas ni sebenarnya.
04:46Kita belum masuk topik pun
04:47dah panas.
04:48Tapi kita perlukan
04:49kepanasan tu sebenarnya.
04:50Ah, faham.
04:51Oh, angin sedap.
04:53Back up dah sampai.
04:54Back up dah sampai.
04:57Me okay me?
04:58Nampak kau busy sangat ni?
05:01Part time sini.
05:02Oh, Azmi part time sini.
05:04Patut dapat tempat ni?
05:04Ya.
05:05Oh, okay.
05:06Tapi uniform dia pink-pink lah.
05:08Itu sebab apa Aida?
05:09Oh, yang tersebab apa?
05:10Yang tersebab sponsor kau dah.
05:12Okay, Arieka.
05:14Actually,
05:15minggu ni sebenarnya kita nak cerita pasal
05:17ini bukan benda baru.
05:19Kan?
05:20Benda ni yang kita selalu dengar.
05:22Especially dekat social media sekarang.
05:23Benda yang selalu di,
05:25apa orang cakap?
05:26Lalulah.
05:27Benda lalu kita scroll-scroll akan lalu.
05:29Benda macam ni.
05:30Dari zaman dululah.
05:31Dari zaman dulu kan?
05:32Dia,
05:33benda ni bukan benda baru.
05:36Ya.
05:36Benda yang memang akan terjadi.
05:37kita nak cerita pasal
05:40kenapa lelaki
05:42selalu di,
05:44dikaitkan dengan curang.
05:48It's a tale old as time.
05:50Yup.
05:51So, actually,
05:52kita nak tanya Erika punya pendapat.
05:53You setuju tak
05:54sebagai seorang perempuan lah kan?
05:57Dah berpasangan?
05:58Dah.
05:59Okay, dah berpasangan.
06:00Alhamdulillah.
06:00Kita nak makan baik-baik tu.
06:01Erika dah pasangannya.
06:02Kalau pasangan saya dekat sini,
06:06I think he would enjoy
06:08this topic.
06:10Oh, maknanya Erika akan
06:11backup pasangan dia lah.
06:12No, no, no.
06:14Of course not.
06:14Kau you akan lawan?
06:15Lawan.
06:16Oh, dia?
06:16Of course.
06:17Spicy.
06:18Spicy.
06:19Spicy.
06:20Panas eh.
06:21Okay, untuk you.
06:22Bila you,
06:24apa you punya pendapat
06:25bila orang cakap,
06:27kenapa bila curang je lelaki?
06:29Itulah tu.
06:30I would say
06:32it goes both ways.
06:35Yeah.
06:36It's not always the men.
06:37It's not always the women.
06:39Yeah.
06:40Because both
06:41ada
06:41keperluan sendiri
06:43dengan kehendak sendiri.
06:44So, when the
06:45kehendak is not met,
06:47that's why you change
06:48a certain direction.
06:50Oh.
06:50You know.
06:51So, when you're not happy
06:53with your partner,
06:54you do the things
06:54that you want to do
06:55to get the
06:57satisfactory
06:59from another person.
07:01Yeah.
07:01That's what I feel lah.
07:02So, maknanya Erika
07:03tak setuju lah
07:04kalau ni Alia
07:05kalau dia nak cakap
07:06asal curang je lelaki.
07:08It's not always the men actually.
07:10Women are way more
07:11capable
07:11of doing the things
07:13that you guys
07:14don't know.
07:15Women are way more capable.
07:17You have no idea.
07:18We're very, very
07:19clean with our work.
07:21Okay.
07:21Itu pendapat Erika.
07:23Yang sangat neutral.
07:24Yang sangat,
07:25eh, I rasa
07:25respect lah.
07:26kita nak dengar
07:27Alia punya pendapat pula.
07:28I punya pendapat.
07:29Ha-ha.
07:30As wanita.
07:31As wanita.
07:31Okay.
07:33Semenjak kita kat Damansara ni.
07:35Tapi betul.
07:35Tapi betul.
07:37Yang curang ni
07:38sebenarnya
07:38dua-dua side membuat.
07:40It's just that
07:40yang selalu kata
07:41ialah lelaki.
07:42It's just the majority.
07:43Oh.
07:45So, maknanya lelaki.
07:45Tapi yang selalu kata
07:46ialah lelaki.
07:47Lelaki kurang smart lah.
07:48Sebab, Erika cakap tadi
07:49perempuan dia
07:50right.
07:51Kan?
07:51Right.
07:52Perempuan dia clean.
07:53Dia buat kerja
07:53clean.
07:55Clean.
07:56Tapi yang selalu kata
07:57ialah lelaki lah
07:57sebab lelaki
07:58maybe tak pandai
07:58nyorok kot.
07:59Betul.
08:00Ha, betul juga.
08:01Okay, this is my opinion.
08:04Curang
08:04doesn't necessarily
08:05always mean
08:06physical
08:08intimacy.
08:10Oh.
08:10It doesn't always mean
08:11that for women.
08:12It's always
08:13emotional.
08:14Ha.
08:15It could be
08:16an emotional
08:16infidelity
08:17meaning
08:18macam
08:19I seek for you
08:21for example.
08:22I seek for you
08:23for comfort.
08:24because I
08:25tak dapat comfort
08:26daripada my partner.
08:27So, I need you
08:29someone who is
08:29understanding.
08:30You talk to me
08:31nicely.
08:32You treat me
08:33nicely.
08:34You not necessarily
08:35buy me things
08:36but you hear me.
08:36Hmm.
08:38Oh.
08:38Itu pun dikira
08:39curang kan?
08:40Ya.
08:41No,
08:41technically it's not
08:42kirakan yet
08:44but it will
08:45lead to
08:45something else.
08:46Okay,
08:46maksudnya punca-punca
08:48kecurangan tu
08:48boleh berlaku
08:49daripada
08:49benda-benda macam tu lah.
08:50Okay, maybe I nak
08:51tanya korang.
08:52Korang dua.
08:53Apa
08:53apa ciri-ciri curang
08:54bagi korang?
08:57Oh, wow.
08:57That's a very
08:58subjective question.
08:59Tapi bagi I
09:00reply DM
09:03perempuan pun
09:04dah dikira curang.
09:05Kalau I lah.
09:06Reply DM je?
09:08Ha.
09:08Itu bagi I
09:09dah kira curang lah.
09:10Keluarkan alih
09:11daripada pokkas ni.
09:13Tak, sebab
09:14there's a niat
09:15behind it.
09:16Oh, kalau macam tu
09:18kalau ada niat tu
09:19yang you nak
09:20reply perempuan
09:21punya DM tu
09:22it's like
09:23you're flirting
09:24on the surface.
09:25You may think
09:26it's as a joke
09:27but something in you
09:28will tell you
09:29eh, actually
09:29this girl's
09:30kind of cute lah.
09:31Ya.
09:31Maksudnya you
09:32attract dengan dia
09:32that's why you
09:33decide nak DM dia.
09:35Oh, DM tu
09:36maksudnya contoh
09:36macam dia ada
09:37upload story ke apa
09:38so kita react ke
09:39pasal and then
09:39when you like
09:40the pictures
09:41you like pun.
09:42Oh, like pun.
09:43Okay, listen.
09:44Listen.
09:44Listen.
09:45Listen to me
09:46when I'm saying this.
09:47Okay, I know
09:48it sounds crazy
09:49but
09:50you know
09:51when you're liking
09:52for example
09:53you don't know
09:54this person
09:54you don't know
09:54this girl
09:55this is from
09:56a man's standpoint
09:56eh.
09:57You like this picture
09:59you tengok profile
10:00dia
10:00then you like
10:01you like
10:01semua benda
10:02what are you
10:03implying?
10:04Do you want
10:04to imply that
10:05you want to
10:05know that
10:06that girl knows
10:06you exist?
10:08If you tanya
10:08I
10:08sometimes I like
10:11sebab I suka
10:11apa yang dia post tu
10:12so that means
10:13kalau tu muka dia
10:14what are you
10:21implying?
10:21Do you imply that
10:22oh actually
10:22I find this girl
10:23attractive
10:23let me make her
10:24known that
10:25I exist
10:25oh
10:27eh tak tak tak
10:28kalau I
10:28contoh-contoh eh
10:29kalau I
10:31I can like
10:32contoh macam
10:32project dia tengah
10:34buat ke
10:34let's say
10:35macam dia
10:36celebrity ke
10:37apa kan
10:37tapi kalau
10:39yang macam
10:40memang
10:41gambar dia
10:41sendiri je
10:42macam
10:43santik lah
10:45oh ok
10:46yang tu logik lah
10:46point tu
10:47santik lah
10:48so that means
10:49you have
10:49some intention
10:51unconsciously
10:52in your head
10:53so as women
10:54when we see
10:55a guy that's
10:56slightly attractive
10:57likes our picture
10:59and then kita tengok
11:00oh sorry
11:01kita tengok
11:02dia punya profile tau
11:04and then they're like
11:05oh actually
11:05this guy is
11:06quite cute
11:07why is he
11:08on my profile
11:09you know
11:10so as women
11:12we
11:12we analyze
11:13and we
11:14overthink
11:15everything
11:17so when we
11:18overthink that
11:19and we analyze
11:20kita macam
11:20oh mama ni suka
11:21but then
11:22when you find out
11:24on his profile pula
11:25ada girlfriend dia
11:26that's when you know
11:28it's like
11:29oh
11:29yep
11:30he's up to something
11:32it may not necessarily
11:35mean anything to you
11:36but that's the impression
11:37that you're giving
11:38to other people
11:39what if
11:41kalau dia punya
11:42partner
11:43maksudnya
11:45dia punya partner
11:46tak kisah pun
11:46bukanlah tak kisah
11:47maksudnya
11:47dia tahu yang
11:49boyfriend dia tu
11:50memang suka like je
11:52oh
11:53hobi dia like
11:54macam
11:54maybe random
11:56dia follow
11:56okay
11:57kita ambil contoh
11:58macam
11:58it's so baffling to me
11:59sebab
12:00sebab contoh
12:01macam Erika kan
12:02Erika dia
12:02as an
12:04as an influencer
12:05so akan
12:05I mean
12:07sebagai public figure
12:08kan
12:08orang kan
12:09page pun memang
12:11public
12:11so benda tu kan
12:12macam normal
12:13untuk orang like
12:14apa yang you post
12:15kalau macam tu
12:16ada tak
12:16you rasa macam
12:17benda tu adalah
12:18intention
12:19to lead
12:21ke arah macam
12:22eh mamat ni tengah
12:23nak try aku ni
12:24okay
12:25I rasa
12:26it is
12:27to each their own
12:28sebab
12:29bila macam
12:30okay
12:30how do I say this
12:32dia macam
12:33okay
12:34you are
12:35a public figure
12:35you rasa
12:37semua orang
12:38akan like your post lah
12:39you know
12:40men
12:40women
12:40whatever
12:41in that position
12:45I don't see it
12:45as like
12:46oh that guy likes me
12:48tapi
12:48if that
12:49how do I say
12:50one person
12:52akan like gambar I
12:54banyak-banyak
12:54banyak
12:55okay betul
12:56when you have
12:57put yourself out there
12:58macam you pinpoint
12:59you ni
12:59suka
13:00content I
13:01sangat-sangat
13:02sampai you DM I
13:04but then you have a partner
13:06that's when you know
13:08like he's
13:09something wrong
13:09in his head lah
13:10contoh macam
13:11bila Erica dapat
13:12notification tu
13:13orang yang sama
13:13tengah lah
13:14betul
13:15I don't see
13:15everybody doing that
13:17I tak nampak
13:18macam semua orang
13:19yang buat macam tu
13:20tapi ada
13:21sesatulah
13:23like one of the guys
13:24would do that
13:25not all
13:26but some
13:27so you usually
13:29memang kalau you dah
13:29perasan tu
13:30kalau you dah notice tu
13:31memang you akan
13:31check dia punya profile
13:32nak make sure
13:33dia ada partner ke tak lah
13:34sometimes I tak kisah
13:36because it's like
13:38kau punya pasal
13:39you deal with
13:41your own problem lah
13:42I'm just there
13:43as a public figure
13:44I don't know you
13:45you don't know me
13:45like that
13:46I don't have any
13:47I
13:49tak ada kaitan dengan
13:51you lah
13:51I nak cari pasal
13:52pasal hidung kau lah
13:53tapi kan jujur
13:54kalau ada lelaki
13:56like you punya post
13:57and then you tengok
13:58DP dia
13:58comel
13:59you aku buka tak
14:00of course
14:01of course
14:02tengok lah
14:02ok
14:03is that
14:03because
14:03cuci mata
14:04untuk siapa
14:06contoh macam Erica
14:07untuk
14:07ok you
14:08korang couple
14:09Erica buat macam tu
14:10you ok
14:12ok
14:13maknanya ada
14:14ada mamat ni
14:15like dia
14:15DM ke apa
14:16lepas tu
14:17I tengok
14:17Erica
14:18oh kalau
14:19kalau I
14:20I rasa ok je
14:20oh you ok
14:21dia memang santai lah
14:23takde lah
14:23santai sangat
14:24sebab
14:24I rasa kalau
14:25kita dengan partner
14:26kita tahu kot
14:27dia punya tu
14:28so that's the difference
14:32the only reason why
14:33people who do this
14:35is because they don't trust
14:36their partners
14:36tu sahaja
14:37actually
14:38ok
14:38bercakap pasal tu kan
14:40bercakap soal trust
14:41sebenarnya
14:42soal trust ni pun
14:43dia start datang
14:46sebab
14:48berlakunya
14:49benda-benda yang
14:49pernah jadi
14:51something lah kan
14:52so that's why
14:53perempuan dah start
14:54investigation
14:55orang kan
14:56jadi detektif
14:56Conan
14:57yes
14:57kan
14:58detektif Conan
14:59yes
14:59the only reason why
15:01women get crazy
15:02after
15:02a while
15:04is because
15:05something happen
15:05sebab polis terbaik
15:07di dunia bukan
15:08FBI tau
15:08tapi adalah wanita
15:10perempuan
15:10saya setuju
15:11that's why I said to you
15:14women are more capable
15:15of doing things
15:16that you takkan tahu
15:18ok tapi sebelum kita
15:19sama tu sorry
15:20kita nak
15:21waitress
15:22kita punya waitress ni
15:24lovely waitress
15:24oh thank you
15:25say hi to the camera please
15:27sorry boleh tambah gula
15:28no
15:29sebab you dah cukup manis
15:31is this considered cheating
15:34eh cek tu dah ada partner belum
15:37tak ada partner
15:39tak ada
15:40bagi nombor
15:41ok
15:43tapi betul juga
15:44macam Erika cakap tadi kan
15:46ok
15:46soal trust
15:47kan
15:48sebab dia curang
15:49it's a big thing
15:49it's a big role in your relationship
15:51betul
15:52benda berlaku
15:53eh sorry
15:53benda berlaku ke arah curang ni
15:55sebab bermulanya
15:56bila
15:56timbul soal kepercayaan lah
15:58soal trust
15:59kan
15:59and I rasa kalau benda tu
16:01tak pernah jadi
16:01jadi kalau partner tu
16:03like gambar orang lain pun
16:04dia tak ada rasa apa-apalah
16:05sebab dia ada trust tu kan
16:06tetapi
16:08bila terlampau percaya pun
16:10dia boleh jadi
16:11advantage
16:11advantage kan
16:13betul tak
16:14betul
16:14ya
16:15so
16:16ok
16:16tadi kita cerita pasal curang kan
16:18curang dan trust
16:19ok
16:20sekarang saya nak tanya
16:22you lah Erika kan
16:23macam you cakap tadi
16:26benda yang curang ni
16:28dia boleh jadi
16:28bila
16:29ok partner kita tak bagi
16:31apa yang
16:32ada orang lain tu bagi
16:33tengah bagi
16:34contoh macam
16:35bila kita bekerja sekali
16:36satu tempat yang sama
16:37kes
16:39curang di Malaysia
16:40paling tinggi
16:41adalah bermula
16:42dari tempat kerja
16:43oh
16:43yeah like
16:44why
16:4576%
16:47kes pencerayaan
16:48eh pencerayaan
16:49kecerangan di Malaysia
16:50berlaku adalah bermula
16:51dari tempat kerja
16:52wow
16:53macam you know
16:54they roleplay lah
16:55they roleplay
16:55oh you're my work wife
16:57you're my work husband
16:59sayang
17:01you dekat mana
17:01kat pantry ke
17:02wow
17:03kan
17:04like that lah
17:05betul kan
17:06sebab
17:07contohlah
17:07macam Alia dengan Azmi
17:09eh
17:10tak nak kan
17:11sahaja bagi contoh tak best
17:12I'm scared for my life
17:15don't ever say that
17:16online
17:16contoh
17:19sahaja bagi contoh tak best
17:22ok contohlah
17:23macam Alia kan
17:24Alia dekat ofis
17:25hari-hari
17:26lepas tu
17:27yelah bekerja dengan orang tu
17:28hari-hari kan
17:29jumpa dia everyday
17:30jumpa dia everyday
17:31sometimes
17:31dia bukannya
17:33you yang suka dia
17:34ataupun dia suka you
17:35dia jadi
17:36naturally
17:37dia jadi macam
17:39spontan je
17:40contoh you pula tengah ada problem
17:41dengan partner you
17:42masa you dengan partner
17:45lagi sikit daripada masa
17:48you dengan your colleague tau
17:49betul
17:50so most of the time tu
17:51memang you dengan
17:51dengan orang-orang yang selalu ada kan
17:53sekejap eh polis
17:54oh tak tak
17:56kenapa lah
17:57ingat siren
17:57helaria
17:58kopi semua ok eh
18:01takde camp apa kan
18:03ok
18:04so
18:05itu antara punca-punca yang boleh
18:07seseorang tu
18:09tercurang sebenarnya
18:10curang ni memang pilihan
18:12tapi kad-kadang dia
18:13boleh jadi sebab
18:14tercurang tanpa niat
18:16tercurang tanpa niat
18:17faham
18:17ok
18:18this is
18:19what
18:20I can take on
18:20at the end of the day
18:21we are human
18:23and
18:24humans need
18:25other human connection
18:26to feel something
18:28because ok
18:29for example
18:29you're isolated
18:30somewhere
18:31you're alone
18:32you not
18:35then
18:35the first person you meet
18:37is just some
18:37somebody else
18:38you're gonna fall in love
18:39with that person immediately
18:40because his companionship
18:42is all we want
18:42you know
18:43so when you get the companionship
18:45every single day
18:46your feelings
18:47as humans
18:48slowly
18:49gradually
18:50will grow
18:51bigger
18:52and bigger
18:52and bigger
18:53but that is also
18:54a choice for you to make
18:55because
18:56yeah
18:57that may happen
18:58unconsciously in your head
18:59dalam hati you juga
19:00tapi
19:01in your mind
19:02you have logical thinking juga
19:04you boleh pilih
19:05everything that you do
19:06in your
19:07in your life
19:08is a choice
19:09it's a choice for you to make
19:10it's a yes or no
19:11so macam
19:12like everything is written down
19:14for you kan
19:15like God has already
19:17done that for you
19:18so whatever you choose
19:20is the one that he wrote down
19:21for you
19:21betul
19:22I ada
19:23terjumpa dekat twitter
19:24ada satu tweet ni
19:27lelaki
19:27curang kerana
19:29nafsu
19:29perempuan curang kerana
19:31emosional
19:31betul
19:32oh lelaki curang kerana
19:34nafsu
19:34perempuan sebab emosional
19:35ada
19:35yes
19:36perempuan ikutkan perasaan
19:37so marah dengan partner dia kan
19:40so macam
19:40marah dengan partner dia
19:41so apa yang ada dekat
19:42dengan dia masa tu
19:43yang selalu ada
19:44tiba-tiba macam
19:44keli dia ni baik pula
19:45yes
19:46and lelaki pula
19:47dia macam nampak
19:48peluang tu
19:49then why not kan
19:50oh
19:50lelaki ada tiga nafsu
19:53apa tu
19:54makan
19:55makan
19:56nafsu apa
19:57bukan
19:58salah
19:58no salah
20:00salah
20:01it's money
20:02oh money
20:03women
20:04and power
20:06so in Melayu
20:07berjudi
20:09perempuan
20:10dengan kuasa
20:12betul lah
20:13betul lah sebenarnya
20:14betul
20:15I ada tiga tu
20:16tapi semua
20:16subtle je
20:17I control
20:19so
20:19bagus
20:20for example
20:22bila lelaki tu
20:23ada kuasa
20:24he
20:25has
20:26the nafsu
20:27to spend on
20:28everything and everything
20:29and for example
20:31macam
20:31he can pay off
20:31the police lah
20:32gitu
20:32bila lelaki ada
20:35berjudi
20:37duit
20:37dia
20:39nafsu dia
20:40dia nak
20:40menang dia
20:40menang
20:41menang je
20:41betul
20:42you know
20:42because nothing is enough
20:43I setuju
20:44for
20:45perempuan
20:46it's what you call
20:47a womanizer
20:48one is not enough
20:51one woman
20:52for him is not enough
20:53a man can cheat
20:54on a woman
20:55on a woman
20:57that he loves
20:58very much
20:59macam dia sayang
21:00you gila-gila
21:01walau macam mana pun
21:03he will still
21:04cheat on you
21:05because it's not enough
21:06for his ego
21:07tu macam ego
21:08blah
21:08it's not enough
21:10for his
21:11insecurity
21:12because he's
21:13also maybe
21:14his
21:14love
21:16is not
21:17met
21:17with his
21:18partner
21:18like
21:19banyak lah
21:20macam
21:20his
21:23nafsu
21:23is not
21:24met
21:24with his
21:25partner
21:25he tries
21:25somewhere
21:26else lah
21:26but
21:28still doesn't
21:29justify the fact
21:29that you cheat
21:30if you want
21:31to cheat
21:31or if you want
21:32to do something
21:33like that
21:33don't be with
21:35your partner
21:35let her go
21:36let her or him
21:37go
21:37and then you do
21:38the things
21:39you want to do
21:39when you're single
21:40and you have no
21:41strings to touch
21:42with anybody
21:43so that you don't
21:43break anybody's heart
21:44it's a win-win situation
21:46but some people
21:47tamak
21:48they still are
21:50with their partner
21:50tapi mereka nak buat
21:52juga mereka nak buat
21:53because they don't
21:53want to lose that person
21:54because they know
21:55that person is the best
21:57you know
21:57so it's not fair lah
21:59betul
22:00I selalu juga dengar
22:01bila orang
22:02lelaki
22:03dia yang
22:04dari from zero
22:05and then dia ada
22:06girlfriend lah
22:07ke wife ke
22:07kan yang
22:08slowly naik
22:09and suddenly
22:09bila dia ada
22:10satu-satu tahap tu
22:11dia dah macam kaya
22:12dia dah ada power
22:13dia tak ingat
22:14dia tak ingat dunia
22:16tapi dia still rasa
22:16wife dia the best
22:17dia nak keep
22:18as wife
22:19dia still nak cari
22:20perempuan lain
22:21untuk macam
22:21minum
22:21kubus
22:22cakap dengan kawan-kawan dia
22:23setuju tak
22:25I
22:26I
22:26I kena agree
22:27benda ni lah
22:28sebab macam
22:29Rika cakap tadi kan
22:30lelaki ni bila dia dah ada
22:31dia dah ada
22:32dia dah ada power
22:33dia dah ada duit
22:33walaupun dari awal tu
22:35dia dengan partner dia
22:36okay je
22:36eh
22:37waktu dia tengah
22:37susah ke apa
22:39kan tapi bila dia dah sampai
22:40satu
22:41dia dah reach
22:42satu apa ni
22:43fasa hidup yang baru kan
22:45dia dah ada duit
22:46kalau apa
22:46dia ada power
22:47so sometimes
22:48masa tu sebenarnya
22:49lelaki ni memang akan
22:50diuji bila
22:51dia tengah ada
22:53semuanya
22:54perempuan diuji
22:54bila lelaki tu
22:55tengah tak ada apa-apa lah
22:56kan
22:57so
22:58bila dia nak
22:59dia tetap nak simpan
23:00dia punya partner dia tu
23:01sebab dia tahu
23:02yang the best
23:03tetap partner dia
23:04betul betul betul
23:05cuma dia tengah ada
23:06extra kan
23:08tamak lah
23:08ada tamak lah
23:09kan
23:09and then
23:10itu kalau lelaki lah
23:12tapi kalau perempuan pula
23:13dia sentiasa akan diuji
23:16bila partner
23:17tak ada apa-apa
23:19oh
23:19faham tak
23:20jadi bila partner dia tengah
23:22tak ada apa-apa
23:23macam aduh
23:23leceh lah
23:24dia ni daripada dulu
23:25melainkan partner tu
23:27memang bangang lah
23:27jenis tak nak kerja ke apa
23:28kan
23:29ni jenis
23:29dia nampak sini partner dia tengah
23:31work hard
23:32ada effort semua tu
23:34tapi still tak dapat lagi
23:35itulah waktu dia diuji lah
23:37so masa tu
23:38dekat ofis pula
23:39ada yang tengah bagus-bagus kan
23:41ada orang tengah position
23:42yang tengah baik pula
23:43dengan dia
23:43so benda tu boleh jadilah
23:45itu masalah dengan perempuan
23:46sebab perempuan suka compare
23:48hmm
23:49perempuan tak dinafikan
23:51mereka suka ter-compare tu
23:53dan lelaki pula
23:55dia tak suka di-compare
23:56di-banding-bandingkan
23:58sebab
23:59bagi lelaki
24:00apa yang dia buat tu adalah dia
24:01yang orang lain buat tu
24:02diorang lah
24:03oh iya ke
24:03sebab lelaki
24:05TIL
24:06to the island
24:07TIL
24:08to the island
24:10lupa pula
24:11TIL
24:12TIL
24:13contohlah contoh kan
24:16tapi
24:16berbalik pada topik kita curang ni
24:18sebenarnya
24:18curang ni takkan jadi
24:19kalau daripada satu pihak je
24:20kan
24:22dia
24:23memang kena dua-dua pihak tu
24:24itulah jadinya curang
24:25yes
24:26so
24:27but
24:28it's not always a woman's fault
24:30sometimes
24:33it's not the woman's fault
24:34avoid the magic
24:35yeah betul
24:36i setuju
24:37because
24:37benda ni dalam
24:38lelaki sendiri
24:39it's engraved
24:41in your DNA
24:42it's already there
24:43oh yes
24:44it's already there
24:45hmm
24:46because
24:47like i said
24:48lelaki banyak nafsu
24:50hmm
24:50it you
24:51like
24:51then okay
24:52for example eh
24:53if you have the best wife in the world
24:55you have the best partner in the world
24:57then why cheat
24:57hmm
24:59why cheat
25:00if you know that she's the best
25:02in the best in the world
25:04why do you cheat
25:05hmm
25:06yeah
25:07it doesn't always go
25:09both ways
25:10it does
25:11don't get me wrong
25:12tapi
25:13sometimes
25:14it's always just
25:15the man
25:16yang rasa macam
25:18aku nak lebih
25:19yeah
25:20betul
25:21for women
25:22so it's the same
25:23it goes the same way
25:24it's within us
25:25kita rasa apa yang kita rasa
25:27kita nak buat apa yang kita nak buat
25:29ikut kepala sendiri
25:30you don't think of
25:32the consequences
25:33of what comes after
25:34you just do it in the heat of the moment
25:37because you are
25:38emotional
25:38hot shit
25:39you know what i mean
25:40you're emotional
25:41you're vulnerable
25:41you're this
25:42you're that
25:43you're so many things
25:45you don't think of
25:46what's gonna happen next
25:47hmm
25:47betul
25:48betul jugalah
25:49yes
25:50cuma
25:50bagi i pula
25:51i rasa
25:53setiap kejadian tu
25:54mesti ada sebab
25:55hmm
25:56hmm
25:56kan
25:57let's say lah
25:58kalau kita nak cakap
25:59something will trigger
25:59benda yang boleh trigger
26:01tak kisah lelaki ke perempuan
26:03tapi benda yang boleh trigger
26:05salah seorang tu
26:06untuk buat hal
26:06gaduh ke
26:08kan kena gaduh
26:09tapi benda tu
26:10selalu sangat jadi
26:11macam partner dah
26:12dah advise
26:13cakap baik-baik pun
26:13cakap
26:13kita tak boleh macam ni
26:14tapi benda tu keep on
26:15happen
26:16so itulah
26:17start hati dah tawar
26:19kan
26:19tapi kan
26:21ada juga case
26:21yang perempuan single
26:22tapi lelaki tu
26:24dah ada partner
26:25dan wife ke apa
26:26lelaki tu yang
26:26try perempuan single tu
26:28benda perempuan single tu
26:29still rasa
26:30macam benda tu salah
26:31tapi
26:32i rasa ada je
26:33banyak case yang
26:34macam perempuan single
26:35dah cakap macam
26:36oh jangan kacau i
26:36i tak nak rosakkan
26:38rumah tangga tu
26:39tapi sebab lelaki tu
26:40keep push dia
26:41sampai lah lama-lama
26:42perempuan tu
26:43jatuh cinta juga
26:43sebab perempuan senang
26:45jatuh cinta
26:46yeah it's because
26:47when we know a man
26:48really wants us
26:49and he keeps
26:50trying and trying
26:52and trying
26:52kita pun ego
26:54kita pun boost juga
26:55sebab macam
26:56oh you think
26:57i'm the best
26:57you really want me
26:58like that
26:58so you rasa macam
27:01like terharu lah
27:03macam
27:03oh tapi
27:04this guy wants me
27:05betul
27:06tapi
27:06maknanya kat situ
27:08macam kita cakap tadi lah
27:09dia orang tetap ada pilihan juga
27:10untuk
27:10but you have a choice
27:12so kalau dia tak nak
27:14benda tu takkan jadi jugak lah
27:15betul
27:16i mean everybody has a
27:19everybody has a logical
27:21thinking senses in their head
27:23like i said
27:24kita selalu
27:26akan fikir logical
27:27tapi
27:29there's always
27:31the devil's
27:33talk in your head
27:34you know
27:34saying this is better
27:36that is better
27:37so semua
27:38penerianan syaitan
27:39je lah
27:40okay macam you sendiri Erika
27:41yeah
27:42you dengan partner you
27:43yes
27:44okay
27:44you tahu apa benda-benda
27:46yang boleh berlaku
27:47macam kita cerita
27:48pasal curang sebenarnya
27:48okay
27:49so apa cara
27:50macam mana you dengan partner you
27:52usually
27:52untuk elakkan
27:54benda-benda ni jadi
27:56tapi kan
27:59actually ini
28:00adakah ini
28:01tanggungjawab
28:02partner tu
28:03untuk jaga dia
28:04ataupun ini tanggungjawab dia
28:05no
28:05dia sendiri sebenarnya
28:06kalau bagi idea sendiri
28:07kan
28:08we are not their mothers
28:10laki-bumpuan sama
28:11kita bukan mak dorang
28:12untuk cuci ibu untuk engkau
28:13we are not your mothers
28:15to follow you
28:17to see what you are
28:18to do
28:18we
28:19at the end of the day
28:20as a woman
28:21we just want to be loved
28:23we want to be cared for
28:24we want to be
28:25secured with
28:27we want to be
28:28stable with
28:29that's it
28:30hidup keamanan
28:31kalau engkau tak aman
28:34memang aku lagi tak aman dengan kau
28:35okay
28:36okay
28:37macam you
28:37you sendiri kan
28:39you pernah tak alami like
28:40pernah tak relationship
28:41before this
28:42you pernah kena curang ke
28:43and then
28:44apa yang you buat
28:45you bagi dia second chance
28:46ataupun
28:47you akan
28:47macam
28:48tutur mata je ke
28:49ataupun you singalkan dia
28:51orang curang tu sekarang
28:52partner you sekarang
28:53no lah
28:53oh okay
28:54no lah
28:54i gave a second chance
28:57to my ex-boyfriend lah dulu
28:58oh okay
28:58why
28:59because i was young
29:01and
29:02i thought people could change
29:04i always believe in
29:06good things for other people
29:07i never thought of
29:08macam
29:08bad things about people
29:10because i always believe
29:12people have a reason
29:12to do so
29:13people have a reason
29:14to do the things
29:15that they do
29:16so i try to fix it lah
29:17okay
29:18if you
29:19have a problem
29:20let's talk about it
29:20lady on the table
29:21kita cakap
29:22cakap elok-elok
29:23tapi kalau kau tak faham lagi
29:25then i cannot do anything
29:26yeah
29:27i'm only capable
29:29to do my best
29:30but if you still
29:31cannot see
29:32that i'm trying my best
29:33then
29:34it's not my loss lah
29:36berapa kali chance
29:37you bagi kat dia
29:38satu je
29:39satu je
29:40and then the second time
29:41you buat
29:41then you chow
29:42yeah
29:42and then after that
29:43it just didn't
29:44it didn't fall back to
29:46where we started lah
29:47so the love just
29:49gradually went away
29:51faham
29:51you know
29:52he got distant
29:53i got distant
29:53so macam
29:54tak apalah
29:55dia takkan boleh jadi sama
29:56dalam macam
29:57the first time kita
29:58of course lah
29:59i mean you
29:59crumple up a piece of paper
30:01you buka balik
30:02you say sorry
30:03is it gonna be iron back straight
30:04the same way
30:06no
30:06it's
30:07you can't
30:09fix the things
30:10that had already
30:11happened in the past
30:13but you can make it
30:14better
30:14like
30:15after a while
30:16depending on the person
30:17korang setuju tak
30:18orang cakap
30:19once a cheater
30:20always a cheater
30:21yes
30:22at some certain point
30:26at some certain limit
30:27yeah
30:28i think i would say
30:29at some certain point
30:30yeah
30:31sebab
30:31tapi betul juga
30:32sebab kadang-kadang
30:33dia ada sebab
30:33kenapa dia menipu tu
30:34ok contoh
30:35let's say
30:36i bagi contoh
30:37kenapa lelaki
30:38suka menipu
30:39partner dia
30:40ok contoh
30:42oh i takut kena marah
30:43ni bukan i lah
30:44ni member i yang lelaki lah
30:45member
30:46ok faham
30:47cerita pada dia orang kan
30:48dia bukan sengaja
30:49nak tipu tau
30:50ok contoh
30:51dia nak pergi lepak
30:52ok contoh
30:53i don't know
30:53nak tengok bola
30:54ke apa kan
30:54so every time
30:55dia beritahu partner dia
30:56partner dia akan macam
30:57marah
30:58so macam
30:59tipu sunat
31:00so dia
31:01dia anggap
31:02lelaki ni
31:03dia anggap macam
31:04dia terpaksa tipu sunat
31:05supaya
31:06dia pun tak ada problem
31:07dengan partner dia
31:08and dia pun boleh ada
31:09apa ni
31:10me time dia sendiri
31:11dengan kawan-kawan dia
31:12win-win situation
31:12tapi
31:13so
31:14at first
31:15i nak highlight kat situ
31:17yang diorang tak ada niat pun
31:18sometimes
31:19tapi
31:20dia macam tengok
31:22macam mana
31:22cara partner dia jugalah
31:23kalau partner dia
31:25jenis yang macam
31:26eh this week you tak nak pergi
31:27eh this week you pergi
31:28ajak lah your friend
31:29contoh eh
31:30i rasa
31:30takkan ada berlaku pun
31:32macam dia rasa nak
31:33tipu ke apa
31:33tak tipu
31:34eh no point aku nak tipu
31:35girlfriend aku
31:36atau wife aku sendiri
31:38yang macam
31:38faham
31:40you faham tak
31:41macam
31:41of course lah
31:42most of the time
31:43memang you dengan partner you kan
31:44so sometimes lelaki ni
31:45dia nak ada macam
31:45dengarkan kawan tau
31:46dia orang macam
31:47suka chill-chill
31:48like snooker
31:50ke
31:51apa-apalah kan
31:52anything lah
31:53so dia orang akan
31:54start tipu
31:55kalau partner dia orang sendiri
31:56yang start
31:57macam
31:57you ni tak habis-habis lah
31:59you tak fikir berapa perasaan
32:00air
32:00tapi banyak lambat sangat
32:01kenapa banyak lambat sangat kan
32:03so dekat situ lah
32:04kicam
32:04tak tadi ni ada
32:05so kiranya dia malas nak gaduh
32:08dia ni tipu sudu
32:08sebab lelaki dia tak nak
32:09complicate
32:10complicated
32:11but that's wrong
32:12betul
32:13that's wrong
32:14betul
32:15tetapi
32:15lelaki dia
32:17tak suka benda-benda
32:18remeh-remeh
32:19but this is where
32:20communication comes in
32:21yes
32:21when you communicate nicely
32:23it's okay
32:23what your partner buat macam tu
32:24you okay
32:25what if your girlfriend
32:27does that to you
32:28kalau dia tipu lah
32:29kalau dia tipu you
32:30dia nak
32:31dia nak keluar
32:33dengan girlfriend dia
32:34of course
32:35saya tak suka juga
32:36eh nah
32:36of course
32:37saya tak suka
32:37tapi
32:39macam saya cakap tadi lah
32:40dia ada sebab lah
32:41dia tengok
32:41dia tengok partner tu macam mana
32:42kan
32:43tapi usually
32:45perempuan akan bising
32:46maybe sebab dia
32:47risau
32:48faham tak
32:49risau tu betul lah
32:51lelaki selalu
32:52take it as
32:53macam membebel
32:54panas
32:55I'm hot
32:57makin panas
33:00makin panas
33:01tak boleh letak kipas
33:03topik makin panas
33:05topik makin panas
33:06okay wait
33:08well back to
33:09what you were saying tadi
33:11I rasa
33:12it is
33:14again
33:16there's no
33:18who's
33:19who's
33:20fault
33:20there's no
33:22there's no macam
33:23who's side is wrong
33:24it's
33:26it plays
33:27both ways
33:28you know
33:29sometimes it's here
33:30sometimes it's here
33:31sometimes it's both
33:32at the same time
33:33betul
33:34yeah so macam
33:35when you have
33:36a certain
33:37how do I say
33:38macam
33:38yang tipu sunat tu
33:40yang tipu sunat tu
33:42actually
33:42is because
33:44the guy lies to you
33:45sebab
33:46dia malas nak dengar
33:48kau bebe-bebe
33:48yeah
33:49dia tak nak gadul lah
33:50kalau you membebel
33:51you say this
33:52you say that
33:53he's gonna lie to you
33:54at the end of the day
33:55so as a woman
33:56the job is
33:57to ask him to
33:58communicate with you
33:59you know
34:00the reason
34:01why you nak keluar
34:02dengan kawan you sangat
34:03why you want to do this
34:04you gotta learn
34:06because it's
34:07both ways
34:08again if you don't
34:09communicate
34:09benda ni lah
34:10yang akan jadi
34:11when you try to
34:13avoid certain things
34:14it will become
34:15better
34:15trust me
34:16because
34:17the only reason
34:19why things happen
34:19is because you don't
34:20talk to your partner
34:21properly
34:22you know
34:23you don't say
34:24what's on your mind
34:25you don't say
34:25what's concerning you
34:26and if that
34:28person
34:29your partner
34:29doesn't want to
34:30communicate
34:30then kau cari lain lah
34:33tu lah jadinya curang
34:34semua tu
34:35tu lah bermulanya
34:36titik-titik permulaan
34:38kecurangan tu
34:39you have to be open
34:40you know
34:41in a relationship
34:42it's all about commitment
34:43and honesty
34:45and transparency
34:46you have to be open
34:48to certain
34:49hard
34:50conversations
34:51macam
34:52you know
34:53like for example
34:54I bagi example
34:56dengan dia macam
34:56boyfriend
34:57bagi je
34:57boleh lah
34:58macam sementang-mentang
34:59I laki seorang
34:59bagi je dia
35:00kena adab ni
35:01orang mahu wakili
35:02semua laki hari ni
35:03iya
35:03akhir-akhir ni dia macam
35:04sebab gina
35:05for example
35:07you're my boyfriend
35:08you know
35:09I say
35:10a couple things
35:11to you
35:11like hey
35:12ada benda yang
35:14nak cakap dengan you
35:14it's actually quite
35:16important
35:18and I want you to
35:19listen to me
35:20sometimes
35:21whenever I talk to you
35:22about a problem
35:23you don't hear me
35:24you know
35:24you cakap je
35:26you dengar
35:26tapi masuk kanan
35:27keluar kiri
35:27you know
35:28you don't do
35:29what I tell you to do
35:30so kenapa
35:31I kena
35:32menjerit dekat you
35:33cakap banyak-banyak
35:34dekat you
35:34baru kau faham
35:35so what are you
35:38going to say to that
35:39jawab Aida
35:40okay
35:41macam anak cakap
35:43sebab sebenarnya
35:44jangan
35:46this is communication
35:49so you as a man
35:51what would you say
35:52to
35:53bila girlfriend
35:54you cakap
35:55macam tu dekat you
35:55macam you don't
35:56hear me
35:57you listen to me
35:58but you're not
35:59hearing me
35:59what I'm saying
36:00you know
36:00tapi I have to admit lah
36:02lelaki sometimes
36:03memang bila
36:04perempuan tengah
36:04luahkan apa-apa
36:05diorang kadang tak fokus
36:07memang
36:07life is simple
36:09why make it complicated
36:10you know
36:11sometimes
36:11so simple
36:13people like him lah
36:15I'm just kidding
36:16I'm just kidding
36:17dia kat belakang
36:19tak tak tak
36:21dia macam ni
36:21dia perempuan
36:22lelaki ni
36:22dia bukan
36:23dia bukan
36:24sahaja-sahaja nak ignore
36:25tapi sometimes
36:27I nak ambil sikit
36:28DNA yang memang
36:29ada kat perempuan eh
36:30diorang suka
36:31benda-benda kecil
36:32suka dibesar-besarkan
36:33jadi lelaki ni
36:35sometimes
36:35dia nak elakkan
36:36ala benda tu
36:37macam kecil je
36:38tapi
36:38perempuan suka
36:40expresskan tu
36:41dengan cara
36:42apa benda tu
36:43jadi macam besar tau
36:44so dia bermula
36:45dengan benda-benda
36:46macam tu
36:47sampai lah lelaki tu
36:48rasa macam
36:49ala benda ni
36:50tak nak
36:50macam
36:51okay
36:52I have a point
36:53for this one
36:54sorry eh
36:54okay
36:55when you say
36:57that perempuan
36:58suka
36:59betul kata-gagak
37:00selalu cicat kan
37:02betul kata-gagak
37:03you say that
37:04perempuan selalu
37:05buat benda yang
37:06macam
37:06you know like
37:07they like to make
37:08certain things
37:09big than
37:10what it's supposed to be
37:11betul
37:11so there's a reason
37:13behind this
37:14it's cause
37:14the only reason
37:16why we make it big
37:17is cause
37:17things happen
37:18the same things
37:19happen
37:20again
37:20again and again
37:21and again
37:22first
37:23first
37:23kita dah cakap
37:24elok-elok
37:24tak mau dengar
37:25second
37:26cakap elok-elok lagi
37:28tak mau dengar
37:29tiga
37:30cakap elok-elok lagi
37:32tapi just a little bit
37:33of attitude
37:34tak mau dengar juga
37:35fourth time
37:37we're gonna
37:38burst up
37:39because it's like
37:40yes
37:41it may be a
37:42small situation
37:43for you
37:44but you as a partner
37:45you should
37:46meet with
37:47your partner's needs
37:48and it goes
37:49both ways
37:50so you guys
37:50will meet in the middle
37:51even if benda tu kecil pun
37:53yes even benda tu kecil
37:54for example
37:55you guys dah kahwin
37:56you leave
37:57dirty socks on the floor
37:58every time you come back
37:59home from work
37:59and every time
38:01I have to pick it up
38:02padahal
38:03basin kat sebelah
38:04you know
38:05why can't you
38:06just put
38:07your socks
38:08in the basin
38:09but nanti
38:11you cakap
38:11nanti us
38:12nanti I buat
38:13ok je lah
38:13I just pick it up lah
38:14what's the problem
38:15I setuju juga
38:16lelaki dia tak boleh
38:16cakap sekali
38:17dia kena cakap
38:17banyak kali
38:18and tambah
38:19mengamuk sikit
38:19baru dia
38:20yes
38:20so that's why I say
38:23kenapa I kena
38:24menjerit dekat you
38:25baru kau faham
38:27why do you have to
38:28fall flat face
38:29on the ground
38:30kena batang hidung kau
38:31baru kau nak change
38:32betul lah tu
38:33kan betul lah tu
38:34it's the same
38:35thing
38:36because it's very
38:36very simple
38:37it's super simple
38:39you did something wrong
38:41you fix it
38:41you don't do it again
38:42when you do it again
38:43that's when you
38:44can find trouble
38:45nak tambah sikit
38:46yang tu bahas
38:47setuju
38:47cuma perempuan pula
38:49bila dia dah cakap
38:50something
38:50dekat partner dia
38:52and bila lelaki tu cakap
38:53ok
38:53jangan basal-basal kan
38:55perempuan pun kena accept
38:56juga benda tu
38:56sometimes
38:56so bila
38:58benda ni memang
38:59kena berlaku
39:00dua-dua side
39:00kalau dia dah cakap
39:01kat lelaki
39:02lelaki cakap
39:02ok benda ni
39:03take it easy kan
39:04dia tahu apa
39:05dia nak kena buat
39:06contoh lah kan
39:07so perempuan tu
39:08kena tahu
39:09ok benda tu
39:10benda kecil
39:10so aku dah beritahu
39:11kat partner aku
39:12kan
39:13so dia tak boleh
39:14kalau dia keep on
39:16ulang benda yang sama
39:17itu kadang-kadang lelaki pun
39:18dia fed up
39:19kan
39:21sometimes dia dah cakap
39:22kan dah bercakap
39:23hari tu
39:24benda kecil je
39:25contohlah
39:26contoh
39:26so at the end
39:28saya rasa benda ni
39:29macam kita cakap tadi
39:31dia bukan soal lelaki ke perempuan
39:33masing-masing ada
39:35apa ni orang cakap
39:37ada ego diorang
39:38ada ego masing-masing
39:39masing-masing ada
39:41keinginan masing-masing
39:42ketidak puas hati
39:43ketidak puas hati
39:44hatian masing-masing
39:46so
39:47untuk I
39:48saya rasa
39:49tak ada
39:50tak ada spesifik
39:52yang cakap
39:53curang tu daripada
39:54lelaki
39:54lelaki sahaja
39:55ataupun curang tu daripada
39:56perempuan
39:57kan
39:57so you nak cakap roots dia
39:58datang daripada
39:59diri sendiri sebenarnya
40:00actually kan
40:01it's actually very hard
40:03to cheat tau
40:03susah tau sebenarnya
40:05sebab
40:06nak kena ingat
40:08you kena ingat yang
40:10I cannot let anybody
40:11know about this
40:12or that
40:14my cover is blown
40:15tapi memang susah
40:17because it's very draining
40:19I mean
40:19I have
40:21I mean
40:21no experience in that lah
40:22I've never done it
40:23Allah kualam
40:24I've never done it
40:25and I don't think
40:26I'll ever do it
40:27because
40:27I don't have
40:28a single bone
40:29in my body
40:30untuk buat macam tu
40:32but some people
40:34they do that
40:34it's actually
40:35quite tiring
40:36because you kena
40:37melayankan
40:38banyak-banyak orang
40:39banyak orang
40:40dia kena ingat tu
40:42kena align
40:44jalan cipu
40:45yes
40:45it's literally
40:47like committing a crime
40:48faham tak
40:49it's literally that
40:51like you're
40:51murdering someone
40:52and then you have to
40:53cover up your tracks
40:54it's crazy
40:56I don't know why
40:57people do it
40:57ada juga orang suka
40:58sebab benda tu
40:59thrills
40:59yes
41:00and mostly
41:02adrenaline
41:02yang I rasa
41:03yang suka macam tu
41:04it's lucky
41:04tak habis-habis
41:07kira ni
41:07asyik kena dengan kita
41:10dari ni kan
41:11betul lah
41:11lelaki kan suka
41:12apa
41:13assignment
41:13benda-benda baru
41:14oh
41:15it's the thrill
41:17that you get from
41:18oh
41:19this girl is hot
41:21let me try her
41:22and then when you get her
41:23betul
41:24when you get her
41:25you're like
41:25oh
41:25power lah
41:27aku dapat lah
41:28tapi macam mana juga
41:30macam mana pula
41:31kalau dia try
41:32kalau orang macam dia akan
41:33tapi dia tak ada pun rasa
41:34yang macam
41:35oh kalau dapat ni
41:36dia ada proud tu
41:37ni sebab dia nak tipu kan
41:38so benda tu berlaku pun
41:39dalam yang tak ada
41:40siapa tahu
41:40you may or may not
41:43share with your members
41:44sure you share
41:45dengan member
41:46okay what if dia tak share
41:47ni betul-betul diam-diamnya
41:49then dia ada penyakit
41:50ya tahu
41:51then dia ada penyakit mental
41:52then you have something
41:53wrong with you lah
41:54yep
41:54but if you want to do it
41:57just for pride
41:58then that's when you tell your
41:59your members
42:01me like
42:01eh bro
42:02tengok ni perempuan ni
42:03aku dapat dia dah
42:04aku dapat dah
42:05dapat bantai dah
42:07tapi
42:08perempuan ada tak
42:09cakap jantung lelaki
42:09I can't say that
42:10it's disgusting
42:11serius lah
42:12perempuan tak cakap
42:13oh ya aku dah dapat
42:14dua jantai ni
42:14no
42:15no
42:15i think it's just
42:18more of like
42:18oh my god
42:19look at this guy
42:19it's cute right
42:20it's cute
42:20then habis
42:21esok dah nadikah
42:21then macam
42:22whatever
42:23perempuan tak pernah lah
42:24macam
42:25perempuan kalau nampak
42:26lelaki cute
42:27okay cute
42:27dah habis
42:28i literally just saw one
42:29just now
42:29just walking
42:30so i got distracted
42:32baju pink tu ke
42:33baju pink
42:34haa baju pink tadi
42:35cute kan baju pink tadi
42:39cute dia jalan-jalan
42:40macam ni
42:41wow
42:42rainbow
42:43rainbow
42:44tapi betul lah
42:48okay
42:48apa dia
42:49kita recap sikit
42:50kan
42:50curang ni berlaku
42:51mesti ada sebab
42:53kan
42:53dan
42:53something yang trigger
42:56antara salah seorang tu
42:58dan curang juga berlaku
43:01bermula bila
43:03orang dah start menipu lah
43:05yes
43:05kan
43:05bermula
43:06dia boleh jadi bermula
43:07daripada tipu sunat tu
43:08lama-kelamaan dia jadi kebiasaan
43:10so dia rasa benda tu
43:10macam tak ada apa lah
43:11take advantage of it lah
43:12kan
43:13tapi ada question tu
43:15arika
43:15sebab you kan macam
43:16influencer
43:16you dapat attention
43:18daripada ramai orang
43:19pernah tak
43:20you lalui
43:21situation ni mana
43:23macam benda tu
43:24affect you punya relationship
43:26macam
43:26ada
43:27partner you insecure ke
43:29ada
43:30ataupun you insecure
43:31dengan partner you ke
43:31ada
43:32ada
43:32so macam mana
43:33you handle benda tu
43:34there was one time
43:35I had a very public
43:38relationship
43:39I used to post him
43:41all the time
43:42and all that
43:43and yeah we got
43:43we gained some attention lah
43:45but by gaining that
43:46attention
43:47kita pun buka pintu
43:48untuk orang cakap
43:49pasal relationship kita
43:50so bila kita buka pintu tu
43:52I will receive
43:54many many critics
43:56about
43:56my relationship
43:57or about
43:58my partner
43:59banyak lah
44:01like a lot of
44:01false rumors
44:02saying that
44:03oh like you gotta check
44:05he's on tinder
44:06blah blah blah
44:07but actually
44:08someone is using
44:09his picture
44:09yeah and then
44:11they're like
44:11oh are you sure
44:12he's not lying to you
44:14and I'm like
44:15but
44:16I've checked everything
44:17don't worry about it
44:18you know like
44:19this is my relationship
44:20it's not yours
44:21I get it
44:22you're the public
44:22you can say
44:23whatever you want
44:24tapi I try to
44:25not let that
44:26get to my head
44:27so that's why
44:28ever since then
44:30I've chosen to
44:31private my relationship
44:32sampai lah
44:34I dah kahwin
44:35then
44:36my relationship
44:37is public
44:37because
44:39evil eye
44:40is everywhere
44:41and
44:42ain tu
44:42semua orang
44:45boleh cakap
44:46apa dia nak cakap
44:47so it's
44:48whether after you
44:49you want to
44:51accept the critique
44:52or not lah
44:52tapi I suka
44:53berapa Rika cakap
44:54dia tak ambil
44:54benda tu terus
44:55dalam kepala dia
44:56yang tu yang
44:57I rasa
44:57membezakan dia
44:58dengan
44:58beberapa wanita
44:59yang lain
44:59gadis yang lain
45:01not like
45:01other girls
45:02certain
45:03certain
45:04nak cakap
45:05contohlah
45:06kalau bukan
45:06you
45:07contoh orang lain kan
45:07even
45:09dia tengah
45:09okay
45:10dengan partner
45:10dia pun
45:10tapi bila
45:11dia dapat
45:11benda macam tu
45:12dia terus
45:12macam trigger
45:13dia tau
45:13you have to be open
45:14so sometimes
45:16benda tu
45:16yang buat
45:16gaduh
45:17dengan partner
45:17sedangkan partner
45:17tak tahu
45:18apa-apa pun
45:18orang yang
45:19create
45:19benda tu kan
45:20but that's why
45:21you have to
45:22understand
45:22you put yourself
45:23in a situation
45:24you put yourself
45:26in a situation
45:27that you cannot
45:27handle
45:28in what for
45:29so macam tadi
45:30Arifan cakap kan
45:31ada orang guna
45:32gambar boyfriend
45:33you dekat
45:33tinder
45:34macam mana
45:35you ada
45:35trust tu
45:36dekat dia
45:37adakah you
45:37check phone
45:38dia
45:38he tells me
45:39everything
45:40and I check
45:41everything
45:41tu yang best lah
45:42oh you check
45:42kalau you
45:43you akan
45:44check partner
45:44you
45:45partner phone
45:46tak
45:46phone partner
45:47you
45:47terbalik
45:47kalau I tak
45:48tu lah
45:49lelaki
45:49saduk
45:50you talk
45:51because you know
45:51we cannot do
45:52anything
45:52but actually
45:53we can
45:55you know
45:56actually we can
45:57contoh
45:58kalau benda tu
45:58jadi dekat
45:59partner I
46:00kan
46:00orang cakap
46:01kat I
46:01kau punya
46:02ni
46:02ni
46:03ni
46:03I tak
46:04check
46:04pun
46:04you trust
46:06your partner
46:06wholeheartedly
46:07until you
46:09for men
46:10it's just
46:10more of like
46:11sampai you
46:12tengok betul-betul
46:13depan-depan
46:14muka you
46:14baru you
46:16macam
46:16okay
46:16I know
46:17something
46:17but you
46:18don't
46:19like I said
46:19for women
46:20you think
46:21and you
46:22overthink
46:22you overanalyze
46:24everything
46:25for men
46:25it's just
46:26one point
46:26if I see
46:27it happening
46:27in front of my face
46:28I see it
46:29happening
46:29in front of my face
46:30you don't
46:31overanalyze
46:31anything
46:32you know
46:33you don't
46:34macam oh my god
46:35my girlfriend
46:35cheating on me
46:36you might be a
46:37sociopath
46:39yeah
46:39you might be a sociopath
46:41or psychotic person
46:43to be crazy
46:44over your girlfriend
46:44like that
46:45padahal your girlfriend
46:45not doing anything
46:46anything
46:47kesian kat dia
46:48tak tahu apa-apa
46:48kalau tiba-tiba
46:48kita mamuk ada kan
46:49that's why
46:50that's where abuse
46:51comes from
46:52mental abuse
46:53oh you ni keluar
46:54dengan siapa
46:55you ni macam ni
46:56dia tak insecure
46:57padahal
46:57daripada orang lain
46:59yeah
46:59yes controlling
47:00that's why
47:01but it's not
47:02benda tu pun boleh jadi
47:03kepada curang juga
47:05betul lah
47:05padahal daripada orang lain tau
47:08tu yang kesian
47:09kan
47:09betul-betul
47:10betul-betul
47:10penyakit lah
47:11penyakit lah
47:12betul
47:12so pendapat korang
47:13korang rasa
47:13social media ni
47:14berbantu
47:14ke tidak
47:16sometimes
47:16dia ada pro and cons dia lah
47:18you just have to learn
47:19how to take things
47:20you know
47:21sometimes some people
47:22take things too seriously
47:23sometimes
47:24some people just
47:25take things as it is
47:27sometimes
47:28you know
47:29there's so many things
47:30that people can do
47:31and cannot do
47:32it's
47:33again
47:34it's a lesson
47:35for you to learn
47:35by yourself
47:36you cannot learn
47:37from anyone
47:39sebab you sendiri
47:40yang kena accept
47:40yeah people can say to you
47:42masuk kanan
47:43keluar kiri
47:44tapi kalau you actually
47:45sit down with yourself
47:46and you understand
47:47the situation
47:48then insya Allah
47:50everything will be fine
47:51yes
47:52betul-betul
47:53betul-betul
47:53betul lah
47:54itu yang paling best
47:54to eat their own lah
47:55I rasa Alia
47:56you cannot force
47:57belanja benda tu
47:58dekat kita je
48:00the way kita
48:01siapa-siapa boleh cakap
48:03dekat through
48:03social media kita
48:04tapi macam mana kita nak
48:05ambil benda tu
48:06and control
48:07kan
48:08supaya benda tu tak
48:09benda yang orang
48:10yang create tu
48:11tak merosak
48:12kita dengan pasangan kita
48:13betul-betul
48:13so curang pun
48:16bukanlah datang
48:17daripada lelaki atau perempuan
48:18tu datang pada diri sendiri
48:19yes
48:20betul
48:21jadi korang semua pun
48:23sebenarnya pun
48:24kena ambil
48:25banyak sebenarnya
48:26yang kita boleh guna
48:28daripada Erika sendiri
48:28banyak
48:29banyak sangat
48:30banyak
48:30sebab ni
48:31Dr. Cinta
48:32Dr. Cinta sebenarnya
48:33dia tak mewakili lelaki atau perempuan
48:35tu yang best ni
48:35walaupun kau kena keteruk hari ni
48:36tak ada
48:37eh tak ada
48:38eh tak ada
48:38eh tak ada
48:39eh tak ada
48:39ok je
48:40dia tak ada
48:41jadi perempuan
48:42jadi perempuan pula mengadu
48:43wanita
48:44wanita
48:45kan
48:45tapi
48:46Erika thank you so much
48:48thank you
48:48sudi bersama dengan
48:50serius lah
48:51serius lah
48:53serius lah
48:54Erika ada ni
48:55thank you so much
48:58you guys for having me
48:59thank you so much
49:00for inviting me
49:01on your lovely podcast
49:02and I
49:04cannot wait for this
49:04to come out
49:05and for you guys to
49:06tak payah
49:06pergi terapis
49:07tengok selama video ni
49:08tengok je
49:09banyak benda boleh belajar
49:10last word dari Erika
49:11untuk your
49:12penyokong selama ni
49:14penyokong
49:15yeah you tak tahu
49:16sometimes
49:17kita tak tahu
49:17penyokong dan juga
49:18orang-orang yang tengah
49:19struggle
49:20dalam percintaan
49:21dalam ni
49:21ok
49:22my advice
49:24is
49:25always trust your gut
49:26your instincts
49:28will tell you
49:29more than you should know
49:30so
49:31just be careful
49:32tapi
49:33you keep your mind open
49:34so don't worry about it
49:36everything
49:36will be ok
49:37it's not the end of the world
49:39you're not going to die
49:40don't worry
49:41that's Dr. Ika
49:43guys
49:44bagi dahsyatlah
49:46ok Alia
49:47kita nak berterima kasih
49:48sekali lagi dekat
49:49Head Time
49:50Damansara Perdana
49:51Damansara Perdana
49:52dan
49:54macam biasa
49:55kita jumpa lagi next week
49:56dengan guest yang lain pula
49:58kita nak cerita
49:58kita nak dengar
49:59kisah diorang pula
50:00apa yang berlaku
50:01kat diorang
50:01nak dengar
50:02mungkin nasihat yang berguna
50:03macam episod kali ni juga
50:04kan
50:04macam teleterapi
50:06macam jumpa Dr. Cinta
50:08yes
50:09ok guys
50:10saya Haidar Hassanuddin
50:12saya Alia Aslin
50:12jumpa lagi next week
50:14bye
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